Ohel: What does Paan mean? Order of prayer, are you a searcher? Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

So could good day today the day after the day after Gimmel Tamos it happens to be my ZA's yard side my paternal Z of Schlmer was buried at Ben in the Pavicher Bahayim the yardside of a very dear friend Dr. Mark Rosen who I met in Los Angeles when we lived there for four years and we became very close friends. after I moved to New York, he also moved uh subsequently to that became a true Baltua and um unfortunately he uh passed away at 49 and um this his only son who already had made aliyah and today has a family lives in a kar near kabad. Uh his name is uh Stevie Rosen, Barak Rosen. He's a lawyer and a very, you know, very fine young man. So young man is not so young anymore. But anyway, so here's the art side today. And um at that time we we had a carrier called TWWA, which everyone knows. And at that time they were bumping, you know, over booking and bumping people, right? You remember that period? And it included even tickets overseas. So, if you were bumped off a flight to SL and TWWA, you got a free ticket. And uh I know people who bought tickets at certain times knowing that it's going to be over booked and they're going to get bumped and they got taka bumped anyway. kits. It happened to me once. So they they give you a ticket and you can use the ticket for one year. So I I was able I I I called TVWA. I think St. Louis was their headquarters and uh I I got to some supervisor and she was a very nice person and uh she extended my ticket I think for two to three years not not all at once but I called her back a year later and um for whatever reason I don't know I wasn't going to then talking about now in um you know in the late 90s I think yeah I think so anyway Wait, the Kitser or maybe the mid 90s whatever the Kitser that's it I she left her position I had no one to talk to you got to use your ticket you don't use it by this and this date you you forfeit your ticket and it's it's a ticket to her stroll I mean so I remember like like now so the guy told me from St. Lewis, it was a man, our supervisor. He says, "It's very nice of you. We like you, but you got to choose a date. You don't choose a date. Your ticket is no. No good. I chose a date. I chose a date like now, June, end of June, July, because I figured it's the summer, your kids are out of yeshiva, and maybe I'm going to just just pick the date. I had no choice. And either I'll use it or I won't. The day that I chose was the day of this Dr. Mark Rosen's day that his body was flown to Eritis on TWWA and I was on that flight and I said kill him for him sitting in my seat while he was in the cargo. What do you say? brought this. So Thomas today is his yard site. It's also who we spoke about menfas who passed away in England on Dalit yesterday. Gimmel was his brother-in-law's my wife's grandfather Zalman Sarah Bransonsky's yard who passed away in Australia in different years. Rebalman was 1991. Rendle passed away 1995. And tomorrow, hey Tom is the yard site of Rebento of the Shento family. Some of you know the the one in Mayonote and his zade passed away on hatos in 1975. Unfortunately was killed in a car accident they believe in. So three brother-in-laws passed away a day in three consecutive days. gimbal, dal and hay and one in Arisro, one in England and one in Australia. Just a piece of trivia. Finally, it's the yard site also today of Rabbi Yitzka Groner, the het one of the Schlim and and he was the RV of the Melbourne Kabad community for uh close to 50 years and um a personality Rabbi Groner of Kran Heights, the Reb secretary's older brother, Yeetszk Groner, and to the to the dismay of his community Um I believe he either left instruction or the family understood and they buried him in Jerusale in Harimm because he is from his mother's side he comes from rabbit from his father's side he comes from Kleen stolen not kabad his father became a kabad by because he learned the tas in the 1920s but his gaza his roots is ken stolen his mother's side is a slanum the slum and and and ram I think Jacob kuli slanham and so that that's his from his mother's side so his yard's also today so that's a little bit about uh the day here you probably see online um they say there were 100,000 people by the oh hell I don't believe it I don't think there were more than 50,000 but even 50,000 is is is pretty good they did open up a second entrance way for women so they upgraded the tene level at the oh with now men and women coming in for two separate areas until now the same line that men were on. They stopped the line and then they lit women with a kind of a little separator. Not even a separator, a uh whatever. Yeah. Like a but it wasn't really cuz it was only till here to buy to to your stomach, you know, level. Anyway, they now completely took stopped that open another wall, another way in for somewhere. I don't know exactly how but and uh some other upgrades they did for Kohanim. And I was told that the efficiency the efficiency of the line and the setup w was tremendous. No pushing. But if you did go, you know, in the afternoon, you had to wait two to two and 1/2 hours to go in. And guess what? When you go in, you can't, they don't let you stop. You have to circle. You have to circle and tear up your pond. You can't you cannot read your pond inside. They don't let you stop. They keep on moving because there's so many people. So you get to go in