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[Music] Okay. So, we're moving into the next section, which is great because this is the last class before before the break. Yeah. Although, really, there's no break. You know, my my Rebi used to say that people, you know, they can go on vacation, but you can't vacate from Hashem. You know what I mean? A lot of people like to go on vacation, you know, take a break from Hashem, but listen, you can't you can't can't vacate from Hashem. So summing up the whole last section of what we went through when we talked about amuna which raenu essentially is uh reminding us over and over and over again that you know is in the world and and when a person has a muna which which ultimately brings about you know even the shalom actually brings it one side of the the same they're two different sides of the same coin and that once a person is entered to um on any level, but for sure when a person's amuna is shalam that it alters life. Life changes. It's not the same life that we knew before. It's a different type of life. A person lives differently. They they look at the world differently. It's a different place to the person who has amuna and it alters the way a person lives in this world. So I heard recently in this uh in the shar that that um I think Michael Safy has this uh uh daily you know I'm working on working on my uh working on my accent you know to see if I could catch it for me I I think I even messaged him and told him I like it brought me back to the first time I finished you know like all the it was like right back before my eyes I remember what you know what what what brought me close to Hashem and one of the things they were saying specifically in Amuna and over there is that's what's going to bring a person close to Hashem. That's exactly what's going to bring a person close to Hashem contrary to the ideologies that a lot of people have which is uh you know there's you know ever heard of rational Judaism yeah he gets he gets blamed for being more rational than what what he actually is. It's just he's the closest of all the you know previous Gdole members showing him to to be able to put into the box of rationality. So therefore that's what happens. I mean obviously more rational than than others but it is deeper than that. It's like you know something borders borders some of the ideologies border on the idea of what we will call dismash okay Hashem created the world but ultimately he's there. There's no real hushkaka happening in the world. You know, everything that's happening is, you know, what you see is what you get and what you do, what you whatever. It's not like God created it. But ultimately, Hashem's not really interacting in the world. There's no no real interaction, no movement from Hashem. He just sort of just set the world there and then now it's just moving on itself on it on its own, which is a complete fallacy. That's the complete opposite of what everything Raeno just told us right now. And Hashem is interwoven in in everything. You'll see when we get to Manneil says Shim is hiding himself inside the obstacle. Hashim is everywhere uh to be found if you're looking for him. Right? You understand? So Hashim is everywhere to be found if you're looking for him. And so one of the things he actually said in uh one of the most uh recent shor I live like this like my like my energy drink these uh these things me and my wife listen together which is something that's so pushed that the more and more a person depends on Hashem the more and more you rely on Hashem the closer that's going to bring you to Hashem contrary to those who say that no you know you need to put in youras the more and more you have the less and less you have because what happens is the dimunion is that I'm doing something. So the more and more that I'm actually doing something and I believe that I'm the person doing it, the less and less I believe that Hashem is doing it, furthering the distance between me and how do you know when to when you did enough? First off, there's there's no way of knowing whether or not you did. First off is understanding what theatas is, right? Is a is is is not the means by which things happen, right? Stus is just a necessary part of the relationship and depending on the person's level and his madreg of where he is with the shin his stylist effort for those of uh the people online who don't understand it the effort that you put in is always going to be based on your level of of where you are in terms of your trust in your the more and more you trust in Hashem the more and more things are are the less and less effort that you are going to have to put into a particular thing right so says once you Understand that the histalas in itself is not the means by which Hashem could could give me or he can bless me or he could bring about a certain thing without me putting in any effort without me putting in any hashem doesn't need my effort right that's just a necessary part of the relationship and to which degree a person is I think I told you guys one time this story about the bosshim you know the big ve who was uh in the neighborhood he was broke poor didn't have anything and he goes and knocks on the door and starts walking off the bosshim didn't have anything for shabas says, "F Shabas." He knocks on the door and he starts walking off and the guy starts running after him. And he says, he says, "You know, you must have needed something. Why'd you knock on the door?" Whatever. Bimto said, "For other people, you know, for them, they would have had to give you a whole vort on what they needed." They says, "Hashem just required for me to knock on the door. That was all I had to do. That was his level." So that's about level on that level. I'm sure he got to other levels where he didn't even have to knock on the door. But that's a necessary part of really it's a claw. It's a part of the curse, right? The person man has to work to teal the ground, right? That's and and then more and more that a person and what happened? Why why did that happen? Right? It was because the clock came about of our effort our effort to attain knowledge on our own. our our effort to you know sort of um necessarily what Adam what he was was sold on you know was the fact that this would make you like Hashem ohm just didn't want to tell you the you know so doing an act which is a right which at that time was of the in itself was the distance a person separating himself from Hashem leads to something that leads to more separation from Hashem which is he jobless more effort more work as a part of our it's a necessary part of our our relationship actually brings he says that the entire is is that Hashem the way that he works is that he he he gives to us in a way where where minister Hashem will give to us in a way where he hides himself because he doesn't want us always being z to be able to see how he's bringing about a certain thing so how does he hide himself yourself a lot of times in something called you it you have to act as if it's up to you but knowing that you're not doing nothing you're not doing anything right so and that's Rabenu's whole entire thing was wasenu said you know even on on itself you know a lot of people they ended up uh you know supporting Rabenu later on in his years but even before that Rabbenu was also he was poor boy he didn't have he was going without and whatever whatever the case was raenu understood for himself. He said, you know, had I been actually going to come across it at some point later on. I think it's inside of here also. Um, you know, had I been impatient and I wouldn't have waited on the shin and I wouldn't have had to be talking in the muna that I needed to have in Hashem, he said, I would have been N the collector, Nakman, the water. I've been running from door to door collecting, you know, knocking out trying to pay debts and different things like that. He says, "But because he waited for Hashem and because he was a he was he he he he put himself into his amuna and the trust in Hashem, we know him as what does it mean to that's a huge statement. What does it mean to wait on Hashem?" What it means to wait on Hashem means literally wait. It's it's not much. That's why the next part of what we're learning right now is pos simplicity. It's it's really certain things be like what's the engine of and that's so you define simplicity define simplicity [Applause] that's exactly it right it literally means wait and but but that's to wait and pray wait pray sometimes sometimes it means to pray sometimes we're supposed to dive in and wait and sometimes waiting is um is an actual item meaning that I'm going to go forward with something right you know this how many people were started building yeshivas and what they didn't know where the money was coming from right but they were in they were actively doing it building the yeshiva doing something and and waiting for Hashem to bring it doesn't mean all the time wait means don't do nothing right sometimes