Why is it so Hard to Have Kavanah part 2 - Chizuk for Iron Sword by Rabbi Yitzchak Feigenbaum

good afternoon or good morning everybody once again a huge I know we do this every week but there's never enough AAR to the OU and all the people that are involved that arrange all these M should give them to continue helping CL in so many different ways and of course no greater Li the pardon me of the year should really be for all the people that need Yeshua all the hostages that have not yet been released all the the wounded people all s everybody who needs youhua over cell everybody that needs to stay safe because bers should keep them safe and sound and everybody should get back home M we should have aah Miracle soon so we are continuing on our subject last time what we did is we just we started discussing why is ding so hard why is it so hard to have confun we mentioned last week one idea pardon me we let mentioned last week one idea that daving a right um a few people ask me how we know that uh there are plenty of for it and it's just self-evident uh you just see um it it is true some people just communicate some people just don't communicate some people are talkers some people are not talkers right some people are organized because gives everybody some people were upset about this and let let's let just go back for two seconds so we can clarify things we don't want anybody I don't want anybody to be upset right um is everybody different natures and we will all have things that are easier or harder for us I mean some people have a hard time holding their temper and you're judged subjectively because buru knows what it means when he's judging you were you patient for some people everybody has different standards of patience for you that was quite Pat patient right I know how he created you I know the life that you had I know what it a struggle for you and you actually did quite well the other person no that was unacceptable you could have done a much better job I give you much different qualities no worse than Sedaka right or or organization ability right some people can organize fundraising events and some people don't have that gift right so if you're called upon it there's nobody else you'll do it but you'll do it you'll do it the best you can and say for you you did a quite good job and I'm very impressed for somebody else that would not have been considered a particularly good job for you that was a wonderful doing you're K it doesn't go well you have a hard time focusing you're a little add your mind doesn't turn off you have a hard time focusing on anything for God's sakes right see you can't focus on either that's your god-given nature in school when you were in high school you probably didn't sit still and listen in school either that's your god-given nature so goting is gonna be hard to sit for half hour and it's just you you don't sit and focus on anything for half hour you need to be running around and doing stuff and other people can sit and focus and just read for three hours straight and just pay attention to a three-hour class it's a god-given nature so if that if you have that kind of nature you can sit and doing for 45 minutes if you're add jumping around jumping out of your skin type of person focusing for 10 minutes is is is is a dramatic struggle that's what we said last week I hope that makes sense to everybody and all the people who emailed me and who were struggling a little bit with it um but seemingly self-evident today I want to focus on another Point why is it so difficult to do it there's a creative tension we touched on this before but I want to do it better now as a creative tension here there's a famous story of suer mayali died in 2011 I'm pretty sure uh I think the rash sha a huge Bic it's a famous story that uh somebody a lady had moved to a from France she was older looking for a sh struggling with getting herself married and she had a friend who was very close toak May so he said let's go toak May and then you'll get a get a from she goes on to they make an appointment right and the lady trans slaves you know because slave only speaks French doesn't speak Hebrew right and uh she explains she gives her a and he tells her he says okay listen he says here's what you need to do you need to say and fam many of which we're all saying now also famous proam of till and she writes wait wait wait wait wait she's writing and she's writing in french letters he says okay he says fighter gring she goes home and and the lady say you understand what he said said yeah yeah I wrote down I I wrote down I wrote down what he said a month later she calls her friends and said it's a miracle it's it's a miracle the rabis BR came I got engaged it's a night it's a I did what the rabbi said and look at that four weeks later sh Zam I'm engaged and she the lady says what do you mean what the rabbi said I said exactly what you told me to say he said said oh you you you don't read Hebrew so you got you got a them in in in French like transliterated are you you read the English what what did you read she said what did I read what did I read what well he told you to to read different chapters until him she said I don't know what he told me to say I said I I wrote down what he said and I say every day I got up but I took my paper and I said I said oh go I said what he said he told me to say it I said it and a miracle a month later I got engaged there's truth to these stories stories you know about sham the kid says alive and it's worth more than everybody's fos um you want of the most heartfelt filo that I ever heard in my whole life I don't believe any anybody ever ding better when I was principal at firsto in Toronto so I taught nth grade Kish it was my favorite class taught nth grade Kish I walk into Kish class one day and there's a young lady sitting at the front of the thing right I'm giving a test that day and I walk in and as I walk in I see she's mumbling to herself she's mumbling to herself so I think she must be repeating like a Rashi she probably reviewing a p or something and as I got closer I hear her saying I said M should come before I have to take r f Mom's test so I said uh you know young lady it it doesn't look like that's going to happen I the tested like now she goes I know what am I going to do I said why don't you dab in the mchi should come before I grade your test her eyes lit up and with heart she has to come before F my test so unfortunately for her and unfortunately for us that that obviously did