Parashat Vayakhel - Who's more important? - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] and this parasa is the most appropriate parasa for women it's the most feminist para of the Torah talking about the women and the greatness of the women and we're going to talk about it but you know there's a very big question why women are exempt from a group of mitv and these mitv are mitv that are time bound and of course the source from the T that says that any Mitzvah a positive Mitzvah that is time bound then a woman is exempt from that which of course many women come and say you know that's a discrimination what we're we're the men are better and we're not allowed to do that what kind of a what kind of a system is that and you see now a group of women in the cotel they come and say no we want equal rights we want to put Fillin on we want to put CIS on we want to blow the chaar we want to do all this Mitzvah this is discrimination unfortunately this group of women they're not doing it for the sake of doing the Mitzvah they're doing it for the sake of making propaganda and making a a problem they don't really care about the Mitzvah uh that's the problem because I can guarantee to you that if you follow these women home you're not going to find a kosher home and you're not going to find them keeping Shabbat you're not going to find them doing anything the Torah says and I can guarantee to you that the filling that they put on their head are empty there's nothing there it's just a propaganda it's not maybe one or two of them really want to do the Mitzvah I mean I can't know the what's going on in the heart of each and every one of them but the the the core of it whoever is pushing for it and and organizing it it's not for the sake of a Mitzvah it's for the sake of causing a problem so but there's many other groups the question is not we're not going to Target now groups that are doing things against the Mitzvah against the Tor the point is that there's a question why why some mitv the women are exempt from and one might look at it and say this is discrimination what the woman is less important that she can't put fing on it's very important for to know they're not obligated women are not obligated in doing these mitv but they can still do it so this is according to if if the if the says that a woman is not obligated in putting Fillin on because it's a Time bound mitva she's not prohibited she just doesn't have to do it so we know in history there were sever women that used to put F in on rashi's daughters used to put F in on mik David's wife used to put F in on so but we see that these are women that they were not simple women they were big sadik they obviously saw the reason for that it's important to know that the mitv the positive mitzvot the women are exempt because they're tound they're they're not obligated but they can still do it but that's not the question the question is that we want to talk about is why why the Torah takes a group of mitv and says to the women you don't really have to do it so women are very very special not for nothing we opened this Center for Women can learn and be educated and many times I expressed my opinion that women are much more important in a and women have much greater virtues than men and and really it's all depending on the women with AIT of righteous women we left Egypt and with the Merit of righteous women we're going to go out of this redemp out of this Exile so the women are more important just have we have to see in the Torah where the Torah points it out so I heard a funny story that there was a a rabbi in Israel who wanted to make a big Torah Institute and you know you want to make a big Yeshiva a big Torah Institute you need a lot of money and where do you get money you go to United States there's no money here so he goes to the United States starts knocking on doors starts walking from one house to the other with his plans I want to make a Yeshiva I want to make a learning center and it wasn't as successful as he wanted this guy gave him $100 this guy gave him $50 this guy gave him $180 I mean it's very nice but that's not how you build a Yeshiva so as he was going day after day after day and trying to gather the money he was like okay I'm here already for over a week and I have bobas I'm here maybe to pay just the lawyer so they told listen there's a woman in Manhattan she's very very wealthy uh she's not into donating into Torah related things but you know she loves Israel go and try what are you going to lose he makes an appointment he goes to her and he tells her I want to make a Yeshiva Learning Center to learn Torah and he gives her the whole Spiel and she tells him listen I'll give you the money how much do you need he tells her the cost the price she says I'll give you the money but I have one condition he says okay what's the condition so she says I want that in your Yesa in your Learning Center you're going to teach Torah and they're going to learn Torah but I want them to learn Torah without yamakas and without beards so he says okay you have a deal he takes the money needs to say this is seven digits and he comes back and he opens his Yesa a year later he gets a phone call hi it's Mrs so and so how are you she's like listen I want to come to Israel and I want to see where my money went he's like of course vakas come when are you coming we'll prepare a room for you and she comes she sees a beautiful building she walks in and what does she find a woman's no y no beards so the Torah is looking at women in a very in a holding women very very positive and very high as opposed to what most people think people think and I again can be mainly you find it in a more secular H groups that they say ah the Torah is neglecting the women and the women are always in the back and the women are not so important and and there's a lot of a lot of argues against the Torah that the the women are second class citizens in the in the in Judaism and they're not allowed to do things and they have to be and they're neglected in so many things the reality is that it's the total opposite and in this week's par this week's par is and we see that the women are are not only that they are empowered