The Secret Power of Love to Transform Your Life

The guy doesn't want to get better. You can't fix him. No. Guy walks into my program. He says, "What do I have to do?" I say, "Nothing. It's on us. If you can't feel the love and support from us, you're not going to get better. Your whole job, if there's any job, is try to open your heart a little bit and believe that we love you. And if you could do that, we're going to push our way in and just give you so much love that you're going to be so full that you're going to want to move on to go doing the work." The way I see it, we have an internal self-esteem and that's how we deal with our stuff, our good feelings, our bad feelings. When that self-esteem is not strong enough, we use external self-esteem. So, we use outside forces to make us feel better. When you think of an addict, his self-esteem is so low that everything he does is external self. He's using people to make him feel better. He'll be super charming at work. He'll use too much cocaine. He'll use relationship addiction, sex addiction, food addiction. And it's very hard to find someone who's only addicted to one thing.