Tisha B'av 2020 Message for TheZone from Rabbi D

hello everybody this is rabbi d uh sending out a special message to the teens of the zone we miss you of course and we hope everybody's well and we hope that uh your families are well and it said that most of us are not in the zone this summer but we're watching out for each other and we're taking care of each other and hopefully everybody was doing well i want to send out a short message about tisha of the ninth day of of which actually starts tomorrow evening wednesday evening it's wednesday july 29th wednesday evening it starts at sunset which is 8 13 in new york city in new york in brooklyn and queens it's 8 13 it starts wednesday evening 8 13 is when tisha b'av starts what does it mean that it starts the laws of tisha will go over quickly i will say what we what is tishav why are we mourning first we'll say what happened what happened on tisha webb on the ninth day of what happened that that were morning so we know that the mission says there are five tragic things that happened on tisha b'av through all the years of course many more that world war one started world war ii started the holocaust started it's amazing what happened at tish above it's not a good day for the jewish people not a good day for the world really but the first thing was that when we came back as spies and we came back to say they were not going to israel it's too scary so it was decreed okay you don't want to go it was decreed everybody well the men are going to die out during the next 40 years of wandering we really should have gone right into israel but hashem tells us 40 years of wandering and they all die out that was happened on tish above it happened the second and the third thing was the first and the second bedtime dash were destroyed on tishbo on the same day the city of beta was captured and thousands of or tens of thousands of jews were killed by the romans and then on the day itself turner's rufus plowed over the the field the place of the basement she planted over he made it into nothing he raised it to the ground so because it is we mourn we feel sad even though we're going to talk about maybe we don't feel so bad it's hard for us to we never had the base of main dish we never thought and we don't feel like we have a great life especially when we go to the zone and that is here this year maybe it's a little bit harder but life is pretty good everything is good hopefully we're all well and we don't really feel them we're missing so much so it's hard sometimes we're going to talk about it soon so what do we do on tisha b'av let's start from tomorrow night tomorrow night 8 13 ishkiya is sunset we have to stop eating and drinking we can't wash ourselves wash our face i would say that after you eat before at night before 8 you should brush your teeth make sure that there's no food so it won't decay so i won't have a not nice smell use mouthwash wash your face wash up feel good and then 8 13 starts the fist before 8 13 what do we do before 8 13. so first you have a regular dinner whenever that dinner is going to be it should be at least an hour before the the sunset is end really an hour before and if it doesn't have to but it's better to end beforehand you should of course don't eat foods that are so salty it's going to make you thirsty drink a lot of liquids a lot of water is the best because you know you want to hydrate yourself especially it's hot these days drink a lot of liquids eat light foods don't overstuff yourself because you're not going to feel good later and you eat a regular supper with staying away from spicy foods it does again it's just a suggestion there's no rule that he can't eat spicy foods and of course meat and wine we don't eat body by this well by the time of seconds we'll talk about most people don't eat meat or wine during these whole nine days from rashford on but certainly this day tomorrow we don't need meat or wine buy a regular dinner but first the dinner after you eat dinner and you're finished and now let's say it's a half hour till tishbo starts we have the last meal sudah hamasekis the meal that interrupts between regular eating and tish above it's really a meal it's not not much of a meal it's just we have a custom to eat bread if you could bread and most people eat a hard-boiled egg that's it really and of course liquids you drink liquid you could drink a coffee if you need or tea but certainly drink water and you can put salt on the egg salt on the bread some people have accustomed to dish dish dip the bread into ashes the purpose of this meal is to have a mourner's meal to start feeling the morning to sadness of the basement's destruction that's the purpose so if you could of course don't stuff yourself so much by the dinner so you'll have a room for this little bit it's only a small piece of bread because it's if you could i have a slice of rye bread equivalent to that you can have whole wheat bread whatever you like and you can put salt on it and you have a hard-boiled egg some people dish it to dip it into ashes and then you say burgantomozone and then we start this above of course but right before tisha buff starts if you want again rinse out your mouth and brush your teeth and so on that's the pseudonym of seconds and that's when the fear starts 8 15 tomorrow tomorrow evening