Looking for a Segulah Daven! Part 3 But I Don't Understand Tehillim by Rabbi Yitzchak Feigenbaum

Shalom everybody good morning or good afternoon depending on wherever the heck you are um and once again as always do remember please the there's no greater SL than Lio TOA we should never stop for a second to to remind ourselves always remind ourselves that rich the all the LI going on for this year and all the sh so many extra shum that have gone all over the world be for all the people that need a was pointed out though the technically that's true all the and all the the captives and all the hostages and all the every bear everybody in everywhere and unfortunately everywhere in the world I think uh we see it we seem to need extra you know extra and in order to stay safe okay let's get back to work so as I said there's always so much we can do we're doing this is number three right we're looking for SCH we forgot we're looking for scho stop it as we always do let's just quickly sum it up and and and hit the next step we started with watch daving work you're not nagging at K you're changing you're balancing that's the the Crux of how works we will get toil trcka we'll get to other things there are other things that could change your balance sheet and therefore the isum of today maybe is yes deserving of winning the lottery whereas the of yesterday was not right now we're focusing on why is do that because it Crux you're the source acknowledging that k b was the source of everything notwithstanding the fact that we have to do our God list right you can't walk into traffic at five o'clock in the afternoon blindfolded and assume B could do a miracle just because he good not allowed to do that you know you don't leave your bulletproof Fest in the in the back seat you know what I mean you you put it out and if you have money you buy them one and go to the doctor right if you're not feeling well but we have to recognize the fact that is one that does it all by recognizing that refering to only if hasem heals us will we be healed that changes the balance of our good deeds and bad Deeds that changes the kadha we're new people and we're judged every day and maybe today we'll be judged differently how does it help for the people who are not doing for the guy that's in the coma because he gets you to do a MIT such an important concept because so many of the times we're dting for people who are not doing for themselves they don't know that it's a good idea Unfortunately they educated or they don't have the physical wherewithal they're they're in a coma right the whole point is and that's how it all works all M that we do we do a m we do a Seda drive we do a br party we do aake we do whatever we do if we're doing it is we wouldn't have done it had Uncle Charlie wouldn't have been in a coma we wouldn't have done it if there wouldn't be hostages in Aza would you have done it no I never do it why you doing it now so they got us to do a Mitzvah they didn't talk us into it they didn't convince us into it but not for them they w't be doing it which you they get scared for that that changes their balance and therefore when they're being judged every day they're getting a newer judgment and a different judgment because their balance of Mito has changed because of look at all the mitos they got us to do how by they're sitting there in a tunnel and Goa right that's how it works number three was I if sometimes through our lifetime it seems that a Boker just see just never seems to help so it could be your doing is not good enough could be you're just not worthy but it could be as we said a hugely important concept I want to repeat it again ma ma desler BP Caba on zo I got more emails and responses about this concept that any share I think have given in years right and it is a hugely important concept does make a very big difference to your life right it's s that's not me he's quoting the Z not even him right ma when the gor gives you quotes that says it's all your mulea doesn't helpa will not change anything that good deeds won't change anything right the gor gives quotes right how many children you'll have you know the food how long you live is is it's dependent on your mael not good deeds not good deeds that's referring to a m Elio and all thear that say you could always D always D it could always change Always that's we said M Elon your overarching job it was decreed your Nama was sent down to earth to have to struggle and deal with things and by making the right decision you are increasing condution bringing mashiah closer and divided up those struggles fairly even though may not look fair but he did and if that's the struggle you were given it makes no difference what at age 62 at when you're 62 and three months and four days and two seconds X is going to happen withn the lottery God for get hit by truck that that that you're put your was put here to struggle with that it's irrelevant of what status you're at at that point in your life that was preet and it's and you're gonna be sick for six weeks six weeks is and and there's nothing you do about that that's your job Rob ler been for D because said I would have to destroy the world and recreate it in order that you should not be poor I have to start creation all over again that that's the system and in that system this is you and there's nothing we can do about that some of the things that go on in our life are country B who starts you off and taka says let's see how it goes well start you off with ABC you're deserving you're worthy we can make things easier for you you're not you're being a jerk so then why should I make things easier for you being an idiot forget it right and the trick is we never know we never know we never know we never know right we never know um if what we're doing for is a prete set that's an example of my daughter right somebody got to be in a wheelchair if nobody was in wheelchairs we wouldn't have opportunities to push wheelchairs Pickering we we need sick people otherwise we we we can't do Miss B somebody got be said right I'm the kid in the wheelchair some gonna be the kid in the wheel I'm the kid in the wheelchair right is that a mule ELO and then and set forever set stone is that a Mas tone we're gonna start let's see how she does if she does really good we can switch it to something funner we never I mean well if you're a rebel P that b will tell you right baring if you're rubber Les and I'm sure the Great cabalist would right um uh uh uh you know it it certainly could it could change so yeah and you never know so what do you do you di it right you di it and if it works it works and if