Nasa Na 1931 #7 - what is proper praise? no eulogies in Chabad- why? Stories Abt this

so we're in the middle of the mimer nasa no alias which is the passage in malachim 2 chapter 4 uh with the issue of tsunamis who sees this uh person who passes her house very often and she says to her husband this is a special man ish he's a godly man he's holy or even elena utamid he's can't we he's constantly passing by and therefore let's make for him a room and put in the room uh uh a bed uh a table a chair and a menorah this is um a that not only is it a a actual story in recorded tanakh which that itself is already special but it has much significance as documented in the zeira kurdish in the holy zoa with desire impartials i believe the true mode that's having volume 2 of desire page 133 the zayar comments that these four items are ways of being messaging correcting the sheena because the shrina is in golos and we need to correct the shrine and desire says that the way to do it is using these four items comes along the free the cab based on discourses that his ancestors already said years before and he elaborates on this idea and he says that this refers to the aveda of the evening the evening service and the morning service evening we know to be my river in the morning we know to be shocked but here in this miner that ebba has explained and we've learned most of it that the evening service in particular we refer not just to my river but more importantly to krishna and as i said in the past urim the pair's classes that this is not so common commonly discussed in jewish writing and especially not in you know the talmud and places like that so there's added significance to all of this what did he say is the idea of krishna mita he said to make a hajj you have to make an account and he said the account has to consist of two things what should my day have looked like and what did my day look like so in mentioning what it should have looked like what it what it should have looked like it says it should have looked like that when you get up in the morning you jump out of your bed you say no don't leave me first you jump out of your bed you wake up like like a lion he doesn't say that here but that's the concept and then you say psalms some songs miss maori to hillary and then he says you learn some torah he says everyone based on their ability following that you're dabbing with a minion and that literally means dominating with a minion if you're able to we're talking about the situation as a normal situation where you can go out of your house and you don't say hey you know i'm dominating with gathering my ten coco nephesh my ten soul powers together you have to be a very special holy person and refined person to really feel that but you go to a show where nine other jews are davening and you're diving with them shimon nestle together otherwise you're not david with a minion just for the record you could be in a shul for hours upon hours and if you don't end up dropping smallness with dominion you haven't governed that morning with a minion so you die yes so if you come late to school and they're and they're starting with monastery can you just start with monastery no go back to them no you cannot no you cannot do that halal is something called you could say certain parts of sukhitis krishna and then you cannot just start necessary and get credit no the answer is no but even the halachic way of piracy that we that i just mentioned is not the recommended way and definitely not the hasidic way definitely not the chabad way i never in my life have done that not once and i never believe that they will do that because according to the kabbalah tv is a ladder and if you and if you're on the last rung and you try to go up to the top rung you're going to fall and break your feet and hurt yourself spiritually if you're just starting to daven and you need to involve yourself in the abode of hashem which is a certain mindset and and and avodah you're not prepared to go into the chamber with god in this monastery and all it'll do is just mess you up spiritually so therefore according to kabbalistic writings it is not a recommended thing again according to if you want to follow that script technically there is a way of jumping around but uh it's not the recommended way so the bottom line is practically speaking sometimes you gotta wait between one and two million i like in the morning now in order to make the shear now i get up earlier i go to the first minion which i don't dabble with because they dive in before the nights before uh sunrise but i hear all the creoles all the predation and creosote and everything then i go downstairs and i dive in with the nate's minion so i've got him with the minion and then after an s-ray i try to say tachnon evolution and i take my chilling off and i come home so i've already heard all the foundations from before and i got the credit for dabbing with the minion because i died and i ended up dabbing although at the first minion i was there the entire time i didn't i didn't put two on that thousand trillion on so you have to know that the technicalities how to how to get around and how to navigate the chart of halakha when it comes to minion but let's get to the yes yes hilo uh since you're on that subject um and when do you uh put on rebecca tom the villain i i like now i'm going to put it on after the sheer because i have to this year is i'm teaching torah robin has more importance if if i wasn't if i didn't have this obligation i would i would do it in in ensure but but technically you should know that you could put on roberto so you want the bracha from rashi to go on the rabbino times too see it's better not to make an interruption so it's better to to put them on one of after the other but in a situation like this this takes precedence uh halfway because it's the rabbit i i noticed is this like a