Parsha Perspectives for Today (Miketz)

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my heart happens to be my bar mitzvah parsha and parasha's medicates begins precious me kate begins in the artichoke stonehenge page 222. ufarrowhole and it happened at the end of two years and paro began to dream a lot of interesting questions about this possible use of the word he is often connotes negativity so what is the negative about this dream number one number two lame is in what tense is in the present tense in the present tense it was a past dream it was a dream so let's begin with the word let's start off with the story of the word connect our parsha and chanukah and begin our first partial perspective for today a lesson which i think is very very instructive and inspires and inspires me in the magnifice the story of ramirez he lives 1783 to 1850 tells the following story the great khasit the great disciple of the holy bashem tov had a homiletical interpretation of the opening passage of our pasha of and he said the following based on an experience that his father once had he records this experience of his father that his father once uh appeared viral his father said that his neshama was elevated was brought up to the world of truth and two individuals ascended on high one after the other his father once had a vision and he saw two people being brought into heaven one was quite young and the other appeared to be ripe in age aged like fine wine the other appeared to be very old and strangely in shamayim by ishmaki let's say karazaki vyashesh the older one sorry the younger one rather was called a zakin the younger one was called an old man alicia zakiyan the older man caught in cotton vialed was the older man was called a youngster a child will yeshua and his father wandered in this is the world of truth it's poe emma saleon this is the world of truth so why are they joking around why would you call the older one youngster and the younger one old man after all this is the world of of truth so listen to what his father said she will leave father said in his vision he was answered the younger one lived life to its fullest the younger one embraced and took advantage of each and every day the yom lashana next of low every day he lived as if it was a complete year every day was like a whole year that's how richly he lived it that's how fully he engaged it that's how invested he was in it but the old man lo paul klum shalom and all 80 years never accomplished much never really made the most of any given day vim kane yelled miss kanhu and therefore this older man might have reached 80 years old chronologically in time but remained a young man in accomplishment a young man in what he had achieved this was the vision that mayor premishlan's father had in heaven in the ulama ms a place where there was no joking where there was no late saunas but rather this was an accurate and an objective and fair observation when the mayor per mishlan heard the seam had a mayor the mayor learned the following he said the word vayi always connotes negativity it always connotes something which is something which is said so what is i'm going to move my microphone because people might be getting backdrop is that better by he connotes uh connotes sadness so what is the sadness here what is the sadness taking place that we begin at vayahi where is their sadness said you know what the sadness is it says means at the end at the end of a person's life as koshness of anam kim shinasai the days they passed quickly the days they passed fast so that is ramir pramishlan's observations homolytical interpretation of this opening is allah a language of sadness and why is this sad because me kate's indeed at the end of a person's life when he realizes when a person realizes no matter how many years he lived relative to how long he could have lived meaning living each day to its fullest how much we could have accomplished how much we could have achieved measured by the difference we could have made from a heavenly perspective it's only two years you could die at 120 years old but me cates at the end of schnassy it's only like two years and why is it only like two years it's only like two years because relative to who we could have been and what we could have accomplished we achieved so little there was so much more that we could have done so much more of a difference that we could have made there's another interpretation may promise but say by indicates when you reach the end of your life i mean that word can be a year can mean that you lived for two years but there's another interpretation which is shaina which means to sleep a person can live a full life and be kate's at the end of their life they look back and they reflect and they say i slept through my life i slept to walk through life i was sleeping even while i was awake what a waste how much i'm how much i wasted how much i didn't take advantage of because the gemara says i'll say that a person who sits idle a person who passively and complacently and apathetically lets life pass them by then it's as if they're sleeping they're sleeping even while they are awake they are sleepwalking through their life what an absolute mistake what an absolute tragedy ben franklin is quoted as saying some people die at the age of 25 but they're not buried until they're 75 years old some people die at the age of 25 but they're not buried until the age of 75 years old what does that mean what happens to the years that are in between those 50 years if they die at 25 and they're not buried what did he mean ben franklin they're not buried till 75. what happens in between is explains the word can mean to but shane as we just said he also means sleep by he it's so sad when we get upstairs that we found out that we were sleepwalking through life that we slept so much of our lives away that we were on autopilot we were mindless we were simply the creatures of momentum that carried us we were numb to the signals that hashem was sending us we were oblivious to the opportunities that are around us and we wasted and squandered the potential that's inside us we were sleeping how sad it is me cates at the end of life when we realize that even if we live to 120 we only have two years of productivity or that we were sleeping through our lives sleep walking through life and that's what the holiday chanukah comes to remind us you know we're in the middle of the winter it doesn't feel like it here in florida it's a magnificent day outside but we're in the darkest part of the calendar we're in the shortest part of the calendar we're in the depth of the season of the winter in which we have fallen into habits and patterns in which we become mindless creatures who momentum is simply carrying us and then comes hanukkah chanukah is meant to wake us up to arouse us grandson who became spoke about him in shul several weeks ago says you know they're two ways to wake someone up when they're in a deep sleep i had to wake one of my daughters this morning for school so she told me her alarm