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One Soul Tisha B'Av 2009
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A research they have done in the '9s.
From 100 Jews today,
how many Jews will remain in the fourth
generation?
From secular in the United States from
100 Jews in the fourth generation will
be seven Jews only.
Reform from 100 Jews will remain the
four generation only 13.
Conservative from 100 Jews
four generation will be
27 Jews.
Intermarriages we estimated around 40
45% the children of intermarages
overwhelmingly do not marry Jews. Easter
is coming as well as Passover. And in
our house, we celebrate both. We were
raised going to temple every now and
then, celebrating Christmas, um once in
a while going to a mass.
Many of my generation were raised in
households that lacked significant
Jewish presence. And today, rough
roughly half of all Jewish students on
North American college campuses have
only one Jewish parent. I fell in love
and I married a woman who was not
Jewish.
The McMahon family is a mixed family.
The father, Mark, is a Catholic from
Ireland. The mother, Helina, is Jewish.
Kind of think like I'm like half Irish
and half Jewish. Half of me is Irish and
half of me is Jewish. But it's really
just like all mixed together.
The Schubert family celebrates the bar
mitzvah of their second son. He's
Jewish. She's Japanese, Buddhist in
origin. And here's another example of
such a story. A support group for
American Jews and Christians who decided
to intermar. Once a week, they meet in a
church in Washington.
When this Jewish woman was searching for
meaning, someone offered her an
invitation, and she did it with a smile.
And you know what? It worked. But the
woman who reached out was Muslim.
[Music]
What What do you have religions before?
I was a Jew. I was a Zionist Jew. A
couple years ago, a young woman invited
me to join the faith.
I was in shock. I was so kind to her.
She was so nice. I bought a whole box of
thank you notes and I want to send my
first thank you to her for inviting me.
This woman who reached out, what if she
would have been a firm Jew?
[Music]
Ask any child in the street why we mourn
on tishabove and he's likely to tell you
because of the basikdash.
And ask that child why was the basikdash
and he's likely to tell you because of
sinam. It is one of the most famous mam
kazal because of baseless hatred the b
mcdashim were destroyed.
Today's presentation is about the tick
the correction of sinam and that is
avasum and about the ultimate expression
of aam and that is kiraokim
assimilation intermarriage it's been
called the silent holocaust
every other Jew today in America marries
a gentile 1.4 4 million Jews practice
other religions. The numbers are truly
numbing.
100,000 Jews a year are lost. That means
in the last 40 years, we've lost
approximately 4 million Jews. And that's
just in North America alone.
Not to mention Europe, Asia, South
America, etc. It is truly a silent
holocaust and a very painful one.
Today's presentation is more than just a
story about Kirkim.
It is designed to ask you and to show
you what you can personally do about it.
Where America is right now in terms of
assimilation, we are at the edge of the
cliff
and we don't have the next 100 years to
get our act together. We don't. We have
20 years. Within 20 years, the
assimilation and the intermarriage rate
will be such that more than half of the
Jews that are alive today will not no
longer be Jewish.
talking about when my father was in
Awitz and he would stand there saying to
him instead of breaking the rocks in the
field
and one of the German guards would
brutally beat him and he'd say to my
father,
"Who you praying to?
There's no God out there." And soon
there will be no Jews in the world. You
know why? We Germans, we're taking care
of the Jews in Europe. Our good friends,
the Arabs, they'll take care of the Jews
in Palestine.
And American Jews,
American Jews will take care of
themselves. They will disappear on their
own.
American Jews will take care of
themselves. Indeed, we are watching the
prediction come true. How tragic, how
catastrophic.
And you look at it like I look at it and
you see the footage that you just saw
and you wonder, "What can I do? The
problem is enormous. The problem is
impossible to cure. Can one person
really make a difference?" It doesn't
even pay to try. And yet, if you care
enough, if it means enough to you, one
person can make a big difference. What
you're about to see is a perfect example
of how one person cared enough and did
something about it.
One Canadian has managed to put the
tragedy of child labor on the front page
and keep it there. And if you're like
us, you'll be surprised when you get a
good look at him.
