NEW SERIES (Part 7) Kindness in Business or Business is Business with Rabbi Aryeh Grossnass

[Music] You my [Music] birthday. [Music] Okay. Should we start? Yeah. Okay. First of all, uh I found a situs factory. So, whoever's uh interested in coming at 2:00 in the afternoon is when all the machines are working. So, 2:00 in the afternoon seems like the time we need to find out what when works for everyone. What day is the best day? So, I guess maybe deal with either Monday or Wednesday. Monday or Wednesday. Okay. um we have to discuss the details of the trip and I guess you'll be in touch with them to work out you know the final details make a decision based on majority able to make it okay how people work right okay okay fine delicious about delicious you let me know when we're live we're live we've been live okay that's a bit awkward I'm not sure if they're still doing it but um place in uh Mr. Ramb down the corner from here onto No, we're going to a factory. We're going to the strings. Making the strings. So, it comes into the factory as wool and it comes out as a string. How do they do it? So, very very interesting. Popped in there for a couple of minutes. Interesting vibes. is do they have something else? Yeah. Okay. Today we're going to do something different. I want to start off talking about something about the para um more specifically a point to ponder. We're going to ask a question, a moral dilemma and we're going to find out what the tur says about it. We're going to ask the question. We're going to discuss it a little bit. Then we're going to learn about for a while and then we're going to say the answer at the end of the sh you know gives you time to think about it. We're going to have a we're going to discuss a question about the parish and then we're going to discuss it a little bit and then we're going to go into and then we're going to say the answer at the end of the sh. In this week's parisha, we have Bolock sends a whole load of advisers and ministers to Bum to try and persuade him to come and curse Kalisra. And Balock asks Hashem, Hashem says, "Pack it in. This is, you know, this is not what you should be doing." So he sends another load of people. And the lash ak is he says even if you give me bam says to balak even if you give me all the money in the world I can't do it I can't do it. So rashi points out over here that you see from bum's statement even if you give me all the money in the world that he had his eye on their money. He knew that really they needed to pay him a good amount and that he wanted it. He said bum was had a for a strong desire for money. Rashi puts this down very strongly. We see from here bum had a strong desire for money which brings out the point of m there's a a topic uh an idea which is classified as bad which is a love of money. A love of money. It's a it's something to be explored. I don't want to explore that point itself. Something similar how to put business together with the Tory ideals which we all strive for. I'm going to give an example. Give an example and then we're going to try and understand it a bit better. About 5 years ago, I was married for maybe about 8 months. I came to Eritis. I settled down in one of the neighborhoods in Yoshalim and we rented a place which the Balira had two apartments. One apartment was where we were. It had a bedroom and then it had a nice size kitchen, dining room, balcony, cute little place. That was one apartment. The apartment next door was a Tim allin-one. So, it had a bed and a little table, a little kitchen area, and a shower allin-one. And ours was a long-term rental. And the one next to us was a short-term rental. So, every couple of days, sometimes weeks, sometimes months, we'd have a new person next door. Hi, bye. You know, that's how we lived our life for a couple of months of our married life. One day a lady moves in next door. We're used to all different types of people moving in. She was seemed a regular American lady. She'd come from America and she told us that her husband was planning to they were planning to make aliyah and she came earlier. Fine. We got talking to her. We noticed she looks a bit lonely. So we invited her for a Friday night meal. So it was a nice meal. We had a nice time. She was upset with my wife that she'd, you know, put margarine in one of the foods she served without telling her. She's like, "It's so good." My wife said, "Yeah, margarine is the se margarine." She wasn't very she wasn't very happy with her, but otherwise it was a lovely meal. That Friday night happened to be the Friday night before it all happened. If you remember 5 years ago just around current time there was talk about some interesting virus that was going on in China and people were dying left right and center and they were talking that it's beginning to go across the world that's when the news started trickling in pur people weren't sure there was some like funny songs about uh corona you know there's a famous song so it got changed that year the Corona Corona Corona. Anyway, people weren't sure. It was all up in the air. No one knew how it was going to play out. We after Purim, it got a bit more serious. We heard that places in Europe are shutting down. So, we thought the best idea is we had a year contract. We took it from the summer. We thought the best is to try and get someone to take our DRA. the son should take our apartment cuz maybe we won't be able to get back. We saw airports were shutting and this lady her husband was making aliyah. So she knocked on. She said, "Maybe I can take your DRA." If you're not planning on coming back after Pesak cuz you're not sure what's going to happen and you want to, you know, pack up all