went off said your alarm went off that's nice but you're still sleeping in bed you got to get up you got to get to school so the second way that you can wake someone if the alarm fails is what does a parent do they turn the light on in the room that's when the kid really tells how much they love you they put the covers over their head and they yell how much they don't love you and they say turn it off i have 17 loses let me go back to sleep when a person fails to wake up from the alarm what we need to do is turn on what we need to do is turn on the light when you turn on the light that's what wakes people up and so says roble egger the same is true in our lives you know rosh hashanah yom kippur came we blew the shofar on rosh hashanah and the russia the chauffeur of rosh hashanah it's an alarm it says wake up those who are sleeping from their slumber wake up wake up stop sleep walking through life do you know what happens after roshanim kippur we're awake for a brief moment the alarm awakens us and you know what we all collectively do snooze one snooze a second snooze a third snooze you know what i'm gonna finally take care of my health and wellness when i'll finally take my daughter and you're learning seriously when i'll finally work on my midos snooze i'll get to it later in life i'll get to it later in this year i'll get to it later snooze snooze snooze the alarm of the chauffeur comes from and we snooze so what happens then comes the second method comes and if the snooze failed us it's time to turn on the light we turn on the light and that's what wakes us up that's when we can no longer stay in our beds and that's the message of the haftarah which tells us of a different hanukkah the torah we read this pashabas shabbas hanukkah the inauguration of the menorah and the second base of magdash tells us the angel who talked to me came back and he woke me up as a man is awakened from sleep yo marily and he said to me this angels what do you see he said what do you see and i answered i see a lamp stand i see a lamp i see a candelabra it's all gold the vision of the menorah of chanukah is associated with being woken up from sleep it's what the torah of shabbat hanukkah tells us how sad me kate's at the end of life we realized we were asleep walking through life stop sleeping if the chauffeur and its alarm failed you pressed snooze and went back to sleep and now we're in the middle of the winter it's kiss slaves it's december it's january turn the light on in the room so you no longer can stay in bed wake up chanukah rattles us it shakes us it's an extreme alarm it turns on the light it breaks us out of the dark sleep and slumber out of habit and wrote of fatalism and predeterminism and into the illuminated world of opportunity and the free will of conscious and mindful living it takes us into a world of growing of achieving of making progress when our going met lit the original menorah in the mishkan the passage describes vayaskein aron that the torah moshe relayed to aaron what he was meant to do and vayas kain aron aron did what he was meant to do what he was supposed to do and rashikots are rabbis who tell us they ask the torah testifying that i don't did what he was meant to do it tells us the praise of our own that he didn't change he didn't deviate whatsoever from what he was meant to do so the obvious question is the righteous around do you think that he's going to distort or manipulate or change what hashem had told them to do what do we need to be told this is the praise of our own that he didn't change so the imran the holy jacob the jacober suggests that perhaps what it means shane is not that he didn't change shiloh he didn't change but rather shallow shaina that he didn't sleep walk through the experience arun let the menorah and then he lit it again and ended again so we become creatures of habit we settle in and we get used to the pattern i put on my filling i dive in my shmona estuary i light my candles i do my mitzvos they become mindless we become unconscious while we do it the shevach the praise of aaron vayas kane that he did it not shiloh that he didn't change shiloh shayna that he didn't sleep that he was awake that he woke himself up this is the yant of the halal this is the light the gun is this hidden wonderful messianic spiritual light inside us it can wake us up even when the alarm has failed and we're still asleep then turning on the light can wake us up so that we can go i've told the story before of a senior manager at a successful business firm who was retiring and there were two employees in the firm both vying for the job both wanted to be the successor both applied for the position one had worked in the company 15 years and the other had only been there for five and they each interviewed and they each uh they each made the proposal that they should be the ones to get the job and lo and behold it was time to award the position and it was given not to the one who had been there longer 15 years it was given to the one who had been there five years and you can imagine the employee who had been there longer more experienced more senior 15 years barges into the boss's office and says i don't understand what did i do wrong why am i being denied and deprived i've been here three times longer so the boss turns to the man and he says no you misunderstand you see you really only worked here one year you've just repeated that one year 15 times he's worked here five years every year he grew every year he learned every year he contributed more so you may have been here 15 years and he five but he's been here five times longer than you because you were really only here one year and you repeated it 15 times and the same is true for our lives are we going to live the same year over and over again obviously not the same understanding of the parasha i'm preaching to the choir if you're here with us this morning if you're listening you're looking to grow in your understanding of the parasha but how many of us are davoning the same way 20 30 50 80 years how many of us are approaching mitzvos and our relationship with hashem and our conversations in our moon and vegas with hashem the same way we did at our bar mitzvah batman for we've not grown at all we're living the same life the same year over and over and over again instead of being able to look back and measure how much we've grown and how much we've advanced and that's also the lesson of the menorah i'm looking over because my menorah is right over here a menorah the minority basil we start with eight and then we scale down to one basilis we start with one and moses we add on until we get there beside my opinion also has a lot of merit and there's depth to it even though we don't follow it i shared that yesterday in a little video that i put out we follow the opinion of basil and basil is our philosophy in life our philosophy is we add on we don't lifelessly and mindlessly go through the same thing eight nights in a row we don't light one candle eighteen times we don't live the same year eighty