Parshat Bo: “Coming Challenge” by Shira Smiles

okay my friends let's start and uh when we get the sponsors I'll just stop in between and add it paraa begins Hashem said to Moshe Bo El parro come to parro for I made his heart in the heart of his servant stubborn so I can put these signs of mine in its midst and so that you may relate in the ears of your son and your son's son that I made a mockery of each gift and my signs that I placed among them that you may know that I am Hashem Moshe and Aon came to pyro and said to him so said Hashem god of the Hebrews you take a look at the first P Bo El parro come to parro why is he coming well that's an interesting question come to par I've made his hard hard is an explanation no I've made his hard hard why why is he coming to parro according to the first pule why is he coming to parro come to parro Bo parro why the power to say no and that his heart becomes yeah and then then then then then Hashem can make all his miracles okay why does it say excellent that's that's also a great question which is also the question so we have here um both qu good so you're answering the question but you're not the question still stands you're giving an answer to the question and why did he say bow instead of uh all right work with him work with me work with me a second sorcery Bo Alro first question he has is why did it say Bo Alro Mrs Ruben's question it should have said Le and not both okay so that question stand the second is come to and and he's not going to listen so that's a good reason why you shouldn't go to parro if you take a look at the PUK it doesn't tell us why he's coming to to to to Paro what and that's H Rashi in 2 a says why should you go to warn him about ma AR but that is found in in in puzzle gimel so when you look at the puzzle just in its own right why are you coming the answer is we don't know go is you you go guy okay so you are answering the question and along the line for both of you of what we're going to go to today yes if you'd like to leave now you can but we have other answers Al so stay tuned okay so my friends the questions are clear one why is he coming it doesn't tell us in the Pu again Rashi we have two we have to understand why Bo and not Le and three and that is the whole par is called B if the para is called bow it's screaming out at us that the word bow has a message for us a and our third question which is always our question is the relevancy for our lives right that's why we come here that's the title The Coming challenge that there's something inherent in the word bow and that's where we're headed today whether we're coming or going I don't know but that's where we're uh hopefully going to land i' like to look at this on a few levels and uh let's work together on the first level on the first level let's take a look at source number six oh so just again Moshe and Moshe deals with all these issues and he says we must say then that the opening verse of this paraa it's intended only explain why Moshe was told to return to parro yet another time he could have let the Jews out but no Hashem needed to explain to parro why am I having you come again because I've have a hard in his heart and that's why you have to come over and and over again good but I I want to look at a few levels let's start with level number one we're going to begin more on the esoteric philosophical and then we're going to bring it down so relax this really doveet tales with where we ended last week whether you're here or not it's irrelevant whether physically or otherwise and that is we ended with the eser maos relate to the eser MOs the 10 utterances Hashem created the world the tenidos which was Hashem right the SOS which is hasem and we spoke about the seventh Maka being malus being hashem's kingship that that's where we ended last week and this is where we're going to pick up this week so let's start with Source number six um penas and he says the following 6A mosha was overcome with a tremendous fear when at 6B bottom right when it's instruction to approach that was me it's okay just relax don't worry about it I apologize I created the havic I'm responsible now you're going to have to explain how it was you uh I'll f slowly slowly slowly we we'll talk about what come means just slowly you see what I mean um ited to parro due to the tremendous power of tumor that he possessed mosha rabenu was ped afraid he was afraid to come to parro because of the Tuma this prompted to say to him come to parro in other words I'm not instructing you to go to parro alone but come to parro with me I will go with you I will subjugate parro's power of Tuma right the most goes I'm missing you here throughout the land of isim you have to just appreciate that's it we're taking a station identific I got it break come to parro I will come to parro with you now we know that any time you enter into the realm of tumor the realm of impurity even if you're going to do good you're going to be affected mosha raenu is afraid to go to parro he's afraid of the tumor of the impurity of parro hasem says to him Bo parro come I'll go with you now the obvious question on this is is there anywhere we go without okay so that is a great question is there anywhere we go without Hashem I'm gonna touch on that in a few minutes the other question is didn't he live with okay you're asking the question but let's just ask it even stronger you only now you're afraid of the Tuma parro you've been telling him about what seven maos beforehand and until now you haven't been what you haven't been afraid suddenly now you're afraid so here we come to the key rodok and Source eight rodok explain means that the Matos are divided into two groupings one grouping is last week's parach okay we have it so just we are going to break for a station identification