Tzur Mishelo | Rabbi Dr. Aaron Adler

the year is um weekly dedicated for this year by the fris family memory of and um we're going to do the immensely popular set to so many different and as it say we don't know who the author is there is no acros here to give us a hint so um it's just going it was for posterity we don't know who the author of this beautiful song is so let's just say a few words about the Mitzvah of we're all familiar with the but many people generally forget when they say that that the word doesn't mean the globe it means because you have to see it in the context of where it's found so there if you just look at the um the second page Source number seven which is the source of this is reviewing the Journey of 40 years in the desert you remember the the long way God LED you 40 years in the desert there were so many things that happened in those 40 years that put you to a test you were tested and one of the tests was that you didn't receive um adequate amount of food on the table to satiate you you had enough food on the table to get through the day nobody's going to perish from U starvation or malnutrition but to say that you got up from the table after a portion of M and said ah what a good meal nobody said that was telling them I you were tortured means tortured you were tortured and you were starved now not starved to death you are given food which you never saw this before has no history fathers never saw this either but there was a reason for this to teach you man does not live on bread alone this is not the purpose for living what's the next meal you know the some people their entire life revolves around menus and uh what they're going to eat and what they're going to eat and what they're going to eat and um but every mother that's why they say what is the what was the name of the first vessel in the isra Navy it was SS man you have to know a little yish this doesn't translate well SS my my child eat eat eat SS right the thing is that most probably was true right but fine that's aish Mama fine talking no doubt so that wanted that should understand that they entering Isel for is for a higher value there's going to be plenty of food not to worry but that's not why we're living you will live by what came out of A's mouth that is to say the Tor and then it goes on to say you're going to a good land it's a land with with Wes with all kinds of mountain mountain and and and the valleys and so on so yesterday my wife wentong to you so she can tell you all about this P because it's true it's it's very very true but I heard a great ver say which means with trouble sometimes you have to pay a price for having ER Isel but the uses the phrase which means with trips just you know that's the you know already heard this so is telling them you're going into a good land the land of the seven species of [Music] fruits means like you know NE it's not going to be a neb situation you're gonna have plenty of bread you're not miss anything there are raw materials in this land you'll be able to prosper and build this was a new word in the Lexicon I mean they ate before but they never had a sensation of being satisfied and when you have a sensation of satisf satisfaction in eating don't forget to thank for giving us the land the land is so we also say so at least according to the ran he said that when you come you should know what to do after you finish eating so that's why we have or that even we ought to think of and thank for the land but it has nothing to do with the wheat that grows in in Nebraska or wherever else it grows that's not what it is it's it's for my father before they came in 1993 so on the seventh of where here in we beganing for rain was delayed it's all Shar on itself we not going to digress now for a secular date of December 4th so to start tal so my father used to start saying tal in the context of the from in he said it when they said it but you Inu it's a it's a wild card and you can say whatever you want and he would for in in the context of because in total identification with with and that that's that's that's exactly what the Tora is teaching us here that that you have to thank for the so this is where baton comes from it's obviously it's one of the mitv of the 613 the thing is to in order to qualify and be active you have to be satisfied from your meal kazal said you know what rically we're gonna say batone even if you're not terribly satisfied as long as you ate a kaz's worth of bread which is basically about a half a slice of bread no and and you can eat a little less than that and still eat other things to to add it up so we say batone on a rabbi level unless you you ate a meal that you really got up and you said ah that was delicious that was good meal so then you're biblically um obligated in it was the ran who says there's another in the listing of 613 that's the of saying on Torah study so it's a different Mitzvah according to ran the r doesn't list it the but the say who in his listing which matches the listing of the rambam he's a student of the ramban and he do some intellectual gymnastics by forging together by saying just as on physical uh food material food there's a need for a clearly there's a need for a on spiritual food as well so he grafts the of upon so where did he get this Grand idea from from okay this is all an entree to the song so let's see the song first and then we'll see what's going to go on here that's the refrain right hear the first we ate from our bread we we drank from our wine and and the second the the second stanza is so what's the second that's all the second what's the third obviously it's not a quote but it's paraphrase it's it's obviously poetically rewriting the third the could that be the fourth maybe because the third line says so the fourth the so you have a poem that somehow um talks about batone in all four stanzas so much so that this led some of the poim and I'm not talking about you know sideline poim I'm talking about the likes of the V and his prime student the founder of the volan to suggest that one should not say SL singal on chabas why not why not as a matter of