Parsha Perspectives (Vayigash, 5782) - Respect The Derech of Others

okay good morning everyone boca tov wonderful to see you sorry for the slight delay some uh technology challenges but we are together now and what a privilege is always to be able to study the passion together this week parties and to tap into the parsha perspectives for today there are no coincidences the torah portion that we read each week we were designed and specifically meant to read that week the messages in the parsha that week speak to our lives and who we are for that week i want to thank our generous sponsors the parishioners series for the year becky and ali katz and family in memory of becky's father david grossman our learning should be leading us this morning is also sponsored by yanina and gordon house in memory of eating his mother i delight men as your side is tomorrow and by evelyn and stanley weiss in memory of marvin ehrenberg on his zeroth site his nashamah should have and aliyah as well thank you so much okay precious page 250 in the earth scroll stone hummus just a housekeeping note no parsha class next week i have a conflict so i'm unable to teach next week but we will please god resume two weeks from now but i have good news from you there are lots of previous parsha shirum online from countless people around the world who i'm sure you can much better share them than i do but should you want to hear me because you're having trouble sleeping at night you can go on waitora or goldberg.org courageously heroically you the steps up he steps out he approaches yosef not knowing of course that it's his brother yosef and he confronts them and he says can i please speak to you don't get upset don't get frustrated who is like you you are like paro you're so in command you're so in charge can i come speak to you and then he begins to review the entire history until that point there's so many questions to ask on this opening we've taken a look at it many times before but what is going on here first of all what does it mean yehuda is approaching yosef if you turn back one page in the hamish mushroom on the way in you should always take one easier to follow inside at the very end of last week's parachute we have a whole week in between you have to do so you shouldn't have a whole week you should have less than a day in between but in hearing the parsha being read in shul there's a whole week in between so we forget where we left off last week before we pick up this week but at the end of last week's passion yehuda is already talking to yosef so what does it mean by higashi love you da what does it mean that yehuda approaches yosef and asks if he can continue moreover he repeats part of a conversation that never happened he quotes jose of having said things that he never said moreover he asks a question which is an absurd question about about a father being alive not alive they've already discussed this but mostly most compellingly the question is why is he even recounting everything until this point yosef was there he lived it he lifted it sometimes someone's telling you about something that just happened did you see that this that the other thing and you say yeah i i know i was there i'm i'm hi i'm right next to you i was there the same time you're so uh moved by the extraordinary yeah i'm there yes it's like yeah why yeah i was there i'm the other person you're quoting why are you bringing this up all now so a few perspectives first comes from regalio duschnitzer who is the uh mashikirch of lanza review accused he's unjustly being held you that took personal responsibility he promised his father is going to bring him home so get right to the get right to the story why is he starting from the beginning of first hashem created the world in six days what are you going all the way back to the beginning you see very important point here he says you see that sometimes even when you already know all these facts it's worth reviewing them because it gives clarity we're always moving in super speed we're always at motion slow down slow down review how you got here review where you are think about what's happening create a sense of order judaism tremendously values the notion of seder the notion of order so you're right if he jumps right into the advocacy if he jumps right into making the case for why the yemen should go free yosef's already caught up in the drama but he says you know what let's slow down let's go back to the very beginning let's remind ourselves how we got here let's be messiah there let's organize let's be on the same page let's make sure we're discussing the same facts let's make sure we're talking about the same thing he says was a powerful lesson when it comes to total learning you know if you're learning the daffy me boom boom boom you're turning the pages you're moving you're flying you're in the massacre you don't even remember you were there to begin with in learning you're going through the cigarette you're hearing the shear you're flying through you don't stop and you don't pause and you don't organize and you don't picture and you don't have a clarity on the sugya and what's true in the world of torah the sugya we don't have a holistic view of the topic can also be true in our lives whatever we're analyzing whatever we're confronting whatever dilemma we're trying to make a decision about stop and pause and review and organize and have a clarity on the suggyo life is filled with suggest life is filled with serious in our relationship life is filled with serious with our children life is filled with sugars in our profession every day brings with the decisions that have to be made dilemmas that have to be resolved and if we're moving in super speed and if we're not organized in our thought and if we haven't put it into a bigger picture and we don't see a greater context then we're going to make the wrong decisions we're going to rush to judgment our vision is going to be clouded so yehuda is teaching us this lesson comes from a safer nachos elio but it's quoted this beautiful that i've been sharing with you this year in the past this year that if we if we rush and we lack clarity and we fail to have a context we'll come to the wrong conclusion but if we pause and we review and we put everything in place and we see the this the whole picture and holistically then we can come to the proper