Nahar Dinar: Where Gehinnom Finally Ends (Afterlife #19)

Okay. Anyways, last time we spoke about all seven levels of ganum. We said all the names of of gay. We said it's called >> we did this right. Yeah. Yeah. Did you notice? But did you guys pay attention? It was we spoke about gum and which we mentioned was a that the is but we also said that it's connected. What happens gate benhum? We said it's called was it called because it was an open land in usim in Jerusalem which which is a gay and it belonged to Mr. Ben Hennim. His name was Ben Hennim and over there is where they used to burn their children. They used to take it there was an idol standing like this with his hands open and they used to put the baby while there were major fires all over the place >> and there were fire like Mo alive. Yeah. They put him alive. Yeah. >> Till he was uh till the baby would die. and and and we said it was t from Russian to because they would bang bang bang bang on the uh on the drums. They were bang on the drums so they couldn't hear the screams of the child. You understand? This is old news. That was you. >> Give me the Oh, you were there, right? Right. Okay. That was in this week's part of I don't know if you noticed. >> There'll be one part that a little bit. Don't worry, the rest is clean. Okay. Okay. Anyways, so we're trying to finish up here. I'm going to speak a little bit fast and try to do this a little bit quick. Again, I don't think I'm going to be able to finish, but we'll have to see if we can make up one more sh somewhere somehow. Anyways, last time we spoke about the seven levels of ganam. We spoke about the different things that a person does wrong in order to do it, in order to get there, in order to be to each level. We said the deeper you go, the worse you are. The seventh is the worst. The first is the best of the worst. How about that? Okay. The best of the worst. We say we spoke about different a which a person does. Now I want to speak about the things that saves a person from ganim. But we're going to do that by saying the different sentences that a person has in ganam. First of all the easiest sentence that a person has in ganam is he's there only for an hour. If he's there that's the first this is number one on the list says only for an hour that's a big discount. He only goes there for an hour and then comes and he takes him out of there. That's what the gumar says. Now how does a person get saved from gehenna and from ganam? What are the gulot as they say to get you out of here? That's going to be the subject a lot of the day today. But just right now, we're going to speak out a few quick things that you have to do. Number one, okay, I'm going to give you a quick list of things to save a person from Ganim based on all theim that speak about things that are get save from Ganim gets this special discount of only getting an hour. Now, if a person's ash and he does these things, it doesn't mean he's going to get saved. Okay? But it lowers the sentence. It helps you do chuva and it lowers the sentence. That's what the portion bring. Okay? Number one on the list as we all know as a person to if a person learns then we say that it saves him from we spoke about in the past it's a thing the Gumar says just like there's a cream of salamander there's a certain type of ointment that a person would put on his body and he won't get burned by the fire so the says if he does that he won't get burned by the fires of that's what thear says that he says that you are are going to be okay why because the Torah is esh andh doesn't get burnt up by esh. Okay. Okay. And that's what you should know the mal that's the brother of the he brings down when it brings out in the by when it says that he was in the betas he was in jail down in the dungeon over there says betasaurasaur the betasaur he says is ganum and the betasor is the guy in charge of the betasur we said it's duma that's his name and he didn't even check up on ysef because of his tora because he was such a powerful He was able to do that. I want to mention one thing quick from again I'm speaking a little bit quicker today because I got to try to finish up. So I'm going to be a little bit quick says in an incredible message. He says that a person who has one ma if he knows it especially at least by heart by heart if he's able to know it well so that saves a person from ganam. He says that's one of the things a person's going to be able to be saved from ganam. So it's an important thing to be able to do the famous M withiga right makage that came to cry over a certain person who memorized and she came to his uh to his ke these are that's that's I'm going to give you a quick list of a few other ones the ink says someone who likes who's willing to make a change willing to listen to other people also is called by the way because it has to do with with things that have to do with aut and and and things also brings someone who does the says someone who's and he's a Benaba the says someone who goes and does properly mean even if it means eating at his at his wealth whatever even if he doesn't have wealth but he goes out of his way to do it so then such a person is able to do it like we know the babatra that theorist went and he asked he asked for mayor He says someone asked for a mayor how why do you have or poor people in this world if Hashem really cares about you he shouldn't make poor he says to save us from gan because when you go and you give a poor person some your mom is getting from the says when you go visit the sick says someone who does says three people don't see someone who is a poor person suffers in this world it's good to know that okay a person suffers in this world or he also suffers from sicknesses. He has bad bad sicknesses within his body. He has a difficult life. He doesn't know why Hashem does this. But then when he dies, he finds out, oh, he gets to skip out on it was all worth it. And the last thing the Gumar brings is which means that he's in trouble from the from people or borrowing money, etc. Things like that. Okay. And of course the brings one more which is always which I've told people in the past before. someone who has a bad wife who does it. But people don't know the second part of that. Not only does he have a bad wife, he doesn't have an a capabilities of being masha or because his too much money, he can't afford it, it's going to be too difficult or she doesn't let him, etc. He's going through he's mame he's living as they say, right? He's living in gam. The guy's got to live in the same house with this woman. If you want me to say this which and at the same time so therefore because on on a similar note you should know his brother someone whose wife is who is rules over him who's the one in charge that's the word of mum wow this is fantastic no that's [laughter] this is the was written a few years ago so you have to know nowadays it doesn't apply right but he said a woman who who does it reminds me of the story of the guy who went up to and he saw there There was there was two lines. There was one line of people who who uh who uh who do whatever who do whatever their wife says. That's what it said. Whoever listens to every did everything according to what their wife said. Just did everything with their wife was ruled over them. That was a long long long long long life, right? And then there was another line that said that he was able to rule over his wife. He was able to rule over them. And there was one person waiting in line there. So the guy went to this one person waiting in line. He said, "What are you doing here? What's going on? You were there." He goes, "I don't know anything. My wife told me to wait here, so I'm waiting here. That's what my wife told me to say. My wife told me to wait in this line." [laughter] So, that's