announcement the sponsors for today are and then we will go on so the whole series is by uh Raaz about yose mayor I got that one okay now I found it uh are dedicated by Mrs memory of KB MOS uh Hitler robbed her over Jewish Education spent her life catching up attending shim and proudly supporting her family's effort in Li Tor a graer must be a Yi if it's okay so that is I hope what I got there okay now back to the program which is we know that b is gatria of three that three Macos are in this parha seven in the previous para what are the difference between the two what is this idea of these 10 maos Source nine repet explains based on a passage in the zor kados that Hashem visited T mos upon the Egyptian so as to subdue the 10 forces of Tuma that oppose the 10 forces of kadha and that's by SAR mosa let's explain this a little bit deeper to the point we won't understand Source 10 just as Hashem so to speak adorned himself with these 10 meos to create and manage the world that was created with 10 utterances so too did he great man in such a manner that he would embody these 10 meos now the uh Tanya divides these up into two distinct categories the intellect and the MOs the first three kerma and Bina are located in a person's head in his brain I mean the arrow and 10 and intellect they enable him to use his wisdom and intuition to comprehend the Torah and the greatness of the Creator by doing so they influence the seven lower meos located in a person's heart which is have the to love Hashem the theur to rever Hashem to be able to use these aspects in relationship with Hashem however next paragraph if there are forces of kadha to come closer to Hashem there must be also forces of Tuma impurity to go against our relationship with Hashem the upper three attributes in the asteris in 10 of Tuma corrupt the intellect of the upper three elements of kadha they interfere with a person's ability to comprehend the Torah and perceive the greatness of the Creator now we can understand why mosu is reluctant to go now when he wasn't reluctant to go beforehand beforehand he's fighting parro in the world of mos and that's difficult but it's doable in the world of the intellect pyro who says meem who is God this world of the intellect is a far greater challenge not only convincing pyro but also convincing the Jewish people of the authenticity of God mosu says when it comes to the lower seven MOS I I feel I'm able to go and fight parro but now we've entered into a whole new Arena now you want me to go with the top three maos which are the cat the and the beina aspect of recognizing Hashem in this area I feel I am deficient deficient unequipped inadequate inadequate use any word that you want to fill in the blank is yeah it's a good question can you compare it to today when the top universities are uh challenging truth and refuse to uh acknowledge well and I think it is very much a uh a comparison when you're entering into that league and literally The Ivy Leagues when you're entering into that League it's a whole different war going on the common is is is is very much Drawing the Line is is a good nuda now um and generally we know in 12 a m in action has to be the mo shal that's an acronym from m in 12 the mo the brain has to be Shalit Reigns over the heart that we think about what we do we're focused on what we do now now we can appreciate our P Source 13 therefore to allay moshe's confusion Hashem informs him that the Egyptian's heart will not be subjugated fully by the first seven maos because it's necessary to also subjugate the first three MOS associated with the intellect of Tuma only then and that's the end of this first group of that everyone will know that there is a God so boel parro come to parro and I want you to know you're asking well why am I coming again seven haven't worked I'll tell you why I've daa hardened his heart because now I want you to enter into plagues that will lead to look at the end of of of the section that you may know that I am Hashem now we're dealing with a whole different Arena here it's the arena of Yas Hashem knowledge of Hashem the upper aspect now he makes a very interesting note we're almost out of here so relax you're doing great he makes a beautiful note for talk it to myself not to you a beautiful nuden Source 14 which is almost like the Chicken and the Egg and that is do you first work on your head and that influences the heart or do you work on your meos and when your meos are more perfected then you can work on the intellect and and it's again it's a chicken and an egg and you can argue it really what both ways yeah when you meet balas you see that there's this kind and that kind you for sure that they are kinds that go through the intellect for sure for sure he's saying for us start on the MOs the seven plagues first were against the and then came the three plagues which were what the intellect because if you don't work we'll talk about this right now if you don't work on who you are so you can talk from here to tomorrow about the rebon culum it's there's no one going to what there's no one going to be home to listen first you have to be a CLE a a vehicle of openness to want to be and change and then you can take as as an assurance I know there's a God and therefore I have to behave in a certain way and he notes that the end of the paraa and the beginning of the paraa come full circle they say this in therapy as well as in teaching you know if it's a good class or a good session is if if the end connects with the beginning you like to come full circle okay take it or leave it the end of the paraa is filling so at first I said why should I bother doing this this is you know and he goes much longer but I I felt like I had to mention this so here goes and 16 and 15 and 16 I'm going to do it outside you