Parsha Perspective For Today - Acharei Mos/Kedoshim 5783/2023 - Getting Up

good morning and Boca Tov welcome back to partial perspectives for today it's great to be back together our first time since pesach and we are rewarded not with one but too partious that we're going to try to make our way through today so much to say on each of them alone let alone together in combination I want to thank our generous Parsha series sponsors Becky and all the cats and family in memory of David Grossman our learning is Leela nishma's this morning sheer is also sponsored by Myrna hershon in memory of her beloved husband our beloved friend and member Marvin Herschel and his third year outside was the 28th of Nissan also by Marjorie Gershon green of Toronto in memory of her dear father Dr Benjamin masouda the Earth site was the seventh uh and by the Aegis and fox families a member of the eighth year at site of a very special person Dr Saul Aegis shawl Gershon bench was yesterday and anonymously was the second of ER thank you to all of our generous sponsors our learning should give comfort and strength and serve eloi nishma's page 636 as I said a lot cover and we'll see how far we get and try to tap into a little bit some of the partial perspectives for today the Timeless messages of our sacred Torah from each of these partios page 636 in the Articles after the death we've spoken in the past but the notion of death is so final death is so conclusive death is such closure it's irreversible it's painful it's unbearable and yet there has to be a sense of an ahare most we have avram avinu who is loses his other half avrah mavino loses his wife Sarah in fact or my Salvage points out we don't hear from Alvar mavino again avram's impact on the World to a degree slows down if not comes to an end when he loses his life partner Sarah and yet the worst loss the worst pain there is is a spouse someone's other half someone is completed by that person they long and look forward to being together and that is the most acutely painful loss there is he shows that capacity that ability almost superhuman to nevertheless get up to nevertheless rise to nevertheless proceed to nevertheless as is our Minogue and I've shared this before we and Sivan they're different hug him but a predominant Shiva by going for a walk and why do we go for a walk we put one foot in front of the other in the same way that one goes for a walk by putting one foot in front of the other similarly emotionally one goes for a walk one puts One Foot In Front of the other vayakamos there has to be that sense it's particularly poignant this year we're reading this Parsha where we're studying this Pasha today today's Yama zikaron today in Israel around the world we're remembering we're remembering the soldiers remembering the civilians who gave and lost their lives in securing the modern Miracle of a state of Israel and the victims of Terror still I went last week for a day to Israel to be with the the defense Emily who went from seven to four guilty only the crime of taking it to Yul in the land of Israel maybe we'll talk more about it tomorrow at the amunisher which was the source of my connection with her of Leo with with Rabbi D but today we remember and we reflect on all those who gave their lives and lost their lives and paid the greatest sacrifice and that contrast in Israel between Yama zikaron and tonight then the transition to a yamatsumuda celebration of that Miracle of that independence of that Jewish sovereignty over that land the land where there's more Total Learning going on in Earth Israel than ever before a land that is supporting more Total Learning than ever before that is a certain degree a fulfillment of the achary most the yamazi karon into the yamatsu the yamashawah last week into the recognition of our presence in the land of Israel the state of Israel today is of that capacity to rise up you know the enormous contrast you think for a moment between Memorial Day in America and a Memorial Day in Israel Memorial Day in America is characterized by sales at the mall by a barbecue in the backyard by an outing to the park that's a Memorial Day Memorial Day in Israel are countless families tearing off the scab tearing off the scar reopening the wounds once a year I texted today with Rabbi D and with Hillel fold and his beloved brother Ari Hashem demo and the many many many many many families so akareemos that's the resilience of the Jewish people the tenacity of the Jewish people we are only here because of that capacity of the achary most of rising up of going for that walk of taking those steps of ayakam of the achary most so it's very much on my mind I'm sure it is to a degree on yours as well and what was the message that Moshe gave ahare most the karbasam of God spoke to Moshe speak to your brother Aaron the Aya verbs Allah Moshe was instructed to teach his brother Aaron Hashem by the way in case you're confused which our own or who our own what does the Posse a lot of our owns how do you know which are our own you know the one that you've been on this journey with the Aaron that is your brother and what's the message what's the instruction to him you cannot simply enter the holy whenever you want there cannot be a familiarity you have to have a sense of a reverence you have to be invited you can only go certain times because you'll die there's a death penalty if you enter without being invited now we don't normally refer to one of the children to another as your sister or your brother we do that if someone's in trouble if they're in a fight but generally we just say the name and The Sibling knows whom you're referring to and yet speak to your brother and in case you're confused which brother I'm sorry in case you're confused which Arun your brother and it does it in other places as well why revdruck has a beautiful beautiful Insight very briefly we'll share because I think it's so powerful he says Moshe was allowed in the kodesh whenever he wanted an hour on only on Yom Kippur samosha might have been reluctant to teach this din to our own because maybe it will make him feel bad so the Torah calls him to remind Moshe that Aron's happy for you don't worry even though you're emotion your rabbenu you have distinction you have a different set of rules than anyone else in perpetuity one of the yudhgamalikaram of the rambam is that Moshe is the Aven of them Moshe is different than everyone else and who's older Moshe orano Aaron's older samosha as a sensitive brother is reluctant because he's worried what if I teach this rule this