Rabbi Mintz Live - 4/9/13 - "Let Bygones Be Bygones"

now we're back into our hamish again back into voracious yaakov avinu we just finished the partial valleytai and jacob mavino finally parted ways with lovin loving his father-in-law who was a very not good person he was very not honest person and yaakov avinu spent 20 years in the inouye the pain the suffering living with such a person person who so dishonest swindler and the occupant kept up his honesty didn't let his guard down for a minute finally last time we studied about it said goodbye we're parting ways so time for yaakov to take a little rest take it easy well that's not the case he finished with one problem and now he's meeting up with the bigger problem beginning with passive by isla the next part should have the vaintai and what's the bigger problem he's now headed back home back to the holy land of israel to earth israel he left after israel he ran away from his brother why did he go to london for those 20 years he's running away from his mother asabu i'm going to kill him because of the barakas that he took he took the blessings and asa was very angry at him wanted to kill him so he ran away to his uncle lovin his wife mothers lithgow the great sarvinkis whisker that was her brother and he ran away from asap there while he was there he married he had many children 12 children now as he's leaving gogus and coming back to the holy land he has to start worrying about aesop again what's ace of where's asap holding now after 20 years is he still angry he still wants to kill him or did he cool down already and realize we've called it bygones be bygones realize who you are asa who yaakov is who should have gotten the blessings you know that you're not worthy of the blessings you know yaakov is the one supposed to get the blessings cool down don't be so angry because the actor did nothing wrong so jacob doesn't know he doesn't have to be afraid of aesop now he's allowed to get him so we start off has different connotations to a different translation to malachi malachim can mean messengers which could be people or it can mean angels what does it mean over here so rashi tells us because at the end of the passage of if you remember after he pointed ways with love on the malacca angels came to him which angels great people have angels that walking together with them so watch over them king david says in psalms god sends his angels to watch over his great people we sing shalom alaikum friday night we welcome angels to our house we're hoping that they came along with us from sure i hope some first themselves are sure friday night and the angels come along with us we welcome into our house they're great people the result the master of cambodia the mysticism and special prayer that he said other people said excuse me before he went to the bathroom to ask the angels to wait for him till he comes out the angels would walk along with them not everybody is great enough for the ancients to go walk along with them yaakov avinu had angels with them all the time there are angels that were in the holy land and angels went with them into gullus different angels different levels of greatness of holiness when he left the holy land the angels of eretz israel left him and the angels of khutsallars have godlus accompanied him now he's coming back to the holy land it says before that the angels of the holy land now came to greet him and to go along with him angels of god was left so these angels that were talking about finished off before he sent angels to love now what does that mean said angels i want to say over now some of you might have been with us the second days in the zone i touched upon this but now i want to go into a little more until nancy to say over the gemara this story that gemura tells us which brings out the point that we're talking about right now in this big heavy book of the talmud called tracted of coolant and page 7 i believe yes the great tana that's aramaic words of the talmud the opinion schmuyen he was on his way this great rabbi princess benj my people he was going to do a big mitzvah he was going to trade the ransom for people that were kidnapped the non-jewish people used to love to kidnap jewish people and get ransom for them they know that jewish people won't let anybody be kidnapped they'll do whatever they can to pay the rent for them of course the lawyers you're not allowed to pay over pay if they're asking very much money and they'll let them report them because they just keep doing it and doing more and more so he was on this way some jewish people were kidnapped and was going there to pay the ransom to save them so what happened he came beginning he came to the river called genoy and he couldn't go across and he didn't have to go all the way around or wait for a boat does it take a long time in the meantime these people knows what's going to happen to them he had no time to waste he had to get there as soon as possible to pay the ransom split your waters and i want to go across that's number three divide split your waters and i will go across the river i have to lose this mcmitzvah means that the angel over the river god sends messengers to do things in the world for him they don't have their own power it's like god's tool this angel said to him you're going to do the will of your god the one who owns you well the other class is so tiny i'm doing the will of my god the same god he wants me to float not to split he put into the world the nature for rivers to float so now you want me to change my course and do something different who says that you're greater than i am i'm doing the rights in the will of god you know of god so who says i should listen to you at the suffering of suffering you have to suffer and you don't even know if you're being successful you're going there to to uh to to uh to pay the rent and for those kidnapped people maybe they won't cooperate maybe won't be enough money you're not even sure you'll be successful i'm successful i'm running i'm flowing that's what i'm supposed to be doing so why should i split for you i'm doing rachel hashem i do god's will and i'm sure for sure if you don't split he warned them if you don't split your waters i'm going to make a decree that water will never flow in you again i'm warning you he said to the river to the malek you better split don't give me your argument and your way of thinking and uh you're doing i'm doing i'm telling you right now forget about everything if you don't listen to