MBD Weekly Chasidus shiur #13

a story. I forgot to say a story. Okay. Um there's so many stories. I don't know which one. I don't I said which I didn't say. So there was a there's a guy in Burough Park. It was a friend of mine and um he had a a brand new house, beautiful house on 48 Street between 15 and 14 and 15th Avenue. And uh next to him was a lot, a 40 40ft lot. And the contractor bought the the lot to throw it down and build two 20s. That was in those days it was in Burough Park, but either a 20 or 24. So he uh he got nervous because the guy's going to build right up against his wall going to close his windows and it's going to be dark. So he came to the Reb, he wants to move. He was doing very well. So the Reb said first Reb said to him, you should know that Mishana Mishana Mazul can work the other way also. We all we all know a shanukushan muzzle get gets better. But I said if you're doing well it can also flip the other way. So he says don't sell your house. Stay where you are. Ask the cont ask the builder the contractor who bought bought the house to sell you a little piece. He starts laughing. He's going to sell me a little piece. It's impossible. It's a 40 lot. He can build 220s. That's it. That's all he can do. Said ask him to sell you a little piece. went to the contractor to the um builder and he said to him, "I want to buy a little piece so you don't close my windows." He sold him a small piece. He sold him five feet. >> Horn is his name. He sold him. Yeah. Hello. Okay. I don't know what he did. said in which is the the author of Abramu Makub he writes there are seven entrances in a person's body two eyes two ears two nostrils And the mouth are judges. Are police policing all your gates on the seven gates that a person has Uh you should put judges and policing. A person has to constantly judge his gates, his entrances, his eyes of his ears, of his mouth. There shouldn't be any in all these all these gates. mouth shouldn't speak. It's not supposed to. Says that person says is not deep enough. They they dig it. They make it deeper. We spoke about it so many times. We talk about it all the time. Is that's how the it's how it gets into a person. First, first the eyes, the eyes and the heart. That's how he gets a person to listen to to listen something that's not proper imp to speak. That's the beginning of cha and the main point of cha the same concept as they are the gates openings that a person has created these things to use them for the eyes the ears the nose nostrils the mouth He he has another thing here. So first of all we should know that wherever wherever the number seven appears we're talking about it's in correlation with the seven midas of theospherus and the mid which connected the center. A person has to use his to be the judge as a culture to judge correctly. how to use these these that Hashem gave us and the ones you should not use that's a that's a judge policing he should punish what does police do you pass a red light pass a stop sign you get a ticket you do something more drastic you go to jail like when we play uh used to play Monopoly go to [Music] So also a person should put a policeman he should punish if a person is my name is if a person gets to see something improper or he speaks something you take upon yourself the policeman. So you should police yourself and if a prisoner's over whether it's something that he saw that he saw something that he spoke or something that he heard you punish yourself how do we have more sure whether it is punishing yourself with giving a certain amount of money to do So every time every time persons he says you know if I if I look at something improper I'll give $100 to seda I'll give $50 to da give $1,000 every bit his level that is monetarily and also it can be physically the martial through fasting sometimes there there's two types of fasting there's a fasting a person doesn't eat all day long there's a fasting when a person sees something a good scholant on the table and he says, "I'll control myself. I'm not going to eat now. I'll take it." He sees a good piece of cockish cake and he says, "No, I'm not going to eat it because I uh because I because this is something that I really like and I'll punish myself. I'm not going to have it. It's too much too much bright. when they did something wrong they punished themselves and that is a very very fundamental important important detail in cha I spoke about it at length in my safer this is known that has a safe so I looked up you learning it you remember learning it with me >> I learned it with you years ago okay so now we're learning it again not this a different piece He asks a question. How is it possible that Hashem commanded us to put policing and judges and all these all these matters and to punish ourselves? If we did something wrong, we should punish ourselves. It's possible. There are certain certain in these in these places in in the eyes and the ears and the mouth. Sometimes you can come across a situation unwillingly. I once heard from Silverberg he said we say means after. You shouldn't you shouldn't stray after