law and what if it makes Aaron feel bad I don't want to make I don't feel bad I the younger brother have surpassed him I don't want him to feel bad so Hashem is telling Moshe don't be reluctant don't hesitate aren't your brother he's proud of you he's happy for you he sees your lives and your your your positions is the mentor says why does he use the word twice because Moshe felt like it was happening to him when Aaron was anointed with the distinction of becoming the kangaro was Moshe Cohen no Moshe was from the tribe of Levy Moshe is forever rabenu Moshe has got a good title he's got a good Legacy security he's a Hall of Famer he's a the greatest Hall of Famer but our own is hakoing and Moshe wanted to be a coin and yet the Posse describes the word zakan twice why because as Aaron was anointed it was as if Moshe was anointed it was as if he was being anointed because he took such Pride he was so happy for his brother Aaron and many point out you see this reciprocal incredible joy that Moshe is able to feel for our own arrow is able to feel for Moshe no sayero is not just in the negative the altar of kelm says doesn't just mean to Bear the burden the pain of a friend but it also means to share in the happiness and the joy and the success of a friend to be able to as we say in the Yiddish to forget you know someone's child got engaged they had a grandchild they won the lottery they have wonderful show and bias they got good news be happy for them to forgive them to be no say but all to share in the Joyce is the altar of calm and he points out we've shared this many times which is harder to be no say which is harder which is easier to feel the pain the empathy for the pain of another to share in the joy of another he says it's easier to feel the pain of another why because when someone else is going through a hard time God forbid they've experienced a loss of Crisis they're going through a difficult time or period they need a meal they need a ride they need a word they need hug you're happy to give it you know why because you say to yourself thank God that's not me so you know I'll make them a meal I'll give them a ride I'll check in on them I'll do whatever they need because I'm just so grateful thank God that's not happening to me but when you hear about something happy when they pull into the driveway with the new car when you see them walking into the house arm and arm with such happiness and joy and chill and bias when in the newsletter the president announces the Mazel Tov yet another Mazel Tov you know what you say why not me why not me I deserve it so much more I'm such a better person why not me it's hard to forget it's hard to be happy for the other person so that's emotion I don't know motion I don't know the original example of two brothers that don't have sibling rivalry they have sibling revelry they have sibling sibling I just made that up by the way right now I'm just gonna pause because I'm proud of that it just came to me thank you right now not something rivalry sibling revelry they're happy for one another they're happy for one another the helicopter Glover the Earth's three rights after the leblinner he says that's the prohibition of those Torah the decalogue the tenth of the aceres says don't covet don't be jealous don't want what your neighbor has how could you be told don't covet and don't be jealous he points to Apostle Guerra the next Parsha and parcious we'll get to it by this afternoon so you know if you see if you see your friend as an extension of you then their Joy their happiness their success is your joy and your happiness and your success but if you see them as a competitor if you see them as a rival so now their happiness their Joy their success is at your expense you know Stephen Covey writes in his seven habits you could live life as win lose lose win lose lose or win win what's your attitude what's the Paradigm in business as a negotiator in friendship with family and of course the ideal is win-win the best business people were able to structure and negotiate deals but there's a win-win U1 i1 we both walk away happy and successful there are people I don't want to be around them neither do you who are only happy if it's a win-lose my win is only meaningful of you lost if I crushed you if I defeated you if I destroyed you if I squeezed everything out of you why in business it should be a win-win I got a good deal I did well and you did well that's a kidish Hashem and what a reputation you have a win-win not a win lose so in life some people want if you have a simcha then I I'm not happy I'm Only Happy if I have a simha and you've got a a loss why can't a win win the gamar and San agent says that makana a person is jealous of everyone tell me though you could be jealous of everybody but your child and your student why aren't you jealous of your child a healthy parent is not jealous of a child there are unhealthy parents who are competing with their own children but a healthy good parent is never jealous of their child they're so excited and happiness they sit at that graduation cheering on that child and they tell everybody did you hear that my child got this degree or got this promotion or made this deal or got this position or had this accomplishment why why is a parent never jealous of a child because the child is an extension of the parent so if says Glover if we can succeed in seeing everyone as an extension of ourselves then it's not a win-lose or a lose win it's a win-win fantastic someone had a simcha they could have all the Sims in the world that doesn't take away from this simple that I could have the fact that they have children or grandchildren or they're making weddings or they have Shalom bias doesn't preclude me from having shell and bias or children or grandchildren one thing has nothing to do with the other and if I see them as an extension of me then I can be happy I can forgive them I could be no say but all together with them and that says what's going on here in this Hashem reminds Moshe don't worry you think Aaron is competing with you you think he's jealous of you because you have different rules than he don't worry he's he's your brother he's so proud he loves you he's not competing with you so don't worry you could teach him that's why we find many places and you're not Rivals and you're not competing you're not a sibling rivalry you have sibling revelry it's a wonderful wonderful thing yo what's up and I just want to show you the thickness of this volume again first of all I'm very very grateful to the mahaber who