wait means go cry out to hashem and pray and dab to hashem but sometimes prayer is not even necessary we see this inside of we see this when it came to yamsu Moshuenu starts crying out to Hashem. He starts telling Hashem says don't cry out to me. He says go know that it's going to be okay. So that he had at that time had to be active need to go into the water. You need to go there and wait for Hashem to do the miracle for you. So not all the time is uh is is the idea of of of waiting mean that you don't do nothing. Sometimes it means you actively go and do something about it and sometimes it means to to cry out to Hashem. Sometimes you need to practition. So which tila will always help. But that's the idea is that what Menu was trying to get us to do and this is wrapping up the last section into and going into this section is to live a life of postur of simplicity of we need to simplify the relationship between us and Hashem and simplify what the ask is because if we're not if we don't simplify what the ask is from Hashem then everything always looks like a bombardment. It looks like it's it's a heavy heavy thing. It's like such a huge thing and and and and the relationship is not supposed to function like that. It's supposed to be one of simplicity, right? If we the you know this idea of knowing that how do I come to give us Hashem is by relying on Hashem, right? Which is natural. Think about it. Because my kids and I, the the the ones who come to me the most, that are going to ask me the most, who are going to uh depend on it, that's the kid that I'm going to be the closest to as opposed to the kid who thinks they could do everything by themselves doesn't usually warrant the best relationship between and and you'll understand once you become a parent that the shame at the right time with the with the right ones and and for sure the right kids, the right dates, right dates, right? The right dates. 11 right dates. 11 right dates. Okay. Kids, you you'll understand you understand it more of how much you want your kid to ask a question. You want you know there would be those times you want them to have their their independence and and teach them independence. But not without that underlining of you can always come to me, you can always come and ask me, you can always in fact I prefer it, right? I prefer that you that you allow me. Okay. So the next part we're going into is simplicity. Just no sophistication says is needed in serving Hashem. No sophistication only simplicity, sincerity and amuna and faith. Simplicity is higher than all else. It's higher than everything else. Now we have an issue because says this about a few different things. Where do we categorize this? He'll tell you that he is the highest of all all the highest. They tell you simplicity is a muna everything's dependent on the muna which which which thing which thing so one of the ways to understand this at least that I saw is that all these things that he's saying are at the at the top like that all interconnected they're all really one they're all one engine and one thing and that and that just like when a person wants to work out even a um midra All right. So brings in uh I think it's nonb how to eradicate a meter and by ways of of crying out to after he takes one and he eradicates it and after that he can move on to the next and the person takes the whatever it is the person struggling with at the time which usually leads down to the breakdown of all the other things falling off of him also all the other kipas from everything else that has a hold of them once He's able to take out the the thing at the shorish then usually the person's able to break other things also too. So the same thing happens of that's getting rid of things of acquiring things also too acquiring the acquiring that all of that you're going to need to do and the is one and the same thing right then right so it's a same exact thing when it comes to simplicity a person can't get to unless they have a because the less the less the more a person approaches the world with is more his rational rational mind right the simplicity is for sure conflict you you know in most cases with the person zamuna he can't you know because if I can't grasp it that's the whole entire idea like hashem exists outside of time space and matter hashim is in another a whole another place and what what bothers the rationalist right and understand there plenty people are rationalists that are m what I'm saying is but what people usually have their hold up in when they approach the world from a rational uh approach and they approach the relationship with hashem rational approach is that that the frustration is I can't contain everything in my in my own mind in my own wisdom and my own hook my meaning so since I can't control the situation you understand what I'm saying and I have to relinquish control right that's that that takes simplicity that takes a person being simple and it's very very hard to have both of those things at the same time so he says for it says for hashem is is is certainly higher than everything else and God is ultimately simple. So I was one time at Shalashudis and there's a there's a friend uh who who said that you know I I don't we weren't talking about rebano and it was a another conversation that was going on at the time and my brother-in-law was sitting next to me and uh one guy across the table says that you know there's got to be a more practical uh approach to this you know like you know So, so my my my brother-in-law looks at him and says he says it's practical if you practice it. You know, if you practice what you're learning, then that's called practical. You know, you know, there's nothing to like to think about this. It's like, God, but you make it sound so simple. It's like it really is that simple. So, he says, "No, Hashem is complex. His you know, and there is a complexity, a complex understanding of Hashem, right?" But ultimately Ra says he says everything by Hashem is simplicity. It's poss. And if a person can't live their relationship and live their life with with this simplicity, this is this is a for surefire way to get yourself into a lot of uh a lot of situations where the person ends up feeling very very um cold. what I was saying the relationship with Hashem feeling this distance between them and Hashem because they they they overco complicate things in their life everybody's familiar with the simpleton and the sophisticate you know he basically talked himself out of believing in Hashem you know what I'm saying like the person people do that all the time they talk themselves out of believing in shim like you know the power of niggan power of niggan I think that the bullet says is is that when there's no words it's the highest form of expression Right? The highest form of expression. Think about it. If you bang your your knee on the table, you say, "Ouch." Right? You don't say words. Some people say very nasty words. Right? I was going to say speak for yourself when you say ouch. Ow. Scream. Ah. Ah. The first thing that comes out of his eyes. It's not usually a fbomb or whatever. You know, whatever your your local curse word is, whatever. Whatever is closest to the person. It's usually an expression of ah when a person tastes something m you know and then I think and then only after that he says oh that's good you know but usually whenever a person has something either pleasurable something the opposite or whatever the case is usually just niggan comes out only niggan sound but no actual words as opposed to when a person speaks and says something the less articulate the more articulate the less less you're articulating what is actually you're experiencing. It's a less I know you love that. So, so the more the more person becomes more articulation a person goes into to explain something with by wording you're actually explaining it less because at the highest highest level of of of uh of of pleasure of sensory of yehood of connection there's no words. Wow. cuz you can't explain it right in the same way how can you really explain the belief in the shim you can't explain it was saying that the things so high that I can't I can't really explain it so therefore like I don't know if it's actually in the section I didn't read that far ahead but but that the Rabenu brings is amuna amuna it's something where you can't define it you understand what I mean it's a higher level to have amuna which is amuna is a trait that Every person has, by the way, the whole world's ran off on Muna. Just people believe in all type of weird things. But so he says the greatest wisdom is not to be wise. What Ber says when you have the righteous people suffering. Mhm. And not good people having a good time. Mhm. So if you got be simple, it's going to be wrong. You got to be a little bit sophisticated. You think so? To explain it really next world because of that, not because of this. It's just the way you see it. I think I think that I think the opposite remain is going to bring