We're talking about labor and the
exploitation of children.
When a child's forced to work 12 to 16
hours a day in
Craig Keielberger is only 13 years old,
but he's old enough to know the
difference between right and wrong.
Well, basically, we're told slavery
abolished, you know, not 20th century.
You don't find slavery in the world
today. But it was really shocking was
when I was just reading through the
different research that I got when you
find the worst type of slavery still
still exists today. Slavery of children.
It all started last April when Craig,
then 12, read this newspaper story about
a boy his age in Pakistan. His name was
Ikbal Masi. And when he was only four
years old, his parents, like so many
others, offered their son's labor in
exchange for a small loan. Ikbal spent
the next 6 years chained to a rug loom
like this one, working 12-hour days for
pennies until he finally escaped and
joined a crusade against child labor.
But after winning worldwide recognition,
Ickball's life was cut short when at the
age of 12, he was shot dead in the
streets of his village. No one has been
convicted of the murder, and Craig
Keielberger vowed to keep his cause
alive. But what made you think you could
do something about it?
Originally, I didn't think I could
really, but the only way you're going to
ever find out is try. So, after doing
some research, I just walked to my
classmates and said, "Listen. I read
this article. here's a problem. This is
what I know, which at that point was not
very much. And I asked, who wants to
help?
The answer, kids. Okay. All those in
favor of this agenda that we're doing
today.
Craig started a group called Free the
Children. The board of directors meet
Saturdays in Craig's den turned command
center. They're in daily contact by
phone or fax with a host of
international human rights groups. Craig
has always done his homework to keep up
on the issue, but he soon felt that
homework wasn't enough. He had to meet
the children he was trying to help.
Chaperoned at each stop by local human
rights advocates and armed with a video
camera, he went from Bangladesh to
Thailand and then on to India, Nepal,
and Pakistan.
Was it difficult to find children? I
mean, could you get into these factories
and places where they worked? The
perception that I had was that in child
labor, it's all in the deep, dark back
alleys. No one can see it beyond public
scrutiny. But the truth is, it's
practiced in the open. The shock for
Craig was to discover that child labor
wasn't just in hidden sweat shops. It
was everywhere. and a boy making metal
cups to be shipped to hotels and
restaurants, a girl bagging candy 11
hours a day in an overheated room, or a
boy stitching soccer balls. Craig found
himself staring into faces his age and
younger. Kids who were missing their
childhood, who were separated from their
parents, tortured for small mistakes.
Craig was able to talk to the kids in a
way no other westerner had. as one child
to another.
Has he ever gone to school?
One young boy who I met in a brick kiln,
he told me how his grandfather had taken
out a small loan. Now, that's two
generations back. And he's still working
along side by side with his relatives to
try to pay off the debt
from two generations.
Two generations back.
That work landed him in the center of a
media storm when Canada's Prime Minister
Jean Creten happened to arrive in Asia
at the same time, accompanied by 300
Canadian business leaders who were eager
to sign export import deals amounting to
several billion dollars. The 13-year-old
said, "Wait a minute." He wanted to talk
to his prime minister about the plight
of children who made some of those
exports before the businessmen signed
any contracts. But the prime minister
turned him down. So Craig met with the
people who would listen. He held a news
conference. With two former child
laborers at his side, he helped them
tell their stories.
He had been hit by his master with his a
steel iron rod.
The prime minister could not have
anticipated the fallout back home. He
upstaged the prime minister during Team
Canada's trade trip and catapulted the
issue of child labor onto the national
agenda.
Back in Asia, the prime minister changed
his mind about sitting down with an
eighth grader. Were you nervous at all
meeting the the prime minister?
Is anyone not?
You have your neck out and you have a
guillotin quite nearby. There's always a
little bit of nervousness. You never can
get over that.
He may have been nervous, but he did get
his point across.
We in the Canadian government are open
to looking at new ways to combat child
labor through toughening our own imports
restrictions.
Hi. Hello.
There's nobody Craig won't lobby. From
the premier of British Columbia to 2,000
union leaders at their bianual
convention where after hearing Craig
speak, they spontaneously pledged
$150,000 to his cause.