wrote me this beautiful inscription and it compiled the Magnificent magnificent safer thank you for sending me this volume it's really really beautiful we could spend three weeks just on one partial let alone two it was not easy to go through the utzer on these two parishes and try to extract what would be interesting to share because he digs up the most fascinating fascinating things so Rashi serious here says one is you can't enter whenever you want when are you allowed to enter only on Yom Kippur so it sounds like when is Iron allowed to enter the Kardashian Kardashian exclusively on one day a year when can you go in only on Yom Kippur but leave it too to dig up The Meadows same ideas says when Moshe heard this Aaron can only go in on Yom Kippur he's going to be so jealous he sees me go in the morning so the end of the matter is it's a misnomer so many things that he gives us Insight we always thought one way and he digs up sources that expands Your Horizon you could see it a different way it's not true that Aaron was only allowed to go in on Yom Kippur Aaron was allowed to go in says the medrish whenever he wanted but what was the prerequisite when could he go in he had to do this yamakipuram the matir what gave him license what gave him entrance the entrance fee the secret password the code to get into the code was to do that Buddhism Keeper in the middle of the summer in the middle of the winter if he would do the abodes in Kipper that would give him entrance [Music] um only our going to do this every subsequent successor of our own every other coincado only on Yom Kippur but our own as long as he would perform the avodha of Yom Kippur then you would be able to enter into the kodashem it's fascinating that we're not going to try to do this for now but to give thought to what is it about the avoda of Yom Kippur that is the license that is the matir that gives him the right to be able to enter something which is fascinating wonders the following foreign I went to Israel for so short I flew on Monday I got there Tuesday and I left Wednesday night so I couldn't bench gumbo when I got there but I was able to bench Como when I got back those who have the minute to still bench Como when you cross the ocean you go to or from erits Israel so why do we dunch Como we spoke about this a few weeks ago tour quotes the word is the acronym for the four people who have survived something and in gratitude the equivalent of the Corbin Toda today is the bench gomo is the bench gomo so our own it's life-threatening to go into the code of kadasha if the Jewish people and the coin goddal are unworthy it's not coming out alive in fact what would they do they tie Zara says a Golden Chain how could it be gold he has a whole discussion about it we're not going to go into it but they would tie a rope a Golden Chain to the ankle of the coin god doll you gotta imagine how depressing that is good luck what's the Rope in case you don't make it we got to be able to drag your body out we can't go in anyway good luck hope it goes well hope to see you on the other side that that was the going God though coingada was so ecstatic when he came out alive he sang a song he offered Fila we sing it it's one of the highlights of Yom Kippur which we've ruined by now singing at weddings throughout the year Mara Cohen should be a gishmak you have on Yom Kippur once you're dancing to it at every wedding now you've diluted The Joy it's a it's a great song believe me I get as into it as anybody else but okay it's a pet peeve of mine so wonders did the coin got all bench Goma when he left the kodashakadashim he survived a life-threatening circumstance did he bench gomo and he concludes Hashem said go in Hashem was watching over him so everything else we do is elective that we bench gomal on but this was the instructions so you don't binge gomel when you leave after something which was at civil Hashem so this is ah all that's good for Yom Kippur when Aaron was following it but we just dug up a message which said Aaron was entitled to go in whenever he wanted as long as what he did the Abode of Yom Kippur first so true are on din bench gomel when he went in and keeper because Hashem told them to but when he went in on his own volition electively voluntarily did he bench gomovan oh interesting Insight an interesting cache anyway a discussion in the outside Torah something which is fascinating parrot design possible we're familiar with it it is of course the highlight of our Yom Kippur to read about it so the kongoda will put on sacred linen the the sonus the tunic the linen uh pants should be on his flesh no barrier between them he wears a linen sash a belt is bad it's not and the head was covered with a linen turban big decoder shame these are considered sacred garments yes to immerse he'd go in and out he would change his clothing many many times rashier says son is bad magedo did not wear his normal uniform of the eight garments he changed into the uniform of the foregone governments when he went inside why why because they include gold the Shane category because you're not going to have the prosecutor become the defense attorney you can't play Both Sides can't play it both ways that which prosecutes against us can't then be invoked in our defense how is gold the prosecutor against us because what is gold invoke what is it reminiscent of so the very gold through which we send the gold which indicted us and prosecuted against us that gold is not going to then be our defense the coin god was not going to wear the gold so cool so therefore the coin go though he normally as a garments wears the four garments of a regular coin when he goes inside because he's going to Advocate and fight and defend the Jewish people to earn forgiveness and atonement on the sacred day and he's not going to do it wearing the very material ingredient which was the prosecutor the source of this Russia is why preferably we don't use a chauffeur of apara we use the chauffeur of of a ram which invokes the memory of what the Isle of Yitzhak and the akedah we invoke our Merit rather than our demerit we invoke our worthiness rather than that which was Prosecuting against us can you wear a Talus which is decorated with gold some people have on their Talus not just black and white some people have on their Talus gold should you wear such a talisan Yom Kippur is it a problem has a discussion I'm quoting this because in recent Generations this is the source of the meaning many have maybe you remember growing up it's not a baba Maison but it is fairly recent