your eyes. shot after your eyes. Why is it called after your eyes? So they said sometimes a person accidentally he's walking down the street and something inappropriate passes by his eyes and then he turns around say what was that? That's the says the first thing that a person saw by accident he was accident but when when the when he turns around says what was that? Oh that's a problem. So he asked the question how can you be policing? >> Second look >> second look. Yeah. Second, the how can a person how can a person punish himself on seeing something or saying something or hearing something inappropriate? He's not always in control. It happens by accident. He go on famous story says about Raika that he saw turn his wife and when when he he he laughed and spit and he cried laughed and spit. So they asked him why did he cry? Why did he laugh? bit. So he said that uh I cried because such a beautiful woman is going to get gate and she's going to go down under. I laughed because he saw he's going to marry her. And he spit for that same reason. So the Gmorra asked how could it possible? How could he have said that she's a beautiful woman? How did he know? And for the Gora it was became obvious. He was walking at a corner and she bumped him. That was by accident. So we know the these things happen by accident whether you like it or you don't. So how can a how can a person get punished? How can you punish yourself for something which is accident? You go on sometimes you can see something unwillingly. You're sitting you're coming into and you see sitting around the table and suddenly you hear something which you shouldn't have been hearing. They shouldn't be speaking but that's a different story. So every time when a person if he really will punish himself, he'll police himself and every time he does something in pro something happens even by accident, he'll punish himself on him and he'll give him control over all his. It'll get to a point where it's it's not going to happen by accident. So his eyes will only see things Just like promised in the beginning he is the beginning of our heritage. He was the first one. What did say to him? So the Gmorrah says that his name was changed from to 248. So in the beginning Abraham is 243. So in the beginning he had control over 243 but after he connected to the on the and Hashem renamed them Abraham. So he got the extra five the eyes the ears and the mouth was only 243 and now it became 248. He says, "Our eyes have seen this as a fact." No strangers told me. I saw it with my own eyesimation. They're not alive anymore. They were not able to see or hear anything. They only saw, they only heard, only spoke. Nothing ever came out of their mouth or never. They never heard anything or saw anything which is not which is not proper. Famous story about the his old age's old age was very hard of hearing but when he spoke to him he heard everything. Anything else the stiper also the stipul was he was deaf at his old age but he spoke to he heard everything. If you came to him with a with a with a with a problem he had to write it down. He didn't he didn't hear of course he didn't hear but the he heard they tried giving him to read something he couldn't read. They only saw the he said, "My own eyes have seen this." The mitzvah is to put to to to stand a to have a watcher, a policeman, and to give punishments, give tickets, and to give punishments. But something that's not in control of a person will give it to you as a gift. If you will if you will act in accordance and police yourself in all these you will punish yourself every time something bad happens. Hashem will give it to you as a gift. They will they will judge the nation meaning the nation every every person they will judge the entire being. This week's par is a famous which everybody talks about it. So we'll try to delve into it. Says in this week's he's talking about who's your enemy. When you go out to war against your enemy, who's the enemy of the biggest enemy a person has? Kazal tell us that that a person has to feel that the theor stands trying to attack him and to kill him at all times. So if you you drop your guard for a second, he's got you. He's the real enemy. He tries to remove from our hearts the fear that we should have fort when a person goes out to the war the famous war there's no greater war than that two points which make which weaken a person's defense We're not as tactical. We're not as experienced as the is we're flesh and blood. We don't have that capability like he does. We're not as we're not as trained as the B. The second point is the fundamental the fundamental qualities of a human being are constantly hugging the in other words they try to embrace the at all times. everything that he says to us constantly tells us whether it comes to situation where I'm talking about stealing going around with with a gun robbing gas stations but when it comes to do business dealing with somebody and you have an opportunity that ah or the yes comes a person did something good ah I did something Great. Feel good about yourself. And we know that says I