Parsha Perspectives for Today (Emor, 5781) - Inspire Yourself & Inspire Others

good morning bogertov and welcome back to our parsha perspectives for today so grateful to be together again learning our sacred torah and our timely parsha that each week has messages that are not coincidental that are designed for us for that week to learn from based on what's going on in our lives i want to thank our generous partial series sponsors for the year uh our dear friends becky navi cats and family in loving memory of becky's father david grossman also want to thank today's sponsor rebecca naui in memory of her beloved mother tamar nawi allah shalom tamar was one of the founders of our shul we are so deeply grateful of course to her and her husband for all that they did to uh build our community and today's learning is and lastly by ruvain and ronit yaakov and shira in honor of grandpa lou miller's birthday lou one of our beloved members a very very happy birthday to lou miller who shares with aunt aviva a very happy birthday admiration and good health and happiness with tremendous knockouts from your whole family thank you to all of our sponsors if you'd like to sponsor a sheer this one or otherwise please email leahbirusonline.org lee brsonline.org okay this week you have the privilege and pleasure of studying practice m or page in the art scroll stone hamish our parsha is a continuation of the theme of last week last week the second of the two parties that we read began kidoshim to you that we are charged we are mandated kudoshim to you to live a life of kedusha that we don't live for happiness we live for holiness very important exercise to consider what is the difference between the two how do you define happiness how do you define holiness what does it mean to live for holiness instead of happiness kedosham to you interestingly when you live for holiness you find happiness when you live for happiness you find often the opposite of holiness so our parish is a continuation of that theme kadosham to you was a charge a directive given to the totality of the jewish people kedosham to you all of us are to emulate and imitate hashem by striving for sanctity for holiness we spoke last week the from shimon shkap that kedush in this context is to be not selfish but selfless not a taker but a giver to repair and to change and to transform the world for the good and now we move over from the general claustral kadosham to you to the mission and the mandate to the charge to specifically the koanim the khan and the priests are the teachers they are the role models they are the example or they're meant to be at least for the community to be able to follow and as such they have certain instructions the kidashto they have certain rights and privileges they get the first aliyah a person's not allowed to be mishamish with a cohen you can't ask a coming to do something for you the person has to treat the cohen with greater honor and dignity the first right benching the duchenne so the being occurring has certain rights and privileges but mostly it's about duty and obligation the coin has to live a certain life cert coin has to be a certain example the boundaries within which the cohen has to live is a life of sanctity and sacredness that they're an even a greater example for the people so i want to share with you a insight to begin with from the chronology around yerushalayim looked like a very simple milkman he's known as the ghalbana milkman worked in a milk factory but the truth is he was an extraordinary talent a great cabalist and when he was discovered when he was uh so to say outed as a great capitalist he began to teach to write and the wonderful swarm and others that capture his ideas and lessons and in their unprecious emor he says the following the role of the calling the coin is not intrinsically or inherently superior to anyone the fact that the coin has a position of distinction and the fact that we have a responsibility and obligation to honor the cohen is not because the cohen is intrinsically holier than anyone else but rather the coin is a dugma the coin is a model an example for claudius writes the when the jewish people look to the koala name of hashem to these exalted elevated cohen the holiness of the coin the colony is deemed so sacred so holy they cannot be contaminated the coin cannot be in a room in a building in which there is a corpse the cohen cannot make himself tame other than to immediate relatives the cohen has certain responsibility to live a sacred life not because he's intrinsically superior or holier than anyone else it's not a kid the coin is living the coin is realizing the potential holiness that is in every member of the jewish people the konami in their lifestyle the calling through the life they're living is an example of what we could achieve of who we could be of what our aspiration and ambition should be kedusha el yonesha the coin of course serves in the basement the coin has access to areas and parts and activities that none call him don't again not because the coin is intrinsically superior better or higher but rather the coin is charged to say look at me look at my life and my lifestyle look at the responsibilities i bear and know that i'm not different than you you have this inside you that doesn't mean that a israel or a lady should volunteer the boundaries the cohen is living by that's not the aspiration but the aspiration for a life of mindfulness and meaning in which we have a consciousness and awareness a mission to strive for holiness that the cohen has mandated and regulated upon him is something we could all strive for ms writes in other words where do we begin this is what is addressing a very important point that's why i share it with you this morning do we begin and say that every person is a blank slate do we begin and say that every person is is is nothing every person is essentially empty and now based on the decisions we make based on the choices we make we then determine and shape whether we become a tadak a righteous person or whether we become a russia a wicked person no says the way we're born is pure everyone is born at sadducal we strive for righteousness we have a moral compass we want to do what's right in our core at the core of who we are is someone who wants to do what's right at the core of who we are is someone with adselema at the core of who we are is a manifestation is a fulfillment is an expression of god in this world is look at a totally ignorant jew and don't see an ignorant jew see the potential for a talmud don't see an amarette don't see an