fact the Minar is that this if you're going to sing it at all we usually do it as the last of It's Always it's found in the in the Bon at before Bening it's almost like a prologue to Bening people usually sing it before bat it's a type of entree to batone and you know you get the feeling of what bat is according to the V and a student it's so closely related to Bon that it is possible that you actually fulfilled your obligation of benching with singing or saying my wife doesn't like this what funny it's funny it's funny okay um now the question is to arrive even at obviously most of Israel aren't taking it all that seriously why because nobody has intention with the song sural to bench secondly in all likelihood people haven't begun to sit down and understand what a lot of people don't know what it is like they don't understand it's a song like they don't know dra and they don't know and they don't know and for sure they don't understand so we try to explain this now and now our singing Friday night should be a little different the U so if you don't know what it is certainly not an issue what was that why is it just Friday night right it's it it could be anytime you bench so my question is the question so I'm gonna try to answer this how this got into the bener but it's not a shabas song all the others we saw were clearly Shabbat songs with singing the praise of chabas from all different angles this is a bat Zone you can sing it on a Tuesday before your bench for lunch so uh so so what why is it there why is it there so I'll if the rep asked that question so I I'll give an answer at this point because of man the enters into the Tor from because of the message of M as we just saw and mun fell two portions on Friday and that was the Mish concept that we talked about there last week the Mish and we remember Shabbat we remember the man falling on Shabbat through the miracle of the man that six days we go to work and what meant go to work open the door scoop up the m and on Shabbat you don't open the door the first message of Shabbat that studies way before the giving of the T this is before Mah this is in three a few days after cre yamu and they are you know the were the food the the food packages are empty and they need to eat and this is what they're given to eat and only 40 years later does give them the message but because the man is a is is a Shabbat concern and through the lesson of man we then are given the Mitzvah of baton so Friday night when we have the leishna on the table and we get a bench for mishna we're going to sing now some people do in the morning by the way but it's no a you know you can sing it also for sure not but this is how these minim come about but it's clearly not a shabas song It's a song of B so the question is why would anybody suggest that just saying or singing the song The LV say the sing you know the they why why this would be in in in place of B that the V going and rep volan would suggest just leave it out and just do the right there is a concept called there are some who claim that if you do a Mitzvah without intention to fulfill the Mitzvah you fulfill your obligation anyway now one second there's a there's a dispute on this and most by and large you have to have intention so if you're singing you don't have a mind the mitvah you're not going to fill the obligation anyway and that's why instituted a before the performance of Mitzvah so that we should have proper kav proper intention and focus that what we're gonna take a Lulu now we're gonna listen to the Scher now we're gonna eat matah now it's not because I want to eat a piece of matah and a cracker but because I'm doing it for the Mitzvah the problem is when you say without then we're in big trouble then they created because you may not have kav for the and what if you don't have for you need you know that's what the M says you know this just doesn't end you know at some point you're going to realize you're doing it for the Mitzvah so the and were worried maybe is in accordance with the opinion that that you can fulfill the Mitzvah even without kavana and then by saying singing shal you already registered so the is that's what they were worried about so let's see if this can actually happen the you look at the sour for First Source on number one middle of the first page from the it says T say writer says whoever does not include the themes that ER Isel is this wonderful cherished great land and and also mentioned the reestablishment of the monarchy the kingdom of notice there are necessary ingredients in which means if you don't include these factors in these ingredients I use that because it's a food thing if you don't Factor these ingredients into your you've said nothing continues another opinion very rarely quoted by the way Brit you have to mention Brit says you have to mention the giving of the Toro another name that shows up here and there if you can already say and so the should precede your mentioning of T why was given with the word Brit three times I'm sorry Torah was given three times but Brit was given with 13 the word it's found 13 times with regard to the giving of the Tor the mentions the word Brit only three times so so you see that that Brit has a a over summing it all up you have to have all these ingredients in now have this in our Bening we have this in the and then later we have that there it's all there it's all there in our text of based on these views in the and the last view RAB ABA becomes the one who sums it up and that's why the rambam in Source number two basically sums it up just look at the last line very important we talk about the restoration of the monarchy in is the consolation of galut will never be complete if we are under a foreign power because the ramam says when he talks about you want to know the big big difference between today's days and the days of MH that we're going to have our own sovereignty in ER Israel of course this speaks largely of but how exactly with the ram view our contemporary situation that's not our sh today but that's been spoken about greatly what how would the rambam see the current situation