years but rather moses vaholech this is our philosophy this is our mentality this is who we're meant to be we're meant to be moses to add on and to add on and to add on and to continually grow so this is the opening pasuk according to at least homiletically this is the opening passage the vision of his father how sad because at the end of your life when you on the calendar lived for many years but in terms of achievement and contribution you failed to be most of a hollow you lived one year over and over and over again we're sleepwalking through life how tragic and how sad and therefore we begin with the word vayahi our mission our mandate is to be mostly for to add on and to add on and to add on over and over again now the puzzle says it was the end of two years dreaming allah and he has this whole dream now what you'll notice and pasha begins with the paro the leader of egypt the most powerful empire in the world and he's experiencing these startling dreams so startling so shaken is he from them that he summons interpreters and his interpreters his own staff they fail him nobody's ever able to successfully suggest a interpretation that satisfies that resonates with paro he rejects them all paro doesn't just have one dream he has another dream now paro is not the first biblical figure to dream who else had dreams meaningful dreams obviously yosef we read last week's parasha about yosef and his meaningful dreams but even before yosef pasha's vayetze begins with the dreams of yaakov he went to sleep on a pile of stones and a pile of rocks and he saw the image of the angels descending and ascend or ascending and descending from the heaven and the earth and he's moved by his dream what happens to yaakov when he wakes up from his dream what happens to yaakov when he wakes up from his dream he's transformed by the experience he says i didn't know god was in this place i didn't realize hashem was here he doesn't go back to sleep how could he sleep he's so jordy so startled he's so awakened by this dream by this image of being in the presence of the almighty of hashem that he's transformed from the experience and he wakes up changed and in fact he regrets going to sleep in the first place he says hashem is here and i know if i knew i never would have gone to sleep here the great maggot of yerushalayim encourages us to contrast yaakov's reaction to his dream with para's reaction to his dream think about it yaakov has this dream he senses hashem he's startled he's moved and he wakes up energized ready to greet the day regretting he ever fell asleep and unable to fall asleep again what happens to paro what happens to power power dreams of seven fat cows bizarrely being devoured by seven thin cows and the dream is intense it's unusual it disturbs him it jolts him awake and what happens next with paro in contrast to yaakov you know what paro does he turns right over and he goes back to schluff he goes back to sleep and the torah tells us he has a second dream and this one too is disturbing and again he's shaken to the point of waking up and what does he do next the passage tells us [Music] he obviously had turned over to go back to sleep again because it's only in the morning it's only when his alarm and it's only when mrs power turns on the light to finally get him out of bed it's only vaihiba boker it's only in the morning when he finds the energy and the courage to address the dreams what does he do the whole night despite these two disturbing and jarring dreams he turns over and he goes right back to sleep shezrav shadron you learn such a lesson in the contrast between yaakov avinu and paro yaakov wakes up and he's ready to go and paolo turns over he has a second dream and after the second dream he turns over and it's only in the morning that he wakes up ready to address rashford encourages us to look at a third dreamer who is the third dreamer on the list one night while sleeping hashem visits on a dream and asks him to make a wish that he's going to grant and nobly asks you know what he says i want he doesn't ask for you know all the wishes in the world he asks if he can have one thing alive shomaya he says i want a listening heart i want to be able to sensitively understand and listen to the problems of your children and i want to be able to judge them and offer good advice to them sage advice to them awakens from this dream and what does he do next says if it weren't shabbos hanukkah this is the haftarah that medicates this this year will have this torah because me cates is sometimes shot as hanukkah as it was my bar mitzvah this year it's not we had shabbos hanukkah by the shabbos it will no longer be so the torah from me cates is going to begin the shabbos doesn't go back to bed he doesn't turn over and fall back asleep vaikatsi wakes up what does he do you shall i am he like yaakov if he wakes up invigorated transformed inspired says the magir of shadron that if para had shlomo's dream in which god asked him what he wanted him to do he would have answered you know what i want a few more minutes of sleep para wanted to sleepwalk through his life para wanted to just fall asleep and be numb to everything around him just a few more minutes just a few more minutes of not having to deal with reality of not having to deal with my potential just a few more minutes of sleep walking through life hashem spoke to yaakov paro and through their dreams yaakov and saw it as a call to action para turned over and went right back to sleep and the question is our dreams our dreams either while we're sleeping or while we're awake what do they do for us and how do they inspire us and what do we do with those dreams you see a lot about dreams about sleepwalking through life the light of chanukah should wake us up should arousal should enlighten us should illuminate us and should enable us enrich us to be able to be transformed and inspired to go and to be able to lead the next chapter of our lives okay we said there's something unusual about this word parochial what's unusual about the word parocholam what would i have expected what should it see but uh so why does it say lame he is dreaming it should say khalam he had a dream says the ebenezer on the passage i won't look at it inside we're already running late story of my life says the ibanez is identical with uh would have meant he dreamt so lame can be used even for the past says the ebenezer a great grammarian because we read it but by salvation offers a different suggestion in his wonderful the uh orthodox union rabbi salavechik wonderful hamish i highly recommend the rav says the following the change in power occurred precisely when yosef was to be elevated to power para would have been disconcerted over his dreams even if this metamorphosis had not taken place however to accept yoshi's interpretation para himself had to be a dreamer a visionary otherwise he would not have chosen yosef to manage the economy of egypt he preferred jose's interpretation that out of others not on objective grounds but on purely subjective ones dreamer