we know that there are a lot of things you cannot do on tish above of course you don't need a drink we don't greet people saying hello how you doing and how's everything of course you could nod to people and if somebody greets you don't make them feel bad and greet them back and for non-jew of course they don't know anything about we're not greeting people so if they greet you of course you greet them back you say hello even if you pass an andrew or even a jewish person who doesn't know about tisha buff you are cordial you are respectful you greet them but as people who know we don't go around greeting each other shaking hands giving high fives because we're in a sad mood so we don't uh we don't go out of our way to greet people to show us again we don't eat we don't drink we don't wash if you have to wash your hands like you wash in the mornings you wash only up to the knuckles the ends of your fingers if you went to the ladies room you wash to the end of your fingers if you're dirty if you got dirt on your hand on your arm on your face you're sweaty so you could wash off dirt you're only not supposed to wash for pleasurable washing but of dirt you're allowed to wash off so you could wash off any dirt if your makeup is running a mascara whatever it's called is running on your face whatever it got me you could wash it off you could wash things that are dirty but we don't wash this for pleasure of course we don't take a shower we don't go swimming and we don't wear leather shoes you can wear a leather belt you can wear a leather jacket it might be very hot but only leather other shoes we don't wear but that's comfort that's what a person does for comfort and also we don't sit on a chair this faradam don't sit on a chair more than a tefl is approximately three inches ashkenaz don't sit on a chair or a bench if it's uh more than a foot more than 12 inches 11 point something inches but if you sit on a low chair that's close to the ground or that of course you could do or you sit on a pillow or you could lie on a bed you could lie down straight out of bed you could lay on a bed and you could sleep regularly you don't have to put pillows away you don't put rocks on the pillow don't make yourself crazy you're not going to be able to sleep these are the type of things that we don't do because we want to feel the mourning of tisha buff why do we mourn so it's again i said it's difficult to feel sometimes we're missing the base of ignac but the place that we were close to hashem hashem made a special place where we could come and talk to him and relate to him and get close to him and he took it away when he warned us he warned us the prophets warned us if you don't follow the turret i'm going to take it and he took it away so sometimes we don't feel so much that we're missing this life is good but at least we could mourn that we don't feel it at least we could mourn there are so many of our brothers and sisters that don't know anything about judaism at all they don't even know when to teach about this so certainly we could mourn that part and we could mourn that work far away from god and at least we could mourn that we don't realize why we're mourning we don't feel anything so bad that's also a reason to mourn so this is what we this is what tomorrow is about tish above tomorrow night i'm sorry tomorrow night is wednesday night and thursday it ends thursday a little after sunset sunset on thursday is first of sunday is 8 12. and it ends uh 45 if you want to wait 45 minutes is 8 57 it ends and you could eat you don't make a dollar you don't do anything it's a regular day you're allowed to use electricity you'll have to listen to your ipod and so on you should try to feel a little bit the morning some people don't go to work on tish above on thursday because they want to not uh detract their mind from thinking about the morning but if you have a job that your boss is not going to be happy you take off every other day and you want to take off shabbat of course take off shabbat don't take a tissue buff if you're able to wait till the middle middle of the daytime after the day which is 101 and then go to work afterwards if you have to go to work you go to work you could drive of course you could do all kind of works thursday night it ends at the earliest probably is 8 47 that's 35 minutes after sunset 8 40 8 52 is 40 minutes it ends thursday night by having you go have a regular dinner and then everything is back to regular thursday night we know that the beta mcdosh was still burning until the next day till the 10th of us so friday also was bernie said if we don't have music of preferable if you could help it if music you needed to to be sane you could put on music but to go swimming if you could help it if a shower if you could help it if you're dirty you could take a shower but if you don't need it we wait till friday here cuts you wait till friday but uh laundry you could do thursday night because this is since it's thursday it's arab shabbat it's right before shabbat starts you know so the day before so you could do laundry of course if there's not going to be enough water on friday or time to take showers you could take a shower then also if you can't take a haircut or a shave for men right you know your father's or wherever if they can't if you can't you need a