your boxes cuz you think you're going to get stuck in England. We're going back to England for Pesak. Then maybe just give me your DRA. Sublet the deer to me. Sounded simple. We were happy with that. We were saving the money that we possibly could lose out, which in retrospect was true. We would have lost out a lot of money. We sat down. We went downstairs to the bald. We signed all the papers. She was okay with it. The the lady who lived next door me was okay with it. Everyone was okay. End of meeting. So she was taking it in about 3 weeks just before Pes when her husband is coming. Everything's great. A little later we get a knock on the door. The lady from next door who was taking our deer knocks on. She says, "You're leaving tomorrow? Is that right?" So I said, "Yeah, I'm leaving tomorrow." She said, "No one's in the D anyway. Can I have it from tomorrow?" So I said, "Sure, if you pay." So she said, "If I pay, you're not here. That's not She's screaming at me. That's not okay. Why? Why do you need my money? You're not here. You're not losing out. Why can't I have it?" So I said, "We just had a whole meeting downstairs. I'm paying for the DRA for the next 3 weeks. It's true. I'm not going to be there, but you're taking it for free. You know, we can discuss it. I have to give it to you. She was screaming. She was livid. It's not okay. It's not Yasha's thing. That's not how you behave. I thought she was crazy. You're laughing. You had to realize we were packing everything in the entire that day. It was the pressure was immense. My wife had someone over to help pack it. I don't know what to do. She knocked on a bit later saying that I won't really pay for the next I'm not going to take the the the dra for the next couple of months if you don't give it to me. Starts threatening me. I said, "What's going on over here?" I was getting a bit maybe she's right. Maybe I'm not being al Maybe she's right. How do you behave? Right. How not only how do you behave is this is it I I'm paying for three weeks. I'm paying for her to be in my deer. Sounds a little bit crazy. Not only that, I can rent out the deer. We don't know. Like half price would be a good place to start. Right. Right. I would think something like that. But how do you get to half price? Say no. And then she kicks up a fuzz and then she says, "Okay." But meanwhile, she was like beginning to break down. I was thinking maybe she's like a bit unstable. You know, all the pressure with with COVID and her husband being stuck across. The question was I called up a Rav I said in business I broadened the question a little bit and I made a a a broader question about business. Do you say business is business? There's a term out there. Business is business. Very nice. You're my cousin. Very nice. You're my friend. We're selling something here. Business is business. So I turn around to this lady. I say we had a meeting. We decided what we're doing. If you want to have the DRA, pay business is business. Or do I say, "Look, she's she looks a little bit unstable." She did look a bit unstable the way she was shouting. What do you say? Who cares? Yeah. Why would you want to do business already? I did business already. I was getting something from it cuz she was taking it for the 5 months that I would have lost out. I didn't get back until close to the summer. She signed. She'd signed. That's it. Of course. That's it. discussion, right? It's the end of discussion. She scream what she wanted, right? So, David here says she could scream what she wants. Zagaban, she closed the door. Okay, I hear that. That's how I felt. This is what I asked the rabbi his answer and the reason for his answer. We're going to discuss after this a okay the question we're going to be discussing today in hittus is can a make titus I don't know if you're aware but to hire an Arab in this country is way cheaper than hiring a Jew in lots of countries sometimes you can't you know take a littleetle I don't know take a little place in Switzerland little community how many Jews do they have let's say a couple of hundred families maybe less and this person wants to make tits wants to open a factory. So he has does he has to drive in a whole bunch of moshulas and yankas and yoies in order to make his factory or can he use the local the local people who are there it's a it's a big question this initi is a big question because you know cheap labor Arabs are much cheaper or do you have to make sure to get a ye this is the million-doll question which we're going to discuss today if you have a source sheet feel free to look inside if you don't feel free to space out or listen along song. We're going to start with source number four just to make it exciting. You can pass them around if you'd like. We're going to start off with source number four. Source number four is the discusses this very shila. Now note there are two parts of titus which we could be discussing. One part of tits is making the strings that is spinning it in order that you can get from wool into a thread into a a what's the word a thread or we're discussing actually putting in the titus through the hole and making all your knots. Putting tites through the hole and making the knots. The gar learns out only a ye can make titus. That means making the knots, putting it through the hole, making a actual titus that we have over here. Doing this, putting it through that is only a yeided can do. That is a garra. What about preparing it? What about making the actual string? That is the million-doll question to put the string through. That's a pos. Put it through to make the t to make the knot. That's a pos already. What about to make the string to to intertwine to twine the