Rav Kook: Purim United | Rabbi Aaron Goldscheider

great to see everybody this morning thank you for uh for joining us for the shear this morning we have uh two sponsors for the shear we have a regular sponsor and it's also sponsored by Hill goldsher my brother in memory of Alicia khina zal the yard site being today so I thank my brother for very very special uh sponsorship of this year it should be to uh to those that we have just mentioned okay the shear this morning is a Shear in in the topic of the day and that is purum we are celebrating purum I don't know if you noticed outside all the children as they're making their way to school this morning they were already dressed up porum begins today they say it's a porm is it's three days it's more than three days I don't know it's at least four or five days and uh but for all of us we have Tinus Esther tomorrow everybody is reading the beill of the same time that's Thursday night so all of Amro will be reading together Thursday night Friday morning and those that live in y we have the very special opportunity of the three-day What's called the PO mul okay so I want to study riff cook what does riff cook have to say about puram what is it that spoke to riff cook and what is it that he wanted to share with others so I would begin in the following way and that is which PK stands out in the Milla for ruk which PUK would he say is the the most important PUK we never speak about one PUK being more important than others so R cook wrote The Following he wrote an article about one PK in particular and it's the PK of Leos that's Esther doid Ted Zion and we all know the story well that Esther recognizes that the Jewish people are being threatened by hamon with the possibility of Destruction so how do we respond to that we respond says Esther to tell Mor to tell the Jewish people we all have to be together we all have to be unified if we're unified that's how we're going to be able to overcome our enemies and here I want to share with you a article that R cook wrote in which he highlighted this idea and this comes from a safer called mamaaa which is a collection of different writings different articles and this article that we're about to read will highlight a few sections from the article and see what R cook has to say the beautiful language of R cook and this is an article that I believe appeared in a newspaper at his at at during his lifetime that he was asked to write something about purum for the public you'll see that it has a little bit of a different style than some of his more mystical or complex writings here we have a little bit I would say straightforward he's writing for the honam he's writing for the uh the typical Jew that's living in the land of Israel early 1900 1910 1920 and he's writing a message for pum so he begins with the the this is Page One the very top of the page Amar and then he quotes another PK or another phrase or statement teaching in the that we have an obligation to get drunk on so he quotes both of those statements from the gamar the gamar mill so look at what ruk writes and we'll see the words of R these days of these difficult days that there is danger there's the suffering that is surrounding the entire nation there's great suffering that is coming from the outside but then Rook writes the following and here he might be referring to world one and the S suffering of the Jewish people outside of Israel and uh in general but he says the second line but there's even a greater s there's a greater suffering there's a greater pain that's from the inside of the Jewish people why is that shom because we have been adversely affected by a lack of peace within the nation of of Israel Shalom B Israel that we don't have peace within the house of Israel and to me when I read this how it resonates today and resonates over the last number of months the last year and a half the struggle that we have yes we have the enemy from the outside R cook says there's the danger from the outside but we need to be aware of even a greater Danger on the inside and that is if we don't have peace within the Jewish people n we should remember what happened these days of course he's writing this remember what happened Ines every word of M is written it's not just Mor and eser writing it they're writing it with a divine inspiration with a kind of and that message that we have in Mill at Esther is something that is lasting for every generation in other words the message then is a message that needs to speak to us today as well and what is that statement that Eternal statement that is made in [Music] Mig that we need to unify as a nation that needs to be the message that we hear today as well if we're under threat if there are enemies from the outside and enemies from from within meaning that there's Strife within the Jewish people there's one answer to that and there's a rues answer that Mor and Esther shared with us and that is that we need to be unified as a people that's true today as well that's cook says that's going to lift us up from all of our from all of our loneliness second paragraph om if anybody says that H lied when he said the following you're mistaken says cook if you believe that hamon lied and was not accurate with that statement that we have a people that's splintered a people that is not cohesive he says ham happened to be right he was correct about that this one nation unfortunately at times that we are divided from one another yes we are one nation but R cook says we need to hear that that's the threat from the outside H recognized that and when he recognized that we were there there was a splintering within the Jewish people that was true in the days of purum he saw that as an