Khal Bnei Torah Dinner 24, Rav Cynamon's Shul- Rav Meyer Yedid "The Power of Chabura!" Guest Speaker

it's a great tonight to begin the program and I just like to explain in two minutes first of all why we have to start on time and finish on time and what's the connection to this great we have to have our to here I was uh yam and I was working in y and I was asked to um make a connection with RAB pich to connect him to come speak in the Yeshiva it was in the camp at the time so when I called him up he said he doesn't really know about terima at that time he didn't know about the Yeshiva but he told me a V and I think it's very appropo to hear he said to me we the posic says you should look to be to to connect to from theor DARS malem means Kim so you have to look for a rebi who has the who has the mid and the the attrib the attributes of a Mal but told me that's not the says so that's you have to know someone who's completely completely not selfish devoted completely to giving over that's a Mal but pavari asked that's not the pus of the C the ptus of the C the simple reading is Mal what does it mean so if you look in the radak and the msud Mal means a it doesn't mean a Mal like him a him Mal is a the is Mal so RAB pavari asked so how do you know if someone's a how do you know if someone's a of hem so he answered and he said when you see his tal and you see somebody's has and has a lasting effect that's a that he's a of because you can't have a lasting impression if it's lacking in the connection of SE so a few years ago ra did called me and I came to his Yesa and then I also came to sh at the time of the of I was floored the beik I came down the downstairs in Shion hundreds of people being at night it's something mindboggling I walked out from the Yesa there were B all stripes and kinds and after I finished byki they were on top of me with more beos with more rutson with more yearning to connect to Theus that where I saw those and those I knew this is a who's and that's why he's rushing to get back to give his sh that he gives every night in the sh I don't know how we was we're a good sh and we're doing a lot and we have tremendous and we're also we're also created a a of which is like a lighthouse of showing to to the whole world but it's in that it's my privilege to ask to give us some thank you Rabbi caman for such a warm introduction it's it's a big to be here you forgive my the truth is I came here on a night that I'm quite busy I'm between a few things but when RAB caman calls me I have no choice but to come and I'd like to explain why I'll give you an example Temple that happened just this Friday night we're having a for my daughter got married last week thank you and I'm sitting with my new son-in-law it's a beautiful that actually came from a Yeshiva and one of his cousins it's not so I wouldn't call him a Yeshiva boy not from the family of a Yeshiva family and he got up to speak and he spoke with such strength and and so I turned over to my son-in-law and I said I said how did you get so close to him he says when I was learning there Isel he says he was there for the year and I made sure once a week we would learn he wasn't in know Yeshiva he was in Israel whatever doing whatever he was doing and once a week they would learn and when he came back here he decided he's staying and learning I said once a week what did you learn with him what do you learn once a week with somebody who doesn't know what the sweetness of Torah is not ready for the of Tora what do you learn with him he said I'll tell you the truth he says I would learn something by Rabbi cinnamon I would listen to a sheer I don't know if it was a saer I wasn't sure what he said he I would prepare something that was gak and I would sit with him and we would learn every single Thursday night and that's the boy that came out of our learning the boy still learning today this is a story that I'm sure has happened a few dozen times where cinnamon has given our boys something sweet Something Beautiful to chew on in his sweetness and the way he brings it over and I feel a tremendous amount of hakar for by for what you do not only for your T in the Yesa for your kahal not only for that but your T him out there in the world even SP him you don't you don't even know people that are growing from your Torah and we appreciate that I appreciate being around such special people who are building a here in Brooklyn I know for ashim that's not so popular to build a kahal in Brooklyn but I'd like to share with you something about a kahal like to share with you something something personal it's not so deep you forgive me just very simple you know in our lives there are C MIT that we celebrate with with music with great celebration probably we should celebrate every Mitzvah that way but I guess there are certain mitv that were given special and when someone does that does that Mitzvah it's something else we have by it's not a regular mitvah many people come food sometimes music p is one of those mitv that we celebrate mitv mitvah we havea another beautiful people coming eating dancing and we have when we finish something when we finish a we finish a season together together but in truth the doesn't quite go with everything else cuz if you look at all the mitv that we celebrate we're celebrating something that's in the future we're not celebrating something in the past a Jew doesn't celebrate the past he celebrates the present and the future Abit is a beginning of a Jew that entered we celebrate the future of this child P he was redeemed from something he couldn't accomplish he's a bear but he can't do the job of a bear so we have