it doesn't so the worst thing that'll happen is you get maraba because you did all those MIT ofing or BR parties or bakes or Fe super duper now I want to talk about another thing and this be almost the last on this topic of daving we're putting it all together then we're going to move on to like why is s make such a difference why is that such a big deal are you buying off God what is this check Junius and that is the issue of daving in Hebrew I don't I I don't know all the people on this on this call and I I don't know so other people so many people click in and and and you know and and and pick it up later so I I I don't know who you are I don't know what you're what your Hebrew language level is but it's a very common question I get you know so it's it better to to say the Hebrew but I don't know what I'm saying it's better to read in English but then I miss out the Hebrew what's the scoop there like how does that work and that's talking very important so let's start start with the the language is called lones that's not like by accident right it's like sh how KES because created the world with this language right you you speak you create it's not by coincidence that the word d deor is talk words davar deor are things famous issue when you learn after these words or after these things because as the says is a calist all point to because BR created the world with words with Hebrew letters right call I me we we you and hey we're not going into the capitalistic issue of which letters do what that there books on that if if if it strikes your boat but there's it's absolutely true there is power toes you say this animal is a corun in the good old day well even if you do it today but certainly in the good old days the anal was a corbon it created a spiritual reality you just said the words Z corbon on this little Betsy the cow over here and this Betsy the cow it changes a million things somebody comes over and messes it up you're messing up with a carb but you can get yourself into wacko big trouble by messing around with that cow why is this cow different than any other cow because you said words and has dramatic H ramifications forgetting the spiritual ramifications of this cow is now kados which we can't necessarily see or taste or smell the greats could right but we can't but words make a difference even our words foret K's words that's but our words English Hebrew no no it's not true words are powerful right andesa kodesh it it it it connects the material and the spiritual G big a big huge tall skyscraper is God a 6 foot4 250 pound football player who can't read English is G Raa it was 542 was a g coincidence no there's a connection between the spiritual and and the physical you walk up a flight of stairs you're ol you get called up to the Torah you're ol you move to erra your old what is walking up a flight of stairs have to do it moving to erra what Aliah o there's a spiritual Aliah there's a physical Aliah you climb up a mountain in your ol you move terrail even if you're on a Mountaintop and come down that you're called olette there's a there's a there's a there's there's a very um intense connection based on the power of hakodesh words mean something words create and therefore when kazal set up the language of art filos they they were very careful of the words they used and there's a dramatic power in the words so just to say if you don't understand what you're saying just forget it to say it in English because it's all the same because you're talking to God you got to talk to God just have a conversation with god there's all sorts of books not feel youat I'll talk about it and I say that I'm God that wrot English translation to a sitter you know what I mean I should be plugging DAV in English so you'll buy my sitter which is which is true you should but there's a power in doing in Hebrew you can't say there's not so I want to differentiate a little bit so we get it clear because we're ding so much today and we're saying till last night here mutant they had a big tilling Gathering 10 o'clock at night sh was packed and we're saying till and I got to tell you I'm saying till so the famous ones that have f famous one but they're not so much famous ones which only become famous now unfortunately are you not so famous and as I'm reading them I'm saying you know I really should do a a a fing Bob tailing because I myself don't know I don't know what I'm saying like I don't know what it's referring to I don't know what it's talking about like I get the gist of the chapter and some PUK resonate but some PUK are like what the heck was that like I that that was very poetic and it sounded really good and everyone saying with great intensity but I'll bet you $100 one that there's only four people in the room that know what have met so what's the scoop so listen carefully my friends ding general standard three times a day we will not get into the women are yes women are not normal regular that's there when you're balancing should I say the whole words that K imbued with great power or should I just talk to a in normal English based and just paraphrase in English the theme they were trying to say here there by and large it's a conversation with hem you're discussing with Hashem you're what we say you're raising your spiritual level by acknowledging the fact that the good Lord is is in charge if you don't know what if you don't know what the word means then you're not acknowledging the fact that God is the source of everything and that's the whole point of the doing the whole point of the doing is a chb who is the source of everything so if he's the source of everything if you don't say that if you're not saying it you're not saying it you gotta say it if you don't know what that means you don't know what that means the whole point is saying charge of how knowledge if I want to understand something it ain't gonna happen if you don't want me to but if you do want me to then I will so please there's so many things I need to understand I want understand I'm not trying to not understand I just don't get it because I'm a little thick and my education ain't so great but if you could help me out I would be thrilled because I do want to understand y I don't want to just walk around say this is stupid but I'll do it because I don't want to go to hell I want to understand that so you gotta ask God please help me understand it and if you don't know that that's what the just mumbled at his holy words you didn't put in that request and doesn't know if you really care or not if you understand maybe you don't care maybe once you find out what it is you'll say I'm gonna skip