me you will be dried up it will never flow again we have a big controversy who was greater who spoke to that time is a man greater or is an angel greater who's greater his open controversy and the great philosophers and great thinkers and great scholars who's greater a man or an angel so it's something that we discussed the different all aspects of angels aspects of human beings but one aspect which we'll discuss right now is man is greater than an angel why because man has the hero man has free will to do the right thing or to do the wrong thing angels don't have free will angels are created to do something and that's what they have to do they don't have any test they have no yes they have no evil within them so therefore there's no purpose for them to do anything but god's will man has a test man has a challenge because man is challenged with the evil from within him from the evil from with out of him around him surrounds him we have evil all over the world and we have all kinds of challenges should we do the right thing she'll do the wrong thing we're challenged all the time every day every hour russian heart responding without before how should we speak what should we say how should we think what should we do so man has challenges and man has the free will to choose the right thing or choose the wrong thing and the man who chooses the right thing he's greater than a mother greater than an angel an angel does the right thing because that's the way he's created that's his nature he does the right thing he has no it's no evil not within him nothing without from without and he does the right thing because that's that's all he knows to do it's only candle a person who's challenged with good and bad and choosing to do the right thing he's greater than the mother so therefore mushroom who spoke about that time was able to split the red sea iraqis can challenge the river the mouth of the angel and say listen if you don't listen to me i'm going to decree that you should dry up and you'll be out of business out of a job that's the greatness of man great i'm a great man who is the people who don't listen to the right thing and do evil that naturally angel is greater than they are because they use this behavior this free will for as a tool to do something bad and that's not good every person puts the person all the way down if a person uses his book his free will and to stand up to challenges and do the right thing so then he is great because he had a challenge he had pullings and pushings to do wrong and he got a hold of himself he said no i can do what's right not what's wrong even maybe it might be more convenient it's easier that way it's more pleasurable that way but it's not the right thing i'm not going to do the most no matter how nice it seems because i know the right thing is what i have to do so therefore a person is considered very great so that's how rapunzel was able to say what he said okay so he's scared of the mother split so sounds like that's enough huh how governor to have a sorry treat of the biscuit there was another man who's walking with him who's carrying wheat for pessah and he's had the wheat to go to make masters with it and he also wanted to go across the river he's also going to do a mitzvah and get matzo ready for pesa she said to him split for him too it'll be much easier he'll be able to do the mitzvah much faster split for me split him up he's a simple person he wasn't a great man like this but first of all i told the river you have to split through him also so split him also was a arab merchant that was going along with them but not in a jewish person he was also going along with them they were walking together so he sat to the river split for him also why because how it's going to look we've got walking together and we go across and leave them on the other side that's not nice well well one one group of people together so you're dealing with somebody stranded across the river is that nice not a nice thing jewish not just what's the difference you have to be sensitive to other person's feelings if we're going to split for us and then we'll go back and we'll be left over there split them also number five is that what you do to people who are walking along with you to leave them alone stranded so therefore that is the power of a great person that he able to fight with amalah and tell him listen to me so one of the reasons they were created what god created angels for different reasons one reason is they should be helpful to great people like we find over here so yaakov he sent him to asap spies sort of find out what's going on is he out to kill me still or is what peace what's his thinking he sent it hopeful that things will be peaceful he had enough loving already for 20 years he's looking for some kind of peace some kind of rest so what happens the angels returned to yaakov lame were telling the following bad news we came to your brother to asam what if the ace of four is your brother the servant doesn't say any extra words we came to your brother to asa as she says number seven he's still with his hatred he didn't cool down he still hates you and he's coming towards you as 400 people with him soldiers is coming to fight you he's coming to kill you you and your family and everybody that's the good news yaakov got after a prince with aesop looking for some rest and now he is up against terrible challenge of his brother coming against him so what's his reaction what does he do but you're out yaakov we write it down over here number nine number eight first was very frightened and he felt very bad upset why does the turtle say two words for him tara doesn't say any extra words he was right but he was upset what is one what's the other so we run over here by era in number nine maybe he will be killed he was afraid may he'll be killed so he's coming with all these men he's no match for them he doesn't have any soldiers he had some of his servants with him but they're not people of war by yet unbelievable maybe he'll have to kill other people imagine that he had people coming to kill him and he feels bad he's gonna have to fight them and shoot back he might have to kill other people and that bothered him very much he was afraid from his own life and fight for the life of other people his enemies didn't want to kill his enemies either a great person doesn't want to kill anybody so he was fearful and upset fearful for his life upset for other people's lives so what did he do he divided up his whole