to redeem him so we celebrating his future he could find his D Mitzvah these are all celebrations of the future they're not even celebration of the moment and certainly not of the past we don't celebrate the past we learn from the past we grow from the past but we celebrate the future on we start a new Seer it's a but really we're not celebrating bit we're celebrating that's the past is something that seems to be out of character that we're celebrating something that happened I assume this is the end of year dinner or end of season or end of you go to the mountains I don't know what happens over here is that what they do something like that so we're celebrating the past year together I'd like to say and you'll forgive me that I didn't come to say deep things but I'm your neighbor here I don't have to say deep things when you come from out of town you have to say very deep things I with hashem's tremendous blessings were to be part of a like R San said we have hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people learning M every night all different levels people never open the gamar before people who went to Yeshiva all different kinds from all ages there's a tremendous thirst for Torah but in that there's maybe 70 80 who I've been with for for a long time 15 years or so call them the kabura we learn Bab we're learning now we finished Shabbat took us four years we learn we have we learn every morning every night and Sunday night this week was the last Shas it was done by one of the boys from the kabura and he invited all the boys and their wives to this beautiful and they asked me to say a few words after they all spoke and looking around the room the whole night I'm looking at this person at that person at this person and I realized maybe not for the first time but it was glaringly for the first time so clear I knew I know every guy very very I learn this is my family this my Mish I spend more time with them than I do at home I'm busy all day I work there's yeshivas there's talim there's buildings but I have every morning and every night I'm part of the kabur and I realize how much this has it's something unbeliev I wish I was able to give you my feelings that you could see it each one I without hag each one has the most beautiful children mamash children that anybody here would not believe such beautiful boys beautiful girls marrying Benet Tora tremendous tremendous tell me from these guys children they're not tell me but they're a the that this kabur has not only spiritually but also in G unbelievable and I'm looking around and I'm saying how fortunate we are I'm not the same guy that I was 15 years ago 15 years ago I don't sha even I was working somewhere I was teaching today we have children 15 years 14 years I'm not the same guy that guy I remember he just got a job today he's one of the biggest supporters of the Yeshiva that guy unbelievable alah if you look at the kabur and I know I see naali over there my dear friend you there right Nali he could be thank you for all you do for cl he knows some of the guys actually had a fundraiser by the person's house that I'm talking about this this year you know who that is what's the what's what was what's the secret what's the underlying braa that we have and there's nothing really in common not our last name not our family backgrounds not even our spiritual level but there's one thing in common that we have is that we're kab you know there's aah the T to love every person like you love yourself seemingly an impossible Mitzvah to love every person like you love yourself that's why the ma say practically you can't do it practically you could do what hilel said to the G to the convert that whatever you don't want done to you don't do to others that you can handle I don't want you to park in my driveway I won't Park in your driveway I don't want to be spoken about I won't speak about you I don't want to be annoyed I want to know you I could do that I could handle it to love someone like you love yourself it's impossible but they say theim say that there's one person you can fulfill that mitvah as is and that's your spouse that it's really Kam when you go buy a plane ticket you don't buy for someone else you buy for your wife it's the same when you buy food you don't take them for dinner you're buying for yourself it's come off you can fulfill with a spouse the true but I'd like to add that this Sunday night I realized that I truly love every guy in the kabur I believe that every guy there loves each other with family where is there a room of people that get together 300 65 days a year morning and night and never get into a fight where is there room that people every day they see each other wish themselves a good morning and a good day and a good night such shomura the people that I live with in the bet midash has changed my life and every single person in that kabur and perhaps that's what theum is all about the is not about what we accomplished this year theum is about what we've become to go forward like we say in theum alanan means the beauty of what we accomplished together as aab in this Alan it's here it's now I'm living it I'm feeling it I'm living with it with my family I see them my children you have any idea what it is with my children see have aab that I'm part of every single day I'm not just a guy who prays in this here is there I'm part of a kabura we're together that's what theum is all about it's not about the past it's about the new me that's been produced through learning with my Kusa and my kabura and my rebi that's something that I have so special that I wanted to share with you I imagine this is a kabura