us to to this understanding in opposite direction. Good question. People suffering. How do I explain it? If you go the simple way then whatever. So we'll see what says here. He says even after all the wisdom and all the sophistication, even if you possess true wisdom, you must cast it all the all the wisdom aside. Like Rabbenu said on himself, he says, "With all of my my knowledge and all of my my uh um understanding of the of the Torah and and everything knew, he says none of it ever brought me close to he said it was only the crying, the tilas, saying to him, he said all the simple guy stuff that's this is what he brought that by his he never he didn't get to hashem that way." Wow. his kesh with Hashem he got from crying like a baby doing his boldness and and and and and reading to him and and he said these this is the way that he got to Hashem he was able to set aside his wisdom and he said the highest level is when a person knows I don't know anything at all I don't know nothing I'm I'm a simple thing so the greatest wisdom of all is not to be wise at all this is the biggest hulk a person can have is not to be the wise guy you know so the truth Truth is that no one in the world is wise for there was no wisdom, no understanding before Hashem. Anyway, this is he bring it from Mishna. So there's no wisdom like what is realma like there's Hashem in the world? He's smarter than Hashem. He's like what's realma? So comparing it, you know nothing, right? And even even before we even get to Hashem because it's it's a it's a bigger gap. There's always somebody smarter than you. There's already there's always somebody that's smarter. Unless you're probably, you know, one of these guys they call the the smartest guys in the world or whatever the case are. But listen, stop. I didn't mean to I didn't mean to call you out. I didn't mean to call you out. I didn't mean to call you out. Now, I I seen one time this uh this guy is just like overly brilliant, you know, and uh I think he has the highest IQ in the world. And uh and he was talking. You could say my name. Don't worry. Not that was that was something else. Okay. But uh but the the the interesting part about it was like I didn't understand nothing the guy was talking about. Wow. Maybe because my high IQ is not so great. You know what I'm saying? Like but this is the whole reason why baby says you got to be able to bring this down. Who is the sadic a person should go to? a sadic that can bring it down to the lowest place. Other than that, what is all thema? If it only stays up there and only a few choice people can have and and taste from it, it does nothing for the for the rest of the world. It does nothing. You have to be able to bring it down. So, as as great and as and so for me, so what does that do for most of the people in the world who are simple? When this guy's talking like that, sounds like an idiot. He's, you know, something is happening. You know what I mean? He sounds like an idiot. You have no cuz I don't understand anything you're saying down here. We talk like this. Normal people talk like this, that, and this, you know, and you see this, this is one of the conversations we're having about yeshiva or whatever in the car. times that a person and this is why Rebainu was so big on on a person learning because he wanted to train the mind with a ruling where there is a definite ruling a p because you want that your head is is is trained or is trying to get us to be trained to make definitive decisions in life and not to be a person who's mbabel all the time is confused he doesn't know what's going on left or right that's how Robnson came to Rabenu he came to Rabenu with it. He said his head was just exploding all the time. His head was moving non-stop all the time. Rebnas was a he was a big person. Even before he got to Rebu was a big big mas everything but all everything of what he knew was just all the time. His head was running all the time. And so sometimes I always I make a joke. I said but you know if you do this too much you'll start doing it at the wrong time. You know, it's like when a person said on himself when he was on the boat, I think we talked about before that he was joking so much it was hard to pull himself out of it. So what happens is a lot of times is when a person is busy all day uh uh learning and going through you know pillpull and and shakar which I'm not uh against it completely. I'm just saying that when a person doesn't have a say and he hasn't trained his mind to make a definitive ruling, there'll be time where straight Auno question that he has that he's faced with in life and he can't make the decision. It's too much chocolate. He's going back and forth all the time. He his head's over here, his head's over there, heads over there. And and what happens is through that sophistication, what happened to all the should be making the right decision, not the fact that you know how to argue yourself in and out of things all the time. You understand what I'm saying? Maybe I should do this. Maybe I should do that. Maybe I should do this. Maybe I should do that. Maybe I should do that. Simplify it by learning every single day and training the mind. What is on on on learning learning with so I I kind of feel bad a little bit I guess for a lot of the Ashkanaz guys are busy with the Mishna all the time. You know it's almost sometimes I say that the you know had it been popular in his days he would have put you know go go ask your local Orthodox rabbi you know after this you know not all the time you get a pak in the Mishna bro so even if you learn Mishnab learn it with the pak learn something till you find a pak something that's going to be be whatever as opposed I just have to throw it out there for the for the safari out there you know I tell you you know every single thing I tell you when I use the or not to use the bathroom, you know, to the tea, right? Not a lot of times you have a lot of shas after you're reading like a lot of safari post, you know what I'm saying? But by the is all lumbus. Everything's lus. So it get turned back into lumbus very very fast. So I feel bad for you guys, you know. It's a good thing. You could you could always switch over. That's why they say they have the highest IQ. Be careful. Be careful. said that uh I was learning with Ravnasa one time he said that Nasa M we're learning from the Kyor but one of the things he brought was that Rabenu said that the most dangerous thing in the world is a is a he's but he's a person that's flying through the moon like he's he's known as a he knows a lot of Torah and when it comes to ding he's uh no no no let's get it over with already he's not uh You know his whole entire approach today he says it's a very very dangerous individual and you should stay away from it because what happens over there is when a person's you know always the right conversation and the right uh right or wrong however you interpret it uh interaction with with knowledge and understanding and kma which they that person craves whatever the case is from turning the person into a complete kof right it's always like that one thing because when there's no lathe wrapped in there and there's no real relationship with Hashem and it's just a person that has you know understanding of Hashem and or understanding of Torah not necessarily of Hashem because you need both things to to be able to have a real relationship with Hashem but when a person doesn't have that it's a it's always a very thin line between the person encountering other wisdom because once you that it's almost like an avodar thema itself becomes the god to the person you understand what I'm saying Acquiring the more makes a person understand that it makes a person feel at least that they have more of the more more Hashem. They they feel like they are I know this is going to sound very very extreme like they're closer to Hashem you know like in a sense not in a closer in terms of relationship and proximity but closer to like being one up on Hashem. You know what I'm saying? Like because it's the choir of knowledge that they crave so much that sometimes even if it comes from a place that's completely outside of Torah, outside of whatever like you know a lot of us have this issue you could be a full-blown kofheer and learn Torah every day right have things that I'm completely against Hashim completely against whatever and have all the ideas of everything and that you I'm not nothing I'm not talking beating himself up over he's taking all the all the dubs and all the L's at the same time. a loving relationship. That's it. So, we're not we're not going there. Okay. So, the king's beloved child, it says it says, "Throw aside all wisdom, clever ideas, and serve Hashem with simplicity. Just be a push at you, which is a madre in itself, by the way, right? It's a high level. I don't know if you guys been to um to to wrestle if you guys went when you guys were in Oman. No. Yeah, I went to wrestle the each the you know see the mat and all the