group of people and animals everything that he had he divided into half and he said if he comes to fight me i'm going to fight him back naturally and the other half of my whole entourage of people will run away and will escape so he's ready to fight the first thing he self-defense no choice he's not a man of war yaakov aminu but he must take the proper steps to defend himself and do the best he can and get ready for a big fight at least he feels that if one of them will be killed out half at least the other ones will run away and be saved maybe they'll run away from them before there's a chance to kill them but he had this this uh strategy to break up now there's something here which i left out in the beginning which is significant does asa have the power and the permission for from god to do something to your community it says right in the beginning in love and garthy i lived with lovan he said to asap he sent him a message he sent him with with those angels he gave sentence a message to asap telling him i'm coming back i want to be friends with you i don't want any fighting he said love on garth the word garthy the letters gimmel now unscramble those words and put them in the different those letters what is tara yag 613 the numerical value of tough is 400 raise is 200 that's 600 yod is 10 and gimble's three in ghati i lived with love and that's the translation of put the letters in that order guard tea but you could scramble on scramble and put them tara yag he told love on told that while i was by love and i kept all the mitzvahs of the torah i kept all the mitzvos why is he telling him that because if you remember when yaakov avinu took the blessings from yatrak and asap came afterwards and was very upset that yaakov beat him to it so he started crying to his father to you so give me your brother give me your blessing also and yes i said what can i give you i gave it all the way to yakima he said you have nothing to give me something's crying so he told him okay if yakov his children future generations will go in my ways and keep the torah the way they should then you have no power to do anything to them but if shown god forbid they stray from the words of the torah and they don't act like they should to keep it the way they should then you will have the power and permission to overpower them and they will be under your control until they say if the jewish people will do what they supposedly they'll be in control of themselves and you but if they will not keep the total elected issue then you will be able to overpower them and paint them and you'll be on top so that's something jakobin is very much aware of so you told asap you think that i was by loving i used everybody who loved him was what a bad person he was more slender swindler was we spoke about him by the senator of me to say alumni wanted to kill jacob also god won't let him so love him as he might be thinking well he's my loved one maybe for being there for 20 years he was influenced by him maybe he's not the big sadic the great righteous person that he was when he left when he got the blessings and maybe now i'll be able to overpower him because that's what youtube said if they don't keep the toy like they should then you'll be in charge you'll be on top so i told asa don't make that mistake involvement guarantee i was there tara young i kept all the mitzvahs i had no not affected by my loved missions by his wickedness and this ride that he has i kept everything a hundred percent so don't think that because of that you're going to be able to overpower me so you gave me the message right on robin garcia i kept the tag which is now what happens after that the second thing that yaakov avinu is preparing for this great battle that is up against what does that sadduce do you get ready for war to fight but naturally prayer you started praying to hashem what are the jews do when they're in trouble we pray that's our tool that's how we're able to be successful even though we go to war and fight a battle we know it's not us that's doing it because god is going to decide who's going to win the battle not how strong we are and how many bombs we have and thanks we have planes we have that so nothing hashem it's like nothing is who hashem wants to win they'll win so he started praying isn't that interesting the one we prayed today the same way we started our prayers every hashman necessary we start praying you're the god of abraham god of yitzchak the god of yaakov he acted himself as praying this is a way of prayer since the times of the art of us we've been praying the same type of prayers all the years thousands of years we started off mentioning god look who we come from the great matriarchs that we patriarchs we come from abraham the people who did your will the people went out into the world and gave their life for you then my forefathers my father my father remember that so to speak have i'm not worthy but they were worthy the children should be rewarded because they're so great so we start off hashem you told me if you remember before go back leave lovin's house and i will do good to you so then what's he afraid of the question is god promised him i'll be good to leave love on and i'll be with you and i'll be good to you and if you remember even when he ran away in the beginning 20 years before when he ran away from a sub and began by passionate by yeah say god came to him the dream with the ladder remember the engine's going up and down the ladder and he said i'll watch over you nothing's going to happen to you don't worry i'll watch over you and here's i'm saying i'll be good to you so why is that to me what's he afraid of god promised him he'll be okay so what's he what what's the whole thing war sit down and forget about it god's going to take care of you so he follows up no no i can't depend on that time to you number 12 i became very small i began very insignificant less worthy you did so many good things for me all the kindness you did for me all the truth that you that you kept to do good to me i used up all my great deeds when god does good to people a lot of times they're doing it because he's paying them back for the goodness that they did did so you did some goodness for me a great target is always afraid maybe not great enough maybe i didn't do enough maybe i've got paid back for every all good things that i did god was so good to me how was that because i passed over this yardage when i ran away from aesop i came with the stick all that has my