conclusion and that's what yehuda is doing for you safe he's setting the stage he's making the argument you ever see a lawyer make their make their closing argument they're repeating so much of what they already said but before the jury is going to reach the decision there could have been deliberations for hours for days for weeks for months so you know the evidence that you saw a few weeks or months ago you know the argument you know the witnesses testimony for weeks or months ago let me make my closing argument by organizing it for you let me capture it let me start at the beginning let me paint the picture let me put it together and a good lawyer is so persuasive and so compelling and literally draws a picture for a jury that it's obvious to the jury what the answer is the jury it's the picture is painted so clearly that the good lawyer has led the jury to simply come to the conclusion they saw right before them but if there was testimony or arguments that were weeks or months earlier and the lawyer just ends uh mr lawyer you have a closing argument yeah everything i said was right please come to the decision accordingly so the jury's like what he said was right anyone remember what he said i don't remember we have for breakfast i'm supposed to remember the testimony from from three months ago so the closing argument so yehuda says yosef may i approach the venture honor i'd like to submit my closing argument and my closing argument we're going to have to take a step back let me paint the picture let me give a context let me remind you about all the variables and moving pieces and this is a very very important lesson for life because are we not using our judgment each and every day do we not have to approach the bench of our lives of our wives i mean of our lives and make decisions each and every day when we want to lead people to the conclusion that we're hoping that they see as clearly as we do we have to be misad there we have to organize it and we have to get them there the same way that we're there katsuka says something else that's amazing i love this i love all the custards i'm very drawn to i feel very connected to the kotzker so this other beautiful state for emma's the torah teachings of the helicopter so the qatar says yehuda approached him who's him a love pasakura said very yehuda approached you who the step forward you who became who was a love to whom did you yehudah advance this argument so the simple understanding not that i'm calling anybody simple is yosef yosef is the individual with whom he's in conversation yosef is an individual to whom he has to make this compelling argument yosef will be the judge and the jury here vaagash a love he approaches him who is the him yo safe katsuka says now yehuda was approaching himself yehuda was approaching himself what does the katsuka mean who does approaching himself so i think what the cutscene means what the cuts is getting at is that if you're going to make an argument to somebody you better check that you believe it because the most authentic the most genuine the most real the most true you know others can see through and if you're going to make an argument but you don't really believe it you're only half brought in if that much then you're not going to be successful yehuda yehuda approached himself yehuda did a gut check on himself you'd have made sure he had the courage you would have made sure he was ready to bear the response the accountability how yosef would react again not knowing it's yosef yehudah made sure he believed what he was saying yehudah made sure that he was going to say it genuinely and authentically and it would be received exactly the way that he said it rev weinfeld i've been quoting recently often ravoine felt zero of ramadash it's a great talmud a fascinating individual so weinfeld uses this insight he doesn't quote the kotzker of quotes fasteners from the same base manager and um and he says the following partial begins with you to bring in the case to yosef but what was he saying that was new he seems to be repeating the story so we already gave her leo dishmaster's answer he was being masada he was organizing it it was a closing argument but one thing that yuhudah did add was that he made himself an array what's an araev a guarantor he signed on as a guarantor yudha calls binyam and his father's ben zakunen meaning because his brother died because joseph died benjamin is now the father is ben zakunham yosef once was his father's ben zakunum who his father loved more than anyone else spoiled originally when jose was the ben secundum it was his brothers were jealous they hated him but now yosef sees isn't it interesting the very reason the very driver of what made the brother jealous of him yehuda is now quoting as the very cause for their affection and their protection of benjamin jose fears i was the ben zukunum i was the favorite child i was the one my father had in his old day i was the i was the favorite child and because i was the favorite child you threw me in a pit you wanted to kill me you sold me into slavery you got rid of me and now i should let the yemen go because he's the ben zukunum all of a sudden you've discovered affection and love all of a sudden now you care about your father's relationship with the ben zukunum that's not a source of jealousy and animosity and enmity now that's a source of responsibility and protection when you would have added this point in the beginning of yosef saw that they were doing chuba gemura in other words the whole situation that yosef had orchestrated was a platform for the brothers to have an opportunity to do not only chuva to not only be remorseful and feel bad about what they had done to him but to do chuva gemura the rambam says what's true gemura being back in the exact same circumstance but doing the right thing instead of the wrong thing so yosef orchestrated things as closely as possible there was only one brother with whom he shared a mother he made things as close as possible and the brothers step up yehuda in particular and now instead of hating the ben zakunem they have affection and love for the ben zucchini but it seems that for the most part yehuda is just repeating everything that happens in me kate's although he adds a few things but he doesn't have things that had happened he had things that didn't happen for example yudah