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in every Paras there's numerous points
that the par teaches
us but the point is to apply it to my
life if I apply the teachings of the
Torah to my life then I'm going on the
path that the Kosh wants me to go on and
more more than that I actually have the
tools and the guidance of that week to
to operate the entire week so each par
will teach me something about my and
what I need to focus on this week
because every week has a different
energy before when we talked about the
months I said every month has a
different energy every year has a
different energy on
when
the recreates the world a new Godly
light comes to the world the old light
leaves the world
on we kind of have like 24 hours that
the world is running on air because The
Godly light that creates the world in
the previous year disappears go goes
back to its source we have 24 hours and
then a new light comes to the world that
never existed so this is what's
called a rebirth
a new a new start so every year has an
energy every month has a certain energy
every day and of course every week
that's why the weekly portions the Torah
is broken into weekly portions and every
day there's a portion of the weekly
parasa that also has the exact same
thing that's why it's extremely
important and down the line now it's
still in the beginning down the line we
will have a daily class about the daily
portion of the Torah of that day and
we'll do maybe something 10 minutes 15
minutes that we talk about the con of
The Da the portion of the day and how I
actually bring it into actions the point
is our sages
say the action the ACT is the most
important thing if I still learn all day
long and my mind is being inflated with
ideas but I don't bring it into action
that I'm missing the point the point is
that to take what I learn and to bring
it into action and you get one of the
most strongest foundation in my service
of God through the weekly
parasa so we're going to start to have a
more than just one class about the par
but we will
have a class on Sunday that I can take
the message and apply that for the rest
of the week because in this week's
parasa we have an unbelievable message
that most people
completely don't focus
on and the thing is what do we see in
this parasa it's talking about
itak which was one of our
forefathers but unfortunately he's the
only one who got half a
par Abu got three yob got three and got
half a par not even one and what's the
main theme of this parasha of giving the
blessing to asav that's the theme of the
parasa
that RKA gets pregnant finally after 20
years and then she has all sorts of
issues because she doesn't understand
what's going on she passes next to a
synagogue then she feels the baby
kicking and wanting to go out which
makes her very happy then she passes
next to a a place of idol worship and
ASF starts kicking now she doesn't know
she has twins she just thinks she has a
baby with SK
phrenia and she gets very upset so where
does she go she goes up here on the hill
to Thea of Shem and ever she comes toat
and Shem and ever are sitting up here in
the hill 50 m from us she goes to them
she wants to see what's going on and
then he tells her no you have
twins but the main theme of the parasa
is the twins get born one of them is a
oil is is a Yesa B and the other one is
a troublemaker and then comes the day
that has to bless the
kids and the main theme of the parasa is
the whole thing with the blessing how
wanted to bless as and then RKA came to
and said let's trick and the whole story
goes about that so this already starts a
very big Wonder because up until itak
nobody blessed Kids Adam marish did not
bless his kids Adam marish had a boy
shet that through shet the entire world
came out AB didn't bless anyone Noah
didn't bless anyone so comes
after hundreds of years and he says I'm
going to break the chain I'm going to
now give a blessing to one of my kids so
this is one question why do you suddenly
give a blessing but there's a greater
question why do you want to
bless time that's the first time we see
in the Torah that somebody blessed their
child
because we see let's say if we go by the
heroes it doesn't say that he blessed
anyone no didn't bless anyone AB didn't
bless anyone is was the first time that
we see in the Torah that he's going to
bless his kids so this I'm just making
an observation that we we didn't it's a
it's a it's a New Concept but comes a
greater
question and on that before I ask the
question I want to tell you a funny
story
that there was once a a a teacher in a
class and he wanted to give a
mathemathical question to the kids and
he told them there's a there was a very
rich man who had a billion dollars in
cash and then he died and he left the
inheritance to his two
sons he left to one son 90% of the
inheritance and to the other son 10% of
The Inheritance the son who got 90% of
the inheritance was the was the good boy
and the son who got 10% of The
Inheritance he was the bad boy how much
money in cash will the guy the son who
got 10% will get so everybody was making
calculations and one boy raised his hand
and he says yes Mo what's your answer so
he says my answer is the god who's going
to get 10% depends how good his lawyer
is so it's it's a joke so if you have a
good lawyer you get more than 10% the
point here is that a father or a mother
should never give in an
inheritance not an equal share to the