that your parent tells you no gold jewelry onion Kipper don't wear your gold earrings or necklace a bracelet don't wear the gold cufflinks don't wear the gold tie pin vitamin and then a fantastic job digging up all kinds of sources for these men hug him which we won't take the time but I'll just give you the Russia is he quotes a minute from the city of Prague now again the ornaments on top are made out of silver or gold don't use them on Yom Kippur in category NASA sanegor what about jewelry for people we saw what about wearing a watch what about if a person's glasses have gold or silver he has all kinds of sources and all kinds of discussions how far do we take or NASA sanegor we don't want any images or icons of what we did wrong on the day that we're fighting for our life and fight for our defense a very instant conversation skip to page 600 and 644. again the whole of ow but we're gonna get to the end of both partios previous years we did the beginning in the middle I want to get to the end of both partials and see a little bit from there but first Shabbat Shabbat the Torah here describes Yom Kippur as what's the name for Yom Kippur Shabbat Shabbos it's the ultimate Shabbos it's the great Shabbos it's the Shabbos which is a Shabbos that is Shabbat shabas it is the Shabbos that's a double double Shabbos so in Kipper doesn't have to fall on Shabbos to be called Shabbos Yom Kippur has this independent identity of Shabbos is that significant is that meaningful in any way so he quotes a very interesting Min hug writes quote that you light your candles for Yom Kippur on the table you set the Yom Kippur table as if it was Shabbos because it's called the Great Shabbos you should set the table for Yom Kippur as if it Shabbos you ensure the entire day you're not sitting at a table on Yom Kippur you're not eating Foods what table are you setting in your Kippur while you're going to be in shul on a day that you're fasting one should spread out a white tablecloth on their table for Shabbos another one of my pet peeves by the way the mini gisral is you know now we have the core and the the I'm going to impress you the charger you know the Chargers men do you know what a charger is there's a plate but the Plate's not enough to have to sit and wash and store now we have a plate under the plate that should match a plate and what's going to go on the plate and next to the plate and the centerpiece of the table and the tablecloth of the table it used to just be yadem table and now the table is a statement so you got to set the table so you got to have a charger and a plate and a whatever anyway so the tablecloth's got to match the charger but the minute you throw the machine where quotes the person should have a white tablecloth why why does the symbol white is the sign what is the message okay another pet peeve it's possible not everybody in my home pascans like me but it should be a white tablecloth should be a white tablecloth even though you're not sitting at the table you're not eating you set the table you set the table the safer mama he brings a minute you put out a nice tablecloths now you can't set the table with food what should you set the table with svarum we don't just cover the challah you shouldn't leave your table Bay or put the challah and put a tablecloth the man the lakhanishna are in memory of the man the man fell on a layer of dew underneath and a layer of dew a protective layer of dew on top and that's why we have a tablecloth underneath and we have a challah cover on top everyone knows the reason for the challah cover we don't want to embarrassed really in the order Eric deafen first you should make a bracha Mahala then the kiddish we go out of order we don't want to show them embarrassed so therefore we cover everybody knows that reason and everybody knows the story of salanta was once a guest at someone's table the balabayas was upset about something the way that the ballah is the wife set the table or or prepared or served at the table and he berated her even in front of the guests they like if you saw cilantro so we saw cilantro called the the balabayas aside and he said let me ask you a question why'd you cover the khawa should come first so he said khala the inanimate object you are careful and scrupulous not to embarrass him and your wife your wife you embarrassed like that it's a big message a big muscle Haskell I don't know any Jew who makes Kiddush with the kala uncovered such a Jew you'd never let you marry your child marry such a Jew we should add that to the to the uh interrogations do they cover the hollow when they make Kiddush everyone said what a ridiculous question who doesn't cover the hollow when you make Kiddush you're so careful to cover the challah because you don't want to embarrass don't embarrass anybody at the table you're so worried about the khala at the table don't embarrass the people at the table everybody knows that reason potassium Springs a different reason because the man had a protective layer of dew underneath and a protective layer of dew on top so the La Familia should have a tablecloth underneath and a color cover on top so this safer my memory says on Yom Kippur because it's called should set the table with a tablecloth puts faram instead of the khala and put a cover of this forum instead of covering the the and you leave it that way until motion keeper the new release put a sitter put it to hilum this day we're nourished not by food we're nourished by this forum that sit there adorning and decorating the table put a charger underneath the safer I don't know how you match match the cover of the safer with the charger that goes underneath the safer but it's a beautiful beautiful I never heard of this Farm I don't know where he found them it's unbelievable he says in Turkey Turkish Jews he set the table with beautiful candies and sweet fruits on a special holy day so that when you go to show you come back from sure you see the sweetness the deliciousness you're going to come back Muslim keeper you're gonna feel that you were cleansed you were cleaned you have a fresh start the sweet things are going to be there waiting for you all this is based on Shabbat shabazon because Yom Kippur is not just because the holy Shabbos of Shabbos is therefore we treat the table like a Shabbos table even though we're not going to sit and eat at it okay moving along 650. and here we get to the Forbidden relationships the Torah tells us sorry pause okay the introduction to the Forbidden relationships Tauruses look around at this world there are hunt