Mystical Tips To Having Boys - JEWISH INTIMACY (20)

throughout the last several months the ranes has taught us to look at Jewish intimacy completely different than anything we've ever imagined he's prepared us intellectually he's prepared us physically he's prepared us spiritually for this extraordinarily holy act that is another way for us to bring Sparks of Kusha to the world tonight he's going to teach us how to beat the system if you want to have little baby boys coming from you little baby boys that are going to drive you crazy but you've been looking forward to meeting them your whole life is there really a way for the Torah to help you bring boys to the world the same token why not girls and as a bonus in the beginning going to hear about is there a way for you to be greater than mosenu with a simple Act lots of interesting insights lots of Holiness and lots of opportunities for you to learn to follow to share and to be holy we're back here on our Tuesday night series of uh Jewish intimacy where uh we're learning all over again what is intimacy uh what's the ideal way to uh serve hem even through this very uh uh holy act this intimate act and uh how do we uh really use the wisdom of the Torah in order to uh create Holiness in every single act uh that we can possibly uh uh do in this world now um the sh tonight is going to be for the of in all of in all of the righteous no may they have and also a couple things uh just to uh since we're really running out of time I have to do this I know everybody is very interested in this series and so am I but uh we have to do uh a little bit of uh updates uh okay first and foremost we have the uh campaign uh the uh campaign of the uh PES campaign as we uh discussed each year we have a campaign to uh help poor people specifically in is Torah scholars in Isel uh to for the holiday of PES last year uh we pre-funded the uh campaign with uh nearly a million shekels uh you know and uh this year we thought that uh you know things were going to take a little bit more time but uh what ended up happening actually is that uh we ended up doing a lot more than uh we thought was even possible and we ended up arranging a couple of major things number one we have a uh a way to not only uh help the scholars but also confirm that these Scholars are uh you know are are are also going to help us help help us you know eliminate the decrees that are with all the anti-Semitism and the hatred and the war that's in the air right now we need as much help as possible so we arranged a group of 540 aim Torah Scholars uh obviously you know each one of them with families this isem the uh list of different teams of Scholars each one with how many pages they're going to do you know the first one is going to do 64 the other one 157 105 121 you know very uh precise list to complete the entire Shas bav in uh in a single day uh by the team and of course uh this is uh something 2720 theim uh this is something Monumental it's not something that happens uh you know often it's not something that usually people have the opportunity to be uh a part of especially not for PES it's the first time I've ever heard of it but this completion of the Shas uh on on PES is not only going to increase the Torah in the world but also it's going to help us uh you know uh help these people help these uh families each one of them has a family we're talking about uh north of 5,000 people uh that are going to benefit out of this because each one is going to get uh uh you know a stipend to help them with the holidays in addition to that uh uh we uh we have a so just calculate the uh the math here we're talking about a few hundred thousand shekels just for that uh and the event I actually thought may actually take place during or maybe after but they're actually holding it next week so we had to pre-fund it uh and um in addition to that we have a lot of uh widows uh orphans uh divorce people that are simply struggling uh contacting us uh people that we know and that have been on the list since we had the event last year and uh we're trying to do the best that we possibly can uh to uh to help as many as we can we have a whole list you know some people are trying to contact us even now uh that we don't know them we really uh feel bad but we can't help everybody uh but uh there's the stories are horrible and and and I'll start off with uh with this uh today I uh anyone that looks at the campaign right now goes to bh.org will see we haven't really raised much money but uh here you'll see a receip uh for a wire transfer for a little over $85,000 that uh you know that I sent this uh this morning and uh more will be sent uh in so many words we're following what the Tora says who did me a favor first and I will pay him as we do every year uh it's a sometimes Hashem pays back right away sometimes he takes his time but needless to say if you do what uh you know what what Hashem wants you to do for his children you're never going to lose even though it's a lot of pressure it's a lot of stress it's a lot of moving Parts but it's certainly something that's necessary and uh especially when you hear the stories and some of these people we need to help them on a monthly basis and even on a weekly basis and one of the stories that came to us is a woman that uh raim and his wife know for many years uh she's actually uh the kids uh go to school together the older kids uh older I mean 12 years old uh and um last year we helped them we gave them a I believe it was a thousand shekels and this year they uh she called and asked if if we're going to be able to help he said we have this program for the Shas but she's uh you know her her her husband left her because she did chuva with the kids and uh he doesn't want to do chuva he wants to uh you know remain a uh an animal in so many words and uh he ended up leaving her and uh he's leaving her with AB he left it with nothing and this was already the last couple years but we never really knew how bad the situation was until this uh last week when she told us uh that uh even to forget about the holiday uh uh you know having money for the you know to buy matah to buy wine to buy you know chicken meat anything for the holiday forget just about that we're talking about uh to feed the kids in the morning breakfast she doesn't have she doesn't have uh so when you hear stories like this you know it's not stories fairy tales like people you know sometimes they text message me uh listen Rabbi can you help me out I'm struggling you know and then you know you hear some details yeah listen you know I I I paid my rent I I have uh food and everything I just that I really need to get this new suit I need to get this new suit so I was wondering if you could send me a couple hundred dollars that's unfortunately struggling in the American uh deformed mind when I say struggling to you guys I'm talking about food I'm talking about the very basic needs of life and when a person tells me that uh she's a uh divorced mother that uh has uh you know I believe three or four kids and she doesn't have food to feed the kids in the morning a couple hundred is not going to help we have to obviously try to do whatever we can on a monthly basis and this is some of the things that we've done over the years with different families some people have uh you know somebody very sick in the family so they need some money for that some people have uh just different types of troubles uh you know financial troubles uh you know medical problems all types of things and what ends up happening is that during this time of the year the stories somehow all pile up all at the same time all the new stories we know all the old stories but there's always new stories that join and uh aside from asking you guys to uh try to be generous and as generous as you possibly can uh to help us with this campaign because as you see I mean again we we already out $100,000 uh between the two campaigns were a couple $100,000 in and we haven't even you know uh raised a quarter of it uh so aside from being generous uh in the campaign uh and if we raise more than that if you guys you know uh uh decide to be the messengers of Hashem to to help us then certainly we're going to be able to help even more whatever you guys uh send to us we we're going to use for people we're not I'm not paying my rent with it I'm not uh uh you know buying any uh any uh uh any Ferraris with it all the money that we get to my knowledge we're the only organization that actually gives all of the money and more to the actual people uh you know