“When Hashem says No!” by Rabbi Yitzchak Feigenbaum

thank right again as was said just in case you didn't catch you that is this is the the last of the OU Zoom she baram everything is going back to the OU Center check out if you get the tarit you can get it online you can check out on the website and you'll see exactly which you are going on when by whom um at the U Center again as a as a as a a few people who ask me mention as scheduling has changed I traditionally always taught on Wednesdays that was my only open morning and that's the way things rearranged now that we're coming getting everybody getting back together Wednesdays is not working so um I will not be back in the center for the moment but a merem will something I'm sure we will figure out and it all get back together so a huge sh to everybody who is always joined and then please really just go to the website and you'll see how if you're assuming you're in Nel you can walk into the center and they sure and there are posted all the sh there are also recorded but I spoke that was recorded So if you check out the website all the sh that you will see given if you don't happen to be in y or can't get to the OU Center at that time you can go to the website you'll find there a lot of wonderful people giving sh there again the exclusive this learning should be for everybody all those who need to get home safely who to stay safe should watch over them and guard over them the exclusive Li Tor uh should take care of everybody who needs a Yeshua andit to the OU for um hosting and taking care of all these Zoom shum uh this whole time so our last the series we've been doing ding for the while so I just want to end with one with one important concept and that is as we know we DAV and we D we D we DAV and and everybody knows you know sometimes Hashem says no no is also an answer hasm always answers your F but sometimes the answer is no right um and we understand the fact that we're just human beings and that um know why do we think we should be able to understand everything how cish bir who does right why would we think that we're merely five senses we don't see everything and S Tomy Pao M we see the uh you the miraculous survival of the Jewish people there's clearly a plan and when there's details that don't seem to make sense so that's often it doesn't seem to make sense but but and we discussed earlier the concept of muscle elota muscle tto a very important concept there are certain things in our lives that kbu put into place and are unchangeable it's just it's job it's just what a wants us to deal with so just deal with it and say thank you and you'll understand it in 120 years when you get to Sham and other things are changeable and we never know which is which so we just stop it and we ask to change things that we think we would be better off if we would have a orc but I just want to De with one more kind I want to give you a very famous Marshall which has stood me in good stead um and has helped thousands it is not mine at all I originally saw the name of a hutner but then after some further research I discovered that this actually was a mus used by in his last to his as the Nazis were were just you know circling in and and everyone realized the end was basically imminent and there was they were trapped and there was no way out and he was giving everybody and he gave the following musle which is a great muscle to help us deal with um collectively as col Israel and personally when we D and we do and K B just seems to be saying um though his muscle is like this I mean well I'll update a little bit but the concept is this and the power of the musle is is that the details work really well explains a lot of things that's what it's it's a it's a a brilliant brilliant muscle let's take you have a guy who grows up in in in the big city and every morning he he leaves his apartment and he goes next door to the supermarket and he buys himself a bagel because he that bagel for breakfast he's never left the city in his whole life anything about what say the city does a job he works at home and you know Supermarket he buy bagels and one they say you know I got to get out of here like I've never seen anything but the buildings in concrete I TR go see what's going on like out of the city and he takes the drive out we're gonna use our imagination he comes he sees a beautiful field this says wow look at this beautiful field beautiful it's nice it's green it's pretty and he stops to look at it and says wow we could build apartment buildings here I I could build a shopping center here we can do all sorts of stuff here and he sees that guy come out with a really strange contraption that he's never seen before some kind of like a machine with like knives on it and he's R riding up and down the field ripping it up into mud and the guy says that's that's ridiculous why why would anybody do that now look now it's just a muddy feel that it's us that's what what a terrible guy then he watches and he sees a guy's walking up and down the field has has a bowl with some stuff and he's dropping things into the mud and he goes over he sticks his hand into the bowl there's these little funny things and he takes it and see what he said like this is edible and he says this guy's a horrible person he's throwing food into mud what lunatic throws food into mud and if he would walk out now he'd say I just saw the most horrible thing there a horrible guy who took what was really a nice piece of beautiful land and ripped it into mud and threw food in the mud that's terrible but he decides to waits to see and we're going to use our imagination he waits and he sees stuff growing out and sees pretty like round and white like flowers coming up they stand tall and straight and now he looks and says wow this this is beautiful this is like some golden color and brown and he says oh now I got it I was I was so stupid see I thought this guy was a bad guy because see I thought he was like ripping up a beautiful field and turning it into mud and then throwing food into the mud and that's horrible but I was wrong you know what he was doing doing he was growing pretty yellow brown flowers that's what he was doing and now this makes sense and everything is great and it's just is about to leave he sees the guy come and like cut all the flowers down and he says I wonder why he's doing that maybe he's gonna put them in a vase and and take them to people in the hospital or maybe take them to an old age home I guess that's what he's going to do but then that's not what the guy does the guy takes these pretty nice flowers and starts grinding them up into a powder and he says to himself why why would you do that why would anybody do that and his conclusion right now is this guy is more evil than I thought in the first place first I thought he was evil because he's ripping up a field and throwing food in the mud okay so he's nuts but now he's just evil because he he spent the time to grow a beautiful