Parshas Bereishis: MURDER IN PARADISE

okay good evening everyone we begin the new series on Al New Year of pem us this year uh again the series of sh is uh generously sponsored by Dr Zak we thank them profusely for sponsoring another year of and dr's mother for their whole family and for all of tonight sh is dedicated by Kenny pin as a for cl especially in is also by lanic leas those who are killed in AR is also byov as a for the Salvation of the Jewish people in is also by the Rin and riab rabinsky family in honor of our brothers and sisters in Aris and around the world okay so our protects it Shields says explains that there's a certain quot of warfare in the world so the more a person engages in the The War of the more it it fulfills the quota of wars in the world so in other words it's not enough to sit back and enjoy you got to get involved you gotta shout and yell you gotta be involved in that takes uh it's the plant the need for actual Warfare okay this is the first Shear of the man if anybody would like to get involved with any upcoming projects first we we thank the Harris family of Cleveland for dedicating this past Year's uh Torah illuminated series if anybody would like to be a patron of the upcoming series for tuin PID um also upcoming projects in the queue very imminent mayor Banes in English also the rash and upcoming in English also Ines there are a number of things in the queue uh very soon so if anybody wants to get involved in upcoming projects um tell us you know what would be the last thing in the world you would think is holding up mhia You' think you know one thing we have enough is we have enough out there Noel says says the reason why is not here is there not enough WR more is not here so if you want to help bring Mia closer you want to get involved in any of these projects let us know okay rabai we're going to Paradise now we're going to the Garden of Eden the gamar tells us a very interesting expression the gamar says in the eighth hour two people went up into a bed and four people came down who are the two people and who are the four people and he one hour that's the whole thing the eighth hour the eth hour the says gives us an hour by hour account of the first 12 hours of creation hour number one Hashem took took the dust and he made a pile you know he took the dirt he made a mound hour number two Hashem made like a goam so now he like he he he patted it together he rounded out the head you know he he like traced the legs trace the arms and the fingers hour number three formed the limbs he he etched the limbs fourth hour he threw the soul into Adam fifth hour stood up on his legs 6our item got up he said Cow Horse donkey man God he called out the names the they said right they he got married in the seventh hour e8th hour he lived with four people came down again this before the sin so there's no pain of pregnancy and child birth were just easy went up they came down what happened then the ninth hour he was commanded not to eat from the tree Aus the 10th hour s he ate from the tree isn't that great in the ninth hour he was commanded not to eat from the tree in the 10th hour he ate from the tree the 11th hour he was judged the 12th hour he was kicked out of Ghan not a very long stay in Paradise it never is is it never is okay but we're we're not here to talk about Adam and Eve tonight we're here to talk about Ken and he Ken killed he that's not a nice thing to do by the way it's not a good thing to kill people why' he do it why did Cen kill he so the medish ask this question because you know usually you know by the way we believe in capital punishment you spill Blood by man none of this business somebody attacks you and then we have the world crying out we call on both sides not to retaliate are you kidding me what kind of what kind of lunacy is that right somebody provokes and then after they they murder your families then the world Cries Out We call we call for restraint on both sides no we we don't believe in that it's wrong it's wrong to be restrained we believe there's a moral obligation to kill the murderer it's wrong to show restraint no now is a Time For Peace no there's a time for war and there's a Time For Peace and Cen there was no retribution what happened to Ken Cen killed his brother and Cold Blood and uh God said why' you do it where is your brother K said I don't know uh I don't know do I do I know where my brother is so God said okay fine I'll just kick you out of ganen I don't understand he's a murderer isn't the rule why wasn't punished so the the medish asks this question the medish says one of the most astounding things you'll ever hear the medish says was not given the Judgment of a murderer you know why killed had no one to learn from how's he supposed to know you know how to kill but now don't you dare touch Cen cuz now you know you're not how to kill but how's Cen supposed to know you're not how to kill who's he supposed to learn from what about the fact that God told him he's not to kill is that not clear enough what about that say did God tell K he's not how to kill well cenne was born in what hour Karen was born in the eighth hour do you know what happened the very next hour the gar said adish was commanded not to eat from the tree when was Adam what with what was Adam commanded not to eat from the tree the PK says Adam was commanded you could eat from all the fruit