all the town you know. Did you read? Yeah. Did you read that? Did you go to Brussel? We went to Oman. We went to the Bosch to Went to Bashim. We went to another rabbi. I feel like maybe um we went berichevich winter of nut breast's only an hour away from Oh, I don't think we went. We went winter of nut in Washington. I've probably been in my life. Nutton is in is in breast. Oh, it is in breast. Winter of Nelson. Yeah, that's what I'm talking about. Yeah. Okay. So, so you went to breast love. That was breast. Yeah. So it's just I noticed this each time each time each time each time on the but there's you know there's we're talking about probably big madregas but each time is also something to aspire for because and the reason why it's a madrega is because everybody wants to be able to to diagnose and to be able to uh capture everything with their hulkman to be able to understand it. It's much harder to know when to break away from that. Right? It's just like when a person encounters a a financial issue, right? The easy thing is to is to try to find some way to hustle up money, try to find some way to do some type of to get the money that you whatever. The harder thing to do is say, "Okay, take care of it. I'm going to dab in right now. I'm going to, you know, maybe maybe this it's a lesson." I think I saw one time most people the first thing that you should do really is look to see if you're doing something Hashem doesn't like, right? Maybe there's something in my life and maybe I'm a I'm a vulgar or maybe there's something going on that's actually stopping. Nine times out of 10, Hashem is not holding a person's finances back because he wants you to get more jobs. Like, you know, think about it. Hashem wants you distracted. If the whole entire purpose of a person is to be connected to Hashem, right? Why would Hashem put you in a situation to where you have less time for him? Right? It's crazy story. One time I heard um I think what Brody gave it over one time that uh story of the Kazan I think I talked about. Did we go over this story one time? The business guy he came to him very successful business guy came to him and he and he and he said over to he said you know I think I want to start a I want to go into this other business and uh it didn't work out. you know, the the business didn't really uh you know, work out in the end, but oh, the story was the Khaz said said over Tim, don't do it. Don't do the business. So, whatever it was that he was getting into in involved merchandise that was coming over over the sea, he didn't do it. Happens that this as the ship came in, whole thing, something happened, had an accident, everything went down on it. So when he goes back to she says to me she says wow you you knew like she says it wasn't she said you're already successful why would you start another business when you when you like that more things to take you you can learn Tawa you can spend more time in the vot already so it's not something that you need it's something you want to do just an extra thing so a lot of times when a person is faced with challenges or whatever it is even not monetary whatever the case is the first thing Hashem always wants us to do is turn to him let's turn to him in simplicity. Don't make a complicated situation out of it like I got to do this, I got to do this, I got to do this. And that's the idea of so the idea when it when it comes to don't try to all all the time rationalize and come up with some type of simplicity. What does Hashem want from me now? What am I to do now? So he says make sure that your deeds are greater than your than your make sure the action is better. Right? for me again your wisdom wisdom because the main thing is not study but it's practical application right as I always say as one very very wise man once said it's all about that action boss you know if you didn't pick it up you don't know what I'm talking about can you quote it no you don't get credit I I'll give him I get credit I get No, there's a there's a there's a football player uh Marshon Lynch hated talking to the media. He would get fined over and over again for the NFL. It's part of your contract. You're supposed to talk to the talk to the media and uh he'll sit there, you know, sunglasses on, you know, straight, you know, guys straight from the streets, you know. So, but he, you know, very successful running back and so he didn't like talking to the to the media, whatever it was. He could be shy, whatever. So they'll be asking him questions and he'll be chewing gum, you know, like sitting there and then he won't do anything. So from the NFL, you get fined. You're supposed to talk to the media. I don't know what the what the quot is probably like 50 grand each time. Right. Right. Right. Some crazy amount of money. Yeah. And it's worse when your team successfully went to the Super Bowl and all everything. You have whole media day, whatever. Guys getting taxed, right? And at one point, oh my goodness, one of the things where he was actually talking, they asked him said, "Why don't you like to why don't you like to talk, you know, to the media, you know, what's the whole thing?" He says, "I'm all about that action, boss." As a wise man once said, you know, and this became like this is I had many years ago, but this was like the meme everywhere. It was everywhere. There were t-shirts. It was everything. The guy said one thing. He said it's everywhere. He said something said everywhere. So it's a very famous quote. Essentially Rabenu is saying the same thing. Yeah. Be talking all the time. It wouldn't be so important. Exact. Exactly. Exactly. He was talking all the time, it probably wouldn't have been nothing. But Rabenu here is bringing the exact same thing. It's all about the action what the person's doing. Not much you know. So the obvious this obviously applies to most ordinary people's clever ideas. That's correct. Which are mere foley. But even but it even applies to genuine wisdom when it comes to serving Hashem. Even a person whose head is filled with genuine wisdom which is whatever the case is should set it aside and serve Hashem simply and innocently. You have to know how to serve a shim with a very simple uh you know don't don't don't complicate things you know you know tell tell your wife you love her like you know you know you know after all the time you know uh going around about way especially as men we have this big issue I'm telling you I I seen it I I see it more than other people than me I'm a you know I'm a teddy bear type of guy you know I grew up whatever so complicated thing you I I remember my I don't want to embarrass him, but I have to embarrass him. He wouldn't mind. So, I remember my my dad when he proposed to to to my uh to my mother. He didn't propose like, you know, came home, he had the ring, whatever. He just threw it on the bed, you know, just threw it across the room on the bed and you like, you know, like and walked out the room like, you know, type thing like just threw the ring on the bed, you know. This is just, you know, complicated. It's, you know, what are you saying? You know, I'm saying I'm saying, yeah, we've been together for a long time. We, you know, I'm adding now, but you know, this, hey, you know, I really like you. You really like me. We like the like, you know, I love you. I love you. I love you. Will you marry me? You know, like, spit it out. You know what I'm saying? Don't be Don't sit and keep it all up in here. Bring it down. bring it down into to action. I guess that was action throwing the ring of the truth is this. So I heard someone ask his wife, "Would you want to be buried next to me?" Would you? Wow, dog. No, he didn't. How romantic. Which date did he say that? The the ninth. So that's why he's saying this down to earth. That's good. That's good stuff. That's good stuff. You know, there's many ways to do this. Many ways to pull it off. That was in the That was in the 11th day. That's why there are no no more dates afterwards. No more dates. Got it. It's going to fly over everybody's head, by the way. Exactly. Everybody's listening. You know, you know, okay. Sometimes it may even be necessary to behave in a way that seems foolish. Listen. In order to serve Hashem and to carry out his will, we may have to roll around in mud and m for the sake of serving Hashem and keeping his commandments. This applies not only to explicit mitzvot. Anything that Hashem wants us to do is also called the mitzvah. Not just the mitzvah that we that we see. So sometimes one has to throw oneself into the very mud and mire to perform a certain deed that would be pleasing to Hashem literally right we brought back up the story of Rabbenu going on his way to SW became like a nut job right but he understood that that was you know if we could say he understood that that was the way that he needed to serve in order for him to to to make it to where he needed to go to make it to to and and other and other things you know even the says in in Shihon he says that you