says in the beginning of pressure of egash he says that yosef had asked them he says to this viceroy of egypt remember as i'm reviewing all of our history together remember when you asked us do we have a father or a brother it's only one problem go back to parasha's medicates did yosev asked that he didn't ask that never asked that question you do also adds they were not said indicates he never said that our father told us if you bring and you don't bring him back i'm surely going to die yehuda's repeating conversations that never happened that never happened so what's going on where's the coming up with this from what does it mean vaigase i love yahooda what does it mean you're just approaching yosef again turning back one page one pasuk they're in the middle of a conversation you're at the middle of talking to someone you say can i talk to you yeah we're yeah we're not talking just talk talk you don't have to make an appointment we're actually in the middle of a conversation right now so what's going on with all of this so that's what rav weinfeld shalita explains based on this insight of the khatskar and also of this fascemas that when they gash a love yehudah it should have said a love grammatically it would have been more correct more proper to say he approached himself and what does it mean he approached himself it means that yehuda was willing to be vulnerable yehuda wasn't telling yosef things he said yehuda was saying this is how i heard them this is my perspective this is where i'm coming from this is who i am this is how i've interpreted this i've experienced the conversation and now when jose says you that you're willing to be vulnerable you're willing to let me in yes we were having a conversation but it was superficial it was external it was up here it was diplomatic but now i'm willing to be vulnerable i want to let you in i want you to hear where i'm coming from i want you to feel what i feel i want you to see things from my perspective now when joseph sees that he can't help but reciprocate you've let me in i'll let you in you shared who you really are i'm going to share who i really am i'm going to let you in as well yehuda vagasa love yehudah does this gut check with himself yehudah musters the courage yehuda ensures his authenticity but i want to say one more thing to add on to ravenfeld and he answers all those questions with that the reason vadigash is because he was taking the conversation to another level he was saying to someone with whom he was in the middle of a conversation can i can i be really honest with you can i trust you can i confide in you can i let you in is this a safe space to be vulnerable viagash that's what vegas means and a love he was willing to be true to himself and to share the depths of who he was but i want to apply this a little bit further every year i share with you this is one of those goldberg repeats every year devre torah and i'm not going to apologize for it because it's so fantastic it's worth repeating the remark quotes in some that the reason we take three steps forward to begin our amidah is because the word egash appears three times in the torah avram approaches god about stone yehuda approaches god here about benjamin and the yo navi approaches god as well about the jewish people about uh navier baal and we've talked about in the past i won't repeat this part what the three represent that when we come forward to dove into hashem we're down and even for the shame like avraham david the people of stone we're dominating for our brothers like yehuda david's here for binyamin and we're davening against evil we're dominating for hashem doubting for hashem's own name that it should be protected and it should be made great we take three steps forward wherever we were a moment ago we take those three steps forward and now we are transported we are in front of hashem you could be on the side of the new york state throughway you could be if you have to dive in on the edge of the golf course obviously most preferably you're in shul but wherever physically your coordinates showed that you were a moment ago when you take those three steps forward you are teleported you're transported you are beamed up you are now standing before the bonus shalom ready to talk and those three steps forward we're emulating these three great people to use our power of speech to step up step forward step out and to use it to lobby to advocate to make a difference but i want to add what i want to be most of this year is if you apply this inside of the katsuka vagas means that when we take those three steps forward to davin before we can talk to god who do we have to talk to ourselves take a deep breath take a pause by adam england there was a head of school at catsville day school he led the middle school dav and it was arguably the holiest opening in our community was so beautiful he got the kids i think they're still doing it they take three steps forward they take a deep breath before use hashem's facade every day in the shoulder he would remind them three steps forward take a deep breath a deep breath before you could talk to hashem you talk to yourself are we really present are we centered are we there are we mindful famously said we are wherever our thoughts are so if your reminder chakras is already at j my carpool your mind's already at work your mind's already the to-do list your mind's already packing for the flight your mind is already the difficult conversation you have to have later all of a sudden you get to the end of monastery you don't remember that i say y'all of the evo did i say al-anism did i say the saint talamata of raqqa i don't remember i don't remember anything i said i don't remember how i got here i don't remember turning one page i don't remember saying one word that's not a conversation so we take that breath by higashi love yehudah i think this inside of the cut is that we begin with the conversation when i set with ourselves when i take those three steps forward i'll let you in for a moment when i take those three steps forward every day i try to take one moment to think about what do i have happening today that i need to talk to him about i talk to myself what's on tap today what's on my schedule today what responsibilities do i have today am i giving a difficult shear i ask hashem for help to prepare it let it flow does