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Ryan was an amazing, amazing little boy,
and we only wish she would
have stayed that way.
But things changed.
I grew up
in what they call
a traditional Jewish background.
What that means is that we go to synagogue
two times a year and that's it
good.
So where were we?
I decided to keep a record
of every single day.
I'm just going to talk a little
bit about what went on in the day.
What's going through my mind.
Because I think that you're going
to appreciate this in a few years.
I don't know why, but I just
have a feeling that you will.
When I was growing up
and I saw an Orthodox Jew walking
on the street on Shabbat,
I used to want to hit them
with my car.
My parents really did the best
job that they could do.
They even sent us to Jewish school,
which they did not have themselves.
We had Shabbat Friday night
dinner every Friday night.
But on the table
for dinner was pork chops.
Have a nice day...
Thank you... Hum McDonald's is the best.
Yo yo yo, we love lobster in this family.
Hey cheers guys.
Oh, boy, look at a lobster.
I went to private Jewish
schools my whole life.
And you have to understand they
weren't religious schools.
They were Jewish schools.
They separated
God
from Judaism.
I never knew God.
Imagine living a life without knowing Him,
how lost you would get, how far you
could go, how confused you could be.
How could you blame me?
Growing up, my father told me
that I grew up such a nice boy.
He always played nice.
He never bothered anybody.
But the problems all started
when I got into high school.
Ryan had some negative influences.
When it came to his friends in high
school, the principal of his school
told me in the 40 years
that the guy was an educator.
He never had a more dysfunctional
group of male students.
There was a kid in our grade
whose older brother
was a major drug dealer.
And the brother figured that he was able
to funnel drugs into our grade
through his younger brother.
So at the age of 13 years old,
my friends and I were all strung out
smoking weed day in and day out.
We would start smoking once a month,
and it started into every two weeks.
And then it started every week.
And then it started every day.
And then it became every
hour of every day.
And a lot of people think
that weed is not a problem.
Let me tell you something.
At 13 years old, weed is a problem.
Our eyes were red, everybody knew what
was going on, and nobody said a word.
Four, five, six years ago when he told me
that I was doing this and I was, I, I just,
it took me by surprise. I didn't believe it.
I went to camp.
I was hired as a counselor
when I was 17 years old.
One of my jobs was to do to that interview
the incoming junior
counselor as a 17 years old.
All of a sudden it was Ryan's interview.
It's now noon.
He's still not there.
12:10, 12:15.
I go.
Okay.
I don't think this guy's coming.
I call him up.
He had totally forgotten about
the interview, which I was
obviously not impressed with.
My schooling fell apart.
My grades fell apart, my class fell apart,
my relationships fell apart,
and I was left picking up the pieces.
How is a young person today
supposed to grow up normal, healthy
in a world where there's no creator,
where everything is random?
You know, so many people are hating right
now on the Orthodox Jewish community.
You can't tell me nothing
because I've lived in a world
without a community.
But to be quite honest, hum, he was a good guy.
He recognized that there was other kids
in the program that weren't
exactly like him.
And instead of him being this macho guy
who was like,
too cool for school for these kids,
he actually brought a few of them under
his wing and made them feel very welcome.
And that was something
that really stood out for us.
But one of the things that was a problem
is that we had heard about his reputation
coming into the summer that he was
involved, hum, you know, with drugs and alcohol already.
So we're out for dinner, everybody.
All the counselors at the camp,
and I'm buying drinks for everybody.
I'm buying pitchers of beer for everybody.
I was the man
doing kindness.
The only problem was I was
17 years old in Canada.
The legal drinking age is 18.
I was shy by a month.
I stumble off the bus going back to camp,
and I see the camp director and the owner
of the camper standing there
with their arms crossed like this.
And I knew already what was happening.
They said, Come here.
They pulled me into their
office and they shut the door.
They said, You're drunk.
I said, no, you're drunk.
I was a little drunk.
I'm not going to lie.
Ryan clearly was intoxicated,
and we actually asked him if he had drunk
any alcohol that night, which he denied.
So the director of the camp looks at me
and says, OK, Steve,
I got to get this guy out of here.
He cannot stay in camp tonight because I
don't know what he's going to do
in the state that he's in.