flower and then grindes it into a useless powder that's that's sick that that's just that's just really evil sick and he's I gotta get out away from this guy and he watches the guy take the powder and he puts it into a bowl and he pours water in and putting stuff in and mixing it around and he said what's he doing he walks over and he sticks his hand in that bowl and he picks up some of the goop right and he tastes it and he says oh that's that's pretty good sowh do you call this stuff the guy looks at him like and he said this is called dough he said oh I never saw this before in my life this is really interesting that's it's pretty good and now he says oh I I was robong the whole time first I said he was a bad guy because he's ruining a beautiful piece of land I was wrong then I thought oh he's a good guy he DRS pretty flowers but that's not true that wasn't what he was doing then I thought he was super evil because he destroyed pretty flowers and that wasn't what he was doing either he was making yummy dough now I understand completely I misread the whole thing he gets back into his car and he's about to leave and he sees this man take that dough roll it into like a ball open up some box there's a big fire burning in this box and he throws the D Into the Fire And he says what' you do that for what why would you do why would you do that and now he's completely perplexed th this guy is like more evil than you could think of you go through that whole process of making this yummy dough and in the end you just burn it to a crisp that's that that that's that sicker than he ever thought and now every nothing makes sense now and he says I gotta get out of here and right before he leaves the man opens the boots and takes on a bagel and he says hey that's a bagel and he said 'y yeah what' you think it would he said I don't know like who are you man like what are you doing he said I'm a farmer and and I I was growing flower in order to fake Bagels what what' you think I I don't know I never thought the for my whole life that was like really interesting and now he looks back and he realized he never understood anything what he thought was good was not good oh it grows pretty flowers you're an idiot wasn't growing pretty flowers that's weet what you stupid right well what a bad guy he's grinding flowers into useless powder what are you talking about he's making flower what what are you saying right oh he he's a guy who makes yummy dough no's making yummy dough what are you talking about he's even you don't know what you don't know what you're saying now that the bagel comes out of the oven now everything makes sense he wasn't growing pretty flowers he wasn't a bad guy he was he was a guy who's making bagels and and that's how you make bagels but how was he to know well how was I to know man I don't know I never thought I was go to the supermarket and buy Bagels how was I supposed to know where Bagels come from okay not mad at you you didn't know how where Bagels come from but you misread the whole thing that is US my friends K with a 6,000 year plan of Jewish history which we are getting closer to the end of where you know 57 to 84 we're getting towards the end everybody right 6,000 years of Jewish history we have not yet seen the bagel come out of the oven we haven't seen the end she comes then it'll all put together we don't know the system we're like that guy we don't we don't know a Shem system we we have we don't know the calculations we don't know what we're looking at so we look at things and say oh was so nice oh look look at that happen I W the lottery oh look oh look at that so amazing that's great we actually don't even know oh that was terrible why don't she do that that's horrible that's that's so not nice that's so not fair that's so that's what what and B was like that guy say what what what's your problem what what is your problem you know what I'm doing it looks terrible you know what I'm doing no actually don't why you grinding that pretty yellow flower into useless powder what are you talking about what pretty yellow flow into what useless powder this is wheat man and and this is flour to bake bread like what what are you fling that's us we're that guy we have no idea of the system we don't know what's good and we don't know what's bad and just like that guy what he thought was good oh look that man's growing pretty brown flowers you're a dope that's not I mean that's not it's not what he's doing right or what he thought was bad oh look he's ripping up a beautiful Beast of ground he's plowing you're a lunatic right what he thought was bad wasn't bad what he thought was good wasn't even good he misread the whole show every step of the way every decision he made about that man was completely off kilter because he didn't know what was going on we are standing next to him and saying you know you sound like an idiot you know that you have no idea what you're talking about this guy's a farmer that's called plowing that's called wheat that's called grinding what are you're make you're just making noise and you don't know what you're saying that's us we make decisions all along the way in our life that was fair that wasn't fair that was beautiful that was terrible that stinks that's great you you don't know what you're looking at we don't know what we're looking at in our individual lives 120 years we get to shamai we look back at our life and you know as they always say when you get up to Shaman you can ask a baru all your questions the problem is you're not even going to remember what the questions were you're not GNA remember what didn't make sense to say I'm gonna ask God when I get there boy you're gonna get there and say yeah what was your question I I don't remember it's all going to make like oh who how Who would thought and when Mia comes we look back at 6 thousand years of world history and all play together and put out together and all the things that we were freaking out about will make sense all the things we were so happy about well we'll see it a much different perspective that's what we need to have in our heads diving and Diving and Diving and Diving and we're so sure we're diving for something that it just makes so so much Bar says no right Bar says no we don't have the ability to understand it because we don't know the system and we haven't seen the bagel come out of the oven we haven't seen the end of the process yet sometimes in our lives we do right all the story books you know 50 years later you realize because you ended up having to go there so you met the person there who 40 years later ended up being the one who saved you and D had it not been and it's a Cheesy video and you cry and it's an amazing story flying around the internet sometimes that's right sometimes that happens and who knows if that's really the end of the story who knows if in 120s he'll get to shamim and you'll look at that story that made you cry because he thought it was amazing and that was