in this parasa they are held in a much higher level and which is the opposite of what most people think now this this group of that we have now are are something to to pay attention because for five par all we talking about is the mishan this is another big question why the length so much information I mean when the world was created all it took is a a piece a small piece of the parasa to talk about the creation of the world you would think that the creation of the world will take three four five parot why it's taking a couple chapters when we got the Tor barely even half a par here it's talking about the mishkan and it's already five par that we only talking about the mishan now not only that it's just talking about the mishkan it repeats itself in the first is just talking what needs to be done in these now and and it's talking what they actually did so why is the repetition I understand hasem says build a mishkan okay build a mishan well you have to to repeat and tell me what they actually did so when the Torah repeats a lot of information and and puts a lot of emphasis that's already a sign that there's something there that we need to take to consideration something that we need to to focus on so first of all we want to understand why the Torah the parasha is repeating everything that has to do with the mishan and more than that why it's emphasizing that the important part was done by the women because if you see that if you're looking at theim you see that most of it it's say it's talking it's referring to the male so it says is it's talking about a male all the time it's not talking about females now since we were focusing on the fact that the women are exempt from a group of mitv it's important to to to explain that they're exempt from the positive mitv anything that is a negative a Prohibition then the women are not exempt from that and that goes to labor on Shabbat and many other things anything that is a positive Mitzvah and that it's time bound that's when the women are exempt so first of all that's important to know but of course we can ask a question why the positive mitv and not the negative mitv why if they're already exempt from the positive why don't don't exempt them from the negative why why what's the Discrimination between the positive and the negative and again we have another question that we can ask what's the connection between the time and the woman because whatever is time bound then the woman is exempt so there must be a connection between time and a woman now we mentioned that the last five par all we're talking about is the mishar how to build it when to build it with what materials to build it who builds it every little detail about the mishan which again raises the question why do we have to repeat this whole thing so many times not only that the Torah is taking five par out of the entire Torah to talk about the building of the mishkan and who and why and how and all the details so when the Torah comes in Tor comes in and and and puts too much details about something there something that we have to learn from that and I can tell you that one thing that the Torah is emphasizing here is that everything that has to do with the mishkan including the donation to The mishkan it's just talking in a male tense that the men had to give the donation that the men had to build everything that the men like as if the women didn't have to do anything about it the reality is that the women donated much more and they did much more but the Tor is focusing on what the men had to do there's an argument why the Man was created first and not the woman so of course when you ask the men why why the Man was created first so the men will tell you listen because if the woman would be there she would give too many advice and we didn't want the advice of the woman soem says okay let's just do the man first of course the women come with a much smarter answer and saying first Hashem had to create the sketch then he created the original the the the real product so first he created man the the demo the you know in Hebrew it says and then he created the original the the real product the woman One Man was created man like we understand man she was already there okay what I'm saying now is a joke it's not a I understand but she was already there 100% so how can we say that man was created first when they were created together and there was only if you're looking at the literal level it says if you're going by the literal level first Adam was created then we're not talking about the the mystical part of what the Torah teaches us what I said now is a joke it's not not excuse me it doesn't say that that it was that's what I'm saying this is a joke when you turn to the men and ask them why Man was created first and the men are superficial and we'll tell you because we didn't need another another opinion and we we didn't need the feminine opinion the women says no first hasem was testing it out in Hebrew is like the the draft then you do the real cop the real product so women say yeah first hasem was playing say doing the tra the draft see he saw that it worked now he did the original the the the the main part so again we're not talking now about we're just trying to to to paint the the the picture a little bit different because a lot of people their opinion is that their women are much less important because the Tora is constantly repeating everything in a male tense especially now when we're focusing on these par when it's talking about the donations it's talking about that the men had to give donations when it's talking about building it's talking about what the men did but it's not saying about what the women did and there's a reason for that why the women are not are not in the in the spotlight so to say so first of all we have to again understand that the Torah is talking about building the mishkan in so many details and so much length and we want to understand why and why all these details and why repeating everything so wider length into it so we find something in the Torah there was a a Tana there was a certain sage and he was at the time of RAB AKA and his was name was rabish Shimon and he came and said why do we have the