Parashat Chukat - Why follow Mitzvot we don't understand? - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] dedicate the class TOA Li that unfortunately had a stroke and she's in a coma may she have amen wake up right away amen so so today we first of all we're celebrating and we're also starting the Paras that is called Kat which is a very special parasha and one interesting thing about this Paras is that it's the first parasa that jumps to the end of the period in the desert last week we were learned korak the the week before that schl these were in the beginning periods parat is Fast Forward 37 and 1/2 years going into the last year of the time in the desert so overnight they jumped to the end of the period we see that later on Miram the passing of Miram the passing of Aon it's already the the end end period in the desert and since the Torah is not organized in order though one that a person that just reads through the par doesn't necessarily notice that we just jump 37 years you know the both the story with the spies two weeks ago and korak it literally happened in the first after the first year and many other events and here we jump to the end which many ask why why now after 37 years in the desert suddenly comes the rule of the par the red heer which this is not the subject we want to talk about today but just for the for the curiosity is because there was a question on the level on the state and and on How firm the work of the quim is last week we just read how Kor was arguing about the position of the quim he also wanted to to be part of it so the Torah comes and gives another another strengthen that the Kim you know last week we read how they got the but Nota the presence of being a priest so here comes the parasan and says no we're going to give another uh uh another sign how the Kim they their job is firm and nobody can come and contradict what the Tora says about the Kim but this is not the topic we want to talk about today what I want to talk about today is the concept that is called we know that there are three types of mitv one of them is called the other one is mim and the other one is these are the three groups the three categories of mitv the translation means a testimony all the mitv that we do as a testimony for something that happened in the past all the mitv of P it's a testimony for leaving MIT we're celebrating Shabbat it's a testimony for the creating of the world later on the sages added anduk it's aony for something that happened in the past so all these mitv they fall fall under the category of Ed means testimony then we have mitv that are called MIM and these mitv are things and actions that one can come to understand them without the Torah for example not IGN not to steal not to kill not to commit adultery these I don't really need the Torah for them even though the Torah comes and tells me not to do it then I would probably think about it without the Torah then we have the third group that is called and these are all the rules all the laws all the mitv that have no no sense into them there's no explanation koser mik sh so many different things and so many re things that one can come and give an explanation but it doesn't uh really resonate it's not a good answer one can really not know what it means and the mother of allim is is the red heer to a point that even the smartest man in history SCH said I I have interrogated I have searched I have tried to find an answer I could not find an answer about this the only one who really knew the the cause or the reason or the effect behind the red heer is mosu he's the only one who ever knew very soon m is coming is going to also let us know but till then we don't know about what it means you take a a a a red heer it can't even have two black hairs has to be completely red and you have to slaughter it in a very unique way it's the only sacrifice that you Slaughter out of bet mikdash you have to take it out of yush in order to slaughter it and then you have to burn it completely and then you have to take the ashes of it and mix it with some water and then you sprinkle a few drops on somebody who's impure in many different types of impurities which we'll go through them very soon and suddenly no impurity anymore it's a very weird Mitzvah one might say the question I want to address today is why do we have to do mitv that we can't understand what it means so I understand you tell me not to kill not to steal to give charity I mean I I understand it makes makes sense but I want to know why am I required by the Torah to do certain mitv that have zero sense and I don't understand what it means even something as simple as putting Fillin on feel is a I don't understand what it does puts a put a piece of leather on my hand put a muuza on my door to put a parchment on my door so what if it says that it guards the door I don't see why why it guards the door put a a a dog or an alarm system that will guard the door why would a piece of parchment guard the door and therefore we find ourselves doing many mitv some of them we are obligated on a daily base for example the laws of Kash I don't understand why I don't have why I can't eat meat in there so I can give you a medical explanation why but still for for the for the mind you know what forget about me and dairy why Pig why can't I eat a pig why can I eat a cow and a sheep and a duck but I can't eat a pig and and a camel so many of these things they they we follow them on a daily base but we don't really have a clear understanding why and today what I want to talk about is why do I have to follow them what's really the cause behind them now mainly the the the general