Nasa Na 1931 #8- Tricks of Soul - Make sure yr child feels good abt being home - G-dliness is Good

so we're learning the mayamanasana alias and we'll go right to the text uh we had a fabrega yesterday and i thought it was very good and people are watching it online so anyway um we are on page um we're on page hold on [Applause] we're on page one thirty uh two at the bottom of the page we're on page yeah 132 the second last line is what i have good i'm numb what's its primary function its middles its emotions it is to attain physical material matter um and it is immersed in getting that gas mias and it says in yiddish and is in them the word fatrunka means sunk you know like we say knows yoshi every morning the egyptians they drowned in the yamsuf what's the word tubu what's the shinish the shyness of the word is associated with immersion immersion and yiddish the word is far trunkin now don't don't make the mistake in thinking that there's another yiddish word to to drink to drink is drinking drinking that's trinken this is true and the difference is one means to drink and one means immersed what the rebbe is saying here is that the nepheshabamis immerses the person emotionally to get gusmies that's the entire objective of the staffordshire bombings top of 133 that episode and it does this in a very simple straightforward way in other words it says you see something good it smells good it looks good it tastes good go get it don't make do don't don't philosophize and don't look for explanations just if it if it talks to your five senses go for it and then episodes another point here well and it does this over the gears godola with great habit the habit the habitual approach is very much in line with one of the mechanisms avi that the nephesh obama's uses he's accustomed you know like yesterday today like today like tomorrow that's the way it is you know to break a habit wow is that hard where did these habits come from the nephesha promise in other words the neferja bomb is is very comfortable in the habit world it fits its modus operandi the who oh what does it mean in english it is quote captured the crusher and it is bound it is so bound because all matters of of world worldly matters this happens it this captures it this talks to it therefore in order to begin healthy therapy to get away from this feeling the concept of verses of praise which we which we say every morning it is to cut lasagna means to cut arizona branches thorns branches right you want to go to a garden you want to smell the nice roses you don't want to have thorns get in your bones what do you have to do you have to first cut away the ugly sticky pointy branches so what's the word success verses of praise being that khazal used the word zimbra which means song zamer to sing it's also associated with the word liz zamer arizon to cut away those branches okay so what are we doing in cirque du da vis-a-vis glorifying god through creation the heavens and the earth and the mountains and the rivers and everything else all those awesome verses that we read and took this abrupt what we're doing is we're cutting down the nepheshabamas we're chopping it we're taking it apart you know you notice what he says here he will to separate the bed from the what does that tell you hillel the nephesh obama's itself is not bad and this goes back to the point that we've made over and over and we can't emphasize it enough that the nephesh obama does not equal yetzer hara yates arise in the inclination of evil that is bad nephesh obama's is the drive that that tends to motivate the yetzer hara but this drive in its very core essence is pure the format that it takes when it comes into the world that we are in is a bad one because it it it follows habits and and and and what the world brings with it just by being here without aveda without thinking and working and all that that's why the rabbit says how you know la hafrid the first idea of tsuki december is to chop down to chop away the bed from the nephesha bombings passion as i've run used the word before we began learning passion is is is important the question is what do you use that passion for we don't want to get rid of passion say to someone because you are passionate about eating a cheeseburger get rid of your passion no keep your passion and stop eating the cheeseburger because you're passionate about uh race uh music but the music you were doing wasn't the holiest music cut away the the practicality of what type of music it was which wasn't the healthiest type of music for your soul and keep the passion for music and put it into jewish music beautiful words previously when he describes something he's such a master writer and although he's here to to take out to to exit to make the nephesh obama's exit and the cement it's been stuck and sunk and it got so stuck into the schmutz you have to take it out marshall for example gal me eights you have a a bare piece of wood a a piece of wood abby that's not formed it's just a it's a piece of wood okay you you want to make a cup out of it a table a chair this piece of wood the word game is associated with the word golem you've heard of the golem right what is the golden mean plain unfor not formed me commercial who the way this piece of wood is in its original state without any form you have shared elastic with metal cleat you can't make a clea out of it you know why it has um it's it's it's not it's not smooth