the technology all work out am i having a difficult conversation do i have to take a difficult journey do i have to make a difficult decision every day of course there are things in people in our lives and if shakhtar was here to shabbasam ago and we asked him about davening he said it takes me a long time to david if you stand next to her shakta when he dives or if you heard him that bench lead the benching at charles shivas he says every word like he should he's in the beginner hebrew class you know shasan post kimbap it's unbelievable what he knows i'll never know what he forgot and he reads davaning like he's a third grader i had rashford on one side and my eight nine now nine-year-old son on the other side and my nine-year-old son was reading faster than him how could it be he doesn't know hebrew he's got to take her by brody's crash course he dives slowly and he shared with us why he said i have a lot of children his nine children kanai nahara and a lot of grandchildren and a lot of tom meet them and a lot of people who say can you doubt him for me now most people say yeah no problem and then we pretend we wrote down the name or we're going to think about the name or we act as if we can memorize the name we don't even know our own name but we're going to pretend we know everybody else's name oh tell me your name psyched up you need to write down no no no i'll remember it we don't remember our own name but we're going to remember the names that people give us but if she when you give them a name he means it takes him a long time to dial him so vegas love to take a moment and to first today to ourselves who am i what do i have going on today am i really here am i grounded am i centered this is the katskar not vayigashi huda a love it's not yosef yehuda first we have to approach ourselves be prepared be mindful be ready and then we're ready to approach the rebound shalom then we're ready to go in then we're ready to go in okay moving right along perhaps so you you that makes this compelling argument and yosef has moved he's moved yosef couldn't restrain himself all stood before him so he called out clear the room give me the room so no one remains with him when he made himself known to his brothers there he is he's got his advisors he's got the cabinet he's got the secret service he's got the navy officers he's got the marines they're all around them and he gets so emotionally overwhelmed he says give me the room clear the room now it's just him and his brothers that's all that's left by tennessee he starts to cry vaishman's right he cried so loudly and his emotion resonated so broadly it didn't matter he cleared the room because he couldn't clear him it's ryan and it was heard everywhere he's heard everywhere then said those iconic immortal words the words that are supposed to make us shudder and shake and tremble yosef says ani yosef i am yosef is my father still alive and his brothers couldn't answer him they were so overwhelmed they were so shocked they were so startled they couldn't move they couldn't answer they couldn't respond they were so stunned they were so utterly and totally stunned by this revelation by this revelation the managers tells us famously wow in those two words do you know what we're going to have to face what we'll be accountable and responsible for when the world will picture will come together for us yosef who was the smallest of the tribes and they couldn't withstand they couldn't withstand his token they were stunned and shocked into silence they had nothing to say the when god's going to play the movie reel of our lives and we're going to have to see what we did and pay the piper we're not going to be able to answer allah describes that the great rabbis would shake and tremble and shudder they would cry when they'd read these words an yosef such mustard in those two words alone famously says to musser master where's the monster aniyose imagine the shiva you give the muslims and the best mantras i went to she was repeating why you wednesday nights when i was nyu i never dreamt in a billion years that i would be invited to give the most irish moves during corona i haven't been invited in person zoom i guess that was low risk they got they got me on zoom so the master shmooze is wednesday night so imagine they asked somebody to get up and give them muscle schmooze there's no fire there's no brimstone there's no this is everything you're doing wrong and we need to repair and if now we're going to burn and get hannah and the world's caving in and we're not we could be imagine the homeless so you stand up and you say aniyose can i get the honorarium now i didn't get an honorary can i get down at it a neo safe you still have 20 minutes nope that's my musician who's yosef where's the mustache moves on yo say sally he says you know what the muslims is you know what a greater muscle is you know what the greater master is i've been warned that i've been telling too many stories of my own personal life so at the risk of violating that rule and doing it again a member of my family by marriage once got pulled over by police and called me while the police was writing up the ticket and i reacted and responded totally incorrectly i said why were you going fast and i can't believe you got pulled over and the ticket's going to be points and it's going to cause money the insurance is going to go up and you get and the individual said to me ephraim in my rearview mirror there's a police car with lights flashing my heart is racing do you think i need you to tell me i shouldn't have been speeding do you think right now i need the lecture of that i shouldn't have been going too fast do you think i'm not filled with shame and remorse and regret and embarrassment that i call you to get a muscle schmooze about how to drive it's a hundred percent correct 100 correct called me to say that's so annoying and i can't believe it i'm so sorry you're going through this it's no big deal we'll figure it out i blew it i blew up big time thank god that individual chose to still be related to me by marriage despite despite my mistake that's aniyose says the basal av that's on the yosef the siren the things flashing in the rearview mirror i don't need you to give me the musashimasu yosef didn't have to sit there and say and i can't believe you threw me in the pit and i can't believe you