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My wife actually filed for divorce. Wasn't a threat. Like she threatened many, many times and eventually came to She literally was like, "I can't I can't I I I'm sorry, but I have to I have to do this." I actually tell men, I say, "Take a 100% radical responsibility for everything that is yours. And zero responsibility for that which isn't." What was is that my I was so tethered to to the way that she felt about me and thought about me that if she was okay with me, I was okay with me. If she was not okay with me, I wasn't okay with me. I was like lost without her approval. And the most empowering thing is that whatever you're looking for, it's inside of you. >> Of course. >> No one's coming to your rescue. No rabbi's going to have some sort of beautiful advice that's going to make everything click for you and then all of a sudden you're going to become that masculine man. No, that's just you giving up more power. People want to unburden themselves of the secrets that they've been carrying on their own. Why should they carry it on their own? It's not for them to carry it on their own. And by the way, brother, the thing you're carrying, I'm also carrying. >> Define masculinity and femininity for me.