of a Jewish government in Israel which is clearly not yet David but the rambam had high regard for the Kash Dynasty in the Kaneka story which was also far from being yet he recognized it as an important event in history as we see in Kaneka he says that in the laws of Kana so R almost probably would see it positively with room for improvement and change but certainly not negatively but the Raman believed that you had to get all these things in to bat in this uh Source number two he talks about the Brit and it all has to be there and it's all there and he quotes the that Brit 13 and the Tor has three therefore you have to have by the way this business of mentioning the Brit as being an integral part of batone LED some of the poim ladies I don't want anybody fall the chair now let some of the posim suggest that women are not obligated biblically in Bat because of this requirement of mentioning the brid so as just a type of rinic add-on that kazal said you know what the lady should also bench but most postum do not accept that and say that Amel is Amel and therefore even though the Brit is on nevertheless women are part of T it's all part of the package and and and therefore they're they're obligated in batone from a Biblical point of view I'm just pointing it out not to make trouble here but that you because you're you have to know that there such a so if somebody tells you that you know you know you don't have to bench because you're a woman you tell them that's you know and show the person up that's it yeah right of the land correct right and then and then they'll come and they say women don't have the obligation of but don't stop don't start up with me on that no no no that's said also even with regard to obligation of Tor so because there's whole discussion about where women have the obligation of T the did want to challenged that said he never challenged that the the the believed that there was another Mitzvah of narak Mitzvah that obligates Torah study and that's the love of God and the ram said love he not to throw kisses to the it was intellectual that's a quote from it's all directly proportional to your the intellectual cultivation and it's done by T and the and the ram says everybody's included everybody men women and child right so B so the question there is do you see is it that b received the section or they received it in name of the deceased father that's no question about it and with regard to Brit by the way why don't you get up and yell and say that's we got it right so that's whether women could be a so someone to say women can be a and and if it's a the day the Sundown and at five minutes and there's no M but a woman knows how to do a brid she should do it according to theim who say that a woman you did it on on elzar on the son of mhu and mhu was was a little negligent there it says but U they they they some say this was before Matra and therefore you can't really learn from it and there's a discussion discussion about it but to say that uh that a woman is you know just boxed out of any Mitzvah that's that's not the case there's practicalities in certain Mitzvah but in terms of commitment to Torah a woman is committed to Tarak Mitzvah no less than a man when they when when a woman comes for gor to be a gor they don't tell her to accept the mitzvot that men are obligated they ask her to accept 613 mitzvot even the Mitzvah that's a and a Mitzvah that's a and and a you know it's package deal it's a package deal T mitv the 613 and on a practical level so you know I am not to be a c it's not my fault it's a historic accident you know like but so so so there certain that I don't perform I'd love to do especially now that some went back to France in my and I in the morning you know so so I would love to do it but sad I'm not a k can't do it so so you have here the issue of malus in it was pointed out that actually Mal is not mentioned even though it does say in the stands of that's more in terms of the spiritual Mia and is lifted right out of perid the is that's that's the and and that means not necessarily in the context of but take a look at the last [Music] Stan we ask to rebuild the BET mikdash and will be populated because there won't be mikdash in a in in a vacuum of of no Jewish population in has to be populated and I'll tell you where that phrase comes from in the says your line will be filled up filled up so this is where the pan uses we have often we have it we ask to not to teach us a new nigan but a new a level of that we never ever knew then it says there was another version to this sh instead of the shash it [Music] was instead of it was which means restoration of the kingdom and and it had been suggested that the V were aware of this version of the and were concerned that if somebody saido with this version including restoration of the monarchy then they actually have all the key ingredients of in this poem because it already has and it already has and it has all kinds of things here uh so of course it doesn't have actually grd but uh but nevertheless nevertheless there was a what they call a a a worry it was a worry and and and that's why they didn't say it but you see that the V will all his greatness and everything it may have trickled down to um you know this neighborhood of shed where the Pim the students of the V who came toim 250 years ago carried the Min but this particular Min never made itel continues till this very day to singal and then afterwards and nobody's losing any sleep over it it's right okay let's get back to the song so first on the first line is a nickname of we saw this already in the other poems coming from we say it every morning is is and because it's so I'm just going to digress for a half a second then just remind me where I'm up to I'm up [Music] to the the okay and then there's a it happens to be from so say leave out the word but it's a quote from if you go to your local in the morning you will see after they say they say there is no it's not there the original was either the way the has it or the way the have it without the it was what did our sh so we made a merger we have this and