know people don't like to take jobs you know that uh that that are that don't give them you know covered you know what I mean for the sake of you know how it looks on everybody else but even if that one job is going to give you the opportunity to serve a shim even more you would you would rather take something that's going to give you more cover and steal all of your time and your your attention away from a shim right cuz people don't wants I want a simple type of job or whatever like as opposed to avot right so the Abraham uh talks about that he says that all of the avot became shepherds just because they wanted to spend time with Hashem they could have went into other professions right but they all became shepherds for the sole sake of being able to spend time in his bodus and talk to Hashem is literally the word people to do they wanted to be misoded them so they became shepherds but they could have got I don't know how many jobs you could have had back then but whatever the case is said they could have did something else, right? They could have started an Amazon business, whatever the case was, they could have did something else. But if you look at it, what's interesting about it through that simple job and because of the reason why they took the job, Hashimma blessed them and they were successful was was was he he had a lot of money. He's very successful. They were very successful, but they were shepherds, right? And they took like a a a low job, you know, like a very small job that, you know, Mitsim didn't even want to sit next to these guys like shepherds, you bring shepherds here. They can't sit next to these guys, you know, what you bring them over here, but they're very wealthy, right? It's it's an interesting thing how Shim works and how he's moving all the time. Yeah. Simplicity. Mish. Wow. He said, "One whose love of God is sufficiently strong is sufficiently strong because uh sorry, let me read this right. One whose love of God is sufficiently strong becomes his dearly beloved child." So a person that is is strong in their their fore becomes beloved in the eyes of Hashem and Hashem will show him abundant love and kindness permitting him to explore the king's hidden store chambers and even to understand what is beyond itself. Right? We're talking about the highest level of expression. There's no articulation. There's a place over there where there's no words. So Benu says one of the ways we get there to the to the ultimate level ultimate light of Hashem right is by speaking to Hashem he to do he says you need a lot of it in order to enter into the organ news right what is the organ news there's many different things right but this this light that's tucked away for for for the sadik and for the choice few that able to go in there we get to experience it during kaneka comes back we see a little bit of this light but ultimately what is light it illuminates something for you things that you didn't see before right. So person that has more he throws himself into this love and this devas to Hashem and he and he and he has a sufficient amount of it and is strong by by the person he becomes beloved in Hashem and Hashem starts to give him permissions into things that right technically he may not be able to he's not technically right and this is brought down from Share Shuva that that talks about that a person that makes chuva can reach levels that he didn't even he didn't he passed Sadik Sadikim that that were working and toiling and tust hustling for to to get to the place that they wanted to be. But the guy comes on, he's a ball chuva and the shim goes he shoots him up to some high place that he that he like dude you didn't put in the work to be here but just on the simple fact that the person did chuva from such a deep place and chaava or a person's all of the person's aus become flipped over right into into merits into into the person and so after the person has it he enters into a whole another place so he's saying that a person that loves Hashem on this level which is so important which is why you need simplicity. You it's very very hard to love Hashem when you when you got all the answers. It's very very hard when you got all the answers. You won't depend on Hashem for the answers. You won't you won't trust Hashem for the you know I'm not doing this. Why do I have to do that? You know why do I have to do this? He's always looking for the reason why why do I have to do I I need to do this. I need to understand it first. I need to you know that wasn't our we first did and then afterwards we understood enough. So to finish it off over here it says it'll give that person the ability to even understand what is beyond including the deepest of all secrets such as why the righteous suffer and the wicked prosper. Yeah. You looked ahead or did you know? I asked you if you looked ahead because you see the doesn't take it. It was through the simplicity of how do we know if you look at Abrau the whole dialogue over there is something crazy the monologue even that Hashim is having that we're to be able to see that Hashim is having like should I tell Abraina what I'm about to do in Sum like should I tell him it's going back and forth should I should I tell him and ultimately Hims says himself I'm paraphrasing obviously It's I gotta tell him, you know, it's like I gota I gotta let know why because every day I'm here. Every day I'm here by every day I'm here already. See, can't it's I'm already here. I have a residency here by you, Hashem. So, he has to tell everybody in the house what's going what's going to happen. And Abrau is in the inner chambers of Hashem because he's he's the most beloved of Abraham Oh. So he Hashem can't not let him know, right? It's that love that Abraham has for Hashem. He can't not let him know. He has to tell him. So he has to he he has to know. Which is why I believe when a lot of different things and gaz and different things like that are happening, a lot of the sadikim know and they can't say anything. the true sadikim they they they know a lot of I've seen I've been by certain sadikim and I've seen certain you know like notes go back and forth by them about a certain gazer is this gonna have like really they know they mamish know the problem is and it's brought in the in the osira that the sadikim have to be very very choice with their words is because once the the kipers see that the emis is coming out because they are the embodiment of truth once the emis comes out then all the kipers they they get they get they get louder and they try to snuff out that light and they try to snuff out the ems as it comes. So Sadikim always can't say everything. Some of them reveal here and there a little bit. But a a person that enters into this this ahava with Hashem and this and this love of Hashem ultimately will always uh will always find themselves uh entering into these uh secrets of Hashem and knowing more and more not only about things that are going to happen with clies but but prat person's going to know. So we had this conversation. We're talking about you know future. How do we look at the f things we want to do in our life and the and the answer is always talk to Hashem about it. It's not about what I want. It's about what Hashem wants. Hashem wants something from me. Hashem has a path and a plan and he has where he wants me to be. The only thing is it's a secret, right? How do I get to how do I get to the secret? How do I get to know what it is that Hashem actually has for me? So let's move on. So he says the essence of when a person follows his own mind and his clever ideas, he can fall into many pitfalls and errors and come to great evil. The tremendous damage has been caused by such people like the infamous great villains who through their own intelligence and cunning have led the entire world astray. You see this, you know, I think it was uh right Nevat, right? Who led the whole entire nation away from Hashem. He was the he was he was one of the kings of the north after Hashem has split the split the kingdom of the south and the north from from Judah and and the in the Shamron. is one of those kings and and out of fear that people would go down and he would lose his uh his subjects. He he decided to build his own house of a vodazar and have people come and worship there instead of going to. So I think it's brought that like 7,000 people went to sukus you know and he had like millions of people up uh up in the north whatever the case was by him who led the whole entire nation astray. Manasha you said many kings like that people that went up Manasha also comes it's a different story we a lot of characters over the years but you you see that through a person's own their own understanding ah I got a solution be careful what guys that got a solution right the through it the tyrann tyrannery or whatever the case is and and and the villains of the world who have led the whole entire world astray have has been because of their own wisdom. And the essence of Yiddish of Judaism is