ignoramus see a future scholar it sounds like it's simply semantics but it's more than just words it's a mindset it's a paradigm it's an attitude is what i see somebody who's either power of blank nothing but they're they're they're nothing or do i see someone who's power and blank as on their way to being at sadiq is the ignoramus and um i demean and diminish or is the amma aura somebody who is a tamil the potential not yet realized the potential this is all of us says that every jew is walking around not just we don't know who they are and what they could be who they are is that they're meant to be who they are is the righteous who they are as the scholar who they are as the kind who they are as the spiritual that's who we are now we just need to realize it now we just need to achieve it and the more we hang around the people who have realized that the better off we are la have deal in comparison if somebody is motivated they want to be an olympic athlete they hang out with olympians somebody wants to play in the nba they do their best to break into nba practice as an nba summer league and they want to hang out and do training with nba stars you hang out with who you want to be and you hope through osmosis through contagion that you pick up the habits and the skills and the learning and you follow in their way and lahavdil that's the role of the koanim the koanum live the life we are capable of and then by holding them up as our example by exposing ourselves to them by connecting and attaching to them we hope that they have an impact on us but it's critical not only in how we view them this is sort of the doctrine of the sadiq in the doctrine of the rebel in hasidus that someone is an example and we attach ourselves to them and we walk in their footsteps and their being on fire lights the spark in us but equally or maybe more important i think that the khalbhan is saying is how we view ourselves and how we view our children grandchildren the people in our life do we see only what appears immediately in front of us or do we see who they can and are meant to be do we relate to them in the here and now that's unrealized that's simply latent that's buried potential or do we see in them who they can and are meant to be michelangelo i quote this often michelangelo would say when he saw a block of marble he didn't see the block of marble he saw the sculpture and his job was not to chip away at the marble in order to create a sculpture his job was that he saw first the sculpture and his job was to chip away at the marble to reveal what he already saw to the rest of the world when i saw that quote from michelangelo it blew me away that's our job as parents and as educators our job is not to see only what appears in front of us our job is to see and envision and dream of the potential of who they or we can be and then chip away not because we're curious what we'll find but chip away in order to reveal and uncover the potential that's inside us all along shalom when that holy spark inside us when that godliness inside us attaches itself and connects itself and has a meeting a rendezvous is exposed to righteous and holy he miss ours it becomes alive have we not all had that experience have we not been in the presence of great men and women great people kind righteous great and it makes us feel alive and it makes us feel driven and to want to realize that potential that we see in them that is inside us they are a window and through them we see the jewels inside us and so on so all of that was point number one i wanted to share with you from the the role this parashat emor the continuation of kedoshan that takes that mission that we all have to be holy but talks about in the context of the quran and we begin with these laws that are special and that are incumbent on the quran him that the reason the condom had this distinction is not because intrinsically they are superior or better or different but rather because they are the model they are the example they are the window into who we can be and i i close this thought by encouraging and by really pushing you find the people that are inspirational in your life in your world and attach yourself to them men women kawanim levin livium and israelim and connect and attach to them and connect and attach to them ignored and connect and attach to them because that's how we become inspired that's how we become elevated that's how we become enriched that's what we are meant to do and that is our mission so that's how our parachute begins speak to the khan and the children of arun via martha alayam and say to them you cannot contaminate yourself to a dead person you're not allowed to it's a law of a coin you're not allowed to become contaminated other than to the seven immediate relatives love except for the relative closest to you to your mother your father son daughter or brother that's the ones you're allowed to become contaminated that's the funeral you can attend that's the burial that you can attend in the cemetery but everybody else you're absolutely not allowed to connect to not allowed to become contaminated too that is the warning the caution that is the responsibility of the cohen you know israel reopened in certain conditions you can apply even if you're not an israeli citizen to come if you have a first degree relative so i was unclear is the first degree relative to zain krovim is it the same rule mother father son daughter brother sister spouse or is it only first degree relative means either parent or child i'm still unclear on it as i think the whole world is as they might be themselves on exactly what that rule means so the cohen is not allowed to contaminate to others now rashi here picks up on the double language and why is it redundant if you're speaking to the kawanim why is it and say to them so says rashi and moral and more of is telling us and cautioning us to tell the adults that they need to preserve this law also for the children that this law is not only when you're post bar mitzvah this law applies even when you are a minor cohen even a cohen who's under bar mitzvah is cautioned is precluded from exposing himself to tuma to a dead body to musl by being in the same room in the same building or tama through contact and so on in fact it was fascinating hola literature not for now about a pregnant asian coin a woman married to a koen who's pregnant is she obligated to get a sonogram is she obligated to do a gender reveal to know if it's a boy or girl fetus to know whether she can go is she allowed to do a hospital visit she could go to a cemetery could she be in