it has rough edges what's the first thing you have to do today is on page 133 in the fifth line and in order to prepare this piece of wood to be suitable to make of it a vessel to make a vessel the first thing you have to do is engrave it from the outside meaning you have to take this piece of wood sand it down make it smooth make it workable make it be that it is now ready to be made into whatever particular vessel you want after you do what's called hakika me bakuts engraving from the outside it is now re afterwards you could do hokkakeem we engrave it from the inside la says kibble to make it a vessel we we carve out the inside and we form it like a cup if we want a cup if we want a table we form it another way in other words all of that comes only after you do what's called hakika me bakuts the example that we're using sanding it down and making it smooth so that is now usable before that forget about forget about what type of island will you make from this piece of wood you can't even use it because as soon as you go next to it you get a splinter this is the end of the mussel now comes the nimsho the morrow my cane the torah says man is like like a tree in the field through the activity called exalting god rainbow scale begrain them in their throats how do you how do you have rum exalt guarding your throat by using your throat to sing to god to pray to god reign my scale the exaltation of god begranon that we say in the verses of praise the highest with energy with his spirals and emotionalism let me make it clear that that doesn't mean you have to scream at the top of your lungs and you have to shake and bake until you fall down and crash but we mean that you are so excited in your darvening in lording hashem that he makes the sun and the moon and the rivers and everything else all the hallelujahs that you are a burning fire as you say those verses so let's now so let's explain this marshall in the nimshot a little better in other words we have a problem here we have a nephesh obamas we have a and the theft obama's has great energy the question is what are you going to do about it this great energy is messed up right now it's messed up comes along citizen explains don't throw the baby out with the water the bath water it's two separate things the water is schmuczyk get rid of that zombie the first thing you gotta do is you gotta separate the two you have to have the clarity that there's a difference between yet saharan africa bombings yet sahara get away from me i don't want to talk to you get out of my life but i have passions i have desires some of them very unhealthy okay we're going to work on transforming them and finding methods in which i'll appreciate using my passion for hashem so we start dabbing and we say hallows right and all of this says wow you know my excitement can be expressed through art my excisement can be expressed through speaking my excitement can be expressed through my hands every one of us has another way to utilize their excitement their nephew their passion so the first thing is to realize and come to a place where we get rid of him we cut down the the thorns and the ugly branches and then and that's called a in the language of the main engraving the piece of wood get you know smoothing it out and standing it down and then begins the avoid of deciding i want to make a table out of our chair out of it this out of it and depending on what the item that i want that's the application that i use and that ebb says when we speak when we and this is the meaning the exaltedness of god is in the throat how when we use our throat our mouth our gutturals to praise god and lord hashem with energy and emotionalism we are actually capitalizing on the nephesh obamas and the nefesh obamas is being is happy that its power which is passion is being used for hashem because as i told you the nepheshabamis is a messenger of god its purpose is to bring out the best in man although outwardly it looks like it's a purpose to bring out the worst than man just the opposite why must you say that hillary because it would be an oxymoron a contradiction to say god gives us something in our dna that's there to hurt us or put put other way put it put it another way god put something that's against god does that make sense it's it's analogous to can god create a rock that he himself can't pick up if he's the creator of course you can pick up the rock the stone so what do you mean he can't pick up the stone he created the stone god created the nephesh obama's so you're telling me that he created something that just smacked him in the face that's not called god you know that's called mishagas that's called stupidity we have to learn and understand the difference between stupidity and godliness and what is godliness godliness includes creating something that has the outward appearance and not only our appearance has the outward mechanism of lulling you into a place of stupidity but the purpose is you should overcome it and come out better last night i was at a wedding at this wedding i met one of the uh parents of the hustle nakala and i see it's a khabab wedding and i saw by the football he wasn't wearing the long black coat uh kappa they're like most of the barbecues okay full beard and then i see he's not wearing a garter under the hoop of his own child so it it took me for a surprise because usually a habadik you know has a capote if not at least so when