not happen right but that's that's it's a conversation with a k you can't do F you can't do F you can do fill it a guy some's guy goes over to somebody at the C and grabs his arm and wraps some leather stuff around him and plung something on the guy's head he just works fill it whether he knows what he's doing or he doesn't know what he's doing he doesn't they make no difference whole world if it Happ to be PES KN and some guy sitting around and says hey why don't you have this s what is it I just eat it man I said eat it what was it that was Mata he ate M on face night he got the MIT not the highest MIT not the greatest MIT not the most you know if you're dressing appropriately you're dressing appropriately you know you can't do F you can't do it's a conversation with a and people and she had a conversation with the c b whatever she thought she met on the other handes as we mentioned a few classes ago BL KES his power in the words if if the words didn't matter would have made such a structure and there will be so many H if you miss it if you change it oh my gosh right people you know why some people can't have they're so OCD I right they they're still they all they'll never get it right because by the time they switch to Masaru they're still afraid they said right this a lost cause right but the words are so so the words aren so important help if you talking English you don't have to worry about it so why you get so hung up Hebrews Hebrew words are words it's a tricky tricky a tricky thing right but other hand you need famous for I don't think I didn't put this in my S I don't know why it's a good for whether you say a lot or you say a little as long as you're live as long as your heart is I say to be the Hebrew word which implies doing extra and more is the word g more extra also G what's the letter before G gim before gim is a b the Hebrew word which is minimizes things is but not everything but only this that minimizes sa right what's the letter after in the word b l as long as you're La doesn't matter if your Mar your M you say more you say less your heart but the words are words are crucially important and a lot of people get hung up on that they don't know if they should do it in English they don't know should do it in Hebrew they don't should say the Hebrew and focus on the English it it becomes a big tension for many people who want to do it right there's no one solution no one solution as we mentioned tillum is a different ball okay there's a special special concept of tillum we mentioned this before if you're saying tillum every gu say twoam of tillum even if you don't understand what it means as long as saying I don't know what these words mean but said that we say this a good Lord listens God you know what he meant I whatever he said I agree I'm in and you just say it that's powerful and that's important to say in Hebrew when you're regularly ding into him your shoner you're making requests you could try a mix and match right my suggestion to people is if you're who's not perfect and you don't know exactly what all bros mean so mix and match stop and every day take one and stop and like just talk in normal English and speak out what you think that Braha means every day switch it around so that Braha become more real become more meaningful especially if you know you're like you've been doming for like you know 60 years right and uh you know what I mean it it it just stop and stop for a second and just a normal regular and say what the heck I ask for here what make a list of all the things you would like to understand and plug that into it's that tension which which drives people crazy uh many times and and and you have to find your own your own balance whatever he you can say is crucial but it has to be a conversation and you have to put it in your own words otherwise you're not having a conversation with god the law just mumbling Hebrew words is not like you you put on leather straps and it was fill in whether you know it or not that that's not true with you just Mumble Hebrew you don't know what you said that that you well I dove in no filling it works mat works you shake a Lula you shook the lul you don't know what's fly you shook it at the right time bingo you got a m mumbling shr without having any clue what's flying right is is is is not feel till him is till that's the special power and you know what else gets in the way of people we're gonna go back to um and I want to focus on we're up to it and I think it's one of the uh most important and Ne most skipped overs of the it it doesn't get the credit that it deserves so technically we we were up toah that's a pretty straightfor thank you we have Solid Ground you establish ground over the waters we have Solid Ground on which to build our lives again one of the examples of Bak where we take things that we so take for granted I can stand up straight I have clothes to wear I can see right and Me Say Yeah well you know that's not always true for everybody not everybody has Solid ground there's earthquake there's floods that they you got you can stand when you wake up in the morning and you stand up in the ground and solid don't take that for granted thank AEM for it which is the overall thing but now comes a huge one and again it doesn't get as much um um um credit or power as people should give it sh how do we think we translate that folks right thank you Hashem right king of the world shali that you provided me you made for me call sori all my need now that's a little funny because if that's true then there's nothing else to D for then why you ding for why you doubting for parasa and why you going to ask hem you know to help you find a job or why you doubting that Hashem should find you know hasem gives you everything you need if he gives you everything you need so just shut up so what are you asking for he gave you everything you need you just said that he gives me everything I need that's the famous problem with that and first of all he gave me everything I need that's a little hard when you're struggling with ABC your health ain't the best grandchildren ain't doing so great uh the the money's not coming like it's supposed to uh your neighbor is driving you uh crazy we all have things that we think are not going the way they're supposed to and we need help but wait a minute he gave me everything I need and how the mforum explain is whatever you have given me that gotta be what I need not more not less that's the power of the Braha we believe you gave me what