How IMPORTANT is your past? #trending

so when many times children come from dysfunctional abusive homes where their father or mother used to beat them now they're not hitting but they're yelling and screaming and there's such resentment and when you tell them you you see what you're doing they go no no you have no idea how healthy I am I am the most healthiest person because what I grew up was unhealthy and you're trying to tell them no this is still unhealthy their brain can't recognize that so that's sometimes the challenge when we think okay we're staying in the marriage what about when you teach people to divorce you just bailed and sometimes they go it was so abusive right but did you try everything did you invest in it were you willing to sometimes take challenges and sometimes the kids learn we just bail on things so we have to have both ways it's did you do your best no one will ever know what really happened no one barely the therapist does