can follow it inside what do men put on first The Filling of the hand or the filling of the head The Filling of the hand the hand and the hand is the cross from the heart you first have to subjugate the heart then and this is not something we know unless you've watched Men put on Fillin they wrap the Fillin on their hand how many times I know seven times which are the seven metos it's a seven MOS then they put on the T and shell Rose which has a knot and two straps coming out which represents the ker in the middle and then you have the kma is one strap and the beina is the other strap and you can also say cuz those seven lead to the shakai that yes 100% good Goods up yes very good that's why they're hanging down they meet up with the meos love it that's great yes um is a man supposed to have that cavana if he can go to that level to have the cavana as he's rapping to think about each of the series I'm sure it is you you you've you've you've left my spere maybe was she us women should have a class on um feel's not my I have no idea for what it it's not you know it just will tie me in lots of knots [Music] and now let's talk about this for our lives there's two nudos that come out of this piece from that I want to focus in on number one is 17 and that's shom which he talks about and he says I'm in 17 working on purifying our mid is the heart of our spiritual uh journey in this world and all of our spirituality is dependent on to what extent we have purified our MOS this is why we're on planet Earth this is a a person is only here to break his and to purify his MOS and and this is what we have to realize you know it's not about coasting through life it's about dealing with what ouros and this is why're here and when we're in challenging situations we have to realize that this is what makes us who we are I thought about this yesterday two another driving example this is where I work on my metos two lanes coming into one lane and you're in the wrong lane and you know you're in the wrong lane and not only that you cut right in front of me who is in the right lane AA and I wasn't happy camper and I'm sitting there saying saying to myself Shira this is such an opportunity of Tara samito just let go I know you can't relate to that unless you're an aggressive driver type A then you know what I am talking about if not then you're saying like what is her issue you got it okay great use it in any way it drives you mhm 18 the second we have to know and this is very important is and this is true of all of our spiritual Journeys in our life the way we view things in the physical world is not the way we view things in the spiritual World in our lives we like to see the fruit of our labors and when we don't we look at ourselves as a failure in Ras it's about being it's about investment in self that brings the to Theon shal that mysterious neish is what Hashem wants whether we are successful or not is secondary Hashem is never going to ask us were you successful Hashem is going to ask ask us did you try which means that I may be working on my anger and 10 times I get angry and three times I didn't I'm a success why because three times I was able to hold myself back and we give ourselves such a hard wrap like H why did I lose a 10 times okay so I have to work on myself but can you just appla the what the three times because the key is not to throw in the towel the key is to try to work now I'm just going to add here this is one of my soap boxes so I'm not going to stand on it for long cuz I could get lost here that this is one of the challenges that we have in in K where we focus tremendously on this the academic achievement of the Next Generation and yeah you with me yeah she said 100% and I said well think about what you said you're using right we're using that language yes but the analogy of perfection right we should applaud we should first focus with ourselves and you know I say our children and the children within us you know we all have that little child back to Psychology today the little child within us to focus in on how important MOS are and how it's not about being successful to to say to a child wow you really struggled about sharing that toy and I saw how difficult it was for you being able to to acknowledge and recognize and focus that's where where the real dividends come from and again brains is God's gift to us MOS is our gift to God a and and and we have to get that clear that's nuda number one the second nuda that I want to bring from here is what the Ritson mentioned in 19 are we ever alone and the answer is absolutely not this Ison fantastic safer in Source 19 he talks about a whole piece onus I'm being hashem's messenger and he says in general in the Lords ofus if I send you to to do uh a a mission for me so you go ahead do the mission and I stay back that is not true with the mission with bonus shal and that is Hashem comes with us at all times and he knows believe 19 without H's help I couldn't do anything they going to build this house for me G to shelf it right if Hashem isn't going to guard our land I don't care how many soldiers you have and two billion dollar that you want checkel to to to for the it's not going to help if Hashem doesn't want it to help now what's paradoxical is I flipped the page is that Hashem gives us the credit we get the credit for building even even though bottom line is what it's Hashem who's doing it but know that Hashem is with us at all times and that is why the P says the Bold underline in the middle of 20 I will be with you when moso is reent to go no I'm going to be with you you're not going well by yourself that's why it right mitvah are not har because they are have that intensity of protection now with this we can appreciate and this is the punch line in the arrow in 20 at the end one