that we actually raise every year we always end up giving a lot more money than what we end up raising andem provides for us in different ways throughout the year but this time we're uh we're in a situation where um I'm asking if any of you guys are also interested in taking on uh a family uh taking on a family and uh you know we have I would say uh a good number of families uh that uh need help on a monthly basis and uh you know we don't want to obviously embarrass anybody and uh you know make things complicated so we send the money to them anyway but anybody wants to take on a family it uh you could go it's anywhere from you know $500 a month to uh a couple thousand a month depending on the uh on the need it's not necessarily always dependent on the size of the family uh cuz sometimes the older kids are able to work or or or or whatever but sometimes just simply you know there's some families need more than others medical issues and things like that so if any of you have uh have the means and are interested in actually uh going into this aside from the PES uh you're interested in doing something on a monthly basis just specifically for this cause we don't have it on the website I don't have time to make all these campaigns if you guys are interested in it you could uh simply sign up on the website to a monthly contribution you could send me a a quick text message uh to let me know this is what it's for and certainly uh uh we' be happy to uh use that help because again these stories are real these are not uh fairy tales these are not you know the commercial that used to see as a kid where there was little African boy that uh is in the commercial and the Fly always lands on his head and uh 30 years he's still a little boy it's still the same exact boy you know the boy is probably already 70 years old already but they still use the same commercial to this day uh you know these are not fake stories these are real stories these are stories that we know firsthand we know these people and one of the one of the things that makes it uh uh even more personal is the fact that these are Torah Scholars these are serious people that dedicate their life to to Hashem and when the heretic tonus came to RAB AKA and in thear and asked them if God loves the uh the Torah Scholars so much he loves the righteous so much why does he make them poor many times you know not all Scholars are rich like RAB AKA was and R RI was very rich and ran Gamel was very rich so there were many that were rich but you know there were many that were very poor so he this heretic was look hey look look this is very poor uh you know why is he poor why is that one poor why if they're so righteous so R AKA says hasem specifically chooses those people to be poor these Scholars to be poor in order to save the rest of us from G why because he's hasem is giving us an opportunity to help a Torah scholar help somebody get you know bring bring more light to the world in order to rectify our own issues our own our own lackings lack of study lack of commitment to the Torah lack of commitment to MIT lack of commitment to hasem altogether so uh when we fund this uh we we certainly bring more light to the world SOA says this is to help help us get out of Gom uh and this is a this is not a again uh something that we're making up Everything is verifiable Everything is sourced everything is clear and uh one of the things that um you see in the world today is that everything is more upside down than ever before where the Israeli government is doing everything possible to declare an open war against the Torah where uh they literally want the religious people to know that they're hated uh so much so that uh they're willing to do anything in their power to not help anyone that is even a sh Shabbat a basic religious person they're willing to you know if if if there's Government funding for anything you know to whether it's to help children or to uh to uh help the parents or to help health issues or or anything that there's always funding for that if you are a uh secular person that's funding for that they they give you money uh if you're going to some type of uh drama school you're going to be an actor you're going to be a singer you're going to be a uh some type of theater uh there's tons of money for that billions of dollars uh if there is a uh uh some type of uh um a terrorist you know that uh that uh hasn't really uh committed terrorism yet but he is certainly a criminal and no problem there's help for that if he's Arab oh there's a ton of money for him ton of money for him but if you are a religious Torah scholar okay what we can do is 50 shekel a month 50 shekels a month per child so what do you have you have the uh uh 10 kids all right we'll send you 500 Shekel what's 500 shekels 500 shekels is about $140 $150 now just so you know anyone that went to Israel it's not you know $140 not going to get you too far it's not going to get you too far you're not you know with with you know maybe maybe you'll be able to get the diapers maybe uh for the month you're not going to get far you're not going to pay rent with 500 checkles you know you're not going to pay anything of significance but that's what the government does now of course the the at the same time the government uh and the Lefty liberals will make people think that uh the the religious people are the ones that are sucking the uh government drive all their money reality is the opposite the religious people pay more in taxes and contribute more to the Israeli economy than anyone else needless to say they actually get less than anybody else uh you know the terrorists that actually throw missiles at us and bomb the buses get more money than the uh uh the uh you know the the scholars but again this is an upside down world it's an upside down world and this upside down World helps us explain AAR AAR that in uh um uh in uh page nine that uh says in the name of razar that uh someone that gives in hiding where he doesn't know who he's giving it to and the receiver doesn't know where he's receiving the money from is greater than mosenu I mean this is this is not just a great act saying it's greater than mosenu so of course the uh first and foremost we have to understand that the act of of giving is is shows that you're not looking for any type of Honor shows that you're not looking for any type of credit You're simply looking to do the will of Hashem and to help people and when we're doing these types of campaigns when we're giving it to all these people this is exactly what you're doing this is the highest level of simply because you don't know the person that you're get you're giving it to and they don't know you you know you have us as the middleman so this is literally the highest level of and the uh uh said says this is something that raises a person to higher than mosenu now of course uh you know some people say oh wait so I could just be higher than mosu with 500 bucks a month okay you know what I'll give a thousand I'll be higher than God like the Heretics think no so Ravid medov the son of R uh you know who wrote um uh a uh SE over the last couple of years on the tah uh and and it's a he he brings this specific and he says someone that's a fool will read this gar and actually think that just from a you know a single act of uh staka they could uh become bigger than you know the greatest person that ever lived mhu so what could such a thing mean at the same token we know that the sages didn't say things for no reason so what does it mean what it means is is that at the time of mosenu there was no hiding from Hashem meaning if a person was wicked he died korak went against mhu he died in a scene that was so Monumental so public that we know about it until this day the entire ground opened and him and all of his followers were swall and are still being burned and G the in that uh in in that whole party also the the uh the people that theim that said about their tongues came out of their mouth and connected to their uh uh um belly buttons and the uh uh bugs were going up and down their tongues until they died a strange death the blasphemer got uh you know got worst possible death penalty theb got a death penalty at the same token when am Isel did good when am Isel followed hem Hashem showed him things that are beyond our comprehension even a simple woman was was able to became a prophet was able to see the sound see the sound and see the voice of God see things that we could we cannot even imagine even if we have a creative mind they had mana come from so they had