kids cuz that will cause a terrible
problem because the kid that didn't get
an equal
share he will have an issue with that
parent for generations and gener
generations and generations why did I
not get the same share of the other
child which that is already a a lesson
for parents that you cannot give a
little bit more to one child than the
other because that causes a lot of
problems so this is raising a very big
question in our Paras I understand that
up until now didn't bless anyone fine he
decided to to give a blessing but why
are you giving a blessing to one child
why you want to give the blessing just
to isav that doesn't make sense give the
blessing to both of them tell and to
come in hey yob and ASA to come in and
tell them okay I want to give you a
blessing then sit both of you together
let me give you a blessing we see later
on when ysep brought his kids a f man he
brought them together when yob gave a
blessing to theim he brought them all
together there wasn't 11 of them 12 of
them some of them he was was smacking
them on their head and rebuking them but
they were all
there brings only one which is a very
big wonder why he's not doing it
equally now first we have to understand
what where does this all originate from
now we learned that the par before that
the father of Abraham was a very wealthy
man and what was abu's business you had
to have some type of business to have a
lot of money so a lot of people think AB
was a Shepherd that he had like a a
business for cattle AB aino had a
business for hotels that was his job he
had hotels he had a chain of hotels he
had the H of the Inn the rich cartton I
don't know what he had but he had a a
chain of hotels and he was a very
successful
businessman now you would think that if
a father is a very successful
businessman that the son will go in his
path if I have a very rich father that
he has a certain business that I should
go into the business in his
footsteps we see that Abu tried you know
as a very good businessman you have
money you start investing in other
places tried to invest in other places
and one of the things that he tried to
invest was was digging Wells because
they didn't have water coming out of a
faucet it was a desert you know what
what a business to have water so started
investing in
drilling drilling for
water and we see that he wasn't
successful came the king a he covered
all the the the wells says you know what
who needs this headache I have my my
hotels I don't need this headache so
stayed in the business of hotels butak
said I don't want to have anything to do
with your
business was also a very wealthy man and
his business was digging
whales isak was known to dig whales he
would go dig whales of course there was
all the fights after that but's business
was digging whales and in that time that
was where the money is why because
people needed water now they were in a
desert they they weren't in a place
where they had Well Springs and and
rivers so this was a very good business
they would dig water and sell the water
they had the you know may Eden however
you call it all the company neot so they
had a business for
water soak was in the business of
whales now what what does it mean if we
understand what was its's Essence we can
understand the entire story so abah ainu
corresponds to the medida of of giving
of kindness of hospitality
so we see that was the essence of Abu
came from the side of of kindness and
charity so his action his business was
to host people to bring them into his
house it came from the side of gor of
severity the complete opposite of abah
aino that's why we see that it
manifested into the world that his
business was digging
whales now how is that that's answering
our question so there was once a story
of a certain rich person from a city
called kov and it's a very famous story
about the G from kov the rich man from
kov he was the most wealthiest man in
the city and anyone who came to him to
ask for money he would kick them out of
the door and he was the most stingy
tough person nobody could get money out
of him
the whole city anytime a person needed
help they would go to him no I don't
want to give you nothing to a point that
everybody hated him came the day that he
died nobody wanted to bury him nobody
wanted to show up to the funeral they
came to his wife and they said listen
you have to H ER burying him yourself
when she came and she wanted to buy a a
plot of land they they gave her a triple
of the cost and she was like why but the
cost is x amount of money why me no your
husband he never helped anyone in the
community he is his grave is going to
cost you a lot of money and not only
that we're burying him at the end of the
cemetery okay so the rabbi of the city
they made sure that they buried
everything nobody wanted to bury him
nobody showed up for the burial it was
it was very sad that that's how he ended
up and what did they wrote on his Stone
can by the way I forgot to mention that
the name of this of this rich person was
is so they wrote on the
stone Isel
here is buried Israel the that's
what they wrote on the stone this is a
True Story by the way I'm not it's not a
it's not a fairy
tale okay then the first Friday of the
week the rabbi sitting the rabbi of the
town is sitting in his home he hears a
knock on the door he opens a knock on
the door person tells him uh I have no
food for Shabbat can you give me some
money okay he gives him a little bit of