can never say this is too hard for me if Hashem is going with you then you're able to do anything whatever situation Hashem puts us in whether it it's a difficult family member it's a difficult life situation we're in and we're feeling like I I can't that's a normal feeling stop and realize if Hashem put you here he is he is here yes ma'am is that why hash got so angry at Mo when he said I can't do it exactly exactly cuz you're not doing it you're right if you think you're doing it Gord to Shin it's not going to work that's the ren 20 exactly that paragraph you right like and that's true for our lives my friends and it's so important to realize this and that's why the r Source number 21 points out quoting the RB and the asteris Billy a person has to the Asos 21 a person has to recognize that AA is something we have to work on continuously in our lives the desler goes on to say and part of that albeit it's going to be at first very you know external use the language when you use language it impacts you I'll see you at the sheer tomorrow in Hashem if Hashem wills it Hashem with the help of Hashem when I use that language it reminds me that what it's not it's not up to me and that's how we have to like reframe our lives that I am continuously in Theon shum's hands and he is with me r kuger my soul desire 22 prayer is the key to amuna we accompany every effort we do in any area with a short plead prayers bind us to with yeah with stor faith and guards us from putting our trust in our own performance God forbidden when working for parasa or trying to save money let's say we working saving but parasa is all in your hand when trying to give our children proper I'm doing the best it's in your hands if we consult a doctor or take medicine hem this is my but only alone you can heal me these prayers should be our companion during shopping cleaning hectic preparation shamas for anything else we're doing we do our part but with the serenity of faith and trust in Hashem the Creator and only one in charge who did does and will do for All Creations that is what we have to take away so my friends let's summarize what we've seen so far really is sotic I say this every week everything we do is so fundamental and I really believe it every single week idea number one that we're speaking about is that there are two parts that we have to work on really simultaneous one is tasos we have to work on being a mench and I if I spent my whole life just talking about I believe in God I know there's a God and I haven't worked on who I am so I'm missing it it's theill and Sh Yad before theill and Sh roast I have to work on my MOS I have to work on being a mench and then be able to have the moah be able to rule over the the might seem the actions idea number two we are not going through life by ourselves Hashem is with us at every step of the way and really and I and I want us to really take this home with us because all of us live and are faced with challenging situations and and and when we're in those places where we feel like I just can't after you say you know again I go back to to cowone take me away that's my uh do any of you know what I'm talking about let go and let God that's it I'm sorry okay we'll leave it if you know what I'm talking about great if not drop it it girl you got it but it's not going to be good you're asking a very good question can you D in too hard for something almost Force God's hand and it's not good for me that is an excellent question one I am not touching with 100 foot pole the next hour has R btz that's a question for him that's a rabbi brtz question can I ask something yes ma'am um Can it I don't have any answer I I want it's interesting you mention this because I don't want to get to off field somebody just told me theim like the rain why because the Arabs hate I don't know somebody just told me the exact opposite so I don't know you go figure it out I don't know I don't know what tell me I I don't know I I hear your question I don't know question that whatever it should be I I agree with you I agree with you and Hashem should protect each and every one of these to come up I'm good get stuck like in the current events yeah current events somebody is murdering or molesting somebody what do I say that when thank you God I never spoke about thanking God here I I am speaking about that God is running the show and I am Limited in my understanding of what is going on and I have to have which leaves me thank you for our next idea you were a segue I have to have the humility to know that I am limited from my vantage point this is bad but I am looking at it from my vantage point and and and and I'm only seeing what I see in front of me do I know the larger picture and do I know what these Souls need to go through in the larger Tik Hanish no do I know what the world needs to go through so again we coming from our human perspective is like no this is painful this is wrong this is categorically not good from my perspective and I am human and I only am looking at it from this way up not this way down and that's where humility comes in because if I don't have that then I ask well where is God and how do we understand this and then it opens up a Pandora's Box and and and and and this is where the amuna comes in is Hashem I am limited and I trust you easier said than done of course but that's where that's where that's where the where the work is you know I my husband just showed me I might have mention here a piece from of Wilson's actually where he says that the October 7th happened on s t something that's starting on a day of goodness only good can come from it that from R wolson rosha Wolfson the one who wrote uh the Feast of Faith yeah yeah yeah I bought the book great enjoy it one who wrote what Feast of Faith Feast of Faith she quoted