Parashat Vayechi - Do you have bad habits? - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] we are in power shots a very motion we're finishing the the homage this week and something very interesting happens in this bombshell that Jakob is about to die and he gathers all the tribes and they first of all he wants to tell them when Messiah is coming and that we already spoke about it last year if you were following the the Sunday classes and we spoke about that last year you can find it online about the concept that Yaakov wanted to tell them when Michelle is coming he made a quick decision not to but something else happens and Yaakov blesses the tribes and also rebukes them now there's a very interesting thing that happens specifically with two of the tribes that we can learn something very very profound from it now if you remember in the Parishad of Islip there's a whole story that Dina the daughter of Yaakov goes out for a walk and unfortunately she finds herself in a bad neighborhood and certain individual shrimp kidnaps her and rapes her and he takes her and he doesn't want to release her and the result of it two of the tribes Shimon are living they get very upset they go into the city and they destroy the city of course the story was that they came to scrims house he didn't want to give Dean away this difference of stories we're not gonna get to the story right now we'll explain it a little bit later but what happens is is that eventually of course they wanted to marry her they said they tricked them they said you have to be circumcised all the men here has to be circumcised they go and circumcise themselves and on the third day she Montana we come into shrimp with their swords and they kill everybody now this is a short short version of what happened in Polish a Jewish law we'll talk about it a little bit more as we go but in this week's Parishad the Nia Cove is starting to bless on his deathbed he is starting to bless all the shmoo team and most of them are just getting a blessing but specifically to tribes Shimon and Levy oh they're getting a piece of Yakko his mind he's giving them a Misha burner he opens his mouth in them and he starts giving them his opinion and he tells them you'll disgrace the family you are you brought such shame on the family that he tells them click Hamas me ho ho take him your your weapon your tool is your tour what represents you is a click Hamas is a tool of murder you went and murdered people and and and the echo says this was not justified this was not a good act and not only that that you are holding the the desire that they have of murder this is not coming from me you took it from your from your uncle for myself this is not coming from me is character trait to murder and to kill know there was a story now remember exactly the day the thing was about 40 years ago some terrorists came into Israel maybe 50 years ago and they came into Israel and they killed the thing a woman and two kids it was very a long time ago I don't remember the story I remember the reaction at the time it was the Alec Shan who was a yeah she's known only mile roads but something noted that scale nevertheless I don't remember if Alec Shan was the prior everybody foaf staff or just the general he was a little bit of a hothead and they went into the village where the murder the terrorists came from and they just destroyed the whole place and they actually they killed about 70 80 people they were innocent was a big stink there where how did they able to do such a thing and came of course the question was this murder justified that you going in and you doing such a big thing nevertheless Shimon and Levy are now are accused by Yaakov you are murderers you just went in there you killed everything that moved you brought shame onto our family and you ARMA mush like murderers and only that he's questioning there where you get that from well you've got this character trait to just grab your swords and go into a city and kill now of course Yakov blames it says it's not coming from me you must have taking it from my from your uncle from a sub from my brother because I don't have any type of desire or character trait in me of killing of a murderer now comes a big question how can the alcove call both of them clay hummus clay hummus clears like a weapon and come asses of murder how can he crow calls them such such a thing after all we know that they were also the game they were all holy not only that you know their names of the Shiva team were written on the breastplate of the Quran this is called Horsham and they had the itch a tribe had a stone with a different color and their names were all written there and any message that hashem would want to give the hoshin would talk they would present a question and the letters because they had all the letters they would say she mantova la viuda all the nails and the letters would shine like Lahav develop of the road would they do in a seance when you have a board and the cup goes on the board the hoshin was on the put on the plate the breastplate on the coin and the letters would shine according to the answer and they're the names of Levite levy and Shimon who were on the rest right how can you call them murderers how can you call them that they have a desire to have a way of killing now there is a question does first of all that really really a cough sword is murdered don't forget that you're talking about 22 years passed from the time of Yosef so you're talking here over over 30 years from the event so really was Yaakov thinking that it was murdered and if so where were you all this time in photoshops very Slav Jacov just said that that they brought shame to the family and that's it so what it took you 30 40 350 years to figure out and now you coming and telling them that it's a that your art is killing where were you in Paris at veg laughs yeah called now comes another question two questions what was