word in the Torah all the time isn't it obvious that that that for example when there's theah isn't it just enough to say why all the time we have and we find in many times in the Tor that there's the word or it should just say why so he came and he came with a theory and he said you know what every time that the Torah says the word then it's it's basically coming to teach us in Hebrew it says so if it says so it means means and to add another person that I had to honor and he he explained it is that I have to honor also the firstborn so in Hebrew he says the word lot means and to add another thing so he was able to to explain that every time the Tor says is to means it have to add another person or add another thing to it and then he got to one p that he was he came to a problem and the P says so he explained that every time we have the word v it means that I have to add another person to it so who do I need to fear it says and your and hasem a God the God you should fear so who is there another entity that I have to fear so he says okay my theory is not working so well and cancel my theory don't accept my theory so came R AKA and says no you're actually right because when it says God your God you should fear when you adding the word it's talking about the that they come to teach the Torah so I have to fear the Torah says I have to fear the kadh and when it says the word I have to add another who else do I have to fear the the RIS that come to teach me the Torah so I have to accept and to fear not to fear to be afraid to respect and to honor the that they come to give over the Torah and to teach me all the rules because a lot of people come and say they have the tendency of saying you know oh that is from the rabbis it's not it's not from the Torah it's it's it's an invention and that's where a lot of people come to destroy the Torah and say no the Torah says very clearly this but the when the rabbi said oh no that's from the rabbis I don't accept what the rabbis say so this you can find it in traed that's where it's talking about it's talking about that that I mean this T Shimon was saying that every time you find the where do you find it because in this par why is it connected to this if you open this every second sentence is you'll find there dozens of time the word constantly it says meaning that it's that we have to understand that what it says in the Torah is the Torah comes and tells me things in in in the short version doesn't come and tell me too many things into length and into details the and it's not exactly and because I'll give you an example when it's talking about and the the the covers of the mishkan or when it says your father and your mother so you can't really translate it as and but in some sentences it will go and the word and but again it's not exactly the translation and if here you have two ways of reading it and and so that's where the Hebrew language is a little bit excuse me it means and and and more and and more so and will be in most cases and honor your father and your mother so if you open this week's par you will see that the the word you will find it a lot of times CU it's constantly talking about something that they had to BU able to do and to add on it more what I want to learn from that is the Torah comes and tells me things in very in short in shortcuts in in very short verses it doesn't go into details too much and we see it in many things we spoke about it a couple weeks ago abin that we we learned that the Mitzvah ofin is the ultimate Mitzvah that proves that the oral Torah is part of the Torah because it doesn't even say the word feeling in the Torah it just says a sign it says to uh uh something that is uh double so we learned from that that the wordin besides that it's not found in the Torah that this is the ultimate Mitzvah from the oral Tor because we don't we can't find any information in the Torah about F not how it looks not the color not the shape not how to make it anything everything is explained in the oral Torah so the Torah comes and tells me just short versions doesn't it doesn't tells me excuse me can I ask now or bet better if you can keep it this for later we'll give some time for questions so the Tor comes and tells me things in in in in short senses not not going into details but here we find that the toorah goes in length in regards to the building of the mishkan now why do we see that why do we see that the Torah repeat repat something over and over when it finds favor in it when the Torah finds favor into a certain act then it will repeat it once or twice that's why we see that the Ten Commandments was repeated twice here when it comes to building the mishkan it's repeated even more than twice but how do we see it in this Paras that first it says how to do it then it repeats and says how it was done but the Torah comes and repeats something and goes into length into something when it finds favor into a certain thing where do we see it the first time in the Torah when elzar went to get RKA so elzar made a deal with the he goes to find a sh for and he says how am I going to find this little girl now I'm going into this new town I don't know anybody there and how am I going to find a little girl so he tells the Kosh if you'll make this little girl appear to me in a miraculous way then he does his conditions and sure enough when he comes right away he finds RKA and then we see in the Torah that right after he repeats the exact same story to Lavan and he tells him don't ask what happened to me and he repeats the exact the whole scene again word by word the Tora could come and say don't ask what happened to me a miracle why does the Tora in length to repeat the exact same same story so when the Torah goes in length to repeat something it goes to show you that it's it's finds favor in the kosh's eyes and again we saw another example when we got the Tor and every time you'll see repetitions you know that the Kosh finds favor in it so to give you one example out of many and in most of the cases when it's talking about a Prohibition then it doesn't repeat it too of to too often so for example don't steal don't murder it doesn't repeat it too many times the Mitzvah of