as you go around te up your pig ne and then go around and go out just it's just uh just impossible otherwise. So there are those of us like myself and I'm sure others that go either before the yard said I went on Friday afternoon after and there are people are going probably today and tomorrow like if you remember hill we uh went to and that was a fantastic experience where you played uh music and it was really very special. So we went like within three days we went you know within three days of the yard site. So um there are those that do that too but the bulk of the people especially the young people you go on the day and another thing is that I was told by people were there yesterday all kinds of people from from not from a conglomerate of the whole Jewish world is is is walking through that. Last night we had here in our shroom basam we had a fabbran. We had three fabbrangans that we these here that I mean they are very big. They need three fabans. One is not enough. So you know us labavichers born and bred labavich for us one is enough but they need three. God bless them. So Thursday night that of Fabangan shop is there at Fabangan and last night. So last I was there Thursday night and and then last night. So last night I stayed for two three hours and um also saw people I never saw before come in. Um some look, you know, more in the litish yeshiva style. They wear they wore a a tie. They probably are part of a coll that's next door to us. We have a collo next door to us. that's made by a borrow Jew who's of Hungarian background very wealthy very wealthy person and he opened a coll but he brought only litfisher pretty much liter and he and he pays them I heard an excellent salary plus their rent but he wants to have the level of learning that he considers ers they learn stronger and better. Um, and he took them I heard he took some from Lakewood and he moved them to Bor Park so that they formed this coil. Anyway, I'm just telling you some Yes. Yes, he will. You you used a word I wasn't familiar with when you were describing being at the Oel Pan or Pan. I didn't hear. Oh, yeah. Sure. Pan. Pan is a is an acronym for pay nun. When when you write a a Okay. When you write pan means pion neph it's a it's abbreviation pon ne redemption of soul in kabad the tradition is that when you go to um sadic and you go to their ca you you write you write I guess when you go to one of the labbas you know because let's say the freed went to see to the caver uh in the 1930s of Rabbar and Khalil, right? And he crawled under and I always make the point, don't tell me that Labavich is is stuck up. It doesn't go anywhere else. The previous labavicha went to to to the cave of and it was it's somewhere or was somewhere like you had to crawl crawl on your feet to get in and he crawled on his feet. So if if I have to bring proof that went to another saddic's c I use this story but anyway so but whether you I I don't know whether you when you go to another would write pan I don't know but forb in this case they write in other words like this if you feel that you're communicating with this saddic in a way that's that you want it to touch your soul. You know, you want to have that soul connection, you write pesh p. So that that's the opening words on the letter pay ditto non and not lang noon by the way small noon nephesh the the noon of nephesh and then you begin your and there's a text I'm sure some of you know this I wish to awaken abundant mercy Now some add the following from the source of mercy and kindness for myself and then you mention your name Ben your mother's name and then you could add vavur is my wife my son my daughter my friend whatever if you don't want to add anyone else you go straight into the request that you have. And there's also there there's a general request in in in in learning and good health and a couple of you know the standard things that we we we need in our and then you go into your particular needs or your family's particular needs. That's the general I should have told you this before. Gimble Thomas, someone is not muted. Please mute yourself. So, um, uh, that's the general style of a letter brought and read at the oh of of the Reb in this case and we call that pig. So, so okay, wait, let let me finish one more point. I just want to make it clear for the record. When when a person writes a letter or wrote a letter to the Reb to theb each in their period and all that they did not write pig a regular letter is not a pigish a letter regular is a regular of of of request I I need suggestion that's a that's a ne is you're looking to connect your nishama to the to the sadic's nish and that's why it's specifically usually done at the caver of the sadic because the cabala teaches us that there is a remnant of the sadics the shama at the caver and we quote the verse I think it's the the lips are speaking The lips in other words of the person who who's lies there is spir is speaking spiritually and it connects to your request at the caver. So it's only at the at the caver or if you're sending a pig nephesh that they consider through the computer when you when you you you want it to be read and to be torn up and to to go into that uh place that um that you write p. Now, this is all just the Kaba tradition. How they do it in in in Carlen and in Boston and in and in breast blah blah blah. I don't know. Um I don't think they do it this way. You can correct me if I'm wrong. I don't believe so. But in Libavich, uh