there only half the story and you don't even appreciate fully what was going on because brother's laughing his head off as it is say everyone's so impressed you don't even know the whole story you don't know the backdrop and you know the end of it and everyone was freaking out about this little blip out of 6,000 years of world history and all that by the way is in our doent let me for our as I can for the people that just joined to remember this is our last OU Zoom uh sheare all the Shar well I mean should never say borem they're stopping but all this are Bor going back to the OU Center check the website and you'll see who is teaching what and when and they are all recorded if you can't get there because you're either in y or you're very far away from y they're all recorded all online listen to a beautiful shot I discovered this is our this the one feel where everybody sort of like wakes up because this is where we can add our own personal requests listen to our voice right why do we sayu right listen to our voice we don't say listen to our words because we know our words are we're not articulate we don't if we're saying the Hebrew that we don't know what we mean so the words really may not make any sense and even if we're talking in English we may not get the words out right but you can tell from someone's voice how sincere they are listen listen listen list to our voice right who controls everything listen listen to the sound of our voice we're sincere we're we're clearly agitated this is very important to us us right accept right with what do you mean accept with even if we're not really deserving right so accept our with if we don't deserve it based on the letter of the law but with favor if we are deserving then accept it with favor because we are deserving it we don't want to get be given something by Mercy if we deserve it because you listen you listen to do not turn us away empty headed ra from you are King wake them empty-handed Al don't don't don't turn us away empty-handed right then we addos and we say you listen to everybody what do you mean don't turn this away empty-handed we just said listen to our voice and accept OS accept with ra if we don't deserve accept with r if we do deserve we said accept our fos so that's where asking accept our fos so what don't turn this away empty-handed listen to a pelic of chat it's in my S but listen to a pelic shot we accept the fact that sometimes the correct answer is no we don't know what we're watching we're we're we're the we're the we the you know we're that that that City guy is say oh my God she's destroying a pretty brown flower someone stop it it's weak he's grinding flow relaxed he wh we don't know what we're seeing so we're getting upset we need this we got to have that we can't have this this is terrible T because sh's going to answer us the proper and sometimes the answer is going to be no no bir was saying someday you'll thank me for this the answer is no but even if Hashem is not GNA give us what we want and he hasn't yet given us what we want and we have a feeling maybe he's never going to give us what we want don't return us empty-handed don't make us feel as if you didn't even listen the opportunity to talk to even if the best answer is no and we have to muster up all our am be tled and say no okay thank you I don't get it but I'm sure you just saved my life by saying no I I trust you we the three-year-old whose mother said no you can't have that candy bar because it's two minutes before supper and the kids response says you hate me the mother says fine I hate you whatever it you you're not eating no chocolate but we're old enough to know that if it's no it's a good reason just make us at least feel that you hurt we can't walk away from Thea say wow I should have heard look I walked out of theila and and here it is here here's the check just arrived in the mail I I just got the email that gave me the job I just got a phone call from the hospital you know Bubby just turned around and she's out of her coma and she's on her way to recom and it didn't happen it it didn't happen right so I just wasted myray at least give us the the feeling give us the sense that K give us a some kind of a sign somewhere that you heard heart fos don't just turn us away empty-handed as if you didn't listen even if you're gonna say no I I accept the no I just don't want to be turned away completely empty-handed as if you didn't even bother to listen to what I said because bar always listens to what we said hears what we say cares about what we say but we'll say no if that's the best thing for us because everything does is for the best even we don't see it so when we say sh and when we put in all our requests and we ask for what we believe we think we need and we ask and we ask and we ask and for 20 30 40 years we may be asking for the same thing because we really really really think it would be so good for us even though as yet a seems to feel it's not and we can't understand don't let us walk away empty-handed make us at least feel give that little sense in our give us a a inner feeling when we finish our Shon that us feel with us let's just end this series with the famous V from RAB that's how we end it's a beautiful thought if you've never heard it to go through your day says like this what do we say when we end the daving Shalom makes peace up in the heavens shom he should make peace among ourselves we we don't know we've do it so well ourselves but can help us live in peace with all the rest of right IM and may you all say say who we talking to when the says at the end of of aades IM he's talking to the congregation and everybody says you're saying a silence IMU is a command in the plural you plural say Amen to whom are you giving that command to say Amen to your request says RAB you know who you're giving it to you're giving it to the two angels that accompany me through life sends two angels to guard you as you go through your day and they're right next to you listening to youron they know about what's going to be the yes and what's not going to be the yes the angels that are with you please say to all my including the that it should never feel didn't listen even if he has to say no at least let me feel that he listened let me feel his presence as I go through my day should all be will answer all we should be that he answers our and gives us exactly what we do need and please don't give me what I don't need we should always feel his presence and the angels that are with us all the time and those angels should protect us and everybody out there all the hostages all the everybody who needs protection their angel should please guard them and watch them and make sure that everybody gets back home safe and sound thank you very much to all the people who have been following on and listening once again this is our last sheer uh but please go to the OU website and you'll be able to see the times of 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