to conduct oneself in pure innocence and simplicity with no sophistication whatsoever. No sophistication. Make sure that whatever you do, Hashem is there. They talked about it. If it's going to bring me close to Hashem, I'll do it. If not, I'm not going to do it. Right? when I don't know be duke what it is that wants from me and I have a two situations I have a choice of something what's going to bring me closer to what's going to bring more covet to hashem I'll do it what's going to move me further away from hashem what's going to to to take away or to obstruct the the glory of hashem and the covet of hashem I'm not going to do very simple make sure that whatever you do hashem is there don't heed your don't heed your own covet if it enhances the glory of hashem do And if not, then don't. This way you can be certain that you will never stumble. You're not going to fall. Any person that's looking that Hashem, I'm doing this for you a thousand% a person is going to succeed. Even if it doesn't look like the success that the person was actually initially on the, you know, whatever he had in his trajectory of what that success was supposed to be, if a person does it for Hashem, he's going to be successful. a person is doing anything with the idea that Hashem I'm doing this and and and I'm doing this either for you for the sake of you and I'm or I'm choosing this because this seems like something that I will maintain our relationship and the person will not stumble says be careful to act though with true innocence and simplicity but not foolishly. So sophistication however is quite unnecessary. Simplicity, innocence and faith in amuna can bring you to the highest level of simple. It's how we go up. We had this conversation before about how to get to simplif. It's very but this is so simple to understand the need for simplicity. I'm not going to define that. But I'm going to tell you I'm gonna tell you that think about all shalom is made when things are simplified in a person's mind. If you have a complicated situation that you're approached with in life, right? Once you have an answer like that was the simplicity in the situation like okay now brought it I've been able to narrow it down and once I got to this place where everything's narrowed down I can see before me wow that was so simple was so and everything that was complicated in a person's head before then it's just like I can't believe I made it so crazy like why how did I like why did I turn this into something it's so simple like it was but and it was always it was always that simple right it's just where a person is whether or not he's seen it. If he's operating in the level of simplicity, then he'll see things more simple. If not, then he won't. I had an interesting call. I have like a online uh community that uh that we talk of mazak and and whatever the case is. So, one of the things I brought recently was I was near Raaros one time and somebody asked him a question and he said that you know how do I know whether it's the Yates who's pushing me to do something or how do I know when it's coming from Hashem? What's the what's the litmus test of of how do I know it's coming from the other side or it's coming because the Yates is also also can push you to do so much you know that you fall flat on your face because he's pushing you so hard right so how do I know if it's coming from Hashem he says something very he says if it's loud pushing and pressing it's from the from the other side how do I know he says because eli when hashem tested na'vi in the saf he calls earthquake. He caused high winds. Everything he was over on the mountain right after he he he was having this uh this this this dialogue with Hashem. And Hashem says, "Where's Hashem? He's not in the thunder. He's not in the in the earthquake. Hashm's not in the in the wind. He's the small still quiet voice that's speaking to him. That's that's that's how so Ra said that's how Hashem comes to the person. small quiet. It's a shim. Think about it. Mosher Rabenu, we call him ishav. He was the most humble person that ever lived in the whole entire world. Right? You agree? Okay. He says it himself. No, only person humble person could write. So we all understand that Mosha Rabenu is was the most humble person to ever live in the whole entire world. Okay. Mosher Rabenu spent a lot of time with Hashem. 60 years in the desert. that was with Hashem. Where did he learn as anos? From Hashem. He learned it out from Hashem. Hashem controls and runs the whole entire world. Right? Hashem doesn't have anything to prove. So it's very clear if a person's pressed nonstop. You got Hashem doesn't need to convince you like that. Hashem runs the whole entire world. He knows how to speak to person whatever. So Hashem is speaking to the person in the small still quiet voice. He doesn't have to. The people that are usually over trying to sell you on something a lot of times it's usually garbage on the other side of whatever they're trying to sell you, right? They're so loud. Now, you got to do this or whatever. You know, I I tell I tell people all the time and they go, you know, a lot of my friends recently have been making aliyah. They're looking for apartments all the time. And I tell them all the time, I said, "Listen, just know this. Whatever apartment you go and see, the leasing agent is going to tell you, oh, I just showed somebody else and they may be taking it or whatever." It's like standard, you know, pressure, you know, make decision pressure just you have to and they teach this. I worked in property management. I work in leasing also too. They have to teach you these type of things, you know, that's part of the the shtick, you know what I mean? So, there will always be some pressure created for you to hurry up and make a decision, right? And and the real smart ones, yeah, I showed it to four families already and they're really interested in it. You know what? So the moment even after you tell them you want it then they say I got to see you know nobody else is seeing the apartment only I got to see you know whatever the case is you know after they cuz if it was so serious and you had it unlocked you had four people think about this if you already have four people everybody's all interested in it and all this why were you just selling me so hard on the apartment when I went to go see it you're telling me all the features everything else and you're this and this is yeah it's a great place there's a park there communities it's next to this many shoes or whatever I you go oh Yeah, I really think I want this. I said, "Okay, I got to let you know I have like four people who really, really want this place right now. So, you know, I got to think about it, you know." Okay. So, now I'm going to drive you up on the price, you know, because the price is going to be high because listen, you got to give me something. I I got to I got to be able to show the landlord something to say why they should choose you over you and and and you you have so many kids. I mean, you know, there's more wear and tear on the apartment. So now you know it's it's it's a half. So the idea is as I start set down whenever you're being oversold on something for sure you know it's coming from the other side from the cleasers. So I tell people all the time if you go look at a place if you go look at a car whatever the case and they're selling always say I need a couple days I need to I need to think about it because if something ultimately it's from Hashem it's going to come from you from it's going to come for you right? So it's gonna come. Don't listen to all the pressures and all this other stuff and whatever. Hashem is a small steel voice that's speaking to a person. The idea was I said is the most humble person, right? He learned it out from Hashem. Hashem doesn't need to scream at us. Hashem small still voice. Even a person when they when they when they're doing Chuvo, they even afterwards they realize how small how quiet Hashim was. And he was the whole time talking to them and and you know Shim speaks in a in a different language than the eight. So you should be able to easily recognize it. But the the nuda was that when Ra heard this, it was so simple, so easy, so like I was sitting there. I was like that was easy. That was an easy answer, you know, like I you know I I would have I would have had to put more lumbus into that than thinking about it. Well, simple. That's it. And what does lumbus mean? more uh learning and more uh I was about to say another Hebrew word more investigating and and and digging in analysis. There we go. Analysis. That was the Hebrew word I was looking for. Okay. So be careful to act with true innocent simplicity not foolishly. He said sophistication however is quite unnecessary. Simplicity, innocence and amuna can bring you to the highest level of simple. So he says don't be also to here. Oh nothing else. This is for you. This next one is for you. Hey says don't be too stringent. Not too many. You make me cry from happiness. Not too many guys. What's the source? The source. Yeah. It's going to bring home. He's bring he's bringing here from you know me too well. 235. 