met dreamer it's an incredible insight everybody sullivan says thereof you know the two types of dreams that we have we have dreams while we're sleeping but then you also have to be willing to be a dreamer while you're awake many of us have dreams i happen to be a person who has very vivid dreams could ask my wife and children or those closest to me sometimes my dreams are so vivid when i wake up it takes me time to distinguish between reality and the dream i can hold a grudge against the person who did nothing wrong to me other than in my dream until i can work out the fact that it was only a dream and the opposite i could be so grateful and overjoyed i have very vivid dreams there are people who dream they fall into rem sleep and they dream but there are many who when they wake up the dream was just a dream and they move on so quickly and then they go back to this very hard life of a cynical life you know it's not enough to dream while you're asleep you have to have the capacity to dream while you're awake so khaleem the reason it's in the present tense suggested by salvation is that para didn't just hallam it's not just that he dreamt in his sleep he is a halam he remains a dreamer even while he is awake what how does he know that because when paro meets yosef and yof offers this interpretation para says you know i see that vision i can buy into that i can share that dream of the economy of egypt paro is not just a dreamer while he's sleeping he's a dreamer even while he's awake and that's what makes an enormous difference now paro's dream is different than the way he relays it to yosef when paro has the dream it describes pasig baze i'm sorry in the first possible in his dream where is he he's oh made he's standing where al hayao or on the river what river doesn't even need to tell us that it's egypt he's standing on the yarding on the jordan on the nile on the nile river rather ally or vinay orr and from this river he sees the seven cows and so on and so forth what does it mean be now made al-hayya and how is al-haya different than later when he relays the dream to yosef he says o made a swasaya or he doesn't say i was standing on the river he says i was standing on the bank of the river what's the difference between standing on the bank of the river and standing on the river why did paro feel motivated to have to change when he relayed the dream to yosef so again we turned to her by salvation and he tells us the preposition al has the connotation of nearness of proximity but there's another meaning ao is a biblical idiom as in hashem hashem was standing over him paying special attention to him rashi the word al describes a relationship yaakov dreamt of god's concern for him and now when paro is al-hayya or the nile is not merely a river the economy of egypt and antiquity depended on the nile as it does today torah speaks of how this unique geographical feature was responsible for either abundance or for famine in dvaram it tells us when contrasting the egypt and israel israel is a place where our eyes are on hashem always rely on the rain only when the rain falls whether it be what to eat but in egypt they rely on the nile local rain did not play a role in the agricultural economy life instead depended on the nile rashi says no other river is called the river except denial because the whole country consists of artificially constructed canals and the nile flows into them and fills them with water since rain does not break fall regularly in egypt the river became the very symbol of egyptian civilization para thus saw himself omid al-haya he was concerned with the destiny of egypt as a land and as a people so it says the rav what do you mean is not just describing geographically where he was standing in this dream when this unusual event took place but alayor is describing in the rav's words paro's concern his perspective his relationship with the egyptian economy and i would humbly suggest that maybe it means more we know that power saw himself so arrogantly as responsible for the success of the economy we know later paro a later para relieves himself at the river doesn't want anyone to know he's not a deity or a god so para historically sees himself so arrogantly as really the source and the cause of the egyptian economy so maybe he neo-made al-haya or he's standing over the river it means the people worship the river because they see the river as the source of their sustenance and paro says i stand over the river i'm even greater than the river. in his later description the dream to yoseph used the term or unlike the earlier phrase hero medallion or asvasi or has no connotation other than physical description of the scene in his dream anime salvation suggests maybe in this way he was actually testing yosef he when he describes the dream he says i was standing and there it's just a geographic description when p when yosef interprets power's dream he doesn't interpret it as asvasaya or he interprets it as the dream originally happened and therefore maybe that's why para was so taken unlike the other interpretations which he rejected the interpretation of yosef had something superior namely yosef saw in paro's dream something that power himself didn't even relay that's how astute that's how insightful yosef was para had the dream allah or he said it was a swasaya or and yosef knew it was nonetheless and maybe that's why para was convinced that yosef was the right dream interpreter a share of mayor premishlan our second mayor today who says maybe this is what we say we say this in tehillim perhaps it's in one of our shoyoms the madrish on the passage says but says it's an unusual puzzle to even translate what it means the testimony of yosef when he left mitzrayim ishlan explained that when para was his dream and yet when he communicates that he says so yosef immediately corrects him and that's what the pasek means ades behold samoa but saysol what's the addis that yosef gave paro that he was but says to have been appointed over all of egypt that's when yosef corrected him on the word svas that para said sfasaya or and yosef corrected him it wasn't swasaya or it was on the ur itself and it was in that correction or that's the edus that yosef gave that paro was moved by and elevated him on top of all of mitzrayim a very beautiful interpretation of what that pasuk may be means okay let's continue parak nemal of pasuk tess moving right along so we have these two unusual dreams and paro uh awakens he had fallen back to sleep as we discussed and he calls interpreters and they all fail him by the bear sarah mash him as paralym so the skin turns to listen i've got a great suggestion for you i have the per i got a guy you know the people to i got a guy whatever you need i've got a guy sara mashram says i've got a guy i've got a dream interpreter guy but in order to be able to tell you how i have that guy eschata animaskir hayom i have to tell you where i met him and to tell you where i met him it was in prison and why was i in prison because i had failed you so he