answer here is that the Torah doesn't want me to think too much that's mainly the the general answer why the Torah comes with with all sorts of rules that don't make sense cuz the Tor says I don't want you to think it's not your place to think you just have to do you know a few weeks ago we celebrated shabat we learned about saying we should do and then we should listen so the Tor says first first do don't don't ask questions then we'll come to the nishma we should listen why we do that one thing that we skipped many people they skipped the fact that the isma was said on the seven laws of Noah not on the other 607 and and and six mitv so for the seven laws of Noah that's what we said now isma right and a week later when we got the rest of the 600 six they're like oh that for that we didn't say you just gave it to us but really the the the Tor comes and says I don't want you to ask questions it's not in your place to ask questions there's a very interesting commentary butu and he explains that the word like is the third category of theim comes from the word Gul Gul is a is a limit and he says that that this comes to put a certain limit between what I can understand and what I cannot understand and Hashem has a reason why he wants me not to understand something and today we're going to find out why AEM doesn't want me to understand now as we said that the main the main rule that is called in this of bread heer this is the main thing that signifies this H that we don't understand cuz all the rest can somehow come with some type of an understanding even when you talking about meat and dairy there is a physical explanation for the meat in the dairy and and the explanation is that when I eat meat my my digesting system will recognize that it's meat and the juices that my stomach will use are one type of juices that will Take 6 hours to digest the meat because the meat is much much harder to digest now when I eat a cheese or anything else that is dairy then the my stomach will recognize that it's Dairy and we use completely different types of juices to digest it that will take about an hour to digest now if I eat now something that is half meat and half cheese my stomach doesn't know what to to to recognize whether it's the meat or the dairy if the majority will be the meat then it will recognize it as meat and go into the long process of digesting so the meat will get digested the right way but the dairy will get rotten because it instead of being digested in an hour it takes it 6 hours to digest therefore I'm going to start developing all these these poisons in my stomach not poison like uh toxins toxins and then it'll start affecting me and they will bring all sorts of diseases to the body so here you can find an explanation so almost on anything you can find an explanation when it comes to aah but when it comes to things for example like mik can you can you explain why why a bath of water will make somebody impure I mean make somebody pure and take remove the impurity this is something that we do up until today so a red heer we don't have it now but a mik this is something we do on a daily base or at least the men they go on a daily base but a woman goes once a month how does a bath of water take away remove an impurity excuse me theim of course so first in order to understand this we have to first understand what does it mean to be impure what is T because the M the rule of the red heer is to make the worst and hardest tum that is called tat the impurity of dead to remove it and that is only be only done by the red heer now the sad truth is that we all carry with us the impurity of dead the T there's not one person in the world that doesn't have to much met on him toat met means the the impurity of death now when it comes to impurity some of the impurities they can only be moved transferred with a with a touch some of them it's just enough being in the same room if a person is in the same room with a corpse then he will get affected by the the impurity of the dead so I don't want to go through all the rules of T how and why and when this is a a very difficult part in in the Torah is all the impurities but we first need to understand what does it even mean in impurity and what are the impurities to understand why would the red heer or the mik will come and remove this impurity so the main part of impurities which is considered the the most harsh impurity is toet is impurity of dead and that can happen in a person that is dead if you touch a dead person or you're in the same room of a dead person technically there are eight categories in impurities so the first and this is called the the main the origin of Tuma of impurity and that's touching or being in the presence of a dead corpse the second one is called Neva Neva is an animal that was was either slaughtered not the right way or there was some type of a mistake in the slaughtering which happens a lot and and now it's not edible but you can't do anything with this animal anymore this is called a Nea and of course an animal that just dies but I'm not talking abouta is when another animal eats another animal and leaves the body this is not what I'm talking about I'm talking about AA which is an animal the the the most common scenario is that you took the chicken to the slaughter and he slaughtered it and there was a mistake now you can't eat it anymore this is called n has impurity on it and the other thing is the eight dead shim we spoke about before about shim a sheret sheret is an animal that runs on the on the ground when there are eight of them that if they are found dead that will be considered a sheret for example a dead