stick and anything else remember he left with gold and silver a lot of wealth but asap sent to sunderland sunderlephas to kill him they took away all of his possessions he had nothing left he went over the island to lavon on his way to lavan he had nothing except the stick he went over the stake and now i turn to two camps like this i have so many children that's so much wealth look how the goodness they did to me maybe i used up all my good deeds and rashi ads since the time that you promised me maybe i sinned at that time you promised don't worry i'll watch you don't worry i'll be good to you i was italian maybe at that time but maybe since then i did something wrong maybe i'm not worthy anymore maybe i don't have those good deeds to watch over me and maybe i since then imagine that the great yaakov are suspicious of themselves they don't trust themselves maybe i'm not such a great person maybe at that time when you promised me i was worthy and maybe not not worthy anymore maybe i did some sins who knows can i say i'm perfect therefore he was afraid god promised him and he told him i'll be with you i'll do good to you but maybe i'm not worthy anymore maybe i used up all my good deeds and maybe i did sins therefore he was afraid i used to be told i kept him in since they told a son but to god you can't tell god what he did god knows better what he doesn't he knows so who knows therefore he's praying to god save me okay right in the middle here we come to the point where we're looking for questions from our audience here and people online might be sending in questions if we have time afterwards and questions run out we'll go further in what we're learning now but we'll pick up next time on what happened over here rabbi um a question about asa uh so did asa was asap born evil or did he become evil from his own free will i mean i'm just thinking that obviously he came from the same womb as yaakov he came from a torah type of lineage in essence what happened or what's the reason he became evil or was it really just a free will issue that's a wonderful question very important question but there's nobody who's born evil no such thing he might have certain evil tendencies that he has to overcome and we're told he was born old red and that's a sign of a person who has a desire to kill king david was also born the same way admiring he was born also red he had the same type of tendencies and the king david came to great king david and the asian became the ace of russia so he had certain challenges and he had the bakira free will to overcome those challenges but he didn't he was a great man they said we always talk about his head is in the marsa magdala he had a very great head he could have been a very great person and we discussed that previously when we talked about him when he was born but he was not forced to be evil he had challenges he could overcome those challenges or king david overcomes overcame those challenges everybody has challenges but nobody is born that they look for that they have to do evil they can always become great but in all fairness to asub i mean he was kind of um screwed over you know by you know by yaakov and rivka i mean didn't that kind of push him in that direction um no no in other words you know with asap where you know even if he had the tendency that the fact that he got fooled or um well that's all part of the thing he shouldn't have been fooled i mentioned sort of before he should come to his census to realize that what yaku's place in the world is his place in the world is he should have teamed up with yaku and helped him out and become like a partnership between them the asap should do his part yakima do his part he could have been a very good person doing what he's supposed to be doing it's not instead of being against the outcome he should kind of turn up with him don't journey don't fight him and that's really what we're saying according to some commentaries the ischool had a mind for him that he wants him to to support him and help him and they should be together like you have today there are people that are learning torah the whole day and people support them people support them are great people and supporters of them financially they helped them out for them to be able to to live so it's a partnership you come to the world to come they'll be together asap could have been a partner with yaakov and and made a wonderful connection between them but he chose nobody so it's something that he could have done he had the free will to do so but one more quick question i know in in previous lectures you mentioned to us that um when joseph was born that gave yakov sort of the strength to confront aesop if that's the case why was he so frightened in other words if he originally had that um you know it's a good question but naturally these things are helpful but they're not if they're not in ice that has to be that one knows you you have still free will you have i suggested to help but if you sin yeah he's ready sin and he used up his is good deeds so then yes it's not going to itself for help if you were worthy of it but the person not worthy of it is not going to all these things are not going to are not going to help yeah thank you were they done are there any questions online at all yes we actually actually have a question it's um from one of our old uh uh joey avidan he's uh he sent in a question that um he wants to know how is it sort of related to what we're discussing even how does somebody know what is the right thing for him in life does he only do what his rebbe tells him or is there more to it than that that was his question well that's a very important question how do we know what everybody has their what oh yeah the question is how does a person know what his purpose in life is because everybody we say has a purpose that everybody has their own talents not even has their own uh special things about them but how we supposed to use them how should we what type of things should we do in their life what type of job together what type of life to live and so on so we generally we know the type of life jewish life but that's down to more details what are supposed to follow up on so he's asking how how do we know that so my answer to that question is two things number one the great conversation which is quite many times says that god gives peoples gives people the uh the uh pulling and magnetic type of force the things they like to do and that's the type of thing you should get into something