we came to the suit i went over to mr mothertown and started to talk to them and i said i'm just curious um i noticed that you didn't you know have a kapot and a garcon and i see all your beautiful children 10 boys yes 10 boys and each and every one of them you know had a tie and a hat it looked very uh very very you know connected to in this case khabad so i said is there a why didn't you like why don't you wear a guard tool they said i'll tell you and he he was ready for the question because i'm sure he's been asked he was so ready for it and he and he started to engage him in conversation and and he said without i mean you know he didn't tell me certain details that i know about him because i'm close to one of the other hutton so without divulging too much he said to me i did not want my children to feel compelled to choose a path because of me i want that they should choose their own path if they want to be khabar khabad lithva not religious not religious he didn't say all this but this is what he and therefore i decided to become religious what one second hillary become religious but kind of you know not to i felt that if i become fully libavich in the sense of the outward you know garb and all that i am kind of forcing my kids to follow in this path and i don't believe that's what should be done at right or wrong it just reminds me what we're learning here about the nefeshabanis the nefesh obamas is a real player a real sharp layer the nephesh obama's plays with us day in day out there isn't a moment when we're awake and i would even say when we're asleep that this nephesha promise doesn't in yiddish there's a word i want you to remember this word guys japan and you spell it t-z-e-p-a probably chapped or chappin chappin it means to bother there isn't a day that this nephesh obama's doesn't cheaper us doesn't bother us and and that's why hasidim who were you know ahead of the game smart they never trusted themself anyone that trusts himself is a fool as the gemara says already the nephew can come to a person and in a moment take them somewhere where they would never if they were rational and normal and thinking they wouldn't go there but the nefeshabamis gets to them that moment that's what type of player this nephesh obama sees so that's what that ever says here in the mind but the first thing you do is you have to make it very clear listen therefore bombings you are not a bad guy in your very essence and therefore i like you and i want you but you got to play along with me me meaning enough is your little kiss and we're going to have a discussion and see how we can work out this relationship this discussion begins in tsuki december when we talk about the the heavens and the mountains and the sea and we're pointing to all these things we're saying to the nephesh obama's you never shall promise you like to go on a vacation you like to go to a beautiful river you like to go to nature you like all this so who created nature nephesh obama is god created nature so let's find god in nature and these are the type of discussions that we have with the nepheshabamas as we dive in chakras hilo you wanted to say something yeah two things um one thing that point about the nefisha bahamas uh seems to me in that way to emphasize that point that you're you're making the nephews of bahamus is a much more useful word than the yetzer hara because it's pretty hard to to to you turn this you use the term hara it's pretty hard not to think of it as a bad guy and it and and i said it is yet is bad then you have to get rid of it yes so the answer is absolutely but but again those patterns it seems to me are are often used interchangeably and um the nefesh bahamas is much more precise and useful in that way is the point i want to make yes yes but but again hilo you're right many most times they're used entertain changeably but when you learn you understand that they're they're so distant from each other and it's very core this is evil and bad this is good passion is good what you use your passion for is no good go ahead next point yeah i also i wanted to share with you when you're talking about the the the uh the fasana the father my rabbi in baltimore rabbi goldberger when he met his rebbe rabbi tv for the first time he uh he um and he was in his home he he he noticed that there was a picture of him with long payers uh which was not the uh which was not the um practice of his father his father at short faith so he he asked him you know what do you uh uh what how come you have long peace and uh you know that wasn't the practice in your family he said really touristy answered him by saying i rebelled [Laughter] yeah yeah yeah and that's fine that's fine but you know just for another moment this this idea of it's a delicate issue you know what we do do we have an expectation of our children our friends to follow do we not have an expectation so the answer is to have expectations is is absurd only have expectations of yourself not of someone else but nevertheless nevertheless if if i believe wearing a beard and not touching the beard i believe it's to be holy right so because i wear a beard like this i'm imposing it on my kids no i'm not i don't i don't i don't trim my mustache that's that's the way i decided although because there's a letter to the rebbe with acosta asks the rebel whether a husband can is allowed to trim their mustache the rabbit says ask el elder khasidim of