takes a risk zaramashkim in telling if you remember you were outraged at me you threw me in prison we had dreams there is there was a young man with us there in egypt the sarah moshkim here speaks to speaks to um speaks to paro and tells him that i have to remind you of how i got there but i got a guy for you i've got the perfect guy to interpret your dreams so here we turn to our first aish thomad our first ravisrama mayor druk of the day we have been on the parsha sheer this year studying so many of his beautiful insights of the great revival mayor druck actually spoke to him this week and i told him how we've been sharing his torah and he was so of course gratified by it so rashi on this position these series of sukhim that sarah mashin reminded para when we were in egypt let's just finish the passage while we were in prison there was this na'ar now yosef was an advanced age he wasn't a young man at this time and yet nonetheless the sarah moshkin speaks so derogatively about yosef so dismissively about yosef he's a nar he's a young lad he's ivory he's an author he's an avid the saratov he's a slave man we told him all of our dreams and is so accurately was able to interpret our dreams it turned out to be true and as he predicted as he interpreted thus so it happened i was returned to my post and the baker was hung and rashi here in the passage says arurima show him shayne cursed are wicked people who can't just do a nice thing maskira baloshan bisayon the sarah threw in such gratuitous insults at yosef why was irrelevant para says i'm looking for a guy i need someone to interpret my dreams and saramashima has a guy so why doesn't he just tell him here's my guy why does he have to offer all the derogatory degrading insults na'ar says rashi sho to the royal gedula what does saramashka mean by na he's a kid he's not worthy of greatness he may be successful he may come out and interpret your dreams but if he does even if he does successfully don't elevate him every affiliate he's an avery he's an author he's an outsider he speaks another language he's a foreigner aved kosovani muslim israel molecular he's a slave what are you going to dress him in aristocracy in royalty you're going to elevate him and and and give him the wardrobe of an officer he's an avid he's an avid so wonders are of druk he needs sort of beer and maya paro against joseph didn't he know it would never work after all paro is bereft of an interpretation paro is startled he's bothered he can't find peace or solace he needs someone to interpret the dreams he knows yosef is going to succeed yosef is going to hit a grand slam and knock it out of the park and when yose succeeds what will all this bias do why would it help him to have spoken so so derogatory so discriminatorily against yosef hello boro shamiyat immediately when jose is able to successfully interpret the dream in a way that satisfies power he's going to appoint him to his side so what was the point it seems so gratuitous listener of druck's answer levier the great and the both explain why is los angeles and slander so pernicious why are they so terrible we know we have a principle that you never get a second chance to make what a first impression we have a concept in torah we have a concept in business in the secular world we have a concept in social world that you never get a second chance to make a first impression the notion of a first impression so when a person is prejudiced before they ever meet the other and they're told something about the other it seeps in like poison you contaminate you absolutely embed within the listener a bias against the person they've not yet even met have you ever had someone create a bias oh that person is this that and the other and then you meet them and you can know that other person for years and your own personal experience with that other person will disprove the bias you were told before you ever met them and yet years later you still remember what you were told about them years later it still impacts you the seas that were planted in you about the other person nemer begama the gemara says tells us that if two people come to basin two litigants come to basin and one comes in a custom-made suit and the other is wearing tattered clothing then you turn to the two litigants and you say either go out either both of you put on the tattered clothing some of the tattered clothing today could be more expensive than the custom-made suit which is bizarre but anyway let's assume really tatted clothing the tattered clothing of a poor person not the ripped jeans that cost 400 that make no sense so you turn to the two litigants and you say either you both go out and put on the tattered clothing or you both go out and come back in in custom-made suits but you can't one come into the custom-made suit and the other come in in the ripped jeans why not why not the reason is because when you walk in that courtroom and the judges take their first look at you you never get a second chance to make a first impression the first impression is powerful that's why we have such an awesome responsibility in how we talk about others especially to somebody who's never met them because we are planting the first impression we are planting seeds that will last a very long time and will be difficult to overcome even if what we said was done in a moment of anger or of revenge zem of shafilu adam ani a poor person we say change your clothing how will it help once the trial begins once the trial begins the judges are going to learn that that's the poor purpose that's the rich person so how is it going to help that you get them dressed up in the same costume in the same clothing ultimately the judges are going to learn the truth how will it help says rodrick you know why it helps because you never get a second chance to make a first impression that first impression is so powerful that's why we have to be very careful in protecting it and that's why he says that's why uh sar hamashim was trying to bias para that even though yes yosef was going to succeed and yosef was going to interpret the dream and when he did then power would fall in love with him but power would always have in the recesses of his mind that yosef zanar and an ivory and an evid and that's what sarah moshkin wanted to achieve he wanted to plant the seeds of suspicion and doubt about yosef even if yosef ultimately would turn out to be successful okay possible paragraph so yosef is summoned saramashim had a guy and it's time to go get that guy and that guy is none other than yosef so the pasta we've turned the page page 224 in the arts crosstalk flamish the torah tells us so say if you para is convinced let's give this man a chance so he summons yosef but you assume in a bore and they go get him from the pit but by galactic he changes his clothing el parro the swarner here on this passage listen to what this foreigner says on this passage in the midst of corona i don't even remember what month we're up to eight nine ten months how many months we've been living with this