opportunity to attack the Jewish people I wanted to share the following this is the very bottom of the page is aam Berger who was one of the hostages that young lady really remarkable young lady when she came home after 500 Days of captivity so the first message that she broadcasted to the Jewish people was the following and here this is from and I I just wanted word for word so you could see it inside this is from arucha Israel national news February 17th aam agam Berger who was recently released from Kamas activity delivered her message to the people of Israel which she called for maintaining unity and working for the return of the kidnap she continued Her speech by calling for Unity noting that division in Israel only strengthens the enemy and here this is word for word look at what she write what she what she said when we were there when she was in captivity in Gaza and they Kamas saw our division it made them happy they said that when we are together it's our strength she heard that she heard that from the terrorists right she heard that in Gaza she took note of that that they were aware when the Jewish people are together and when there isn't a togetherness of the Jewish people that's what she said she said they saw it they recognized that they saw our division Hamas saw our division it made them happy they said that when we're together it's our strength so I ask you despite all of our differences this is a g Burger this young lady 20 21 years old let's maintain unity and maintain our strength so RI cook said this a hundred years ago as well the message of purum they're both saying the same thing the message of PM is being together it's that Oneness it's that Unity the Brotherhood and Sisterhood of our people people that gives us our strength going back now to Rook the third paragraph where it says number three but when we are shocked by this when we recognize that we don't have a Unity that we should have in the danger that brings upon the Jewish people we're going to recognize at that time the very special quality of the of the Jewish people that there's a great soul of our nation that we we have not recognized we've been distracted right from this very special quality of unity that we have or that we need to live up to it's filled with strength this is what's going to give us the strength to survive and to achieve this is what's going to give us the strength to stand strong against any that is trying to if we are unified if we're together then we'll be able to overcome those that want to attack those that are weak amazing that Rook is writing this how it resonates today look at now paragraph number four coming to the close of rook's this piece that he writes for porm this y that is Tam with a means a hidden it's like a hidden Judaism a strength that that we don't always recognize ATO that we don't always recognize this is the Great Soul of our people we carry the burden of the entire world it will become known to us what porm is all about is that we recognize the power of our Oneness power of our nation of what's so beautiful about the nation I'm sure many of you have noted the the the the hostages that have come back how many of how many of them are talking about that they want to say theat that they want Fillin that they want Shabbat that they felt that they want to be more attached to the nation of Israel this is what's coming out Ru cook says this is what is going to be revealed in the Jewish nation and this is something that is being revealed with the with the celebration of puram the Oneness of Amel write three lines down in number four and this place which we don't always we're not always aware of this uniqueness of the soul of the nation a great blessing will come that's the blessing of coming together that we feel a bond with every Jew this is the message of Pur interesting of all there you know if you listen to different rabbis they'll talk about different messages of what porm is all about in theic literature they talk about what is the aod of what is it that other than doing the Mitzvah but what is it that we are to experience on purm what's R Cook's answer what does r cook say porm is all about purm is about feeling the unity of feeling a love towards every single Jew that's the the message of and with that we're going to be able to overcome every enemy the amans the amals and within we're going to be the strong people the great nation that we are to be so that's what he writes three lines from the bottom in the fourth paragraph these days of what do we need to recognize what is it that we are to celebrate that in every porum this should be the great celebration this great treasure about Tamir which is somewhat hidden the great happiness and the great richness of our life of our Jewish life and what is that the Oneness of our nation this will be victorious even though at times there can be a divisiveness but there's a Oneness inherent Oneness that we have last paragraph and here Rook is going to come back to what he opened with with the also the statement from the gamar that says we are to get drunk on purum and here we go the last paragraph Mayas and like those days ofas who is Rook referring to like the days of that's right more is a reference this is a poetic way to say Mor but more means like the fragrance but he's referring to Mor of course referring to Esther like those days of Mor and Esther we need to say today what does he say that we have a nation that is bonded together we're connected right we're connected one to one another that is what we are to celebrate on that's what stands for the Jewish people with all of his strength anything that's been broken within the Jewish people we fix it by coming