Shimon and Levy thinking when they did such a thing what would cause these two individuals understand they were angry because each them took their a their sister but what was Shimon and Levy thinking to do such a thing and what caused the akov to get upset at them this is things that we see now in our PowerShell obviously something caught thank you so much obviously something caught up and Yaakov got very upset of them a question here is that how were they're able to just kill a bunch of people like that I understand the shrimp kidnapped her and did something wrong okay finish your business with him why you the whole town you're killing that was one of the big questions okay I understand you had some open business with shrimp he kidnapped your sister he raped them okay so kill him by killing the entire city then we learn from abramova know that said many Parishad before that had these specs at deaky masha telling when obama vena went and argued with a shame about saddam he's told the Alfama Savina said you're gonna kill it's a dick in there with because everybody's ashamed so kill gonna show you why that's when the argument that shrimp says does not even want to her once a dick there but did we learn from our then they learn from their grandfather so what is the one person messed up why are you punishing everybody now the same thing also with motion that moshe said the same thing one person with a argument with KOA one person messed up you're going to be upset at the entire congregation Aisha had your pelvic old antics off mama what's the I understand here one person messed it up now you're punishing everybody so comes of course the question why would they do such a thing and more of a bigger question is how come here Cole after so many years fifty years past from their event and now you remember to rebuke them what happened fifty years where were you fifty years it was okay and now before you die let's see that's your farewell goodbye by telling them that you have the desire to kill your machine weapon of destruction where were you Yakko for so long so obviously when you see such a big question mark in so many questions obviously there's a big secret hidden in here this is not something that say no one can ignore obviously is a big secret in here we just want to find out a what is the secret and not only that how is that gonna do with me because the talk comes to teach me something so we know that Yaakov lived in mid time for 17 years last week he also reveals himself he says I'm your brother they bring down Yaakov they bring 70 people they all get situated they land in the land of goshen they build houses this has set up your she vote they open shows they establish them and the alcove ends up living in mid time for 17 years 17 years that he's there and he's finishing his life and how is he finishing his life he starts giving them blessing he gathers them around the bed and he starts one-by-one giving them blessing now this is already an interesting concept because he starts giving them one by one different blessings and so he says to yahuda you gonna have Kings coming out of you and any Sokka the the Talmud ever Hamim all the rabbi's the rahbaniya all gonna come out from you the wisdom the hikmah and volune you're gonna be rich and it gives each and every one of them a blessing which in itself is a very weird concept why why you be giving each one a different blessing just can't you all of them to be rich only the woman should be rich and only you would that we'll have Kings coming out of him and only Sokka will have tell me that ha ha Meem what kind of a blessing is that why are you giving each one a different blessing I would expect our Father to give everybody equal blessings I mean that's the right way No rather you're right first of all it seems like there's a distinguisher not a distinguish discrimination knife lay up you get money you get brain you get the looks so no you're right Yaakov didn't give any blessing Yaakov was just strengthening the advantage your each and every one of them had this is the exact concept when we go to ecstatic for Baja something doesn't give you a blessing this is a mistake of many people that a lot of people go to a Tzadik and they ask for a blessing that sadek is not the one who gives the blessing he just releases the Sheva that's it it was already there to start with I already got the blessing that something just comes and releases the knot he unties the knot so the blessing can start flowing in a much more open way that's the difference that wasn't about it to dig does that's what Yaakov did Yaakov just said no I'm not giving you a new blessing I see each and every one of you what's in your Mazel and I'm just going to empower it that's what he did and sometimes you see that there's there's a I mean in the time when Yaakov was talking to them you see that the laws of it was blessing but some of what he was saying is the opposite of blessing to read of course the power shaman you have to come to the class a little bit prepared because we don't have the time to start going through every little story in the Torah but you if you would read it you would see that some of it is very good blessings and some of them is not some of them it sounds like the complete opposite of the blessing Yaakov when he was blessing them he wanted to empower the good when he was saying the opposite of the blessing he wanted to help them to cut off to uproot the bad attributes to prove the bad media which in itself is something that I need to acquire and to see that when I see something positive I have to empower it doesn't matter right now where it is can be with my wife it can be with my child it can be in another person in my community that is doing something amazing instead of you know trying to put it down and power it this in itself just that is one message one can take from the power shop you see a child that is doing something and you