Shabbat it repeats 13 times in the Torah about the Mitzvah of Shabbat to show you again how how much it has favor in the eyes of the Kos we can learn something that is off the subject but we can learn from that that the Torah repeats 30 36 times about loving the convert so just shows just chose to show to you the the favor that Hashem finds in the converts that he goes the T goes out of its way for 36 times to to repeat to us to so we should understand that we should love and respect and accept the converts so excuse me 36 36 times the 13 times so and in other cases for example not to murder it's only talking about three times so if the Torah is repeating something it only to comes to show us that hem has favor in it or the Torah finds favor in what it's repeating so now we see five building the mishan the repetition constantly about building the mishan building the mishan he didn't repeat so many times about the get getting the Torah or getting the Ten Commandments or creating the world so when we see something repeats itself we know that there's something hidden in it that has a big favor in the eyes of the kadh now why is when it's talking about the mishkan it's only talking about in in the in the M it's talking about what the men need to do and what the men had to do and how they contributed the reality is that the women contributed much more in contributions and most of their labor that was done for the mishan was done done by women not by men because it had to be done in a very particular way in a very artistic way in a very precise way the Torah doesn't go into length to say that but it's actually that was the reality one way where we see it is that when the men had to give the donations to the mishkan it wasn't such a big deal because we see that the men whenever they were requested to give something they just gave when it was time to give money for the golden calf they just gave they didn't ask questions they right away it was the women that says no golden calf no we're not participating so same thing with the mishan it was just announced okay we need money so they man okay we need money here take money for the mishkan the women actually came and gave and they gave much more than the men the difference that we see here is that when the women gave it was much more unique because they gave without being asked and they without being commanded when the men were commanded to do something they just gave it they were commanded so to say to give money for the golden calf they didn't ask too many questions they just gave the with the mishkan it says that all the man had to give everybody had to give the men said okay how much they wrote a check here give the men are much more superficial the women were like no no we're not just giving to whatever you ask me to give the reason why the women are not a announced so to say and what they did is to show you that they gave from their heart they didn't give because they were commanded and they gave because that's what they wanted to do and that's the difference between the men and the women and that comes and ties to us with the whole point of the mitv a mitvah is a commandment and the reason why a woman is not commanded to do many of the mitv because hasem says she doesn't need to be commanded she does it anyways a woman is operating in a much higher level that I don't need to command her it's almost like now taking an example with that with kids some kids I need to tell them clean the room and I still have to tell it one another time and another time it has to come with threats it has to come with conditions there's always this kid that I don't have to say anything I don't have to say he will just clean the room I don't have to tell him anything he will do his homework so the ones that's that will probably have a problem to do it they need to be commanded commanded to do that the ones that don't need they will do it anyways I don't need to command them to do that so you know there's a concept that is I mentioned it a couple times especially when we learned about kanuka and puim that in the future when mashiah is going to come very soon then the Mitzvah are going to be canceled we're not going to have Mitzvah anymore so of course there's a lot of raises a lot of argument where do you see it where who said that the Mitzvah are Eternal anyways this is all mentioned in the it's not that I'm inventing anything but we know that the Commandments will be cancelled so there's many ways to to look at it but one of the the ways to look at it is that we're still going to do the mitv but they're not going to be commanding they're not going to be Commandments we're just going to do it because we want to do it now why do I put F in because hasem commanded me to put F in why do I do something if you would now come and tell me you know what this year we're taking a break today is a not only that we don't have to work the land you know what I'm giving you a break no filling no ties no praying you're don't have to do anything this year I can guarantee to you that the synagogues are going to be empty if I don't have to put vill in why should I do why should I bother do it I I I I got a discount right now a very small group of people will say no I still want to do it so the difference when the tal says the future we're still going to do the ACT but we're going to do it because we want to do it not because I'm commanded to do it here we see that men they work in a very superficial level I do because I was told to do that and I do it with accepting the Yoke I don't do it cuz I want to do that and women are complete opposite the reason why women are not commanded to do a bunch of stuff because hasem says they'll do it anyways and they're going to do it 10 times better than the men why cuz there not even commandment to do that one of the many reasons why the Torah gives the woman a discount whatever is time bound because the Tor says it's more important for the woman to raise her kids and if I'm going to start telling the woman to put fing and and put tis and pray three times a day and do all these mitv that men have to do she wouldn't be able to to to run the home and the the uing of the children and running