all of the blessings in the world no one needed to work no one needed to bathe no one needed to go to the bathroom even literally everything that they needed to do is just simply live and and and just learn toah they were traveling on a on clouds even their feet would not get tired because of how Hashem structured the world for them for 40 years we were like this and some say that you know it was literally like part of their free choice was taken from them in such a case because it was so obvious that God is running the world that it wasn't such a big deal to help your fellow Jew so that's what the means here says that if somebody gave at the time of mosenu if mosenu himself helped some you know person it wasn't really such a big deal why because God Is Watching you're not exactly uh doing anything that uh is so hard to do when you know that God is watching he's there I mean literally it's like seeing God at the same token says the GOI Vila everyone was pretty much well off there was M coming down from sham there was never any like horrendous cases where I I don't have food to feed the kids really the the type of Saka that people would give each other at that time was really they wanted to befriend each other and spoil each other so it would give them above and beyond what the average person had so they would get fruit from from some of the uh people the go that were uh selling it you know as they were traveling in the desert they were uh you know they were buying from them they'll buy fruits from them but here we see that someone that gave at the time of mosenu okay you did it's nice but it's it's not such a big deal when is right there next to you on the other end says the before mashia comes there's going to be AEM hiding his face and the world is going to be upside down and the Wicked the evil the Liars the thieves the Heretics the idol worshippers the haters of am is and its Tor the atheists it looks like they're winning that's what it's going to look like in the world it looks like they're the ones that are successful it looks like it looks like it's not true but it looks like they're the ones that are powerful they're the ones that are on the winning path so to help to help publicize the Tora at that time to help a poor Jew that dedicates his life to the Torah at that time that is going to elevate a person to the 50th level of Kusha a level that even mosenu could not rise to he got to the 49th level because the the 50th level is something that you could only get to through this so here we have an opportunity in our generation to do something that was not possible 3,300 years ago but yet at the same token because the yet is fighting so hard the average person will hear this be motivated and then the yet will show up in order to cool them off and that's why I say to you guys you have to think about eternity not just think about this week or this month you have to try to do whatever you can to make commitments longer term commitments understand what's on the line because at the end of it all this is one of the things that a person is going to cry for not having not having a part of so with that being said we have the campaign bh.org anyone that wants to contribute uh please do anyone that wants to do aide from that wants to also help us with some of these really difficult cases we have literally dozens and dozens of families that some we help from time to time some we help regularly and some we help uh you know uh whenever is possible uh if you're interested in uh taking on a family and how much you want to do it that's uh that would be fantastic but regardless of all of that it always understand that these types of things uh you know these are responsibilities and I know that a lot of people like to help people and many times they believe that they're helping people and uh it's sometimes uh I I wonder whether uh whether people realize who and what they're helping so in this case b we know who we're helping uh so last but not least we have a uh our um all of our series bash are doing well you know the lectures are spreading everywhere uh we need as much help as possible for anyone that has technological uh abilities whether you know how to code Graphics uh uh uh things with with application we also need some help with anyone that knows how to uh translate into the Russian language uh we need also other languages as well but Russian is something that we certainly need more help in the Russian Channel B is uh is growing rapidly and uh is doing things that the other channels are not doing uh so uh certainly uh uh need help there uh so anyone that wants to volunteer please uh contact us in the technology world if it's uh volunteering is not possible and you want to do it for pay uh be more than happy to talk to to you uh and to see if there's something that could be worked out okay with that long introduction again I appreciate anyone that's listening uh and we're going to continue with uh with the series so the ramban has uh taught us how to prepare for this act of Holiness completely differently than anything we've ever learned I have families C coues new and old couples couples that have been married for a few years and couples that have been married for 20 plus years contacting me literally from all over the world from Israel from you know different parts of Europe uh Canada the US uh literally across the world telling me how this particular Series this this Jewish intimate series is transforming their entire house something unlike anything else has entered their house and they are just enamored by it now of course it's not easy to change their lives if you know somebody's taught one thing for 20 30 40 50 years and now they're uh taught something completely different it's not easy to adjust to change but certainly each one of us can do a little bit a little bit more each and every day and you know as thear says in the place that makot in place that a person wants to go Hashem will help him go there so a person wants to go to its Holiness hem will help him go to its Holiness person wants to go towards the opposite hm will help him go towards the opposite so the series is helping an extraordinary amount of people but at the same token the is always going to try to do whatever he can to discourage people from taking some of this stuff seriously and that's why the ran is each week G giving us something completely new last week he told us give us gave us certain tricks certain medicines both spiritual and physical medicines that help us you know whether a person has a uh erectile dysfunction or person emits seed too quickly uh which we'll discuss tonight as well uh or a a person is uh doesn't have energy these are different things and uh you know I know some of you are asking questions can you give me exactly I went over everything if you pay attention to the lectures you should be able to to to do just fine uh and uh I'm not a doctor or or going to start prescribing medicine to people it's all in the lectures the an the questions and the answers are in the lectures if people simply pay attention you'll be able to uh try a lot of these uh extraordinary things into your life and see what works for you but the ramban is so far prepared us mentally spiritually physically what's left a whole lot is left tonight the ramban is going to teach us how to beat the system what does it mean how to beat the system now of course anything that Hashem gives you is good even if sometimes it hurts it's still good when it comes to Children if hasem gives you a boy or a girl you should say thank you to Hashem a million times over now of course there is a preference among the religious people especially to have boys notom because girls are not good but for a different reason and there are certain people that just want more boys they want to have boys they prefer F boys he wants to have an army tonight the ramban is going to tell us how to influence both the world above and below in order for person to have baby boys now says the famous teachings that we read at the beginning of each or anytime you start learning you should read this where it says that I arise early and they arise early I arise for the Torah they arise for Idle Words to go read the newspaper sports CNN CNBC but I Rise early to go I could learn to I toil and receive reward and they Toil and they don't receive reward I run and they run I run to the life of the world to come and they run to the pit of Gom what is this about this is the difference between someone that follows the words of the sages to the best