we feel that we enjoy somebody that's that that we feel that we have the uh the talent to be successful in that particular thing that's number one that's we should look into and number two a person besides thinking himself should discuss with his mentor his teacher his rabbi and somebody who knows him well and the person who's objective person we are subjective to ourselves we don't always think the right way we have to have somebody to suggest to us and talk to us and and and and and explain to us together with his own feelings and own pullings and also with the person mentors input to discuss and come to a a a a final decision of what a person should do in this life so those two things are really uh sometimes the life itself puts a person that god puts him in a certain position that uh he sees this is what god wants sometimes but usually doesn't work so easily but those are the two things that i always tell people to ask me what should i do say well what do you what do you feel you're talented when you feel like doing um discuss it but the person knows you very well tell a person who was objective those that were the person to do to decide what their lab should be all about joey if you're there hi nice them he the angel really came to him like he saw it he's he see him he spoke spoke to him or like we say in in friday night we say angel is coming in my in our house thank you was great enough to talk to angels spoke to him also what he saw we don't know what he saw him he saw four the three people came to his house we lived before him and they thought they were people they made themselves look like people but when the angel was when they're not were masquerading how did they look on this earth i never saw one i can't tell you i can't tell you exactly it's not what you see in the pictures angel with wings flying around with all kinds of that's not uh people just make that up but that's not how the angels look oh that's not the way they look no no no wings whatever the wings we don't know what these things are abstract type of we say they have wings it says and and the holy scriptures have wings but what does wings mean because it means it doesn't mean it's the same type of thing people fly around with abstract and they fly around the different they they travel one place to the other we call them wings but it doesn't think they have really wings it's just a uh expression of of explaining explaining how a person goes around quickly on wings god's guts are carrying wings of eagles the same sentence will carry us a wings quickly like eagles fly very quickly it doesn't doesn't mean a simple translation of the words rabbi you said that jacob was very frightened and he was upset he was afraid that he would get curled so the freight part comes first and the upset part that he would kill have to be he would be have to kill other people come second shouldn't it be the other way around that he would be if you know he would he should be more upset about killing other people who really weren't involved just between him and asap and he and then the fact that he would be killed should be other after other people getting killed we have to realize that yaakov is not a regular person later on we come to certain portions later on in the toilet the whole purpose of creation was going through yaakov abroad god made a covenant with abram with abraham and he told him i will be with you you'll be my people and you will accept the terror torah mount sinai and the torah is the purpose of the creation of the world and the jewish people of purpose and creation of the world and that was yakov on his shoulders to keep this going for the seven generations until mount sinai until the term was given if he's killed then the whole lineage becomes broken now what's going to happen it was on his responsibility to make sure that torah is going to be given the seven generations by himself the fourth generation committee abramovino told moshe was seven generations he was the third generation four after him have to come if he will be killed and he will be not worthy of living then it's a tragedy that cannot be replaced it's not just a person dying the whole jewish nation is dying the whole purpose of the world is dying that's the what he felt responsibility in his shoulders so not just he'll be killed every person was killed as a tragedy but not nearly the treasure of the occupation it's all different another question that came in from the email inbox um how come yaakov prepared for war before he prayed should he not have prayed to god for help before trying to do his own efforts yes i was thinking the same question as i was saying it over now why did he prepare for war first and then he prayed to hashem and i would say the answer to that is because in order for god to listen to our prayers he has to see that we are doing something for ourselves you just can't sit back god take care of me god wants us to see you're doing something you're preparing you're doing what you can the best we can so now if we have something for god's uh goodness to have a place to to to befall us for instance we say that uh before we we spence we say uh after we eat a meal so we thank god it's a myth and deterrent to thank god i have to read a meal to give him thanks and as we thanking him we're praying to him that he should give us a goodness an abundance of blessings just like we had the meal from them now we should have meal from the future we have food to eat and uh other good things so you have to leave something on the table if there's some bread on the table some food on the table they want an empty table we have to prepare something for his abundance of goodness to be able to befall us and become actual blessing that will come to fruition something's going to happen if we empty table we say well we didn't do anything to bring down this abundance of of of blessings we have to make ourselves worthy of the blessings by doing something that we can do and then we pray to god we did what we can do now we realized you have to come and follow up and and finish it up for us so we have to do something first in order for them to pray to god to give us that's what i think about teaching this now it's a good question rabbi i um i'm a little upset with with the way that the rebecca is uh jacob's mother am i right right yeah the fact that they were man and wife they entered into an agreement uh and yet rebecca does this hateful thing to her husband this is it was a good thing it had to be