or at least wants to be a kabur but sometimes in life you want something but you don't have the strength to actually do it because it takes a little sacrifice you have to stay in the same Sho you have to pray the same time it's a little this corot you have to bring and sometimes you have to leave early it's almost 9:00 I got to leave I see you guys want me to talk more but I have to go anyway doesn't make a difference I got aab I got to go there's a wedding at night I have to leave I can't be there is waiting to be part of a kabur it takes a little sacrifice it's much easier to be on your own but guess what when you know about it changes the game because now it's not only about the right thing to do now it's about My Success it's about my family it's about my sim it's about everything that I have in my life you have any idea The woman there that night that were glowing when I was speaking they were glowing and they realized what it means when they send out their husbands to learn early in the morning and late at night they're seeing the braa in their homes that's the of perhaps that's what we celebrate when we make a see it's not about what we did it's about what we've produced and what we could do going forward Hashem says oh you have people that you love in your life you have aab you have 10 guys that you learn with that you became a family with that you're learning T you're growing together you're living together you B together you love each other I'm here with you I'm with you it's a in the Tora it's not of it's a simple p when you have people that you love and you spend your life with hasem says I'm with you take my hand you have those are the feelings that I feel for myself I feel very thankful that I have such a reality and I hope to be able to grow it more more more people more a aab is not only about learning it's about living your life with I bless you my dear friends we are friends whether we know each other or not we have each other we have one thing that unites us whether was farazi our heritage is the Torah the Torah was given to us before we even had a land every country every people is united through their land as we say the nations of the world what makes them a nation is the is the land that's what makes an American and an Italian and every single nationality their land is what unites them didn't give the Torah not in yush and not in harab he gave it to us outside of the land we were a nation before our land because there's something that we all share together and that's our holy Torah that's what brings us together and that's what brings Ouray and I bless you allal kados that you should continue to go build the build the and build the that you will see for yourselves for your children grandchildren amen amen after such an inspiring draer but we still get together each year like R you did your said not only to celebrate but also to take accounting and to take stock what we're doing what we could do better in our personal lives and in our communal life as benil the T says in this week's P that that CL some of Cl and the note what does it mean hasem it should have been hasem why is it underlined as Rashi seems to note because it was a complaint they were complaining and that's somehow connected to the o to the ears of Hashem what does that mean why is it connected to the hearing to the ears of Hashem I thought it's not mashman the according to this that the complaint was the issue and I looked it up in the medish they had just when they left midbar SI they walked three days straight and after walking three days straight with children they had a lot of children obviously there were CES that wasn't the issue I think the issue was possibly a much deeper issue I want to say over am and I'm not coming to say Godless about Yeshua salv but I want to say I once gave him AA that was worth almost I think as much as the that the great give him he and I can't be in competition with the great gim who give him money to distribute but I was in his house two years ago in the summer I think it was and he knows things that are happening all over so he said to me RA cinnamon you're in with us I said yes he asked me a few questions then he said you know I said I know I said the name Ra sheps was the G original tal of the bris he said yeah Ra sheps was a devoted talmud from the Mir AAL of his grandfather so I told him I was Z One Summer to be in the Bungalow County with RAF sheps and I used to walk him to minv and when I would walk into minv my sons were little then they came along and invariably after a few times it ended up we talked and learning Ra sheps was atick fire but we talked and learning and one of the times he said something to me and Kar Tyra I argued on what he said and he answered me back and while we were walking I reargued the point and then he touched my lapel and he said first of all ra sheps was close cl to 100 years oldu was not even a dream of being born when he was by the brisar and he told me so I said that to that said to me he smiled and his wife was even sitting at the table and she stopped the conversation with the Reon with my wife and she wanted to see what were we talking about cuz she saw how he was from that what was R trying to tell me that I shouldn't argue with him because he was trying to tell me don't think in Mir and in brisk and in Shanghai today this people people who to go ask and learning there's people who are giving over the T and today there's a whole blossoming world and we're living in that world that's not only about the Russia Yeshiva and the abon that we have to believe and be do just like they were do in the Years prior but it's