a building with a corpse she herself is allowed being married to a cohen doesn't bring these laws upon you nation's cohen is allowed to be exposed to tomah but if in fact she's carrying a male fetus cohen is it already applied in utero there's literature believe it or not about this we spoke last year you could listen to last year shir about lahaza gedola malachita we saw many interpretations of what it means including the beautiful interpretations of the vision of which i'll remind you but then i want to see new ones uh several new interpretations mostly from rav druk as we've been going through his magnificent farm this year of ishtamid so the vision of the rabbit the immachaim said the word la hazir can mean like zehirus the first meedah in masilis hasham we study wednesday mornings 8 15. the formula of rapin has been is the heiress zehirus means vigilance caution mindfulness zirus tis a hair be careful be careful so lahazir the adults are obligated to be careful and to caution the katanam the miners but says doesn't just mean caution it means something else and i refer you to thursday night friday it's going to be like omer yochai the author of the zoar at least that's our tradition that he's the author of the zoar in that context in mysticism in kabbalah zohar doesn't mean caution zohar means light to illuminate to brighten so therefore the vision itself says perhaps that it means that's what it means that the godolm that the adults need to live lifestyles that they're shining a light that they are illuminating those who are katanam to see the kind of life that they should live alternatively says the vishnutser sarah lahazer is this should illuminate enlighten and inspire golem arrogant people with inflated egos who think that they're so great that they're gadolin see themselves a little less great live a little more humbly live with a little more modesty so those are the two interpretations of the vision who says to light up to illuminate to brighten to to brighten the path for katanam to see how to live or limb those with inflated egos who think they are godolam to realize that in fact we are katanam the oznaim le torah wonders why specifically here why not anywhere else this mitzvah and no other hazard it doesn't say adults teach the children cautious adults teach the children shabbos adults teach the children yom kippur adults teach the children don't teach the children to be careful with shatness why specifically here and no other so the asana and the torah says you know why here because is so so important education and inspiration is so important it's not enough to use our words it's not enough to communicate verbally or early but we need to model so here the adult cohen are going to say look i'm not just teaching you don't be on the internet i'm not just teaching you you need a filter i'm not just demanding of you what you could watch or can't watch or read or not read or what you can subscribe to or not subscribe to i too i'm going to protect myself from that contamination i too i'm going to be aware of purity and impurity and strive for purity and i'm going to model it for you i'm going to teach you and that's why the fact that this is chosen and is chosen as the only example lahaza gedola malacatanum tells us just how pernicious just how threatening just how damaging it is to be exposed to tomah and therefore here specifically the adults need to not only speak but need to model what it means our responsibility to avoid such tama that is the aznayim littorasu so the vishwamitra is named the torah now let's move over to rajuk you cannot transform or inspire or elevate children we're not going to empower the next generation by the decibel level of our voice it doesn't happen through yelling or screaming it doesn't happen through words alone but rather the most powerful the most powerful and penetrating form of education is personal example we spoke about this last week with acharimos you want to change the whole world you want to change your community you want to change your family it begins by changing yourself you're going to be on fire if you see parents who want fire we spoke last week how rugged you want kids who learn do they see you learning you want kids who value davaning what do they see you value about your davening you want kids who are striving for holiness what sacrifices or efforts do they see you make for sacrifice for holiness but now we've got a problem says rav druk and this is where he's heading to the insights we saw until now says jerky got a problem for cohen jr junior cohen why because junior cohen is hearing one thing at home but then he's seeing another thing in school and on play dates you know why because junior cohen goes to school or camp junior cohen has play dates with non-ko on him with levi and yes so therefore i was going to say how bad could it be because not only do i see my friends levi and israel i'm not being careful about this but i see their parents as well so yes when my father and mother are personal examples for me and when i go on a play date my friends parents are personal examples too and everyone's working in sync and in synergy and it's all integrated as a system that reinforces what's right from wrong then you're right i learned from it but what happens to this junior cohen what happens to this young cohen who has certain responsibilities at home because his father's a cohen but his friend is israel so his friend's father is not living that way why is my father telling me i have to do something that my friend or my friends even parents don't have to do. and that's why this specific law needs extra reinforcement this law needs extra effort because here young cohen are not in an atmosphere where everybody are kohanim it's a zoo there's a mix the arkansas and that's why you don't need the extra and more of a marta when it comes to casual shabbos you know why because assuming that this child has good friends and a good environment then whatever home this child goes to they'll see that their friend and their parents are all living consistent and commensurate with what they hear at home but when it comes to the caution of kahuna that's not the case because the kid's going to be friends with non quran that's why you need the extra the extra emphasis number one number two says shayna perish rakshasa has come in it's not just that we are encouraging this minor cohen be firm endure be strong this is who you are take pride one day you will serve when the bay same this will be rebuilt and until then you need to protect yourself from tuma it's not that only