mouse a dead rat a dead lizard if you touch it then or if you put it into a clean then there many other rules I don't want to go into all the rules this will considered a sheret a dead sheret and that will bring also impurity and this is also a pretty harsh impurity all these excuse me eight no eight shim there are eight type of shim okay and I said before that there are eight categories into in impurities now these three are all cons Ed what's called to that it all has to do with something that dies so in one way kind of makes sense death is not a is the opposite of life will make sense that it's something impure being in a cemetery also right no no because the dead already is in the ground but if there's a funeral then yeah if there's a funeral and the body is around you yeah 100% now the next thing that will be a is called K ker is a man after he has relationship with his wife and he has a little bit of sperm on the body that's impurity he has to go to the mik after that has a certain type of impurity doesn't matter right now if the relations is permitted or prohibited sperm that comes out of the man this is and it's on the body this is toat K only the man has it not the woman the man has to go to the mik can't walk around with it then now another one is called to zav zav and also Zava zav means it's things it can be blood or can be sperm or any other things that comes from the male organ and for the women a woman to be Zava is when blood comes out of her organ when she's not in her woman cycle this is called an impurity of Zava I don't think it's so common in our days many years ago it was a common thing I don't think today is such a common thing there is a diseases that causes I mean once common means that it's not happening all the time to many people once it was much more uh a common thing a common disease I think now that our our our food is much more clean sanitation we don't go to the bathroom outside with all that we we have much less of these diseases I think in the olden days when you would go to the bathroom on the floor and it wasn't sanitized and and and you wouldn't change your underwear every day and so forth now we're much more hygienic so we don't suffer from that so often many years ago we know that they they suffered from these things a lot and I think it's mainly was because of the hygiene of course you have it still today but not in the same volume that it was in the in in hundreds of years ago so this is all also one type of impurity another type of impurity of course is toat when a woman has her cycle and there's another type of impurity that's a woman after giving birth then that's even even a more impur longer impurity sometimes can takes weeks and the last one which we don't have anymore this is M this is leprosy so these are these are the eight groups of impurity of Tuma that we carry on ourselves now the par the red heer comes to to to take all this impurity away especially the impurity that nothing else can take which is toat this is why the first thing that's going to happen very soon when mashia is going to come is the first thing that mashia is going to have to do is Slaughter the red heer right away cuz this is the first thing that that is going to have to happen is because we all have on us to the baby comes out of the mother's womb the doctor just touches the baby that's it now the baby has it and we all we give it over I mean there's no one person in the world that doesn't have the impurity of death one of the there is a contradiction there's an argument what would be the first Corban the first sacrifice mashia will do the majority goes by that the first thing will be the red heer in order to bring to take to take all of us away from tat so the first first thing we'll see I mean you know they found a few red heers there's one in New Jersey there's one in Oklahoma then excuse me they're raising it they're raising it that I didn't hear I know there's one in New Jersey that they found and they found one in Oklahoma and uh I'm not following it but cool be that they're already transfered to Israel but either way just the fact that we're finding Now red heers that's another sign that we're very close to mashiah mashiah is going to come and the first thing he's going to do is Slaughter the red heer make the the the water the puring purifying water and start sprinkling us so in this week's par we're talking about the red heer so we want to learn what's behind it now there is a story in the tal that a non-jew came to raban Yan B Zak and told him what are you doing with this red heer this looks like witchcraft so Yan bin Zak answered him what do you do you the Nations when you have somebody that is impure so he said we take all sorts of herbs and we burn them and we take the ashes and we put it in water and we sprinkle it on the person so says we do the same thing we're not different why are you coming and questioning us would you take herbs we take an animal we burn it we mix it with water and we sprinkle the person that's impure when the students of ran Ben Zak came and told him why are you telling that to the to this Gentile so he says because the answer doesn't make any difference he ques he says I have made a rule you don't have any any permission to to contradict what I what I just said so it was already explained in the all Tor that this was the will of theh said this is what I want don't ask this is the rule comes the Ron and he comes and says very something very very interesting and he says there's no such a thing as an impure body this the spirit of impurity that is on the body that we're talking about the Ram comes and says has nothing