235. See I got to study that one. It says don't follow excessive what what rabbi they say this you have who to rely on with the school they have what to rely on. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it. So he says uh he says don't follow the excessive stringencies the the in your practice of the Torah. Don't live your life like that with Hashem. There are people like that and more power to them. I I talked to one guy who, you know, he's not whatever. He's he's got his own thing going on, his own form of these days, you know, massive, but he's his mom is doing his own thing. But he said to me at one point at some point in his his cha like he he says he was literally going sifting through the looking for which he can take on, right? Like that's that became his relationship with Dashim, you know, right? And it's a hard thing because the more person has understand he has an understanding then you know a lot of times it it could lead to that. Sometimes it works in the opposite way also too. Huh. Build up on the on the itself right on the itself. I speak with my cousin and and her the seminary she's in their approach is like is is like like let's keep Judaism and so in case we don't basically like this is the wall of be 10 ft away from it you know type of Judaism and she was explaining this to to me my brother and I was just jaw-dropped like the the totally different in Judaism I was like I could never imagine living my life that way you know we're just like all these and and it's sometimes even taught like as if that's you know, right? Um, it's just blown away. But there's a concept. Yep. I was going to I was going to show the devotion how much willing to do. The Ram teaches in in that you first start with not doing negative experience then doing positive there's something then is the fifth level and at least from my understanding is people in our generation is not need there's we could do years and we could reach do our whole life and never reach the level if anyone if we were to ever reach that level but it's not like a basic this level it's not like a basic beginner level of Judaism you know, maybe decades into it, I would think. Yeah. But but you'll see. I don't know if Verbane is going to bring here. Okay. Well, there's no different Judism for you. No, I'm saying for me and my own, but like maybe I'll see where I'm holding in 5 years, but Right. Right. Right. I think it would take decades. So, so there's an idea that uh that a person should take one mitzvah and be stringent about it, right? One mitzvah. Yeah. One mitzvah. However, how however, however, the way that the way that plays out is that the idea of what Rebain was really bringing here is that the when a person becomes so stringent in things that you know a person won't keep, you know what I'm saying? Like, right. Because no, it'll make them say the hell with Judaism and dip because No, not even that. That's one thing. That's one thing for sure. And that's valid. But sometimes you'll have people that keep so many, right, that they they don't even keep the itself. You understand what I'm saying? Like they're so focused on the that you keep the like what? simp simple things like um think of a very very good example of this uh you know for instance a a guy who uh let's see situation you know a person's late for uh late late for doin for instance we have this problem right so he's he's he's running late and he has a little bit of time before he can make dominion or or not or whatever the case is and this guy's a certain things that he says before dabbing and he also likes to in the mikvah when he toss on the mikvah he does it in a certain way he does it he's like to say and he's got that he has in his head when he goes and he starts with the time listen you should make it to shak so you should so instead he goes to the mikvah because it's hum or whatever so he comes in after priest the Torah you know cuz he needed to keep his hummus you understand what I'm like and this these are the type of thing that ultimately dot dot dot leads a person to feeling like Hashem is doing too much is a beautiful time to actually tell this this joke I I heard from from a good friend of mine and it was it was an pesak time he told it's very connected because we're coming up on pes so he says that there was a there was a story now you're not going to want to miss this one okay so he said he said um that it was around you know pesak time people starting to clean and do all the different things they were getting ready for for PES, right? So, it says that there was a at one point the community start to feel like it was heavily like burdened on them like really and they didn't know what to do. So, they finally approached the Reb of the town and he says, "Listen, can we undo our we made to Hashem on Hina? Can we undo our our, you know, our commitment to Hashem that we made, you know, on like why?" says, "All these things Hashem gave us to do, it's too much. The Torah is too much. It's too heavy. It's too burdensome. We we can't do it." So, they're putting a lot of pressure. So, the Reb goes into his room. And he comes back out and he says, "Okay, on such and such date, we're all going to get together just like they did at Mahari and we're we're going to get to we're all going to prepare ourselves and everything and Hashem's going to come down and he's going to come take the Torah back." H. So, so everybody goes and they, you know, get in the finest. They're excited. Everybody's excited. Can't wait, you know, just like, "Wow, it's great." So, everybody's goes and they get themselves ready and to prepare themselves for this time. So the Rebel comes out and they're all there standing and all of a sudden there's clouds just start to come lightning everything's starting to happen right before everybody everybody's like you know Elita can't wait or whatever finally it starts to make its way down this this this cloud of of of coveted and glor and then all of a sudden it just goes back up and so everybody's like what happened he didn't come take anything like what happened what happened to Hashem so now they're oppressing the reb so the reb goes into his And then he comes back out and he says, "I'm sorry, guys. Listen, Hashem was coming and he was going to he was going to come take back the Torah. Okay? Only problem is when he came, he says, "This ain't what I gave you." You guys, he made this stuff up. So, I should have went back. What the hell is all I gave? It wasn't the same thing. My new favorite joke. That's it. He's going to eat. I probably shouldn't have gave it to No. thief who ever adds and takes away. That's it. All right. So, so there's the idea of especially pesak time over this, you know, and rabbis can't scream enough about this type of stuff like listen lady calm down. The for you to be up to be able to make if you clean so much to where you can't stay up at the at the say like you understand what I mean. like guys, you know, do the mitzvah and and live with the shim and and ultimately when a person realizes like it's it's less pressure. It's less pressure. Like live with Hashem, clean your house, you know, don't go crazy, live with Hashem. Don't make these crazy stringencies that ultimately are aggravating you. At the moment that a person be when they receive you have a mitzvah from Hashem and it start aggravating you and you're and all this other stuff, check the mitzvah. You'll probably find there's not a lot of Hashem in there. Surely not something Hashem commanded you to do. True. EMS. So be simple. Rebu says and we're learning with lesson five that you know they say but mitzvah what is it? No mitzvah. No no no it's it's um no is it graces whole concept of happiness with mitzvah right? No, you have to find out. And and where a lot of stringencies, a lot of these things come from actually is people that don't know Hashem. So they're trying to plate him all the time with giving him stuff. You know what I'm saying? Which really which really is a form of a vodar. It's a foreign worship. It's a foreign worship. You could turn mitzvah into a vodar. Meaning because a vodar is really just something that's foreign to the person, right? Hashem is asking for the heart of the person and you're trying to give him. I'm just being honest. It's a real thing. Hashem wants your heart. He wants your life. He wants you you to be considered or whatever. And then on all the space, you know, uh who is it? Um what's his name now? Just lost his mind. Miami talks about this um Gadalia. It's Gadalia. Sorry, Gadalia. You know, sometimes you're too close to remembering your friend's name, right? So, so one of the things he says is like, you know, what's taking up real estate in your mind? At the time a person's approaching a certain mitzvah, are you are you even thinking about Hashem at all? Like that's the goal of