that this and that so that's what we do because if he didn't do that it's not g to work out on shabas morning you need the to help you with the right but if you go back to the original ashkanazi version and this is from the of the 13th century who were busy counting words let's count the words is bingo 14 14 words and they said this corresponds to the 14th of Nissan which is this week's par the day of preparation for the P that's mentioned in Perot and they wanted that they should be a rem a z remember 14th when saying as you did it in on the 14th do it again do it again and the spirit of even in terms of the date is factored into the number of words that you have in this particular now back to what was that right right that's correct what does it mean right we we're telling we've we've eaten from your food the med says as follows if you look at Turn the Page now Source number three in bra it's about received the The Travelers those who passed by we use it modern Hebrew too pass buers of course he gave them a meal and you know the med says that rinu had four gates to four sides of his tent extensively the chot is he shouldn't miss a traveler from any coming from any direction but I have a different take on it people come with different ideas different and he wasn't checking their ties anyone is welcome you're all welcome what the RAB once explained exactly that when he was talking about the raan who tried to describe and raar said he was the first kabik he was the first kadik you know that anybody's welcome just come in that's it the truth you know when the r gave his famous m shabash in Boston on on philosophical basically was the philosophy of saer braas but it was for for the general audience wasn't academic at all the general audience nobody checked if you were wearing a kipa he didn't care anybody who came in was welcome to come and sit there and there were quite a few people ultimately ended their lives with not just the kab with fing of R there's um you know he he understood that they have to have a forum to just allow people to come in and just feel comfortable to listen to a words word of Torah because he was so positive about the power of Torah the energy of Torah and he said just let it work let it work remember he once told me the that it's in the context that a Corvin just touches the M you don't it it becomes disqualified you don't take it off once it contacted the came in contact with it's already holy you leave it let it burn on you don't take don't remove it said and in the job is to get the kids to touch them as be touch something that's kados and let the kadha work he was a firm believer of this and uh and I could expand but I'm not going to do that now so here invites everyone to eat used to tell them say and they would say what should we say and he said say the following this is how he taught them that there was one God he taught monotheism over a nice piece of kle nice cake you know coffee that's how he taught monotheism so he got them to [Music] say this is the med and the poet takes this takes that phrase you have here on Source number four from is called we have a nickname we are those who believe we were satisfied so in other words without there's nothing to talk about in Bat this is a poem about bat and the necessary prerequisite is little anecdote of my my grandfather he comes from a town in gala where his younger brother there were one of 16 and that wasn't strange by the way and it also wasn't strange that only 10 out of 16 made it to adulthood because infant mortality was very very high and there was malnutrition going on there and so on so my uncle my great uncle who I knew very well who was the younger brother of my grandfather asked him once what is the meaning of in Yiddish he said zat zat in Yiddish means s to be S says he he knew the word but he never felt that sensation in his lifetime he didn't know what it was what does it mean to be Z that was the question and that's what was telling I got news for you you're GNA learn a new word now and a new sensation when you come to because there gonna [Music] be so here thean says and we left over as a instructed what does that mean so there's a p there's a in it's about Al lifted cut and pasted out of this and what does that mean so the says in an interesting it says that when we bench after the meal leave a morsel of bread on the table don't clean it off completely I might be guilty of this once in a while you have to leave some type of bread there as a type of s that that it's yeah you had enough that it's you can't eat anym that you can't eat anymore so that's is straight out of that and it indicates that particular fed us fed feeds the world he is our shepherd He Is Our Father we've eaten from his bread and we've drunk from his wine this easy this we're gonna thank him to his name great name and praise him and so on with our mouths who said that that comes from from we we read it for the for the first day and uh there's no one like you and therefore obviously we're going toh the word Anu what does it mean amaru we have said and it it means literally we've responded but it's actually an expression of Hal it's actually expression of Hal um why do we call uh the say the why do we call it I mean it's voice I can talk about it right why do we talk about because that everybody knows but there's also another reason where is mentioned so it says means you should actually respond and sing it means sing it says he there the word means to phrase and the actually has a dual theme it's telling a story and it's also telling the saying Hal via the story we're using the story as the text for the and that's why it has a double meaning why it's called and he got it so there it says and that's where he gets this that's from the which begins with I mean that is is is almost pure praise yeah so what was that oh because you have also good thank you um that was the famous word that borian used as the compromise in the M you know's name there and the very much didn't so they made a compromise what's a compromise everybody's happy usually it's either nobody's happy or everybody's happy