the BR I don't need to understand I don't want to understand it's too complicate forget it I don't explain anything but I don't know that if that's important to you then you need to say it that's then there's another kind of doing there's the doing of a s which I'm sure as everybody heard a thousand times WR that everybody holds that's for women tooing to there also here it changes slightly meaning if you have no clue of what you're saying it's it's a little tricky if you have a basic concept of what you're saying which is I don't know exactly what all the words mean I don't exactly what I'm saying we're in big trouble and we need help and it ain't gonna happen without you if you understand that that's why you're standing in trol for 45 minutes saying a lot of Hebrew words because we're in trouble and we need help we're doing our best we're buying the bulletproof Fest but without your help they don't do any good and we all though if you understand that concept then you're doing b s then you're doting b s well so what's better though so should I say the words should should I say the English so so I really understand precisely every every sentence that I'm saying or I I know why I'm doing this what have I seen these extra chapters for a s because God helped I don't know exactly what each word means what but the overall concept is that's what we're trying to say right that's a tricky question that's a tricky question and that takes us to number three and that'll help with this there's a whole another different ball game and that's called to hilum saying tum is a completely different ball game not I'm not talking about daving yes a lot of daving happens to be tum that's doic that we discuss doic the saying Kum to say to Hill and to Hill D put in a special request that his TM should be accepted by even if his children who are saying it don't appreciate exactly what he say tell them is till right lot of oh you see these ladies on the Bus St they T them they're mumbling T they don't know what they're saying and and you see especially today all sorts of nonreligious people you see stories all over the place people are saying tell them people are saying tell them they don't know what they mean even Israelis no Hebrew you ask down say say them they're not wrong they're not wrong don't make fun of them they're right to is to is to Israel who had that unique M funny funny enough who who who who wrote to Hill the guy who SP half his time killing people right and going to war because B wouldn't let him build a base of migas so much blood on his hands and he's names Israel the the the poet the singer right that has a special power and therefore if you're if if you're saying tillim because I'm saying tillim I took it by myself to say three program of tillum every extra day for the situation I took it by myself stop I say till him I finished till him once a month I finished till him once a year it's divided up in so many multiple ways I'm saying till them I don't know you know 40 times a day for for a should have you know that's a whole separate issue right if you're interested about all that go to my website there's a uh sheer for singles you know I watch this video 40 times a day for 40 days we talking about school for okay but there is an inion of 40 if it's to then say the till then say the till it would be great if you could slowly maturely learn it it would be great if you have an English on the side I mean if you have enough time you could sort of mix and match you know it's l obviously there's no my for understand it for God's sakes right right but but there's no time right the famous one so sit down and evening and figure out you know s i it's a short chapter everyone saying every day one or two you can get right but um but push comes to shove say the till you're saying an ex number of tillum save it tillum there's an evening and people are saying tillum and they're saying all sorts of chapters you don't understand just say it with everybody in tillum what am I doing I don't know what I'm saying but all I know is D said you ber you answer till him he won his Wars we need to win our Wars he said Till him I'm saying till him help us out and and and then you're good unlike Shak ding when you're making requests you got to know what you're asking for because are you sincere do you really care about this do you really want this do you really really think I'm the one gives it to you are you saying like just don't get in my way God because I want this I'm okay just please don't get in my way you got you got to be clear in what you're saying understand your sincerity that's the breakdown of of of the division gtic as we've been doing as our men has become not only do we like to talk about doing but we're going through doting slowly but surely and I picked um watch this folks okay so we did we did that the power I have such a hard that word the power of of having free will the ability to make choices not withstanding the fact that if we wouldn't have so much free will we wouldn't mess our lives up so much yeah but you would never grow without it now we're up to the famous sh Isha Shani so no from my sitter right um and watch what we're gonna do so men say are the source of everything and I want to thank you as we said these 15 Bros are a thank you even though it doesn't say the word thank you but we know you started off thank you 15 thank yous thank you thank you for this thank you for that thank you that you did not create me a woman that's what men said I because of that I have so many extra mvos it's true I'm happy I have all those extra mitoses women thank you Shani K so know that you created me according to your will right and thus I have a unique and crucial role to play even though at times it seems unclear that was that was my addition for people that are saying it because that's what many women feel of course the FAQ on the side of the sitter here is this is not simply a FAQ it's the FAQ and of course here here's the problem right um right were men not created according to your will right you got to go both ways thank you why can't we say we weren't created according to's will no we were oh they were cre we were not so we right then we're also cre according to's will right and what do you mean sh so no right so so why they saying right the Crux of it is based on the a a a a a difference in Mission the Crux is based on difference of reality the Crux is based on the totality of CLA yako ainu being T feris multicolored um right the power of T feris is is that it's a beauty is not one color one color is pretty but beauty is taking many colors and putting them