the moral of the story. Like you said, that's the way it is. Anyways, one last one is it says you get save from. So, that sounds like a big discount. That's fantastic. We're all sorted, huh? First of all, I don't know how you know, but okay. Anyways, but but as the epilogue to that one, let me let me finish. as an epilogue to that it says and someone who was only his who used it in it says someone who didn't use it correctly or used in the wrong places etc who was not show in the wrong places so that does not work now you talk about an extreme example someone who is boil one who is assur but obviously we understand that it means there's a cha from rashi that's know that someone who did sometimes he could be saved because they will take the the ara from a dead baby and they'll put it on on him. You should know the minig is when a baby loenu dies early before he was able to get a brea a young baby the min is actually to do a bre on them even before they bury him the min is to do a bre why he's not he didn't do anything wrong the poor kid he didn't do anything wrong but this is one of the reason cuz the brea is able to save a person from gets whatever we're talking about this gilgul usually someone like that that usually means there was some gilgul here so that's why that's why they do it these are the first category This is all the first category. People that get saved from gem. If they do it to its fullest, they do it to the right. The second category of people is people that are there for 12 months, which we'll speak about. We're going to speak about kadesh hopefully today. 12 uh months means 6 months in fire, 6 months in snow. That's how it says in the one it hurts this way, one hurts that way. And that refers to people who are orim you want to call but eventually they're able to um to get up to category three are people who never get they're always always forever suffering in gam these are these are apicorim heretics I don't know any other good English words heretics and and the like and and things most are people that always turn in Jews to the authorities someone who doesn't believe He doesn't believe in the resurrection. He doesn't get the resurrection. He doesn't get it. Or even people that are people that go and make other people sin. Not only he sins, but he makes other people sins. To these people get it over their heads their whole entire life. That's category three. Category four that and this is an interesting one here. We're going to get a little bit in detail. One little detail about Adam if you don't mind. Okay. One little detail that after 12 months he actually gets finished his sentence and he really is supposed to get out and they don't get ganam anymore but they still cannot go into to Ganeden. They still are not able to get into the pearly gates. They're still not able to get I should use example. They're still not able to get into Ganet. Okay, it doesn't uh that's he gets stopped from being able to uh get in there. Okay, now how does that happen? How is it possible that a person finishes gan and he still can't he doesn't get to he's nish to her hair to hair as they say he's nowhere. So how does that happen? So here there's one detail which I haven't spoken about in ganam yet and this was the finale as they say when we finish up gam this how we spoke there is a place not on this earth until now we mentioned how gem is located here it's on this earth we said it has to do with the core of the earth being very very hot it's hotter than the than the heat of the sun and that is the mccor of the nama of geanum which heats it up but as a result of that that's where geham is wherever it is but then when he's finished he goes up to he goes up to theim the spiritual world. Now on the way there there is a place called Nahar okay it's called din that's the name that is called it's in the musma there's an early of the mo the muser and the brings in nar is a place that a person goes at the termination of ganam when he's finished his sentence in ganam he goes to this place called nar dinor they refer to bit similar to Israel from going from Israel. It's like going from Israel because I guess it's like going from this world to the next world. So you're going Ku you're going from outside of Israel into Israel. Now to go from Israel, you have to cross over the yard, right? That's what we did. We crossed over the yard, the Jordan River when we came into Israel. Correct? We had to cross into the yard. And that's what is also to go from into you have to cross over and listen to this the same as yen the letters of yen is the same as dinar it's the same it's the same letters the same din just like okay just makes jumble the words okay so it's like crossing over and you go into it now what does this place do this place is a purification process it's a place where you get ku purified ified you know you get purified from all your uh what do you call it your elements okay purified person from his um from his uh you purify person okay from his elements from his I'll give you not a good mush but just to ring out they a lot of times before in the in the shawat and they they said that they're when they're putting them in gas chamber they told them they're putting him in there before and they didn't tell him it was a gas chamber they told them we're putting you in to clean you off of your um there was a word for it. No, there's like a word I don't know. Okay. >> Ku a car wash ku doing it like to clean you off from any type of bad residue. Okay. Anyway, so it's the same type of idea that that they we go through one has to go through this nar dinar in order to get purified for his elements. I think the elements the right word. Okay. That's uh that's what happens. Now this stuff is made out of the sweat of the there are 10 different types of angels of malim 10 different levels. the highest most spiritual level are called the kayota kesh the kayota kesh and it's from the sweat of the kayak kesh from all their hard work ku from the fire of ganam that they sweat and they make this river called nar it's interesting what that means though is it's an incredibly spiritual let's call it pain or ganim it's the most spiritual ganim that exists because we're talking about the highest malikim which are incredibly spiritual and sweat is very uh tangible very very it's the liquid of a person. It's incredibly tangible. So this nar this river is made of their sweat and a person has to go in there in order to be purged from the elements. So one can ask one second I the guy get just finished with Ganam. So what does he have to go into? I'm finished. Leave me alone. Just let me get in here already. What what do I have to go through one more of these things? Right? He's had it. So the answer that they say is because this is not for one's listen this one this is an interesting one. This is not for a it's not per se for one's sins. Okay, that's called a pam. All theim all the u all the dents that a person has. What? >> Blemishes. >> Blemishes that a person has in his body that got cleaned up in gam that part got cleaned up in gem. Okay, that's the blemishes. But this is for what we call the zoo. The zoo is the extra You have a good one for that. That's a hard one. The zuma is extra uh stuff dirtiness let's say dirtiness that a person has because of and this is what we're learning in the mult on on Monday because of the extra things that he overtook in oil even if it was things that were permitted talking about what he speaks about by pries and I know it's a little bit of a kadish but all the extras that a person did in this world all the extras that were not necessarily necessary I mean over and beyond necessary I'm not talking about eating bread and water obviously I'm talking about the extras that he did and things that he tried to get