but don't eat from that fruit did you know the says that seven were given was given sevenz you know what they are here right Al um Al and the big three you got it that's very like aonic the three main sins the three cardinal sins idolatry adultery and murder and then Al not cursing when did God tell mankind not to do these things thear says if you look at number two the gar says is Hashem is not to curse elim is number fourar so in the ninth hour God told don't kill so think about it Cen and he they come to the world in the eighth hour the first thing they hear is don't kill ask the medish why was Cen not punished say a matter she had no one to learn from huh he only heard one thing in his whole life don't kill I mean it's the most bizarre thing you could possibly imagine the medra says why did Cen why was Cen why did he get off the hook why'd he get off the [Applause] hook he had no one to learn from mean no to God told them don't come he only told Adam he told K and he to step out was Cen and he allowed to eat from the Tree of course not were they allowed to commit adultery of course not oh Cen got off the hook why he had no one to learn from but the gar says that they were commanded in the ninth hour not to kill so what's going on over here so the maim on the medish are bothered by this question namely the maharu or some call it the Mahar his name was Marin he asked asks what do you mean he had no one to learn from how about God is that a good enough re Reby not a good enough Rabbi says Mah it must be like the med tanum he knew you're not to kill but how's he supposed to know know that if you chop off someone's head with a knife he's going to die nobody told him he said God I know I'm not to kill but you never told me that when you Stone someone they die or you I thought that this wouldn't kill him I didn't realize that decapitating him would kill him very difficult answer so how about don't try it how about before you try to knock someone's head off ask God you told me not to kill is this going to kill and he's off the hook for that cuz nobody told him how am I supposed to know imagine a kid now why' you break the window I didn't know that a brick is going to break the window nobody told you never told me Daddy why' you break the China I didn't know that it's going to break when you drop it you did you tell me that if you break China it's going to break to how about don't try don't experiment ask before you experiment before you take a knife and chop off someone's head why don't you ask God is this going to kill someone this is they're around in the world for one hour God told them a few simple things don't kill so he takes a a stone and he throws at his brother's head oh I didn't realize what was going to happen I didn't realize I mean he might as well have said the dog at his homework also which which was the Theo not to kill was Al the words Al Sayan it means don't kill so at the same time they were told don't eat from the fruit they were told the so he heard directly from God you know where I heard this question right here in the Young Israel there was a rein a conference a few months ago and one of the speakers was R Elia brudney and he asked this question and I was saving it for pasas Bas because I wanted to talk about this subject pases Bas and he said the following answer that I think it's worthwhile to elaborate upon the answer is God told him don't kill and his father told him don't kill and guess what that's not cold learning what do you mean but I know you're how to kill so you think human beings work like that human beings don't absorb information that way you know what the problem with cayen was cayen his parents went up into the Maita in the eighth hour and he came out in the ninth hour a 50-year-old man with full intellect and he knew you know how to kill but he never had something that would ingrain this important value into his mind and heart you know what he didn't have he didn't have childhood he didn't have K he didn't have and without whatever you learn is just academic but it doesn't really have an impact on you a human being needs there's a reason God creates us as little children and we grow up and we have parents and we watch before we have any capacity and ability and wherewithal we watch how they behave for 10 years from the age that we have some uh intellect we see a father and a mother we see the restraint they have we see the value they have for a human life we see the respect they give other people and slowly slowly slowly by the time we turn 13 and we have the capability of acting with with cruelty we've been trained to act like a benadam but without you could tell someone don't kill and the next minute they could kill their brother easily and it's not their fault K it wasn't his fault the matter says sh he had no one to learn from what do you me God told him so what so what God told him that's like telling somebody imagine you tell a kid you know um I just wanted you to know that tomorrow in sh I want you to make sure that you you um think about the atbash of every fifth word in laning oh okay sure fine no problem okay I want you to make sure to pay attention to every nth word in the tarum so you have a TI on the kid if if he couldn't do it yeah but I told you to do it told me to do it I don't even know where tarum is on the page who's tarum what's tarum what's a takes many years to be