He and his group Free the Children
persuaded the mayor of Toronto to ban
fireworks made by children. The federal
government is considering a program to
label rugs so customers will know they
were made without child labor. The
Minister of Foreign Affairs offered
Craig an advisory position in the
government and last month the House of
Commons recognized his work.
I invite all parliamentarians on both
sides of this house to work together
along with Craig and Free the Children
to stop child labor. Let us all applaud
one of the heroes of Canada. Thank you.
And so with slides of Asia in his
backpack, Craig goes from school to
school across Canada sharing what he's
learned, urging other kids to think
beyond themselves.
You go to Asia,
you meet all of these kids. You get on a
plane and fly back home. What did you
think about leaving all of those kids
there knowing the life that they would
still have to lead?
[Applause]
It was really difficult from the way
that you look at it as if you know I'm
flying back to Canada. I'm flying back
to this and yet they're still there. Now
that that's difficult in itself, but
when I return to Canada, I could speak
to so many more people. Like even right
now, the reason I'm going place to place
school to school is to talk to people to
say, "Listen, here's a problem. I've
seen it with my own eyes. This does
exist and you're in a perfect
opportunity to fix it. Everyone's in a
perfect opportunity to help. A lot of
people say it's it's a lot easier to be
ignorant and say, "I don't know the
problem." But once you know that
problem, once you've seen it in their
eyes, then you have a responsibility to
do something. I think that's why people
say, "Why are you doing it?" Cuz I have
a responsibility now.
Why you?
Why not?
And if everyone in the world could say,
"Why me?" Then nothing ever would be
accomplished. Why me? Because I've met
those children. Because I've seen them.
Because I read the story of Bbama.
Why not me? I'm pretty lucky. What else
do I have to worry about?
If I am not for myself, who will be for
me?
But if I am only for myself, what am I?
You take a look at Craig Heielberger and
you say, "Wow, 12 years old. Look what
he accomplished."
The truth is there's a little bit of
Craig in all of us. The difference is he
really cared. He wanted to do something
and he went out and did it. But each one
of us can do something too. We have our
own individual skills, our own
individual talent, our own individual
personality.
And if we cared enough, we could do the
same thing that Craig did. We can answer
that. We can't turn a blind eye to
assimilation. Not when we're losing so
many. You don't have to be anything
fancy. You don't have to be a great
speaker. You don't have to be a
celebrity. You just have to be yourself.
Regular people just like you and me, you
can do something and it can really
matter. Take a look.
You know says,
he says, "You go down the street and you
see a guy drowning. You got to go in and
save him. You don't know how to swim.
Poor guy. He drowns. But if every day
you go and you see people drowning, then
you have an obligation to learn how to
swim.
I live here in Muny in the Muny area and
I teach in Yeshiva Ouinski's Yeshiva.
Two years ago, the Gidim came here for
Shabbaton and they were looking for a
nice peaceful Shabas. The air
conditioning went out, the air
electricity went out, everything went
out. And then when the electricity came
back on, the air conditioning did not.
They decided to go across the street,
they knocked in the door. They heard a
big party. They said, "Hi, can you
please come and turn the air
conditioning on?" The guy turned around,
said, "Ai,
they realized this is not the right
address." And they came back and told me
the story. This is where my life totally
changed. I literally broke down because
initially I thought, "Okay, it's a nice
cute story." However, then I realized
there's an Israeli Jewish man across the
street and for some reason I'm not
running to go shake him say shalom.
I have the most incredible treasure
treasure that I would like to share with
you called the Torah. Please listen.
And at this point, I decided I'm going
to go across the street and do that. And
it took three or four times. You could
ask my wife. I was literally going crazy
cuz each time I went there was either no
one at home or his wife answered and
each time I messed up by either not
taking the number and giving my number
doing all the mistakes a
non-professional Kira person would do.