sold me into mitzrayim and i can't believe you're 22 years the anguish and the agmas nephesh that you caused me what you did to our father you took years off his life all he had to say was here's the here's the sirens anni yosef an yosef and your last 22 years that picture just became clear and no one needs to say anything more for you to shake and sit there and tremble and be filled with shame and remorse and regret and when the ribonus ribosome after 120 years he plays back you know rabbis for the last two thousand years were given this muscle hashem will play back your life okay so five hundred thousand years ago people said play back my life how that's not possible what does that even mean to have a record to play it back a lot now google google could play back your life and youtube could play back your life and zuckerman can play back your life and this one can play you don't have to wait till after 120 years you're the social experiment the whole world can play back your life right now while you're still alive it's frightening scary it's shocking it's shocking says the basal labia that's the oilia madin that is the um and he would say the following i'm not going to read through the whole thing inside because there's a lot more i want to share so i'll tell you outside what he basically told them is when you know you did the wrong thing your whole life and then you get caught so there are people who visited the wrong places there are people who visited the wrong websites there are people who engaged in the wrong behavior they knew it was wrong while they did it and they were overwhelmed and overcome by the yate zahara and they thought they were above the law and they'd get away with it and then it got revealed and then they were exposed and it's humiliating but what happens when you think that you were right your whole life when you don't think you did anything wrong you thought what you did was right it was correct it was moral it was ethical you stood for what you think was right and now twenty-two years later you see in retrospect that you thought you were engaged in the mahlokas you thought that you were fighting a noble fight you thought that you were representing the almighty that he needed you to speak for him you thought you were fighting the real fight so the mahloka's the person you weren't speaking to the fight that you had the the breakup in business and the family in shul the breakaway shul the breakaway minion the break the thing that you thought was so correct and so noble and so ashamed and so beautiful and for 22 years you ran with it confident you were correct and now the ribonuclear in two words shows you that you were wrong all along that's said for the things that we know we were wrong but we thought we could get away with that's tokah but we knew we were wrong the biggest the most disturbing the earth shattering togah is for that which we thought we were right about we held these opinions we held these opinions about other jews this community or that community the ones who wear those yamako or that yamaka the ones who are no yamaka we thought we were correct around our champions and yankev table in our conversation with our friends and whom we wrote stucco checks to we thought we were correct we had an opinion such a strong opinion and it turns out when all said and done at the very end we realized we were wrong and the two words are niyosef that's the yomadin that's the yamato says but i want to share with you another insight on these two words it's a beautiful insight the safer megadiose alatora by robiose view the lame swarovski i told you was visiting our community recently his son moved to our community my good friend dally mayor saratska my neighbor so he's a rosh shivan tell stone not ali sirotskin he lives on hollyhock but his father and he gave me his farm beautiful yosef you delivered sirotskin i told you my rule and my best friend mandy in the back who cost me so much money i have to build bookcases for hashem every time he visits he brings me farm so you get me farm i'm going to share them they're not just for me they're an investment for me to share with others so he gave me the safer so i want to thank him for that so he says the following we've been talking until now that the muslims and those two words the madrish said a neosafe in that moment of the clarity that it all came together in that moment the picture you saw the whole thing ani yosef and that moment was the musa how does it connect to the end of the passage asks what is a very peculiar question is my father still alive yosef how are you what's going on brothers let me tell you about my life your life by the way house tati how's dad but moreover he should have said how is our father what do you mean that's my father and what do you mean is our father my father is still alive a moment ago yehuda's argument was our father said if you don't bring back benjamin he's going to drop dead of a heart attack he's gonna surely die so you know the answer to your question a moment ago you would have just said your father's alive so your very first question is on eo safe i know safe is my father still alive what's going on what's going on a person who's living in a moral and ethical and a positive environment will be able to immediately measure if they've stepped out when you realize everybody around you is so righteous i look around and i say i finished davening in three seconds everybody else is still in the shaman i wonder if i can concentrate more on my dabbling i already tell you about the about the uh heroes of the jewish people who scream yala via when you're up to hashems the heroes of the jewish people ala nissan i want to make sure you you haven't finished your third step forward yet they're up to alanis and making sure everybody remembers as alanis so if you dominate a minion you look around and you say how come i'm finished and there's nobody else here done that's a message it's a flag maybe i need to concentrate more on my daughter how come i'm always gossiping and everybody's shutting me down and nobody else gossips maybe i need to work on my smear solution everybody else is giving giving stukka i don't measure up when you're in a positive a good environment the environment itself becomes your metric your measure to evaluate how you're doing um if you're not in a good environment if