able to a human being was created in a way where he can't just tell him don't do something that was cenen in the eth hour in the they came down four God said don't kill but we could say toen to learn from did he even know what the concept of kill was what we're saying is he might have known academically that not to take a life but it it wasn't something that he was fully accountable for the med says but let's develop this further there because again this was bry's Point Cen had a son do you remember Ken's son's name and now only does he has a son he he builds a city and he names the city after the son look at this says the why was it so vital that he gave his son this name and that he named the city after his son listen carefully says realized that he developed himself in a highly inappropriate way he did very bad things in his life and he realized that the reason why he did bad things is he never trained himself he never trained himself he never developed good habits certainly he never had himself because he was never a child he was never a but says you think only a child needs did you know that we all need our entire lives we need and I want to tell you something one of my pet peev say you know there's a big tragedy so oh we need we need we have to ourselves okay now let's let's have this Cala that you think that last we don't need we need we need training because without training a human being it and one year out the other here today gone tomorrow that's not how a person grows and it this is not an effective game plan for real growth and change Cen realized that more than anything in his life he was missing so you know what he does he has a kid and he says I'm not going to let the mistake happen to my kid I'm going to name the kid we know that changing a name is one of the thing that rips up a person's aard now people oh his name used to be PL and pl is about to go we'll call him Al now now he's going to live forever come on yeah it's so simple you think you really think God decreed somebody should go and now you're just going to pull a stick you're going to call him uh you know sharal oh he's not barel anymore he's sharal so now he's going to live yeah that's what God wanted yeah go sh he wanted you he didn't want him to be barel that God wants him to be sharo oh he's sharo now God's happy the ludicrous the purpose of changing a name is you give a name where the message of that name is something that every time you say the name you're going to ingrain in your mind this Lio this Lio this liod so ultimately it's going to bring real change but you know everybody's into the Quick Fix ah no problem he's about to die we'll just call him sharl now and then he's going to live come on you're you're the guy when he gets the message that that somebody had a dream last night that you have to send this message to 10 people otherwise they're going to be there's going to be great disaster and you make sure to send it to 10 people come on you need therapy if you if you went for that don't be so naive things don't work that way you just change someone's name and then God wants real things not not fads not not scams says Caba that theen was working on himself he realized what he's missing in life is so he named his son he named the city he realized not only the that we always refer to we think yeah we can't can't watch that it's not good can't go there it's not good yeah but once the kid is but me I don't I don't need the only way to grow in this world is oh there's a tragedy I took a myself that I'm okay lots of luck doing it now tonight we're now going to focus on for adults it's called is the most effective and one of the only ways for a person actually to change there's a saer called is uh a controversial saer we once spoke we once spoke about it on July 4th it's based on 13 mid salant there's discussion is there connection between the 13 mid salant and the 13 attributes of Benjamin Franklin that's a interesting topic there's a introduction to the saer written by raash of and he brings a very important idea the idea does anybody know what is the most powerful force in man what is the most powerful force in man that we have to either that brings us to bad places or that we have to overcome the what is the force in man that has to be reckoned with more than anything else that exists within us is a habit habit go to somebody hey stop biting your nails doing it for 70 years I can't do don't don't smoke right right habit habit there are things that we do maybe we don't want to do them but we can't help it because we've done it so many times habit creates nature and it's nearly impossible to break your nature would say it's easier to learn the than to change one mid the most powerful force within man is heral there's how many people do we know that we could predict literally the next thing they're going to do cuz we know their habits especially people we live with right when it comes to self-deception every man is a genius and you know nobody knows their own habits but we know we know everyone in our family's habits we know all of our friends habits habit ism most powerful force in man on the other hand it's the most powerful force for good in man because if you want to fight a habit what you do is you don't you can't stop it really you need to develop a new habit so let's say someone's in the habit of every time he sees somebody doing