I can't I can't be together with somebody is but what is he thinks that he is something he did something without realizing that everything we do in life everything we have in life is he sees some good food. He dives into it. And these things hold a person back from listening to and even more. So when a person sinned and sinned and sinned again and again. So it says that the It's it's as thick as the the the thick ropes that carry the chariots. So if a person does a ve once, it's a very thin very thin rope. But when you do it over and over and over and over and over again, it becomes a very like thick heavy ropes and then you can't let go anymore. Every person does it creates a evil spirit which talks them into it entices you to do more aus they say in the when a person starts eating the appetite grows as you're eating same thing with a person does a so it brings you to more aus and more It's an expression from is a cookie that you put into the oven which you have to turn over on the other side. If you don't turn it over, it gets burnt. Same thing is over here when you're going out to war against you will see. What is and what is the is always like a horse is ready to war ready to go to war. A person is not ready to fight all the time. What is av the the found the foundation of a human being the of the person it's constantly longing to hook on to things that are no good that a person if he keeps on doing bad things so automatically he gets trapped and does more and more and more. Hashem's good word comes and tells us that you don't need to fear them. Don't need to fear the why is with us all the time trying to war against against the with your own because you're a human being. He's a Malik. But hem is with you and he's giving you the is much stronger to save you. When a person wants to cleanse himself and he wants to become and puree which is the he will suppress your enemies which is the of the uncle of Zoy. It says in this week's para and who are chosen them to be the coak. has a to bless anyone anyone that they want to. They can also curse someone that they want to. >> Huh? >> Yeah. Yeah. Jacob and they both got from their father. So to be good and he says and it happens in we've seen in many many many stories that said and it happened when many many different places in they looked at someone and the guy just disintegrated always sometimes is a situation sometimes it's even even inadvertently they can say something and they didn't mean to say that but it happened because they said it are the ones who ley what's called ley ley Like said now my husband will come one with me. So say they're always connected to if they give someone they bless someone in the name of will happen. I know like all the sadikim when they say things I saw by my rabbis many times he said something with we didn't understand what he's saying and then suddenly it happened looked like he could could be that he himself didn't understand what he's saying was this is what Hashem puts into their mouth we know that in is blesses those who get from is also the opposite. If they curse, Hashem listens to whatever they say. So says something good, it happens. says something bad >> like Shilah famous same famous same famous >> oh the B or the lighten yeah >> my my my my father-in-law told us >> that they they lived in a in a village and they had a go they had a farm they had farmland they had chickens and cows and dogs whatever that dogs for protection said they had a a neighbor who gave him trouble all the time so my uh my father's my father-in-law's father went to for Mala and he told him this guy he's giving us trouble. Soil said write the name of this uh this dude. He wrote on his name he rolled it up and put it into the candles. The next morning he came back to the village. So we see that Sadikim had not only to get to but also sometimes the opposite. Yeah. Oh. So the next piece is also very interesting. He said a different but the same concept. I don't know if you ever heard of the story that was once with was in Miami. He went for health reasons and there was a Eid that used to come every every day. He had a schul in Borak used to come every day between the always spoke to him to make a little break between me and Kamarv which was sometimes 1:00 in the morning but yeah so uh one one evening he comes and he asks me I would like to go last the reb have something to speak to him I said sure the reb knows let him in last he went out to the reb after 10 minutes comes out and those days the reb fasted every single Okay fasted for 50 years and every day he used to say and that day and he used to go eat after after seeing people that's with that one time a day that he ate >> fast in the middle of the night >> he broke some something like you do but a different level maybe get you braas >> no water >> he does intermittent fasting but you drink >> he was dry fasting So uh the seed comes out and I went in to take the reba for to eat go eat breakfast and as soon as I walk into the room he starts screaming at me. Why did you let him in? I said what happened? What happened? He was like he