They said, You're going home.
I was so upset.
My parents.
What are they going to say?
Another failure, another mess.
Ryan is not happy about
being driven home to Montreal.
But 1:30
in the morning, probably.
So what does he do?
He opens the door and starts
dragging his foot on the road.
The Israeli staff pulls Ryan in to the car
and closes the door from the inside,
and the director had to power lock
the door so he wouldn't do that again.
But the interesting thing is,
by the time they started getting closer
to Montreal, Ryan started to sober up.
He looked at the director and said,
what advice can you give me to talk to
my parents about what happened tonight?
I walk up the steps to my house full of
shame, and I knock on my father's door. Knock, knock, knock
He opens up the door with a look
on his face, and it just said,
not again.
He was always in some sort of trouble.
He got thrown out of camp.
He got thrown off the Israel trip.
Even when he ran for student counsel,
he ended up screwing that and ended
up getting thrown out of that, too.
And all this was probably caused
by just a negative attitude.
So I felt that Ryan was getting negatively
influenced by the kids in his grade.
To be honest, that was the last I had seen
Ryan for at least twelve years after that.
I came back to Montreal and it was over
small community here.
Everybody I knew turned their back on me,
so I figured, Well, I'm the bad guy
only be the baddest guy there is.
So I figured let me become a drug dealer.
Everybody was smoking weed.
Let me supply it to them.
I know somebody that I could get it from.
So I started a little bit here a little
bit there, and I took and I would sell it
to my friends and was was
fun in the beginning.
And then it turned from grams into ounces.
And then the ounces turned
into quarter pounds.
And then the quarter
pounds turned into pounds.
And then the pounds turned into kilos.
And before I knew it,
I was running a whole operation.
People selling under me.
I quoted him five grand.
He didn't sound terribly shocked.
I was starting to gain some respect back.
The street was giving me the respect
that I was looking for.
There were all kinds
of things that were going on, you know,
damage to a car getting into a fight.
But there was always some kind of a story
to go along with it.
It wasn't a good thing I wasn't really
involved in terms of knowing exactly what
was going on because he hid it very well.
But I was starting to get concerned.
One day I get a call from my high
school friend's brother.
He tells me I have a good deal for you.
I have a batch of weed that got burnt.
He says I could sell it to you for half
the price if you come
pick it up right now.
What a deal.
I hop into my car.
I go grab it.
And I walked outside quietly,
and I opened the trunk door of my car.
And as I'm gently pushing
the door closed out of nowhere,
they stole my keys.
They stole the weed.
They stole my car.
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I'm saying to myself, Just hang on.
After they beat me.
Within an inch of my life,
I had to do something because I
still owed the money for the drugs.
The way that it works is you get it
on consignment, and then you have to go
sell it and you bring the money
back to whoever gave it to you.
The problem was, I didn't have it.
But I saw
a guy that was older than me.
His name was Stephen, and Stephen
was in the nightclub business.
Not only that, but he was the man.
He had the girls.
He had the money, he had the booze.
He was the gatekeeper to the
hardest clubs in the city.
And I said to myself, Whatever
this guy knows, I have to know.
So my first crack at the nightclub
business was me standing on the corner
and I would hand out these cards.
And every time somebody came
into the nightclub holding one
of my cards, the club would give me $5.
I got bored of this very quickly.
I picked up the phone and said, Steven,
I got to figure something else out.
Please teach me what you know.
He explained to me how to put together
an event, how to market it, how to strike
a deal with the nightclub owner.
And within three weeks, I had set up my
very first event at a nightclub downtown.
A week later, I had my first party there.
A week later.
I remember when Ryan got
into the nightclub business.
I thought it was very cool.
I didn't know what was going on behind
the scenes,
but I just thought that the whole thing
was very cool, you know, walking around
and everybody's patting
them on their shoulders.
It reminded me of when I was that age.
You know, the bartender was your buddy, and the
doorman let you walk into the place.
And you were like, a real big shot.
So, to me, when I was watching
that happening, I thought it
was a very, very cool thing.
And Besides, the fact he
was making money at it.
That year, when I graduated,
I had $50,000 of cash.
I was a kid.
I was in grade eleven.
I remember taking the chunk that I owed
to the dealer when I met up with him.