you're among negative influences then you'll never know how you're doing adorable you'll mistakenly think you're doing fantastically well you have no one against whom to measure yourself you have no role model there's no archetype as much as joseph says i learned from my father my father in la vanguard titan mitsubishi marti yosef and paro gardi tariq mitsu marti as much as joseph is confident that he's been uncompromising in his commitment torah and mitzvos how could he really know maybe he's lost a step maybe he's watered down maybe he's not the passionate on fire person he once was after all he's living in mitsuram he's in the capital of tuma he is in the capital of corruption of moral decay ko he wasn't asking them i'm yosef is my father still alive he was asking wow you're my brothers finally i'm back in the basement finally i'm back around here be a eosif it's me yosef am i still who i once was have i lost my way have i lost my passion is my father still in me or in vain i look very different now i'm dressed like an egyptian it's not walking like an egyptian but he's dressed like an egyptian he says i'm the viceroy of egypt i have the gauram of egypt i'm asking you as a favorite of me tell me do you still see the yosef underneath this royal clothing i was i was the ben zakunem i was the heir to be the rosh shiva vichai big here be do you still see him in that's why yosef was able to withstand the pressure that's why yosek was able to remain who he was because as long as he was in this negative environment he remained nervous and anxious and concerned about its influence on him the moment that you think i got it i'm good i can't be influenced i won't be brought down it won't impact me that's when you're in trouble but the as long as you continue to say i'm at risk i'm in danger i need to double down on being the best me that's yosef's greatness that's his godness but there's just so that we can have this shot a new yosef i've i've seen a thousand diverter on those words why my father not our father why is he asking the question when he knew the answer why he's on the yosef it's a whole new interpretation it's amazing torah's endless every time you study it every time you learn it you'll find new things in it you could hear the same parsha for 120 years in a row but you'll never hear the same partial twice it's amazing torah is amazing aniyose he says i'm yo safe and in the same breath finally you're my mirror finally i have a mirror to look in to measure myself against i've started to look like an egyptian and talk like an egyptian and i still keep torah in mitzvos we spoke last shabbos about being assimilated orthodox jews chanukah the menorah in our home is trying to protect and preserve us from becoming assimilated observant torah jews to danger the risk of being kopherbike or confusing the icker and the tough el the yosef says i'm still observant i do the daf every day go to minion i make brachas before and after i eat i'm still observing but have i become so assimilated that i'm not recognizable my core my character my identity am i still my father i love this chat i really love it i think it's a fantastic shot i'll tell you one more and then we'll move on another semester yosef reveals himself and yosev let's keep going i want to show you we're making progress so go to the next puzzle they don't answer speechless stunned into silence they have absolutely nothing to say nothing to stay what happens so what does he do he continues he says come close you can imagine when he said i ne yosef i'm just picturing the scene you know what the brothers did they went like this right if i'm the brothers i start moving backwards jose might as well say i just been diagnosed with corona like if i'm yosef if i'm the brothers i start inching backwards i start moving back yosemite says whoa whoa relax kashuna come back brothers come over here grouphog we got this that's why they should relax he doesn't say i'm yosef from the sandbox i'm yosef from the playground i'm yosef we used to play ball i'm saying foreign remember the family trips and vacations remember we had food fights and pillow fights i'm yosef he says relax you're safe remember me you remember this remember me when you threw me in the pit you sold me come grip hug that they should relax him out and what does he had he said on the eos that's what stunned them into silence now because he repeats the words on the yosef now they're going to feel good what's going on over here so samus my friend rebellio goldberg shared this the word i share can sometimes mean because because a share doesn't mean remember that you threw me in the pit and sold me i share means because we see this the end of the torah god gives moshe says if a couple breaks their engagement khalilah even after marriage because they're not meant to be barter sometimes they get a yeah when things are broken if they're broken the right way they can be put back together people are more whole if they're broken the right way hashem says you see the word sometimes means because so therefore if that's the case what's your safe telling them come here come close group hug an e yosef you see me today the father that i am the zeta that i am the viceroy of egypt i am the spiritual giant i am do you know how i became this person do you know what caused me to emerge who i am it's because you sold me so i don't bear a grudge i'm not angry i don't bear grudge i'm not angry and i'm not going to get even i am who i am i'm yosef i'm only who i am because you sold me into egypt it's not amazing so this actually shrimps very nicely it works very beautifully with what of swarovski said ani yosef first i said on the yosef i'm looking at the mirror through you is is abba still alive in me and now that i see that he is come close a neosafe i'm only who i am i went through what i went through i became who i became because of the hardship because of the hardship that you put me through so it's not that i'm grateful you put it through it but it's the reality it's the reality of that that is who i am and this is the epstein says also impossible dalit come close come close instead of jose de la stream whose grandson i met in the parking lot of boca raton synagogue his party creates incredible connections i quoted him he's quoted in the sitka elion so i quoted him and then i met his grandson who