string dov is to take it from being a thread we're going to see it in the factory twining it okay can go do that to explain the sh a little bit more it needs to be done it has to be doneus it can't just be done let's have a look at the says the go if a non-Jew does the spinning does the twining as we say here and you have a Jew watching he's on top of him he's carefully looking at him he's telling him John or in this country Ahmed says okay the ram says it's poss And the rash says it's okay. If you have a doing it by himself, it's very clear here. It's going to be poss if you have a ye standing on top of him and telling him do it's ra says it's ple the rash says it's kosha. The ram I didn't bring it in the sources. He quotes a Gomorrah. The Gomorrah says a rule which sounds a little bit um mean. That's not really mean. We're going to see what it means. That a does it. He does it independently. We're going to look into that a bit. The reason why we don't trust a when he's doing it because he does it independently. We're going to have a look at that. Let's have a look at source number one. This is a gamarra in gin. When somebody has to write a get you have a sofa who's writing a get it has to be done this of applies to many different mitzvah in the applies to mat it applies to it applies to many different things says the everyone is kosher to write a get anyone write a get for cotton someone who's a someone who's a cotton they all cauter to write a it. Okay, let's go straight to the Gomorrah. The last line on that box. Frank the Gomorrah. The garra asked a question. They don't have desot. They do not have don. A cotton doesn't have d. What does d mean? Why is it cotton? Oh, why is it kasha? That's the kasha. How can it be kosha? How can it be kosher? They don't have d. Rashi over here says so that they don't have d. If they don't have das, they can't do a lishma. Das means a mind that you can rely on, right? Lots of times you can have kids. You see it in these contests. They're way way cleverer than anyone in this room with your permission. Right? You see sometimes these whizzes. You can have a 9-year-old who knows maths and you tell him what's 180* 3 billion, I don't know what, they come up with it in seconds. What does it mean? He doesn't have d. So my rebi he says that the idea of not having d means they don't have d is like a maturity. You can't rely on them. It's like you can have a a 9-year-old boy who's a very mature responsible person but all of a sudden his sibling will do something he'll turn around and give him a slap. Right? So no adult would do that. They they don't have a they don't have what you can rely on. They don't have a backing. If a kid says he'll do something, he might be very smart. You might be a very clever person, but they don't have D. D is a a a stronger maturity. It's a maturity. Okay, that's what D means. And here it goes into number two. This is where the Gmorra goes into number two. It's in the Gmorra. The Gar is in the middle. You know when you have a cotton and a making the get when you have a god standing on top of him supervising making sure he's doing says the if you can have someone standing on top of someone who cannot make right get and if you have someone standing on top of it's okay can I go write it maybe we can have I'm going to write again maybe says the you're going to say that it does work in the psle is ple cannot write a get. So you see this magic trick of having somebody standing on top of him doesn't work says the nonju does it on his own minded he goes he doesn't do it according to what the ye tells him let's look at rashi what does that mean says rashed of it what does it mean says rashi the hog god who he is an adult and he has D even though the who's standing on top of him is saying uh John make sure you do this and he says okay man I'll I'm going to do it he says even though he tells him maybe he's decided in his head to do it for something else I don't know maybe he doesn't he he's a responsible adult he you know we only don't really listen need to listen to this Jew who's telling me what to do. So he tells him to do it, but really he's not doing it. That's that's the issue here. A a somebody who is a minor aim, he doesn't have dance only for the what the person tells him. So if you have a child and a adult tells him to do something, his D is on what the adult does. He doesn't have enough independence and strength to say I'm doing it for something else. If he tells him he's doing it for something that's what the Gumar says and the Ram goes with this. The Ramom says even if you have somebody standing on top of him and standing on top of a it doesn't make a difference. The rash seems to say otherwise. Now the very exciting thing about today is we're going to learn. Not only that, Isra asks a bomb question. Hopefully, somebody in this room is going to ask the question. The rash says what he says. He's not talking about tits, but the bas decides that the rash we can take the rash and apply it to tits. That what the rash says applies to tits. And we're going to see if that if that is possible. What does the rash say? Let's have a look at source number three. The rash is discussing the of you know we we see when you do hagba you can see a safe looks very nice the claf the actual parchment comes straight off a cow there's a long process in order to make it into the nice parchment it looks part of the process is you take off the skin and you have to do something called ibut work it somehow. The way you do that is you put it in lime. It's called sid. And you sit it in a barrel of lime for a couple of weeks and eventually the hair falls off. It softens it. I think it also makes it