to do with the body there's no such a thing as a body that is impure or pure rather this is what's called that it's a state it's a situation and therefore this is considered impurity but it doesn't necessarily mean that the body is impure it just means that if you did a certain action then right now you are categorized as impure but really if you would take a body and of somebody impure and a body of somebody pure and put them together Raam says there's no difference in the bodies there's no such a thing physically physically the yeah but but in the spiritual level of course you are kind of categorized right now where are you holding impure or pure so according to rambam there's no difference between the body of somebody pure and somebody that is not pure so the question comes really is that if a person is in contact with a dead corpse or Shalom from the disease I can understand that it's impurity but how come a person a man or a woman that is trying to bring life to the world or brought life to the world why would that bring impurity a woman just gave birth she carried a baby for 9 months now she brought life to the world why would that bring impurity that doesn't make sense I can kind of understand with a dead corpse a dead animal a disease leprosy but a a woman is bring bringing birth to the world life to the world or a man that is occupied with a amazing Mitzvah of Po creation bringing more life to the world why is that that would that be considered impurity so here the answer comes and the teachings of cabala that cabala explains that when the body is weakened then the sitra wants to take advantage of it the sitra the other side of Holiness the kipa cannot fight the body the only way it can fight the body is when the body is weak when the body is weak then the has the over a stronger hand so when a man is busy with procreating or a woman after giving birth the body becomes very very weak therefore the kipa has a upper hand on it and if a person Shalom is sick or whatever it is then has power when we weak and I heard a very interesting story there's a very in special individual uh I mentioned him a couple times I told a few stories about him his name is menelas very special individual that at the time about I think maybe it was 100 years ago don't catch me on the exact year but in the early Century that there was some point if you know if actually I'm not mistaken I'm sorry I think it was after the Holocaust that the Russians opened their gates for a very short period to whoever will can prove that he's polish cuz after the during the Holocaust in the war the Russians they took a lot of hostages and workers from Poland and I think in 1945 they they made a rule that whoever can prove that they're polish they open up the gates so many people forg documents and there was a whole movement in the Jewish community that they forged documents and people showed sort to say that they're polish and they were able to run out of Russia this special individual got caught he got caught in the border and he was s sent to Siberia to to Work Camp and of course he came with the piles of stories and he was a very special individual and everything that he saw he learned something uh uh he gave a teaching from it and I found a different a nice parable about it so he once said that one time while he was sitting in his uh cage and his uh cell whatever it was how they kept him and he noticed I mean there's nothing much to do there just to S sit and think so you notice a cobweb on the wall and he's looking and gazing into the cobweb and then he sees a little fly that got stuck in the cobweb and the Fly is trying to get out and he's stuck and he's noticing that the spider is on the side just waiting there the spider is waiting and waiting and waiting and he's wondering in his mind why is the spider not going to eat the fly after maybe half an hour suddenly the fly was already tired and it stopped fighting he couldn't move then the spider went and he ate him and he says you see this is how the CPA how the sit works it puts you in its trap you fight you fight you fight at some point you tired of fighting anymore then it comes and attacks you when you're weak when you're powerless so this tum this impurity can only come when the kipa comes and touches me and possess me or or takes control over me but first it's going to make me weak or either the kipa will make me weak or either it will wait for me to be weak and then it will come and attack me a person that is has his might it's very hard to fight him person that is weak and sick then he doesn't have any energy so this tum this impurity comes to somebody that is weak so much more so somebody is dead there's no power there at all so that's why this is the strongest impurity cuz there's nothing to fight it's dead when it comes to somebody who's sick then the sickness puts the person to be weak andom a person even when it's doing something positive a woman bringing birth to a child she's weak the labor is very hard on her that's why many women they have what's called false parted because they're so weak it took such a toll out of their body that the power of the impurity is so powerful that the woman suffers from from depression from sadness from postpartum depression so really the impurity will come when somebody loses power this is what the teachings of cabala explains that that's why even somebody who's doing something uh uh positive can be affected now there's another interesting story because we want to kind of understand the concept of impurity so we know what what what are the groups of impurity and why it happens but there's another Concept in the