eli is let's pay careful attention to the words this should not just be a cautionary tale it shouldn't just be an instruction it doesn't say adults you be casual but make sure you're vigilant with the children it says be vigilant adults for the children sort of drugs dick in the words of rashi doesn't say hagedola marmasakitanam it says you adults you need to be vigilant extremely careful why ao hakitanum and hero of jerk answers a question happens to be that of schwab and his safe reminding yeshua says the same thing he has the same insight bisons where the laws of nazir appear and that's the torah story of manawak and the birth of shimshon is the torah pasha's not so and that's where he has it so what happens manoach and his wife what's her name aisha's manuach why is she only issues and does she not deserve a name you got to learn navi show in order to get the answer so the malek comes and tells them you're going to have a child you're going to have a child and the child is going to be a nazir the child will take the vow a nazirite vow and bear that responsibility to live that holy way from the womb and so the angel comes and tells the wife of manohar you're going to get pregnant you're going to have a child and from the womb the child is going to emerge as a nazir never cut his hair protect and preserve him from tuma and so on and concludes vyatahi shamarina therefore you wife of manual be careful don't drink wine or beer via call tame and don't expose yourself to anything tame she goes and tells her husband manohar everything the navi describes that she relates exactly what the angel told her including the instruction don't drink alcohol don't drink wine and don't be near don't expose yourself to tomah to impurity what happens miami so manohar says that's nice great news we're going to have a child and good child is going to be holy child's going to strive to be a nazir but you know what manoharan's for send the angel again i want to hear it from the angel and it's a very very difficult question so what happens let the angel come again via renumanasa and tell us what should happen with the child who will be born and wonders as does ravshwab and others what did manohar not understand did he not trust his wife is he challenging her she didn't relay exactly what the angel said was the angel not clear what exactly is the what's at the core of why manohar wants the angel to come back and when the male comes back says what should we do with this child and the angel says everything i said to your wife be careful so he didn't say anything he just told me so why did my noah wanted to come back and what did the angel clarify when he came back all he said succinctly was everything i told your wife be careful so cesaro schwab and says ravdruk no you're misunderstanding the conversation what happened manohar said to himself how is this child going to grow up on nazir if i'm not a nazir if his mother's not in his era how will this child grow and have expectations of him how will this child have demands on him that we're not living i want to see this angel again how's that going to work out how is that going to succeed what kind of child will be able to sustain that so the angel comes back and here's what a joke and schwab say you know what the angel says everything i told your wife gord be careful do t shamir doesn't mean t shamir about the child tishamer means you're right you want the child to grow up this way tisha mir you need to be this way you live away from wine you protect yourself from tuma if you want the child to emerge that way then you are right you need to live that way it's an entire reinterpretation of the conversation the story of man of shimshon's parents with the angel and it's a powerful powerful lesson for us that if we want our children to meet expectations if we have a picture in our mind's eye of the kind of jewish pride and jewish life and lifestyle and jewish intensity and total life we want them to have then we don't need to have it in our mind's eye where we need to have it is in the mirror we need to look in the mirror and see whether we're living what we expect and demand of those that's and more and more the amarta and more of martha quickly a couple more interpretations because we saw two in the vision of zereba we saw one from the othnayah torah and now we saw one so far from druk here's another one from ravjuk in the opposite direction he says we said why is the adult need to be careful and vigilant themselves that's what will inspire the children now we're going to say in the opposite direction the reason the adult should be vigilant is not because it will inspire the child but the reason to do it in front of the child is because it will inspire the adult in the beginning of pasha's bow when hashem hardens para's heart it says hashem says to moshe that the reason he's hardening power's heart and bringing these plagues shows us why lamont i'm doing this so you'll tell in the ears of your children and grandchildren what i did the wondrous signs the miracles how i suspended nature and then vidatem you will know because i am hashem what is how should that possib you're listening carefully this amazing insight you got your first var torah for next pesach why does it say vida tem you're going to tell and recite and teach your children all that you have all that happened to you and all that you experienced and all that you witnessed and then you will know that i'm i mean you will know then they will know vader hashem then they will know i'm god what do you mean vida tem and then you will know says druck you know what the answer is even the people who lived through the miracles even the door day even the generation who came out of mitzrayim the generation of themselves witnessed and observed and experienced firsthand the rescue the salvation the miracles it could dissipate it dissolves it loses its steam its specialness so how do we get it back how do we remember how remarkable and extraordinary it was how do we remember to be able to thank hashem when we tell the katanam it inspires ourselves so in the experience of la monte saber when you tell them they'll know there's a god you know who else will renew their knowledge there's a god you know who else will reinvigorate and become re-excited that there's a god so when we model for our children not only are our children the beneficiaries but in fact by teaching the children we are re-minding we're reinvigorating we're re-exciting ourselves about it re-exciting we live through some miraculous time so we remember we remember when my parents tell