money two minutes later another person
comes knocks on the door same thing I
I'm poor I have no money can you give me
some money for Shabbat right okay
another one and another one another one
in the next hour dozens of people come
and he's like I don't even have that
money why are you all coming to me and
now another hour pass more dozens of
people come and he stops everyone says
wow why are you coming to me I don't
have money I'm the rabbi of the town why
are you all coming to me so they all
tell him you know there was a rich man
who lived down the street that he he
just died this week and we used to go to
this rich man every week and he would
give us so much money he sustained my
entire family for a week for a month and
everybody said the same thing yeah I
used to go to this rich man and he used
to to quietly bring us into the home
give us money and the rabbi's like oh my
gosh look what mistake we did this guy
this is was actually the most generous
person out there he helped everybody
just that he did it very quietly he did
it with nobody noticing and he did it
without asking for fame or or to to get
a a a name and the rabbi was wow what a
mistake we did and he went and he
started telling everybody listen we did
a huge mistake we did an
unbelievable a a a s sadness to the soul
we we called him a we didn't want to
bury him this is
embarrassing long story short they did
their chuva and they didn't know what to
do with the stone so they added a word
after the and they added the word
kados is kados a very holy Jewel and
there's a very F it's a famous story
that the rabbi of that City his name is
debak he's buried next to him and he's
buried at The Edge Edge of the
cemetery yeah but we are also considered
we are called
goad if you look at thein it says go
kados it says on us that that we are a
of of go
kados so we are considered a holy
nation so the story from that is that
this was the power
ofak his profession was to dig whales
what is what does it mean a person who
digs whals that he goes and he hears the
water that is under the surface you know
what it is to dig a wh now they're
digging for oil for gas for all sorts of
treasures you need to know where to
drill you know how much it costs to
drill I mean when you finally hit the
way way you want to hit then you make
millions if not billions of dollars but
itak had a very special talent that he
would dig whales he would be able to
hear the water under the ground and say
dig here and what does it mean to dig is
to pull something out of its
concealment and that was the great power
of our father that asav on the surface
he seemed like a very big Wicked Man to
a point that the Torah goes to an extent
to describe how ASA looked we don't find
it in anyone it doesn't say in the Torah
how mosu looked it doesn't say how no
looked abrah looked it doesn't say I
mean later on in thear it describes how
mosenu that he was 10 there's a
description but in the Torah it does not
go to any extent or any length to
descrip describe how somebody looks on
ES the Torah went and described how he
looked is AD he had a he was a gingi a
redhead and he was strong and he was a
hero
Gib asav is presented to us like a
wicked man but the reality is that only
the external part of es was wicked and
there's a story in
thear it's actually the story is by the
the the translation of yonatan
benel that it's saying that when yob
died in MIT you know the story how they
they took yakob to Isel ysf was the king
yakob came to MIT to live his last years
in in MIT in Egypt and when he swore Ys
that when I die you go and bury me
in so it was the whole story that they
went out they had to get permission from
par but you know the story they finally
came to m
and who stands in the entrance of the
cave ASV with hundreds of of of soldiers
and he tells them whoa whoa where are
you going and they're like we're coming
to bury our father and he says who says
that this is his place of burial maybe
it's mine I mean Adam and Eve Adam and K
buried here ab and
Sarah yob and RKA and RKA and then Leah
was already buried there yov buried
there so left one grave Esa says who
says it's going to Yakov maybe it's mine
so they said no but we know it's jakob's
grave es says show me a document that it
says that it's his maybe it's mine I'm
also the son of I'm the son of RKA maybe
I'm supposed to be buried here you know
burying him there now they say okay wait
no problem we have a documents he says
okay show me the document so they say
the document is in MIT so they sent
bamin that's what the mid says they sent
bamin to MIT to bring the document to
show him this is the place of burial for
yov in the meantime you know they had a
whole Entourage of people there there
was one individual who didn't know who H
is he just sees an individual stopping
the the funeral and making a problem the
story says that he took a stick and he
hit ASA by his head
the story says that the head went
disattached from the body and the head
went rolling and stopped right next to
the Grave where Yakov has to be
buried the point is is that the head got
disattached from the body and it rolled
and it stopped next to the the grave of
Yakov and they put it there and that's
where it's buried comes balat the old
Arabian he says yes because the body of
the gsh the physicality was wicked came
from kipa but the head the M the
intellect that came from Kus that's why
it got the head got buried