in this case everybody was happy that's we know that it says have confidence in so that the said fine God's name's not there and the says of course he's there so fine everybody was happy except who was the first he said not good enough so when he signed his name he writes you can see it you go online Google it you'll see his name he signs it's got to be there know that is the second with a song and voice of full-throated thanks this is the idea of is found very often in tanak in various different context um today it's there's actually a b m called ER here in but ER is is is is the nickname of of Isel means desirous the desirous land right this Irish land you know it's not Hulu it's not the Miami Beach it's a you know it's it's era here is ER and this is what the r says in the Kari this a lot of lip service going on and people in who have no intentions whatsoever to come to but say this with great fervor a lot of ferv and enthusiasm but he says they don't mean one word of doesn't mean anything they mean it where they are yeah that's that's even worse no that's a that's already a if you think that over there is that's again the word is here a provision mean you know sometimes you have ma sometimes it's Ma at home s is you're eating a sandwich on a t right you're getting a meal on the plane that's s right interesting maybe it comes some word that that you know necessary things that youle with you you take with you but it was was y y gave the brothers when they went back to Canan they should have you know what to eat and so on you know where this comes from the shortest peric andum which is so he takes from that second p of the shortest two chapter so he lifts it out of so he's like a little Abridged Hal it's that PUK is already an a bridged chapter and he abridges the abridgment of that chap then get is the nickname of mikdash we've seen this ready the question is the um K should have compassion Mercy with his great on his Nation um again the wor use of the word God is our strength the word sur really means the strength of of of of is a when it's used when is that The Rock translated in some of I think King James is the rock of Israel what does that mean it means the strength of is almost like what says the the hope of is is's Hope plays places its hope in it's true that then flips it and talks about means is is is is the the fa the idea that places its trust in the strength of that gives us strength that actually that's why it's is there was a story once about Benny bean bean son who was a very fine person in his own right um and learned Integrity from his father without of that I'm going to go into illustrations of it and that's why he's not in politics today any longer the um the uh he was once introduced to give a lecture he's he's a geologist by profession and he was once introduced uh and he was by but they were saying his credentials that he's a philosopher so he gets up and he says he has to apologize that he's not a philosopher I'm a geologist you know but in toim it says is the rock of Israel which is about so I deal with rocks so I deal with the it was very sharp very very sharp to say that right so you have here we ask to have compassion with his great on his people which is on the seat of his glory the always pointed out that it's it's not that we built bet mikdash in y y becomes a factor of beta mikdash a factor because in the desert there were three zones and they were known asot it was the of the of the mishan and then and the AAR the courtyard then there was MIA with L word and then the outer outer was M right three tribes on each side that confirmation that configuration is now transposed upon transplanted upon where the BET mikdash and the harab is I'm sorry the and is is even though no living there anymore we're just giving it the name for purposes and is not but which part of theim that was Sanctified in the days of B CH do we know where the lines are the answer is more or less yes more or less yes we do know how to draw the lines and if you go to a good tour guide of the old city they're gonna point it out so in The Old City there is an excavated so that had nothing to do with that's one of the borders of Y there's no question the cotel area is part of what was y why is this important to know if we would bring a corbon p today you could only eat it within the boundary of where y was Sanctified of course if there was a b they could then expand those batteries and there's no question in mind that when they will form the baadal I have a few things to suggest to them on the agenda one of them was the expansion of the b as as predicted it's gonna expand so you'll take the whole bound Municipal boundaries or maybe they'll just take wherever it's O2 in in your phone you know go to and all the way to all the way to and all the way toel you know we may have that you don't know how far it's going to be expanded but right now it's somewhat limited but the of Conduct in when it was B the r says are in force today for example littering and spitting if you're at the cotel just to throw a piece of paper on the floor yeah you want to write a ra never believed in that by the way but if you want to write Aid in the cotel and you have a little extra page you rip it out and what do you do yeah yeah you're a New Yorker you just throw it on the floor you know you're violating a Biblical violation of mikdash of all from mikdash you're not to litter you're not out to litter in t because of that's something else which is also important you get a find also right fine that's derit and I'm in favor of derit but derit called but uh but if you litter in the place that's or you spit on the floor in a place of it's a Biblical violation of and the Rah says it's enforced today so you have to be careful when you go to the area of kadosh forget about those if you go to harab and you go to the mikah beforeand because of any type of T that that that what's called so it could be man or woman whatever it is but mikah takes care of it so so you have to be careful there all kinds of of and to go to you have to have the paruma that's why we can't do that you can't do