My First YouTube Live: A Chill Chat with Shia Sherman

Hey, how you doing? Ellie, Ellie, first of all, love your content. Watched it quite some time. Yeah, big fan. I appreciate it. Thank you so much. Um, what you the highlight from the Shabas? Um, I guess family somewhat. I guess I guess the nice phone. I don't touch my phone. Wow. I I guess if you're saying that it means that it's an maybe um never never had somewhere touched it. Wow. proud of it. I respect that. Good job. I'm I'm enjoying life. I have a lot of stuff I'm doing. Wow. How about yourself? But what are you doing? Yeah, exactly. I'm I'm enjoying life. It's a journey, you know. plan is different and expect ashamed. Um I I learned to get I get I switch my expectations for gratitude and I'm just grateful and thankful for what I have and uh but in a sense I do try to take a little bit control and make sure that I have a good life that's like I feel it's a healthy balance between allowing God and but in we can choose a life that works for us. So how do you know what life works for you? I I think what feels right besides the mention was the what what the school says the parents feeling hearts there's a place within us what feels right and what feels wrong and if we can follow that then we usually have a good life to say but options and mention shrust vance. following right that's a very good that's a that's a very good question and that was whatever okay the confusion that you have is the answer. You think all styles are right? Um I I I don't think it's about all it's it's right or wrong is a relevant word. But um whatever. Yeah. Episode messed up. Okay. Okay. So, Okay. Okay. A lot goes through my mind in the day question as to who but yeah I believe as I mention so now we can argue as to who that person should be two minutes so I'm not going to hold I can by the way. I know what I got to do. Figing it out one day at a time. I'm happy. Yeah. just just figure it out or just specific advice. So, it's a great question. Um, general question most they just want to figure it out by themselves. They're not here to ask this question. question. What do you enjoy sports? Okay. Um, is that the But how do lazy get yourself up? I don't know. I don't know who you're listening to. They have the question. Go wake up 5 a.m. and do something that doesn't align with 100 push-ups. And now what? I I made my 100 push-ups. Now what? Wake up. make 100 push-ups. Fine, fine, fine. Um, again, always go back to the source. Go back to the source. Who who you coming to me and questioning this guy? Just for the record, I'm not saying it from a sense of throwing it back to you. I'm saying it from a sense of that's in my opinion the real healthy approach. Therapist. Okay. So, therapist, somebody that that is licensed and in helping and healing people navigate through the world. And I tell her that I did so and so and I feel bad about it. She tells me, "Go back to that whoever told it to you. Go back to that." So go back to that person who told you this and have the conversation with him. Of course, not always it's possible and it is a little bit of a hypothetical angle, but that's still the truth. So whoever gave you some kind of idea about maybe working out a lot or learning a lot or doing a lot whatever it is go go to that person and ask them why they're uh why why why they are not doing that exact thing or ask them why it's important for you to do what he thinks it's important to do. What's the concept in therapy also Eden get advice? What's the concept the the simplified? What's therapy about? The concept in therapy most therapy is for you to be able to speak freely being that you're paying somebody to listen to you. And unfortunately 45 minutes to an hour. honestly speaking but in the same okay it's my commitment no I'm saying it's not about it's not about the other person it's my commitment commitments happens to be a professional so so they can monitor progress and growth and see in which direction it's going. I won it. I didn't start therapy till I was uh 26, 25, 26 years old. Plus, it has to do extra benefit therapist, my friend. Um, yes, because they are professionals. They're professionals at listening to you. They're professionals at diagnosing what kind of mental patterns you have. But generally speaking, if you can speak to a friend and that makes you feel good and you're feeling good in life and you're true and honest with yourself, isn't that right? Speak to a friend. Huh? I made it a habit already for many years um that to speak to the So I I literally speak to the daily. I'm glad that I have that habit that that kind of connection. the best honestly connect I was like there's no way beats us right so again so is like I said it's a relevant word relative relatives it's a relative word is a relative word ice cream chicken or does chicken be ice It's a relative word, right? It's not something you can always say. So, by the way, because in school in school, so because that's what they want. That's what they need you to follow the class rules, right? So, it's healthier to eat chicken than ice cream. You understand? They're not allowing you to always make your own decision. And that's okay. It's good. It's healthy for I think for a kid for a bah to go follow a system. But as you grow older, you turn 16, 17, 18, and you go out in the real world, it's time for you to make these decisions. Who says best? Do I want to speak to God or do they want to speak to a therapist? It's up to you. You tell me what works. I mean, both work. For me, when I'm connecting to the Irish last week, I spoke to him for three hours on the shot without having my phone or anything. Okay? I'm not saying whatever. I'm not trying to brag. I'm not saying anyone else to do it, but like versus the therapist therapist. I'm not going to be comfortable speaking all my stuff. Whatever. Right. 