said here are his farm i heard you quoted he was visiting lakewood brooklyn where you have to be from to visit boca these days and he said i heard you quoted my say the hero's farm you don't have them anyway this is not directly from a safer it's from the sith so he says the following he says from rashi what do you mean relax i'm not going to hurt you come close i'm the yosef you sold so he says to them it's true that you had negative intent but it came out positive for me so even when someone intends negatively for us but a positive result comes out we have to have a karasutov anytime we experience a positive we should feel a sense of hakara satov yosef is the the ultimate model of this and that's the continuance say he says because there was a famine and god sent you before me and now i'm bringing food back and he made me the most shallow because mitzrayim and it's all for a reason hashem orchestrated the whole thing you were just puppets you were pawns hashem orchestrated it all you feel shame and guilt okay a little bit of that's good for you you want to apologize you should apologize and i forgive you but know that my attitude is that you were just upon a puppet has a lot of agents he can use and he used you to get me here he used you to save the economy of messiah which would spare the world he used you so i therefore don't carry a grudge against you says there's a left shame you see how far hakara satov goes that gratitude is not only for the person who meant well to us gratitude is something a debt of gratitude is something that we even have to feel for the person who meant harm but it worked out well and there was a positive there was a positive result okay park my main plastic test moving along turn the page 254. quick go and tell dad this unbelievable news i became a doctor just joking go and tell dad i became a lawyer not just joking go and tell dad that on the train do you know who i became the adon so the simple understanding of the words go tell dad that i became the master of all of egypt he thinks i'm dead he doesn't really think i'm dead because yaakov was inconsolable the whole time but he thinks i'm gone i'm missing i've been in the back of milk cartons in kanaan for 22 years and go tell him that meanwhile i'm adon the homicide i'm it i'm the vice president i made it and i have a very high approval rating i made it they all love me says the kotzker that's not what it means listen to this katsuka oh yosef knows you know what will make dad proud of me after 22 years not that i made the forbes 400 and not that i'm the secretary of the treasury you know what's going to make him the most proud that i've transformed mitsrayam with kiruf read the again here's what i want you to tell dad this is what your son yosef sent to you that samani i made eloquen i made god the adona of all of egypt that i used this position and i worry yamaka and i said barak hashem and i wasn't ashamed i wasn't embarrassed i wasn't apologetic to be who i am and to bring god into the conversation everywhere i went dad i know you'll be proud of me that i became the viceroy i knew i know you'll be proud of me that i broke out and i made it and i'm rich i know you'll be proud of me that i've earned the respect of the whole nation but i know you'll be the most proud of me when i tell you that like you i follow in your footsteps my mission and my goal is to transform the world to see hashem everywhere it's a whole new way to read the passage usually torah i got in trouble once for saying this before is very unhappy for saying this but i'm not even sure that the reb has meant that this is a shot this is an important lesson to teach this pasta is a great way to teach it so i'm putting it in the pasta that's how i learned many of these khasi dish divrei torah this cutscore i think might actually be the shot i love it so much i think this cutscene might be the chat komar bin khayo says go tell dad this is the message of your son yosef that's samani that i placed elokim god la donna that that's my success and that's what i'm proud of and that's what you should be proud of that's who i am and that's where i've been and that's what i've been up to and that's what i want you to know was it not worth driving from boynton for that cutscore you should drive from new jersey for that cut skirt cutscore is unbelievable what a cut skirt so now what happens next says go rush go tell tati go tell dad go tell abba go tell them i'm alive and well go tell them that we've got provisions and food go bring everyone down it's going to be geshemak it's going to be valdic we're making a jewish village and goshen is not going to be around the capitol you're not going to be in vegas you're going to be in the outskirts going to have a little suburb you're not going to be on the strip itself we're going to have a holy place going to make a little jewish embassy go go bring him down so he tells them what does he say turn the page 256. chapter 45 apostle come down he sent off his brothers and they went by ralam and he says one last message alter gazuba alter gazu don't become agitated on the way what does it mean don't become agitated on the way what does it mean don't become agitated on the way so rashi tells us it means don't get caught up in your divrei torah you're going to get caught up in your diverter it's going to slow you down it's going to make you vulnerable you'll be so engrossed and you're talking torah you're going to get lost torah is an enormous value tomato cannot get cool but there's a time and a place for everything you get so engrossed in your toe you're going to drive right off the road you're going to make the wrong turn don't and you're going to be slowed down get where you need to go alter gazuba go and go right away that's a rash of quotes that is the chat that's known by many and there's a lot more to talk about there anter but i want to tell you an amazing module sir the diver israel every week rabbi mirzoff now shares with me a dvd thrill to share with you i i'm just the one who has the microphone but there's a whole committee who's giving you the passion class all the people who contribute to divrei torah and i'm very indebted and grateful to them so that's the divide you show them much don't become angry don't become agitated don't become angry you had to sit and coach you didn't get upgraded to business