you can't go to the to the center you can't go to the the do because that's already but around Outer Perimeter of har is only so there are someon who Advocate don't do it because you're going to trip you're going to stumble into the wrong area okay and there some say that if we don't go up we can we we've relinquished it and like raran said that and this and you ask your local Orthodox Rabbi had to handle it if you want to go up but if you want to go to right you have to go to Mah take off your shoes empty your pockets all kinds of but itself carries with it so live this the is GNA be built there he is not talking Chron chronological order he's not talking chronological order even though the ramban begins his 11th chapter of which is the tail end of the Mish he dedicates two chapters to the laws of the Messianic era and he starts with say there will be a mhia what's he going to do ABC D but not necessarily in that order the raham advises us later on in his writings that the order the chronological sequential order we have no tradition so will the BET mdash precede alel not alib or not we don't know what's going to be we'll see some of the said this way some that way going to will first be and then afterward M it seems to be the other way around so the r cautions you know just be patient and just we'll see what happens happens don't bet on any system and uh because you might end up being diametrically wrong but the Rah says you have to have until to build mdash that is necessary because without a m you can't have the activation of the building of so therefore in this poem you might think the order is should actually precede so it's okay because it's a poem it's a poem he's not talking here how things are going to pan out he's saying these are the things that are going to happen and maybe he's even following the I'm sorry that we say in benching that this is the order that we have it and that's okay and then he gets to the last the last stanza here very very forcefully the rebuilding of Mia of mikdash and as we already said and there's GNA be a whole new style of being said or this is now a direct pitch of this might reflect the that we say at the end Bening what is that all about so there was a we know that bat is one of the Mitzvah that allows for a coast shell if you have a cup of wine on a Tuesday for lunch you make up our go and have your wine and that's the end of that the wine has nothing to do with your meal is you drinking wine that's all there are certain MIT that attached the concept of a the most famous is Kish Friday night under the twice the and the we also have it forit and for Kos and it's interesting that not always does the Kos have to be drunk doesn't have to be drunk so kidish yes we drink because that allows us to eat the meal then hav yes we drink it because that allows us to then eat after shabat four cups on Friday on S night for sure we drink it because of the special mitzvah drinking four cups so the first one happens to be that but not only that but instituted that there four the night and that's why they're four cups the the first is Kish the second is on the Mitzvah of we have a Kos inan they used to hold the cup of wine from Manana until that's a long and you and they used to do a lot of talking so the r said they put it down when they talked but when they read the each time we do it just for and and then the so we symbolically do it once twice the third time but they would pick up the cup just like you hold the cup for Kish so if it's Kos for Kish and they would hold the which was a k the third cup on S night and they would hold the cup when they were saying SL singing for the fourth cup because it's a but under the the Min is that somebody uh somebody drinks the cup we usually give the and then the Mother-in-law the mother of the kala gives the kala I've been huging fine so that later we give the and he gives his wife you know so you see he recognizes something has just changed now the mother-in-law is on the side you know like it's now a new new yes it's a it's a new situation here right so so that's what we do what about the my gosh he's saying and then when we start honoring people to say could be could be seven other people we don't call up that person who said the first or first two come back up you made a take I said we don't do that why because if nobody drinks it's also okay because there's no there's no obligation to drink that cup it's not a of it's Ain exclusively as a k just like those people who have a Min Friday night after daving in Ash not in KES Friday night it's a remnant of the days where they used to have meals for poor people and travelers so they would make kidish and for everybody so that's stuck in some but who drinks the wine not thein they get little kids to line up to drink the wine one second if I I took an apple and I said and I'm not eating it and I give a kid six years old to eat the apple that's a you can't do that so how could the make and have a kid drink the wine the answer is you don't have to drink that wine because nobody's eating it's just KES and KES goes with as a as a but there's no no obligation to drink it so that's why you know people feel uncomfortable it's the same thing with hav of the nine days they don't they want to use a cup of wine they don't want to drink the wine because now it's the N days give it to a kid the same thing what about the person who said abdah you see that it's not the end of the world and what if somebody makes abdah FR M chabas and you have a six-year-old sh kid who kicks the table and the whole cup goes on the floor and there's no other wine and that's it is it AB no did you fulfill Hava yes so okay so nobody you have to lick it up from the floor no no that's for sure that's for sure okay so we have here and what's that's soes from the which is the P that culminates the Mitzvah of one second you just Friday night you know you have your shabus meal here but what you've introduced here is BET mikdash and by bet mikdash this is is longing that one day we're going to come up to bet mikdash and we're going to bring the proper things to mikdash is