done well didn't she tell her son put on this your fur hand so that your father would mistake you all right so it sounds wrong somehow it's like a 21st century woman can we have a rebuttal of that please okay let me explain to you let me explain to you rifka her whole life was for yitzhak did everything for him and she wanted to make sure that he did not have any distractions he was called the earl tamima it was called the sacrifice of completion a man he was put on them as bad i remember put him on on the altar to slaughter him and before he slaughtered him god said no it was a test but was put on that he's made holy by putting at that altar and he his thoughts were not broken from thinking about god praying to god and rivka's her whole life was to make sure he had no distractions nothing bad should come in his life to make him upset and take him away from his connection to god with his thoughts to god and praying to god and that's what she did the whole time she could have told yitzhak asap is not who you think he is asap is not the son that should get the blessings and he wouldn't agree to a hundred percent he didn't realize he was blind and he didn't realize what jason really was they said went to fool him so many times different questions he asked him to fool him to make him think he's such a great person and therefore you said was misled by his son we said there's two different approaches but this is the main approach so therefore rivka had a a dilemma here he wants to give the blessings to ace of aces not worthy of the blessings what should you do tell them he said don't give him the blessings he said he's a bad person jason does not worthy of the blessings and that would get upset very much and he will distract him from his connection to god so she came up with a great plan not to make him feel bad he certainly would good luck would have gone along with her he would agree not isaac shouldn't get the blessings but she is able to circumvent the problem by making yaakov like azab and yaakov gave him the blessings the real one he really wanted to give the blessing to she really knew and he didn't have to go through the pain and the suffering of knowing that son is a is a wicked person thinking he's a great person both great people that's she did a great thing for him that wasn't anything that she did an evil thing to him if he would have known who asap was he would be that he would want to give a blessing to you which later on he agreed after he found out he's got the blessings he said he's right you should just bless him so she did not actually he agreed 100 what did she do it everybody can know that yes god forbid don't look at rivka in a bad way greatest woman whoever lived in the world she would never do anything wrong god forbid you know he did it with god's permission you've got permission to do it just talk okay are some angels more important than others or yes different levels like who's who's the best angel the biggest angel we don't say obviously it's called mem test test race well six letters to his name that's considered the the special agent of god closest to it through this angel because there's no paradigms no enjoys poverty by themselves people make the mistake and israel is not built to have his own power and only tools of god he's going to give his angels he got real and the wheel doesn't happen a lot of thousands and thousands of done under them but he's considered the greatest of all why is he the why is he the top guy top angel the m guy he's considered god's agent to do certain things that he sends him to do certain things the one who got appointed to lead to these people in the desert and the jewish people refused and said no no they want you yourself you know they're angels god agreed but after they did the sin of the golden calf god said i'm not going to lead you anymore oh the whole discussion about it and sent this angel to legal he's the greatest angel the jewish people is up without moving so you'll be self-confident no no angel got himself to be close to us but that's things we wanted to see sure what she was the wife of uh jacob she was jacob's wife isaac oh okay i don't understand i thought she was the wife of jacob jacob's wife no sorry was the wrapper of abraham we've got wiper wilscock and vocal and leia the wives of yaakov rivka every day she prayed to god you have to play clapton i'm sure more than once yeah rivka great did asap know that rifka was involved in the deception it's not really uh it's not really known it doesn't send any place thinking about that myself did she know about it this was behind it um because she took the clothing of aso and gave it to yaakov to wear and he probably found out about it but i can't say for sure i don't know any place that says to me by the way but uh you know what that made a difference here because that was one thing that was very very outstanding the mitsubishi captain more than anything else was keep it up and aim out of his parents and a lot of the great robberies afterwards said that they wish they'd honor their parents like he did even though it was not a really deep it was just on the surface but he had his own his own agendas for doing it and uh he really was trying to fool his father and but outwardly he honored them to a great extent and he uh when he found out that he gave the blessings to the yakov and he didn't pull it back and he didn't it wasn't any of them it wasn't such respect for everybody so i don't think you would just lift uh respect for them anymore but i don't have any uh any uh basis to say either way at this moment i never found any questions yes ma'am i'm trying to ask him some spellings why is uh esau then so evil i mean there had to be good parts of him he couldn't be totally evil well here we go and we said he was very uh careful and respecting his parents yeah so i mean shouldn't we have some compassion toward him he's okay you know no i mean you know he wanted to kill us then what you see later you want to kill everybody come on from his conventional wanted to kill us hitler's grand wanted to kill us everybody many of the children so it's hard to have too much compassion for him but uh because he's our arch enemy trying to destroy us so uh i don't know how much uh i i have a problem with people being totally one way or the other and no matter what our ancestor just did it's told as it's meant to be and it's all good and i don't see it as all good and i don't see him as all bad that that's maybe my problem