me about the six day war and the feelings of euphoria and the feeling that a jew could walk through the street anywhere in the world and they look like they were 15 feet tall just because of israel pulled off in that six day war so okay it's a different experience yom yerushalayim will be different for them after they've told their children and grandchildren what it was like the six day war what do you mean but they were alive they knew it maybe they lived through it in some ways those certainly who served in the are heroes who served in the army but when you tell the story to the other not only do you inspire them you become re-inspired that's shot in the past like the beginning of paschal's bow vida tem when you are lamented then not only vida tem so cesar of druk maybe that's the shot here as well emor the amarta la hazir gedolam do you know how your maze here the gedolam alha katanam so two beautiful insights first that it doesn't say the gedola if you want children to live a certain way you need to learn it live it that's what the angel told man and that's what the torah is telling the kawanim you want your young kawanim to meet your expectations then you need to live it but shot number two is lahazir gedolam the adults will come inspired how ala katanam because when you tell the story and when you set the expectation for the children when you inspire them you become inspired you become inspired inspire yourself to inspire others inspire others to inspire yourself both of them are true last one we saw two visionators and there's nine the torah and so far two of drook a third of druk and then we'll move on because there's still a full parsha and we're already somehow shockingly halfway through the last one is the following there are other alderaan says that we're not just talking about kahuna and we're not just talking about tumantahara we're talking about all of mitsus not talking about adults or children but rather lahazier gedolam al-akatanam is talking about our attitude towards mitzvos there are the ones we think are big significant defining for how long already has it been defined who is an observant drew shabas kasras tara bacha the big three shabbos kashus tarzan those are what we call the big three those are the golem and the little things that you really care do they really matter does god really care that's what the torah tells us no no no no there's no such thing as big and little when it comes to mitsubiros when it comes to the will of god when it comes to what he's articulated for us when it comes to the blueprint for his world there aren't a godolam or katana there's no big or small but rather we are bound by it all that's what the mission of teaches us be as careful here it's not a coincidence says the same words so careful and vigilant when it comes to what you think is a small or insignificant a light mitzvah as you do for a severe one because we don't really know we have no idea the system of reward and punishment we don't know the matrix in shamayim about really which is more important which is greater which is smaller so it's not a coincidence it's the same message the third insight of rav druk and our two three sixth insight of what it means amor marta six new insights over the ones that we saw last year i think we've exhausted and more of a marta i share them with you not because i think they're only because they're fascinating interpretations of a famous rashi but their partial perspectives for today they are an inspiration about how to raise our children they're an inspiration what comes out of this is you know you want to become inspired again talk to your children about davening and you'll be excited about davening you know have you ever like fallen off of your diet or your exercise routine but then you start telling somebody all about what you used to do the exercise routine you used to have or the eating lifestyle you used to be careful with by telling and preaching to others you become inspired again yourself so this insight is both the method of how to inspire our children but also how to become inspired ourselves inspire yourself to inspire others inspire others you'll become inspired your self so what is this instruction to another you soul you're not allowed to become tame cohen's not allowed to become tummy cohen can't go to a hospital that has a morgue if the hospital is uh majority jewish the coin can't go into a jewish cemetery or a cemetery cohen can't be exposed to tuma in an oil through a building an edifice or in indirect as well or directly as well we don't have a base of mgtosh today we're not going to do this piece we'll do a different piece that was the uh the cohen is questioned so what does that mean loitama so but hero to the rest of the relatives they can so listen to whatever says here yes but it's a nice drush listen to the drush the gemara needed tells there are three partners in every human being three partners the mother the father we contribute the ingredients the materials but the one who inserts the soul the one who determines the dna so to say is not the dna we contribute but spiritual dna is the almighty there are three partners that's why the gemara concludes that if you honor your father or mother you are honoring god and if you disrespect and dishonor your father and mother then you are disrespecting or dishonoring god why because it's a partnership and the attitude towards one of the partners reflects on your attitude towards all of the partners so there are three partners there are people who are mixing the ingredients constantly but the third partner is not contributed and therefore there's no life kurzberg on the other hand wants a child to be born but he needs a husband and wife he needs the man the woman to be able to conceive to make the decision themselves to contribute the genetic material there are three partners a father mother and hashem the kumar there says aviv the husband contributes the white element from which the bones and the sinews and the fingernails and the and the marrow in the head the brain and the white of the eye it all forms from the white that the husband that the father contributes emo the mother masras odem she contributes the red element shimmy menu or the skin and the flesh and the hair the dark part of the eye and the quraj barack gives the shama because upon him what does god do he turns on this golem he makes this this inanimate object come alive so we give the materials the husband the white element and the wife the red element and god turns it on god makes an animated living being he makes the ears here and