also about ourselves many times we play ourselves short we're stuck believing we are who we are and we're just going to grow by becoming by doing things a little better learning more ding more of course that's important but there's something so much more we have to accept that we are the D DEA of today's door we are the ones who are children are looking up to our children don't have anything else to look up to they're looking up to us doesn't only me be your father or your mother of course it means that many times we're striving so much to stay young we're not allowing our ourselves to take on the mantle of the masim that every move we make makes a difference in De doas because it has an effect and an impression on our children and our children's children and the people around us the abish said of course you have a re right to complain but you don't you're not cognizant that after m you are now the door that was Ma and people are looking at you your children and all Theus it was RA people they weren't they didn't accept that people could hear their CES they have to do things and raise themsel up because they're responsible for future dyus I think it's very appropriate that tonight's dinner is we're honoring the as a to as a beacon of light for the whole Greater Community because that's what a Sho really is we accept that what we're doing has a hash and effect people come to learn come to learn come and it's a withar and all the adjunct in that take place from the are something that's comes from a point of responsibility should help all of us we should be able to feel the goodness and the meaning in what we're doing and that should drive us further to become better to become different not only to do things different to become B mention mention and that's really what the is i s k Le says when the told to do his a he called it a the question is what kind of aoid Mata you giving AEM a he's telling you to do it he's telling you you're compelled to do it so what kind of matona are you giving him you tell somebody you're obligated to do something for me that's the opposite of what a mat is the whole na was did it with a Mar with a fire with a devotion that's the Mata we can give today that's the you turn a when you're compelled into a gift when you do it with let's learn with let's with let's do like R did said really I really feel it we're in a different situation in all our lives from when we started this kabur we're growing together we grew together but now we're up to the next love the next love is a door of has a of we know we have the responsibility of being the Mas for our children our children children I felt a great Nas a few months ago someone called me up a r of a Sho in Lakewood and he told me on the outskirts of Lakewood and he told me they were having a meeting in the sh about something that's taking place in the Sho some K wanted it this way some wanted it that way and one balab said I don't know in by cinnamon Shool that's the way they did it and that's the way I want it to be done in this sh that was his vote I'm not praising ourselves I'm saying I see the keser Naes that the people who grew out of the sh and that's the matona we give ourselves when we do it with a we do it with an we do it with a togetherness and we have to respect it we have to respect others and if person who comes into the Sho when it's the all the storm that there are in the Sho we could see ourselves as older I come there on Friday or Friday night and I say I always look at myself I said I'm not getting older but the people listening are definitely getting younger when I see them there and with such aik and such a Gish reminded me of a they have archives of pictures and turas a few times I went downstairs and I looked at some of the pictures so there's a picture a gavala picture that I saw it made a rosim army an impression they have a picture of Camp missa and in Camp mifa came to Campa SCH was the tal mov of was the Rus he was brought up didn't know anything else and he came to taradas the first year he was in taradas he went out to Camp missa so there's a video and a picture of him in Camp M and he's wearing his capot and he's holding his hat and he's talking to for Learning and I looked at the picture the talking to him are wearing sailor hats with sailor uniforms I'm looking I don't think that was the uniform ofas and he was talking to them and learning and they even have on the back of the picture some of the names of these in the future and I asked somebody in the office and they said it was color War they were dressed or they were doing some sort of presentation and they were dressed in in Sailor uniforms I said and was talking to them and learning inah in and he was talking to them he didn't look Americana books that's not the way he looked at it he looked at did it we're going to raise them up and we're going to talk to them like I spoke to the tal in comms and in rames every one of us has to see our jobs of course there's a mer of nus and the de have to respect this young D for all the nus that they have to go to to see and battle but we have to respect it and our Asos we have to raise them up raise up the aspirations rais up the D of to raise up the D of and will give us the that we need for the I want to mention also for me my parents are here my father's and my mother all of us together to be to have the G the patience to be able to grow to be able to be Masia and to be able to do our in a way that will bring to before we get to the next would be remiss to thank all the people who help out here in the it's almost come out I said our sh is definitely in one way very unique there's