the home the right way is much more important from her to do the Mitzvah she whenever she wants to do it she will do it by herself and the Tora finds much more importance in running the home the right way and raising the key the right way that's where you find the connection in the mishan because our home is the mishan and the repetition on the mishan so many times is because that's where finds favor why because that's when the Jews actually changed before that they were just complaining if you're looking at the history of the Jews in the Torah it's only complaining give us water give us food give us meat take us out of Egypt do this to us constantly the Jews are coming with requests and and of course Hashem doesn't say to them what are you giving in return you want look at now at the history when we we're reading now that they're going in the Journeys in the desert all they're doing is complaining we don't have water we want meat we want this they're in slavery get us out of slavery constantly they're complaining and demanding this was the first time that the that they went out of their way and they changed in the building of the mishkan they already failed in the Sin they they already understood that they did go went against the Kosh this was the first time that they came and said okay now we want to correct it now we want to change here so says oh now I see a big change in their attitude and and that's where hasem finds favor in the building of the mishan but where do we compare the building of the mishan in our days because we don't have the mishan anymore the mishan was something temporary it was only in the desert and only when they walked into Israel till they built the bet mikdash they had the mishan mishan is a temporary Tabernacle then they bu buil a m mikdash that was the opposite of temporary how did you say that temp permanent mikdash so where do we find the building the mishan in our days is building my home my home is my mishan my home is my mishkan I mean if you want to look at it in a more personal way everything that I do is my mishkan my mind is a mishkan my thoughts my speech my business when comes and says you should build for me a sanctuary and I will dwell in you it's not me just building a beautiful bet mikdash sh says make your home a a mishan that I'll feel comfortable to come in it that is there's not going to be anything impure in there there's not going to be something not Kosher in there so my mind has to be a a mishkan my my thoughts my action everything that I do has to be a mishkan a mishan in Hebrew is is a place where something something that can dwell in it that's why the is called because it's dwells into this in this world that's why it's not called in a different way it's called from the word from the so Mish is when something is able to be dwelling in it so says you want me to be in your mind then make your mind the mishkan get all the junk out of your mind I can't dwell into your in your mind when all day long all you thinking about is gossiping and L and and cheating and all sorts of impure thoughts you want me to dwell in your home then I I can't dwell in your home and your home is impure and and and everywhere hasem says I need to you want me to to dwell into in in your mishkan make it holy so how is that related to our day because our house is our mishkan and the the it seems it's not always works like that but it seems that in most cases the husband is the one who goes out and works and he's busy getting parasa in most of the cases and whether learning or doing whatever he needs to do and the woman is the one who's building the mishan that's why hasm says a I want you to have free time I want you to have free time so you'll be able to to have everything exactly how it should be but if you want to look at it in a much deeper way hasem says I don't need to command you a man I need to stand with a stick over his head and say go and pray now go and do that if not if like I told you if we would get now a discount the synagogues would be empty yes shuis would be empty a very small amount of men would voluntarily go to pray or learn or do any type of Mitzvah if they if we would have a year off then I would have to build a Suka I would hire somebody to build a Suka I would hire somebody to do everything for me but I'm commanded to do it it's okay so I do it and not Toom not saying about people but a very small fraction of men would volunteer will want to go and pray or do all these mitv with women is the complete opposite you see that a woman she doesn't she's not obligated you know a woman is not obligated in some cases to do certain mitv and you see for example a woman you know a man has to be in the synagogue he has to hear the a woman will show up with the 10 kids and the strollers and everything and after you know getting everybody out of bed a man just wakes up in the morning and goes to the sh and you see the women who makes all this effort to come to go out of their way so says I don't need to command you because I know you're going to do it anyways and when I don't command you and you do it anyway ways then it's done in a much higher level and that's why the repetition so much in the par because AEM finds favor in it hasem says I don't need to give you credit and that's why women in many places in the T they don't get the credit that they they deserve because he says you don't need credit you know when somebody gets credit then their ego gets pumped up too much better not to give credit better to be humble says about a woman anyways that the the real credit the real is is inside it's hidden it's it's it's modest so the parha comes and tells us you know what the real contributions they came from the women because they weren't commandment to give it they went out of the way they gave it says that they gave their personal mirrors and they they their their their personal things they gave the men gave because they were commanded how much you need me to give half a shekel here they didn't didn't go out of their way to do anything the women were not commanded and they were still doing that and that's where the par pulls out the importance and and to emphasize how a woman doesn't even