around the Torah and he didn't do something wrong but he did extra. So he needs that final. So you got clean from all your sins but all the extras that was not required that he pushed himself in order to have all the extra comforts which were unnecessary comforts. We hold it's okay sometimes to go in trip. We hold it's good to be comfortable in a certain way but not when he overdid it. That's called a zuman. It says that is required to go through the nar which purifies a person to his final purity. You understand? That's that's what it says. Okay, you understand what I just said? If you follow what I'm saying? Interesting. But okay, fine. That's what it says. It's a that says that a person goes through this idea that he has to go through then and through din then he's able to get rid of all the gash. He comes in clean as a whistle into and there he sits and relaxes and everything's fantastic and it's the most like we'll speak about in the next session when we speak about you'll see it's one of the most there's no tanoo and we'll describe in detail the incredible uh ecstasy that a person feels up there okay there's nothing it can't be described it can't be understood but we can try to explain about what it's about okay so that's uh that's what the vagon brings that's someone who's a lot of zuoma requires these uh this type of cleansing proc and he says like I said it's the way that you go from ganam through dinor and then a person goes into okay so why am I mentioning this so that's the finale of ganam but a person sometimes is not z to get into nard he finishes ganim and he can't get into nard sometimes he gets stopped they don't give him the to be able to go because his zum is so big so such a person is that category I mentioned before he finishes the 12 months but he still can't get to Laba and he's a little bit stuck. Believe it or not, he ends up getting a little bit stuck. Okay, that's uh that's that. >> And then [snorts] what happens? >> And then what happens? That's it doesn't say that's what he brings down. The yates bring this ganim this there's a called for proim very I'll say nice but whatever you want to call it but it's very detailed of what goes on in Ganim the says this and understanding that he ends up getting there and he gets stopped. How long does he get stopped? Maybe eventually he gets he's able to to get in there, but apparently it's not so easy. Okay, that's the fourth category. 12 months and then 12 months and he's not able to get in. I assume eventually he's able to get in, but there's a certain time period where he's in he's able to stop. Fifth category is a person who finishes all 12 months and he's able to get but he still requires a little bit of khim. How how do we know this? Vil Nagon um had in his time a person the the a certain RV who was a kush of rav but he didn't have any children but he was very person and the vagon this is incredible the vagon during the year of this person's death during that year of the person's death he actually gave a sheer in honor of this person he had some type of shear kafu they said until his yordsight of this person that's like wow I'm just I don't know if you realize what that means the bill would go and give a shir in honor of this person because he didn't have many children. So he did in his that was like incredible but at the end of the year he called the person when he was dreaming I don't I don't know he called him up on his dream. Yeah I don't know how he dreamt he didn't sleep very long but he had a dream and he spoke to the person he asked him a few questions. One of the questions was he asked is there ever anything that happens after gehanam sometimes and he says yes sometimes some people have to have a finishing there's din calimot sometimes they need to have a um they're easier than gehanam but they need it in order to come to that final tikkum okay some people don't get it and they hold them back from ganam in order to get a little bit of a finishing of of of a tikun that's what it says that's what the nama told told him it's also for But an example of this is brother. Let me tell you one example brings from that brings there was a mis that he was telling them that a person after ganim is is prepared to go to ganedan but he said a mis there was a ma was someone who wasn't able to get into ganed why not he wanted to go in he was finished he was ready to go through I don't want to say the pearly gates but whatever you know however you get into there And there were two crewim crew him that were standing there. Two angels were standing there not letting him in. And he said, "What is going on here? Let me in." He was obviously Israeli or something, right? He said, "Let me let me in here." He said, "I'm getting in here." He started a whole ruckus and is the what it says right down here in the z from is that the mashia himself came the over there. The mashia came and he told him, "You're not getting in here. You have to get to call the call the manager, right?" He said, "You're not coming in here. you're not uh you're not able to come in here. Um and he said why not? What did I do? He said you yeah you went through Ganim but there was one thing you did that you didn't get purified from Ganim. It was so big that even Ganim didn't help you out yet. You still have to go through some was it and this this mis repeats himself in two different cases. It's the same with two different things. The first one says because one time you knew that there was someone who was about to say he was about to say something and you knew that he was going to make a idiot out of himself. you know it was a complete mistake everything he was about to say and it was a fasha and everybody was about to stop him cuz he told everyone quiet let's say you quiet them all down so he can make a complete fool of himself and say that was completely inaccurate and because of that you're not to come into you still have to suffer a little bit extra even wasn't able to give you a kapar on that one can you imagine that's that's one story and then the same also in the zor is brought down on a similar thing of a person who had the same type of thing happen They didn't let him in after he finished and he said the reason why is because obviously a smart guy but he used to ask a lot of questions to the RV in a very uh cynical way and he was even able to go to a different RV but he would always try to go because he loved as they say the asking questions in our religion were big believers of asking questions and you're supposed to ask the R but you're supposed to do it with a certain or to do it for the right reasons. He wasn't doing he was almanter just in order to make the rebel look stupid and he was trying to get him and try to do it and because of that he received an extra double punishment after ganam that he still required a little bit of geam which had to be suffered afterwards. So we have such a phenomenon I just want to show you from these two categories that sometimes the person can't even finish ganam he has to go through nar which is also aoot sometimes he gets stopped on the way because of certain big things that he did and hopefully eventually he gets uh he gets accepted afterwards. Okay, that we have from that msa with the with the go. Finishing up here the last category is >> ask everyone. >> Yeah, say again everyone. >> No, no, you know there are people that are safe from if I'm already mentioning a good question brings someone who gets from he goes through a cold river. Okay, that's what he does. Also someone who's really not just give stuck up but he's stuck. He goes out of his way to try to help people and makes an Indian out of it. He's also okay and that's why it says what do you mean where no one goes you know for just coming to the you mean from that's already a