of their ability versus somebody that simply thinks that they're smarter than the sages or they can afford to ignore the sages a person that thinks that way is not only fool but they're fooling themselves to think that they're going in a better path when in reality they're going to a pit of Destruction thean has told us instructions that anyone that has tried it already is has results literally it's transform lives now he's going to give us some insights about something that can actually influence the birth of the baby regarding this says the ran our sages speak in a talmud and ra on page 5B in the name of ABA bamin who says all my life I took great pains about two things to pray beside my bed and that my bed should be placed between North and South what does it mean my bed should be placed between North and South you obviously have four sides you have the north south east west he's saying that the way that he had his bed is that the bed was positioned from the uh North to sideways let's say if this is north and this is South okay so the bed was put horizontally not vertically if this is assuming this is east and west so it was done that's how his bed was structured specifically during the act of intimacy now if he wanted to keep switching it around during rest time it's up to them but in fact uh says a some say it's a others like the say it's a uh it's really just a strong suggestion in in um in uh in S 3 six he says that it's actually forbidden to sleep on a bed that's east to west with your wife together now again says it's not really bidden it's just a bad idea to do it and we'll discuss why but thear starts off which is what the ramban is bringing that Ramin one of the great sages says that he took extra effort his whole life to do two major things aside from all of the other stuff that he did but the two things that he made a big deal about one is to pray next to his bed you know before he went to bed he would pray next to his bed beside his bed some say that this is uh you know he's referring to praying you know uh right next to his bed others saying no he's not referring to to praying right beside his bed but rather he's referring to that as soon as he got up in the morning he wouldn't do anything other than get ready and go to the synagogue and pray he wouldn't do any work he wouldn't check any text messages he wouldn't uh have any conversations he wouldn't even study he would go straight to bed even though there's no problem with studying Tor before you pray in the morning espe you know after you do the morning prayers still he uh took pains to make sure that he went from uh waking up getting out of bed straight to praying right away now I know there's a certain uh significance to this but the second thing which is more relevant to what we're talking about is that he took pains to make sure that his bed was placed between North and South says whoever places his bed from north to south he will have male Sons what does it mean is boys is males obviously if they're boys they're males no perhaps if you lived 50 100 200 years ago You' need an extra she to explain it today you don't really need an extra she to explain it just simply look at what's happening in the world all of the boys that don't really want to be boys because their teachers and sometimes their parents and sometimes the media and sometimes all of them are telling them listen you're not a boy you are it you are whatever you want to be what's a woman you decide what a woman is what's a man you decide what a man is why what if I don't know what I am what if I just start to what if I decide that from now on I am Pikachu then you are Pikachu we're going to call you Mr Pikachu or if you wanten Dr Pikachu why because that's the stupid generation we live in that you could just simply ignore reality and simply choose your gender and choose your or whatever you want now if I told you that the cat that walks around in our neighborhood he decided that he's not only a doctor he is a spinal surgeon he's a spinal surgeon does he have rights to go work for perhaps maybe one of the leading hospitals here in America if I told you that the local homeless person in some Community has decided that really he's not the local homeless person he was just testing all of us out really he is Warren Buffett one of the richest men in the world and the guy that you guys know as Warren Buffett he's pretending he's not really Warren Buffett he's the real homeless guy so let's make the switch help him out get his money back the stupidity of the generation simply helps us understand the wisdom of the sages when they say boys that are males and here we see that tells us that there is a significance here a person that places their bed from north to south will have male Sons this will actually have an impact on the sons on on not only a child being born but actually it being a son and where do they get this from they bring you verses it's not just out of their uh head they have Verses first verse they bring you is Psalm chapter 17:14 with the vi says and whose belly you fill with your treasure which in Hebrew has the uh same spelling as North the um so he says in whose belly you fill with your treasure who have children in plenty so the son of R says not only will you have male children but in addition to that your wife will not miscarry as it's written in seph the Book of Genesis chapter 25 5: 24 and their bellies were filled what does it mean and their bellies were filled it means that the pregnancy carried out to its entire term notom where it started and then it ended early and it's also written when her time to give birth was at her at was at hand there were twins in her womb so we see here that the sages are telling us something extraordinary Rashi or holy Rashi who lived in France about 900 years ago who you simply cannot survive a single verse in the written or the oral tah without him he says this is this whole matter of putting the bed from north to south it's a mystical matter it's not something you're going to understand oh listen you're going to put it north to south and that's because the winds and that's because the light and that's because the way that the world whether you believe it's flat or it's round or whether you believe there's UFOs running the world no it's because of you know no he's saying this is mysticism that's why it works you guys say wait what do you mean that's what works how does it work exactly you don't know how mysticism works just like you don't know why if you put you know put a little bit of liquid on your finger and then you stick it into the outlet and then that electricity you know Burns whatever is in that you know is is is touching it you know your finger your body your house whatever it Isom all the whatever crazy things people put in the so you don't know how that works you don't know why the electric socket wasn't bothering anyone wasn't chasing anyone wasn't doing anything but the second you ran in its way all of a sudden it starts making fires everywhere do you really know how that works no do you know how sound Ways work no do you even know how your antibiotics work no all I know is if they don't work why because you don't get better but you still understand that it's real same concept with mysticism despite the fact that the over majority of people that ever lived had no concept whatsoever of how mysticism can even work still everyone understands that it does happen and that it does work and Rashi says here this whole matter of putting the beds north to south yielding you children yielding you male Sons yielding you a healthy wife that carries the baby and has a healthy pregnancy where she's going to come out of this pregnancy holding a child a living beautiful child to Mystic to Mystic now we can end this sh here but we're reading the we're reading thees which is the teachings of the ran and the ran doesn't agree what he doesn't agree in fact a apparently it seems like the ran who lived about 150 years after Rashi didn't see the Rashi because at that time still you know Rashi wasn't on every single page like he has been for the last few hundred years he was huge he was a giant but again you know the way the printing worked and everything wasn't like it is in the last few hundred years and it seems like it seem it's a little bit hard to even say but it seems like the ramban did not see the Rashi why do I say such a crazy thing because look what he says thean says after he told us the which is a simple you go to page five b you open it everything I just said more or