haircut and you can't take one friday is not enough time then of course you can take it thursday night because there's honor shabbat laundry you can do an honor shabbat that's basically the laws of tisha of and there's many many videos today because of the virus the coronavirus so many people are home and therefore there's so many things online you could really watch a whole day videos of inspiring videos i'm not saying it's good it's not good if you feel like it it's an important thing to do i just want to say one ending that how do we end tisha buff how do we get away from tish above stop this morning how do we bring the redemption we don't really understand so much what's mashika to do when he comes what's going to be so pleasurable when it comes what's going to be so pleasurable the debate that mignon comes and is rebuilt maybe we don't understand everything now is not the time really to go into what it really is missing but certainly we're in exile certainly hashem is hiding from us he's not so close to us openly the way he always was so the best thing to bring the end of this exile is to be close with each other part of the basement which was destroyed partly was because we have hatred from each other we didn't love each other we didn't care about each other so at least what we should do to fix up this goal what to fix up and end this exile is to be pleasurable to be nice to each other to be pleasant to each other to care about each other to do more for another i want to say an amazing story about a holy person he passed away in the 1970s if i think i think so if i remember correctly he was called the tsaddik of yerushalayim by arya levin he was a holy holy man he was special he loved the jewish people almost like hashem loved hashem you should know all of us he loves hashem loves all of you to the 100 degree no matter where we're up to how far away from hashem loves us levine one time was creepy he loved people he was called to court because he had a loan that he co-signed that means somebody took a loan out and they said that robert levine said that if you don't have money to pay he'll pay please come because the other people have no money to pay and lets her make arrangements to pay up the loan rightly knew he didn't sign anybody's loan he doesn't have money to sign big loans like that there was a a lot a lot of thousands of dollars i would never sign a loan but okay you came to bed and what could he do they showed him the document that he signed and the guy who was there that he signed it for was there who's embarrassed to look at rare levine because he's making marilyn payne he was embarrassed but when arabella living looked at the document he knew right away without a doubt it's not his signature he could show he could just sign 20 times his own name right now and they'll see it's nothing like that signature on the paper and he knew right away that this person forged his signature in order to get the loan by olivia could have got out of the loan so easily but instead of embarrassing that person he agreed to payroll amazing and he made up an agreement an arrangement how much he could pay per week and he each week he took off very very hard for him to take off some of the little earnings that he made he took off money and he chipped away at the loan until he paid up the whole loan even though he did never he never took the loan and he never signed the paper the other person sitting there forged his signature but he didn't care he didn't want to embarrass him that's loving another person hashem up all of us that we should care about each other i know that we're siblings we fight with our siblings sometimes we fight with our parents sometimes we fight with our classmates sometimes that's understandable but as much as we could to try to fix it up a little bit to fight less to fight to a less of a degree not so hot tempered try to calm it down a little bit a little bit to care about other people to care and to one love them and to have concerns for them a little bit more than we always do and that will certainly bring the mashiach will bring an end to his golis i hope everybody finds this video informative and hopefully it answered your questions please feel free to call and you can ask questions if somebody takes medication if it's a medication that they must take because otherwise it's their their it's going to go backwards whatever the medication is fixing it's going to go out of control take the medication into the prescription medication and your doctor says you must take it every day then take it and if you need to drink water with it to swallow the pill or even if you need food you can't take it on an empty stomach so eat a little bit whatever you have to eat eat as little as you can and take the pill and take the medicine and it's not considered breaking your fist and continue fasting i hope everybody has an unbelievable inspirational day of tisha buff i hope that you have an easy fist and a meaningful feast and we grow out of tish above and we hope that we should this should be the latest tissue book that we're going to celebrate as a see a day that still to shabbat should become a happy day everybody should be well everybody should face easily and all the best everybody and most of all thank you so much for listening take care be well bye-bye