I need same L I forget one of the rits he was very poor and they said said how do you make that you're so poor he said must think that I need poverty and look look how much poverty he gave me that's wonderful right you gota be a Reit to do that but but that's what we have to believe but if whatever you gave me must be what I need not more not less and that's the power of this braa and that's what I believe okay and that goes with by the way not only health wealth Etc but all the struggles right you giv me all the difficult difficulties that I'm going through these are things that I need to deal with in order to be the best me that I can be that's also part of us called s say the b mus right all the stuff in life that you've given to me all the things I'm going through as difficult as they are whatever troubles Health troubles the prosa troubles the children troubles grandchildren troubles you know neighbor troubles whatever cousins the Army whatever troubles you have also be called sari that that that I need these things to help grow and and exercise certain muscles that need to become stronger certain Bon muscles certain patience muscles certain making do with what I have muscles certain um I know appreciate what you do have muscles that's also aolly called Sor but then why am I ding for things a called Sor if I needed more money sh will give it to me here's famous was cursed you're gonna e dirt all days of your life what a curse what a curse hey all the other animals they gotta struggle for food they gotta go fight other animals for food they gotta go find vegetation they got to wander the Earth the snake wherever he goes he got food that ain't so bad oh not very tasty but like why is that such a horrific curse why is that so bad he got it made for the rest of his life I remember used to say this all the time it's a curse because a doesn't need to turn to Hashem anymore he has no relationship to Hashem he has it all and if he has it all he's never going to turn to and talk to him told the is here you have it all don't talk to me again I don't want to hear your I don't want to see your face I don't want to talk to you goodbye have a nice day bye out the door and bye goodbye you have it all you don't have D and he goes off and T doesn't need anything else no reason for him to turn to hashm yeah it's turn and goodbye we have a need to create a relationship with and he knows we're not going to do that when we're overabundant with good and we're just bursting with thanks so we talk to him all day and all night thanking him for what we have it's not how we work we need to create a relationship with and sometimes the only way he can get help us do that is by having us lack things that we do need and forcing us to ask for it a little kid when they're walking they take the first two steps what does the father and mother do they walk backwards if I was a kid I'd say hey yo you wanted me to walk I took two steps forward and now you're walking backwards hello why don't you walk towards me and then he takes another three steps and I'm almost there then the father takes another few steps back what he some kind of sness what the heck is the matter with this guy shot is the father knows I want him to walk if I just stop there he'll never walk more I keep on walking backwards he keeps on walking more I keep on walking backwards it keeps on walking more someday the kid will thank me for this because it's training his legs how to walk because ber needs to train us how to talk to him and we just don't talk to him when the only thing we need to say is thanks we say thans and then we forget about right but we need stu oh we talk we DAV we cry we beseech us called sori yes I'm in Shon I'm gonna ask for things that I believe I need I believe hash gave me everything I need and I think what he thinks I need is I think he needs I think he thinks that you know what I need I need to talk to him some more and therefore he's like that helped me find a job so I I I think what he thinks I need more I need to do better that's why I don't have a job and thank you for for not giving me my job yet or having struggle with this uh medical uh issue or struggle with this financial issue uh not meeting payday or whatever it might be thank you for doing that because that is going to force me to dve in with more cavana which unfortunately I wouldn't if I didn't have the problem that's when we say us called sari we believe that gives us everything we need whatever struggles we have these are important struggles for us they're good for us they build our spiritual muscles and whatever we are lacking that we think we are lacking is because Hashem knows that we need a little nudge to dive in a little better a little harder to work out our closeness with him a little more and unfortunately the best way to do that is when we're in struggle and when we're missing things we do that and Brook will respond and and if we keep on talking to him a lot then maybe he wouldn't have to push us do right because there's issues Ali he should push us to ding because we have so much abundance of good that we're so thankful all the time that we're ding is super duper because we're saying thank you rather that our ding becomes super duper because we're struggling with struggles everybody have a beautiful and wonderful day and beautiful give everybody all the Bros and all the blessings and and andurs that colell need it's a time for n right so would you oh somebody asked would you ask Hashem to give you pain no we don't ask hasem we don't ask hasem to to give us tests but if there's things that we know we're struggling with maybe the reason he hasn't answered if he gives me everything I need obviously he feels if I have pain he feels I must need it because I'm I'm not focusing well when I'm healthy and I'm taking my health for granted and therefore I I don't ding well when I'm healthy and therefore I doing better when I'm in pain we never ask AEM for so we don't ask AEM hasem I think my life is too good please make something go wrong because I'm afraid I won't D it well no we don't ask for that BR who knows we need it he'll give it to us we never we don't ask God to put us in in a situation of a test because we don't know if we'll be able to pass it because only gives you test that you can pass and if he's not giving us that test either because he loves us we don't need it or he's afraid we'll mess it up one of the three have a beautiful and wonderful day everybody yasher okay a huge amount of