in the impurity that again another story from thisas that I just recently read I just read not too long ago a book I have all the stories fresh in my mind so he says something at the same same on the same topic and he was explaining how while he was in the work camps there was one guy who told him that he's a uh he was a he's a professional I don't know how you say it in English a professional circus person uh what yeah he was walking on the wire but so anyway so he kept telling them that he's a professional person from The Sur cus and his profession is to walk on the wire and they're all of course making fun of him and they were thinking that he was joking one time he was in a good mood he got H the wire and he put it and he started walking on the wire backwards and forth backwards and forth and of course they were all shocked and stunned how is he doing it so when they asked him how do you how do you walk on a wire so he tells them you have to be f focus on the on the destination on the on your dot you have to be focused and you can be distracted if you distracted that's when you fall or when you lose balance meaning that when you focus on something then you can walk on something very very narrow but he added and he said the problem with walking on the wire is not being focused on your on your target is when you have to turn around because then you don't have a targets so the tricky part here is when you have to turn around which again connecting it to the part of impurity is that sometimes in our life we're very focused on the target we where're our head is very focused so I I don't I don't get distracted my target can be praying in Aman my target can be learning a certain thing every day whatever it is stop to say I have a Target but every now and then in my life I have to turn around life brings me into a situation that I have to turn around and the turning around makes me lose focus and the second that I lose focus that's when the the T up can get attached because I'm not focused and that's when I lose my balance so two nice Parables to understand where is this impurity can come and come and grab me now we want to know especially in our parasha why red heer what's the red heer so the midash explains that the midash in Mida that explains that there is an explanation for the cow first of all we mentioned that nobody knew why the red he the mid explains that when it says what does it mean to you but they didn't take the red heer to they took it to meaning that when the says that actually knew that hasem revealed to mosu what's the point of so only mosu knew what it means but then midash doesn't explain to us what's the deal behind the red heer but he explains why the heer why the the cow so mainly the the cow comes to a to for the sin of the golden calf so the calf was the son of the cow so the midash says that the C the calf ER messed it up so the mother has to come and H cover up for the calf so that's why it came in a form of a cow like the kid does a problem then they call the parent and say listen your kid made a problem come and fix it so here the calf made a problem so the cow had to come and fix it the next thing is that it was red why was it red because the red represents sin white represents chuva and we say onip that our sins should be whitened like the snow so the chuva and being pure is represented by white so the red is represented by sin sin is is the has the color of red and why it has to be burned why fire because they took the golden calf and threw it in the fire MOS threw it in the fire so they had to take the red heer and throw it in the fire so we kind of see the explanation why with a red heer but really we don't know what's the secret behind the red heer the only one who knows like I said is mosenu but we don't know why but the question is not necessarily why and there was a story that there was once a very rich person he was the G of the city and uh he wasn't such an intelligent guy he as they say you know money you make from luck not from not from brains so which is not always the situation but in this situation he was just lucky he wasn't such a smart man he just had a lot of money and of course there was a rabbi the the rabbi of the city for whatever reason the son of the rabbi and the daughter of the rich man wanted to marry each other now the rabbi wasn't so happy with the situation he wanted somebody more suitable for the son but that was the shid and okay whatever it's the shid he wanted to marry into a rabinal family but he says okay that's the shid between the girl and the boy fine so of course there was a very big wedding because the the G paid for it all okay passed this all the celebration and the next week came the rabbi of the city he's the the head Chief Rabbi of the city he sits in his Shore in his place comes now the rich person who was respected in the community but now he's the Mutan he's the the family of the rabbi he comes and sits next to the rabbi rabbi's looking at him is like what are you sitting here and he tells him listen now we're a now we're family now I can sit next to you now I have honor and respect my my daughter is married to your son so okay the rabbi is just looking at him and continues reading his book so the rich person asks him a question and the rabbi totally ignores him just reads from the book and the g tells him I asked you a question and rabbi's ignoring him so the rich person tells him why are you ignoring me why aren't you answering my question so the Rabbi says the question is not why I'm not answering your question the question is why I I agreed to marry you in the first place so sometimes you do a certain