And I said, don't ever talk to me again.
You and I are through.
There is no high, like the feeling when
you step into a nightclub
and that base to hitting your body.
Boom
Booboom
I needed another gig.
So I started looking for nightclubs
that I could call my own.
My first big hit was a supper club
in Montreal called Cafeteria.
And the owner's name was Giovanni.
And I met Giovanni on the first night
that he bought that supper
club from the previous owner.
And him and I hit it off.
Ryan was like a little brother for me.
So I tried to mentor him,
and I tried to guide him.
Even though I mean, we were working in Craziness,
I mean, Ryan was young.
I was around 30...
36 or 35 or 36 years old,
and Ryan was barely legal.
But, I mean, the fire
from this guy was incredible.
We got each other.
We understood each other.
He was like, my older brother.
My first Saturday night that I went to go
promote there, I had about three people
that showed up, including myself.
So we were four people.
I was devastated.
It was terrible.
But the week after that,
I remember I knew this Italian girl
from College, and I told her,
Why don't you come to the club?
Why don't you come to Cafeteria?
And when you come, I'll give you a free
bottle of champagne for your birthday.
Between you and I wasn't champagne.
It was like a $7 bottle of Prosecco,
but it was champagne.
So she comes, she comes with 14 of her friends.
And, Whoa, these girls lit it on fire
Saturday night. We had 28 people.
The next week after that,
we had 46 until it came to a point where
there was 150 people inside the club
and 150 people outside of the club.
It was the hottest place in town.
We're on that terrace, and we killed it.
We showed the city that we could go
anywhere that we want, and we can
make it hot, and we can make it work.
A legend, I mean this guy blew
up my place overnight.
I mean, a young teenager
bringing in so many people.
I was like, wow, man, who is this guy.
I mean, this is incredible.
What kind of 20 year old
kid says he doesn't know.
I was so messed up with all these girls.
With all these parties, with all these.
My heart was so broken.
I was so empty.
But on the outside.
It looked like I had everything.
And I interpreted this feeling of emptiness as:
I need a bigger club.
I need a bigger place.
I need a bigger party.
So I left Cafeteria and started doing
these mega events at these
big nightclubs in Montreal.
One of them was called Time Supper Club.
There's going to be one hell of a night.
We'll see
And I was figuring out,
how could I fill this place up?
I got a great idea.
I'm going to start bringing celebrities
to the nightclubs, and that's
going to attract the people.
I'm standing here
with my main man, DJ sir.
Dj Shortcut.
He ain't too short, though.
He ain't too short.
He's pretty tall.
So I started bringing all
these crazy celebrities.
As long as you pay them, they'll show up.
One of the biggest celebrities that I
brought was a rapper by the name of Drake.
Now, a lot of people watching this may not
know who that is,
but today he's the undisputed
biggest rapper on planet Earthborn.
None.
The only problem was is that it
was eating into the profits.
Every time I had to hire a celebrity,
I had to pay them.
But I wanted to be the celebrity.
I wanted to get paid.
So I hired a camera crew to follow
me and my company around.
Everywhere we went,
every meeting with the celebrity,
every night in the club,
every time in a hotel, whatever we
were doing, the camera crew was there.
There's more live TV coming at you live
from lot three, three, two in Toronto.
And I was compiling this reality show.
And all of a sudden, the whole city,
the whole community.
Forgave me, for the bad
guy that I used to be.
They whitewashed over my past.
Who cares if he was a bad kid?
Now he's making us proud.
Now he's putting us on the map.
Our next guest, Ryan Sullman,
had his own company at 20 and is starting
in his own reality TV show, nothing less.
How are you, Ryan? He is ready to retire
Thank you
Tell me about your more to life company.
And I was working hard to compile all
of this footage because reality shows
at that point were very popular.
You had who wants to be a Millionaire?
You had Survivor.
The Kardashians were very
popular at that time.
And Facebook was just
becoming a powerhouse.
So now we had the channel
to distribute the videos.
And for me, it was good for my business.
I can't go through ya all. You heard him first, he has new socks
I put together all the footage,
and I made a pilot episode.
I organized a red carpet event
for the premiere with Paparazzi.
My parents showed up.
They were so proud.