need to be commanded what you want to take from that is to understand that wait a minute I'm not commandment or I'm exempt from doing certain things not because I'm in a lower level because hasem says I don't I don't need to tell you what to do I have six kids some of them I don't need to tell them what to do one of them I don't need to tell him to do homework or clean his room he just does it I never have to come and tell him fix your room fix your bed fix here he just does it the other ones is a bribes and bargaining and if you do this I'll give you that and if you don't do this and and it's more it's more annoying to a parent to sit on somebody on the kid's head and says do that same here says I don't need to to to command you to do something you're going to do it anyways and when you do anyways then then it's done in a much much better way so what do I want to take from that is that a you have to understand that the role of the woman is much more important and powerful than the men now I know now I'm talking for for ladies but online we have thousands of men that are looking now they'll going to looking now at this video and be like who I'm unsubscribing now you're talking now only about the women the point is not Toom look at it in a wrong way for a man for a man the lesson here is to understand the importance and the role of the woman and to respect his wife in a way to understand hey I'm in a much lower level that I have to be now commanded to do something my wife doesn't even have to be commanded to do that she does it by herself and she does have the exemption so to say doesn't mean she can't do it but there's no pressure so to saym says first take care of what you need to do it's much more important that your house and and your household is going to be holy and everything is going to be done the right way and the the educating of the kids is much more important because they're the one who's going to take over and going to continue I heard not too long ago an amazing story that many years ago there was a Russian family and that was in the time in Russia that H you couldn't become you couldn't be a je he couldn't do anything everything had to be hidden so I don't know all the details but in one family the husband somehow got out and he had to go in order he had to get parasa he somehow got out of Russia and what happened was that the wife stayed there with three boys and after the time went by she started seeing that the boys are drifting away from U religion because there's no uh role model there's no husband to take and teach them and everything was was drifting away so one day she goes and she sees on the street a certain individual that had the the face of Aid I mean his beard was tucked in and he was trying to camouflage himself but she saw right away this is a this is Aid so she came and told him and tell him listen uh she got into a conversation with him and he told her he's from some from a certain City from Samaran and she told him I have to I want you I have a big request from you I want you to take my oldest son he's 14 years old he doesn't have a father I want you to take him to the to to I'm sure you have a a hidden Yeshiva there 100% And he says yes you're right we do have a hidden Yeshiva she was like please take my boy he's 14 years old he needs to learn T he needs to get into it he's like okay fine so he took him and a year later she runs into this person again on the street and she tells him listen I have another son he's a little bit younger he's also drifting away he's not getting of I want you to take him to your secret Yesa so he says listen I can't take him I'm going to go on the train with him I don't have papers for him they're going to think he's my son they're going to ask me for a passport I'm going to get in trouble I can get arrested for that and if if I can't show any documents they'll think I kidnapped him he's like I'm sorry I can't do that so she was like okay she ignored his uh his request and she told the son listen we're going to stand in the train station and the second that we hear the first blow the whistle of the train I'm pushing you on the train the doors are going to close now he's going to be stuck with you he's not going to throw you out of the window okay sure enough that's what she what she did and she throws the sun on the train and he's stuck with him now and hasem made a miracle whatever that they were were able to go through the border and he took him to the the secret Yeshiva a year passed again she the guy is there and she sees him again she just looks at him and from far away he's like no no I know you have another son she's like listen you have to take my son he's 5 years old he needs to learn Torah he's like I can't take a 5-year-old this is not already a problem of taking him through the Border who's going to take care of him it's a 5-year-old he needs his mother he need need to to somebody who read him a story The at the at the end of the day on in his bedtime she's like I don't care my son needs to learn Torah you have to take him so he was like okay I'll take him now the 5-year-old starts making a problem he grabs her leg and he's like I don't want to go Mommy I don't want to go the 5-year-old so she tells him go with this man I promise I'm going to come to visit you so he's like okay mommy promises so he goes on the train she promised she was a good Jewish mom she went besides her way she turned the world upside down bribed whoever she had to bribe she somehow got papers and a and a passport she did whatever she could to to go to the city to visit him and she finally arrives at the city huge city the city of Samaran and she's then she figured something that she did a mistake she was like how am I going to find this Yesa it's an underground Isa it's not that I can come and start asking people where's the Yesa she was like I don't know where to go what did I do I'm all the way here now how am I going to find my boys now she sits on a bench and she's like Hashem help me how am I going to find my kids now I don't even know why I came here without a better plan as she's saying that she starts hearing mama mama turns around she sees her 5-year-old who was already