bigoot right that's enough the answer is because he skips over and he goes straight to he doesn't have to go through he doesn't have to go through so you have certain times where you get a discount from from this nar okay let me just finish up the last categories here um there's yes Well, let me just finish this last category and this is a little bit interesting. There is sometimes a scenario that even a person in Ghana sometimes they say take a commercial break you might be pulled out and come back. Okay, you might be pulled out which is scary. Yes, you might be which is very scary. That's the truth. But we have an idea in Shar's even a person was very busy with kina all the time and always jealous of everyone always looking to sometimes he can be burned by someone else just the actual fact that he was a selfish person or always looking down at other people or very very uh very critical person of everybody and always negative he's going and there's another thing that's going I'll be honest. I don't I can't give opinions, but I I didn't like this one so much. Okay. But he does say this. I didn't see it in any other safer. Only in the Go brings it. I could show it to you. And he learns that from the there. But he says there is sometimes where they pull, these are the words of the Go. Okay. They pull at Sadic out of Ganeden to go down to Gehennam. This is I told you very scary words. I don't like it either. that he in order to watch his son who is a Russia burning in ganam which can make him suffer and apparently the way they touch you is they say a person wasn't me properly okay person he didn't if you did your best you did your best that person's got to know he's got to do his best but what enough punishment I know this say bothered me a little bit I agree like a person was ruined when he had a child like that but it's referring to a person who left him alone let him go he didn't take care of him he didn't work on it like he needed to do or he after it or he didn't he didn't again it's a go I didn't see it anywhere else it wasn't a zor not that I'm a bucky and all this but I haven't seen it quoted anywhere else that's the go says I don't know take it or leave it for what it is but I have to quote the sources for what they're worth you know I have to I have to be able to do it even though it's a very um it's not not a gishmak going I don't know what to say more than that >> you said >> to go and watch him go watch >> the oh a person who saw I it says it means burned by the someone Jarm also brings it that sometimes a person through his jealousy just sees oh I could have been that I could have been that that itself sometimes is a pain which is weird because you know but just the fact that I can't believe he's up he's up there he he was the guy I was stepped on in this world like it's ridiculous he's 20 times higher than me he's like a this guy's up in Shamine next I go to look at me right so there there is sometimes a certain type of feeling like that which a person can can get apparently it's an ecstasy feeling you're still fantastic in all I'm going to speak about this in from above. But at the same time, there is sometimes a little bit of a call thing sometimes that can happen. Okay. And last but not least, and this is important also, we all know that byite, which is the subject I want to speak about right now, we know that we do many things. The reason is because then comes back to the body and sometimes he gets another den. Every year he gets another den, another judgment to see where you're holding. Sometime you can put him up, sometimes put him down. he gets always a judgment to see where he's holding because things can actually um change. Now, let me just explain this for one second. Because the person's on a higher level, so the den the judgment is much more fine. It's much more refined. It's much more delicate. And therefore, sometimes a person can suffer a little bit in order to get that higher den. You understand what I'm saying? Like you people can go up. You you don't you even in you don't always stay status quo. You're not able to do things but you should know like we're going to speak about right now your children can do things for you that will save you save your skin as they say you don't have skin they'll save your nama right you tell your children can do things or let's say a person put out a seph or the person I always think about I mean besides Mosha Rabu I don't have to think about but like Rashi Rashi every year I don't know what what's going on over there I have no idea he must have I can't say he surpassed Mos Renu but he's doing pretty well every year like how many telmium does the man have it's like always going up and up and up so every say there's another deen where are you holding where are you going to go where you going to he's very he's going on a very high um on very high levels okay that's what I'm saying here is brought in the over rings and therefore it's very important to do an for the every because we don't realize how much uhim we bring to him because he's going through a den it's scary for him he's got to go come back down he doesn't know what's going to happen so he wants to see his son helping him out so on that note and this is the finale of the shanam which I was hoping I could finish. We'll try our best to see what we could do here is on that note we have a number of ways that a child can help out his father. Okay, or mother obviously. Okay, there's a number of ways that we know a child can help out his father. And it's an incredible to be able to do some things we don't even realize the power of the little things we do. We'll start from the easy to the to the to the least to we'll just mention five things that a person can do. The malef brings down a famous we all know is to learnish. We all when we learnish when we learn a Mishna the Mishna is as we all know which is brought down in the brings that is connected is connected to plus we know asan points out the are the whole entire Torah when you go through all of it's a synopsis of the whole entire is all in the which is the contained in so that's why it's a special to be able to go through all the in order to do it for the of the okay it says over there what's brought to over there in the in the in the eleph excuse me is that usher the son of Jacob a stands on the ganam he stands on the gan and he helps the guy get out he helps the guy get out if they learn for a certain person so it helps you take him out that's what it says in the by the by the by The blessing of it says may I share from and is the same thing because stands there and does and you find many many times many stories of many that said to do it recently we just had who was nif I remember when he was nif at the time he left in his he said he promises anyone he didn't really have kids who were able to do much for him he had one boy who wasn't 100% But um he he said anyone who will learn a Mishna for me I promise or I will try my best to give a to help you out in Shmayim I will give a sunor in a lot of people learn from you know that year a lot of people do he said whoever learns a little bit of Mishnad for me I will try to help you out upstairs in Shamayim to be able to help it out there a lot of things that did that aar who was an incredible humble person like unusually humble and ingenious and humble at the same And I know you hear these things about but when you see them inside you just know what I'm talking about. It's very hard to explain. I would read you inside some things that he writes just like he hates when people would write a he hate him the writing rebi he said only write a don't give me the go and rebi he said it hurts me it's it's a bad kit connecting and he was very m that people should only call him maybe or something like that and