the eyes see and the mouth speak and the legs work and so on so from the father and mother you see what you get is the physical being from karis bark what you get is the nishamah and now it says ravdruk maybe apidrush this is an insight in the passage what does it mean it says passage says le nephesh loitama means when we make a mistake of miscalculation when we violate an indiscretion where does it come from it's not the soul driving us the soul's pure the soul is godly it is the body the inclination the instinct the appetite the temptation of the body is drawing us to that pleasure to that poor decision but the soul the godliness in us so the soul cannot be contaminated the soul itself is pure like god but when it's housed in the instrument in the vehicle called the body and the body struggles with appetite and temptation now the soul's got now now uh the body makes mistakes and that's what it means your soul can never be contaminated where does it come from it comes from the body element of who you are and who gave you your body your father and your mother that doesn't mean you should blame your father and mother for everything you do wrong and everything that goes wrong but it means symbolically the father and mother who contribute the physical so when we make a mistake the tumma in us is coming from the physical element of who we are not from the soul the term is coming from the physical element of who we are the tomah is not coming from the soul okay continuing the passage of continuing on to the next page so this coin has all kinds of rules is where did i see this amazing exam i wanted to share you so um the cohen is cautioned for living this lifestyle now skip the possibility the cohen has to um the cohen cannot marry a divorcee and the coin goddale has to marry a woman who's not even a widow the coin godol has to marry a woman who's not even a widow why why this extra layer on the coin gondol so listen to this insight listen to this insight this amazing insight just blew me away when i saw this this morning listen what it says the motion of the kingdom of the body say the following the any irregular levy can marry any woman can marry any single woman she could be a divorcee she could be a convert she could be a widow any woman a cohen can marry a woman who's not a convert and not a divorcee but can marry a widow a coin godol cannot even marry a widow has to be absula a woman who was never married why why wonders that doesn't the mushrooms can't have a ballet toast is why listen to this answer the t rates kilofish muslims it's amazing listen this you know why the whole rule that the coingodo cannot marry a widow is because maybe the coingodo will meet a married woman and he will be smitten he will be attracted to her beauty inside and out so when he gets into the code of darshan when on the holiest day of the year the holy person in the holiest place you know what he's going to think about maybe for a moment his mind will wander not to receiving atonement on behalf of all the people not to the safety and security of the people of israel but maybe for a moment in that holiest place the holiest person on the holiest day you know where his mind is going to wander that woman he's smitten by and what will he take advantage of this special moment to daven for for her husband to leave this world to leave her available to him so he can marry her maybe he'll meet this woman he'll be so smitten so taken i'll say she's my best shirt she's the one i'm meant to be with not this guy but he's an impediment he's an obstacle he's in the way how do i get rid of him i know i get to go into kodashika dashimanyam kippur i go into the holiest hole of holies on the holiest day of the wheel year this is the idea of the motions of druk and this is the powerful message that i want to bring and share to me and to you and to all of us the baleatosus that's the shot you came up with that's what you came up with what does that shot presuppose you know what that shot piece presupposes that the coin guddal is human the quen godot is human he has human needs and human attraction and that his mind might wander to that place and in order to prevent him from davening for that thing we take it off the table coingodo she's off the table even if her husband's out of the way she's off the table because she would be in almana and therefore the coin god will concentrate stay focused a concession we make to the reality and humanity of the coin godol to the fallibility of the coingado therefore we take it off the table the torah is in fact worried that the holiest person on the holiest day in the holiest place kashmir sashima when he is saying the holiest name javilo barosh makshamus what thoughts could go through his mind adultery murder and therefore they prohibited nora writer of druk and now you met him when he sat next to me right here the parasha class this is you can hear of druk saying these words you met him you saw him in real life you see where a person can go and kadesh ask me if we don't work to sanctify and elevate ourselves if we don't strive for holiness you see what a person could even be thinking about in that moment you see where a person can slide how low we can go how distracted we can be how absolutely cloudy our judgment can get how miscalculated and misguided we could become if we don't strive for holiness this explains why do we read partial sarayas at milhanem kippur again last week we read parshas akhiremos why do we read parshasarayas and minhanyam kippur milhayam kippur we've already gone through kondadre marav chakras musaf we are almost all the way through yom kippur we've been fasting we see ourselves as angels we have no need for leather shoes we are angelic we are angelic and what do we read about when we think we're angelic promiscuity licentiousness lewdness inappropriate relationships specifically then why because the torah cautions us don't ever think that you're superhuman never think that you're beyond reproach never think that you are immune from the distraction from the urge never think you're immune from the id never think you're immune you sodas that we find in the pasta dosha mila lokayam here in our passion is then it continues and says which is a lower so which is it am i only cautioned or do i have to strive all the way to kedosha miyu and my only question don't desecrate or do i have to meet the expectation and the demand the level of kadosham you habi or azerology the answer is there is no middle ground you're either holy or you're desecrating you're in a moment your mind is in a holy place or