older and she tells him how did you know I'm here here so she says mama you you promised you'll come to visit me so every day I came here waiting for you to come to visit me so and this is a true story it's not a fairy tale the point what I'm telling you that is that the educating of our kids is one of the most important things if I don't give over what I know to my kids then why what's the point you know when we got the torem says what is the collateral you're going to give me so they said we're going to give you our kids as a Catal and the of the kids yes a lot of it is is important that the husband does but the main building of the mishkan in our generation is is in the responsibility of the women that the home is going to be kosher when I come home and my wife puts a plate on my table I don't ask her did you check the leaves is this kosher where did you buy the meat you should I can eat it I don't ask her I trust her I trust her that she is is is checking it for me that she is checking the leaves that there's no bugs in there and she did go and make her research before she bought the product I trust her I don't ask her questions when she does I don't come and tell her tell me did you do a did you say did you like candles I don't do that I trust her same thing with my kids I don't ask her tell me the sandwiches you made for the school is it kosher you make sure that it's kosher where are you taking the kids how are you dressing them because I all my trust in her I go out or any other man he goes and he's like okay I'm going to go and worry about my Thea I'm going to go and work I have to worry about getting food to us I'm going to have to do my mitv when I put F in you get the benefit from that when I learn Tora you have 50% of my Torah it's more like 100% but we're share 50/50 so the main building of the mishan the responsibility falls on the woman that the home is kosher that the the house is holy that she's holy that's why says you know what I'm not going to bother you with mitv I'm not going to bother if you want to do it you can do it you don't have to but you don't have to if you want to do it then when you do something without being commanded you do it with all your heart you just asked me if you can pray you did it because you want to pray not because somebody says oh you have five minutes and that's it and you can't pray [Music] anymore says women do things from their heart they do it because they want to because they see the value in it same with the with the contribution to the mishkan it says that the men had to give contributions because hem says if I'm not going to command them they're not going to give anything they're going to be cheap they no no I'm keeping my money for for my own fun I'm not going to spend it on something that I don't need to oh you tell me I have to do something I'll do it they work in a very systematic way she says for the women I don't need to command them I don't need to command them to to do something they'll do it and they'll do it with all their heart and for the men I have to give them the the I have to tell them what to do so what I want to take from that is that first of all for the ones who think that the women are second second grade citizen in the Torah it's the complete opposite the Tor says no the women are much more important in they're much higher level they're not they're not in a lower level and for the question is why the women are exempt first of all it's a very important to know that they're exempt from the positive mitv from something that is negative any say they're not exempt they still have to do that from the positive is because hasem says if you want to do it then then you'll do you'll find the time to do it I'm not going to have to bother you for that really what I want to take from that whether it's a female or a male a woman has to understand that a lot of women they might feel that hey the Torah doesn't give me so much importance or the Torah is not giving me enough credit or or why is the men seem like they're more important so I'm coming to tell you that when the Torah is not mentioning something it's only because it sees the importance to it and that's why this RAB Shimon that says that every time we have the word vet it means it's to include another thing that's why you see the first commandment is honor your father but when it says one can say learn according toim and it's talking about the oldest son but it's also adding that anything that we say is the Tor says I don't need to mention too many details so what you want to learn from that is that the doesn't have to come and say oh you're so great you're so good no when the Torah doesn't say something it means that that that's where it finds the most importance that's where it doesn't need to repeat too much that's why the women don't get command commanded in the Torah in many things CU says I don't need to tell you that you're the good kid that does it anyways so the important thing to take from that is that it's very easy to fall into this level of saying you know maybe I'm not important enough in the eyes of the Torah maybe hasem thinks the men are more important he gives them all the Commandments to go and I'm sure that many many women will be like why can't the husband stay home and babysit I want to go and pray I want to go and sit now in the synagogue and pray and enjoy let the husband go and babysit now and run after the the kids and change their dirty diapers I want to do the the the more important things the point is that the Torah says that a you don't need credit for what you do don't don't accept don't accept accept ex expect credit the Torah says don't worry the by the fact that he's not commanding you that's where he sees your greatness CU he knows you're going to do it anyways and he knows you're going to do it with all your heart and more than that especially for the men the men need to understand if I'm talking because we have a lot of viewers that are men but you can also tell your husbands you you know the the man is commanded because he's if he's not going to be commanded he's not going to do it and the men need to understand the importance of the woman and to allow the woman also