see that they have something positive that empower that you know that we now started here praying every everyday boho xem have minion email three times a day so my son my 11 year old he comes every day to pray with us instead of praying in his class he asks permission and he's praying with us he said I want to pray with my father I want to pray in the school he comes every day wakes up early gets prepared he prepares everything me putting the seed blooming back this is Stan series is very very involved in the Kea Totowa he helps his so and you see something so beautiful he wants to do it by himself so mo wash em I'm busy sometimes all it needs is one little word so the other day I just told him you know I'm very proud how you wake up in the morning how you're taking this very serious how you show up it makes me very happy that you're next to me all it takes is two minutes to say a few encouraging words and you saw that then I so the next day he was even more because it's taking something positive and empowering it and making it grow and make it come out more to the surface we have to acquire that you see somebody doing something good don't go and be jealous oh oh stop bad-mouthing or look what it's doing now and empower that saying wow he's doing amazing talk about you should do more let me help you this is you know we're we're talking about before people have such a narrow eye so we have to take something from that and of course on the other hand Yaakov saw the bad character traits so he says I need to cut it up I need to approve it so when yucca was rebuking wasn't trying to necessary to put them on their spot he says let me help you to part to point out your weak point so you can work on yourself now here okay every becomes a little bit more touchy don't go around and start telling every person their weak points you're not gonna have much friends so but if you recognize in somebody something that is negative find the right way to tell the person by the way I have noticed that you're amazing here you great here unbelievable here here yeah it's lacking a little bit I think you should do that this is like that of course everything has to be done the right way but even when something is negative it needs to be pointed out of course in the right way not in a way if you pointing it out in with a finger then it's not going to be accepted if you want to help the person really chop off the bad character the bad meda that's when it will actually work if you're coming with an ego and pawning important pointing fingers then the message will not come across you'll just get resistance and hate so same thing Yaakov says this I'm gonna tell you where something is negative but I'm not coming to attack you I'm not coming to put you on the spot I'm coming to show you my my observation and to help you here now Kawana to uproot the bad MoDOT especially here we're talking about Shimon and living where now the two stars are we talking about our Shimon are living now what was one of the things that Shimon that Hacha that Yaakov told for Shimon Levy shall come back of a feat Amba strain I will divide them they are curved in the in the mini ovis is a definition of the nation I will separate them a Halcomb way a feat Amba seven I'm going to spread them around the the nation and we see that I have to admit he was saying I have to take your anger your anger is very very dangerous and I have to spread it all over the place you know when you have something concentrated it's much more powerful you break it into pieces then it's much less dangerous so you take a few a few kids put them together together there they're they they're a big troublemakers separate them put this one over here this one over here they're not so bad but we've seen with everything take now a lot of sand and put it together with a little bit of a water or mud and becomes a strong it can become hard as a rock separated now break it into into small grains it's not so powerful now come says I have to you did your anger is very dangerous I have to break it into pieces and I have to spread it over the place and he basically told them you're gonna be scattered you're not gonna be concentrated and we saw later that she won't became the tribe that we used to educate the babies so he had to go from one house to another house they didn't have a set place and the same thing look at levy maybe after that they later on of course Coenen came out of the tribal rav4 Sheila by no means a serious serious tribe but you see that the Laveen they don't have a and the corny they don't have possession of the ground of the land they're kind of like scattered they don't own anything this was what Jakob says I have to scatter you around because together you very very dangerous and you put something too concentrated that can cause a big problem of course all comes down to the same question why does yak of calling them murderers he actually calls them you are murdered you murdered this is a pretty harsh statement now what really happened in the story very long story a very long story but to say it in a short way like I told you Deena got captured by shrimp and Shimon levy didn't like it especially that he raped her and they said no they they they they contaminated her sister of course the shrimp says ok no problem don't get upset I will marry her so this says no you can't marry her because you have to be circumcised if you all circumcise yourself then we'll let you marry our our ladies are women so the the entire city now stream was like the governor the mayor and his son the son of this by the way was the son of shrimp mo exactly how it sounds how what was a donkey but it's also not a nice word in Hebrew you want to tell somebody is something not nice you call him a donkey mo another or less so we're not going to translate the word in English but you you understand by yourself Jimmy part of a donkey yeah and the part that everybody has