Act later on you're like forget about the the the future is why did they do such an act now I'm not this is just a story it's not a real thing and and in a story like this I will not justify the rabbi but it's just to to make a point that sometimes we there's an action but we can't ask a question over it especially when it comes to the to the red heer we don't have an answer the midash actually gives gives us an answer because we do ask we present the question why does AEM give us a list of mitv that we don't understand the answer the midash comes and says something very simple to remind us that we are far away from Hashem because if we would understand everything I would not feel separated from Hashem I would feel that oh I know everything more than that if I would know everything you know what would happen I would start doing everything based on my logic because I understand everything in my logic therefore I can start explaining everything and therefore I will say you know according to my logic this doesn't make sense and I don't want to do it anymore so the midash comes and says no hasem gave us a few mitv that don't make any sense so I will understand as much as I understand I'm nothing and I'm far away there's a very big gap between me and Hashem and I cannot start coming and bringing my logic in my common sense into my service of Hashem and that's what happens to many people that they bring their logic into the service of hem many people say listen you know I don't see any problem with driving on Shabbat I don't see the decration of Shabbat here and if you can show me where it says in the Torah I will agree but it doesn't say say anything in the Torah and therefore according to my logic I don't see any pro any problem with driving on Shabbat but that's the problem when people start understanding too much and they work according to their logic one might say listen I don't see any logic in the whole meat and dairy I'll just not eat it together I'll eat the meat I'll wait a little bit and then eat the dairy I or some people go to the extent and say listen T it says don't cook a lamb in the mother's milk it doesn't say about other animals just the lamb is in the milk so I'll cook it in oil so I don't have to cook it in the milk therefore the midash comes and says Hashem decided not to reveal the reason of many things so we understand that we don't understand everything there's a place in the in the talud in tracted sanedrin can find found in page 21 when the talud says that the reason why many of the reasons behind the Mitzvah were not revealed to us is that that we're not going to fail in things that we think according to our mind that is totally fine and the tamut gives an example he says the reason why we don't have the explanation for many things is for the fact that the the the T says the the smartest person in in the world failed and of course we're talking about King King Solomon that even though he was the smartest person in the world and he himself said that he was trying to investigate into and to find the reason for the red heer and he couldn't the talut says the the great the smartest of all failed in the test of going by your own common sense and it gives two examples there is a rule there is a that a king should not have many women and there is a that a a king should not have many horses unfortunately in these two things both King Solomon failed towards the end of his life he had a lot of women and in his reason in his Common Sense he wanted to to to convert he converted a lot of women and he wanted to make sure that the women are are are real converts and he he in his Common Sense he wanted to make sure that the women convert the right way and many other things and it says that towards the end of his life these women started to bring him all these opinions about idol worship and by then he failed in the of marrying too many women of as a king same thing with horses the says that a king should not have many to too many horses and at the time the good horses could be found in Egypt and and uh King Solomon told him okay so don't buy the horses in Egypt so his advisor said okay we'll buy them in Libya in Iraq or whatever it is but his workers and his advisers wanted to bring to the king the best horses and they end up going to Egypt and buying them horses so the talut comes and says that even the smart smart smartest person in the world failed by the fact that he let his own Common Sense drive him that was able to fail at the end of his days therefore the the says no we the hasem concealed the T the reason behind the Mitzvah then we're not going to start developing our own opinion that's basically it so excuse me because we we're not allowed to return to Egypt and when his advisers went back to Egypt to bring horses they went back to MIT and we are not allowed to we're not allowed to go into MIT so if even up until today MIT is Egypt even up until today some people will never travel into Egypt even though it's permitted I mean I mean I wouldn't travel there a not me but most people will not travel because security I mean you have terror ATT Terror cells there Isis is there but when I was a teenager we used to travel to Egypt because it was a very cheap vacation as a teenager and before the Army after the Army I mean we didn't go to Egypt we went to Sinai so it's not the end of the world it's it belongs to Egypt but not it's not the biblical Egypt but to go to MIT up until today I know people they will never go there because we're not allowed to go to MIT there's a we we learn it from the Torah we read it not too long ago as hasem says as you saw mitz you will