this is the this is the way it's done. Whether it was done in labage this way 150 years ago, I I also don't know. But the idea of writing a pond that that goes back um the general idea does go back uh probably to the alterative and someone had a question on something. Yes question something you said before. Yes, Mos. I was under the impression that I was under the impression that inad we do not bring the ke the uh the me from to you say they did with Rabbi Groer the it's first of all it's not kabad it's it's it's Torah it's Judaism it's it's everyone it's not there's no meanabad you do you don't so that's number one generally speaking you're right we don't we don't But if you make a condition, if a condition is made, when a person is buried cuz you intend on moving it, you're you're as far as I know, I'm not an expert in these, but as far as I know, you are hically allowed to to to move the body over. And they did that with Rabbi Groner. No, in fact, let me say it even more. I the is I believe you have to first bury him in their place. I think I think that's the ultimate. You bury them there and then you when you and you then you can I think they did that. I maybe they waited a week and then they opened it up and they moved them over. You should check with your local expert rabbi on in these areas. Yes, Misha. I love your balloons. I don't know how that I don't know how that happens. You know, I just want to comment. Um it's interesting. Um I have a friend a good friend here who is from Australia. He lost his mother maybe two three months ago and I've heard this before Australia he wanted he had purchased a plot for her here in Eric but in Australia because of government bureaucracy there's a serious amount of government bureaucracy and between that and the amount of travel time and the logistics it takes to bring a They Davka had to bury her first in Australia because of the amount of time it took arrange everything they had to bury her in Australia. It was they did it from the from the outset like it was essentially temporary and then when you're able to within a few days they were able to bring her to her. Uhhuh. I I I never knew that. Okay. So maybe that's the reason I believe is still in England. Yes. Rabbi. No. No. This is this Nasha, you know, it's not a game. Basically, where you're buried is where you stay. That that's the general rule. You heard the Mosha said. It could be that's the reason. In other words, Rabbi Groner wanted to be buried near because of his ancestors. Okay? That's what he decided. He made a decision. He knew he's a he's a rabbi. a community for 50 years, loved by many people. I'm telling you, it was a heartbreak when when the people in Melbourne heard that their rabbis being buried next door, they were heartbroken. But you know, this is you have to give a person their feelings, you know, uh you know what I'm saying? This is a very very deep feelings and uh no one can legislate that anyway. But generally, we do not move. For example, I'll give you the rabb's father is buried in Kazakhstan. I I think something Misha you were there in, you know, in in Alati. You weren't there. Okay. Anyway, I haven't been there either, right? He they sent him, you know, after they incarcerated him and and they sent him to hard labor and they were there and he got ill and he became and he died 1944. He's buried in a Goisha cemetery. There's no there very few yeden around. There was no Jewish cemetery in 1970. There's a Kabad family gelic from Russia. They made the they made aliyah in the early '7s I believe and I think one of the brothers might have still been in there in in Russia and they started to the Reb was in contact with them and the Reb said he would like to bring his father to Rome. his father's buried in a Goa cemetery. So they he worked this all you can hear he talks about it he talks about in Hebrew it's it's fascinating he tells you the details and the the the kiter is that the reb was pushing him and working with him and they were working with the with everyone there and at the end because of communism and everything it was 72 73 I forget the year he he couldn't do it he couldn't pull it off at the end and and and and when the reba heard he said new zo okay new let let it be this way in other words let my father stay over there so of course they made a you know border creating kind of his own little basakuras and today every year several hundred labaviches travel worldwide from all over to Kazakhan to the it's become a new uh spot for labaviches to go to in the summer there some um wealthy labav who sponsors some things out of Miami. Um he got excited about this idea and they they've and people have been coming you know more and more people. But so so you you see man there was a reason the reason is he's buried in a galacious cemeteries. The Reb wanted his father he didn't say he didn't take why didn't he say bring my father to to the queens. He didn't say that and it's just rolled. It's I I I don't think it's just because it's closer to Kazakas Kazakan, you know, logistically, but generally um we don't we don't uh reinterpret people. It's it's it's not done. It's not done. Um here's another example. Take the uh I think the uh new the Imbrais of uh of G. You know where he's buried? is buried in in in just we just spoke about this last week. The Reb's brother, he was reentered. He was reentered, right? Yeah. The Reb wanted him in there. You're right. I I I I I know the person who was