you were on the waiting list they didn't get through it don't become agitated person sitting next to you needed the super seat belt extended don't become agitated they lost their kosher meal they didn't bring you the koshi yeah they made you still wear a mask even though you had a triple vaccinated seven boosters i'll trigger don't become agitated don't become agitated but that's not what the the divinity source says it says the major alterg when you serve hashem in your way in your way but then you see your friend is going on a different terrace your friend's direct is different you wear a becca shirt and a stride mold but your friend decided to work hypastra and to be a religious zionist to identify with an unorthodox segment of the community you wear the hat with the pinch this way your friend decided to wear a hat with the pinch that way to not wear the hat send your kids to this school they send their kids to that school they chose a different terrace i'll tear gazoo i love don't get angry you're on don't get angry that someone's on a different era this is my character i actually put out a whole safe room at the characolo all these devry torah that reinforced the notion that there's 70 ways to shim panama torah there were 12 tribes and they each had their own gate and entrance way into the baseline mikdash so much so by the way the measures tells us that when the i want to get ahead of ourselves here but when the sea splits it doesn't split in that the water is a wall on either side with one lane there are 12 lanes it's a 12-lane highway it's wider than palmetto park road there's no potholes it's not like the van wyck it's unbelievable grand central reason enough to move down to florida it split 12 lengths 12 lanes because every shavit had the right to preserve its derraj we didn't blend them we didn't integrate them we didn't erase them each one was entitled to each there each one is legitimate each one is authentic and then there's the characolo where i happen to live the 13th gate that says i take the best from all 12. and i try to integrate them and live with them all no one's obligated you could stay in your lane if you want to stay on your derrah i'll tear gazuba everyone's entitled to embrace their darach you're this version of gary you're that side of get whatever your derrick is everyone's entitled to embrace their derek they can't get angry at somebody who's on a different terrace don't sit in judgment don't get angry don't try to make them conform on their way back this is unbelievable why is he giving this message because he's saying to them how did we get here we got here yehuda because you and i had a different world view i've shared with you in previous years the yosef were not simply this wasn't petty sibling rivalry oh my goodness gracious i just saw the time this was not petty's sibling rivalry they weren't like arguing over you know who got the ipad who gets to sit in the front seat what were they arguing about they were arguing out over the future of the jewish people over the hashkaf of the jewish people yuhuda and yosev were two enormous world views we don't have time to review what it was now you could listen online it's an enormous about who was correct about the way the jewish people should approach the world so yosef says aniyose i love you brothers you were just hashem's pawns and puppets i was meant to get here i'm not angry at you but do me a favor you're about to turn around to go back for this journey back home to tell dad the good news and you know what i suspect is gonna happen you're to point fingers at each other it was your fault it was your fault i said to do it this way you should have done it that way why didn't it happen this way but remember the mahlokas is how we got into this trouble to begin with remember when you pointed a finger and you felt jealousy and envy remember anger is how it all started when you walk away when you turn around and start heading back don't see the differences the different terrace you reach on and don't be angry at each other for having a different era embrace the differences respect the differences learn to be brothers with those differences what a message in those three words they already if you look at the pasta already left and he says wait three words wait calls out to them which read the commission we have our own little picture and that's my picture this is my movie version of it they've already left they're already walking away he's running alongside the train it depends what era you're you know working it in over here he's running after them on the back of the horse he whatever here he has to grab his private jet to follow them on their j whatever era you're you know but they've already turned around they've left they're already on the way by omar and he screams don't judge each other that's how the difference throw the magics are understanding it's unbelievable i'm ending with this i just realized i got so excited to tell you how great a board it was i never finished it but insight was that yosem was saying is my father still alive in me and this is exactly what moshe banu says when moshe says i'm going back to mitzrayim it's real i'm going back to my brothers who are in egypt they and i will see how odom are they still alive let me know they still love hashem's bringing you in to get them out he's not sending you in to take out a bunch of corpses it's not a rescue mission to go recover the bodies you know they're alive so what do you mean i'm going to check whether they're still alive no i'm going to check whether i'm still alive in them whether hashem still alive in them the same vote about yosef okay what could we do there was so much more we're not on next week we resume two weeks from now until next time first of all tomorrow morning no 10 minutes of meeting barcelona is a brisk but there is living with amuno you can't live without him you got to live with emunah living with emunah 845 for women tomorrow on the social tomorrow night you don't want to miss behind the bema richard bernstein a blind justice supreme court justice of michigan blind that's impressive but that's not the most impressive part he's run 25 full marathons and competed in an ironman competition he's been blind since birth you got to hear him tomorrow night by the beam until next time stay happy steal healthy and stay holy