pandemic and yes there's a light at the end of the tunnel the vaccine has begun to shift and in our community here in south florida it's even begun to be administered but still we're in the depth and the darkness of this pandemic the second wave the third wave and we're being warned that we are the devastation is yet to come it feels like a very dark time it feels like we're in a bore we're in the bottom of a pit of an endless pit of a hopeless and dark pit how do we get out so listen to what this foreign says on this possible perique mammal chapter the great italian rishon he says the following but here we see him in a bore just picture yosef is sitting in the pit what does it mean that yosef's sitting in the pit just picture it for a moment how long has jose been sitting in this pit by the way how long has he been sitting there 12 years 10 years originally and then when he did over hishtadlas when he did extreme initiative he had to sit there for another two years so he's been sitting in the pit for 12 years and all of a sudden but you're zooming aboard they call you safe zoo come we're taking you out says the swarner that's the way hashem's salvation comes it comes in an instant yeshua like the passage in who says that my salvation is closely approaching when as the passage says only my nation would listen to me in an instant i would subdue their enemies we know that we left egypt after 210 years of persecution oppression slavery servitude murder genocide all of a sudden at the end of 210 years we left hastily we left in an instant we left quickly so much so that the dodean of time to rise and the same is the way it's going to happen in the future says this foreign the same is going to happen the future says this forno it's going to happen it's going to feel like it's happening in an instant and that is the way goola comes and that should give all of us hope it should evolve us faith it should make us all excited it comes in an instant it comes out of nowhere so yosef is caught he's unkept he's unshaven and the big moment arrives and they take him out of the pit and they have to shave him they have to give him clothing they have to be able to take him out they have to get him ready and the safarno says this is the way that mashiach is going to come this is the way all salvation and gu'ala arrives it comes kaherifyin it comes in an instant it comes even when we don't expect it even when we think it's never going to happen and so the person who's single and desperate to get married or the person who's struggling to be able to become pregnant and have that child or the person who's desperate for that job or the partner going to pay the next bill don't ever give up hope because think of yosef yose wasn't in the pit overnight he wasn't in the pit for a year yosef was in this jail unjustly accused falsely accused for 12 years 12 years he's there and all of a sudden the yeshua comes terrifying it comes in an instant and it comes out of nowhere and revolver writes that that's the way it's going to feel when mashiach comes that's why it's so critical important for us to never give up hope to never be too despondent to never think it's too late but to realize that the same way it happened for yosef and the same way it happened for our ancestors it's a preview of what moshiach is going to be like when it comes later and revolb in his shir hamesh points us to later in the pasha when yosek's brothers are brought before him and he sees them according to their age and serves them food and he gives binyamin the last in the final portion and it's astounding that despite all the clues to the true identity of yosef that he is in fact their brother they fail to realize who he is they don't recognize him as our torah as our pasha says he recognizes them and they don't recognize him and it's only after yosef reveals himself that everything falls into place in hindsight and so on the one hand yes the brothers and spoiler alert next week's parasha yosef reveals himself to the brothers sorry i just spoiled it for you the brothers certainly react and recoil with a sense of oilia madin on the one in yes they realize their accountability as the picture has come into focus they now realize their responsibility for what they had done but also points out that at the same time everything came into focus they thought that they had no food and no provisions they thought that their brother was taken from them and they'd have to go back to their father without him they thought that their world was caving in and all of a sudden in an instant terrifying yosef says brothers relax it's me it's me yosef your brother everything's good everything's good we're a family again and you have endless provisions and you're wealthy and how is abba and you're going to come to mitram we're going to live together terrifying in an instant the gula comes whether it was for yosef when he's called out of the pit or whether it was for the brothers when yosef reveals himself or whether it will be for us says revolver when mashiach is going to come the yeshua comes the yeshua comes kaherifyin and we should be ready for it so never become too hopeless never become too depressed or despondent never stop believing that hashem can come never stop believing the imrichim the great imran khayim i have to find him here he is my imrich the helicopter you didn't think we were going to go without any so the imran khan the great vision says the following yosef this is listen carefully the name power he says paro if we're willing to purge and get rid of our pera of the mouth that speaks slander and gossip of the mouth that has rage and anger of the mouth that speaks with ego and arrogance if vaishlach para if we can get rid of our power our pera then yosef if we're makadesh lashono va cross yosef then you can welcome then you can discover the caduceus yosef within each and every one of us okay a lot more to cover now they have this conversation yosef and paro meet and uh so much to talk about within this conversation yosef is the first key rough professional tomorrow night i'm behind the bmw we're going to have laurie palatnik momentum an enormous force of kirov in this world goes to the first hero professional he doesn't provide the bible codes he doesn't say hear seven wonders of jewish history he doesn't make the arguments for god's existence all he does is start talking about hashem i think we talked about this last week in the living with the moon shir if you're not part of it join the movement wednesday mornings 8 45 you can listen online we have close to 200 shirim of living with a moon how you could live with hashem every day in your life living with him wednesday morning 8 45 you can find them online so we spoke about yosef shensham yosef is the first seminary girl everything is thank you hashem hashem and when he does that with arrow all of a sudden power turns around and he says wow hello kim all of a sudden he says um para starts talking about god himself taro invokes have you ever met someone who has para starts talking