together and in it has his great and he ends this is the last line of his of this article that he writes the message that he writes to the Jewish people on and everybody has an obligation to get drunk to drink on por we all need to lift our glasses and say to one another am that's what he says so what does it mean here and I'm not sure he doesn't really spell it out but what does it mean when he ends this paragraph saying we need to drink and porum to such a degree that we don't make any distinctions in between morai and hamon I think what he means in a very simple way is that we drink that we're intoxicated intoxicated with a love for one another we're intoxicated it's just an overflowing love it's just bubbling bubbling over like the champagne that we're just bubbling over with love for one another that's what it means again the drunk actually the Rama said to drink a little bit more if you usually have one glass of wine on chabas you have one and a half and you fulfill the obligation that's the for the ashas that's the position of the raama but um R cook is here he's referring to the idea of an intoxication of Love of loving one another yeah a comment or two yeah okay yeah we do yeah we have a very hard time with what's that that's the extra cup of wine that's right just to put you over the top and uh so that you see that you're just loving everyone it's a h it's a morai I don't know who's in front of me I'm just hugging them I'm loving them that's the that's the way that I understand he's suggesting reading it yes please yeah yes yeah yeah it's a good question it's a good question he is addressing he is addressing that moment as well he's writing that there's there difficulties that are surrounding us there enemies surrounding us I think that's anytime but he says we have a problem you're right he is identifying he's pointing to a certain problem within the Jewish people there's a lot of division but I I would say what if you ask sort of historically what's going on we do know one thing that he is addressing in his lifetime where there's a great division within the Jewish people anybody know and this is something that he that he puts tremendous effort in trying to to to to to bring together two communities and that is theim right those that are coming back who are not religious and the religious community of Israel that's there and there's a tremendous tension between those two he's trying to bridge that Gap so it could be that that's what he's referring to what he's referring to okay all right let's continue now let's go to page two how do we do it oh how do how do he suggest we have to see the best in others he he says we have to go beyond we have to look Beyond Beyond skin deep we have to see the Nish in the other person that's that's yes I think that's that's what he says you have to see the Nish if you would look at another person and not see their face and not see what kind of kipa they're wearing and not seeing if they're covering the hair or not covering the hair but you went straight and saw the Nisha you would love Jews more and that's what R cook says look at a person and see the Nish of the other person stop looking at all the everything on the all the exteriors yes please and he did it oh did you're asking if he or you're and he did it absolutely absolutely absolutely he demonstrated that exactly and he saw the love and he wrote about the greatness the he said they're the holy of holies they're the ones that are building the country he saw the best in others it's seeing the best in others okay let's turn out to page two page two is just a great example beautiful example of what it means to to see the the best in others to appreciate every member of clel this isar 58 and it raises a uh an interesting question about a braa that is recited when you see a massive number of Jews the gamar says if you are in a gathering where there is a massive number of Jews gathering together there's a particular bra that can be recited and let me just read to you what the gamar says this is gamar again just go to the second paragraph have it translated on the right side as well means a multitude of Israelites of Jews that are joining together they have like in New York when they do the scene of the dafam they rent out the uh some of the big stadiums in New York and New Jersey you have about 100,000 Jews that come together can you make a braa when you see all those Jews you're standing in that stadium with 100,000 the answer is no you can't make a braa why not you need to have 600,000 Jews in one place and then you can make a braa the special braa so it says the following we'll talk about it in a moment now if you were to write the blessing the Braha foreseeing 600,000 people what kind of you know language text would you would you use in that Braha you say something along the lines of how great it is the Jewish you know some the unity of the Jewish people right the awesomeness of of coming together the something like that but the gamar says what is the BR by the way we pass in this way it's in says and we've had that in Israel when rajio passed away there was a funeral it had over 600,000 people and this bra was recited there's been other Gatherings some say also that they've had six 700,000 Jews in meon unfortunately there were there was a very bad incident with that but also that there are times that in aricel we've actually reached that number of having that many Jews and a Braha can be recited but what's the Braha that's recited blessed are you God and you say the the gamar doesn't it's you are the wise one God who knows the secrets of every person there meaning that everyone that's present is different than the other that's what your blessing