The entire city showed up to this event.
It was supposed to be the crowning jewel.
What I had worked this whole time
for the crescendo of everything
that I was working for.
I get up on stage, I address the crowd.
New Montreal reality show makes a noise.
And as the video starts to play,
I look at myself on the big screen,
supposed to be my time.
And I remember at that moment
I crashed
every day I wake up and I'm, like,
burnt out, like I just sometimes just feel
like shutting off my phone and just, like,
literally moving away to Mexico.
I remember that at the launch
of his reality show.
Nobody could find him.
He was there, and then he disappeared.
Nobody knew where he went.
I went through a rough patch
there for a month, two months.
Maybe I was hanging on by a string,
by a string, by a thread.
It was not a good time.
I would just want to go to sleep.
I didn't want to see anyone.
I felt ashamed.
I left the launch of my show
because I was so ashamed
at who I was.
I remember I went to a restaurant
with my family a couple days after
the launch of my reality show,
and I was so embarrassed.
I felt like when I walked in the door,
people were expecting dollar bills to be
raining from the ceiling
and music to be blasting.
I said to myself,
I have to figure out a different way
to live because this is not what I want.
I have no idea what triggered my son
to start looking for a
different way to live.
It was a very big surprise to me.
And in my mind.
Judaism was completely false
because at that time,
nobody that I knew in my life kept kosher
put on Tefillin or kept Shabbos.
So I began to search for truth.
If anybody knows Ryan,
he does everything all the way or no way.
I went to go visit a mosque.
And when I woke up in the morning before I
went, it felt as if somebody took a nail
and they hit it into the
center of my forehead.
Happens to be the place
where you pray in the Mosque.
You put your head down on the ground.
But it also happens to be the place
where you put on your Tefillin.
And I remember going to the mosque
and making all kinds of new friends.
And I went to interfaith chapels.
Whatever I could find, I was looking.
I was looking for truth
and where I was holding.
At that time, all of those things
had a little glimmer of truth.
My mother came into my room one day
and she was complaining to me
that there was books everywhere.
There was books up to the ceiling.
You could not move in my room.
I was chomping knowledge.
I remember when my wife,
she found a Quran in his room and she
found some books like from Jim
and Tammy Faye Baker kind
of evangelistic religious experience.
And I started getting more
into these other religions.
I started really getting into Buddhism
in a really serious way.
At one point I stopped talking.
I was meditating 6 hours a day.
One day I came into my mother's room
and told her that I would like
to go to a Buddhist ashram.
I thought to myself, okay,
like this might not be a good plan.
And she said to me, words that changed
the course of my life forever.
I said, let's do this. Why don't you go
to see Rabbi Moses and hear
what he has to say?
She said, before you go
to the Buddhist ashram,
go to synagogue .
Today, She says I would have been
better in the Buddhist ashram.
But that's a different story
for a different documentary.
I think this was the turning
point of Ryan's life.
So that Shabbat.
I remember I dressed up in my nicest
suit and I started walking to synagogue.
And I remember on the way
something was different.
The colors were brighter.
The birds were chirping.
As I showed up to the synagogue.
I opened up the door and I walk in.
And I remember hearing
this beautiful music.
The Chazan,
who was leading the congregation
in prayer, was singing so beautifully.
When he turned around.
There was happiness pouring
out of his face.
You know, people in the world,
they say that they're happy.
They're just enjoying themselves true
happiness from the soul
I had never seen before.
I remember.
I said to myself at that moment,
whatever this guy knows,
I have to know.
And I had a conversation with him and we
hit it off and he invited me next.
Shabbat and I went and I
started going almost every day.
And I will learn Torah with him.
He was Breslever Chassid
gets a sect of Judaism.
Their stick is to go and talk
to God with your own words.
One day he says to me.
You come with me.
And then we went
right in the forest
and in the forest.
I told him what to do,
what to do.
Look up to the sky,
look between the trees
and just talk to him
because the King is in the field.
Talk to him without books,
Berl you don't need the books now.
You don't need the Hebrew.
The English, the French.
You don't need anything.
You need to spill your soul,
your heart to him.
Talk to him.
Ask all the questions.
Scream at him, ask him demand from him.
Hear from him.
Whatever you want.