about god himself so perhaps so what happens yosef is interpreting the dreams now let paul seek out a discerning and wise man and set him over the land of egypt yosef does something which is something that i am very sensitive to uh para was looking for someone to interpret his dream but yosef doesn't just interpret the dream yosef doesn't just point out that the dream is going to pose a problem you're going to have fat years but then you're going to have thin years your economy is going to is going to plummet yosef doesn't just point out the problem what else does he do he offers a solution here's the solution yosef is the first um yosef is is saving the economy because he doesn't just point out the problem he says here's an economic solution here's what we're going to do in the fat years in order to be able to save in order to be able to have for the thin years he doesn't just see the problem he offers a solution and nobody salvation points out on this pasuk but salvation says that when he offers the solution he says um you're looking for a someone who's navone and someone who's navon and and para turns to yosef and he says well if that's the case if that's your suggestion if that's who i need to run the economy than the fed chair then that's you i'm hiring you to be the next fed chair why because again you see the success of his nuanced passive outreach it's a passive outreach strategy where you're not proselytizing but simply when you talk about god it is a passive outreach strategy and it's successful because power returns to yosemite says now that god has revealed this whole plan to you there is not a navon and like you so what happened here yosef tells him you need an is what was yosef thinking when he suggested you need someone and what is power responding there is no navon like you you are the most around salvation says you know what navon is that just are they synonyms are we just repeating or is there a difference between them he says one who is somehow guided by a mysterious light to run the egyptian empire yosef had to have the imagination is not enough then avon translates the imagination into fact pyro recognized that yose possessed both qualities he was a man with a great imagination but also one who could implement his plan you know you have dreamers we said earlier that paro is a dreamer power doesn't just dream while he's sleeping power dreams even while he's awake you have to have vision and you have to have dreams and you have to have creativity but very often the profile of the person with the dreams and the creativity and the vision is the person who struggles to get them done can't implement them is lost you have brilliant minds dreamers they can't match their socks together you know rubbish salvation never drove because i heard the story i don't think it's apocryphal he had once gotten his license and he drove one time and his mind had wandered he was probably trying to figure out and almost got in an accident and they took his license away some people aren't meant to drive they're not living down here in this world their mind is not is not functioning down here so you have the people who are creative and imagination and dreamers but they struggle to implement and then you've got the grinders they implement you've got the person who done and done you tell them what to do and they get it done but you know what they work off a checklist whatever's on their checklist they do but they can never ever think or dream off the paper it never occurs to them to try something different than the way it was always done yosef said is your next fed chairman what you're going to need to do in your next cabinet post for the economy is you need someone who's both you need someone with imagination and creativity but who can also implement implement and execute and your empower says hmm who is that person you know who it is you you're the navon you've got exactly you've got just what it takes and jerk also comments on the words in his html it also deals with this and he says the following he says sorry sorry sorry where are we lamigimo lamid i'll tell you uh sorry sorry just finding the place yeah here it is assuming you don't necessarily have to make this assumption but he makes it that when yosef suggests him you need an ishnav and he's just proven himself to be that person through his capacity to interpret the dream yosef was essentially applying for the position he did so in a passive way but he was essentially applying for the position and radruck wonders the following question hello last week's partial we know that when yosef says to the sauron don't forget me don't you forget about me he means when you come out and you meet paro and you have the opportunity of access and you have an audience with the emperor don't forget about little on me and what i did for you here in prison and hashem says um that was over initiative you said it to sarah mashkam twice you clearly didn't trust and believe in me and therefore you're spending two extra years in prison so the same yosef who suffered two extra years because he understood the problem the challenge of taking too much initiative now he's applying for a position with paro why didn't he let go let god why is he taking the initiative allowed hashem to do his magic so why is this time different why didn't he learn his lesson why isn't he punished for it says dhravdruk because there's a fundamental difference before he makes the suggestion you needed yosef says it's not me oh the dream interpretation i'm so happy that you like it i'm so happy it resonates and it works for you it's not me i'm just a mouthpiece i'm just a conduit an agent it's really all coming from god so because yosef first displayed the amuna and bitachon then he was allowed to take the hishtadlas in the case of saramashima says he in the wrong order he had too much hishtadlus and only then showed the amuna and that's why he was punished for it okay now yosef nun of nun mem alef says the passage fast forward you're also gonna point to the viceroy of egypt second in command has anyone ever heard of the opinion the position of viceroy since the story of me cates do we have viceroys in america or anywhere else in the world anyway there's certain words that we only use when we need to translate the parsha so jose rises to the position of i guess i'm more entertained by that than you are yosef rises to the position of viceroy of egypt he's in charge of the economy he's saving the economy and he's going on with his life and he marries it's called softness he marries osnos the daughter of potiphara who is this potiphera i always point this out because i can't stand the irony potiphara rashi tells us it's potiphar venukra potiphera ash became sterile which was a punishment because potiphara actually was attracted to yosef he had a same gender attraction to yosef and therefore hashem made him sterile this is potiphera is potiphar we're calling him potiphera osnas is his daughter that means who's asnot's mother early stepmother if it's another mother