but you know we find different sins that uh our ancestors did yeah talks about it yes people are not perfect even moses had some according to his greatness what was expected from him he had certain faults also which to us we can't don't understand but being such a great person so close to god so certain perfection to god found with him but uh he can understand it but asap had some good things about him also but what do you think about hitler would you like to have compassion hitler no i would find that difficult but yeah i guess this is so far re moved so far in the past that it it's easier for me to uh i'm sure that hitler did some nice things also in his lifetime i just read about something he saved some kind of jew for a while because he used to be really close to him whether he was his commanders document they found he said save this guy because this jew because he used to be his commander in the office army was his officer in the army and therefore he said the same thing so he did something good i mean everybody does something good in their lifetime you know but uh still do you have compassion for them i mean mentally after measurement mingling dr megan a compassionate i mean a compassionate person right there so these are people human have compassion some good things in their life but it's hard to have compassion to think something to think about you know you said that um and i heard before that asov was very respectful of his parents but that was not really his nature it was so why is he giving credit for that because what was what was his motivation was he really respectful was he really outwardly he was outwardly doesn't matter does it oh yes that looks at people's actions and they rewarded for their actions even though they might not have good thoughts behind it it's not the same as people with the thoughts behind it the mitzvah is much bigger if they have the right thoughts but a person does something good god you want to put into that this is something here so they were worthy of reward and we respect him for it how is he respectful for his parents how is he respect how did he show that respect well one way our rabbis tell us when he would serve his father he put special shabbos clothes which was beautiful clothing whether he would serve him and bring him something to eat so he would dress up in a way that was serving the king and uh he would uh that's that one thing rabbis tell us that it's so respectful that he made sure to uh show his respect in such a way so that's that's one thing you see was there were there other good things that he did okay the way he talked to him after he lost the blessings he found his respect any other questions was thinking like about jacob is uh because he was 20 years with lavan maybe chanchi you know he's not like uh anymore yeah excuse me asa might think he's not such a sadiq anymore right he thinks he's not a dick anymore like he because he's with lavon but in a way he was thinking that way and also he knows like what his father told them you know about if you uh jacob he will keep you know the it beats sadiq and his children they're going to beat hikim and uh he can like touch him right and in he and then he has to to face jacob anyway he was like also not sure if he to go with him uh to go fight him or not to fight him then uh when jacob also convinced him in the when he faced him he gave him with all the gifts they gave him he just like he is he softens his heart back to that yet yes coming up yeah next week you know oh that should be coming up next week there's coming attractions so i asked yeah you know we're gonna come to all that pretty soon yeah yeah he did uh but he wasn't sure like to go to fight him because he was confused too trying to get out of it he's trying to appease him we'll see he was trying to pray to god and also we'll see later what he did to try not to fight and uh ended up that he didn't up was very close but i ended up there was no i wasn't sure he wasn't sure because with all like but you know for sure the ice is coming to fight the 400 men coming no but in the other hand and and yakov he saw in this he's not going to fight him because you know he was out he was sure it was right at this point he didn't know he got to get ready he got ready to fight him you just said he divided the magnet to two and he said if to come and kill these this one the other one will escape he was yeah but when he was running for the worst when jacob started to pray to god he saw that in the like god is going to be with him it's not going to be like you know he didn't know that yet no no no you didn't know that was unknown thank you in number seven it said when when he sent the angel to to assad to check on him he said oh then obviously he's still anger to you so why he didn't change his way not to go to him at all if he's still so angry and still uh sony so just go to different ways he couldn't get away from him he's close by and he was he know where he was he hasn't met with them they would that's the only way okay okay get off your chest this is something else how did jacob observe the 613 commandments i i i mean aren't some of the commandments have to do with the temple yes that's a good question how do we keep six out of three commandments we don't we don't but we have to so the answer is that for instance some mitzvah something with kohanim the trees something on the vehicle some people have to do with that only individual so uh the way that we keep them even though they're not an uh actions but studying the mixtures and delving into them is considered like we perform the mitzvah that's normally how we do it that's why a person has to study the mitzvas and learn about them and learn the details about them and by studying them we consider that we perform them whatever we perform it to perform and whatever we can't we have to study about them that's one way and that's how amino studied together that was in the field with the sheep for all those years what did he used to pray to god then say to him and he used to study toner so he learned the whole time before he went to love and he believes that 14 before it got to lovin and as he was saying that he started day and night whenever he had a chance so he was performing it by studying another way we performed that is by as one jewish nation if we're together with achtus with togetherness so then it's considered that we are one nation so being connected to kahanam it's like we get the perfection of the gohan we can perfect