the past generation because the the the the mustache is not the beard so even not even talking hilariously even according to zoar and kabbalah you're allowed to now he wanted to know whether that's the way khabad said there haven't said that you have to ask khabadnix how they did it 100 years ago and what i've seen is like this and like that some very flying custard do trim that much there some don't my son i think trims his mustache you know i don't so um am i now that i have an untrimmed mustache because he might be for he might fear my father no i mean you know so i think that's an absurdity but this fellow for whatever reason you know he if he feels you know you know i'm not again not saying right wrong i just was making a point that um the nefesh abamis is is a master player and he has so many ways that he can deceive us you want to say something else hello yeah just another quick charming story yeah i was once sitting with the strepka rabbi shlita of you shalom okay and he told me he said he was young his father told him he had to make sure his mustache was well trimmed and he said well i and he said the reason is because if you had milks for breakfast and then you have fallacious for lunch and and you put your hair it gets in your mouth maybe you're mixing milk okay let's go up it says in the oz pelim [Applause] here too this word is very precise after we praise hashem in our throat through praises of god as we say in the zimbra we make an impact hazzaza the word hasan means la haziz to move movement we shake and bake that nephesh obama's and give us the word is tresol megit a tresel or the more commonly word that avi you probably heard is a chuckle shackle like shuckling right so hazoza means a shackle we give a shake a chuckle this snapper shabbamis that it you know like i told you what does the zora say so it says that a chicken that has a schmutz you can try to get all the schmutz off between its wings and it'll never get each drop of dirt off unless it shakes itself so this realization that god is the master and creator of the world vis-a-vis the universe and everything that's in the world makes an impact on the nepheshobami's that the never sharp shakes itself it shuckles itself to separate itself from the bed let's show i'll call upon him the rep is very real in realizing like i told you let's say this morning at a good davening and you were able to knock that nepheshobamis out of your system and say wake up guy and let's go serve god somehow let's be a good boy the next morning you're ready he's back at it forget about the next morning time right i remember yeshiva i asked myself why do we have to dab them three times a day i know it says but what's the idea i just died in chakras and sometimes you have a good chakra some rum you gotta dab it again the answer is because in between chakras and minha you went and ate breakfast ask yourself how did you eat breakfast did you eat breakfast like a yid or did you eat breakfast like a glutton but he just doesn't he just contained the nepheshobami's but he is a player he ain't sleeping and then every opportunity he's back at it so when i went over to the spirit of male 1 and asked him this question i said that when i eat breakfast i don't feel one second i don't feel the feelings that i had during chakras which were more elated and more holy so what's the point of darkening so he said to me think about it this way could you imagine how you would eat breakfast if you hadn't barbed you would eat breakfast in a much worse way you're innocent you're the new rabbit sibo you like his answer to me so you're complaining that you're not eating with the greatest kavanaugh breakfast imagine how you would be without daphne the same is true for milkha why do we need minha because as we breakfast and as we go out to work those feelings of holiness and refinement that we created during chakras have been lessened and are getting less and less and less hashem says start happening again once again connects you to something more spiritual and holy and as the afternoon goes on and you start dwindling there david myers and as meyer finishes the krishna shalamita that we spoke about earlier so in other words the full gamut of the 24 hours is really a day in which hashem through the casao give us four times chakras to keep us straight and why because the nefesh abam is enjoys more the world than the rookness so yeah while you have it during the davening you could seize it and and bring it into your domain that's why the number says here i'm explaining this could represent the words here we show our couponing at least temporarily for a while i succeed in separating the nepheshabamis from the from the band and that's why a person should never trust themselves i don't care how old you are and how smart you are and how learned you are you have to be on guard simply speaking yes hillary and we brought the nephesh obama's along for the ride and it says i won't be a bad guy i will use my passion for hashem we create in the nephesh obama's nitiya meaning an inclination to good what does that mean it says that i have a beautiful last line in this paragraph the general attitude the elokus who tafe godliness is good this line here is so profound this idea that we that that we have the ability during davening to create one thing by the nephesh of bombings godliness is a good thing i know you don't know much about godliness but don't look