together men and women husband and wife right there's multicolors each one different color the mix and matches what makes it beautiful the answer to this question was going to take a little more time so by the power invested in me I'm not going to now you know what um should we do it yeah by not we been 24 minutes we'll do it we'll try and do it quickly so we can start something else next week very simply put let me get everybody on the screen so I can see everybody there's the famous for and we'll do this quickly maybe next week we'll add on if you're a little confused email me uh Rabbi why Fama Gmail by the way if people have asked Rabbi why don't forget the why because there's a lot of fig moms around where are rabbis right Rabbi why fom at gmail um you can email me very simply put we know the women are compared to the Moon L and men are compared to the sun right from hard demotions men are Mo it doesn't mean that men are heartless and women are brainless right but what what it does mean is each one connects to yish kind in a in a very different way and therefore adds to the system as a whole in a very different way this is a generality there's always exceptions to every single solitary Rule and exceptions have to be dealt with but we need a general concept which creates the structure of the communities of odos hasem and therefore that filters down into what everybody does are there people who are will always be an anomaly to the overall structure yes there's Kohan who should have who like maybe bad choice and God made him a Cen this alen that guy should have been a c I absolutely for sure get said I I'll put it up in the in in the chat my email address in a second before I uh okay good idea um the line I always use is right when I'm talking to teenagers I said Do you ever see this following conversation go at home between your parents right the uh the the the the the husband that turns the wife and say says Dear are are you are you upset with me well you didn't say anything and all the kids laugh because they've all heard that before but it is true that and women work on different different different styles of communication right men are focused on on things and topics and words right when a when a wife has a problem right the husband says here's a solution and she wanted to talk for 20 minutes just to discuss it and he wants to solve it right um which is all good we need we need people to discuss and understand and feel and empathize and we need people to get out there and do something right we need a lot of different things truth be told the mes can get in the way of your aotus hasem let's be honest you can get focused on the external you just at your checkbox I put on my Fillin I wore my Talis I shook the Lula I'm good next go ahead I did it my check box I got 63 check boxes I just check them off as I do them and I I'm good you're not connecting to you're not connecting to Ras but you did it you did you did it it's a great problem when you are so hung up on getting the misses and misses done right that you're so busy doing them what did R Felman to say in the ter convention raising a generation of young people they're very observant they've never been so observant in their whole life but they're not religious right we've eradicated bugs and filling them more Square than they've ever been but no was committing a relationship with a country bar that's a problem on the other hand if there's no structure everybody justar and whatever they want and just you know just attunes to the Rus that's beautiful and that's enlightening and that's inspiring but you can just spiral right out of shade and and completely forget about it it's it's a tricky balance right a very tricky balance each one has their pluses and each one has their minuses by and large and it's a by and large by and large and I thought men and women for years I talked to Mar to men and women they understand things differently there's a great article they took two groups of of a group of men a group of women who were equally good in math and language skills and they gave them the same identical test but they had their brains wired and they noticed everybody got the exact same grade but the men use different parts of the gra brain to come to the same answer as the women did they think differently we see things they smell things differently by and large women are more intuitively kados they can emulate a Kadesh they give birth to life how greater what greater closeness to a Kesh bar would you be than that possibility whether it happens to happen or it doesn't happen to happen but the concept is there in the genre of women right and therefore they're blessed with a more intuitive sense there the LA theun they inly smell and sense kadua and therefore that's really what a coach bur would have wanted G one Mitzvah that was it that would have been great if we wouldn't have messed it up that would have been nice that that that would have created real rof instead of getting bogged down in detail so you're a robot doing details you're orthoprax but you're not you're not connecting to bar that's really turno right but it's very difficult because if you don't have a checkbox and you don't have a structure you can get so busy with things that you forget to connect it it's great to have things that sort of force you and lock you on into something practical and that's what men have because without it they they would do nothing because they wouldn't intuitively connect theu they need stuff the stuff can become external but at least it force them to connect the women don't have to worry about becoming superficial external but they got to remember to pay attention and focus on the cond that's there each has their struggles so because really we wish that's the way it would be because truth be told it's easier to serve Hashem when you have a really practical checkbox list to do so at least you starts you with a structure with great risk of being external but it starts you with a structure women say that's really the way you wanted it to be we just have to struggle to do that because there's reasons why kbo had to throw a whole bunch of mitah in because it is a a tricky missile to who intuitively and internally that's the basic that's the basic Essence we' run way over time I ask you m that's inappropriate all right um but that we will go over it a little bit more if you have issues with it but that's the basic idea next week in mem we will pick this up more and we're going to start doing with like sdua why is sdua such a big deal in buying off and we will continue with everyone should only have Theos toos