khabad thing that they put on a lot of times uh romano tom after monastery like you know by the time like ashrae valencian no it's not khabar on the contrary it's not khabar it's the other has to do that in khabad we're very we're very careful not to put regular times till after we say till him after a late if the only hasidic group that says to heal him with a with a minion should say taylor with a minion is is because the previous never said that is khabad everyone else does what you say they take their trillion off during khazar's shots and they put on rabbit times and they say they have a source for it yes hilo the um uh so when you um you consider making or having uh eating something a hashtag between the filling look again how logically the answer is no the answer is no because rapeno thomas is not the each of the trillion it's right the nikkor film is rashi so you put on rashi you yield to the mitzvah however there are some people that will not make a hepc but i i i i haven't you know there are people that will do that because they want to keep the bracha from rashi to roberto tom and in fact they won't make an interruption even speaking so these are all but that's not halloween you could you could do it you're right you know yes i i mean i i once saw a teaching i think it was from baruch measurements yeah um because who had a whole prac practice of you know making a half-sick daca eating something and having a cup of coffee between the film okay a very different mahala okay you know i i don't know i mean who who follows that today i mean who who specifically does that that would be interesting to know next time next time you're in tone the country find out because i i i never heard of anyone specifically doing that that's very that's new to me but it could be you know there's yeah anyway let's go back so so the rabbit speaks about this so the third thing is philippe sebor then he says followed by going to work and here too it must be mentioned it doesn't say it's optional after you dive and you go to work one person is writing for one person it's it's true it's drawing for another person it's it's being a doctor and everyone in their own way whatever their work is and he says you go to work and you're careful not to have a from a vac or no it's interesting that the rebbe uses these words avaca no means the dust of deception how logically you're not allowed to receive someone more than i think a sixth it's called um a bach means that the the edges the dust you know you're not ripping them off you're not ripping them off but you just you know you're just not saying the entire truth it says but ever that after to healing and learning and diving with a minion when you go to work you got to be careful not to do a vocal no two and number five is he says while you're working you should think about what can i do as a camilla's reset for someone else because then you show that the work is not just about putting cash in your pocket and even to your own family but you're thinking about someone else says that but this is the way it should be however then you say to yourself now i make 100 how was my day i got up in the morning i took the garbage out i cleaned the house i checked the internet i did sarcas first i did all the things for my house okay not great i gotta serve a chef first the next thing is i sometimes don't go to download the minion then he says even if you go down with a minion you don't know what you're saying because you go you know and you know you have no idea what you're saying it comes out it's it's it's disgusting so that's that's the way i dive in this morning it was just by road right and then he says you go to work and you deceive people you rip people off you say lies you make up stories and finally you're only thinking about yourself how you can make more money or you couldn't have more partners and all that about your friend you're the other you don't think at all and guess what he says you don't even think about your neshama you don't think about what's better for my soul to work harder to work to work more hours or less hours all of this is the part of the hash but you have to make at night and that ever said that when you do all this you he said a line that's worth repeating he says you'll have less heartache and you'll be healthier and he means that literally uh velvet because we all know stress kills and stress causes heart attack and all of that so when you are into your work and business and all that and you're running for the deal you make yourself crazy you're running all around think you'll make an extra buck and all that it causes heartache and stress and it makes you sick says that ever be smart be focused don't lose sight of what the goal is right and then you'll be healthier and this is all part of the discussion and it's worth each one of you should re-learn this and really memorize it i reviewed this my murray school shabbos i had a birthday this week as you know so i said a bible shabbos and shul in honor of it and i just took the this first section of christian shalom and i added a little bit at the end and i you know shared it with with with the people in shu the and it to me this is so therapeutic and so uh refreshing even though i've learned this many many times from when i'm a 16 70 year old boy a teenager okay but each time i learn it i see new things in it and especially gives me uh more opportunity for improving myself so let's continue now we're on page just just something it's very apropos today you were talking about the stress aspect and everything yeah you see how this today's stress is off the charts so uh you know i don't know if he was predicting you know such hard times like difficult times but it it really contributes i'm sure that the stress contributes to all the issues that today that you know that we're that we're seeing today right right right yoni i