not one salary that goes out from the there's not one penny that is spent not on the Kadar of the and it shows I don't mean it shows that it's sometimes not so neat but it shows on the gal rain kite that comes out of the Sho it's a little our Sho we have quiet people who are doing things I have I'd like to thank myel who's always at my side who who really uh is always there is too much for that like to thank the who take care bov Krueger and others who give us the the the of I want to thankin who takes care of all the projects in the sh I want to thank Rosenfeld for his being there Paul of the and rabari fredman and na'vi Schwarz and and everybody together because the runs and it's it's with a rain kite with a purity and that's why it is we just begin the next part of the program I would really invite because it's so hard to describe what happens in the SHO both on Fridays Friday night and during the week in the Sho I once had somebody from Lake WRA you did was talking ashkenazim while leaving Brooklyn so it was someone who came from Lakewood and I was sitting in the Sho Friday night the place was packed there was a coil coming out of the Sho and a person opened up the door and then he he maneuvered his way into me I was sitting in the front and he said to me RA cinamon where are all these people from where are all these B I said don't worry the has room for another hundred guys we'll put people on top we'll we'll bring a tent it's m the amount of Li that there isn't a Sho by a lior shabas and the Friday night it's a and the Sho gets beaten up and I have the Ritson always tell me make sure it gets cleaned up it's very hard she takes AAS for it and I say let's bring another hundred boys into the Sho let them break the steps that's calic that's what the Tas is boys I hear back from Yesa theas they come back and they repeat what they hear in the Sho it's such a for everybody in the Sho I want to take this opportunity to thank should help [Applause] him for spearheading thisal andin [Applause] who supports the whole this whole Endeavor and they come to learn but they like the sushi but we get them into the sh and when they come in the Sho they t a learn and it's and I'd like to thank them they should help should give each one what they need and everybody together should be it's also for the last year the Sho has become a center for dur during the week night Sader I don't know exactly how he got connected but y as was mentioned before Nai Miller who went together with all his Myriad tremendous amount of Aras that he does for Claus Ro it's it's almost mindboggling the amount what he does with and so many personal people that he helps he has it on his mind that the boys should come to the sh and he hires yite that many of them are here tonight who learn with the B who supervise the B and the sh is a m seven days a week learning and sometimes I say I come in they're learning some of the boys are shooing and I say to myself but they're shmooing in sh and when you're in sh you'll end up learning I still remember when I was a boy I was brought up in burrow Park and it used to be Friday night and my father's an used to say to me go bottle in Lakewood minion go to Lakewood minion hang out with your friends in Lakewood minion that's where a b used to be and that's a tremendous Nas I have when I see the boys in the Sho learning there so you should be able to continue with all your great Endeavors for from your children and you should have from all the people that you help and cl is thankful with you and last but not least I met a rashash Shiva wasn't Riva uh I met the son of the novinar rabba who's now the novinar rabba and he gave one of the shim in the shabas and it was seconded when rebella brudney also came to the he told me the quality and the kid of the that take place in the sh is a kesem both for the m and for the people who attended year the inim that are covered and the people who are there who come to say on the and people come M shabas to hear the she and to argue on the shear it's it's a kesem not only for the attendees but for the whole CL ISRO and GL me believe me it's it's not always so easy to get somebody to say a sheer on bakama now I loosened it up I said you could say in the last 10 BL but I have on my side Rebel Cass who's always helping me out calling confirming through the winter every Mo of shabas without fail there's a she in the it's a for all the that this takes place so of all these programs the LI that takes place every morning in the sh after daving we have the in the sh the Dai that takes place that's led by our Dai Commissioner of Sheldon spurn and all the people who are being in the and all the others should help all of us so I'll just finish with one last and I'd like to present the uh TMS to all the all the honores They once came with a settle to the to the chabin and it was the time the chabin was it was about shita so it set a big paper a Cru they wanted him to be the first one sign and it said all of Cl used to always support theu from the past Generations would support to sh they wanted him to sign he took out his pen that chov they thought he's ready to sign and he crossed out a line on the Cru on this uh announcement pronouncement they looked down and he crossed out so he asked him why did he cross that out he said of course we're makush to the free of theas of course we look for guidance of what they did but the said if I hold myself that we should support the every we have to live up to the task we have to raise ourselves up we are the Mas of this we have to accept it and grow with it so will help all of us we will will be able to be equal to the task