something he says Ah they're probably doing it because of this vicious intention that they have that's human nature right you know why they're doing it the guy himself doesn't even know why he's I know what he's doing he's doing it because he knows it's going to bother me he doesn't know you're looking but we have a Hab so the way you overcome that is you can change that you sort of train yourself when you're not under the when you're not in the battle you look at a guy look at oh you know why he's in the share right now because he loves to learn why am I even thinking that I'm TR I'm I'm training myself when I'm not in the battle to develop a habit to judge people fair and you know why he's here because he's mad and then I do that three times every day in the course of a month I've already developed a habit of judging favorably so next time a guy is doing something what's going to kick in automatically is the new habit I developed so really the arena of change is instead of fighting bad habit developing good habits the way you develop good habits is by doing actions you see this is very important feeling is not so much in our control what do I mean by that let's say something happens whether I'm jealous or not it's not going to be so much in my control something happens whether I get angry or not might not be so much in my control because anger is awakened sort of naturally M says but what's in my control are the acts that I do let me give you an example do you love tavin when you stand in sh shakas at the 7:00 minion do you love to be there raise your hand if you love to be there so everyone here is honest so let's say tomorrow I See You by Shak Rafi love being here love it love it love it I could it's not going to make you love it either you do you don't it's like if you're eating broccoli I could yell at you love it love it love you you you you tolerate it so what do you do cuz you can't just say okay I'm now going to love being here so it's not so much in your control how you feel about things what's in your control is what you do I'm walking to shakas how am I walking to sh right so you're it is within your control to snap out of it and run into the shakas you could do that now what's going to happen says your your mind and your heart is going to sense you're doing an act that so to speak bespeaks wanting to be there now you don't actually want to be you don't want to be there when you're there you can't wait till it's over but you could run to shakas and when you sense yourself doing an act that so to speak be speaks wanting to be there it will awaken in your heart a real love for being there maybe not the first day when you run to shakas maybe not the second day but after a month of when you get the when you get to the block of the sh you're supposed to like sort of walk fastly into the sh if you do that enough times hey you say hey I like to to be here it's called doing things that are within your capacity to affect the realm that's not so in Your Capacity there the Bal say now nobody likes anything about mus nowadays it's all about Hashem loves you and thank you Hashem but actually this right now what you're about to hear in the next 10 minutes the most important thing you'll ever hear in your whole life there are three parts of M part number one means knowing what the right thing to do in life is what the wrong thing to do in life and knowing your personality your strengths and weaknesses then there's something called Li Li is studying mus works with great emotion and then there's something called training yourself the same way you need to get your kid how old are you now right you're today what you're about 30 right so how you supposed to get to to grow from age 30 to age 40 from age 40 to age 50 from age 50 oh how am I going to grow I'm going to go to sh and I'm going to go to Shear yeah maybe you'll grow a little bit you need you need to be yourself I'm going to give you a few short examples remember the B what happened to them they're about to die they were falling down the pit with kak they're about to die last second they had thoughts of doing Chua and they did chuva and God like built out a little cleft in the Rock and they were spared on the Rock and they were saved the the kazal asked is a smart guy how did he do such a foolish thing and argue on mhu says a medish his prophetic eye led him astray he saw all these sikim coming from him so it must be I'm right what didn't he realize what he didn't realize is in the last second his kids really he's wrong and his kids would do chuva but if K is so smart why didn't he think maybe he's wrong and his kids will pull out so it seems like K saw his kids were so heavy in the M they were so immersed in there's no chance they're pulling out of it yeah they were so like kneed deep in this m it never dawned on yeah maybe they'll pull out and they'll do Chua question so how did they do Chua how did they yank themselves out of the mess and have a change of heart listen very carefully the med asks what Merit did the have that they were saved do you know the story made one final attempt to get them to do Chua he knocks on the door who's there what do we do now the man's going to walk in do we stand up or do we not stand up if we stand up it's a Bion to the father we don't stand up it's a Bion to M what do we do they were like hiding in the ground they said you know what we