your mind is in a desecrating place what i love about this inside of ravdruk is what validation to human beings and to humanity that we're human we get distracted the torah doesn't have a utopian vision of the world than who we can be the torah is describing a reality of who we are and a reality of how far we can fall if we're not vigilant if we're not careful and if we don't have holy aspirations and holy ambitions going back the balatorium says the baloterum says the word the who is in gematria here's a good macho for the gematria lovers out there the who is in gematria rem is the mission of the fifth paragraph tells us that once you get married at 18 years old so vahu is the numerical value eighteen bibs which also we find in tehillim tests the who is eighteen why the hassan when is the casa yo te micho paso when he's 18 years old benjamin and that is what we see that is what we see here by the way allergies not corona i'm vaccinated but why do we see that uh benjamin estrella that mission of navas is very difficult we studied this several years ago in the afternoon column we learned the sacrament together and it's available online i thought mitzvah supply when you're 13. from 13 to 18 this man who's obligated in total mitzvos who's we celebrated the bar mitzvah and coming of age what other example do we have of a mitzvah that is deferred a mitzvah that doesn't apply to later from 13 to 18. and the gemara gives a small window because the mission says get married at 18 and if by 20 you're not married your bones rot which is not a judgment or statement about those who are want and are trying to get married and are above 20. i was older than 20 when i got married but it's a very small window eighteen to twenty it's very unusual only here in this midsole why is that you can go back to that shear misaka's condition for many many more sources about why that is and about what that is about okay let's keep on going go back to plastic test for a moment in passive tests we talked about bas iscoin the daughter of a coin is desecrated through adultery she desecrated her father she desecrated her father isn't that uh sexist chauvinist misogynist what are we talking about her father it's her behavior her accountability her life her choice why is this a reflection on her father sir kluger and his safer immediate asks the daughter of the cohen who has adultery and fidelity she is desecrating her father why her father so says a very powerful message the theme in this parsha is the theme of example and the theme of one generation to the other passing on behaviors and attributes and traits yeshua showing russia there are some wicked people whose parents were righteous slowly slowly they became a russian themselves they didn't follow their father's footsteps but in other words but if somebody doesn't slowly incrementally do something wicked or evil but they do so quickly and overnight and immediately then that's a sign that their parent is a russia and that's what it says ubas ish cohen the daughter of a cohen who herself is desecrated in her behavior and who um who has an affair kashim and hasqnos when immediately and from the beginning she jumps into a life of znus which she reveals that's the mechalas what she's desecrating what she makes clear and obvious is that her parents are no better that her parents are no better so because of the way in which she so comfortably so casually so easily so quickly shows rishis in her own life that reflects and reveals that it's what she saw at home it's what she saw modeled for her it's who her parents were and that's why says her kluger is through her behavior she is telling the world what she sees at home and how her parents and how her parents behave okay now we have the general caution to all of us what we all know one of my favorite and i think most powerful perf tara tells us about safeguarding the offerings and trump all this hillary kedusha kodesh khalal and so on skip all the way to page 680 president we've spoken about this many times as well in the past i don't want to review but i want to teach you new things that we just a moment ago saw the same idea that where's the third option don't desecrate god's name vinik dashtriba so banay sir i'll make a kid what if i'm not doing either i'm not in the mood to either make a great kid of shashand but i'm also not going to desecrate hashem's name i'm just gonna have lunch i'm just gonna eat lunch i'm just gonna take the bus i'm just gonna go to work i'm just gonna work out at the at the gym that's kosher to be at so it's powerful neutral i'm neither making a great kid is hashem no why isn't that okay where's the power of says and others there is no neutral and there is no power of everything we're doing is either holy and sacred or there's an absence and a void of god's name everything our life is one or the other if we're doing what's right which just what's correct it doesn't have to be something which is so enormous and transform transformative but it's a kid of hashem just doing what's right is a kid hashem and the opposite's also true you didn't hold the door you didn't say please or thank you your word wasn't your bond then it's those are the two options and in fact and in fact the nissan of nissan alpert says in hebrew grammar it's the form of the verb which is nifa which is passive why because kirish hashem doesn't happen when you give your life or in the most noble way where even though your factory burned down you pay your workers hashem is you held the door nifal passively are you a mensch do you act justly and correctly and with integrity in a very passive way that too is a kirish hashem but listen to this insight of of rodrik i love this he says the following he says the following i know we're heavy on rav druk today but it's also good what can i do the mission of us it's a mission on the fourth paragraph of avos the summer time we're reading pearce second mishnow recording from of us today so the mishnah says third mishnah from elvis we're quoting today mishnah says in paraguay that anyone who desecrates god's name even in private will pay for it in public and one is liable and culpable and accountable for hashem when you desecrate god's name not only if you did it on purpose but even if you did it by accident and wonders rav druk what in halakhah generally we have a major distinction between maize and shogek the consequence is enormously different categorically different when you do something intentionally with malice versus when you do something accidentally so why with a great question if you did it by accident why