However, never give up. That was my
motto. As uncomfortable
as the experience was each time going
there, literally shaking, my heart
beating as if the guy's going to come
out with a gun and shoot me. I finally
got there. Fourth time I went with my
kids. We decided we'll invite them for
sukus. We knocked on the door. This
Israeli avi was there. He with a big
smile. He took us in and it was like we
were brothers from the first day. So
this is where we live. And right over
there, the second house is where my
friend Avi lives. From then on, Bo
Hashem, we got friendly and the
experience has literally changed my
life, changed my kids and my wife's
life, changed their lives. Certainly,
the average Hisha person wants to do
Kiru and knows Kir is important. The
missing piece is they think they can't
do it. And I say you can do it because
I'm the standard person. I wasn't the
Baltua. So, I didn't grow up with that.
I grew up in the regular circles like
everybody else. And I never lived out of
town.
And I don't have therefore some special
tools to know how to talk to somebody.
But I just try to be natural, try to be
myself, try to be pleasant, and try and
make that one step to initiate
something. That's all.
[Music]
Kira can be done if someone wants to do
it anywhere. It could be done on your
block. It could be done in your office.
It could be done in Shaw.
It could be done at the restaurant. It
could be done on the subway. It could be
done at the bus stop. If you know that
someone is Jewish,
you got yourself a potential client.
I work as a landscaper in Muny. This is
my 22nd year and I'm constantly out
meeting people, clients and uh new
prospective clients and I'm always
amazed how many people are actually
Jewish. Uh the people here directly here
in my are mostly from observant Jewish
people, but when I get to the outskirts,
it's always surprising how many people
are Jewish. And the only way I'll know
is by them saying something to me. Like
they'll say a a Hebrew word and I'll
know, oh, this is somebody I can talk to
and try, you know, try to say something
about uh try and invite someone for
shabas. Just try to just get to get them
to identify with some type of
observance. When I go to a house or meet
a client and they have a last name uh
that sounds Jewish, a Schwarz, you know,
someone way out on the outskirts, I'll
try to find out. I'll look for a little
muza on the door. Uh sometimes I could
tell and if so I make it my best effort
to speak with them more, try to find out
more about them. I try very hard to
plant a seed and give them a positive
experience with the with a from person
and then I hashem will send the next
person to do the rest of the job. In
landscaping I can't do anything all in
one day. I've got to plant a seed. I've
got to water it, fertilize it. This is
how I feel that reaching out to people
is the same way. In other words, I'm
planting just little seeds and I pray to
Hashem and I, you know, give it over and
I wait for the next person to come and
water the seed. There'll be another
person that cultivates it and fertilizes
it. There'll be another person that
trims the bush, another person that
plucks its flowers. And it takes all of
us. We all have to do it. That's why it
just can't be left up to a few
professionals. If everybody in America
would be involved in care of, it would
be great because everybody they touched
so many lives.
Kingston itself has a a very large
reconstructionist congregation in
Woodstock, New York. Um, and so there
are many Jews in the area basically, but
the the vast majority are, you know, are
not, you might say, called Shom Shabas,
but what I see basically is knowing that
without my doing something on a personal
level, the chances of them being
Jewishly connected are very, very small.
During this period of time, I would have
contact through my office, which I think
gave me a unique ability that they were
either personal close friends or of
course they knew me as physician caring
for their children. And I think that
gave me a unique opportunity to
basically
um during normal conversation to either
discuss Jewish concepts and ask me
questions and sometimes the questions
were much more specific to circumcision
and ma. What do I think about it? you
know, can I suggest them oil? Giving
books out or I'll recommend books,
whether it's be Harry Kaplan, I'll give
them tapes on Jewish holidays, on Jewish
parenting. Uh they get to hear some of
this Jewish wisdom and the source where
it's coming from. Many of patients who
became friends and acquaintances at that
point would at least try the shul out
and whether they became members or not
really didn't matter. The fact they
would be there on any given Shabas gave
me the opportunity then my wife and I to
invite them back to our home you know
for Shabas lunch whatever and spend the
day. They see your children. They see
the sim the happiness in the home. They
seen the restfulness. Uh they see the
interaction you know whatever. And of
course it helps to have a wife that's a
really good cook. We can be miso
wherever they are. Whatever we do,
invite someone for a chabas, speak to
someone nicely, friendly, that brings us
together.