probably have to stand up so they stood up in that Merit they did CH asked when the med asks what Merit did the B have what do you what Merit do they have they had many merits they di in chak with a minion they with a minion they Mar with a minion they learned all day what Merit do they have I mean the question is what did they do that made them back out of the and what's the answer they stood up for Misha now when they stood up for mha what were they thinking a second before they stood up for MAA M nepotism yeah right God told him that his brother should be the Ken God yeah God told the rabbi that the assistant Rabbi should be the rabbi's brother yeah right right and I'm you know and I'm the president of uh the Commonwealth of uh the United States of America come on they were in their minds they were joined with their father that every appointment of masu was a selfish promotion that's why they joined and M was about to come in and they thought maybe I shouldn't stand up foru in their mind they were head over heels in the so what changed why did they change they held mha was not a fully authentic leader that was their opinion so what changed what changed is they stood up they didn't want to stand up they didn't want to they thought it was a baz for their father but under the circumstances they had no alternative but to stand but once they stood they said oh we're standing for you know maybe mha is a little greater than we thought that act influenced them it was then they were not on the level but when they did that act you see had they not stood up they would have gone down into the abyss but when they stood up that standing up foru changed their ins what they thought how they felt you see it's very hard for a person to change what they feel but you can act it's within your capacity to do things it's not within your capacity to think things but when you do something it can influence you it's you that's called what we're learning is you see the says what does God want from a person God wants him to run to do you think God in sh wants you to run to no God wants you to serve him with fervor and love he wants your heart the thing is we don't have full control of our feelings but we do have full control of our actions so is saying run to that will influence your feelings it's called but we're learning from the medish that it's not just your external actions could influence your feeling it's any act that you do is a person it trains a person so for instance let's say a person is a very jealous kind of person anything that somebody has they feel oh he took it away from me so what do you do so now every time somebody has something you don't have you're going to walk around be grudging the answer is it's not so easy but you know what you could do things you could say things every day you're going to wake up in the morning and you're going to walk to show you're going to say I'm happy for Ru he has this nice house I'm happy for Shimon he has this nice car I'm happy for Ley he has this nice family cuz you're not even it's it's not even something bothering you at the time and then later on when you see a guy who has something that you don't have you've already trained yourself to say certain things so when it comes up you you were yourself you did to yourself otherwise lots of luck changing it it's going to be very hard not to be jealous or here's a good one if somebody does something to me I get upset and I'm not levelheaded so what do I do about it okay I'm going to do I'm going to do I'm going to be myself I'm going to train myself so I'm going to start speaking a little bit calmer than I usually do and only I know that the reason I'm doing that is I'm training myself to be more calm and even when I'm a little bit miffed obviously if I'm full blown upset I'm not going to be able to do it it's going to be too hard then but I'm training myself at a time that I'm not upset I'm doing something I'm speaking calmly and I'm saying to myself I'm speaking calmly now to train myself to be calm to teach myself to be Cal teach myself when I'm s years old no every human being needs without you have no way to learn and then when it comes time when something happens that aggravates you now you have a fighting shot you know what I trained myself I practiced being calm I'm going to give one more example we'll call it a day there was a man named Adam poor Adam he was a vegetarian how he survived I don't know I can't understand it the gamar says to understand gamarra you need to eat meat you know that I and I understand that without meat I can't think you need meat to really think a goodar otherwise how do you have K Brussels Sprouts you know bruss said you could you could Meander around the block you need meat Adam wasn't allowed to eat meat who allowed to eat meat allowed to eat meat and even when he eats meat he can't eat a he can't go over to cow and say hey how are you turn around distraction and take a bite out of the cow can't do that right a time you know what a cow is right so you can't you can't soat ask the radak why is allowed to eat meat but he can't eat says radak even couldn't eat because it's Aus it's cruelty to go over to a cow and just you know like bite his head off oh you're hungry just gonna you know take a bite take a b take a bun you know put it like on the side of the cow and eat the eat the cow it's it's it's very cruel to