Go for him. Berel Solomon.
I thought the guy was completely mental.
I was born into darkness
and I lived in darkness.
And this guy is telling me to go
to the forest, to speak to God.
So I've gone into the car.
I drove to the forest.
And for the first time in my life,
I opened my heart and I
opened my lips to Hashem.
I cannot transmit it to you,
but I'm going to do my best.
It was like speaking
to somebody who already knew
everything about me.
A Rabbi named Ronnie Fine would always
invite me to his lunch,
his kiddush in his synagogue.
And I would go.
And I loved it.
I would encourage him to come by to be
involved and engage in Torah and mitzvos.
I recall very clearly sitting at our
Shabbos table, the humility,
the desire to soak it all in.
One day he invited me to go visit
the resting place,
the Ohel of the Lubavitcher Rebbe.
And I went with him,
and I remember sitting down
and writing a letter
and pouring out my heart
to one of the leaders of the generation.
And as I walked into the place where he
was buried, I remember feeling a light
like had never experienced before.
I was still working in nightclubs at this
point, but I had this overwhelming feeling
that I needed to make a real
change, a lasting change.
I remember speaking to my boss one day.
Giovanni, the owner
of Cafeteria,
the nightclub that I was working
at at the time, and I asked him if I
could wear my kippah to the nightclub.
I'll never forget telling Ryan.
I said, Ryan, man, you're a Jew.
I'm a Catholic Christian
Bro.
If you don't believe.
How the hell am I supposed to believe
in God's given faith that we've
been taught all our lives?
You wear your little hat, he told me.
So I started wearing my kippah
to the nightclub, and I remember
It just wasn't, I wasn't into it anymore.
A few days later, Giovanni picks
up the phone and he calls me.
He says, Berel, I know you
don't have the drive anymore.
There's something that's driving
you in a different direction.
When I lost my job at Cafeteria,
I could have reacted two ways.
I could have gotten into despair
and gotten into depression and yelled
at my friend who took over
my job or yelled at the owner.
But instead of that, I looked up
in this guy and said, thank you.
I don't know why.
I don't know what you have planned for me.
But Borouch Hashem, Thank you so much for making
me lose my job at that bar.
I hung up the phone.
I whipped around my car like in a high
speed chase, and I drove
straight to my father's office.
I said, dad, I am ready
to work.
the nightlife business is no longer for me.
It's not congruent with my lifestyle,
and I am ready to come
and build your business.
I sat down at that desk and I pounded
and I built one of the most successful
parts of his business till this date.
Today's Torah from the office
will be focused on partnership.
Now.
What I mean by that is every single...
Even though things were going great and I
was so successful working with my father,
I still had this thirst inside of me
that I could not quench.
And I decided that I
wanted to go to Yeshiva.
We had no idea what Yeshiva was.
We thought it was
a brainwashing operation.
I remember I was fighting with my family at this point
and we were looking
for cult busters to literally help us
figure out what was going
on inside Ryan's head.
There was attention.
I don't blame them.
They were scared.
They didn't know what it was all about.
They didn't know where it was leading to.
You're making money, you're successful.
And then you say, I want to go sit
in Jerusalem and learn Torah for a year.
After a lot of convincing, my parents
finally gave me their blessing to go.
The human beings were constantly
in the mode of creation.
We constantly want.
We constantly want to get
to the next level.
We constantly want to strive to grow.
I made a promise to myself that I want to do
a video of every day that I'm here
Late tour from the Holy City
of Yerushalayim.
Shalom, I'm right now in the Holy city of Tzfat
just riding a donkey in the middle
of the Israeli desert.
Happiness.
Happiness is the most important
thing on the face of the Earth.
There's nothing more
important than happiness.
I went from the worst students
in my school to one of the best
students in the entire Yeshiva.
I took advantage of every single second.
I ate lunch in the Zahal.
That's the room where you learn Torah.
I would not leave.
You wanted to find Berel Solomon.
You knew where he was.
I packed ten years of learning
into one year of Yeshiva.
At the end of the year when I was done,
I remember being on the plane going back
to Montreal, and I was so embarrassed
about my beard.
I had left clean shaven.
And here I was, coming back with a beard.
I had a big meeting planned
for a week after I got back.