less is in there the Rashi is there the uh R rman his son the uh uh uh teachings are therein there everything is there so this is not like some uh foreign text or anything this is there ran brought it but he doesn't agree with the commentary of the Rashi to the extreme case what does he say and the ramban continues he says I must inform you regarding this Legend there is no fool in the world who believes this because that the bed has been placed between North and South the man will marage of having male sons and that his wife will not miscarry this is the words of the sages these are the words of the sages sages they say clearly there's no political correctness there's no sugar coating it's as clear as day just like the uh ra brought in his on one of the CH regarding cash advance he bring he starts off the chuv about the fact that there's going to be certain people that read this and simply want to ignore the fact that it's indisputable that this is the answer they are still going to want to continue a sinful life and they're going to do whatever they can to deny the truth on them he writes it is said in the if they want to hang themselves let them hang themselves on a Tall Tree somebody wants to sin Let Them sin you want to sin sin not my problem so we see the words of thear sometimes like literally like Venom he hits us and tells us wait you believe that by putting the bed from north to south that's going to yield you boys and that's going to your wife's not going to miscarry because of that you think there's actually anybody in the world that believe such a thing like he doesn't only say you believe he says you think anybody in the world believes this which obviously Rashi believed it and other commentaries believed it so what what is what is it what's going on here first we learn that the sages don't always necessarily A on certain things that uh don't necessarily have a uh uh uh you know there's no obligation to agree on every single thing there's certain things that you're uh that are open to interpretation but even more so you see how when the sage believe something they don't hold themselves back when they have a strong opinion and here the ran says all the more so with the pillars of the world meaning our sages say such things like this meaning he's considering this such a foolish statement a foolish belief that if you just put your bed in this position horizontal position from north to south that's going to bring you boys that's going to stop miscarriages like if you just simply believe that at face value he considers that so silly that he says you actually think that our sages would actually say such a thing these are the pillars of the world you think that words like that would actually come out of their mouth but they did so what do they mean he's going to tell us rather the holy sages what they do they hid their words in Illusions as is their good custom in many instances the holy sages always use the clean tongue they always use clean languages as we discussed already in the previous lectures just like uses a clean tongue meaning that there are certain words that exist in other languages but they don't exist in the Holy language for example the word for the male member doesn't exist in the Hebrew language the holy language we call it but is nakedness which is nakedness for a male nakedness for a female whereas in English language you ask your average uh public school kid he'll give you 57 names they have all types of Filth in their mind they don't have any wisdom poor kids that's what they learn in their school they give them uh you know uh novels full of pornography that's what they give them over there they have that's what they have in their minds but himself the creator of the world doesn't have a word for that why there's no need same thing with when it says that a woman has to be you be holy because I holy but also when he's referring there shall not be a promiscuous woman or a promiscuous man he also uses the same word there shall not be AES there shall not be a kados wait didn't you just wait you just said we have to be holy but then don't be holy no no here he's telling you over here you have to be holy and you understand the context of the sentence by seeing all the words around it all the sentences around it the other place he's telling you know and you see the context of the sentence that he's referring to someone as promiscuous but there's no word for it why holy tongue it's not called a holy tongue for no reason so the sages that literally live the Torah that's how they spoke that's how they speak and therefore this whole sentence this whole matter of the bed being from north to south is just another example of their clean language their illusion as their custom is in many instances and I will explain says the ramban I'll explain this meaning he's going to tell you what this means and how the results are true they said that this is going to yield you boys it's true they sell it's going to yield you uh that your wife is not going to Mis carry true but it's not because it's the better is position that way it's because of something physical something you could prove scientifically that's what the ramban is bringing us here he says it's known that severe cold comes from the direction of the north severe heat comes from the direction of the South and as the masters of true wisdom our holy sages knew that extremes are need neither good nor trustworthy but the qualities of moderation are the most desirable this is also what the ram my manad says in his that a person should not be an extreme in anything but seek moderation the only thing to be extreme in is be extreme away from anger away from anger away from arrogance there certain things to be extreme but minute the uh generally speaking you have to be in the middle you have to be in the middle even uh even uh Pride you cannot have zero Pride you have to have some level of Pride so people don't walk over you especially if you're and you're going to help people the say you have to have a little bit of pride in order for people to follow you one I believe it's a uh 160th uh of of uh of a pride a person has to have in order for for them to be able to teach the public now of course the average person today doesn't have 160th of Pride they have 59 60th of a pride but the point is is that it's a there are certain things a person has to be extreme extreme but they're minute minute like anger extremely away from it because it's only bad comesit but when it comes to a everything else moderation so the ramban in essence says the same exact thing as the ramban and regarding this SCH Shalom says in Ecclesiastes 7: 16 and 17 says don't be overly righteous or overly wise and don't be a fool see here also tells you don't go to the extreme you know sometimes I have to tell my students or people that ask me for advice whatever they call themselves that uh they have to calm down and they get surprised for whatever reason or another the yet makes them think that all I can think about and talk about and is simply telling people about how much they're going to get punished they think that if I meet people hey nice to meet you you're going to G home oh nice to meet you you're not going to go to home like I don't know why why people think this I mean we have thousands of it's we've spoken about more than just one subject but sometimes people think that if they just simply are extreme in everything that makes them more righteous but in that in essence it actually makes them a fool page 14 says that a person that is stringent in everything is a fool it's like a blind fool walking in darkness a person that's lenient in everything thing is a wicked person so moderation is necessary schl says it in different words he says don't be overly righteous what's overly righteous there are times where you simply have to learn how to work with whatever you have there are simply times where you have to contain yourself there are simply times where you don't have to be the one that tells everybody oh yeah listen uh you really have to change this in this this sometimes just got to be just sit there be quiet you don't have to be over you know don't don't be overly righteous and I could give you a million and a half examples but that's not really what the sh is about point being is sometimes people are being overly righteous one of the people that we know in history that was overly righteous just so you guys have a something to put it along with was asav asav was overly righteous how was asav overly righteous asav obvious