you don't know where was he the of yeshivas but anyways he writes in his that when he is when a person is told uh he says by my when when I'm pass away he says when I pass away I I ask you my mid and my friends if you can learn during this year for me please if you can learn a few from meish and also on the day of the yight because it's a big a big uh big time and like I told you the is the time when the nama comes back and he has another he has a proper he stands in front of the judgment every year so like I said even when a person's mahaba things are steady but here there things happen you should just be careful so that's why it's very important for the children to do things especially on the yard which we know you know it used to be that you fast now you should fast which is a good thing right but the just so you know what happened you know a lot of times the m is to put out foods and you make a and you do a biscuit of the so that which is good not saying it's not that but it's not the real mak where that came from is because you're supposed to fast during a during a y site and you're still supposed to do that it's really it's an Indian to fast during a yight of of one's parents but at the same time it brings that if you make a summ just like we do in pes if you make a summ it could be you don't have to fast so what people used to do is instead of fasting they used to make a sum on a and then they would put out food and everybody would partake just like a sum what happens like most people amaratim what happens and forget the sum part you just put out the food and they don't fast either people forget the fasting forgot forgot the sum and just put out the food within that's the easy one right you just put all the things to be able to do it so something something got lost on the way so I'm just saying is an Indian of making a to be able to do something if you're able to he was the big mush he said it's said very strong words he told to his children it's your I tried my best I was ne for you and he also said just tell me I was my and everything I had just for you you have to learn from me every day for me please I beg you if you can learn from me every day okay and the Torah or one second the Torah even writes that learning a Mishna is bigger than ding for the people battle you know hit each other to be able to become the sometimes you have fights in the sh unfortunately because of it but you don't realize just learn a mish that's what many the say that they say don't worry about don't take the learn an extra mishna do an extra mish for him and you don't have to fight about that's a classic thing how long you do during the year how much you ask >> no during the first year >> yeah the first year first year till the yard site and then on the yard site it's good to if you could do see do what you can do whatever I know someone on the every yard site He pays a few of he pays them all. Each one does a certain amount and he gets or or shas or or s I think he even does sh I think he gets it done. He pays a good number of on this on the yard site to learn x amount of everyone do one per I don't know exactly and uh and he gets or a whole whole thing you saying there's a every site comes back >> every we said because every every there's a new that comes up and I said the reason why is because he goes up in levels as time passes >> and he has a do he's pascam that's what I was saying we've mentioned two or three places >> where even when you're pascam I'll tell later you know the details but even in a prison and g is fantastic at ecstasy we'll speak about in the future after yum kipper will be speaking about after we have a kapar you know so you're ready for it but uh kapar there is sometimes a person seems to come back again I don't ask these things you know that I'm just saying over I don't know if I would have said that but you know >> and how many years >> how many years what in the yard sites you do as long as you can I know you're saying eventually a child isn't after you're saying also right Right. There's only so many years you can do it. >> 50 years. >> Yeah, that's a different story. 50 years they say the nama is not around anymore and it could be that you don't even have to visit the ke anymore. That's a big >> We're going to get to that when we speak about Gilgulim which is in the next cycle then in the next cycle and then will get there. You get that? Okay. That's number two. Another is giving as we all know giving the brings down in you're able to be for the that's what he says okay he brings his that it's a big he brings from that it's a big thing to do that and therefore if a person dies it's to give in his fromap to be able to do it Okay. Okay. Now, we're talking about a child doing it for him. Yeah. Uh the BV does bring from that and it does help the B is in a tough but he does bring that even though does help but it's for a person and this is an important getter I want to say for this and the next one. He says it's good for a person who is a sadik or he was trying his best, you know, like one of us, you know, we're trying our best. You know, you don't call me a sadik, don't call me a sadik, but we're trying our best. But for a person, a person who lived like a rash, there's no freebies. A person who lived like a rash, it's not going to work. You can't just give taka for him and all of a sudden everything's going to be hunky dory. Okay? If he said, if he said on his deathbed, please, you know, I have in the bank a million dollars, go give it to Mamoz. Right? So then there was a plug, right? So then so then it works especially where he gave it to right especially if he gives it there but if um if he didn't do that if he was stop it doesn't work. Now what's the reason why so went in a safer a beautiful which makes a lot of sense in the he said such a such a getter if a p a child can do for his father or even another person for another person can do something for the dead he can help him out because the poor guy didn't get a chance to do it or he didn't do it didn't do enough or he tried some he didn't do this and you help him out to do it but if a guy would be here right now this dead guy would be alive right now and he still wouldn't be giving he wouldn't bother he didn't believe in it he didn't hold of this dakai he didn't hold of the helping Jews he didn't hold this old Jewish bit. Okay, I'm he was a sworn atheist. You understand? If the guy that was his was not to do these positive things, why? So now someone's going to come and do magic and pull him out. You this person is the live person is trying to take the place of the dead person and help him out. But if the dead person would have done it either so that's what they say the Romans bring it the brings it this idea then it doesn't work in hindsight. you would right now in in wishes you would do it but it still doesn't have that uh that that to do it. That's the words of the >> that's what he says >> some kind of positive impression on this person or the person is >> trying to do this for them that even though they became a place on themsel life >> not to do it but somehow somewhere along the line they had enough of an impression on their son >> that did do it you mean you're saying especially if it's a relative >> yeah they must have done something to >> I hear if there is such a thing then you're right I I would say yes yes in other words I'm not talking about a guy who was tinukinishba let's say a guy who just didn't know better and didn't do it because he didn't know or whatever. I'm more or less talking about a guy who didn't believe in or that was wrong or this or that thing. But you're saying a guy who raised his kids nice and be good Jew good Jews and be this but just don't be religious. So maybe you're right. It probably would work. I would