never screamed at me. I was like shocked. So he says uh he he pressured me so badly that I had to promise him. So I started laughing. I understood this guy's it's a done deal. So the Reb says to me, "You're laughing? What are you laughing about?" So I didn't know if she'd laugh or cry, but I I knew this guy is done. So the Reb after a couple of minutes, he gets up. He was sitting over here and the um was a few steps away. Gets up from a seat, says, "Come here. Come here, come here." Goes over to the um takes the he says, "Read together with me. Come this and his wife and then his his son-in-law didn't have children for nine years. His name is Raincian Lipshit. It's a very famous Soviet and in Bora Park big didn't have kids for nine years. So he gets his name Bengi who's a nephew of the Bob and his rabbitson and he grabs his sides of he sticks the quiddle in without you know randoms on the says and his wife remember her name should be to a child he says you hear what I'm saying you're my witness we're talking said. So then he opened the to see where he put the open. So the first line on top says with his word he created says you see what it says here. Nine months later a baby was born and then he waited 17 years for another one. >> Another one. >> Yeah. He had has two girls. came to be >> what? >> Not me. >> If I sure I came back I used to travel back and forth and my wife and kids were were here in New York. I used to travel back and forth in those days before there was mkatch people used to d as far as remember the remember the time. So I went as far as and enough is there was there. So I waited for him to finish. He used to he started with one and ended by the fourth one. So I waited for him to finish dabing and I after learn guys big anyway. So uh I waited for him to finish dabing and I told him a story. He said I came back a few months later and he said to me, "Oh yeah, just it's a done deal." Nine months later, he had a baby. [Music] Hashem gave a gave no no I don't agree with this you can't do this he has he had the ability has to say yes has to say no is always what the sadic says. So the toy tells us this week's para that the the theodel the melik cole had to have two the melik the melik had two one which was a small which he carried with him all the time [Music] this week's para And he has to read it all his life. He has to learn from the to fear Hashem at all times. Gammorra Gomorrah says [Music] if a person sees that Hashem is sending him pain he should check his mim if there's anything wrong with his doing and if he checked his M and he didn't find it. Why does he have to sit right across me? You can't use the phone outside. >> I'm talking to you. [Music] watching live. That's the question. >> Say that if a person has look look for maybe something wrong. He looked for and he didn't find. So it's probably What do you mean he didn't find? You see that he wasn't learning. So you have to you didn't find what do you mean didn't find? We didn't find is the biggest person has to learn in such a way to learn from the how to act, how to live. So the the is supposed to teach you what to do right and also what to correct anything you've done wrong from when you were born that's what the says these are the words we know whatever it says it's caution says is soft so when says these are the words the harsh words that spoke to the is to learn how to serve Hashem properly that's what says a person he learns so a person. So the words of the Tory teach him how to act. Person learn but not. Yeah. If a person learns but not he blinds his eyes. So the the when a person learns but it's not the blinds his eyes he shouldn't see the correct way when hem is with me and he helps me that's when I get to see my enemies which is Hashem should help him should help him against not to blind his is when the comes to you and tries to trick you into doing. So the that he learns should protect him. He should see clearly that whatever whatever whatever the is trying to get him into I should be able to see it my own self without any without anybody have to show me when sold they thought that they're doing a mitzvah the thought the the the mis because he spoke to and accepted what he said. The imamish thought doing a mitzvah. >> He wanted to something >> that also and [Music] yeah, >> but that was that was the >> right. Yeah, but they saw him as a when they themselves came to when before he revealed himself to them, they realized that Hashem is punishing us for some reason because we sold our brother. That's what the says should light up our eyes when we learn. When I learn light up my eyes, I should see what I've done wrong and I should correct it. When a person even if he's learning learn biggest but we know that before the war before World War II they were eaten in certain yeshivas they were the biggest masid but Shabas afternoon they sat and learn Gmorra with a cigarette >> huh Huh? >> He was he was caught in >> he was caught. Okay. So say but but he was a beloved. >> He said I think it was Shabas. He said oh I forgot to close the >> the curtain. >> The