and we use it when we sit and learn so and then on our brain so then what happens so they make everybody circumcise themselves and on the third day when it's considered the harder day the hardest of all the days to heal they go into the city and they just kill everybody they pull out their swords you have to understand Shimon is is a 15 and Larry's 13 two teenagers they go in with their swords and they start killing everybody like samurais you know some some like commentaries they wonder how did they do that to kids against the whole city so what if the men just circumcise themselves so the answer is that both were really trained in martial arts and they're like so like a ninja like a samurai going in and they're then they're able to take a whole city down that's why last week when you Hooda approached Yosef and he told him give me back the young men and no sisters no user says listen if you you have two ways of dealing with it the nice way or the oh my way or the highway either you give me back my brother oh I'm gonna destroy this entire land and he said to Yosef my two little brothers when they were 13 and 15 destroyed the whole city think I have a problem destroying your home country I will destroy entire me time and you would have banged on the floor with his leg like you know like one like that and the whole land was shaking so there's our little two little kids there is a guy new bush a lime and he has a very end martial arts system and he's a linear lineage of there were bodyguards of the the the Kings in Yemen and the whole martial arts is in the shape of letters and the Hebrew letters there so all the the blocks and the hits it's all Hebrew letters it's unbelievable you can find him online and he's teaching it and and it's so special they're all with te aute and they pray before that in framing hi my wheat and the entire martial arts and he's saying yeah our forefathers were trained martial artists for Shimon allow me to go into a city and to kill everybody this is a you know in Hollywood they don't even know how to produce it his name is I think it's called a beer a beer like a night I'll look it up I'll tell you the name exactly but or you can just do Google Jewish martial art you'll see it will come up nevertheless Yaakov calls Shimon and livery murderers why how do you could call your son murderers now Yaakov is really blaming them because when they went into the city and they killed everybody right after that Yaakov was very upset at the time he didn't call the murderers he just told him you brought shame on the family by doing such a thing so Yaakov was upset not about the murder rather he was upset because they they deceived the people in shrimp because they didn't come and say hey guys let's have war they said oh why don't you circumcise yourself and you're all going to be circumcised like us and they will give you our women to marry so you tricked them you lied to them therefore you brought shame on the family Yaakov didn't and they had a probably didn't condemn them at the time about killing rather he condemned them that they tricked them why did you come in a tricky way now what was the answer of the Brothers of Shimon and levy at the time we didn't have an option we came to release Dena we got the inside information that she was kidnapped we went to the house we were knocking on the door give us back our sister no we're not given we didn't have an option and they started attacking us someone had to kill them all that was the one explanation what the tribe what she wanted let me answered when Yaakov told him what are you doing what are you out of your mind it says listen we didn't have an option they didn't let us take dinner and they didn't accept our demand and they were threatening us so we felt threatened then we had to kill them all so this interpretation is not accepted why because she wouldn't every planned it it was a planned thing something they just came and knocked on the door and and one thing went led to the other they actually planned it he was a planner how they gonna do it when they're gonna do it let's make them all circumcised they tricked him it was a little it was a conspiracy that's what Yaakov was very upset about not the fact that they killed that they tricked that now our family will have a reputation we're in shame it we hear truth if something has to be done with just justice they'll be justice but why are you going and tricking the fact that you made the trick it makes us look bad you know I always tell my kids when I when I hate them kids are kids and sometimes they fight my kids and one will give the other one a kick and the other one will give another amount of smack and this will throw something in him it's not only our kids by the way it's all the kids do it so and then one of them comes crying to me but he's girdled so and I always tell them the same thing if one does something to you if you come to me and you tell me he did that to me then he will get in trouble but the fact that you retaliated you you acted based on your own decision I'm not just good I'm not gonna jump in here it's your problem if you wouldn't do anything he will get in trouble the fact that you answered back that I'm sorry to tell you you deal with it yourself and same thing here Jakob said who told you to react like that if they did something wrong we wouldn't deal with it in the right way because after all there was a lack of said we we have a law here and Jakob said you you write that they had to be brought to justice there's no question here we will deal with it in the right way but that because you went and trick them because you went and tricked and you lied then I can't even bring them to justice I can't even sue them because they're gonna counter back at me and say beer but they lied to us now the thing is that Jakov got upset because at the time even though we didn't have the toy ayats but the seven laws of North or applied