When we moved to Miami Beach, um this is
a pretty intense Orthodox uh
neighborhood and there wasn't a lot of
kira going on and even though we moved
here for our kids, we missed that
opportunity to do outreach. Wasn't part
of our lives until the CL program.
I remember kind of getting, you know, an
invite one night, you know, to come, you
know, for a Shabbat dinner. And I was
like, "Okay, great." And uh and someone
said, "Yeah, we're going to go to a
family's house. You know, it'll be
great." I'm like, "A family's house?"
Like, it's tough enough going to my
family's house. I want to go to someone
else's family's house.
when um I started dabbling on a Friday
night one time and everyone was singing
and uh you know everyone stood up and
you know I followed everyone else and
they turned around and I was in the back
row. I just remember like, "Oh my gosh,
like they found me out." You know,
at first you think that uh you know,
it's very intimidating because you
realize you don't know that much about
what's going on, but once you come in
and and you get welcomed into a family's
home like the Gold Losters, you know,
they're so warm and welcoming and and
they want to help you learn and they
they teach you
[Music]
I had a different way than Stefan of
confronting the not knowing prayers. I
just came I just came extraordinarily
late for Davin and uh got here about 5
minutes before dinner started.
Josh is into creative solutions.
Kira can be as intense as having 20
people around around your table on a
Friday night or u as simple as going and
get a yamaka for somebody going up and
saying hi how are you
my father taught me yeah
says
[Music]
if there's nobody else doing the job
you've got to do it you've got to try
I live on this very picturesque, father
knows best looking block uh here in
Pacific, New Jersey. We had this mailman
that would come every day. Uh one day it
was after or right before a trip to
Israel and he asked me um you know he
said, "You you were away." And we said,
"Yeah, we're going to Israel or we came
back from Israel, whatever it was." And
he said, "Oh yeah, it's been a while
since I've been there." So I look at
him, "You've been there?" And I kind of
suspected, you know, he's probably
Jewish or maybe Jewish. We start
talking. found out his name is Art
Lavine. Um, so I didn't think he was
Roman Catholic at the time. Uh, we fig
we figured out I'm a Ley. He's a Ley.
We're both uh we're both of that tribe.
Uh, and the next time around, I think it
was a shabas or something. You know,
he's coming by with a male. I said,
"Art, you know, you want to come in?
We're having some chollet now." So, he
said, um, you know, let me just finish
my rounds and I'll see. And I really
didn't expect him to come by. But then
boom, the door knocks maybe 20 minutes
later and Ashley came in. He sat down.
He knew what Cholant was, which was
already an indication that he had some
connection. I think it might have
reinforced some warm feelings that he
already had. Uh he talked about his bar
mitzvah and it brought back some of
those memories. Art apparently liked the
uh experience so much that on subsequent
weeks he would come back.
[Music]
I was raised in a, you know, a home that
considered it important to be Jewish,
but really didn't give me any specific
direction as to why I really should be
Jewish. I was
dating women who were not Jewish, who
were Jewish, but not religious or
anything. And I happened to have very
coincidentally met who the person who is
now my wife. We became friends. You She
introduced me to Jonathan.
I'm not uh I'm just a regular guy and
I'm a Bella bus. I didn't have any curve
training and they didn't prep me
beforehand and uh we didn't have uh you
know mentor classes.
Well, we would meet uh anywhere from one
to two times a week. Um and we would go
over generally a portion of Kish. These
are very much lessons of life. Jonathan
made them very much alive for me. and
seeing him and seeing him with his
fiance at the time um you know was a
tremendous uh influence on me as to how
I proceeded. you know, here he is. He's
Jean Chavez and his family and you know,
uh, you know, it's the very fabric of
his life. You know, that's who he is
today. He's a from Jew.
I gave him a gift before my wedding, as
I did with all members of my wedding
party. I think it was a hagada that I
wrote an inscription in. And I I I told
him,
I absolutely would not be where I am
today, getting married, being religious,
if it were not for him.
Dear John, I give you this hagada with
my most sincere thanks for being my
usher kusa adviser and friend.