coat countries that hosted you but because they physically host a new geographically hosted you do not assimilate do not blend in do not absorb their culture their values their confusion can mice the arithmetry you might have lived in Egypt a long time and I would say increasingly kamisa the Western World America so much good high culture class but we are in a world that is upside down inside out backwards utterly confused can mice just because they hosted you be grateful say thank you Lo sasu don't get confused I'm taking you to the holy heret Israel taking the Earth's Canaan but it's a place that's saturated right now in avode Zara it's saturated in morally corrupt confused people don't follow their ways there's so much here I didn't get into here's a whole discussion he quotes from samsaram that means that we have to speak our own distinct language you should not record in any language other than any language other than Hebrew I how do you reconcile with the fact that the rambam he quotes I don't know where he found this there's a tradition that Rashi wrote his original commentary in Hamish not in Hebrew he wrote it in French that's not our tradition we've never heard that but there is such a tradition that Rashi originally wrote the commentary in French how do you reconcile that the rambam the parishment is written in Arabic and he reconcile that Rashi maybe maybe and many other great gedolam wrote in the uh in the language that was familiar to them how far does that go am I allowed to be sitting here in this beautiful tie is that a violation what's original and what's copying and what's allowed and what's not allowed it's a big big discussion for another time and all this is an introduction to Arias to the Forbidden illicit relationships immoral relationships that we're not allowed to have and in that context the Torah says observe my decrease my laws which you will carry and you should live by them live through them Ani Hashem translate the word bahem in them but we don't really mean in them what should the word avuram through them with them in their Merit on their behalf there are many other words that we could have and should have used to better communicate the notion that Torah is our life source that Torah gives us meaning and purpose in life what do you mean in the introduction he says this is the attitude that we have to have when it comes to the Fulfillment of Torah um this is very medulla listen carefully says don't live for them don't live through them live in them how much time how much effort how much money do we go into to ensure that physically we are full physically we're complete physically we're healthy we don't want any of our limbs amputated we don't want any of our organs removed we don't want to compromise our health in any which ways all of Torah and mitzvos are our spiritual body took very seriously that teaches us that whatever Mitzvah we neglect in this world we live without that limb in the world to come in the time of the Resurrection whatever limb we violated we neglected we used inappropriately in the pursuit of something wrong we forfeit that limb and the limbs that we Elevate in the pursuit and the Fulfillment of Torah mitzvos in repairing in redeeming hashem's World those limbs come alive with full vibrancy and health says in the same way a person physically physically goes for a physical takes their Labs knows their well-being is trying to hopefully stay healthy in Every Which Way wants to be complete desperately doesn't want to lose a limb or or function so similarly live bahem Torah and mitzvos are the spiritual skeleton of our life they're the spiritual body of our life they are what give us life we are only really engaged in this world we're only really alive when we have salvation has a different tradition of these words he says the saving of Life overrides The Commandments of the entire toraham which has foreign this is The Source by the way that Mahalo Shabbos so that you can keep today up there foreign so that's why we have had Salah bar Hashem beautiful doing amazing things I think they have a fundraiser going on right now everybody should support the wonderful work of our new local hatsala here in South Florida so why is it the walkie-talkie goes off they go running they get in the car why are they violating Shamus to go help somebody so that person you could save their life and they can keep many services what is the real essence of the whole purpose of Torah and mitos is to give meaning and purpose and to enhance life and to give life if observing Torah misses will cost life will be at the expense of life that's not its purpose so we violate Torah and mits us to preserve life so that we can extend life that's a principle that's a rule that's true in all cases other than three the three big Cardinal the three of course Yara vials we violate a Shabbos that we can keep many do we apply that by the way to spiritually saving someone the rashba was asked somebody was kidnapped by a cult a young woman was taken captive by a cult that kidnapped her mind that convinced her to follow their ways can you be Michael shop as can you get in the car on Shabbos in order to go and release a redeemer to go rescue her to get her out to get her out can you sin to save someone else physically she's not in danger they're not going to murder her kill her over Shabbos but every moment she's with them her religious identity could be further compromised she could lose her religious identity narashtra has all discussion deal with that question is physically but do we apply that spiritually as well but back to the words of Celebration this law is the watchword of Judaism the teachings of the Torah do not oppose the laws of life and reality for were they to clash with this world were they to negate the value of concrete physiological biological existence then they would contain not Mercy loving kindness and peace but Vengeance and wrath even if there's only a doubtful possibility that a person's life is in danger one renders a lenient decision and as long as one is able to discover some possible danger to life one may use that doubt to render a lenient decision we're we're lenient in order to save a life in order to Save a Life my grandfather said the love is a Zeda my grandfather a crime brisker disagreed with the legal view that on Yom Kippur one feeds a sick person who's in Mortal dangerous small amounts of food at a time each amount less than the Forbidden measure of food for that day we have the practice my arrogant keeper is very busy answering the