want to say something you know you know people make themselves stressed too someone will want to travel somewhere i said to them now is not the time to travel stay home stay home there's so many cancellations and there's so many rules you don't know if you can end up staying or coming and they'll let you come back you know last week there was a couple with some children who came for a wedding i know that she used to be a teacher for me in a seminary that had their shallow 15 years ago anyway excellent teacher bestiacal knowledgeable fine person so they came her parents live here around the corner and they came for a family sim club but they didn't bring all the children's they left some of their children back in jerusalem they announced you know uh during that week that they're closing the borders and they're not letting closing the flights that was last week right so they had to leave the wedding before 12 to make the flight so that they the deadline of the next flight they wouldn't be able now i'm asking you i'm just saying here they came for a sim club and unannounced this is what this was what took place now i'm not saying they were wrong for wanting to come to sim club but you know it's like i i repeat always what i told you is before what this ben brafman this famous criminal lawyer he said to the borough partnership to 2 000 of them before a tissue above one year i was there they had all these these these borough park is there and he says guys i have a son that learns in co little tunisia and here he is clean-shaven you know modern or what looks like modern orthodox and he's talking to this hussein and he says my son is in yerushalayim but guess what the f after he he learns for a half a day he goes and works and earns a living and then he said and he had a hasidic rabbit sitting next to him i don't want to say which one who he and his god by were accused of different things i don't want to get into that either but as a plea bargain probably he told them you sit next to me it'll be good for presenting your case for the judge and he says there are certain times that certain things the government is looking at you from with 20 eyes and you don't do it you stay away at that time there are other times they don't care about it i'll give you an example we're a basket the time that the whole bastion fiasco took place the the government you remember was going crazy about illegal immigration and that was one of the accusations was he legally i'm not saying right or wrong but the timing was couldn't be any worse the other issue at the time was unions and the whole issue up there with with the bosch complaint was involved unions fighting the unions i remind myself of another in los angeles years ago a very bright rabbi a supper talented accomplished they caught him he was talking to an undercover agent with money laundering and they came down on him they locked them up because at that time they were looking for rabbis and priests clergy they wanted to show that clergy you can't get away with money laundering or anything like that point this or ben brother said you have to smell the situation out there so when you mention now the stress the situation is the way it is it's out of out of control we're not going to change what the cdc says and what this governor says and what this guy says it's a okay it's not happening these people have their agendas and they do whatever they want with us unfortunately that's the way it is and you see when when trump and company tried to to to force themselves it caused the res that you know you see on january 6 what took place and it's still reeling and it's still you know and to me the timing was the worst timing you could have done any other time but here he knows he's leaving office and again i'm not saying that he was behind it 100 even though some say that and could be but but the timing was wrong so when you say stress it says the wise man his eyes are in his cup his head who is wise horrendous and ireland who sees the future the future now is that right now we're in the situation so just sit back yeah so maybe you can't go so you can't go but least you won't have that stress it's fair look stress i know what you're saying it's confronting stress really but there are ways of mitigating the stress and that is up to the individual it is us who has the free will to decide whether we should involve ourselves in certain situations and then have more stress or say no i'm not getting involved because right now i can't make a change and if i'll get involved i'll be more upset my family are upset my community and it'll be a bigger mess and this is an ongoing issue you know how do you balance the idea of standing up for what's right and lay and sitting back and laying back and it's an ongoing issue and this is where you have to be thoughtful you have to think it over you have to discuss it with some people intelligent people and and then usually you'll have less stress let's get back to the binder page 132. we're here at the bottom of the mimer where the rabbit talks about the difference between maidani seemingly maidani means i give thanks to god and hashem means i give thanks to god what's the difference so he says briefly that her might on these when you rot when you when you open up your eyes at that point you didn't study yet you didn't learn it's the simple faith and acknowledgement god you gave me back my neshama you returned my picado you're interested in what's a picado like you said last week but my deposit i got it my deposit i see i don't forget what you tell when you tell us your honest and i remember i tried to at least so i i i you returned the deposit my nasham is here no i'm thankful and then you start when you get to hoydu you've already said brachas you've already said car bonus you've already dressed yourself you've already began to to evolve here it's not just hondura