A a little less than a year ago, I met
you in Lincoln Square and
you yelled at me for not wearing yamaka.
Then I told you I don't wear fillin and
I'm sure you thought I was hopeless.
Well, today I'm getting married. I have
taken a veil to observe Torah, not just
for us, not just for me, but for my
children and my children's children.
So on behalf of them and myself, I offer
you my deepest thanks.
[Music]
And I only hope that you, Myra, and all
of your children attend my children's
wedding. Debbie and I love you both and
Myra and we hope you are a part of our
futures.
Hashem just wants us to try. That's all
he wants us to do. So we both tried and
you know successful.
They're dying for meaning. Everybody
needs meaning.
They're thirsty.
You say uh good chabistas to somebody,
he says, "Oh yeah, good chabist to you."
They they they're just afraid you're
judging them. Yeah.
Invite them to a suka.
They're fascinated. As long as you're
not you're not threatening to them.
Yeah. One time my parents had a family
over and there was a girl and she was
and she was wearing jeans and she looked
different than me. But I took her up to
my room and I showed her my toys and she
looked at my bed and she saw all the
shas and she said I never had that much
candy my life on a holiday. So I gave
her some and her friend and I made her
feel good.
I live in New Square. I teach in Bis. I
teach as a Rebi. I'm a Rebi. Teach uh
kind
of we learn from the Reba.
The warmth that the Reba has to every
single Yid. I just smile.
And many times people just come over to
me. I look different. I have a beard. I
dress different. People come over to me
who look totally different and they
start sch smoozing and they want to they
want to start a conversation. So many
many people out there
who today have beautiful families
if they wouldn't have had that touch
that warmth they wouldn't have been
between Cliso. They would have been
gone.
How many times do we hear from Balachu
that they just didn't have the vague
they had no idea what Yiddish is all
about until someone invited them for a
meal for Shabas.
A whole world opened up to them. As you
can see the Kir revolution has begun.
People from all walks of life are doing
Kiraov sometimes for the very first time
in their lives. a doctor, a landscaper,
a psychologist, a financial planner, a
nine-year-old girl, a kasid, people from
all over doing kirav and finding it
satisfying.
It's an amazing experience. And you're
worried, what if I say the wrong thing?
What if I don't know what to say? What
if I mess up? These are people's lives
we're playing with. The answer is is
that just wants you to try.
It's not up to you to finish the job. My
Rabb always remind me that if you try
and if you do everything you possibly
can, you are 100%
successful. Not 95, not 98 or 99, 100%.
Cuz that's your job. Do everything you
possibly can. Leave the rest to the
reburn.
And besides, never ever forget that you
have no idea and can never measure how
much of an impact what you did, what
that interaction meant to the other
person. You may not see it right away.
It could take a day. It could take a
week. It could take years. But remember
that every single thing you do matters
and really can make a difference.
My wife accepts an invitation and she
said, "We I've accepted lunch with this
rabbi, Rabbi Deutsch."
She left her husband to our Shabba
table, which we thought was beautiful.
So, we're going to go to him for lunch.
Lunch. Okay, fine. We'll go have lunch.
An hour, an hour and a half. It's
tennis. Is it two? No problem. Right.
Well, David Chern David Churn had the
most miserable experience at our
Shabbath table. Well, he'll tell you
about that. Well, this was
excruciatingly difficult for me. Here I
am in this house just filled with
children.
Nobody that I know um drove there,
parked in front of the house, and people
are peering out the window. And um well,
I walk in now. I'm so completely
intimidated. And then the rabbi starts
asking parha questions.
And all of these little kids are jumping
to answer these para questions. And I'm
petrified that he's going to look to me
for an answer and I'm going to be shown
up by this four-year-old.
And um this lunch would never end. It
just kept going on. And I'm 2:00, of
course, comes and goes.
And he drove back. I didn't know this
part of the story till many, many years
later.
We get in the car to go home. First of
all, we're walking to the car, my two
little girls, um, in like second and
third grade,
and one of Rabbi Deutsche's young
children, who is about to graduate from
Tamima this year, walks with us to the
car and she goes, "Is that your car?"