strong as well. I think it softens it. That's the main thing. And the hair falls off and then they can get on with the next process. It's a whole process. The first process is called ibud. Ibud has to be done has to be done kaducious safety for the mitzvah to write a safe. So Rabun Borak discusses can a dobbud. Let's have a look in source number three. This is right at the end of the first line. writes is doing the he is doing the soaking in in this lime and the is watching on top of him and he is helping him that would work does it on the more than a we're not going to go into Right. Says the rush that by when you put the sid onto the it's called hide. It's called a hide. Am I right? Yeah. The skin that they've taken off. What do you say? Yeah. You're turning it into a cloth through the putting the sid on it. That you can do. What are you telling me? What? You have to stretch it out. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I don't know what stage to do it all. Don't know if the sid is before and the stretching out. Forgive me, we're not we're not doing a say fat now. I don't know the the order exactly, but I know that the first part is you're putting it in says the the rash he quotes. If you have a guy doing it, you got your John, you got your Ahmed and there's a stroll who's standing on top of him and he's helping him a little bit. He's put in here. You have to help him a little bit. Then you're good to go. Now we just saw Gomorra and Gitten. What does Gumar and Giten say? Can you get a to write a get? What does the Gumar say? Can you get a No. Gar says no. What's what's the rush saying over here forbid? You can do it in order to work the leather. A guy could do it. But not you know who asked the question the rash the rash asked the question the rash in the small writing now it's in the first line and even though the get when you're writing a get says of it does it for his own interest he doesn't do it for what the ye tells him but perin in the bin we just saw this rambas like that does the it's possible. It's possible even though he told him to do the forfilling, he told him to fulfill because the guy does it for himself. So how could tell you that by it's okay? The says that a ye a guy does it for his own interest. He doesn't do it for the for the for the he does it for his own interest. He doesn't do it for the Jews interests. John's doing it. He doesn't care what Yankula told him. Do it. Do it. I tell you, you need to do he'll do it for his own thing. But Rabbar says for Ibud in order to make the hide soft then it's okay. It's against the gar million-dollar question. says the rash a difference. Let's have a look at the difference very carefully. a little bit further along on the end of the line the people of we take on says the rush you can do liked you don't have Jewish laborers in all places as I said you can have a little and the only place the only professional place to make string is or sorry here we're not talking about making string We're talking about to work a height. So you have let's take a little in the olden days. I know what's what's what's a goodle good name of a place in Lithuania and Ukraine and Germany. I don't know G. Let's imagine G. It was full of Jews then. Oh, you got to go back many years and there's only one place that works leather in the entire place to set up your own. You want to make a safety to set up your they didn't have flights that you can just fly in some some leather from America. There was no such thing says the rash. They don't always have Jewish laborers. You couldn't always open a factory. So says the rash was but we still haven't answered the question. says the rush you know the das the logic lends itself to why [Applause] the where the gar says that a go does it for his own interest there's a long letter which you have to write for a get there's many many words so but every single word have has to be lashimma has to be lashim this garish for this divorce every single word. Now that can take a long time. A sofa he has to dip it into his ink and write it on the parchment very carefully. Could take him a half an hour maybe longer. I don't know how long it takes to write again. So for that we understand that he does it for his own interests says the when it comes to all he needs is the beginning of the when you put the le the leather inside the line that he should say then I'm doing it for for and then then the go. He puts it in and he does it stroll when he tells him to do it. Says the rash the difference a very simple difference. He says I think like why is like because by getting it takes you half an hour to write a get. So you have this yankler who's standing on the side. You say hello. She says yeah sure no problem. He writes it. He's got half an hour for half an hour. He daydreams. He decides it. He's writing it for for a movie. He's decides it. He's writing it to to his own wife who he's going to divorce. I don't know what he's deciding in the middle, right? He can he can decide anything in half an hour. But when it comes to how long does it take to put it inside a barrel? Two seconds. So he tells the plot in then he's decided to do something else. Says the rash don't worry we can pass like clear is the difference. Clear by get it's a long time. If it's a long time then the guy can do it for his own reasons. If it's a quick one just to put it inside Sid and put it inside some lime that we can rely on a go to do. That's what the rush says. Now this is what the rash says. The rash doesn't mention sitsus once doesn't talk about the when he writes the he says the rash holds that when you're doing when you're making spinning twining a wool fabric and making it into a