And I remember there was big discussion
in the office amongst
some of the executives.
Should we send him or not?
He now looks visibly Jewish.
Maybe he'll offend the prospective client.
Maybe we shouldn't send him.
I said to everybody
in the room, I'm going,
and there's nothing you could do about it.
I went to New Mexico to meet this
prospective client and the person who I
was having the meeting with invites
the CEO to come join us.
He reached across the table
to shake my hands.
He says, Hi, I'm Mike Weinstein.
At the end of the meeting,
I remember being alone in the room
with Mike, and I asked him if
he ever put on Tefillin before.
He had no idea what I was talking about,
but he was open for a new experience.
So I wrapped up Tefillin with him
and I said, Mazal tov,
you just had your bar mitzvah.
We ended up signing a contract right then
and there for the largest deal
in my father's company history.
And I came back home triumphant because I
went as a Jew and I came back as a Jew.
Proud
Things were going great.
There was only one problem. At that time
I was probably 23, 24 years old.
I was so lonely. Saturday nights.
I was used to going out.
And here I was alone,
virtually no friends, almost no community.
I was sad.
And it was time for me
to start looking for my wife.
And I was going to date the Jewish way.
You have to understand.
I had already been divorced 20 times.
If you're in a relationship with somebody,
just because you don't have a piece
of paper doesn't mean
you're not married to them.
Your heart and your mind
is married to that person.
Every time you break up, you get divorced.
How many hearts did you break?
I know one heart
you broke. Oohhh
Probably she can't get over you.
So I made a profile with a picture,
and I wrote all the things that I was
looking for, and I sent it to matchmakers.
And I started getting profiles back where
there was a picture,
and the girl had written what she
was looking for in a husband.
What type of life she was looking for.
I started to go on dates with these girls,
and the dating process was so beautiful.
And by the time I had been on a date with
one of these girls, she saw my profile.
She saw my picture.
She knew what I was about,
and she liked me, at least on paper.
And if it didn't work out during the date,
I would tell the matchmaker I'm not
interested, and the girl
would be gently let down.
And if the girl was not interested in me,
the matchmaker would call me,
and I would be gently let down.
After a whole bunch of these dates,
I started to get discouraged.
Cause I felt like there might not be anybody
for me because I felt like I had seen
every girl that there was on planet
Earth to date at the time.
And I remember feeling maybe I
wasn't meant to get married.
One day I'm sitting in my parents basement
and I hear my phone buzz and I run over
to go pick it up to see if
there was a new profile there.
And I opened my email
and I start reading.
The profile
looks great.
And as I scrolled down, I saw the picture,
and I remember I said out loud to myself,
I think I just saw my wife.
We got a profile from this guy
from Canada, and I looked at it and I
read it and I saw Berel's picture.
And I thought to myself, I think
that we just found Eliana's husband.
All right, let's roll.
I never in my life imagine that I would
even date somebody from Latin America,
let alone get married to them.
When her profile came through,
everything looked good.
I went to go tell my mother that, hey,
I think I found my wife, and my mom
said to me, Great, Where's she from?
I said, she's from Panama.
My parents looked at each other like,
Here we go again.
I told the matchmaker
that I was interested.
Eliana was interested in me.
I said I was ready for it.
I booked my flight and I was off to Panama
when I landed.
I'll never forget this.
For as long as I live.
I had never been to Latin America.
It was so foreign to me.
There were people running
across the highway.
There was chickens in the streets, and my
GPS was yelling at me in Spanish.
Again, I started thinking to myself,
what am I doing here?
I'm in a strange country,
so far away from home.
Everybody told me that I
was crazy to be here.
Then something happened.
I grabbed a hold of myself.
I said, you know what?
God puts me here for a reason.
He's not wasting my time.
If I'm here, there's a purpose.
I drove over to Eliana's apartment.
I called her on the phone.
We spoke for the first
time and I said, Hi, Hi.
When I saw him for the first time,
I really said, wow.
So basically, on a shadow date, there's
no touch, there's no physical contact.
It's just talking to each other and seeing
if we could have
a relationship for the future.
We just clicked.
They didn't have to try it just like
the language didn't matter anymore.
We waited a day after that first date,
and then we planned another date.