from it about Feast of Faith Feast um and he brings as an example I see I'm getting very nowhere he brings as an example of a case in during World War II where Yeshiva decided where should we stay should we go and and the r said go to to Siberia and Siberia was Siberia and they said to him wasn't this a wrong choice he said the choice was made on the day that morai sent out the second letters no bad can come from this day and in the end those who stayed in Vila were all killed those who went to Siberia it was Siberia but they what surv they survived and he said it's because when something happens on a day historically right in the Jewish calendar that is good only good can come from it only good will come from this and and I and I'll and I'll just add and I'm going to take away a lot of the sheer by adding but that's life we are living in times that are unpreceded precedented and when you again this is what we spoke about the last few weeks when I look at the news from the perspective of human eyes and I say South Africa is bringing us to trial hello and Germany is defending us hello it doesn't make sense you're right none of this makes none of this makes sense why because we're dealing with something much greater than we understand we are so tiny we are dealing with America and and and Britain are dealing with Yemen I mean who was like what is going on here it it it it the whole picture and my friends hold on tight because we are dealing with something so major go ahead it reminds me of the story of when he right stud why are youing right thank you re AA who laughs when his students are crying because he's able to have that perspective if this navua came true then that navua came true don't just be in the moment of the foxes be able to see excellent an entire picture and that's that's where we are right now Sim Torah is the most joyous day we have to hold on to that and I I I'm leaving this because they don't hire me for world events yes right right and there's a reason why they don't hire me for world events and we're going to figure it out yourself so the next piece I am just going to synopsize and then move to the end of this year and that way I don't have to deal with the big bad wolf who's going to come soon and thr me out of here no pressure what blocks us from both Tas hamidos from working on ourselves as well as from feeling Hashem is with me it's the same n the same Ma and that is Ka ego ego stands for as we've spoken it many times easing got out this is the problem of pyro pyro represents somebody who says I created denial it's all about me so the idea of parro here is the idea is almost like to have in our face parro is the same letters as HAF HAF is the back of the neck exactly in transients refusal to see anything beyond himself and and we have to know that this is really the battle that we the Battlefront is the Battlefront of being able to recognize you know what I am limited I have a lot to do I only see part of the picture and that's why he brings here in 23 and that's all I'm going to do inside in the asterisk he says the exact opposite of parro are um is Yehuda Yehuda is the ability to say what thank you a right she's right I'm wrong that ability to say yehud you know what I'm not perfect I make mistakes that is what makes you worthy to be a Mel because real greatness is knowing our limitations and this is in our own lives that we're able to say you know what I goofed I wasn't right I made a mistake viter moving on on okay my friends I am moving on to Source 28a talking about moving on if you want to look at the sheets learn it over Friday night and it's also online the whole year 28a sorry 28 t r kushki parro was not a unique individual phenomena in a sense each of us has our own parro within as the rampam writes in one of his letters know my son that parro king of Egypt is actually theara let's take a look at this whole PK now from an allegorical level the first one we spoke about was more of the mystical level Bo Al pyro you're not going by yourself I'm coming with you Bo is reminder to us why it's called Paro you never go by yourself that's idea one idea two inil explains that Pyro's tactic was to give us so much work we would not be able to think properly the in and slavery would prevent us from introspection and an awareness of what our goals and Ambitions life should be our yahar is not very different almost without being conscious of it we find our lives too full and busy to ponder where we're heading and whether we are meeting our Targets in life how mically the words come to parro are not only summons to Moshe they're are call to each and every one of us Hashem is telling us yes I created the aara and I've empowered it but you can come to it and over over cometh if you put in your effort and allow me to do the rest wow gorgeous let's talk about two ways to work on thear that's what I want to focus and on the few minutes that we have left the first way is based on the and Source number 30 he says the difference between and ba is I sometimes go I sometimes don't go it's very uh temporal and bow is you come to him consistently and he says the only way to really break the heart of pyro is Bo El pyro because I have hardened his heart your only recourse is what Boop pyro that explains the very easily you have to come to him again and again and again because I hardened his heart so you think M you came once and that should be sufficient you came seven times that should be sufficient no you have to come over and over again and this is true let's talk about our lives that Bo El parro when we work on ourselves we need to have says the Tasha re toos continuous working and and he just describes in 32 like for example one of the schemes of thear is to have these momentary Awakening these momentary feelings of