making into a string the rash says it's kasha where's the rash it's this rash tell me if you had this rash and somebody will ask You can you make tits from this rush? What would you say? You have to think yourself now. Would you think that this rush is a good a good comparison to say that by in order to to do a go can do it? No. The rash says by getting where takes a long time. by getting where it takes a long time then you don't say a go will do it for what the ye says but if just what you're going to drop it in if just dropping it in just to put it inside a barrel of sid that we do say he's doing how long does it take to do how long does it take or a person says he doesn't know 20 or so how long about 20 minutes 20 minutes any other suggestions a little while a little That's what I would think. Ces, what's going on over here? How can the BV have the audacity to to say that the rash can be used also for tites takes a long time? How can you do that? They're two different things. This is the question of a dog also asked this question. How can you say that the rash can be used for tits if you're just dropping it inside lime that takes a second but it seems to me to take wool and to intertwine it in order to come out with a thread takes a while says he doesn't have an answer doesn't have an answer this is the milliondoll question the brings it down we have the wrote a beautiful safer called the mishna Bur and at the side of the mish he wrote a safer called the bia and the he discusses all the big questions in life one of the big questions in life is this how can the b use this rash and the b seems to say something it's based on a vagon that says that if you look at the exact wording of the rash this is where the question comes from given to bere Reganis since it's done in a rea. What does rega mean? Like a moment. A moment. Rega sounds like a like a moment. Even if you want to say the guy's really good at it and he's doing it really quickly, it's not a moment. What? Many moments. Many moments. So says the after discussing the way the vulner sees the rash he says that when it says berea the rush doesn't mean literally berea this this time which we give a to decide that he's doing it for a different reason you can stretch it a little the the the rush doesn't mean literally a moment that's not what he means he means a short amount of time that's what he means that's what wants to explain the way the bas seen it doesn't mean a split second like it you know like you put it you drop it inside the barrel it's a split second that's not what it means it means a small amount of time but says the Mishna Bura if it's taking a long time we're going to see in this factory yeah when the the way they make if they're making a long string it could take a while he says if it's taking them a long time it doesn't work a cannot do it so what do you see inside this the he says According to the rash, it's kasha. The mishna bur says that it's only when it takes a short amount of time. It doesn't mean a moment. When the rush says, it doesn't mean a moment. It means, you know, a short amount of time. Maybe maybe a minute, 2 minutes, a couple of minutes. I don't know exactly. It just doesn't mean a long time. If you look inside the Mishna Bura when he explains the this is in source number six the final source is watching what our is doing which I just quoted where we wrote it's only if the spinning doesn't take a long time it doesn't drag on so long harour If the takes a long time, it appears that it will not help the fact that a ye was standing there and telling the the go to do it. So bottom line, what is the bottom line? Bottom line is if you want John, if you want Ahmed to work in your factory, the only way it's going to work is if you're standing over him and it's taking him a very short amount of time. He can make this the string in a very short amount of time. If it's taking longer than a, you know, a minute, a couple of minutes, get out. It doesn't work because we see what do you see? I'll get more words out. Yeah. You can't if you can't do it within that square time. Yeah, you have doesn't have uh doesn't have the time to play around. He's not Yeah, that's not the way that works. That's right. There there is a there is a deeper way of explaining why is it a longer time? That's what you're touching on, Lawrence, right? Why is it a longer time he messes around in a shorter time, a couple of minutes as he's still going? There's there's there's taurus, there's deeper about this, but we're not we're what? does come right that's right it's similar similar type of but at the moment let's keep it simple if it takes a long time ago you cannot do it if it takes a short amount of time according to the rash kosha the mish says the ram says even then it's possible she says try and try and get Jewish laborers if your mam is stuck you can get goa laborers and make sure it's done in a very short amount of time that is titus. I hope we're clear on that. If we Mr. When we go to the tits factory, you will see they are all Jewish. Very much Jewish Jewish. What about matzah? Can a do matzah? Can a do matzah? Can you pour the water? Can you put it in the oven? I think I might if I'm not mistaken. It has to be correct. It might be matzah's problem. and they won't be able to because of um what's this? Oh, he's saying as well you have to make sure it's done properly. You don't know if a guy is doing it properly. I think also there might be something else in making matzah that it has to be I don't know. I don't know. Specified time. Yeah. Yeah. Right. the the the I don't know that's a good question. It's a good question. Is is matzah the same as here? I don't know. I'm going to