100%. I totally agree with their own thing. But yeah, I I wanted to say I totally and absolutely agree with you. Um, and I and I also love speaking to the and sometimes I'll do it for for longer periods of time and that is amazing. I think I think it works. I think it's a it's a it's very healthy and good. I think it's and again by the way what's the next topic? What's the next topic? I like speaking to you. Thank you. to the next topic. Okay, never mind. Never mind. And is there like a everyone should do what they feel? Again, it's a relative word. Yeah. And that's okay. The the problem is you put yourself into a box and you need the answers and you need to know exactly are we doing it like this or are we doing it like that? Excuse me. That's sometimes I think a problem and I think that that's sometimes a problem. How can you do that? I'm still figuring it out like emotions like whatever like all that just figuring it out like that's doesn't make sense to me that it's possible. What's your opinion of the [Music] opinion? Then obviously is okay with that. But like how's it possible to hate us? Yep. Like 100% whatever this you literally just quoted because because uh my friend continue asking questions and you will love the answers but apply this to God. I continue to ask God questions and I and I and I get the answers and that makes me feel clear. But the bosto is the one who says this that the is the one who gives us power. So if I use my hand or my body to do a specific avid, I can't blame myself cuz God gave me the power to do the specific avid. So and I think that's a little bit what you just said. God created us. How can he hate us? And this is important like he says when we are here on this world that means that God needed us. It's not that we needed we needed we needed this human experience you know figuring out that's a different question it's up to you it's up to you it's up to you image so it is I I am going to say clearly you you might be taking a risk I don't know what's at what's at risk for you risk but for you you have to You have to know what's what works for you. Oh screen recorded always every time I'm on live I get screen recorded for some reason. Yeah but because questions but the fact that you are willing to ask and answer these questions is very very powerful and unlike popular belief that you know it's not true. before they exist because there's that question it shouldn't be from a place of hate and a place of anger, right? At least sometime. And by the way, it sometimes could be from a place of hate and anger. If that's how you feel in the moment, you ask that. Yeah, I I hear you. You like those right 100%. I hear you. Yeah, because he needs you experiences physically physically. Yeah. According to the one main reason that we should thank him like I feel and appreciate it. There's many many variations. This is all it's something you might you might never know but what you could do with God was why do you need me here? What's the developed a connection with whenever and that is that has been incredible whether it's in business or relationships growth and and and uh I path whenever I need something I I speak to him I talk to him I say like every single time without failure. This kid needs help. The kids need help. The kid doesn't need Everyone needs help. But line is the good. Don't worry. I'm just I believe you. It's okay. Stop saying hurt people hurt people. So if somebody's here to make to make fun of you, I don't believe that hurt people don't hurt people. I've been hurtas. In many cases, usually a mench usually a mench that is doing well is not out there to hurt other people. kicks off. I've never seen that honestly mention I saw in drug addicts friends whatever always the sweetest people. Yeah. Yeah. I I I'm not sure exactly why, but the people who I see with like a lot of pain are typically much nicer than the the booking against everybody their own thing. I'm happy for everybody. But maybe at least in my experience, I've seen the people who every person I've seen who takes drugs and whatever. I know a lot of people. They're always the nicest people. It's it's a it's a great concept. My my personal opinion is and and uh feeding the order for vulnerable in order for actually feels that he wanted us to feel he wanted us to pain and and from that place we can go out and have the biggest so in life is pain and I know that that's what happened for me but even specific pains in my life level of of growth and that's been the pattern in my life whenever I've had pain. So, so uh so, so that's why when you see somebody that is struggling or whatever you want to call it on drugs, alamina levels, these people sometimes have gone through the ma pain and from that place of pain they understand. So that's why they'll be nice to you versus Friends that never experienced pain and can't is not vulnerable with their own feelings. How can they be sensitive to yours? Hear you um like So, so in my opinion, it's like other than the fact that you're Jewish and you're probably from these people. So, like it's it's it's relative again like You can choose to do with it whatever you want. Child birth, the pain of child birth. Butchen I'm so good about that blessings. Good. I'll take it. But okay. So, it's a free trade. Okay. Yeah. Laws of their responsibility. 