at the time because the seven rules of North were established before Noah six of them are given before the time of law and the seventh was given to knock so these are the seven laws that apply to all the nations so even at the time there wasn't a Torah but they had the seven laws of law and all the non-jews were also obligated in these laws and one of the laws of Knopf was to establish courthouses and to bring justice this is up until today now they didn't do that they didn't bring a courthouse because that should have been done dealt in a court you kidnapped you know how to do that you raped you know to do that this was all supposed to be dealt in a court and you know taking the matters to your own hands and you start killing people so Jakov got upset not because of the the retaliation the way it was done and Yaakov was proving them because they tricked it trick them they wasn't done the right way now the Rambam explains that technically and not even technically according to al aha the son the SRAM and the son and everybody there they deserved to be killed because they're all under the rule of the Blaine oh and a person that does that steals a human being is has to be put down to death and the Rambam explains her logically she model every were right there wasn't a problem of allaha here because according to other aha they kidnapped and the penalty here is death and they just followed the law Jew or non-jew doesn't matter these seven laws of North are universal laws for everybody so album comes to the protection of Shimon elevenses no they were did according to law thought they were fine their Ambon contradicts and he says no i i i disagree with Rambam and the the reason why they were they had to be killed and specifically forgive them for gaza meaning stealing and and for other sins not for the key for the kidnapping so there is an argument in allaha if she wanna levy did according to the halacha if they're good if they have the backing the support of the torah or not but nevertheless we're still coming back to the same question is in our parish ah forget about right now it doesn't really matter it's a little bit less irrelevant right now if the halacha rules like condemn the act or not there's different explanations in under hundred years they have the they have the aloha backing them up okay that's why we're not going into the halacha part in it i'm just trying to prove the point that Shimon and levy can come and say what do you want from us we acted according to the Torah we're trying to get to the to the answer why Yaakov is calling them murderers that's not a shooting role in my mind when I read it you said your farewell to your kids you're calling their murderers that's what I'm trying to understand so on behalf of Shimon and levy we're trying to understand were there right or not believe it or not the halacha stands with Shree owner Larry that they were they your operated according to Aloha the fact if they took it to their hands or not that's a different thing Yaakov was upsetting them at the time because they did in a tricky way Jakob says no no no we should have established a court find them guilty and then put them to death you went one step forward and you did it in a tricky way that's what was Yakko was upset about in Padua but I'm right now in parashat very I want to know how is that to do right now and why Yaakov is calling the murderers before guys now the explanation here is that in the beginning Yaakov believed them when shimon and left we came back with blood on their hands just imagine the scene two teenagers are coming home mommy they're dinner what's for dinner mommy turns around Oh what happened you fell about now I just murdered her you know a whole city I just thought it was no big deal so just imagine they're both walking in these two teenagers swords full of blood hands full of blood and what happened there no we we just brought Dina back home it was a little bit of an argument there don't worry we squared it out we're not gonna have any problems from there anymore so in the beginning they came and they explained so in the beginning Yaakov believed them so he didn't get out he didn't tell them anything they said yeah that's what happened we weren't there we found out that Dina was captured we demanded that they release her they did not listen we were banging on the door started a confrontation they attacked us we kill them okay Jakob says okay sounds fair to me let's have dinner so and so the beginning Yaakov believed them and and he let it go fifty years pass and now it happens again now don't forget one thing here 17 years Yaakov lives in Egypt 22 years Joseph is disappeared that in itself is already 39 years 39 years Yaakov doesn't know what happened the whole 22 years that Joseph was in my tribe Yaakov thought that Yosef was eaten by an animal they entire 17 years while he was in mid time I told you already the mcgraw she explains that Yosef did anything in his power to not be found by himself with Yaakov Soha special on the outcome should not ask yourself tell me what happened that night that you disappeared Yosef didn't want to say you know they actually threw me into a pit and then they sold me he didn't want to bad-mouth them so Yosef evaded Yakko for 17 years every time that there's always going to be people around the house version of Yaakov should not come and tell him son come and tell me I missed you for 22 years what happened now finally it comes up to the surface the whole story comes up right before the death Oh so Yaakov says oh I see now that what you did 50 years ago that I thought that it's like a one-time thing and you were just doing what you're supposed to do it repeated itself thirty-nine years ago you threw yourself into the pit you were looking to kill him so this is already a habit this is not a one-time thing it was Shimon that pushed yourself into the pit with the advice levy was standing next