in and that was the power of that he
didn't look at the external part the
external part of Asa was wicked but he
looked inside Into the Heart of asav cuz
he had the ability of the the
the the well digging to see something
that is hidden all the way in and that
was The Power
of Now it says about asav the gar says
about asav that there was never a man in
history that had kib like asav asav
every night when he would come home from
his job or whatever it was he would make
a meal to and not only that you know the
story you know I mean we we learn about
that that when Rifka came to to yob and
she told him go in to get Thea so he
says how can I go in I don't have the
Garment so they went and they stole the
Garment the Garment was the story is
that this
garment was swed by Hashem and was given
to Adam arish and this garment was a
very special holy garment to a point
that the animals would see this garment
and they would stand still so nimod
stole this garment and that's how he
would hunt the animals he would put the
Garment on him and the animals would
freeze and that's how we would kill them
then ASA was like hey that's a that's a
pretty cool garment let me get that so
he asav took it from Nimrod but asav was
like I'm not going to hunt with this
this is a holy garment that
was stitched but it was swed by the K
this this is a very special garment and
ASA used to wear this garment only when
he went into's father so Asam had an
unbelievable
unbelievable power of kib of respecting
the father as much as the Torah goes to
length to explains that he was wicked we
also know that the inside was
pure that's why wanted to bless him now
really when you see the blessing what
did he give isak what did he give asav
he gave him everything from the land he
gave him the sh from the oils and but he
didn't give him Israel he gave Israel to
to to Jakob but all the the the
materialistic part he gave to es but
initially wanted to bless only asav
because had a special power to see be
beneath the
exterior and he says I don't see the
external part that is wicked I see the
internal part that is pure and it's
holy and what we need to take from that
without dissecting the story too much
because there's a lot of question but
why did why did the blessing for yakob
had to come in a in a tricky way why
didn't they just walk in there's a lot
of questions I don't want to dissect the
questions now I want to take a concept
and to learn something from that and to
incorporate it into my life and in our
life we run into so many situations that
I judge a person by the exterior and I
do not give the benefit of the doubt to
a certain individual because of the
exterior and I judge situations because
of the the external part and I do not
take the time to try to listen man
there's something something inside and
you can analyze it in many different
categories you can analyze it with my
kids sometime I have a kid like he had
two kids one of them was yob
was studying Torah all day long he did
Mitzvah he had a black suit a hat the
whole thing he didn't any problems the
pride of the family and a lot of
families in our generation they have aov
but they also have
aom boy doesn't want to learn I don't
want to
learn instead of listening to the heart
of the kid what what does the kid
want they they sh him off we talked
about before about the kids that go off
the D it's because the parents are not
willing to listen to something deep
there deep Waters that are running under
the surface and this is unfortunately a
very sad thing in in Parenthood that the
child that is successful he's good the
child that is a little bit seem
problematic no but inside there's a pure
there's a pure soul that just needs a
little bit of a different type of
attention different attention but where
do we meet with that on our day-to-day
life we look at a person then maybe in
an external part he doesn't look such a
God-fearing person to a point a lot of
people would judge him look he's eating
not coer he's driving on Shabbat he's
not Kosher enough he can't pray with us
no he has a pure sh
inside we have to look at the at the at
the inside of each individual that to us
might seem in a very external way a
simple individual or very disattached
from the Torah but we should learn from
our
father that the point is to look in
everything in in the P there's a mish
that
says don't look at the bottle from the
outside look at what's
inside and this is a problem that we a
lot of people have and this is what the
the the thought of the week what one
needs too to apply is that you have to
see in everything the good in
it and we started before we talked about
the month of everything
happens the usually falls on or the time
of the beginning of because we mentioned
that is the is the cover don't judge
something by its cover I mean the mishna
says don't look at the bottle Canan in
English they say don't judge a book by
its cover unfortunately fail we fail in
many times that we judge the book by its
cover by the cover that is covering
doesn't matter it can be a situation it
can be a human being it can be a
relationship there's a very big
Commandment that it says that we
constantly have to judge a person we see
a situation we have to judge them
favorably because we don't know what's
behind the situation we don't know what
evolved we don't know what preceded the
situation and we're usually we're very
quick to judge oh he said like this he's
wrong instead of taking the time of