curtain. >> Yeah. >> Shabas afternoon. After the chulant after the chant. >> Huh? Serious. Yeah. Did you Did you say >> or you said was confused? You weren't sure was >> Shabas afternoon after aftermarket with a beer and a cigarette. >> It's a problem. Yeah. So he can learn and still be if he didn't learn no results there's no if a person learns to and without he didn't learn to a person should learn the the melik should learn this and this he should read it all his entire life is learning so his entire life should be scanned in front of him if he did something wrong person should correct any wrong that he's done his whole says that when you learn that will teach you all your a so of learning to is that a person should be able to correct any imper imperfections after he learns as opposed to what before it's known it's called that what does mean somebody asked me this morning what does it means it's a very very famous concept means when the king is in his palace it's very hard to get to him you have to have appointments for months and months and months, sometimes years ahead with the biggest protection. But sometimes that the king travels around to see what's going on. He wants to see the and at that point at that moment, anybody can run over to a certain degree and tell the king what he wants. So, Hashem is is hanging around with us and everyone can get closer to Hashem without without the red tape, without going through all the uh difficulties. What? >> Yeah. Yeah. canv because it's the end of the year. So a person has a to repent and get close to hem everything that we done wrong the entire year says once one which he hid in his little or kish that he had at and one that he carried when they went out to war. [Music] What was the point of having one hidden in his own at home or wherever in his treasures? What value does it have if it's locked away somewhere? It's known who is considered a melon they are the kings of the world. Hashem says the ones who control me, control my kingdom. Even if a person will learn the entire learn the entire alles and all it's not going to help him do a proper and to remove all the obstacles that separate us from himself. If you're not connected to on your own, you can't make it. Reb was that even his rebel also said even the famous biggest saddic he also had a reb who he looked up to and discuss discuss the situation with him. So, how do you know who to choose? There are so many rebas in the world. How do you know who's the one that you can rely on, that you can connect to, that he's the right guy? He's really connected. He's going and coming always. He's not anything. And you see the guy is after fire inside burning him and you see his through his actions. You see that it's like the the says that is if a person acts with his external parts on his internal even if he's not there yet but if he does it eventually will will ignite his his heart. So if you see a person who's and he's real, you see the everything he does, he's the one you should choose. So who should you choose as a boy? A person who you see that he has godliness in him. He's connected to Hashem. Every time he goes, he goes and comes. Everything is connected with just hidden in his heart. So in his heart he has a burning flame. So says that that's the type of sad that a person should have to be connected to. So if a person sees that sad is with Hashem his whole life and he also always does mash what time? >> 9:30 night 9:25 >> 25 was a Talmet Mu. He was much older than Bashmto but he was a famous of most of the that we have from Bashm is from they told Ysef something interesting >> that's right >> oh yeah >> I thought passed Right. >> Oh, his son-in-law. >> Son-in-law. >> Yeah. Big guy with Hashem. >> So, he's coming here tonight. You shouldn't judge your friend until you get to his place. This is a fundamental rule to bring about peace and love between like we have here on Seagate most of the fights that happen between people he judges himself in one way. If he does it, it's okay. But if you see somebody else doing it, suddenly he gets he gets his temperature rises. That's why he warned us. You should put yourself in his place. What does it mean? If you did something improper to a friend >> and he explodes on you, he did something to one the guy that attacks you like a like. So judge, what would happen if it's the other way around? How would I react? If he did that to me, how would I react to him? Judge yourself first. What would you do? If he would do to you what you did to him, how would your reaction be? But you curse him out more than he cursed you out. So don't get excited. Don't respond. You did something wrong to the guy. He jumped you. He attacked you. How would I attack him if he did the same thing to me? So therefore, relax. Calm. So every time, every situation you deal with a friend, deal that way. How would I react if I was in his place? The same way you're trying to judge your friend who did something is who who attacked you. Judge yourself. How would I have reacted to him if it was the other way around? And then it'll be peace and love between