Moment that Changed Eternity - 🎧 Torah Sessions vol.2

for every second that a man seals his mouth says the G VNA he merits on that account to bask in a concealed light something which No Angel or other creature can imagine as it's stated inim 34: 13 and 14 who is the man who desires life and loves days that he may see good guard your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceitfully so here we see that the gona is giving us a critical secret to success but even more so a cure a cure for literally all ailments that a person brings on themselves in simple Street language shut up more you'll be better that's in essence the the simple terms will ask why why do I need to make myself a mute as the stage is advis best idea for a person is to make themselves into a mute don't speak things unless it's absolutely necessary and even when it's absolutely necessary you have to double check if it's permissible despite your own understanding of it being necessary and again if there's no other choice you have to understand that speaking has a price a very big price such a big price that most of the damage that happens to a person's life is because of their speech because of how they talk and what they say he decides to tell his wife honey I love you but uh I think maybe you could afford to lose about 15 to 20 pounds already in a matter of five maybe seven seconds he destroyed his marriage permanently with that advice that advice that he gave his wife to lose 15 or 20 whether right or wrong he said simply destroyed his marriage most likely permanently because the confidence of a woman comes from the perspective of her husband meaning how he views her is how much confidence you have if he insults her abuses her thinks she's ugly thinks she's fat thinks she's too skinny thinks she's this think she's that she is going to be a miserable person a very sad person and if a sad wife is a sad life but he thinks that he's doing her a favor what Rabbi it's true it's true that she needs to lose weight whether she it's true or not that's really based on your perspective but even more so even if something is true doesn't mean you have to say it and and really even more so sometimes guys forget that they themselves are not exactly such a catch for whatever reason or another guys are very critical of their wives looks and they forgot that they also have an image that stares at them when they look in the mirror and they're not exactly a uh a beauty uh Prince and that's the funniest thing in the world guy says to you listen Rabbi I don't know what to do this uh this this wife of mine or the shid I don't know I think uh she's a little too heavy for me and who are you talking to you're talking to a guy that uh he himself is at least 30 to 50 lbs overweight has a one or two teeth missing in noticeable places barely knows that to complete a sentence without making a mistake and has about $4 in his pocket three of which he borrowed from his mother yet he has the audacity to become a Mr critic of his wife or somebody that he wants to go on with and it's bizarre to me it's bizarre to me that guys have gone to this level now you could say yeah but men were always critical of women's looks not necessarily not necessarily the way that people are today it's crossed all lines so much so that I've literally heard men tell their wives that they don't enjoy the way that they are conduct themselves in privacy and therefore they need to work on themselves now why would a man ever say such an awful thing to literally murder his wife in Cold Blood and think that's going to be conducive to their marriage I'll tell you why he has watched so much filthy disgusting pornography that he has the Illusion in his mind that that's how real life is so everything that his wife will ever do he compares her to that filthy Zona that he watched in a video or the ones that he sees in the street or his past experiences and he's trying to compare a sadika to a z and he says how come you're not like the Z but pretend to be a sadik like what does he want he wants his wife to be like bam he wants his wife to be like Bam Bam was the biggest most wicked person on planet Earth but he wanted the death of abah and yov he wants a righteous woman but he wants her to look and act like a z this shows how far we are from where we need to be why because person that understands what is required in a marriage to be successful in a life and just simply looks at this and says are you sure this is a real human being are you sure this is like a real this is a religious person and unfortunately sometimes it is or at least they pretend to be so it's very very important that a person needs to know this first Club a man that shuts his mouth or a woman that shuts her mouth more often than not typically will have a much better life typically we'll have a much better life and that's in essence what the g v is given us as footnote number one or advice number one whatever you want to call it he says for every second that a man seals his mouth he merits on that account to bask in the concealed light something which No Angel or creature can imagine if you know that every single time you say something your husband gets angry every single time he says something she gets angry then perhaps maybe you should talk less but yeah but she wants me to talk oh so maybe you should consider what you're going to say before you say it and see oh when I say this he always gets angry when she says this he always gets angry so don't say it how about that for how about that for don't say it no but I have to oh you have to okay so you know have a miserable life I