are you accountable what do you want from me it was an accident i didn't realize what i was doing or i didn't know what was wrong what do you want from me how do you hold me accountable why is it why is this different than all other mitzvos in the torah so in order to understand this we have to look at another halacha of druk these are golden rav druks i'm giving you not me giving you rodrick is giving us golden devratori today these are fantastic all of them not just all the directors to be the uh to be the inheritors of such a magnificent heritage of torah it's also wonderful and so informative inspiring it's also beautiful so the governor baba commander unlike an animal who's untrained unlike an animal that i don't know yet has a pattern for goring for damaging a human being is assumed to be dangerous and liable from birth being shoghi beimes had been here ben yoshin let's say i'm sleeping and i turn over in my sleep and i knock over your vods and i break it am i liable do i have to pay for your vas let's say i'm sleeping i fall asleep a billion times over while driving and therefore i ram to someone else's car hashem nobody's hurt but i damage your brand new tesla do i have to pay you for your tesla i'll say well i was sleeping it wasn't my fault i fell asleep so the halaq is when a human being damages your culpable libel whether you're awake or sleep whether it was intentional or whether it was by accident when we break things by accident you have to pay for it why why isn't there such a thing as an accident why should i have to pay if it was by accident i accidentally nicked your car accidentally broke your balls i accidentally dropped your phone accidentally it was an accident where i was asleep i did something in my sleep why am i liable for that which i do in my sleep so the answer is enzo's eloqui tashlume nazaksha mazak masha'ala nizak ennam bigidre onesh un nakama klaveker when is it that if you do something by accident you're exempt when something is a punishment we don't punish you if it was an accident intent matters in the world of reward and punishment but you know when you make somebody whole because you damaged that's not the world of reward and punishment that's not the world of mitzvah or avera it's the world of tash lumen it's compensation i damaged you i have to compensate your tesla doesn't care if it was an accident your bank account doesn't care if i was awake or asleep if i damage i must compensate and here too if i damage your car your vas your phone sleeping or awake on purpose or by accident i have to comp i have to compensate so now says ravjork we can understand this allah listen to this he says now we understand that being show gig that you have to pay you know why is nezhek to hashem where do you go under the category of mitzvah vera hashem go under the category of neither hashem goes under the category of tash lumen hashem goes under the category of tash lumen in kane um sleeping or awake on purpose or by accident you must compensate for damage you did and when we make we have done damage to god in this world we heard his brand we hurt the movement we hurt the brand brand damage and therefore you have to compensate and that's why we are accountable is a continuation of the halacha that adam being ben meizer we damage god we damage our mission in this world we damage his vision for this world if in fact if in fact we don't live up to who we're meant to be we don't live up to the notion of the of a killer hashem i wanted to get to a beautiful a beautiful insight of revolt but maybe we'll end with this quickly posix says towards the end of the parliamentary you arrange the lamps before hashem tamid what does the word tamid here mean what is the word tamid mean the menorah is a range that's lit tumid what is tamid sarashi says tamid does not mean the manure has to be lit 24 hours a day at all times rather it means hour has to light the menorah every night tamid means every night not occasionally not once a week not once a month tumid every night the ramban says something else says that i'm bound we learn from the word tamid that it has to be lit even on shabbos even if the coin is in a state of tomah tamid means even the things that normally prevent us from doing uh other things but tamid means you like the menorah so rashi says tamin means every night the ramban says tamid means even in shabbas even in the state of tama but you can learn from this pause it says revolba a definition of the word massmid when we talk about somebody as a masshmid we praise this bhakar this yeshiva bhakar that he's a mass mid massmen usually translates as incredibly diligent in their study says revolbet you learn from this rashi and rambam that massmen doesn't necessarily mean the one who learns day and night masmid doesn't mean cumulatively the one who learns the most quantity of hours but it means it's a person who sets aside time for learning just like rashid says it means you light every night the massmet is the one who's kovaya who makes time for learning that's what it means to be a mass man to be a mass man is not to learn the most hours to me amass me is not to learn all hours to be a mass mid is to fix ours for learning and to keep to them to set aside time and just like the ramban says even on shabbos a massmade does something not only during the week but even on shabbos and the massmut does it even in a state of tomah even when you feel like don't feel like learning and even if you don't feel worthy of learning it means you have a fixed time for dominating a fixed time for learning that's hasmada hasma does not have much and asmr does not how often has mother is fixing times and then keeping to them that's what it means to be a mass mid a new definition and it's one we can live up to to be the masmid to be the most diligent to burn the midnight oil to learn the most hours not all of us have the zits fleisch it's hard to be that kind of a massimid but the masshmid who fixes times and keeps to them all of us can be that kind of a mass mid a new definition of mass bid mass mid and with all that i leave you until next time tomorrow morning 8 15 we are tomorrow morning 8 15. mrs 10 minutes of meaning tomorrow 8 45 we are living with emunah tomorrow night we're going behind the beam at 9pm with another amazing episode take a moment if you're watching on youtube to subscribe hit the subscribe button below and you'll be notified every time we learn and if you're listening on our podcast please rate and review until next time stay happy stay holy 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