at that moment look at what the gamar says I'm just continuing and the gar actually spells out the meaning of the that everybody that's present does not think the same thing we don't all have the same opinion every single person in this room has a different background a different opinion a different way of looking at things that's what we're celebrating that's the BR that's recited when 600,000 people come together the there's no two faces that are alike in that crowd 600,000 Jews maybe a couple of twins there that look very similar but um everybody looks everybody's face is a little different and just like our faces are different our DOT is also different we're different from one another and amazingly the gamar says that when you are at that event right it's such a happening with 600,000 people what is it that you bless God for that we're unified although we are very different from one another the wise one God who knows the secrets that every single person is different than the next that's an amazing thing and what does it highlight it celebrates the unity not uniformity right not that we're all the same but how we can be unified even though we are different and we all are different from one another and I just want I'll just share with you what the rambam writes the rambam says he brings it and this is in as well that this not we probably never said In Our Lifetime but the ramb writes three lines down this is in by the way there's a braa if you see that number of non-jews that are uh that are gathering not such a nice braa you can look at that we're not going to talk about that braa right now but the Jewish BR when you see Jews the IM and the ramb writes is you can't make this braa in New Jersey or in New York even if there are 600,000 Jews that are gathered the r says it's only in arel can you make this why is it you can only according to the Rama by the way the doesn't in this way says you can make it in New York or LA or wherever but the rambam writes it must be an error to why why Isel why only in arel because only here do you have Nation there's 600,000 what does that represent what's that number 600,000 600,000 is the Jewish people leaving Egypt we became a nation at that moment when you talk about 600,000 Jews that are gather for the dfom in the Meadowlands I don't know if you know that stadium in uh in New Jersey you're not looking at the nation of Israel because nationhood is only here it's only in arrell where we have a government where we have we have an army where we have our where we have our culture we our our economy right that's that's that's nationhood so that's what the rambam says the braa can only be recited in ER Israel with 600,000 Jews coming together yes 600 were in the desert yes they were not right they were no that's true that's true but that represents that number what it represents is the beginning of nationhood we became a nation that was am Israel as we left Egypt as we yes 600,000 in the wilderness receiving the torum beautiful okay what how do we hold today it's a good question no we we do make the BR we I I was looking it up actually um there was an aifa an aifa which was like this major Gathering of Jews for some issue that they weren't happy about and they had over 600,000 and there was a question what which one was it the Supreme Court one I don't know if it was I don't know if it was that so one of the gdle Torah that was there I forgot the name right now I forgot who it was but he made the braa he wasn't sure exactly you know there's a lot of questions if you if you need to see all 600,000 and how to count those numbers so what he did was he opened the sh and he read it as a so in that way as he was reading it he was reading it as a Al but he was also saying it as a bra but it was a way of saying the bra without actually make the that was the way I saw I found that interesting okay very nice rock very nice very nice that's exactly It Rock that's right only with only with unity okay let's come back now yes please that's true it's 600 000 men that that is correct it's 600,000 men even though that becomes like the classic number but you you are you're absolutely right about that you're absolutely right that count of 600,000 is the men that's correct it's two million two and a half million that leave that's with women and children correct yes yeah absolutely absolutely it's easy some sometimes it's easier to talk about it we need National Unity National peace but then at home we're you know this Uncle we don't talk to and this aunt and this yeah okay you're absolutely right all right let's come back now to uh let's come back to uh to purum and the unity of porum and again this is the theme that Ru cook says needs to be front and center on purum so we all know if you if you turn out to uh to page three to page three oh sorry no I left that I want let me let's do one more I forgot I forgot what I wanted to add on the bottom here on page two ah so this is a a perfect segue a perfect segue into uh from what you just mentioned a moment ago it has to be within family it has to be within within uh within a marriage as well again it starts with a marriage family nationhood so this's a famous statement of RAB AKA RAB AKA is z when a husband and wife when they married when there's peace then God's presence rests in the home if they don't have peace in the home then there's like a fire that's in the house a fire that can eat them up so what does that mean what did RAB mean so Rashi says the following you probably have heard this idea Rashi says if you look at the word is and is broke up his name is he put the yud in the name of the man that's ish you can look at I I put it here on the left side of the page