Never Respond by Withdrawing

my child is so hurt they're just withdrawn they don't want a connection they don't want to be with me they just want to push me away yes which only means that they need the connection so much more but they don't trust it so therefore you just have to be available at a moment's call when they come into the kitchen you know 11 o'clock at night just be in your most loving space hi anything i can do for you maybe bring food to the room maybe if you know she loves sushi or there's a certain danish that she's crazy about just leave it by the bedroom you don't stoop down to anger and frustration don't reciprocate with that withdrawal you become connected but you can't force yourself it's hard because you want to scream come on get out of your mess get grow up and take responsibility for your life she's going to become more withdrawn sees every opportunity she comes into the kitchen to have good food for her just to smile and say hi it's great to see you i went shopping i was thinking about you here is your yarn here's your sushi here's your danish here's your favorite milkshake just stay connected do whatever you can if she says no she says no she's not interested in you but you be fully fully present because slowly there'll be a little more trust and there'll be a little more healing this is a lot of work what i'm saying is not simple many parts of your brain will revolt and say no i'm going to teach them a lesson they're broken don't teach lessons connect [Music] the yeshiva.net