to him they wanted to kill him you who the chemist says no no no let's not have blood on our hands leave him alone Uther came to the rescue Shimon and levy wanted to kill him so Leah come says oh it's in your blood oh boy oh boy yeah it wasn't a mistake with shrim it actually material you're looking to kill now it's a whole different thing see it's a character you have a new desire to kill now if it happened once I'll let it go it happens twice sorry to tell you you have a problem you have to go to ka killers Anonymous you have a problem you like killing this is a story it's a story about a strength Hassid that his name was healing healing from Pavich he when he was born he was already noticed to be a genius mama genius he was a young individual he knew the entire shots of my heart i much like a very very high level individual and at the time was the period that the the mono that said the kiemce of the generation one of the real dominating tsadikim of the generation was the Paula Tanya and this healing from public wanted to meet him because he was a genius he was a teenager he wasn't no I wasn't an old man and he wanted to meet the man Italian he said this is a genius I'm a genius I want to pick his brain I want to ask him all my questions I mean he wanted to meet something like that so he started travelling around him and not around he was trying to travel to find him and every time he would reach to a certain town there was nothing today you have internet chief Chuck whatsapp's everything there was rumors oh he's right now in that city he would drive to that city at a week journey Mae was already gone where is he going now oh we heard he's going to that city he will drive there and every time he would come he would miss him then he got some inside information and he found out what is this the next stop so he says this time I'm gonna go fast and sure enough he came there a few days before the visit before the visit he says this time I'm not missing him so he found out where exactly he's going to be sleeping and moments before he came the ballot Anya he snuck into the room and he hid under the bed and he's like the second that he walks in I'm gonna jump out and that way I don't miss him so he's lying under the bed and he hears already the carriage is coming the horse is the commotion and he's like okay I'm about to meet him this is very exciting and then he sees stunned and he's like wait a minute what am I gonna ask this is gonna be like a a moment and I have a moment to throw a question what am I gonna say it's a you know I'm meeting him so he says oh I have a question in in in allaha in a tractate that is called alkene alkene is the the value there is a tractate that is talking about how can you value a person a human being because they were slaves they unfortunately doesn't sound so nice but the value of a woman the value of a man there's different values each person you know even today that's today they value individual this person is worth a million dollars this person is worth four million dollars they have a list of the richest people in the world what are their worth of course this is coming from a side of an ego but this tractate is dealing with the value of a person now how can you really value a human being so he said you know what I'm gonna ask him that I'm gonna ask him something that has to do with this tractor and the ballot on he walks into the room he's the person is about healing is about to jump out of the bed and the balcony's says out loud when a young individual has a question in the tractate of Elkin first he has to value himself he faints he says wow this is true ha kodesh he had to walk others he knew amount of the bed he knew him young and he knew my question and he fainted and of course by the time you woke up they took him out of the bed he woke up and of course the mala Tommy already left and he never met him he understood that he cannot meet him he became one of his hasidim and he never ever met him later on he became a constant of his childhood of his son and later on the same aesthetic but he loved a bar which is a very big name in the Hasidic world never met his revery the ballot Anya now the court the the the point to take from that because What did he say he says that when you have a question in what's the value of a person first value yourself start valuing yourself now valuing is not really the the right term in English in Hebrew you would say loudly that's maja but with a nine let's see what's my value right now where am i holding I need to bring myself sometimes to the place that I have to see where am i holding right now am i doing exactly what I'm supposed to do and I'm where what's the level that I'm holding right now and in a situation even what's do it when I was out doing the right thing here and in a in a certain act that I do I have to look at myself and be very judgmental or myself and say was I right or not am i doing good or not it's very easy to say yeah I'm doing great oh maybe not maybe I have some place for improvement when somebody will come and tell me what I'm doing something bad right away my ego will be like whoa you're not doing so great yourself so he's very hard to get a rebuke from somebody or to get somebody's opinion you didn't this you did that our ecosystem right away will kick in and whoa why are you attacking me but really what we want to take from that is that I have to constantly I have to evaluate myself comes a situation I have to look at myself say was I right here when I was saying this and that did I act the right way maybe I owe that person an apology maybe I'm not acting right and now of course I'm talking about the The Situation's become negative nothing that you become positive obviously if it's positive that the outcome is positive there's no argument here talking right now there's a negative outcome I have to look at myself and say am i acting the right way am i acting