and the he in Isa so that's you he that's the name of God so when there's peace you have God but when when you don't have that peace andem is not there then what are you left with just right he then leaves he's no longer interested in being in that kind of household where there's a lot of bickering where people are not getting along he leaves what do you have left you just have a lot of you have a lot of fire there so I I I came across a very interesting idea so that's that's RAB AA and that's rashi's interpretation of RAB aa's statement but I saw just one very beautiful idea this is the according to what do you have in this case where the ud and the are not there HH meaning you have the same exact letters the Al and the shin Al and shin and what does that represent that both parties want the other to be exactly like them that's what you're left with everyone wanting the other to be exactly like them how do you bring peace peace is when we recognize that not everyone has the same idea not everyone has the same approach and that's how we that's how we bring peace let's now go to page three we're going to skip that we'll save this for another time the M on top and I want to come back to purum so purum and and uh the whole idea of unity and purum is something that we see in all the mitzvot of the day I don't know if you ever heard the um a way of remembering the four mitzvot of the day that they all start with a me right the the four Ms of Pur Miga Mish thank you Mish so some people call it sud but if you use the word Mish then you have all four of them that are all starting with a m one way of remembering all of the MIT of the day so in many in a lot of the literature it talks about why why these mitzvot per se what is it about these mitzvot that they that they enacted these rules for the day of puram and the SPs and I'll I'll I'll just read a line from the SPs but many say this that every Mitzvah that you have is a Mitzvah that's all about a bringing people together M we're giving gifts to one another that's increasing a bond with one another mat they were caring for the impoverished they were connecting with the impoverish all of the MIT of the day is great after the Milla reading that we come together for the reader you're not really supposed to do the reading privately it's supposed to be done in a congregation that you're seeing one another that we come together as a Kila and what is the other one yeah mishta thank you Misha and the suda the suda is yeah it starts with a family it starts with friends raise a place to come together so I want to just share one really interesting idea this this is from one of the classic Bali Ritz going back about 100 years 150 years he was the he was a rebi in the Mir Yeshiva not the Mir Yesa going back to the original Mir he was one of the great Bal mus and he writes the following he has a safer called saer and he says what is the Mitzvah all about three lines down he it's a way of creating a greater love and a Greater Joy between people the re you're giving gifts to one another and that brings people closer together but then he writes the following and this is new this I never heard before and he says what is the essence of the you are to send to somebody that you're not getting along with that's what he says m is not to give to your best friend down the hall right that's not he he says that's not M he says the essence of mish man is a way to make up with somebody is a way to reach out to somebody somebody they haven't spoken to right somebody that you had a falling out that's what he says right some of they really not he says you're really not getting along with that person but that's where Mish not should go maybe not all of maybe you can give to your friend but find one maybe he's saying at least find one person in your list of mish add one more that person that I'm not talking to I'm gonna get I'm gonna bring that person M and he said look what he writes and that's why you need two items because you're trying to make up with that person if you just got them one thing that doesn't you know that's not enough you got to show them that you really you really care for them so you have to have at least two items not just one item there right right that's true well I maybe you can you can do that also and he and he writes the what are these mitv all about because it's all about what is porm all about there should be greater love like R cook says it should be a day of Greater Love within the Jewish people the the very Ence of Pur who it's a day of love it's a day of togetherness a day of Brotherhood so he uh he follows the words the words of R cook the same idea okay rev cook at his suda he was having his his Mish his sudas for him and uh here we can go to page four there was a very well-known individual who came into his suda he would have a suda for many hours like many rabbis kind of like an Open Door people are coming in people were stopping by and a certain individual came in his name not a name that we would know his name is Reb Moshe chesit if I'm pronouncing that correctly I think so so he actually was one of an influential figure he was a fellow that helped bring Ru cook to Israel he lined up the position for him I think some of the salary as well that he was involved in bringing rof cook so they were close friends he was a very learning Rabbi as well and according to the story that you have here I'll just share it to you outside this is from moat a beautiful collection of from raria mosia of of teachings and uh and episodes in the life of R cook around the holidays so this man came in very uh influential figure and here he describes he was he was very very happy maybe a bit tipsy at that point