shallots somebody who needs to eat on Yom Kippur someone whose doctor is determining Yom Kippur also our parshaimos Yom Kippur so how should they do it so minatora from a Biblical perspective one only is considered to have they eat a certain measure so what if you eat less that measure if you eat less than that measure in spread out across significant periods of time so we pass again if you need to eat on Yom Kippur pregnant a nursing mother can't Supply milk someone whose health is compromised and needs strength somebody needs to take a medicine that has to be with food and it's a life-saving medicine they should eat less than 3.3 fluid ounces of food every nine minutes if that's not enough eight minutes seven minutes six minutes down to three minutes that's even three minutes even less than 3.3 ounces we start with the big shear and we go down what a person can can tolerate and that's the general minute that's the general sock that someone needs to eat at least be considered fasting on the biblical level on a total level and you've only broken your fast rabbinically by spreading it out the less than that quantity over extended periods of time says of salavechik brisker disagreed he said if they're telling you you got to eat eat outright don't sit there with shot glasses and filling food and liquid and a stop watching nine minutes and eight minutes and keeping track why he instructed those who were taking care of a sick individual to serve him a regular meal just as they would on other days when my father was about to travel to a town close to Covenant to take up a rabbinical post reprheim took him aside Ibrahim took his son Ramos father aside and said quote I command you to follow my view regarding a sick person in danger on Yom Kippur for it is an absolute halachic truth this law that because saving a life of rides all the Commandments is indicative of the high value which the halach Viewpoint attributes to one Earthly life indeed it serves to confirm and nurture that value temporal life becomes transformed into eternal life it becomes Sanctified and elevated with eternal Holiness the rub used to say about Isaiah brisker he wasn't makal on Yom Kippur it was he wasn't Mako on Shabbos was once in the room the doctor and the doctor was treating the patient the doctor said he didn't need the candle lit the prime lit the candle for the doctor and he explained I'm not Michael Shabbos I'm not lenient and Allah I'm strict on the laws of saving a life of that is the nature of the Mitzvah of of of of uh picoch we save a life because the purpose of tormentors is to give meaning and purpose to life not to come at the expense of life last idea for Akram is yeah Torah concludes the laws of Arias by telling us don't approach a woman in a time that she's a need done a time that she's forbidden a time that she's off limits these are inappropriate relationships that have to be moral boundaries and then the next person is by the way also don't um present any of your children to pass through for mola don't sacrifice any of your children to Molech don't sacrifice your children to idolatry to molach was an idol whose worship is described below was prevalent in the land of Canaan and uh and don't sacrifice your children to malachik what in the world does one thing have to do with the other what does don't come close to a woman is off limits to you have to do with sacrificing a child to mola and rights of Salvage listen to this Insight the juxtaposition the first two prohibitions is clear how are the laws of sexual morality related to the moloch child sacrifice listen what he says a couple saves money to buy a house they discover an unwanted pregnancy rather than have their plans thwarted they will go put the child up for adoption or undergo an abortion they're offering their child to Mola because they do not want to be deprived of material niceties the connection between these prohibitions communicates that if one violates such as the rules of morality it can lead to molach violation of the mishapatnam as well don't sacrifice your children for your pleasure for your pleasure you want more money more indulgences more luxuries you know it's been said maybe not anymore in the State of Florida that Baruch Hashem now past vouchers eight thousand dollars per child maybe we'll change things it has been said the greatest form of birth control is the cost of Jewish Education the biggest birth control and I can tell you as a ROV how many conversations I've had with couples who are trying to act responsibly who say I don't know if I should have another child I have more love to give there's more room in our family to share but I don't know if I can afford it what it will cost 12 years and Beyond of a Jewish Education don't sacrifice I'm not saying that therefore it's an easy answer that's a responsible question and a difficult answer but don't sacrifice to molach not because there are plenty of people who can't afford but then I can't afford the car in the driveway and I can't afford the vacations I can't afford the extension in the house and I can't afford the pesach away if I'm going to have another child don't sacrifice La molach don't engage in child sacrifice in the pursuit of Arias of our own Indulgence of personal pleasure and and luxury a fascinating Insider of Salvation on the juxtaposition of those two okay let's move over to parsha's Ocean it's a double question this week right I'm not wrong anyone here paying attention am I right okay good page 656 parakeets Hashem speaks to Moshe speak to the Jewish people I call adasp and Israel why is this a message that had to be given as an ADA in a Das as a congregation when we were gathered and tell them the message to you what does it mean condition to you I'm tempted to go back I love these divoritorah we've spoken about so many of them in the past we're not going to go backwards listen to previous years and you'll see what is what does it mean to be kadosh what does it mean be holy what does that mean to be holy how do you fulfill Holiness the pursuit of Holiness what is the definition so many definitions you can listen to pastures online the third person tells us a man your mother and your father should you have awe of not fear right that's not the relationship we as parents want from our children that they're afraid of us what do we want from them that they have oh but they have awe from the choices we've made the lives we lived in that they want to live with themselves their Shabbos and observe my Shabbos I am Hashem your God I am Hashem your guard we