100%. Exactly. And so they from the best intention they come with their mind problems. box. And now you can choose if you want to accept that or not. It's really up to you. It's it's up to you. What I try to do is take the good things that they taught me. You know, I had a lot of that that was what they preached. And then I had a lot of them who were [Music] busy and that's okay like perspective and that's also that's also the kind of world that we're shifting in today like opinion and and that's the beauty that's by the way. Okay. connection with God. on the outside. Power is the spark of life within you. is a good answer. I guess everything is understandable. Everything is understandable. The right questions. um some of them friends whatever perspective and I say that honestly Not true. That's what every is doing. They're asking themselves, is this field as legant? You understand? By the way, I'm in the comments. Certain people love this conversation. People don't. Certain people are telling me to stop vaping. Um, all of them. I respect your opinions. Um um besides this, never mind. Actually, never mind. You're going to kick me off when you want to kick me off. Um another question therapy session. I'm just enjoying this conversation. I'm hoping you enjoy it, too. Mhm. I do. I'm enjoying the conversation. Go on. [Music] Can that vulnerability is that a good thing, a bad thing? Is it good to always keep strong and pretend to always have a tough face and to be is masculine to always have a smile? What do you think about that? It's a it's a great great question. I think that one of the first things that I acknowledge when I had like kind of my what I would call like awakening questions. Okay. I talk about posted about him as a coach. He's here on Instagram follow and so they remember discovering back then and I don't know if he he specifically helped me with this but the grand concept is different we're all different mention yeah and If you think about it, how do we all look different? We have a face. like why do I why do we look completely different? So we also have a different mindset. So and I say this because we can never judge other people. Number one, is that true? Yes, it is true. Don't judge. judgment. You walk into a room, you you see who's a danger, who's not. So judgement judgement but judgment of other people is never necessary. Never judge a brother because the deliver my baby. Touch my phone, whatever. No judgment. I said, "Good for you're on your own journey. Whatever. Good for you." But okay. No judgment. But no judgment. So then no judgment. No judgment I think is towards other people like you can make a judgment call but so even even if I decide after this that's the way I see it again like I credible opinion I believe in my opinion but when I refer to not judging is to create a habit of not judging another human being including dimension was taxing by the way. It's business maybe. Why is it your business? mentioned he makes no problem. Whatever. I don't judge people. the you keep your opinions to yourself whatever. Okay. See about vulnerability and is that is different. So for some people vulnerable for some people they don't say okay you know says friends [Music] It's not one size fits all but certain friends was like I know that's fake like they always always put a tough face. Yeah. I said bro whatever. Okay. Anyways different conversation. So regarding friends, you learn the hard way. Mind growing up, we we want to be safe and secure with our friend circle. But as we go as we go on in life, we learn that not every friend is meant for us. And I don't think that as of now there are barely any friends that I have that I was friends with from from young childhood from all my friends right now except very few is new friends friends that I met my closest friends are the friends that I met in the last few years because I'm I'm now on a different path on a different uh journey and different things make sense. So the these sounds we are we are we are highly conversation mentioned this is too deep I don't want to have this conversation okay they can do what they want to do and you're going to do what you need to do what you want to do that's the bottom line% %. So again 100%. So this [Music] is feel good. Don't say it. Hello. Second is relevant question. Trying your best a bit. Exactly. Exactly. They they are taught that they have to own up level. Right? Because the fact is the average the average smartphones. They smile the box. They sm the box because because smartphone and you would rather choose you choose and in reality Same. Same sha. We'll stay in touch. Sure. You know my brother, by the way, Sherman, ever spoken to him? I think so. Now, now I'm seeing it. Thank you. Love you all guys. Thank you. Thank you for inspiring conversation that I really enjoyed and um have fun. for the Thank