according to the opinion of the TOA was i right here maybe I'm the wrong one maybe I have to be the one who steps forward and says I'm sorry I was wrong I didn't do something right now the problem is that in most cases we are very harsh especially on the other side on myself I'm not harsh sometimes yes some people they have that character that they're very harsh on themselves but when it comes to the other side I'm very harsh on the other side no place for leniency the thing is that I have to constantly evaluate myself in every situation I have to look at myself and analyze it and I have to let's say for example ice cream right now I come home and my child does something oh my wife this is a common thing and you scream well you don't have wife's bow Hashem at least I hope but there I have to be very diplomatic here we have a lot of viewers that are men so they have wives I hope so or wish but nevertheless you know a situation that's this is a common thing a person will come and something will trigger them and they'll scream so screaming at another person where did this scream come from then the scream came from my ego from me or from concern now I can now get upset at child and I'll raise my voice or punish all do a certain act I have to ride away evaluate where is this coming from is it coming because I'm concerned and I want to educate the child that will be positive or if it's coming because of my ego because my ego was hurt and I to constantly look at any situation how is where is the reaction coming from that's the the this evaluation of myself but I value myself I have to see if the problem is in me or in somewhere else and the way to do it is to really absorb observe in the reaction and then I can say where this is reaction coming from now if I can pinpoint it that it's coming from concern good then sometimes you need a harsh reaction sometimes you need it you want to educate your child you want to make sure that that that something is not right away sometimes it requires the harsh harsh action but if it's coming for something good it's coming to help it's coming to coming from concern if it's coming from my ego and I really observe myself I evaluate myself then what am I kidding why you go I got upset and I know it's coming from the wrong place that's what it means when I have to really really evaluate myself and I need to know my reactions where they're coming from and it can come from both directions you know when we pray the the the prey of shmouna is that village monitor there the standing prayer in the chocolate milk final weight we start by saying akela God Allah give of innova the great and huge and Almighty God all vanora this can be interpreted as Rena Rena the Shem is very powerful and canny or even he wants to punish he knows how to punish he finish to destroy the world he'll put the world on the water this is a killer good ol great Aggie bolívar Noah no how can be you know something very much but right in the same sentence what do we say go man has said right away the Clemenza stood him to him akela Ghidorah give over Noah caramel custard into me on one hand is always a almighty and if he needs to put his foot down a sham already proved that he knows how to put the foot down now to take care of business but the sentence ends by we go Melchizedek dove him he does a lot of kindness and everything that he does is with kindness and good so we see that even a Shem knows when to be firm and when to be not firm when to be kind so I have to in every situation that I do in every situation that I am every action that I do I have to make an evaluation where is it coming from is it coming from anger it's coming from ego it's coming from from proving the point it's coming from concern or that I want to educate and better the situation the album says about a shame that he doesn't have a nature so to say doesn't have a nature or a character and solo album says about a shame but Hashem knows how to the the word in Hebrew that he uses boin boin is like to judge a ship doesn't have a character like what is a Yaakov telling Shimon in levy you have a character you have a bad character you like spilling blood this we cannot say on a sham Michelle doesn't have a character or habits Hashem observes the situation he analyzed the situation he judges is the right way and decide if the the reaction will be harsh or not and that's what I want to take hold on with the questions we feels I'm gonna finish in a second this is what Yaakov is telling Shimon and Levy this is exactly what they were telling them the the killing it came from you it didn't don't pretend that came from the challah ha that you said no they they're they're obligated in the laws of no of they didn't establish a core they stole their sir no it's not that you're not fighting here fall aha you're not such a don't pretend that you're going based on the hollow ha you it came from you that's why I'm angry at you because if you really cared about the Torah you would do with the Torah says and not by what the Aloha but what would you want to say exactly what we were talking about before we talked about before how sometimes in situations a certain individual will act in a certain way what we talked about before and when I was going out what you were telling me sometimes people they behave in a certain way and it's only coming from their ego not coming from anywhere else it's only their ego but they're leaning on the hala ha no no we're doing it's the it's the opinion of the Torah here I'm fighting for the Torah no you're not it's coming from your ego and that's what she wanted maybe we were saying no no no no father we know the Torah we're fighting for that in the name of the Torah we're following the ha ha here they deserve to die and Nico's saying who are you kidding you know doing anything it's your ego it's coming only from your pride because you have a problem so the meat that you have a problem and