learn from here what do we learn from here this juxtaposition why does the Torah contrast having yira having awe for parents with and observe Shabbos because it's telling us rashier quotes telling us that even though respecting and having awe fear for parents is a tremendous Mitzvah nevertheless when it's in conflict with observing Torah in so let's say your father says your mother says I want you to violate Shabbos out of respect or offer me should you maybe it supersedes even hashem's rules Torah contrasts them to tell us that no both you and your parents are obligated in honor and awe of Hashem so yes that's the hierarchy here's the chain of command you have to have honor and all for your parents but they also have to have honor and awe for me Hashem says so when there's a conflict I come I come first I come first let's say your parent tells you not just actively violate a Prohibition but passively sit out so they say I don't want you to shake little Vanessa this year I don't want you to hear show for this year so maybe you'll say it's a violent Shabbos I shouldn't do but to passively behave autassay neglect something maybe I should honor my parent no even that no even though that and the banish High ads and I'll say this is timely amazing concludes what if what if your parents says don't make Aliyah you say I've been moved I want to go it's time it's time what the Vilma gone what is tamidam gave to go make Aliyah what throughout our history to return to our homeland it permeates our davening every day I moved and we all should be moved to ask not if but when when we're going to go very important question that should weigh on our minds each and every day when when so a person is moved our dear friend Rabbi fast Tony Gilbert made it easy and they go to their parents and they say the same parent by the way who made them wave the flag and wear the kova Tembo and sent them to the river designer schools and dragged them to the yomato program at school and watch the Doug Leonard ceremony and now they come and say I'm making alien they say how dare you how could you you're taking my grandchildrenia they cry this is the worst day of my life I need a support group to be part of I'm just describing people I know may be related to when their children said they're moving to Israel so can the parent tell the child no you're not you have to honor me you have to be in awe of me and I tell you you can't go which comes first when there's a conflict between moving to Earth Israel so first of all this whole discussion is only true when they're both Mitzvahs observing Shabbos is a Mitzvah so when your parents says violate Shabbos the answer is no Hashem says you're both obligated to honor me is moving to Israel mitzvah there's a lot to say about this we have enough time right now moving to Israel is certainly a mitzvah ramosha Feinstein passkins it's a mitzvahi um just like if you're wearing a four cornered garment you're obligated to where it sits on it you're not obligated to put on the four corner garment but when you wear a four corner garment with Citrus you're in fulfillment of a Mitzvah so when you move to Israel you're in fulfillment of amitabhaskians it is a Mitzvah kiyumis you fulfill a Mitzvah by being there by being there it's uh again we don't have time the mission is if a woman says to her husband I'm moving to Israel and he says I don't want to go he has to pay the Cuba if he says I'm moving to Israel she says I'm not coming he can move and he doesn't have to pay the Cuba why because moving to Israel is a Mitzvah normally and Shabbos you're not allowed to engage in Commerce but there's a piece of land that you can buy can come into Jewish sovereignty are you allowed to give instructions to buy it on Shabbos yes why because because it is a Mitzvah so when that Mitzvah is in conflict with honoring parents having oauth parents our parents entitled to say no Aliyah for you you're not going you're not going so it's an interesting measure get up and leave your hometown your home country you're moving to Israel and the measures tells us that it was only because Hashem told avram that he was entitled to neglect his father and to leave and go es about this question and he quotes this is sorry so that he'd be the exception he was allowed to neglect to go to Israel but everyone else is not allowed to you have to listen to a parent and you can't go on Aliyah there is such an opinion there is such a madrush that's not how ravavadya paskins in the end his conclusion is that a parent is not entitled to tell you not to go that's his conclusion also Loretta's and he concludes foreign class I go to on Tuesdays come down to South Florida I want you to come play mahjong sit by the pool learn Parsha with me is that a Heather are you allowed to leave Israel for kibet of is there a hat to relief for that reason this is the whole discussion a fascinating discussion in in Allah he says then you have to go back afterwards there is a whole discussion here on the outside Plaza Torah what else based on this is a conflict Hashem comes first so what is the Father Allah says I don't want you to have that friendship I don't want you to be friends with such a person I don't want you to forgive such a person a person has a conflict their friend asks forgiveness and the parent says don't forgive are you obligated to listen to the parent let's say you fall in love and you want to get married let's say the shotgun just sets you up and you want to go out but your parent says not that resume I did the research I say no are you entitled to ignore the parent to go on your own there's a big discussion in this in in about all these things he quotes the mushrooms can a son give a father a haircut I happen to give haircuts I earned my spending money in my years in Yeshiva by giving haircuts in the dorm and during Corona I gave my father haircuts so and and after Corona he that became a good price for him so we kept them in hug so can a person give their father a haircut so the emotion of the Kingdom the malitosa says so it depends if you're a good Barber or not if you're going to cut the person and cause them to bleed then no I feel them even if the parents doesn't work he doesn't quote it in here but I once our children of the heart 3. let's say you have a child as a dentist you spent all that money dental school is also expensive okay it's still a doctor it's not medical doctor a dentist is still expensive and you have a child who's a dentist and so now you figure at least let me get a return on my investment in their