it's uh it's Forum afternoon and he says to RI cook he says I'm going to quote a verse from the Torah and I want you to tell me how this verse relate he was like testing him like in a sort of in a jovial way a porm took away but he said I'm gonna just quote AAS that you know that is it would be a real test to see if there's any way to connect that with porum so he quotes a from now what is that you're probably not familiar with it I would I need to look it up as well it's the genealogy of asov like asa's family and in it it says that there was a woman V Lan the sister of Lan was timna so he says can you tell me how that relates to purum this is the question that he asked riff cook and riff cook says not only does it relate to purum but it's actually the very essence of purum it's the very story of forum all begins there and he quoted the following gamar gamar that I have here it's an hedin It's s it says that there was a woman timna timna I don't know if you ever heard that name it's a personality of the Torah the gamarra says that she came to Abraham she came to yak and she came to Yakov and she wanted to convert to Judaism and they sat with her they spoke to her and it turned out that they said that the door is not open we don't see that you have a place within the Jewish people they did not allow her to convert to Judaism and the gamar says that she took offense to that and she married the daughter of asov son I'm sorry the son of Asa elifas elifas and elifas and timna had a child and the name of that child was a Malik that's correct was a Malik that's the beginning of a Malik so what's that did they got they did not get married oh they just had really okay ah H uh uh okay good you're right by the way she it was a very good okay okay you're right very good it's it technically it was not a marriage it was a shka it was a concubine you're right you're right about that uh that's a good question that's an excellent question um it's not clear the gamar doesn't say it just says the gamar itself says that they came to AB now by the way AB is accepting everyone that's like his you know that's what he's doing every day the ne and some ah so that's that's what some the far say the fact that she wanted to marry in meaning it wasn't sincere one night a week I teach in a conversion program here in Jerusalem the retical Council of America has a program for converts and very often the people that want to convert are people that already are dating somebody like an Israeli they met in Israeli they met them in Hong Kong they met them here now they're back in Israel now this becomes a problem because well do are you converting sincerely or or are you converting just because you want to marry this person so that's a that becomes a very problematic position so the maam say it seems that she just wanted to be part of the Jewish people maybe there wasn't like a sincerity in her conversion but that's again it's not clear it's not clear exactly why they did not allow her in so R cook said this is the very beginning of of the story of PM of a Malik and what is it about it's about sensitivity to others the gamarra itself writes that that was mistake that AB Y and yov made and I'll just read the last line of the gamarra this is uh on page four you can look at the gamara and that's the second Source the gamar says the gamar says that they cause and a mik then would cause tremendous distress that they cause great sorrow to the Jewish people and last line the and they should not have abob should not have rejected timna they should have been more sensitive they should have found the place for her so R cook says that this is also the story of what it means Unity if that's true of a timna if that's true of a mik if that's where it all started because we did not have the sensitivity that we that somebody felt that they were rejected that they were pushed to the outside so that's the lesson of for him as well if it's true in this case it's certainly true of a fellow Jew that a fellow Jew we can never allow another fellow Jew to feel rejected as if they're being pushed away as if they're not being embraced being accepted that's what of cook said he said that's the uh that's the essence of PM yes please yeah yeah the a yes yeah yeah what what yeah what what's interesting is that the arra were accepted and and Ru cook actually writes that in another place that moshu could have said no to anyone else I wants to join us us as we're leaving Egypt and he accepted the aav and it wasn't so easy in other words many the faram say the agel zahav sin was not the Jewish people it was that a that other group that was with us well you don't believe that okay the far say that that there it was their influence it was their impact it wouldn't have happened otherwise but okay so it's not an easy thing but R cook says the greatness of mosenu is that he brings in the a in other words that he sees that these Egyptians want to be part of the Jewish people and he brings them in so yeah fascinating yes yes yes yes one thing I know yes absolutely and R cook writes about that as well and and speaking about within a family and never to reject right never and we're learning that today the Jewish Community is very sensitive to that today I think 30 years ago 50 years ago less so where somebody was rejected keeping chabas or cous or it meant that you really were not welcome any longer in the home that's no longer the case and Ru cook was preaching that message that we can't within the family within the family of Claus sh that we can't do that we have to find a way to be embracing let me just yes okay all right we'll get to that we're we're gonna do we're going to do that we're gonna we're going to