saying no there's something more than
that something preceded that and what I
want to take from that and to apply it
to my life that in every situation that
the kadh shows me he he will show me
something that looks on the surface very
evil very
negative but hasem wants me to say no if
was able to look at isav and say no he's
the exterior is completely evil but
inside there's something pure that is a
pure n and anyone can be pure inside and
do Chua I mean if you look at the world
you mentioned before about the thousands
of Bal cha yeah if you would look if
somebody would look at me 15 years ago
they would not give me a time of day
long hair and piercings and tattoos they
this is a rash this is a wicked person
nobody will give me the time of day and
it's not only me almost any almost of
the B cha look where they came from
and and daa from the from the end of the
world this is where you know the the
beautiful Nish they come out so it's not
necessarily dka with a person who has to
do Chua the point that I want to take
from that is I want to live my life that
I can see the good in everything if I
can see the good in everything then I
have the ability to bring that good out
if I look at something and I focus on
the bad then I'm empowering the Bad and
the B says you have to be very careful
with your speech with your eyes and with
your thought because if I call somebody
now a wicked person I'm empowering in
him the power of of of the
wickedness and if I tell
somebody he's so kind or he's generous
I'm empowering this power in him that's
why L is so bad the slandering is
because I'm empowering that power if I
say ooh that person is a thief right now
now besides of me saying I'm now
charging and empowering the power of
theft in that individual that now this
individual will have more of a desire to
steal so what I want to take from that
is that to see the good in everything
everything has good every human being
has something good in it even the child
it seems that he's doesn't want to go in
the path what I want that's my problem
because it's a path that I want not what
my child wants somebody asked me the
other day about about if if one of my
kids one of my boys want to go to the
Army how would I will react so I said
first of all my my oldest boy is 10 they
get drafted to the army with they 18 if
we're not going to have mashia in in
eight years that we will need an army
that's already a problem ifom we'll
still need an Army in 8 years but if
let's say Hy pathetically now I had a
son that would want to go to the Army
that's his decision mother my decision
it's not my life parents they try to
control the kids all the time to oppose
their opinion so I'm just giving one
example out of many with the Army but
the point is that I have to see the good
in each individual because where why do
I see the bad because it doesn't doesn't
coexist with my opinion it's not
parallel to my desire so I don't see the
good in it I see the bad in it the point
is is that you are required ired forget
about what the reality is you are
required to see the good in it you want
to pull the good out of it you don't
want to get to a situation that you are
concentrating on the bad in any
situation you can analyze the good and
the bad any situation I can say this is
good but this bad the all the situations
in the world are manifested from the
Tree of good and bad of to it's a
there's always good and bad in something
my point what I want to learn from this
particular thing is how I take the good
out of
something you should always judge a
person favorably you should also see
Hashem puts you in a situation that
looks extremely bad so I can focus on
the bad and say hem is now punishing me
I'm now in a bad situation and I can
also say
no there's nothing bad that comes from
sh where can I see the good in it so
it's my ability and my obligation to see
how balancing things out and what I want
to take from that in this teachings of
this Paras is that
if was able to see in such a wicked
person like isav the good in him so much
more so I can also apply that and in any
situation that I see to try to focus on
the good and to take the good out the
says whatever you focus that's what you
Empower so if you now focus on the good
of of an individual you can bring that
good to the surface if you focus on the
bad if I take now my kid and I tell my
kid all day long you
are your room is a mess you don't listen
you lay to school you you eat like a
like a kazer whatever if I'm constantly
saying that that's what I'm bringing out
of my kid if I'm going to tell my kid
and let's say the kid is not the most
successful student but if I tell them
good on you K very good you did amazing
in the test next time you'll get better
you know maybe if tomorrow go to sleep a
little bit earlier I I'm sure you can
wake up and go to school in time it's
all how I'm how I'm a encouragement it's
fine we should always see just the good
things in everything amen we should
concentrate on the good if we
concentrate on the bad then we empower
the
bad we should concentrate on the good
and if we concentrate on the good then
hasm is going to concentrate on the good
and bring us mashia already M we should
have a beautiful Shabbat a beautiful
rest of the week
we'll see you again B on Sunday on
Tuesday and on
Thursday where we're going to start our
beautiful seter of learning
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