have to look into it. M we'll get back to you about that. Let's wrap up. Let's wrap up the discussion which we just which we started off with. Can does Midas come into business? Do we say business is business or do we say poor lady she is so um she literally looked unstable and he said okay just take the apartment I asked this to my as I said I brought in the shila I said in business in general you know I was a young man and hadn't done any business I said do you do you maybe just in business in general you say business is business you have a worker who's not coming on time you say Get out of it. I told you come on time. Get out of it. What do you say? I'm a bit poor guy. Maybe maybe he's not feeling well. Maybe he's going through something. When where where does basically how he thinks about you? What do you mean? How he thinks about you. The guy you you employ. What do you mean? Just you feel sorry for him. He's feeling sorry for you. All right. Maybe he should do that to you. Right. This is this is part of the question. How do we approach how do we approach business? So the Rav said to me like this. This rabbi um spends a lot of time fundraising as well. He has a couple of institutions. And he said, "I know many many rich men." And he said, "The rich men who approach business with the business's business type of approach, they're not the type of people you want to spending your leisurely time with. that generally it's toughened them up. Tesco has a line, every every little helps. Every penny counts. Every little helps. Every little hearts. There's a different one which came out for a while. Um yeah, count your pennies, the pounds will add up themselves. You know, these types of things. If you go with a very rigid approach to business, it ends up spilling over to your regular life. when people slight you slightly only a little bit you used to business is business so it ends up going spreading over to your entire life so this Rav said to me he said area relax a bit he said are you really going to rent out the apartments in the next 3 weeks probably not look she looks unstable it's one thing if she's like a normal person and she's just saying please you know business is business but there was a reason to have Rahman He said, "You want to lose out. You want to lose out. Go for it. This is a march and this is a place. How do we how do you say this in English? This is something not to forget in the first entire right the beginning of starts off you should get up like a lion in order to serve Hashem." The Rama there discusses how you should serve Hashem. He says you should remember only Hashem's in front of you. And don't don't get bothered by other people. Sometimes, you know, in order to do something that's right, in order to do a mitzvah, you look a bit like a fool. Sometimes it's like that. I don't know. Happens in various different times. Let's say someone wants to do a long estra. He's really he's had a hard day. I mean, it's it's awkward. Let's say he wants to cry to Hashem. He wants to cry. He has something on his heart. How many people cry in? Very few. And when you do, people look at him like shut. Yeah. It's it's like uncomfortable. The Ram says over here, he says, "If you want to do the right thing, if you're doing a mitz, you're doing the right thing." His words like this, don't be embarrassed of people who are making fun of you in your don't take any notice. Right? It's a it's a tough one. everyone according to their level. Everyone's got their mitzvah which is a bit a bit awkward to do in some situations. The Mishna Bura here quotes the BF which says a rule which is very similar to what we said now and I will quote he's he's going on not to be embarrassed. He says like this I'll call upon him however don't get into a fight with him. Yeah. So let's say I know he's in a place where it's awkward to wear a kapple. It's awkward to wear yamaka to walk around with a yamaka. I know there's some places in the world where they find it embarrassing only walk around with a cap. Now this guy, he he lost his cap. So he's wearing a yamaka and the yamoka in his pocket and he thinks it's the right thing and they think it's not the right thing. He says don't be embarrassed and says to don't get into a fight with him. Why the mid the trait of Azus brazen us to to to have you know to come out very strongly in your face. That's a good one. Asus is in your face. That's good. It's very very bad. Don't use it at all. Even why you will acquire a in your heart as to be brazen to be in your face. Even when it's not a hashem says the Mishna Bur when it comes to hashem do not use people say so why are you wearing a capital so you stand up you say what do you mean you start shouting them don't do that why cuz in order to do that you have to use a mid which is brazen it's sharp it's like that and that type of mid it's it's not good cuz very nice it's a good thing you're meant to be like that but if you use item you'll end up using it in your daily The same is for business. If you're tough in business, of course, to a certain extent you do have to be tough in business, but with a bit of with a bit of you have to you have to you have to put it in there. Got the B over here says of course if it's somebody's you have to know when sometimes there's people like that scholar before the war there were many people were trying to get communities to lose to loosen their their voice of hashem he says of course and sometimes you have to be strong in the general when you're doing a mitzvah by yourself don't get carried away so we should all be to do business with remembering our end goal to make money in the right way and uh yeah [Music] my birthday [Music] sh