"Yes." "Well, are you going to get in
it?" "Yes." She looks and she goes,
"Why?"
So, I get in. We're driving home. I I'm
banging on the steering wheel yelling at
my wife. Don't you ever accept an
invitation in this neighborhood again.
They shot. Look what you've done.
I think it was 2 weeks later we were at
the Halperns for lunch. It was my wife
that really got the ball rolling. I
remember one Friday night. It was it was
before the Friday night, but Renee said
to me, "I want to make this Friday night
chabas. I want it to be chabas. Fine.
What does that mean? Well, I don't want
us to watch television. I don't want to
turn turn on any lights or, you know,
just fine.
So, I had no idea what I was getting
myself into. And Renee made this just
absolutely beautiful meal. Started off
with this chicken soup that um I still I
long for to this day. And um and I made
the mistake or the unmistake of saying
to Renee, "If you make this chicken soup
every Friday night, we can make every
Friday night shabas."
For a year and a half, this seduckus I
have as a wife made this chicken soup.
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Where do I start? What do I do? What are
the practical steps that can get me on
the road to doing some kind of kirav?
Well, the first thing you need to
understand is that it is not that hard.
It's not nearly as difficult as you
think it is. And the second is that it
is not terribly timeconuming. It won't
take over your life. And thirdly, and
perhaps most important that even if you
think that I don't really have many cure
of opportunities, who do I know? Look
what's around me. The fact is is that
it's not so. If you take a really good
look and if you think real hard, you
will find that there are plenty of
opportunities to reach out.
How many times do I sit on an airplane
and I get the bag of peanuts and I'm
looking and I'm looking and somebody
next to me says, "Oh, you're looking for
the OU. Look over there behind this
there. This is there there's the OU over
there." And what they're really trying
to tell me is not look at the bag of
peanuts. There's an OU. They're really
trying to tell me look over here in my
seat. I'm here. I'm a ye too. I might
not always look for the OU like you, but
really I'm in the same ballpark as you
are. And I can react two ways then. I
can say, "Oh, thank you very much." and
eat the peanuts and go back to sleep on
the plane. Or I can say, "Oh, I see you
know about the OU. Where you from? Did
you go to Hebrew school?" "Oh, yeah.
Yeah." They'll start telling me my
grandfather was this and my mother was
this and I didn't really go to yeshiva
and I don't really know and I'm not
sure, you know, I was bar mitzv, you
know, and that starts the conversation.
Focus on the person that you know in
your job. You know, you meet him every
day at the at the corner by the bus
step. Just focus on one person.
It's sometimes very overwhelming. There
are so many non-religious Jews out there
which is Nebuch. But you just focus on
one.
And once you'll focus on one and you'll
be successful with one, you'll do more.
Show them the product. The product is
your Shabas table. The product is your
six children sitting around the table
singing these murals. And if you're
proud of that and that's all you have to
show them and the rest will be
internalized. I'm one of those guys
who's uncomfortable meeting new people
um because what am I going to say? What
am I going to do? etc. Right? But if if
all you do is when you meet a new person
is find out a little bit about them that
and someone is interested if they see
someone's interested in just engaging
them and goodness gracious an Orthodox
Jew is interested in engaging me or a
rabbi is interested in engaging you know
having a dialogue with me. That's it.
You've broken the ice.
It's not a mitzvah of organization.
Every person every is to be
Israel. It doesn't say that a person has
to only love someone if he has a beard,
if he has pis, if he has a yamaka.
There's love your fellow Jew sincerely.
And if you could be sincere about it,
then you have to have no training at
all. Torah sells itself. Nobody has all
the answers. I mean, you can speak to
the biggest robot in the world and they,
you know, I'll get back to you. And they
also have to look in sparum and they
have to speak to their about him or you
know and uh there's nothing wrong with
that.
I was working in the public schools and
I had a kid come up to me after pes and
they were so proud of themselves and
they said you know what I went to
McDonald's over Passover and I didn't
eat the bread.
And I had to hold back at the time from
laughing. But afterwards, I started
crying because this kid did something so
huge. We have to realize that for
everybody, you know, each step could be
the one that sets them on the
thousand-mi journey.