And then we had a third amazing date.
After, like, the fourth date.
When I saw him.
When we got into the car.
I told him I missed you
hearing those words again.
Melt me the same way that it
melted me in Panama.
I was ready right then
and there to get married.
It was time for Berel
to go back to Montreal.
I would call you and text you all
the time to see if you still like me.
I came in the summer.
I didn't come in the winter
and it looks really nice.
I did it on purpose like that.
Eliana Ruchel-Lea.
I'm so excited to marry you.
I love you all my heart.
You're Tzadika.
I'm the luckiest man in the world today.
I'm going to give you a good life.
I can't wait to be married
with you and be one with you.
And we're going to make
a nice life together.
I love you so much.
I'll see you soon.
It wasn't long after we got married
that we had our first son, Menachem,
and he brought so much joy in our lives.
And then Shana came along.
First girl, then Chaim came.
I feel that he's totally
in the right place.
And I'm thrilled with his lifestyle and it
couldn't have ended up
better than it ended up.
He married a beautiful wife.
They're compatible with each other.
He has three beautiful children,
a fourth child.
On the way.
It's enlightening to me how he ended up.
And also they're a couple focused
on bringing people back to their
roots, back to Judaism.
So a major part of our marriage is all
about reaching out to young people
and helping bring them closer to Judaism.
This is what we love.
We love having people over and we love helping others.
Berel and Eliana
became true partners to me and my wife.
It does work that we do with the teams
and the Lubavitcher Rebbe
was very big into this.
How could I make the world a better place
through acts of goodness and kindness?
So one of the things that I have the very
big privilege of doing is I get to go
to my old high school every single day
and I get to run a minyan, a prayer group
with some of the best kids in the world.
I get to talk to them.
I get to hang out with them.
I listen to their problems.
I give them guidance where I can and I act
as the person that I wish that I
had when I was growing up.
I'm sure his past has helped to get
in touch with these kids,
high school kids that are probably
going through hard times.
One of my staff mentioned,
if I am putting Tefillin today,
if I'm connected to God today, you should
know that because of Berel Solomon.
After working in my family business
for almost a decade, I felt that it was
finally time for me to go out on my own.
I told them that it's time
for him to start something new.
I knew that we would suffer in the beginning
because always
starting a new business there is consequences.
when you have
a blessing from your wife and she knows
she was going to struggle
and she was OK with that.
That's what gave me the strength.
So I went out there and I started this
video production company that went
further than I ever thought possible.
Thank God.
And that led into so many other things.
It's what led me to open up
my executive coaching business.
I gained this talent to help coach these
people, to help them really take
their businesses to the next level.
But it all started with that confidence
that you gave me to go and start my own
business, and that's the power
of having a good woman behind you.
One of the things that people would tell me
in the beginning when I was becoming
religious is that because I have a Kippah
and a beard and Tzitzit that I'm going to limit
the business opportunities that would be available to me,
even though most
of my clients are actually not Jewish.
One of the reasons why they want to work
with my firm is because they see
the Jewish people in a beautiful light,
that we have a certain type of wisdom.
So my Judaism never took
away from me financially.
It only gave to me in every
single aspect of my life.
He is a person that is a giver,
and he's using his talents in a way
that he's feeling very accomplished.
And he's helping people.
And here we are tonight,
ladies and gentlemen, at the world's
largest LinkedIn meetup ever in history.
Big rounds of applause.
If I could leave you guys with one
message, it would be this.
It says that Abraham Avinu, Abraham.
His mission was not just
to call out to God, but it was to cause
others to call out to God as well.
I've been on both sides.
I've experienced both worlds.
And because of that,
I have a unique vantage point.
And I know both sides of the fence.
And if I had one wish and one dream it would
be for every Jewish person in the world
to understand the beautiful heritage,
the beautiful gift that we've been given,
and to all the non
Jewish people out there.
They also have a very special gift called
the Seven Noahide Laws,
which teaches how to be a good person
how to live in the way of God
and how to do the right thing.
When you become a Baal Teshuvah,
you kind of leave your past and you
become almost like a different person.
I remember when he was
davening, he was praying.
He would just cry in the middle,
and he would remember things in the past.