what we're getting to when we're doing mitzvah is to be thinking about the Hashem who commanded you the mitzvah, right? Blessed are you, Hashem, who gave us the mitzvah, not blessed the right and a person's thinking about all the time that he has to be duked in this type of way. And this didn't he didn't live that way. And and that wasn't that wasn't that wasn't Rabenu's way. And the things that Rainu was strict on like nobody gets strict about the things of of the vot, right? Like it said too many times, if we checked if we checked our heart the way we checked the Edro, right? It'd be it'd be a different type of ye thousand%. But some people would check the check the edro in the place of checking the heart. Wow. It's deep. So sometimes it may be even necessary to behave in a way that's foolish. Oh already went past that part. Don't be too stringent. Okay. So he says rabbis have taught us that it's proper for each person to choose for himself one mitzvah to observe for the particular care in its fine details. Yet even with the uh even with your with your chosen mitzvah, you should not only you should not be excessively strict to the point of foley. Don't make it a thing where you're going nuts even on this one mitzvah. And don't let it make you depressed. You shouldn't come to simply try to keep the mitzvah carefully and all of its final points but without accept excess excessive uh punctualness. I don't know what it is. Whatever. Punk. Punctual. Don't be over the top. Basically what it is. How do you say it? Punctualness. Punctual. Punctualness. We're inventing new words. Yeah. I've never heard of it before. No. Never have. Palmer Sha. First time. Not a simple word. Not a simple word. So sophisticated. Exactly. Well, and you would expect of all things this book there or not. As for the other mitzvah, simply follow the essential laws without adding extra string stringencies. And if only we could keep all the mitzvah of the Torah according to the simple interpretation of the law without seeking and go beyond it. The Torah itself is already enough to keep. Right. If you notice, it says not extra stringencies and not too stringent. It doesn't say that you shouldn't be stringent at all. Yeah, correct. Doesn't say you shouldn't be stringing at all. You should have what you should be too much. No, it should be too much. But someone has that too much. Right. Right. It makes you stressful, makes you mad. But he's also saying that by just keeping in of itself is a very high level. So it's it's yeah if the if thera um or is bring you joy, happiness, the mhag is bringing you happiness, right? Um that in of itself is is great, but if if the the is not you're not getting enjoyment out of it. or from my perspective what I'm learning at least for me I'm speaking for myself is if there's a meanhag is bringing me is distracting my relationship right there's more leniency to not do the minhag because it's not on the same level as dear da so I think that's what he's he's speaking speaking to my understanding could could interpret it that way the idea is also too is that I want to let me finish it and then I I have I have a nun on this point so he says that Um there's no need to look for extra stringencies. This is foolish and confusing. The essence of serving Hashem is simplicity and sincerity. Pray much, study much da and carry out many good deeds without seek uh uh without seeking out or inventing unnecessary restrictions. So simply follow the path of our fathers. The Torah was not giving to ministering angels. Hashem expects you to be human. you want to be from between, you know, between you and your fellow. That's true. That's they'd be m on that. Right. That's something to be m on. A person having a a serious doubt and suffering on themselves if if what they just said or did was lush and horror is a much better stringency to have, right? than to be worried about you know uh you know if he if he and I'm not trying to pick on people because I know as a min you know he lived in mine for you know you see the kev coming taking water from the you know the big tanks or whatever and I say it's beautiful mhog some of this from matzas for matzas is very important also too be careful where you get the water from the matzas um but like you know the idea that people can go crazy even over pesak you know we're still waiting on all the Ashkanazi to make chuva and the kidneys you know what I'm One day you're going to make chuva and we're going to bring you guys all back, you know. Amen. Amen. You're going to be zoka to soft matzas and and and lafas and whatever. It's not applicable anymore. You heard it here. Kyan doesn't apply anymore. I knew he was just I just knew I was trying to pump trying to pump him up here. That's all. Makes us happy. It makes you happy. That kidney doesn't make you happy. This is the whole year was for him today. He picked me up. So he's get, you know, I love you. I'm so grateful. So he says, uh, there's nothing that you, Listen to this. This is mama. This is amazing. There was nothing that you absolutely must do or else. It says that. Yes. Wow. To live like that, the person. There's nothing that you must absolutely must do or else. If you can, you can. But if you cannot, Hashem exempts a person under duress. This is it. Wow. So the the relationship with Hashem has to be cry in a way. He's melting. The relationship with Hashem has to be one of Hashem. I I'm I'm I'm here to live with you. I'm here. Hashem, guide me. Take me on my path. Hashem, let's let's let's enter into this relationship. Let let let me let me do what it is that shim that you want me to do and and simplify every single thing that comes your way. Look for the easy easy way out. I don't want to say this in the wrong place because you can do this in the wrong in the wrong way also too. There's some people tell me there and so they look for and they became in in in their in their quest for knowledge came because they were looking for what you don't have to do. Right? So you don't want to be that guy either. You're looking for everything that you don't have to do to where even in a place where there's something that will be considered men and come to do something in public that that most people hold you should be doing right you don't want to because there's another place you need to be strict don't don't cause people to speak Russian har also too right don't cause a person you put it stumbling block for some people people are talking about you and you're right you know the they don't know the but now You just cause them to because you get all it took was, you know, for you to just pretend, you know, in front of everybody at the same time. Some of the reason is like that. I have a very complicated. It's not complicated, but it's complicated for me just because I've never had to deal with it. I've always done my Saddam at home. It looks like this year I'm going to be doing a seder at a actual I'm taking my whole family with me. So what I do on second day? I'm sure there's all different type of locals and whatever doing things like that, but like for me in my head just like stressing out about this. It's like what I do for me it's a [Music] regular for everybody else there it's the second sedum and there's people asking can we do the sadarm with you like what's sad you mean seder like you know what what do I do the second day whatever the case is that means easily you can ask this and figure out what the the question is but I'm saying that the idea is over here now if I you know you know don't over complicate things don't try to like in a certain way was like well anyway everybody already knows that by me I came for meritis. I'm you know I'm a dinner so I can I should it should look just as much as like everybody else like I'm keeping the second day like what's the what's the what's I don't know I'm figuring it out I may just throw another seda for the sake of it you know I I've you know what's so interesting is my first few years after I made aliyah I was so hung up on I want to have another second seda like I couldn't believe I lost my second seda like you know it was like cuz I was the one I had guests I would do the first one just me and the family and the second one I would only then I would have guests or whatever the case is. So after I only have one, we don't really have guests for the first time because they probably put me in a mental institution if they seen what I do at the table to get the kids into it. Do you understand what I'm saying? So I would never bring uh guests to see me like that and never look at me the same for sure. So so they see it there's a you know second sader like and I'm like who would ever do a second sader? Why would they live? I would move from head to toe cuz I put so much into the first one. I can't even imagine today doing a second one. You know what I mean? But like, you know, maybe if I don't have to, it'll probably be easier, you know? So, if I don't have to. It's very funny. Wow. Shimsha, help us. Amen.