never see them again so we are not allowed to go into mitz so schom failed because with the horses the good horses came from Egypt and his advisers his workers who whoever was in charge of bringing horses they wanted the king to have good horses they end up going to MIT so therefore based on the oral Tor and based on our sages the reason why hasem concealed the reason of certain mitv is that I'm not going to start doing things based on my Common Sense this very simple explanation comes a much more deeper explanation why we don't have the the the it's called Tam Tam in Hebrew can be translated also as a taste when you eat something that doesn't have any taste you don't want to eat it you want to eat something that has a good taste and the better The Taste is the more you want to eat it that's why an explanation in Hebrew is called because when you understand it it tastes good you now now you want to do it so here comes a more deeper explanation based onic philosophy why Hashem did not want to reveal all theim the tastes of the mitv and this can be explained in a story there was once a very rich father and he had two boys one boy went in the path of the father in The Path of business and he became also very wealthy the other boy was not so successful in the financial side and he was actually pretty poor finally one day the poor brother got married so the father had a lot of money he of course he wanted to throw a very big wedding the father sends a letter to the rich son and says him says to him mazal your younger brother just got engaged and I want to throw for him a very big wedding since he doesn't have money I want to pay for everything now it's very important for me that you and your family will attend the wedding and since I want the wedding to look good I want you to buy nice clothes I want you to to dress the kids and he says to him in the letter whatever you do for me I will cover oh that's a nice promise from the father to the other son so the son says okay my father said says whatever I'm going to do for him he will cover he goes and buys beautiful suits for him and his boys beautiful dresses for his wife and daughters he buys his wife a lot of jewelry they buy a nice car to come to the wedding and he buys a lot of nice things comes to the wedding him and his wife and the kids are all dressed like royalty beautiful clothes beautiful jewelry beautiful cars comes the wedding and they celebrate the wedding and he he said okay it's not the right time to approach my father okay the whole week after the wedding every day they're celebrating the every day he's waiting for the father maybe to come and give him a check or at least to ask him how was how much is the expenses what do I owe you comes the last day the sh ends he's like wait a minute my father is not coming and telling me anything about the money I mean I put it on the credit card somebody has to pay the bill my father told me is going to pay for everything minutes before the whole event ends he says okay my father's not coming to me I'm going to go to my father he com tells him father you told me that whatever I will buy you're going to cover and I bought a lot of things the father says no you have a mistake he already started losing some heartbeats you know started changing colors and and he says but father you told me that whatever I will buy you will cover so the father says I never said such a thing and the boy says but you wrote it in my letter so the father says show me the letter he pulls out the letter and the father says oh I told you whatever you're going to buy for me I'm going to cover whatever you're going to do for me but everything that you did you did it for yourself you bought the clothes for yourself you bought the jewelry for yourself for your wife everything that you bought here you didn't buy it for me you bought it for yourself I'm not covering that I told you that I'm going to cover everything that you bought for me for my sake therefore I'm not buying bu paying for anything this comes to teach us something very simple is that when I understand something in what I do in a Mitzvah I do the mitzvah for myself if I don't understand the reason of the Mitzvah you know who I do it for I do it for hasem and Hashem says if I will tell you all the reasons behind the mitzvot you would do all the mitzvot for the sake of yourself and you wouldn't do it for me you would do the Mitzvah to get the reward you would do the Mitzvah to be saved from something bad here you don't know why you doing the Mitzvah so I'm giving you the opportunity to do it 100% for me you go to a family meeting assuming your family is not religious they all go to a restaurant everybody's ordering food you're not eating why aren't you eating it's not Kosher so what if it's not Kosher why aren't you eating it what's wrong with it Hashem said I'm not eating how many times you do something and somebody asks you why do you do that Hashem said why do you go to the mik Hashem told me to go why do You observe Shabbat why do you put F in on why you follow the rules of why you don't do this and that we just talked about about mixing things together why don't you do that Hashem told me so Hashem decided not to tell us the reason of many of the mitv so I will have something to say I'm doing it for the K and not for my own sake and not from my own gratification and not from my own result reward or Shalom to be saved from something that I don't want to and that's the deep meaning why Hashem is concealing in many of the mitv the reason behind it cuz he says I want to give you the opportunity to serve just me without any agenda without anything working