And he would be so grateful how he would
tell me Hashem saved me.
my son's life today is the life that I had dreamed
for him to have when he was a kid.
And for all my kids.
Breaking rules with no one knowing
No signs of slowing
Hurricanes of burstin’ emotion;
Nightclub promotion. Drinking the potion down
His soul inside is craving.
Sick and tired of misbehaving
‘Cause his lonely heart is crying for meaning
Is racked with anxiety.
Pray tell me : Why am I living ?
Something is missing. Is anybody listening ?
If I didn't have the religious community,
I don't think I would be here today.
I think I would just fall,
be somewhere else, be a different,
complete, different person.
One of the hardest moments of my life.
I was just asking God, why me?
Why should I go through this?
You really have to go through
darkness to see light.
And now I see more light than darkness.
When I was in College,
I was very much influenced by that.
Like, okay, you can keep Shabbat.
But then, like, Saturday night,
you're going clubbing with everyone.
And then I remember I went on birthright.
I came back from birthright
and saw the value of Judaism.
When I saw how many Jewish people didn't
have the opportunity to even learn about
Judaism in their lifetime
to have a connection with God.
And for me, that really touched me.
Where else says, do one thing at a time.
Take it easy start by going to a Minyan
every day, putting on filling at school.
Then, once you're comfortable
and you enjoy it.
And if it's something that you
want to do, then do it at home.
It's the best part of my day
because no one is bothering me.
I do it in privately.
I don't feel the need to tell you what.
Hey, I'm putting on my phone now.
Something that you do for yourself.
I didn't know that you did that every day.
Weren't you religious already?
You knew there was God.
And I said, yes.
I knew there was a God.
But now I live with God, and that's
the entire core of Orthodox Judaism.
It's your values.
It's being good to the world.
It's doing good for the world.
About three years ago, my family
was struck with a horrible tragedy.
I had a lot of people rally around me,
including my brother Berel and his family,
and they would make sure that we would
light Shabbat candles every Friday night.
And it really gave me a sense
of peace and comfort.
And I decided that I would continue
to light those candles for as long as ever
with my children and keep that tradition going,
because that's where I found
my comfort and soulless.
As you grow up.
You learn to understand that the world
ain't pretty and God really provides you
with a sense of guidance and meaning.
Me personally, I'm not religious.
I'm not Orthodox, but most people don't
understand what religion,
especially Judaism has to offer,
and they knock it down all the time.
If you were to give it a shot,
you learn to realize that it's
really a beautiful thing.
Time to put the past behind.
Now I’m living. All is forgiven
My future is waiting. The whole world is singing.
A lost boy was blessed and kissed by Hashem !
Shema Yisrael.
The Kingdom is waiting
You’re never too old
You’re part of the greatest story ever told.
Your life is worth living. Your journey’s beginning.
The Torah and Mitsvas are a Gift you’ve been given.
No matter where you’ve been or what you’ve done
Hashem he loves you like an only son
So stand up tall, proud and tell the world what you came for !
Now I’m living. All is forgiven
My future is waiting. The whole world is singing.
A lost boy was blessed and kissed by Hashem !
Thank you for watching.
I hope you enjoyed the film.
You as the viewers sitting at home are
probably asking yourself,
how do I get involved ?
And the answer is easy.
I'm going to give you three mitzvoth
that are probably lying around your house
right now that you could do
that will strengthen your connection
to your Judaism.
And here it goes.
Mitzvah number one : Tefilin !
Every Jewish man has a mitzvah
to put Tefillin on his arm and on his
head. Every single day.
It's an incredible mitzvah
that attaches you to the Creator above.
And you cannot imagine all the blessings
that these things will
bring you in your life.
Number two :
Shabbat candles.
It's a Mitzva for every
Jewish girl
to light Shabbat candles every
Friday before sundown.
And mitzvah number three,
my personal favorite : Tsedaka
Can't imagine how many blessings
come from giving charity.
Try to give every single day one coin
in your little Tsedaka box
will change your life.
And if you're already observant,
then reach out to another Jew that was not
privileged to have
the same education as you.
Teach them Torah.
Teach them about mitzvot.
Teach them about the beauty of Shabbat.
Let's bring all of our brothers
and sisters home where they belong
and let's bring Mashia'h now !