don't pretend that it's allaha that you're so pious just admit you have a problem you're like seeing blood being shed so it's many other situations that we see in front of our eyes there's nothing to do with our AHA there's nothing to do the Torah this is the fakeness and people say no I'm leaning on the Torah many people in many situations when they start an argument or a fight and will people tell them why are you causing a fight I'm fighting in the name of the Torah I have to bring justice in the name of the Torah this is a lahar the other individual is doing it something against the kebab unfortunately we don't have a Yaakov to say who are you kidding it's your ego it's your arrogance you know don't talk that you don't say that you're doing it in the name of the Torah and this is exactly what Yaakov was telling them in the big I believed you when you said we did it in the name of the Torah but now that I found out that you did the same thing to yourself sorry to tell your family this is a pattern you have a problem and you better take care of it I will give you a blessing but I'm also gonna tell you where's your weakness and we need to know how to evaluate ourselves and to know if it's coming from the truth or not and if it's not then I have a problem and I have to admit and I have to apply and I have to change it and I have to refine my character trait that is negative there's nothing wrong with that we're all created and not perfect by the way if I think for whatever reason I'm perfect and everybody else is at fault that is in itself an imperfection there's nothing that is created perfect you know the top the the the urbanism and the SLO for every no connotes that he has a book that it says be okay there are barely as though he explains there that when Hashem created the world he created the world in four corners north south east and west but the northern part that his northern corner he didn't finish the world is not finished it's like a puzzle that you have a thousand-piece puzzle you have 99 pieces there one pieces in the corner is not finished it's not a complete job a sham didn't finish the world why so if somebody will come and say I'm a god then God will to him okay so let's see you finishing the world because many people came in the history they said I'm a god you know tonight they have the world is commemorating somebody in thought he's a God so Hashem is the answer over sermons oh yeah you are a God so finish the world finish migration so same thing here some people think that they're the peak of perfection Shem says no we're all created with some things that are not perfect so you can fix it so you can correct it so yeah call God upset at them because not because of the action because where the reaction came from the reaction is one thing Yaakov cared about where it came from and he told him I'm leaving you right now I want to give you a yoohoo Shai inheritance so I'm telling you your fault don't let your ego affect you and be offended I'm not offending you I'm telling you what to work on this is what we want to take from this Parishad that we're not perfect we're far from perfect and we have problems that if somebody comes and tells me listen you have this issue don't jump right away out of your body and attack okay I have an issue everybody has issue I have an issue with this you have an issue with that and I need to refine myself and I have to constantly put myself under the magnifying glass to see where are my reactions coming from and have to be very humble and have to be only searching for the truth to know that I it's for my own benefit it's like a person that is addicted to drugs or alcohol and people coming and telling him you are addicted no I'm not yes you are deal with it take care of it we're not trying to attack you we're trying to help you and the ones who want to help themselves then they were able to do it because they realized that I have a problem now I'm giving an example just with drugs and alcohol but we all have all these little problems you know addictions little issues that I need to acknowledge them and it's not about putting myself down it's not about that I'm losing status I have to see where it's coming from so I know how to fix it that's it and when I'm able to reach to that level why did Jakov did not tell them the time when Michelle is coming there's many explanations one of the reasons because he didn't want them to feel that they reached perfection no you still in exile you still have to work on yourself and this is what you have to work on this is what I want to take from this PowerShell that I have to really constantly put myself under a magnifying glass any reaction that comes out of my mouth every word every action I have to take a short break and say okay where did this come from the screaming the rebuking there there whatever it is my reaction did it come from my ego for my place where I got hurt or it came with a good intention to actually help and coming from concern I'm able to refine myself in that such a way I will reach to my own level of redemption if each and every one of us will just apply that just a little bit just imagine how better the world would look how much more how much more peace would be and how much less arguments we would have if people will take once a day the time to look and say you know what Who am I kidding my ego got hurt I got offended I got stepped on I'm jealous I feel like I'm a failure or a loser so I have to throw my my frustration on somebody else if each and every one of us does this own way of thinking then the only one who will benefit from it the most is only on because your life will be much more smoother less confrontations less arguments much more happier and needless to say how that will make the work of the world there's so much of a better price that will convince the calash baho okay we can stand each other a little bit send us mushiya please [Music]