in your back of your mind without you wanting to to to to receive or that you think that you deserve anything I want you to serve me sh for the sake of sham and this is the Deep and hidden meaning really why Hashem decided not to reveal the reason of many of the mitv and of course one of them is the red heer and this week's parasa comes to teach me that not to go to dissect too much the information why learn from the Torah the Torah tells me to do something don't do it for my sake for your sake do it for the sake of Hashem you have to learn whatever the Torah is willing to to give to to to show and that's fine but when something doesn't make sense don't try too much to go and understand me so many things happen in our life that don't make sense and you know before I went to this trip to London I fell down the stairs everybody was like I had 50 advisers don't do this do that kind of doesn't matter does it matter why I fa that's that's hashem's will it was pretty obvious why I fell but but even now when I was in London you know I had a car accident on the way to the airport and I missed the flight nothing happened but I missed the flight again another 50 advisers sometimes AEM does something he doesn't want you to know why everybody why do you think it happened it happened because of this it happened because of that who cares why it happened it happened it happened and it happens because has wanted it to happen yeah you want to check a little bit What's called the f to check maybe I did something wrong if something bad happens you have to check your record but you can't find something you find out that everything's fine okay sometimes hasem does something he just wants you to trust him he just wants you to thank him or to acknowledge the fact that hasem exists no need to to to dissect everything especially when it comes to a Mitzvah there are a lot of mitv that maybe people say listen I will follow the Torah where it says clear don't steal don't cheat don't lie don't commit adultery come and tell me don't eat meat and dairy I don't I don't see any reason I don't want to and many other of the it's don't make sense this par comes to teach me listen Hashem is hiding from you many things for your own benefit because he wants you to be serving Hashem with a pure heart for the sake of sham without an agenda without a reward wa therefore we have to take from here that our entire should be for the sake of hem even that I see that I'm getting some reward from that I wake up in the morning I'm hungry I eat because I'm hungry even that I should say no I'm eating because I have to have energy to say to serve hem if I reach to the point that I constantly serve hem for the sake of the heavens then I'm elevating myself to a much much higher level than I do things for myself one can come and say I go go to work because I need money because I want to buy myself new clothes and a vacation and a nice car and another person says no I go to work because I have to buy food in order for me to have energy to serve AEM and with the money that I earn I can give and I can buy and Dov and I can help other people so hasm says I want you to serve me without an agenda I want you to serve me for the sake of the of me the sake of hem and without finding out the details behind it so we should take from this simple but yet very deep teaching that it's not about me it's about what hasem ones and it's about serving Hashem for the sake of Hem Hem created me to serve him not to serve my own needs and not to serve my own desires and everything that is done in my life is for the sake of hem Shem wanted me to miss my flight there was obviously a reason for that and I saw later on all the reasons next class we're going to talk a lot a lot more about my flight because we can learn from that how to constantly be thankful to the Kosh that's whyem sometimes does things but now we want to concentrate on the fact that we have to keep it simple Shem says I I I don't I didn't tell you to ask too many questions because I don't want to give you too many answers keep it simple you know the T says be humble be simple don't need to question too many things just do it as a faithful servant if we'll be able to refine our level of service of hem to become a little bit more for the sake of sham and not to do it with an agenda I can guarantee to you we we'll definitely hasten the Redemption we'll make it come a little bit closer because it's going to be done for the sake of the If We complain all day long that we want mashia but my agenda is to get me out of my misery that which is already good because most people people even that they don't do I always say that Hashem puts everybody into a corner hem is putting us in in in a corner so I can scream for mashiah to come already but that's in a very low level because I want my misery to end but if a if a person is praying for the Redemption to come cuz he feels bad that the the feminine aspect of the Divine is in Exile then I'm doing it for the sake of the that's where we have to focus on that's where we have to look to that direction and with that little effort we should see very soon the coming of mashia we should have a beautiful beautiful week a beautiful month month of tamuz it says on the month of the T that it's the acronym reading the letters backwards that it's hting that here are coming the months of chuba and already in tamuz we should start working up very soon what do we have t that's it already and then tamuz is already the beginning of our time to do cha should have a beautiful beautiful prosperous and successful month and a beautiful beautiful week [Music] [Applause] [Music]