he was a murderer he was a rapist he was a thief he was everything bad but in front of his father he pretended to be aad how did he pretend he would say to his father AB the the tithe that we give do I also give on the salt that I just got I just got I bought some salt do I do I I just you know I have some salt here do I need to give also on on the salt 10% now obviously you don't have to give 10% on the salt and everyone knows that but he pretended that he was even willing to give 10% unsalt now that's being overly righteous overly righteous typically means the person is either a fool or is a wicked person in Disguise so schl says don't be overly righteous sometimes people ask silly questions and I just generally don't find questions silly unless a person asks me either a question that's completely irrelevant to their life where it has no effect on their life whatsoever they're just bored at 2:00 in the morning they send me a question and some of these people are wonderful people that I help them but sometimes I have to like rebuke them silently where I simply don't answer the question and if they're smart enough they're clever enough they get the answer it happened just you know actually happened a few times where just I think it was like a week or two ago one dear student of mine sends me a question and I don't know so much about his life but for some reason or another I knew that this question has nothing to do with his life and I asked him do you use this he says no meaning that he confirmed what I for whatever reason had the inclination that he uh this was not relevant to him so in essence he was just asking me a hypothetical question this is like somebody asking you what would you do if you won the lotto those are the dumbest questions in the world those are the most useless questions in the world those are questions that eat up your brain and make it smaller why because there's zero wisdom in it only bad can come out of it in the best case scenario you just wasted a bunch of time time so it's important for a person to only ask questions that are relevant sometimes people ask questions that are show that really they're being overly righteous and it's important for a person to know when they are they have to use their common sense to know when they're being overly righteous or not now the other thing that the uh says don't be overly wise what's overly wise know exactly where your place is and don't you know be wise in the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong people if you're surrounded by be quiet unless you're one of the big if your Rabbi is debating something with someone arguing with someone be quiet no one needs to know what you actually think wait but why it's to debate yeah not for you many times you you see this happen where a rabbi somebody asked the rabbi a question and even before the rabbi had the ability to say something one of the students come oh yeah yeah no I think we said the rabbi said do you realize that this is forbidden why it's the right answer it's the right answer but at the time of the you get a death penalty why you just spoke in front of your rabbis forbidden asso it's disrespectful but that's the thing sometimes a person is so focused on you know expressing their newf found knowledge that they forget that there's a time and there's a place for it last but not least don't be a fool don't be one of these people that allows themselves to just simply being taken advantage of and think that that's humility or that's a good thing so all of these things are in a single sentence this is all going to lead a person to a certain level of moderation back to our Jewish intimacy the ramban says that severe cold comes from the north heat comes from the south and our sages told us that we have to go towards moderation and since north and south are two contrasting opposites of heat and cold and they are the two kidneys our sages concealed their illusion in those words and we're saying that when a man is intimate and his body is at a moderate point between hot and cold then his nature will become and he will therefore not ejaculate quickly and will be able to conjugate in a moderate manner why does this matter well obviously if you're only thinking about the physical pleasure aspect of it already you see that there's certain benefits both for the male and the female but we've already learned almost 20 lectures to know that there's more than just the physical benefits the physical pleasure of intimacy when the sages are speaking they're not telling you not to enjoy yourself physically but the same token they're telling you that each and every single act is for the sake of serving a How could a person be in moderate temperature and therefore leading to them emitting seed later on being able to in so many words as the ramban says it in in Hebrew cooking his seed for longer before he emits the seed how could that actually be of benefit as far as the servitude of hem he says then the woman will have her emission before his as the page 31a says and when the emission of a woman is likened to the Natural matter meaning like clay and when the seed of the man will come afterwards it's likened to a Artisan like a Potter who forms his design on the material and this is the secret of the verse in Leviticus 12:2 if a woman has an emission of seed she gives birth to a male child and this secret is a secret that the sages said is the reward for the righteous who rest at the abdomen of a woman that they have a male children as the page 71 says low the low children are the heritage of the Lord the fruit of the womb is reward this is Psalm 1273 so as you can see the the ramban is bringing you a bunch of different sources in so many words he's telling you that this moderation ensures that the male the husband is going to be at a temperature that's not too hot and not too cold now no he's not a St steak and he's not a piece of chicken but he is someone that has a factory inside him and the seed has to also be a certain temperature we're going to learn more details about next week but for now we're seeing that it has major ramifications where if he's in moderate he's going to be able to contain himself and in addition to the additional physical pleasure there is Major ramifications as far as the fact that he's going to allow his wife to emit first and the teaches us in that when the woman emits whatever she creates is like a canvas and when the husband emits he is like the painter in so many words he is creating an image of himself and from there comes the boy and the gar teaches us that when the male emits first girls are born women emits first and then the male boys are born and that's why the tah the in t Leviticus 12 verse two says exactly that that if a woman has an emission of seed she gives birth to a male child so then the um the raban finalized this specific point by saying that if you will understand this you will comprehend The Secret of wherein by placing one's bed between North and South will give him male children this should be the middle of the night when the man's body is already calmed from the heat of digesting the food which he ate and the temperament of his body is clear and clean what our sages refer refer to in saying between north and south is alluding to cold and hot temperature so on one end we're seeing extraordinary wisdom here from the ramban yet at the second hand we're seeing him contradict what Rashi says so first let's deal with what the ramban is saying here ramban agrees with the Rashi agrees with thear both of them agree with thear just in different aspects meaning the says if you put your bed North and South sou north to south you're going to have male children masculine children you're going to have your wife bring children to the world and actually be able to contain and have the health to bring this child to the world not have miscarriages any woman that knows what a miscarriage is from personal experience most likely she has at least one tear coming out of her eyes right now why it's a trauma even if she has other kids women that never had a miscarriage do not understand what kind of blessing what kind of blessing they have they don't understand they simply don't understand and many times there is a lack of sensitivity between people when they don't understand what the other person experience there's something called empathy empathy is putting yourself into somebody else's shoes and if you know that your sister your uh cousin your friend had a miscarriage don't treat it as if oh what's the big deal