at godliness as a bad thing you see most times the reason we are attracted or against something is because in our mind we think of it as good or bad so rapper says the first thing you have to do is we have to create by the nephesh obama's the attitude that godliness is a good thing like i told you yesterday that the fabregan is a good thing why because it's a good thing oh you get some drinks you get some talking you'll get some camaraderie and acoustic that never shot bombings has to come to that if you can't and if you don't create that you can't begin the therapy the therapy only begins when you're willing to listen to a therapist it will therapy succeed if you go into the office saying i know better than you no the therapist will say i don't want to see you again you know go somewhere i'm not here to fight with you if you're open and un to to being healed through therapy let's talk the nephesh obama has to be opened open to the fact that godliness is a good thing says that ever when you dive in every day and you say these sukim and you lord hashem and and you talk about all the things that we we speak about in sukiya zimbra we create an attitude but in fact that it says okay it's a good place the same is true for our home what's most important for the youth children grandchildren and the youth they should feel they can come home [Music] if they don't feel they can come home we have a big problem because the the details only come later but before you go get into details they have to feel this is my home i could be there the way i am and i'm accepted on a certain level then you could negotiate weary yamaka don't worry become a smoker shoppers don't smoke you shouldn't smoke at all but you know i'm saying use your cell phone not yourself be in your room nothing in your own those are all really details important ones but the first thing is get them home what did they have to say with the sader alba their four sons comes along to the baby in the 1950s and introduces a unique concept that is that set the tone there's a fifth son and everyone's screaming rabbit what are you an innovator what are you uh making a new judaism says no the fifth son is not in the hot god that not in the basics say they're in that goddamn because he doesn't even know it's pesach or he doesn't care about pesach so he doesn't come to the seder so he's not he's not included as one of his sons even the day alicia he don't know what to ask he's like uh oh but he's there there's someone on the street who's not interested or anti or doesn't know you got to bring him into the seder he's the fifth son that ever says he in the mimer the first thing you have to create by the nephesh obama's is that godly this is good if god is good let's talk and this is very important it could very important good that you know people will come counseling and say i don't want to hear about religion i want them to be normal and stable that's the first thing if you're not normally stable if there's an issue you know and what religion what what religion it lasts a day two a week two or three you have to be grounded and stable and feel good and all that then religion becomes very important and all of this is out of these few words in a minor that the nephi shabbat is the same thing it's a it's a wild beast pulling at us every moment there isn't a moment that it gives up so we say to it this darving arena every day in the morning chakras is a place where you'll feel warm avraham said it's cold over there right now you'll feel heat in other words when you come into a show you know the feeling you should have when you come into your shoe i love being here it's schmuck i'm sitting ashore i like to go to the show this i've told you about many times and it's like it's not i have 20 shoes next to my house and i drive all the way whatever all the way like five minutes away why because i just have i just love being in that show i don't know whatever you know you have to have that that's the beginning you have to you come to a sheer i mean i think we could say hashem we're already four or five years on this year we have a good feeling be being together whether we understand more we understand less we create a bond that's the beginning and then you can go further and i and i had this with my rebbies with rabbi yo kamehameha just being in the room with them whether i understood or i didn't understand whether i heard or i didn't hurt whether i fell asleep i didn't i felt good i'm in a healthy place the davening is a healthy place and this is what that ebb is getting at and that's the avoid of suki de simra to create a healthy place knowing that hashem is the creator of the mountains and the seas and and and and the earth and the old of nature it's a good place it's a very nice place the rebels said you trot is coming up the yard site and the day when the river became rubber 1971 or 72 it's already online the rebels spoke for 45 minutes a long talk how the world is a garden busy legani it's a garden with roses yeah you gotta pluck out the the the bad parts of the garden but this world it's a great place it's an opportunity it's not a place that's cold decrepit um bad trouble yeah if you look at the world that way you're a very morbid bitter person and and you and you have to see the opportunities even in the in the hardships the opportunities have a great day everyone we'll see everyone tomorrow sagas shalom bye good thank you