involved in burying him. you know, the son of the person who was involved in Liverpool, England, but um I guess it wasn't a Yiddisha place and there ever want them to be in a Yiddisha place. So, I'm I'm not saying that it's it's a violation. I'm not saying that. I'm saying that it's it's not done unless there's a an extreme a real good reason. You know what I'm saying? But generally you don't find people picking people up and and even that the the the Reb Marash's youngest son the fourth Reb's son Mendel of was right there there was Rabalman Aaron the oldest bear the second Rashab and then he had a son um of he's buried in right he but but You you and you wrote in your book he was he was buried he passed away in in France. In France in Corsica in Corsica he was buried there and then the rebbit. Yeah. Okay. and and and they had to do a clandest a clandestine middle of the night job I think in 1952 where the body came in and then Wolf of Ludabad you know Lud uh with another in middle of the night and they they buried him so again I you know it was in the early 50s you have to know what was going on at the time why they had to do it that way but that's the way it's done but generally uh it's not done so why speaking about this we spoke about the pigish and any questions on the pion issue that I mentioned before the so the by upon it's it's a very deep personal thing it's not just writing a letter I need advice I need advice suggestion I need a ble a blessing it's it's a it's a soul a soulwrenching experience that you're looking to connect with that's why it's called pan pig Neph. Okay. So, this was the pre the pregame. We just had the pregame without beer. So, we're going to learn now. We're going to start learning whatever time is left today, which is only 3 minutes. So, we're not going to start learning the text. We'll just talk about it for a few minutes. Kutch essay 8. So first of all we have two essays left and then we finish on the whole Tanya that we've all learned. I I I don't know if anyone remembers when we started I don't remember but it must be at least two years and uh I remember the humble beginnings where we what it's not two years it it's more more it's got to be more. Yeah it's got to be more. Yeah. Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. Well, it's a this is a very good way of learning Tanya if you want to at le have a a little understanding of of it, you know, not to rush through it. So, we provided that and um we're coming to the end. So, that's that's number one. So mashem between now and the end of this ko session which is usually towards the tishab we will conclude this and then I'm going to decide what to learn in the next makar the next cycle but the the alterb here talks about a very important thing and in a in a way maybe it should have been right at the beginning he talks about people in shul who rush other people Sounds typical. I have it here every morning. I missed today Kadusha because the belila was flying and trust me I was diving fast because I knew the guy's dabbing fast and I couldn't keep up there. When you read this letter, the alterba would say he is not allowed to go over to the om. Now the counterargument to that is which the sakarv and others have said, well you shouldn't be domining with that minion. What are you domining with that minion? You know it's a businessman's minion and they're in and out. So they don't do it like the first minion at showabas which is 13 minutes on the clock. They give you 20 minutes. Maybe 20 minutes. Wow. So the alter in this in this essay number eight in a really really you know lambasts this the the the people in the shul who pressure the baltila to go faster. And I and I think it's it's important to to know and I know that I'm sometimes guilty. I have to rush out and I have to do this and that and if the guy's katzing I will say maybe a little faster you know. And when you learn this Dr. Reba says a fascinating thing. He says it's better that you miss your and your kaduca than rather pushing the bil to dab very fast. How do you like that? I couldn't say that. He could say it. The alterb could say that. So this also opens up the whole discussion. I'm going to talk more about it this week. And it's Hashem davening ding slower thinking, meditating, reflecting. It's it's a you know we spend so much time davening every day. There's no day that you don't d you know more or less more but there's dabing every day and it's called the activity the work of and we have to ask ourselves I and you know am I am I ding of all this or I'm just saying words and as the first thing is to ask yourself the question last night we were told this was the last night. The question, do you have a question about your hashem? That's where you start. If you don't have a question, you can't go further. If it's all good, you know, and everything is fine and dandy and I'm a great ye and great blah blah blah. Show how am I? How am I giving sodaka? How am I having mercy on people? How am I dealing with my fam? Question yourself. Interrogate yourself. That's that's a key element in before you start your before you start domining you have to ask yourself where am I? And that's the whole idea of says which we say of course search for Hashem's pleious but you have to first search. So that's the first thing is to become avish a makish. So tomorrow we'll continue on this theme. Have a great day everyone. All the best. Yeah. Thank you. Take care. Take care. Bye-bye.