like you know you didn't Nam the kid or anything so what's the big deal you don't understand you may think it's not a big deal because it's not your body but to that person it could actually feel like they literally just lost someone that was part of their body that was uh someone that they lived with and and and it was something no less different than your child so to have such words of encouragement such a Assurance from the sages to say that if you put your bed from north to south you're not going to have a miscarriage I mean that is a monumental statement this is not a small statement but the way they get there between Rashi and the ran are different Rashi says it's mystical you're not going to understand why go try to understand how your Nish Works how one day the guy is walking around he can see he can hear he can speak he can digest he can do everything he can reproduce the next day same body same eyes same lips same ears same everything is the same it just doesn't work anymore why left go explain that go go ahead go have some atheists explain that to you you're not going to understand it's mysticism it's beyond your comprehension you're limited your even your intellect is limited so long as you are within this shell called the body this clothing so this notion of putting your bed in a certain position yielding this these types of amazing blessings you don't have to understand how it works for you to do it it's not really that much of a big deal do it on the other hand the raan says no absolutely not it has nothing to do with the bed itself although the sages are right that North and South yields kids protects from miscarriages it's not referring to a bed what is it referring to it's referring to your body temperature if your body temperature is too hot it'll lead your body to act differently and produce a different type of seed that will not yield good fruit if your body is too cold the seed that it produces will not be good forget about whether he's able to perform not perform all that stuff no we're talking about if he's able to perform what is produced is not good the details we'll discuss next week but we already know it's not good why because good what you want the ideal which is what we're all shooting for is the middle the middle so the ran says this North and South is referring to the holy clean language of the sages saying that you have to make sure that you are in a place where you're not overheating you're not too cold not just the temperature and you make sure that your air conditioner is in the perfect temperature no not just that he's also talking about your inside your inside your digestive system don't be intimate Surly after eating as we discussed last week why because then that heats up the body and heats up the seed and the seed that comes out of it he's brought all types of verses from the Torah talks about all types of wicked stupid people coming out of this so do not put it put yourself in a situation where you may be comfortable on the outside because you have a nice $115,000 air conditioner cooling your house but your inside is a factory and it's operating why cuz you just ate five hot dogs and maybe a burger and you're operating no no you're operating no intimacy take a break why cuz whatever you produce it's going to be a little bit of a problem you're going to regret it now same thing is don't do it too early why a certain time of the day he's talking about this is again what we talked about where it should be in the middle of the night shouldn't be in the day certainly shouldn't be in the afternoon and shouldn't be even in an early evening it should be in the middle of the night now this does not imply that a person should go in sin and waste seed just in order to wait till midnight no if a person knows that he is going to sin if he's not with his wife or the wife knows that her husband is going to sin if she's not with him at any time then obviously it's better for them to be together than for for the for the husband to sin or vice versa for the wife to sin but assuming that the people have control of themselves they have a handle of themselves and they're able to contain themselves until midnight or later then that's the ideal time both spiritually and physically and even more so as the ramban says the temperament of the body is clear and clean you also have your senses your mentality is more calm as you go deeper into the night go towards 12 12:30 1:00 usually whatever experience you had from work during that day if you have a normal schedule usually you're calmed down by that you're not stressed out by work anymore you could think about your wife your husband you can think about what's going on you can think about praying asking AEM for help even in this regards now there was a that uh had uh seven girls seven eight girls something like that and uh no boys having girls is a wonderful thing not only because they're cute and they're beautiful but also each time you have a girl say it's indication that you love your wife so it's good if you tell your wife oh we had another girl see I told you I love you I told you that's what it is by the same token constantly mentioned you want to have boys the question is do you know why you want to have boys do you know why you want to have boys this cameraman who saw this Torah scholar had a he was the cameraman his we Mila and he said oh it's your first boy yeah you all these girls yeah yeah seven eight girls however many he had and one boy he's like ah you know what happened right the cameraman is telling the Torah scholar and the cameraman I don't even think he was wearing a keeper Torah Scholars what do you mean what happened you moved recently didn't you and Taurus goes yes but how do you know ah you moved you moved houses right yeah he goes I know it that's why you had a boy says what are you talking about because I moved houses goes no no you moved houses and if you think about it probably your bed used to be west to east now it's north south right thought for a sake he goes yeah you're right go ah see he asked him how do you know he goes my father taught me my father used to be you know used to learn a lot and he told me these things he told me these things then thought for a second oh yeah it's in the he in essence this cameraman simple guy learned something from his father's house who reminded his Torah scholar hey look at this blessing that you have it has a source now the question is if the scholar says to please give me a Ben give me a boy and then your average person says I want boys there was one guy actually crazy guy his wife gave birth to four or five girls in a row he told her that if she gives birth to another girl he's going to kill himself it's crazy guy now the poor lady you know knows time there's no uh machines like you have today what could she do she control of what what gives her she had five kids five girls six girls you know was a uh was a uh lot of uh lot of ponytails in the house anyway she's pregnant 9 months pregnant has to go to the hospital she goes to the hospital the husband is waiting at home counting the seconds waiting to get the phone call waiting to get the message what happened what do we have what do we have meaning this guy is so crazy he's been talking about how he's going to cause so much chaos and damage and kill himself and all types of stupid words why he doesn't want another girl not because he doesn't like girls he loves his little girls he wants a boy why I want boy like some people like you know they think like they they're going to build an army or some type of sports team you know some people are like like donkeys this guy was one of them good that he had Fortune not Fortune as far as money he had fortune in his community good Rabbi and the rabbi heard about this thing but there's not much the rabbi can do in the meantime you could pray what you can but anyway decides anyway this woman gives birth oh mazalov mrss such and such you have a baby girl and the woman starts crying hysterical and screaming and no one understands what's going on here what have I get G to do what am I going to do don't call my husband don't do this and nobody knows what's going on here after everything comes down she doesn't know what to do what do I do she says Ah gotta get hold of the rabbi got to get a hold of the rabbi so one of our family members got a hold of the rabbi the rabbi came what happened she explains to them the whole thing the rabbi was already aware of this person's craziness he says no problem I'll take care of it I'll take