agree with such a thing. Yeah. Okay. Anyways, so I mean you have a lot of cases of sons who are and their fathers hate them and because they went because their sons are became religious and did this and their father they disown them and things like that. So I don't think it works in such a case. But okay another the two quick ones also that helps is when we do when you do ancariz or we do by the separate etc the different things that we do. So the of the of the just like a bow can shoot an arrow. So too you're able to get it out of therefore there's dimension and therefore you know especially we like to do we like to do all the time and try to do different types of if we're able to do it and it works. A fourth one which not everybody agrees to ispedim heped by the by the death apparently it's able to help him to give him a certain type of the gill marshall brings up and shin not everybody agrees to this you know there's a mubet says and we know if you see in the I would speak you can give a whole on this and in the wills of many of the said don't be maspin me leave me alone don't give aspar didn't want to ask but many people did not want to spade him and there's There's a big question if they're allowed to be mo and because we need to hear these people were very big people and we want to hear about them. But the reason why one of the reasons why they didn't want is because they say people exaggerate and you just say I'm I'm Mr. Superman. You say I'm so fantastic and this and that and then I'm going to go to Shamayim and this is what the shim is bring. So they take you they go oh wow they said that you learned when you were six right and they said that you gave all the duck to the entire world you supported. Wow you sound like you're Mr. Sadik of the world. So let's see is that accurate doesn't look so good right so they didn't want any exaggerated asp now with the I don't think any of them exaggerated they were big humble people but at least maybe for us it's uh for us it might be worth it not to tell them just speak as they speak speak to the point say what I did don't uh don't overdo it and you could put out a book afterwards if you want you know everyone's always thinking what they're going to write in my book to write all the stories and still in the middle filling out with the stories that they should put in right but uh you know what I'm Don't don't don't beckon for two big Hispanai. >> I I just remembered I read this story. I don't remember how this guy Israeli guy >> Yeah. >> came back from life, but he that's what he said. He said I I don't know if he came >> that one. >> No, it was a different guy. Okay. >> I saw this like if you quick I only have a few minutes. He basically said at the when they start your hesit he said there's two malim they open when they standing you at the bed. >> Oh boy. >> You're watching and every time somebody exaggerates they start beating you. >> Oh my gosh. Okay. Let's continue. I see like that one. See that's not fair. I know. I know that's not fair. Okay. Very good. The last but not least and with this I'm going to I want it to be Marik. What do I have? 10 minutes. Let's do in 10 minutes. Let's see if I I can take 10 minutes. Okay. >> So, so a little bit late. 10 minutes. Okay. 10 minutes. Of course, we know the of kadesh saying kadesh for our mother or for one's mother or for one's father. Okay. This is an incredible. It's number one on the list. You don't know how powerful this mechanism is. People think it's not. The idea is the fact that you're to go and you go and you are so the gets for the it says negative all the sins that he did he gets a certain a certain reminder until he's brought It's brought in that a person is released from extra pain if his [clears throat] son is there to say um I'll tell you parathetically I keep saying son but the truth is even a daughter can do it okay don't tell anybody that really daughter can do it there's just slight other problems as we all know that it's not so etc but when you look in certain if a person doesn't have a son and he has a daughter a daughter can do it but they Hey, it's not appropriate and who she's going to come to all the time and do it. So, just hire someone to do it instead. But that is the I hope that went over the cam well. Anyways, the Arizal also brings down a big misconception. People think that kadesh is only to release a person from he says it's incorrect. It's also to release a person from ganim, but it's also it also brings a person into ganed. It's not only takes you out of ganam but also into gan. If you remember we said it's not a one-way ticket always okay it helps you do that and not only that he adds a third point takes out a ganim also gets into ganen and also helps him to go higher and higher in ganed to able to go higher and higher in ganed and therefore he says that's the reason why he says you should say it even on Shabbat you ever think about it why do you say kadesh on Shabbat we mentioned on Shabbat there is no everybody's at rest now a person who is Shabbat someone who did not keep Shabbat he gets hit over the head also on Shabbat Yes, he does get hit over the head. He gets g on Shabbat. But a person that we know, you know, the guy was keeping Shabbat Shabbat, he's got he's got a break. He gets vacation on 24 hours a week. Okay, he gets off in why he's saying Kadesh during that time. So the reason says that's the reason why because you still want to raise him into higher levels higher levels in order to get him to gen okay based on this we have a number of different she about how long to say kadesh for because we all know the ideal time to say it is 12 months is the amount of time of 12 months the brings in that kadish should be said 12 months 12 months because That's the amount of time that a person is as we say his maximum sentence that he's in get. However, the Raman says for parents it's not nice to do you're being you're insulting him but if you say kadesh for the whole 12 months then what you're saying he got maximum sentence he got the full penalty. So therefore the that's do only 11 months they say only for 11 months they do the and that's why the min is like that the also brings in that it should be a day before the 12th month in order to make sure you don't go into the 12th month in order to avoid this problem and like I said that's clear how the however there are other which the a little bit go with that and that's brought in the and that is that we want to do like The Arizal the Arizal said people think you do. So why do we do all 12 months? Does anyone know why really does all 12 months? >> You told me that >> it's not nice. Right. >> After 11 months you do a week a week. >> Right. Right. So one second I'm going to get to that. So the reason why we do it the whole 12 months is because the Rizel said it's not only for Gam. You're not insulting him. Maybe his Gam was a month. Maybe it was two months. But now he's in Gan and give him give him a few levels. You're going to get him up on the rungs up there in Gan and let him let him have a little bit more uh uh brownie points up there. So that's why it's good to do the whole entire 12 months the uh the uh the kadesh al said that that's the why don't you do it for the whole entire for the whole entire 12 months and that's what's brought in the pelle the pelle and kud inside he speaks over there pelots was a very very tough tough person in his farm the and also the pelleoitz they both say it's kad to say the whole entire 12 months every day without skipping The other sheet is just wait. He says because who here can say that one of which one of us can say that we're clean from we should have only 12 months really who knows some people can have more than 12 months. We we spoke about right sometimes you get the one gets the one