people against israel in israel because as one nation if we have togetherness if we have locus and the hard feelings between us then it separates us then we don't get that perfection that we could get that's why it's so important for us another reason for us to be as one nation together without any arguments and uh and uh problems between us but studying at that itself is like performing i have no more online questions online people come on let's go the the the torah yakov and avraham study the other is different from from torah today so what kind of torah did they study and the 613 command has been given given the dubney sorel and when moshe got the torah or this this part i they were not commanded on the mitzvoth but they were told about them hashem they had prophecy their prophets and god revealed to them the torah the third seventh same thing we have today it was revealed to them the same and smoke the same torah that they had they had we have it's the same one it's not different it's only one torah i actually just got one question in online from salmon um sarah goldberg hannaford she wants to know why if um wife amalek was so evil why didn't hashem wipe him out right away why did he let him continue and stay on in the world so ask a better question why did he create them in the beginning they should have created them when he created them and wiped their mouths and bad people don't create bad people said before that they weren't created evil there's no such thing as someone who's created evil they get evil later if they came right the reason why they were created is for our sake the reason that god doesn't wait him for our sake god tells us you have to wipe out the remembrance of amalek it's up to us to realize whereabolic is what the challenges and the bad that they spread around that we have to cope with and be able to stand up and be able to overpower the evil in the world so god created evil the world and doesn't destroy evil because he wants evil in the world for us to have challenges and for us to grow from us for us to be able to get to reap the benefits of our challenges that we overcome so the question could be what is evil in the world get rid of the evil why only i'll even get rid of it the third answer is because evil in the world is necessary for us to be able to be challenged by it and grow from it if we have no challenges we can't grow it's almost like by the way ambulance is not doomed i'm more like if they accept the seven noah's laws so they are considered sadiq they're considered righteous people they don't have they're not doomed to death the ones who were are showing the ones who are wicked they have to destroy but any amoled who keeps this in seventy simple the seven noise was the same simple as the decency he's considered sadly there's a geriatrician you know normally mitzvah to destroy so uh but the ones who are not keeping that it's up to us to realize the challenge that they're causing the wicked that they're spreading around and that's up for us to take care of it not god doesn't want to do the job for us it's our job not his job he gave the job to us to stand up to it and do what we okay we have one more question i'm sorry i just came in also um somebody help us people come on joe mendelsohn wants to know the camera's over there okay sounds like a the very popular uncle joe mendelssohn um he has the question do i if there's somebody who is uh agnostic or unaffiliated non-believer who a relative is uh is near death and he wants to know what he can say to this person to anything he can say well the best thing to say to that person is to talk about emunah talk about faith in god they say don't believe but if you talk to them and go through their mind and they hear it and even they say well maybe that maybe it's true the told they're not believers but if you talk about it and discuss it on the by the death threat and they hear you and they're thinking about what you're saying this effect goes through the mind holy thoughts there's a god he knows what's happening he knows what he's doing he makes everything happen those thoughts go through their mind that in itself can be a big uh merit for them just to uh hear these things because when as they hear it that's 100 sure they don't believe in god who's in god there's no father there's no atheist in the so a person on the death road they think about other things so the best things that talk about amuna and belief and the token and faith in god and about torah about the jewish people by the bedside just talk about it talk about it and just go through the mind or maybe maybe maybe start thinking differently that's the best way okay thank you thank you uncle joe was one of the people in the zone over peso that's what you got to know he has a whole video about his mother's life but he started off and was not religious he goes with his whole life story you know he got married older daughters oh i have to get hold of that maybe we'll show it on our screen uncle joe if he's still there give us that video okay next week maybe okay any other questions okay everybody say oh here we go okay we're still alive thank you um rabbit nachman of breslav said and he he told this teach this to two people and that it's it is it is a great mitzvah to be happy i think in my opinion from happening i agree with him he was right what he said is true uh i think in my opinion yeah that it's a great mitzvah to be happy for this is a great measure for a person convincing to be happy do you think in your opinion from you it's it's a great meeting to be happy for a person you mean it's a great means well we're supposed to serve god with happiness and they think that it says serve god with happiness so if we're serving god we convince us all the time every time we think about god into mitzvah every time we think he exists in mitzvah so every time we tell somebody a good thing and make him happy so we you know mitzvah make you feel good every time we uh study torah it's a myth so we don't miss us a whole day so we will miss us to be happy so we happy all day it's great to be happy you know people we serve our parents and uh they they don't like us to frown or just pass me and they go to the store for me to do something oh yeah i don't feel like they know they make a crown they don't want to do that yes this teaches thank you you're welcome okay so everybody have a good evening wonderful being here and to the next week when we're going to see what happened with the aqua and iso