goodness why because in that way you think you're you been yot let me put this in English I go to a sheer twice a week wow thear Pat you on the back and says you are a graer sadus and then I say to myself well if I go to a Shear twice a week then I really don't have to finish my sentence do anything I'm cover I'm covered for the week do I have to learn every single day two full hours year she times it it's full hour I'm finished yes we have to make a balance between that and what you said before that we don't have to finish the work we don't have to finish the work no but we have to be involved in what the process which means that not if I not go to sh Monday and Tuesday Sunday Wednesday Thursday and Friday it might not be an hour Shear but at least I'll go on in you know the uh inspiration daily and at least learn a few minutes that I'm continuously involved in my votus hasem the Tasha rbby at the bottom of 23 says you should have a time to go to sleep a time to wake up a time to DAV in a time because and we know this you know I'll give the example of that safer that I I recommended of Learn shabath 3 minutes a day so you know you're gungho and the first two months OMG you're there and then one day you what you can't you I'm too tired and then the next day well I already missed yesterday it's going to be too hard to catch up and then I've missed a week like when I have that I set my alarm 8:20 in the morning wherever I am this is what I'm doing I'm learning or 8:20 at night I'm making yeah and this is cavos so okay I missed a day okay it happens but you know what 8:20 the next day I'm right back there and and and and again we can fool and the next day we can get ourselves up and we have to try to create this level of pattern the har on the next page in 35 speaks about a in daving we say at the end of right before which is really one section we say Hashem found ainu as as the uh Jewel among all the stones what was the greatness of a it's bold underlined um here are the two key words what's the next word and I found him to be what's this quality of so he says in the arrow which literally means trustworthy is a person who knows something is aware of something and will not move an Iota from what he knows I know this is what I should do and therefore I'm going to do it and I set my life in the sense of this is what needs to get done rler was once asked if a person feels that they can only work on what one medida what mid should they work on he says can they work on consistency because then everything will follow build your life I'm not talking about in a rigid way I'm talking about in a healthy way that there are certain things that I do all the time so we're talking about two things one is Nama nus means I know certain things and I live by them and that then leads to that I am going to have a follow through program in a very orderly type of way yes question the example that comes to my mind it's a simple example is many a year ago five six years ago I was learning with my daughter after candle lighting on Friday night we were learning neph Shimon shabas kodes and we would learn a little piece every Friday night so that summer I was going to America was supposed to be for two weeks I end up for the whole summer L and my daughter is my Packer for me even now after she's married some people are organized and some people are wannabes I'm a wannabe when I got to New York I saw that not only did she packed for me my clothes she also put into the pocket a photocopy of neph shon so that I could learn on Friday night wherever I was Landing the piece she would learn here I would learn there that is what we're talking about what excuse do you have with a photocopy machine we have one in our house I'm sure you know that by now um you you you you continue and that there's a certain Godless to that that I'm following through and where I where I'm at and he says this is the difference between a person who is in 37 a Ben alah 37 one who's growing in in in life to someone who's not a Ben alyah har we shown in the as 637 IV they follow through in everything and they don't to it's not about my mood I'm in the mood I'm not in the mood I want to I don't want to that's us I'm not in the mood now maybe I'll get to it later any of you have ever said that in your life and then when is later to not what you feel like do what say it again do what you want to not what you feel like do what you want to not what you feel like I'm going to even um yeah I'm going to tweak that do what you need to do not what you feel like doing perfect go ahead right 100% that finding that constant not persistent 100% the greatness of adiru was that um tireless effort to continuously find rebon in every situation and that was like his calling his his whole makeup yeah um there many times when you have your Sader that you're trying to see can just like break down in big ways 100% so let let let me just usually women that that do that not the men right men do what they have to do right so so you you are correct in that women have more uh responsibility and things that come up that are uh going to take away from this ability be consistent having said that yes and no which means that even women have you're right 100% right even women by and large particularly at this stage in life have a certain schedule in life can it be broken that's a kid needs it a a grandkid needs to be picked up from school all of this can happen and it comes usually out of nowhere quick help come having said that then build in let me get back to let me know what was at you know when we're saying building we're not building a rigid schedule from 8 I'm going to do this and 9 I'm going to do this we're saying that certain things have to be plugged into the day a has to be plugged into the day Torah learning daving so