gets delayed in gets pounded in the grave and that could take a few weeks. Okay. Okay. And then he says and even after Ganam is over like we mentioned earlier that sometimes there's post Ganam the guy's got to go through nar dinor he's got to go through the river of dinor or sometimes he has to have those other ganam things if he did something very big etc etc there are other things that can delay the 12 months and who says he says you should only have 12 months I thought the pelleot was a real tough the pelleot is the same author the chevita muser which is the book that we originally started all the sher with that you don't like you remember you know what I'm talking about right he is a very no no whole board. Okay. But uh that's uh that's that's what he says. So he says the whole 12 months. What does do theim want to do the but at the same time we don't want to do. So we do or like the or the ben the banish says to skip one week in the beginning of the 12th week of the month and the says to skip one week at the end of the 12th month. Skip one of the weeks. That's it. All you have to do is skip one week. Why do you have to do more than that? And then you almost have 12 months minus a week. You have 12 months minus a week, which is a good way to get around to it. The bench guy says it better do the beginning of the 12th month because he says the last weeks are the best weeks. They're the most important weeks. He's probably in Ghana and you want to help him out in ganed. The guys is a big kish. Listen to this. He says that we all know on Shabbat right now all the people who are in Gan are standing in front of the D to see are you going back or you not going back. Every week they go back to see who goes back. Are you going here? Someone was on level seven. Maybe you'll be put on level six. You go to number two. You go one. Oh, you get to go to Ghana. Everyone gets you get nardinor. Everyone gets their every week about where everyone's going. You understand? But he says a person who was in Gam. And really on m Shabbat they say, well, he he needs to have three more days. He needs to be in Gam for three more days. They give him a freebie. That's what they say. He says, no, they round it off kilo. Okay. For month, okay, we'll put him in. We'll let him go. They let him go and he gets he gets a discount. And you guys say, "Wow, 12 months, three days, big deal. You shouldn't be there." But trust me, every every hour is a discount. You understand? It's a big it's a big. So he says that they do this. So that's why that's why um that's why we start saying for him kadesh from the Shabbat before and that's also why over here the last weeks are very important because the last weeks he's already ina probably and you want to get him as high as you can in the higher world. So he prefers you skip the first week in the 12th month and not the last week in the 12th month. You follow nice I'm saying it's all in everything I just said is in gimb >> the last week you add add another week to the last week. >> Why would you add another week? You mean afterwards? >> Afterwards? No. No. I say you skip like I told you. You skip the first week. You finish the last three weeks and then that's it. And then you finish. That's all. >> That's all. Just there's another thing when there's a 13th like in this with this year. What happens [snorts] when you have that? So some people say you should do the 13th month and some people say you shouldn't do the 13th month or someone kuger wrote in is it I want you to do all 13 months for me I don't know where I'm going was going I have no idea he was he has like 50s farm I'm not kidding all in ppull very big person he says look I don't know how long I'm going to be here I want he told his sons I want you to do all 13 months for me including noar like if he said that the one we we shouldn't get that like I don't even like what I mean he wants you to do the whole entire thing okay so then so his his sons went and asked a question to the they said are we allowed to do all 13 months and maybe he can't be mu and so he wants to be m what do you say you say ml in English >> to relinquish he wants to >> actually >> can he be m can he what relinquish >> relinquish can he relinquish his rights to do such a thing >> yeah the 13th when you do it as a state isn't it >> huh >> you do 13 months as a state >> so I'm saying it's a some people say yes and some people oh y on the day of the Yeah, I'm saying you don't do so. The 13th is a question. >> 13 month. So you do the 13 months. >> Correct. >> Isn't it right? >> And the 13th. That's right. Yeah. >> Okay. So here you have a number of opinions about this idea. I just want to show you. Some are 12, some are less, some are this. And with this we will end with two stories, two interesting stories of people of the power of kadesh. One is a very famous story. It's a very famous story. I wanted to read it. I'm not going to read it to you. But I'll just tell you a quick story. This one is with Revaka. Rabbi Akriva saw a person who was all black. He was black like soot, okay? Running back and forth carrying loads like pounds pounds of wood on his back going back and forth. Rabika stopped him. Rabika was able to stop and he said, "I demand for you to tell me what who are you? What are you doing?" He said, "Leave me alone. I'm in trouble." He says, he said, "I'm going to help you. If you're a slave, I'll get you out of it. If you need money, I'll I'll give you just I want to help you. What do you want me to do?" So he said, "I'll be honest with you. I'm a dead person. I'm a dead. I'm in a sh that that's dead and I'm being punished forever to go and bring the wood which is going to feed the fire which is going to burn me every day. That's the wood that's burning me every day and I have no and and you have so he says, "What's your takana? How can I help you out?" So he says, "Any takana? There's no takana for me. Why? What did you do?" He says, "I was a gabai. I was a tax collector." Okay. So now you know what job not to get. He was a tax collector but what he used to do is he used to be very uh he used to do favoritisms for the rich people to get extra money and he used to and he used to it says he even killed the poor people. He used to get rid of the poor people or really be mean to the poor people. He was very very vicious to the poor people in order to make more and more and more money. So he was able to make a lot a lot of money in that type of way. So so I I have no taken I'm finished. He says is there something I can do for you? He says what are you going to be able to do for you maybe for me? Nobody likes me. Everybody hates me. I have no friends. Right? You ever heard that expression? Right? I have no friends. It's not the thing. But all and I have one wife that I left. I do remember when I left, she was pregnant. I don't know what she I don't know what's in her stomach. They didn't have ultrasounds back then. But uh whatever. I left a pregnant wife and I have no idea what's going on with her or whatever it is. So he demanded, "What's your name?" He said, "My wife's name is my name is Akiva." Interesting. His name was Aka. My and my wife's name is Shujbina. I live I come from Ludkia. So Rika was mits a man a man who never wasted time. He went very very he worked a lot very very hard to be able to find out where this guy lives. He found his wife found this. He was asking the people in the city where about this person who was you know the guy and his wife was so they all said he's dead we don't like him. He was a jerk. And they said what about his wife? They should go to him. They're all jerks. He said, "Okay, anyways, after the can you tell me where he's located? Do you mind?" He said, "You see the Sadik like I would just like leave. I I don't think I'd be so interested." So, he