care of it what do we do bring your husband so they bring they tell the husband come come oh what I have just come I need to talk to you Rabbi yeah yeah yeah I need to talk to you before you see the kid I need to talk to you okay so the guy comes he's a little concerned now like why is the rabbi here and and and why like why does he have to talk to me why can't he just tell me what I have he's a little confused the guy he was just you know ready either to celebrate or to kill himself he's not really sure what's going on of course people say stupid things like that usually don't mean actually kill themselves but they usually do do something stupid needless to say the horror that he put this poor woman his wife through is a traumatizing experience to say the least anyway the rabbi sits him down and he says Hey listen I uh I want to talk to you first I want to see how you're doing RAB I'm okay RAB Rabbi I'm okay okay I'm okay yeah you're doing okay financials you're doing okay yeah I'm okay everything money we have sends he says work work is okay your customers still come in everything's okay yeah the customers come in Rabbi you know we don't have many customers the same customers already 20 years since my father everything's okay Rabbi RAB what's the baby what does I have to do hold on a second let me I want to I want to talk to you I want to talk to you guys you know they respect the rabbis but he's so patient he just what's going on here so the Rabbi says uh so the business is okay the customer is okay you're able to save maybe a little bit it's it's it's okay like you have you have extras to you know if you need a maybe more room in the house you know you new additions in your house uh yeah RAB I think I think I'll be okay yeah you know I could do something sure oh okay no even if you need maybe a couple couple of people and uh and uh yeah who's a couple of people Rabbi well you see you know the baby uh it doesn't have arms is it excuse me yeah arms it doesn't have what do you mean it doesn't have arms some babies are not born with arms oh yeah and one of the legs it's also missing some things what yeah yeah yeah poor kid you know oh wow what do I do well it's not just that the doctors say that most likely this this this baby one of its eyes he'll never be able to see out of it the other one they'll may be able to do a few surgeries but they're very expensive that's why I asked you if uh you have savings or surgery what do you mean surgery yeah surgery you know it's only 100,000 I mean it's fix you could see one day why 100 th000 can't can't it's your son it's your son yeah the guy starts crying oh why cuz those who what I do what a stupid man I am I told my wife I'm going to do these stupid things I know Hashem is punishing me he's punishing me because I tortured my wife that's why he's doing it I deserve this why hasem do this to me I deserve the guy's crying and the rabbi said after he lets him cry for a little bit he said what if I told you you don't even have a boy you have a girl she's perfectly healthy would you be happy about that the guy looks up he goes of course i' be happy happiest guy in the world who wouldn't be happy Rabbi says mazov you have a baby girl the guy never celebrated like he celebrated that day he never celebrated like he celebrated that day why because for that time he literally lived as if he has this Bal kid this kid that will have to have medical treatment and attention 24 hours a day for the rest of his life and he has all but himself to blame and now you're telling me I got out of it I have a girl a beautiful healthy little girl oh he forgot everything he said he's as happy as can possibly be as soon as he sees his wife oh I love you honey I'm sorry I put pressure on you oh thank you for the present that you gave me what a gift I can't wait to play with her oh what are we going to name her and all of a sudden this little monster became like a sadik why a little bit of wisdom the solved all the problems the ramban here is telling us that you can certainly follow the words of the and make sure that your body temperature is a certain way and you can influence yourself your body to act in a way that will lead to boys Rashi says influence the furniture that could lead to boys the question is is why do you want boys if you asked the guy in the story before he did chuba why do you want a boy he tell you uh what I want somebody to help me somebody help you get an employee get an assistant get a slave get a dog what do you mean you want somebody to help you no no you know I want to I want to build my name build your name start a company start uh I don't know uh start a launch a product maybe it could be Wafers put your name on it Steves Wafers there you go buy a building put your name on the building buy a stadium put your name on the stadium what do you mean build your name you want to have kids because you want to build your name are you the people of the Tower of Babel that want to build a tower in order to build them a name you want to have a kid to help you what is he your assistant certainly it's good for kids to help their parents but that's not why we have them that's not why we have them if you ask the ramban if you ask Rashi and any of the other sages why would you want a boy despite their disagreement of how you arrive at this boy whether it's through the mystical or it's through the physical physical part they'll agree for sure of why they would want the boy and that is because the boy can do more mitv than the girl he is obligated to learn Torah in the morning and at night he is obligated to put on the Fillin he is obligated to pray three times a day he's obligated in many more mitv that the woman isn't and if I am here in this world to fulfill my purpose that means that I'm here in this world to serve aad to glorify his name to publicize his name to get as many people as responsible to join me in glorifying his name and publicizing his name and knowing his name and following his Torah so if I could have another one or two or 50 come from my household who's better than me that's another OPP opportunity to serve hem I have another person that can serve hem in more ways another boy that can learn T each day another boy that could fulfill mitv that a woman can't hence the reason why although we love our women although we have to respect our women as much as we respect ourselves that's what the AL is in the rambam you have to you have to love your wife as much as you love yourself but but honor her even more than yourself and certainly the EGD The Exodus only happened through the merits of the women the Messiah will only come through the merits of the righteous women so women are an extraordinary Foundation to our people but if we're here to try to glorify hashem's name in even more ways then certainly it's more likely to happen through having more kids than are boys because they could learn Tah simple now you could say yeah but the girl can have boys sure she can have boys and B she does but that's one step removed I could just have the boy and he could already do the the the mitv and the uh and learning of toah either way whatever Hashem gives you is a blessing but if you want to be able to fulfill this extra stuff that only the boy can do the sage just gave you a way to do it and may be his will that we do everything in our power to serve a and glorify his name more than any other generation before us may we serve him just like the way we want him to help us may we have children that serve him inor glorify his name no less than the best that ever was and may we listen to his holy sages that give us words of wisdom that whether you want to look at it from the right or look at it from the left you're still going to arrive at the same ultimate conclusion there's nothing better than being holy and connected to hasem thank you very much for learning with me May hasem bless each and every single one of you reminder for everyone the Kim website it's going to be on the bottom of the screen BH p.org also the families for anyone that wants to contribute uh monthly uh that's certainly a help a uh some families as I said is $500 a month some families are th000 2,000 whatever you can handle it all depends on your financial situation but I could certainly assure you that the people certainly need it uh for anyone that can it'll bring you many many blessings thank you very much for learning with me May hasem bless each and every single one of you with [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] for [Music] to you [Music]