to have her space and to do whatever she needs to do and to respect that and to honor the woman in such a way but hait a minute I'm actually much less important I'm much less important than the woman that the hasem says okay I'm going to give you free time to do whatever you need to do I'm not going to Corner you to do stuff that you that you can't do right now mainly what the point that I want to take from that is how important it is the building the the mishkan of our of our of our of our life our own mishkan and that mainly falls on the the the responsibility of the woman keeping the house closure closer keeping the house pure and and holy and both parties need to understand the importance from that and what what you want to take from that is that everything that you do you don't need right away receipt saying oh you did great that usually we we we want to see right away credit I want to see something that's why yeah last week I mentioned that they failed inel in the golden calf because they were waiting for Moshe for 39 days and the 39 days corresponded to the 39 prohibitions the labors of Shabbat so they did 39 days and they're like okay we did the 39 that's it we're done oh now they see there's no result so right away they fell in their level ofuna and they serve the golden calf because a lot of times in our life we do something and we're waiting to see a result and if there's not going to be a result right away then I say hey my Act was worthless I didn't get anything back and then I fall into a a level of disbelief and I Shalom create my own golden calf cuz I do did my chuva I did my effort I did something and no result didn't came a result didn't came an action after that I mean I did an action but didn't come a reaction and this comes to this whole story with the golden calf comes to teach me don't don't wait for a reaction doesn't mean you're going to get a result after your after your act I know we sometimes we see the people they become religious they become more observant they they go through a period of time in their life and they're like this is what I get I mean I give you now 20 years of my life and all I have is suffering cuz in our mind we we expect that if I did some type of action that there will be a a a reward to that hasem says no there's not always going to be a reward to what you do you might not see it there will be it's in the future so a lot of the times people say hey I did a certain action I want to see a a reward some type of a reaction to what I did so hasem comes and tells don't expect now a big thanks or gratitude you have to do because you know it's the right thing to do you want to do it because it's the it's what your heart tells you to do not because later on you're going to get a big thank you I know it's good to get sometimes a thank you but the point is that theh says no it's enough that I know what you're doing from your heart that should be your motive and your your your drive to do it that's why the Torah doesn't find the place to to to go out of its way to say oh it's actually that the women gave much more contributions the women they they did most of the building of the mishkan but the reality is that that that is the fact that the women gave from their personal items their personal jewelry their personal time to build a mishkan and up until today that's who builds the mishkan in our life is the women therefore hasem says okay don't worry I'm I'm going to give you free time you don't have to worry about too many things if you choose to do it go ahead and do it you'll get the reward but you don't have to more than that you want to take from that that's where you see how Hashem values more and I'm not saying it in a not in in in a negative way towards the men but hasem values the level and the power of women that he says I don't need to command them to do that they'll do it anyways and if they not going to do it anyways it means that they had a long day with their kids and and fixing the home and they cannot just they can can't find the time to pray now but they when they do find the time they'll do it with all their heart and they'll do it because they want to do it not because I told him to do it so this should motivate you to continue doing what you're doing under the radar and to do things because you want to do it and to find the place in your heart and saying you know what even though I don't really need to do it then imagine the that gets when I go out of my way to do something and this enough should motivate the women to understand how great they are and to motivate the men to to understand how powerful their women are and to help them and to find the time to do what they need to do it doesn't mean that the husband if he's busy working that he has doesn't have to participate in the educating of the kids or in the taking care of the house or anything else so it's important that even the women in their gentle way to make the husband understand that wait a minute even though you think that you are exempt from doing certain things in the house you also have to do what you need to do and pull your weight there so we should be met that with the Holy work that the righteous women do beneath the the radar and Beyond the letter of the law that this will serve us as the Merit to take us out of this Exile exactly how R Shimon says and later on it was quoted by the and many other with the Merit of righteous women we went out of Egypt and with the Merit of the righteous women we will go out of this Exile so every effort that you do is not not for nothing and everything that that that you that you do even though you're not commanding or you're doing it with your busy daily schedule just that you know that your efforts are not for nothing in the same way that the ladies the women then build the mishan we're building now the mishan so this should this should should motivate the women to do much much more and to know that they don't need to get the credit right now that it's it's enough that the K knows what they're doing so should be continue successful in your and take your holy merits and bring us the Redemption it should happen very soon Speedy in our days [Music] [Applause] [Music]