if I can't plug it in here I have to remember to what to plug it in elsewhere and that's that's what the elasticity of life is about but I'm holding to that nus I know it needs to get done I will find time to do it let me just finish this last idea here and and we'll call it a day and that is R that's 38 and he says the following double squiggly the story ofro isn't again power being itahara isn't a story of what once was it's a story about you and me it's a story about our Yahara it's a story about our struggles so on the first level Bo El pyro means on this second level 2 a means come consistently and and and and hit pyro on a consistent basis the second L let's develop this he says when we read 39 when we read the story of pyro we say come on you have all these Moos you have all these things happening to you hello when are you going to wake up and what smell the Coffey or smell the roses or whatever um and we see parro makes all these promises and doesn't follow through on the Promises well let's take a look at our lives how many times do we have things happen to us where we see God so clearly and we what make promises and we make promises that don't what that that don't pin out and and he brings down here as well and and I know it's not an exact comparison I know at the same time I want us to hear sometimes you have to go to the extreme just to get the effects this is the extreme to get the effects so don't jump on me PK says the night of Mak says per gets up in the middle of the night if you know rip alter's song parro pajama MSA don't worry we're not singing it the the uh Rashi says one word from his bed it's one of the greatest rashis around the one word Rashi what is parro doing in his bed on the night of of Mak he is a like if it would be me i' would be what so he says okay leave P for a moment let's take a look at us it could be some during the year it could be something we're going through right now the night of rash where and where are we that night in bed sleeping are we any different than pyro and we know why can because Hashem wires us this way because otherwise I would have what a nervous break I would have a nervous break there whoever said that that was very well stated thank you so what do you do so he says when we're dealing with the Yahara there are two types of battles in 41 there's one type of battle which is external to us and in those external battles what you have to do is run right something you shouldn't see something you shouldn't hear something J what run away from it you know my daughter was telling me something very fascinating I don't have time to share and I said I'm not doing current events but I'm going to mention this she says she was telling me that the K world has come out emotionally stronger after October 7th than the Kone youth because they were not um exposed to pictures and one who is exposed to a screen doesn't have the emotional wherewithal and process to be able to do with deal with it like someone who went through this is wired fright flight freeze and and has given the the psychological help when a 15-year-old a seven-year-old sees these images from October 7th they don't know what to do with it a 50-year-old a 50-year-old doesn't know what to do with it talked about that at the very beginning that people should not be looking there's so many other reasons oh for sure because youth who have brothers and no though 100% 100% we're not you're you're 100% correct no no no you're 100% correct yes that yes you are right having said no I'm I'm I'm acknowledging you it's 100% right I'm just looking at this one nuda and I'm I'm very narrow here nothing else not get involved in any other uh what you see impacts you and that's why we did say at the beginning curtail what you see because we don't know how to handle it we don't know how to handle it so there are the challenges outside of us even today right how much to listen go ahead but to see makes makes a ro makes a ro that's the outside battle let's talk about the inside battle what do you do when the itahar is in outside of you I can't turn it off I can't move it away but I can what I have to deal with it inside there you have Bo El parro what do you have to do go go inside of yourself and fight don't pretend you're not angry don't pretend you're not jealous don't pretend that these things aren't around you B El pyro go inside of yourself and actually do battle let's take a look um3 the hour to see what is driving us and to deal with that and hence and this is our final idea Shalom says in 46 we have to envision our MOS as the foundation of our houses so often we like to put all of our resources in making our houses look beautiful and that's all above ground but if the foundations of our houses are not strong what happens to these beautiful houses they're liable to collapse bow parro is about entering into the fight of the itahara and what drives me to feel these things why am I feeling this way go ahead that's why I want to quote Abby Le's daughter isra but it's all it's all beneath the surface the surface this is really where the work is and this is where the struggles are and all of us have this work and all of us have this struggle and we can't be afraid of it because all of us are there and all of us are dealing with this so in summation my friends boaro one word has so much go you're not going but by yourself I'm coming with you come with me hold my hand I'm holding yours we ready two BO alaro we have to understand consistently ask myself do I follow through on a consistent basis and three don't be afraid of the battle the battle is where I grow the battle is where the greatness is some battlefields I have to turn a blind eye but the battlefield inside of me has to be low I have to go fight that Yara it's the foundations of my life