went and he found out that this lady had a boy. She had a boy who was already a grown boy. It was a number of years. This man was doing this for 10, 15, 20 years or so. And uh and he went to the boy. He was uh the boy was completely ash. Surprise, surprise. He was completely acting like a He was no he was an oral he wasn't he didn't even have a brea this boy she didn't even give him a brema and that's it and so went to him and said hey buddy what about saying kades for your father he was like what what are you nuts he said you stupid rabbis you crazies go away from me right till it says and isn't that now you wonder how do you do kiru you have to read these things to do kov you know what ka did how do you do kov he applied him to why it doesn't say that you know what he did he fasted 40 days he fasted Ed 40 days for this child and for this guy that he should be able to be and after the was he went and he taught him he taught him and I'm quoting you straight from the world until he taught him how to say andalash in front of them and that's it and he was able to teach him how to do that and of course as most of these stories end as you all know the guy appeared to him to Rika in a dream and he said bar uh He gave him a braha and he gave a brah a massive braha to rabika. He said now I'm in ganed. He tell you you were mi um from Ganedan and I'm going to be mit in shim. Anything I can do for you that uh that he and he told him he he told him that the second my son went in front of the ta and said kadesh they got rid of my zardin and they pulled me out of this din I had and when he learned so then they let me go into ganed. They said they actually stopped all the treachery I had. They pulled me out of G with his kadesh. And when he went and started learning Torah when my son started learning Torah, they were able to pull me into some place in Gan. I don't think he's in the highest things and he's up there together with Ga. But he got to be somewhere in Ganed and you see the incredible power that his son is. That's one story. Let me just say one last story and will this one and this will finish. Okay. Actually have two stories. Two short stories. One one two short stories and one that will finish. Okay. stories you can over over time. Yeah. Um the next the next story is so you know let me I'll start with a short story and then the longer story. Okay. Rifter was flown with eight bakim to someone's wedding because he was doing it in some boondog place somewhere in America. It's true story and stay in the safter that he was going to some strange place where he didn't have so many people and he flew eight of his friends and rigifter plus the katan was a minion. Okay. So he had a minion together with the 10 of them. He brought the thing he flew and while they were flying and they were supposed to land in a certain area. It was a very bad day. It was a bad day. It was a lot of rain and this and it was very treacherous day. The plane was not able to land in that area. Was not able to land. It was probably New York or something. So he wasn't able to land in that area. So he he overdid that. Instead of Newark, he went to JFK. I met at the airports, I'm assuming, but I don't know. Okay. But he he moved to a later airport. They had to go to the other airport in the area in the area because they went into the other airport. They realized that we're not going to make the wedding cuz they have to drive back to the place where the wedding was and they realized it was going to be late and they also didn't have mka. >> They had the >> So they said what? >> The with them anyway. >> They was there with them. >> No, no, he wasn't with them. He was waiting by the wedding. He was going to be the 10th man when they got there. Oh, they got >> Yeah. They didn't have the with them. So they said, "We have no choice. We have They were in some Oh, they were in a strange place. So it must be JFK. I mean, maybe they Okay, they're in some strange place. They said, "We have no choice. We're nothing to do. We're going to have to dish." So, they asked the Sabal, they asked the guy in the airport over there, the guy who was the, you know, one of these guys in the corner. Can you find just a quiet corner that we can go and pray to the Lord, right? So, the guy showed him an area in the corner and this and they all dove in. They finished doving and that was it. They finished the land of So, the guy looked at him and said, "Why did you guys say kadesh?" He goes, "What do you mean, why didn't you say kadesh? We don't have a minion. We don't mind people and how do you know what a kadesh is? What? I'm not a Jew. He was wearing Jew. He was nothing, you know. He looked like a go. Yeah. He said, "What? What am I not a Jew? What am I chop me? What is this?" So he said, "I'm a kadesh." And immediately the guy started saying kadesh. The sabal the the guy working in the airport. He started saying kadesh because he was the 10th man for this for this thing. A true story. He was the 10th man. After he finished kadesh, they said my eye like what's going on? He said, "I'll be perfectly honest with you. My I didn't grow up in a religious family. I didn't I'm not religious person. I never was religious at all. But my father came to a dream to me last night. He came the story of Gifter. I'm talking about 30 years ago. I'm not talking about them. My father came to me in a dream last night. He said, "You don't say kadesh for me. I'm suffering over here. Say something for me." He said, "Aba, I apologize. I don't have a minion and I don't have time to do these things. Leave me alone." That's what he told him. He said, "What do you want me to do? I can't do anything. I'm not a religious person. This is not something I do." So your his father said, "I'm going to work things out for you, but you're going to say cut it for me." And the next day he got this minion and the next day he got this minion in the airport. They skipped the the airport. You got they weren't even supposed to land there. They're supposed to land somewhere else. Hashem made a storm over there. They went to another place and then this told by a gift himself who was there. Come on. You can't make that stuff up. He said the guy said so he said. So I said it for my father. That's what I had to do. Last story. Well, this will finish and this is a bummer and this will close. This is brought the safer. This is a this is a safer about Yseph Zonenfeld. He was the Ravim in the early 1900s even before there was a Medina like I mentioned before there were Jewish people here before there was Medina. Everyone thinks that they started it. There were there were there was many people here everything was things were tut here just the Arabs weren't so rich and so bad but it got worse. Anyways in the 1920s and 30s he was he was very close with RKU. He was very close with Rafuk. were they at a similar level but the big anyway so listen to what this misa brought from himself brings his ma he says there was manta over here in Jerusalem there was a woman who was a wealthy woman she was married to a wealthy man had a very successful business and they used to support the a certain yeshiva they used to give a lot of money yes but she would only not only but she would do a bis that there would be one person there that would always say kadesh for all all the people who don't have someone to say kadesh for them. So there was always a person there and every kadesh they would always work it out all the names that they knew whoever didn't get a kadesh whoever doesn't have a non-religious son or whatever these types of things they would they would do they would have a list of people that they always do kash and she she would give a lot of money to this yeshiva as things have it her husband was nifer her husband passed away in the He's