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Now, on the campuses, there was there
was supposed to be 400,000 Jews. Now,
they say there's 200,000 Jews. We're
shrinking. It's do or die. The Jewish
people is is disappearing. Yeah.
It's not a matter of whether this is an
opportune time. This is the only time.
If it's not now, it's not going to have
another chance. This whole group of
unaffiliated Jews aren't going to stay
unabilated for the next generation. For
the next generation, they're not going
to be Jews.
This is the only time to do it. Awand
was in Hungary and he sent out messages
to the whole world. He made a deal with
Aishman to save Jews. Yeah. and they
didn't send him the money and he went
back to Iman and he bluffed him and he
got out one train and he went back and
he was dealing with life and death.
Yeah.
He failed in the end.
He never got discouraged.
There's nothing to be discouraged about,
man. We have no choice.
We got to fight. We got to bring back
our our children.
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If I were standing on a train platform
and people were walking into the train
and these were cattle cars and the
cattle cars were on their way to Awitz
and I have the ability to pull people
off of that train. I can pull them off.
Would I be worried about my honor? Would
I be worried about being ashamed?
They'll think I'm crazy. No, I would go
over and I'd pull them one, two, three,
four.
That's how I look at it. And every
person who I can pull off of that train
is another person who will have life and
of his children and their children and
their children. And if I am silent, I'm
just letting them walk on that train.
And that's not what Hashem wants.
We can't fail.
The Almighty is with us. If he helps us,
we can't fail. And he wants to.
We have a Torah
which is beautiful beyond compare.
We just have to present it the right
way.
We have a people who are thirsty for
meaning, who are thirsty for truth, who
are idealists in every way, who are the
most charitable, the most active for the
poor.
They want truth. They want meaning.
We have to do our job. We can't fail if
we just make that effort.
When when you pray to God, what what do
you say to God?
I say, "Almighty, I know that you care
about this much more than me. I know
that you want me to succeed. I know that
if you help me, we can change the whole
world.
I know you want to help me.
I know I just have to want it enough.
Please help me to want to feel this pain
the way you feel it
so that you can help me do it.
That's what you got to do.
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You saw the problem. Assimilation into
marriage spiraling out of control. But
you also saw the solution from Jews
reaching out wherever they go. It's
happening and you can be a part of it.
What I'd like you to do now is just take
a moment, think of someone, one person
who might appreciate you reaching out to
them. It could be a co-orker, it could
be a cousin, it could be someone living
on your block, it could be anyone, but
there is someone in your life guaranteed
who has not been touched yet. You could
be the person that can reach out to him
or her and it can change their lives.
Just take a moment, think about who that
person could be and then decide
today I'm going to do something about
it. It may mean calling them. Doesn't
have to be. You could just send them an
email. You could just send them a link
to an article that you saw. You can
invite them to a class. You can give
them something, a gift of some kind.
Whatever it may be, the point is is not
to leave here today without deciding
that you're going to do something. This
magnet is a great example of an easy
outreach tool. It's simple. It's free.
It's available wherever you are now.
Just pick one up, give it to somebody.
It's non-threatening. You don't have to
be afraid to give somebody a message
that everyone will appreciate and it'll
get you started on the road to doing
something related to Kira. What a
wonderful opportunity. Second, there are
cards available. Perhaps you'd like to
do a home kira training seminar. Just
get a few friends to your house. We'll
send someone down and we'll teach you.
We'll show you the ropes. We'll make you
not afraid. We'll give you tips on how
to do kirav. A wonderful opportunity
available to you. And third, kirav.com.
www.kira.com.
That's your home for a plethora of
information and opportunities to be able
to use tools to be able to reach out in
a very easy and non-threatening way. We
have opportunities for every part of the
year for Pesak, for sukus, for shvas,
for tishab
kaneka purim. There are opportunities
for you to be able to get a gift. Just
give it to somebody. They love it and it
gets you started. Together we can
actually make a difference. Together we
can change the tide of assimilation into
marriage. And together we can build the
bayishi mira.
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