do such a thing so therefore even when is allowed to eat meat he's not he's not to eat so and why is he allowed to eat meat and wasn't Adam can't eat meat it's very it's cruel to eat meat listen to this but the radak says because n was m and he took care of the animals in the T he was allowed to eat the animals and use the animals for anything he needs understood the that why can't you eat meat it's cruel to eat meat but marish spent a year in the Tava caring for the animals taking care of the no no taking care of the animals and showing sensitivity for the animals that he already engrained he already practiced and trained himself in the sensitivity that it would not be cruel for him to eat the meat cuz he he spent all that time so to speak working on himself training himself so that when it comes time to eat an animal there's no danger that it's going to ingrain with him cruelty but Adar didn't have that adish couldn't eat an animal even if he he slaughtered it um with sensitivity before the M eat me no correct so it started after the yeah how do we know this hamburgers only came after the M cuz the P that allowed to eat meat is after the Mel no hamburgers no veggie burgers no they hat yes because it's not meat you know it's just chemicals they allow to eat that otherwise well they eat you know like so the Riva asked the following question okay I understand is allowed to eat the meat cuz he did he trained himself for a year so it wouldn't cause him harm to eat the meat but what about us we didn't we didn't take care of animals for a year in the taba so then only should be allowed to eat the meat only did we didn't do the he did the so we see from here that when you train yourself in something when you train yourself not to be jealous not to be arrogant not to be angry it becomes your new personality and it's passed down to your children so once no spent a year doing in the so now mankind has a sensitivity so now now we could all eat meat so this is a very um very powerful IDE the medish says cayen is not responsible for killing Heaven why nobody taught him nobody told how about God God told him don't do it the answer is that's not called teaching teaching is not writing on the Blackboard you should not kill oh really okay I won't do it learning is is training is repetition is review is observation and it's especially effective when one is younger but we learned from the that when a person is older they're Stillen was an old man but he called his son to teach himself he called the city to teach himself theida of life is in order to change oneself and to grow to develop good habits you think when you know when stay up very late to learn or come you know or or study in depth for very long periods of time you think like they're overcoming their nature every second now they train themselves to do it I'll end off with one story I wasn't even going to say this I forgot about it when when I was in Alaska the shear is over I'm not just telling you when I was in Alaska one of one of the most amazing places we went was um what was the dog place called um have to talk we went to a place basically where they rais dogs and they train them and uhing dogs yeah dog sledding they train the dogs and they um they race the dogs now the dog race is a 3-we race okay now when I say 3we race they're they're they're racing 22 hours a day they can't sleep more than 30 minutes at a time and uh I was asking the owners of this what it's called uh you know how do you do it what a dollar no that's I I can a dollar that was that's the race it's a different rate I I we get the name okay get me the name so that means they go three weeks 2 hours a night of sleep for 3 weeks straight could you do that I can't even do it one night night to like the go M like the go the go slept in 3 30 minute intervals in 24 hours what do they eat they don't eat for 3 weeks they have to eat while they're sledding so they're in they're in -40 degrees Iden right now it's the race the race is Iden yeah they go three weeks no sleep no food now they have to stop every so often to check on the dogs but not to check on the humans okay and how do they do this how in the world do they the answer is rigorous training training they they're able to train themselves a person could develop a habit where you could basically do anything a human being is a creature of habit we all we know it from our bad Tendencies but the the biggest Force we have going for us is developing good Tendencies a person has a good tendency they're just in the routine of doing it hey how does that person do that they're in a good routine so this is the AV of Life Cen was not fully responsible even though God told him not to do it he never had he tried to compensate for that he named his son he named the city but our a in life is if there are areas that we are weak on train ourself train ourself there's a me weaken you practice you practice doing things that are within your capacity and just like lifting weights you start small you do it every day a little bit more a little bit more a little bit more one of the most powerful Tas we have is get us into the Habit get us into the Regus of your and that's one of the great Li of the son of Cen thank you everybody for coming we should hear only for to protect over IDR what is it called Iden no that's not how you pronounced I'm not saying it exactly right I don't remember