in the sense of acknowledgements the rabbit says here it's in the sense of acknowledgement and praise and that's why in reading the haidu that that chapter of tillet i hope you've done this you've translated it and you'll see that haidu la shem kirivashmi talks about the mountains and the rivers and the seas in other words we are already talking about development and when we see this development how god creates the world we're mashable we lord and praise god in order to praise you have to be fully developed you have to be mindful acknowledgement is not praise that's the point he makes it briefly and i want to just elaborate acknowledgement means thank you thank you doesn't require knowledge thank you is thank you praise how can you praise someone if you praise someone and you don't know anything about them you are a charlatan you're a faker you're a phony you're a fraud and we have plenty of that too you have to know a person to praise the person you know i make these clips sometimes about people obituaries about people and i would like to make him up more people but i didn't know them well so what what am i going to do make up stories if i had over my lifetime a relationship with them and i saw them and i spoke to them and etc i could speak about them in a way that's meaningful because i could praise them based on my own experiences if i just read about them and have no connection i feel i'm just repeating what others said and again there is a place for repetition but not when you want to make a meaningful obituary at least i don't feel that way you know so so praise is knowing the person you praise your children we talk about praising your children you need to know your children because praising them without knowing them is fake and guess what they're gonna they're gonna they're gonna they're gonna tell you you don't mean it you don't know you don't know what i'm going through how could you praise me oh i was told that the recipe for a good family dynamic is praise well that's you know that's very uh superficial get to know them then you can praise them and and guess what when you get to know someone you get to know their deficiencies too right so when you praise them you praise that aspect that's good and you won't lie and praise something that's no good and that's by the way one of the reasons why in chabad we don't make has paid him you know we don't make eulogies even for the greatest person the greatest hussain rabbi raichiko will show them the previous los angeles he was so careful to tell i'm talking about schmool david right the father not the one who passed away now rabbi shimon raichi he was so careful he went he went uh to a um he went to someone's leviah and it stopped off in the yeshiva in the khabari shiva los angeles and this person was a good friend of mine but i already lived here and all they did was they set off you know they put the the r and the casket down in front the dharan kaidish and the yeshiva buffalo were there and and the shiva someone said a few words about him rabbi raichik went over to the son who just passed on shim and he said basically when i when it's my time to go i don't want a word said about me and they didn't overdo it at the at my father-in-law was that way too he he you know he left instructions he doesn't want anyone to talk about it and it was very hard because we made a slash him and we called up a few people and some of them weren't chabad and they you know spoke about what type of person he was they knew him so slation is different by the way than than at levaya the the the paid the the particular um non-uh speaking about someone that chabad doesn't do as a eulogy is primarily at the time of the leviathan you know understand not legislation why why because if you say something and it's not true it's damaging for the person's soul lying about a person at the time when the person's the shaman returns to hashem it's very bad it's a very very bad stain it's not good so khabad says just keep quiet don't say anything in the lichfish in the lit world and in the hasidic world they they pour it on they shower it up and again that's there tell you a story i'm telling you a lot of stories today one of the preeminent khabad khasid was a rav in tel aviv his name was islam he was he was he learned in the early years in the in the babaji yeshiva in russia in the night 1899 and 1900 in those years 1901 and he was known as shobein shah bed and he was a muslim he was a great he knew gemara hallach he was like in every in every field he was gifted he passes on in 64. and rabbi yaakov landau the the the rabbi chief rabbi of bernay brock was a friend of his and he was in charge of like the the funeral in a way and he and you know rabbi haskell sarna of came from came from europe when he came over comes to the levia because since they were both you know from russia and rabbanim you know that like i'm writing about now you know if a certain period were very intertwined you know and and they they grew up together in the communities so now comes to the levia and he goes over to rabbi yaakov landau who we knew and he says you know he doesn't say you know i want to speak but he alludes to him that he's prepared a eulogy we don't make any now you understand he's talking now to rabbi sarnath who was a big talented shiva you know and robert landau who was older than him i believe uh he didn't budge he said this is the way it's going to be there are no eulogies this isn't absolute bear yes he was the rav in tel aviv but he is lubavitch in its pristine state this is real the babbage from the rashad you know you know you're talking he doesn't say all that but so okay he doesn't so rabies aren't quiet when the casket was about to be put down over the in the earth absurd in castle in in ludwig who was a student of rabbi sharon bear sisling in one of the cities nearby into the babaji shiva he went