Dental School can the child treat the parent can you fill the cavity can you do the root canal you're causing pain and anguish you're going to cause bleeding and give a khaburra to the parent are you allowed to can a child treat a parent a child is a doctor can they treat the parent all these are fascinating discussions in Alaska and I encourage you to look more into a parakeet test possibly get Zion squeeze in a few more because the best you got the best yet safe or less you're not supposed to play favorites I love passion every person gives a muscle safer fantastic every every pasok or or the core Central themes of what it means to be a yid what it means to be a Jew you can't hit your brother in your heart you have to rebuke them otherwise you carry their burden wonders of moon catch and it's saferite why do I need to be told we know you have to love your brother as yourself you have to love your sorry not your brother you have to live you have to love your neighbor your friend as yourself so if you're supposed to love your neighbor as yourself certainly you can't hate your brother your brother is your flesh and blood your brother is your family your brother is you so once you're told certainly you'll know your brother why do you have to be told that listen to his Insight listen to the Moon concert quotes you know what sometimes it's harder to love your siblings than it is your neighbor or put differently you may love your sibling it's hard to like them you love them you take a bullet for them you have the same last name your family you love them but you don't really like them maybe you're going to compete for The Inheritance maybe you're competing for attention from the parent sibling rival rivalry not revelry no sometimes it's hard to love the people closest to us sometimes we mistrict the most the people closest to us so don't forget don't just be nice and kind and patient and speak gently to the neighbor and the stranger don't forget your siblings and your parents and your children the people you share the house with don't forget the people you're closest to don't forget the people you're most comfortable around is how we it's how he explains it in the answer is but there's a lot of Truth a lot of truth to it if you saw cilante says on this what is the word s the puzzle could have read your acquaintance your neighbor why is it s we darshan every s in the Torah s the word s is me it's extra it's unnecessary listen where Mr cilantro said whenever you have the word s it's coming righteous Ness every time the word s larabas were adding that same value applies not only to what it says explicitly in the pasok but applies to someone else too who's the S here who else who's this would answer don't forget Laura says you you're about to give rebuke to somebody look in the mirror first check yourself first see whether you're really in a position to give rebuke you're in it you're really in a position to offer judgment or criticism what about you because be honest with yourself and then you can be honest with other people look in the mirror check yourself you before you give rebuke give the rebuke to yourself try the rebuke on for size see whether whether you in fact are in a position and worthy of giving rebuke to others okay we only have time for a couple more but we've got a hundred more incredible onesitor what it's really about not taking Revenge foreign you need love a fellow Jew as yourself and we've shared before this is the source that used to love yourself who says you have to love yourself you have to love yourself there's some people who don't love themselves in this world of mental illness and mental health challenges there are so many people who don't love themselves they don't love themselves they don't even like themselves and they need to remember you have to love others but first you have to love yourself so the simple understanding of is is your neighbor is the friend says there's another idea here a Jew needs to accept upon themselves all the challenges and all the hardships and all the pain is to know that after the hardships and after the pain and after the difficulty Hashem loves us and his compassion for us Hashem is the judge of Truth everything is for a reason everything is for a purpose nothing is random nothing is chance and even when it's unbearably painful there's a reason for it and that's the chat is love the bed that happens it's part of who you are it's part of the life you live it's part of how you get to where you are ends with and it ends with Anisha why why should you be love the bed that happens to you because it's part of who you are it's part of the building into who you are it's part of your life that you're meant to lead it's not random and chance why should you have that confidence why should you believe that because if you surrender and submit if you believe that there's a higher power if you believe if you believe there's a Tata in him if you believe Hashem is running the world then the ahafta you love not only the good in your life you have to you love even the ra even the ra now the other day remember the story maybe of the NBA player on the heat Myers Leonard he had a horrible incident he's a very good man who had one moment he made a mistake and he earned his way back and he's back in the NBA and his Milwaukee Bucks were down here playing the Heat so we got together we had breakfast together my seven foot one friend he's amazing and by the way an incredible lesson for all of us by engaging in befriending and yamashawahi wrote a post to his tens of thousands of followers maybe 100 I'm sorry hundreds of thousand followers all about fighting anti-Semitism and standing with the Jewish people and he's he's very special we talked about that horrible incident as he lived through it didn't understand why and it was so unbearably painful but the good and positives that have changed in his life since then that he could look back and understand that incident put him on a journey of self-discovery and of forgiveness and of relationships and educating himself about the Jewish community and it's absolutely absolutely incredible absolutely beautiful and for all of us the ahafta we've come to learn to love even that which was painful in your life it is part of the composite it is part of the mold as part of the kamoha of the life that we live it is part of that entire picture of who we are and the lives that we live oh yeah yeah there was so much more foreign it's great to be together again wishing everyone stay happy stay healthy and stay holy foreign