give R fooks answer to that let me just let me uh let me conclude with uh with two items one other story from the uh from the table of rev cook his suda is sudas so I mentioned that ruk opened his home this goes back to his years in yafa was true in yam as well but this story took place when he first came to uh to Jaffa to yafo and uh he had an Open Table an open door and people came in a Beggars came in as well they wanted their their gifts their maton and many of them would also take a at the you know the table was there so they sat down and they took part in the meal as well a number of them were not acting appropriately at the meal the way that they were eating the way that they were talking and at some point the shamish or one of the helpers of cook said you know what I think we at this point we can invite them to leave like we we've given them their sadaka they've eaten a bit we can tell them it's now it's now time to go so Ru cook said the following and he actually he quoted from the rambam and this actually is a rambam that's worth repeating every year the ramam says that the majority of the money that one spends on puram should be the mat should be the gifts to the poor many of us make the mistake we spend a lot of money on M right we buy a 100 shekele 200 she all fancy Mish note we spent a lot of money on that and then we give 20 30 shekele you know to the to the mat the rambam writes make sure that the money that you're spending the majority of the money goes to the and then the ramb writes the following this R quoted the r says there's nothing more beautiful than to uplift the heart of an an of somebody who's impoverished somebody who is down now again it's nice to give Mish to your friends and you know that's that's nice it's cute it's a not just cute it's a Mitzvah to do that but the ramam says there's nothing like that Mitzvah that's the wording of the [Music] r says the r that the person who does that is emulating the that's that's that's a Divine act man giving the baskets he doesn't say that's a Divine act but it's a Divine act to lift somebody up somebody who's impoverished somebody who's on the outside somebody who's down somebody that doesn't have the money to help them out so ruk said if they're sitting at the table the mitz isn't just that I give them sadaka that they feel uplifted and they feel uplifted they feel good about the fact that they're sitting here at a table and eating I'm not going to we're not going to ask them to leave so that's uh that was Ru cook and the story of those Beggars at his table one last um yes please yeah yes uh beautiful beautiful beautiful that's exactly right it's exactly right that's what the rambam says the giving of is not just you know sticking it you know just giving it to them if there's a way to also lift their Spirits when you do it it's not always easy to do that we often feel Somebody's knocking on our door and but if we can lift somebody's Spirit while we're then that should be done in a way that the person feels good about it that they feel uplifted okay the last item which is just a very very beautiful thing that happened the last the last last week last week and a half uh you may have read it uh in the news there are two widows that uh two widows of soldiers of Israel that recently got engaged just in the last week their husbands were killed in Gaza the name of one of the woman of the women is shaked kogan the other is matar eliyahu shaked kogan her husband was killed in Gaza his name was dovy they had three children he was studying at the techon studying to be an engineer very very talented young man dovy he was killed in Gaza and uh matar El her husband yida also they have three children and both husbands were killed in the same week in Gaza Shak kogan and matar leahu and both of them got got engaged this past week and both of them I don't know if they coordinate I don't think they know one another but in the announcement that they put out like to their friends and I guess it may have been on social media like on Facebook the announcement they both began their announcement that I got engaged you know with the following PK or the following real it's AA that we all know from which is both of them began their announcement that they got engaged with that and what are those words shake off the dust of mour and put on the beautiful garments shake off the dust of sitting in morning and put on the beautiful garments of the Bride of getting married so this is when we speak about the we speak about unity and coming together this is a very very beautiful kind of unity of coming together the most beautiful of a husband and wife we wish the maav maav and uh that this should be uh this should be a sign a uh a sign of unity of of all of CLA Isel and Rook said that this is this is theod this is other than technically doing the four M of the day what is it that we're supposed to feel inside that's where cook is asking right what's the experience I know what we're supposed to do right right those are the things that those are the technical procedures of the day but what is the avod the inner work of the day right what is it that we're supposed to feel on poor that we're supposed to walk away from po feeling and that is a greater sense of aus of loving every Jew of not judging other Jews of feeling a bond with every Jew says Esther bring everyone together there has to be a Oneness and that Oneness is going to be our success all right I wish everyone a uh a wonderful pum pum y'all take your and everyone should have an easy fast tomorrow and we're all reading The Mill at the same time Thursday night and Friday morning and those that live in yam enjoy the porum Mish three days of porum okay