is asia's potiphar who's asia's potiphar the woman who relentlessly tried to seduce and falsely accuses yosef so you can only imagine what thanksgiving dinner is like when yosef is at his in-laws think about who's there and his mother-in-law and the false accusation and the experience that they had but i don't really see a lot of people talking about that but anyway that is something that comes up so yosef is 30 years old when he becomes the head of mitraim and he in fact executes his plan wasn't just a dreamer didn't just have the imagination he executes it he marries and he has these two children the pastor tells us that he gives them names the bihar is called menasha kinashana kim is calling ali base avi he calls the first one menasha because hashem caused me to forget all my toil and all my father's household the shema efraim the second son is called the frame hashem made me fruitful in the land of my affliction menasha and ephraim are the two sons and they are the names with which we bless our sons on friday night the bracha that we give that today should be like menasha and ephraim what's going on here with this bracha to be like menasha and excuse me and ephraim when he ascends to these great heights so he names his kids these things so this first name menasha kinashan elokim hashem caused me to forget all my hardship he calls me to forget my father's household is josefa sadiq being callous he names his son thank you for letting me forget everything about what came before is this a coping mechanism is this how he's adjusting is he hardened to his new reality has become bitter how is it possible that yosef who was so close yosef who was the spitting image of his father how is it possible that in his rise to greatness he forgot about where he came from don't we always say don't forget where you come from and here's joseph not only forgetting where he came from but he's naming his son thank you for letting me forget there are a number of suggestions which are offered first of all it seems to me that if you name your kid i have forgotten my family it means one thing you haven't forgotten your family and you don't want to but furthermore the akedah suggests that yosef doesn't mean to say i've literally forgotten them what he meant was i have a selective memory and what do you mean what he means when he says kinashani is i am choosing to look back on my life and only remember the highlights yeah there was fighting yeah there was favoritism yeah there was rivalry but i'm choosing to engage and employ a selective memory that's how the akaido understands it's not that yosef is saying i have forgotten my father and i've forgotten everything about where i've come from but rather i am choosing to engage a selective memory i'm choosing to omit and edit out the animosity the conflict the enmity and so on refresher for her as an altogether different approach he says the suggestion that joseph could forget his family is preposterous of course he couldn't forget so he reinterprets what the word nashani means the root of the word of the name of the name he says here nashani doesn't mean cause me to forget says refers it means what the word no shem means when it comes to shemitah and the laws of shemitah we use the word no she and in that context they know she is a creditor in other words says yosef celebrates the birth of his son as he enjoys a position of great prominence in the strongest empire in the world and then he reflects back on it and he says wow how did i get here i'm the viceroy of egypt i live in a palace i have wealth and now i'm married and i have a son he names him what he seemed until now to be terrible misfortune he realizes upon reflection is exactly what brought him to that great moment and so he says i am now deeply indebted to my perceived misfortune and my family who brought them on ki nashani elokim says her first doesn't mean i have forgotten means i am indebted i am indebted to the perceived misfortune and i'm indebted to my family who made this happen yosef had suffered this string of challenges and hardships and he hadn't only survived but now yes he finds himself thriving and he could have looked back and said forget them i've risen above them i've disproven them i've moved on from them but he doesn't say any of those things instead he looks and he says all of that is what made me who i am all of that is what led to today he doesn't dismiss it and doesn't get rid of it but he looks at it and he says it too contributes to making the me the man i am to making me the person who i am who i am today the likute allah the student of nachman of brazil has a beautiful insight on these two names menasha and ephraim and while i have so much more i wanted to share i mama so much more i wanted to share i'll have to end with this says he says they're born in mitram they're born in this foreign hostile land they're born in exile goddard how to live in exile how to live with prosperity in exile how to not forget where we come from how to let go of the hurt and embrace the joy how to hold on to the values had yosef not created this precedent this myself a similar bottom we would not know how to live in exile and if we didn't have our role models and we didn't have our contemporary righteous sadique who paved the way we would be lost in goddess too we would have no idea how to find hashem will live life the arcane car shane of menachem efraim says ravenosa breslav and that's why he named his sons even in the far off in the distance places one can find hashem even in a pandemic even in the pit even in ghalos mitsuyama even in exile even in a moment that feels like despair you can find hashem kinase everything is from hashem the ability to forget the misfortune the ability to forget the hardship the ability to employ a selective memory that's also from hashem the hole in our heart even when we feel that we're lost or distance from hashem that's also from hashem sometimes that distance makes the heart grow fonder and becomes the catalyst that puts just to come closer that too is from hashem again yeah even in a foreign land i could find the good menasha is sure and ephraim is asetov when we're in that exile and we're in that foreign land we distance ourselves from the negative and we pursue the positive and even in a place of hardship and struggle and challenge one can nevertheless continue to still find hashem as i said a lot more to cover but we're out of time wishing everyone afraid join us tomorrow morning for 10 minutes of meeting at 8 15 living with the moon 845 we're going behind the beam tomorrow night with lori polatnik at 9 00 pm and again thank you to our sponsors please note next week youtube if you're looking at youtube subscribe to that youtube channel it'll remind you when we go live for all of our classes even if you're on zoom go on youtube youtube.comgolberg youtube.com goldberg subscribe to the channel and you'll know when we go live so you can continue to join our shirum stay happy stay healthy stay holy have a wonderful day and a great hanukkah