over to the casket and he said rebbe whenever he called them that when you go to heaven remind the rabbi that means they're ashab that we are a succeeded and this is a an age-old blessing that le baba hasidim would say to someone who they knew who was passed on parenthetically when reflected kaaba passed away zalman schechter his good friend went over to the casket of slimer and he said to him remind the rebel that we are his cousin can you say that again it was choppy i didn't hear it okay but take off and they said yeah but take off take off he said the the i don't know if you're talking to me abby but if you're talking to me as alma shafter said to slay mcconnell as he's laying in his casket over there he's talking to a box and he says to him this was a standard and i'm still i don't know what standard this was done by some of the babaji qasid at the time when accossed passed away so rafale mccain did this to his rebbe raphael bears island rabbi haskell sarna we're standing right there and he's a hardcore lit and he says i i heard this was someone who was there he says i didn't know that in heaven they're also playing the game of rebbie and hussit in other words nick was it was a lit so to him the whole idea of hasidim and a rapper was like a game that was his that's where he came from so he said i could i i i i saw i knew that playing this game while people are alive but after the death they're still playing that game so the idea of eulogies the idea of eulogies is something not to be toyed with and played with be very very careful and again nili khabad is not to be eulogized okay at the time of the quran for sure meaning that day at the schleischen there's a little more room for it you know so what why why am i talking about this because we're talking here about praise when i when i learned this part of the mimer or learning this part that hashem is not only thankful giving acknowledgement but it's also it's also praise praise is a loaded gun because praise has to be emis praise is not stupidity there's a big mistake people make they they they shower praise and it's bubble mices lies false that's not praise that's scary that's lies praise has to be emma's so therefore when you've already started said maidani and you've said bruce and you got dressed and you said car bonus and you put on your towers and fill in you're already in the ballpark once because you've been thinking about god you've been making a hundred when you make a bra how you're feeling you think about what you're saying well you know take a look tomorrow morning there's instructions what you're supposed to think about before you make the broken thousand philly it's not just written instructions that means every morning we have to think about this before we put on the towers and make the broker and the throne and it's in the center look it up when you do that you say hey not only am i giving thanks hashem but i'm calling in his name mean to say i'm calling in his name with praise as it says and it's enumerated of great detail in the heidel that's the i believe the last part that we learned last week now let's go let's go to the bottom of 132 and um one two three four five six lines from the bottom in middle towards the the last five words on the page afterwards you start organizing the praise omar so we start saying if the heider what do we do moshe we do borrow mark this is up and then we do verses of praise he name is um at this point one's understanding and comprehension of hashem has been expanded and greatened realizing how the godly energy enlivens all of creation this comprehension has now been comprehended velveo by the human mind to the extent that even the the the the mindset of the animal drive of the yet saharan africa bomb is can also comprehend this we'll conclude here but the point being the point being that what what hap where are we at as far as we're at a point where our self our nephesh obama's our yate sahara starts hearing some sense that it can relate to you see when we come into davening of rum every morning who is the we the we is the physical the drive the indulgence the nathan obama's the yates of horror it's not interested in praying it's not interested in god it's not equal to spirituality so we have to soften it up loosen it up work on it that's the that's the order of tefila it's a it's a it's a it's a progression where we go from being not interested at all to be interested a little bit to being more interested and filing being transformed that's the four runs of trilo and shmonesri are four ways in which we climb and elevate and refine the nephesh obama so that ebba says here when we say baruch and we read you know about creation and who is the creator and the purpose of creation as i said it says there and he says and then we go to the hallelujahs praising god for creating the rivers and the earth and then and the the mountains and all of that what this this talks to the fish obama's like i i got quality what rabbi hadin schneizel said evan i mean would say if a brengan is a good party the nephew obama says a party i'll come to i'm not coming to a shirt but a party you have food you have vodka you have you have singing you have camaraderie you have talking i'll be there you tell me when and where yes uh is this um the fulfillment of the admonition in the tanya to to um contemplate the godless of hashem it's not the fulfillment a little bit it's not the fulfillment it's it's part of it and and you know when you when you say the the the greatness of hashem there's the awesome part and there is the loving part so davenink full dabbing incorporates all of it yes okay any questions by anyone on what we learned today my shirt it seemed like you want to say something well it's good it's it's it's it's it's it's not very good yeah okay kevin we'll see everyone tomorrow have a great day beam up sleep take care bye-bye