have a miserable life I know this sounds ridiculous but this is really the root of many people's problems they simply can't shut they simply cannot shut up they feel the need to talk and say a lot of things and as a talkative person myself one of the main changes that I applied to my life over the years of getting closer to is this is all I talk about I talk to generally speaking very very little socializing whether it's with friends or students or my own wife and kids virtually we try to have zero small talk that's the goal of Life zero small talk zero nonsense if you're going to say something it has to have meaning and usually the things that have meaning have connection to the T or it is the T itself and that's really all that's important in life now what do I see if it was a chart like I used to look at when I was on Wall Street it would be a chart that you see continue going higher and improving the situation as I talk less nonsense my life improves anytime I fall and I decide to have and I decide to say some type of sentence full of nonsense then you see the chart crash and you have to fix it you have to do CH and you go back up this is one of the greatest things that a person could apply to their life now of course again a little bit of talk especially with the wife with the husband is necessary but not every little bit is necessary not every little bit of necessary not every detail is necessary and needless to say all the friends and the colleagues and so on those are generally not necessary but again people think that it's necessary for a person to socialize but that's because they learned this from the media they need to socialize so all day if they're not watching the news to find out how other people are socializing about other people's lives then they're what they're doing they're just repeating what they saw on the news or some other type of network with people so in essence it goes from people being nosy and looking in places they don't belong and talking about it on the news Non-Stop and if you didn't hear it once you'll hear it again every single hour for the whole day and then the people that watch as soon as they stop watching they go communicate the very same thing that they saw to other people oh did you see what happened today Biden did this this one that that this one died this one's alive this one came back to you know all do dot dot dot dot dot you know who does that parrots parrots people have become parrots and it's sad because you're people if you parrots and your goal is to become parrots this would be great but you're not a parrot you're a person why are you acting like a parrot it's a good question I don't have have an answer for that maybe people do now the G is saying every single opportunity that a person remembers what he learned today and applies it to their life and stays quiet they're literally creating an angel they're creating a light that even the angels that are up in heaven that see things that we cannot even imagine even those angels cannot comprehend the magnitude of that light that's how much greatness a person creates as a result of being quiet when necessary you'll be surprised the more quiet you become the more analytical you become of your speech and the more you realize how much of it is unnecessary but again every person needs to understand if you're talking you can talk to no end from morning to night 24 hours a day 120 years but if you're talking about other things that's where the limitations have to come in the G that specifies rather than saying don't talk he specifies for every single every second every Rea is not really a second according to the in says that had one power that evenu did not have which was that he knew thega the Rea that hasem is judging the world and during that time he can curse anyone and Hashem would bring the decree on them because he knew that there's already judgment in the world during that moment so the say what is a if you look at the commentary the accepted opinion is that AA is 11 15,000 of a second that's a Rea and Rashi says Rea is not something that a human being can truly comprehend and really put into perspective it's such a little bit amount of time here thei says every meaning every second and second every moment and moment every that a person stays quiet it's a very very big deal not only telling a person that you shouldn't do bad things you shouldn't say stupid things but rather even if you're simply a sewer mouth you have to talk all the time and what you're going to talk about is not going to be any good holding yourself back for even a few moments you'll get a reward for it you'll get punished for this garbage that you said but at the very least if you're able to hold yourself for a few moments like that few moments you're going to get a reward for that that's how gracious is that's how important it is to think about what you're going to talk about before you say it so here we see that the G is giving us a little bit of a different perspective on life which is that the value of AA the value of a moment is not something that most people really think would make a difference in life but uh truly if you look into the uh words of the and you uh study them you see that AA can determine the difference between a eternity of good or eternity of bad Shalom many times I heard him say that it takes 70 years of loyal and hard work to earn yourself a place in heaven but only AA to lose it all and the more you understand it the scarier it becomes because you know it's true 70 years of working to try to earn yourself a keep for an eternity of good in heaven in but a person can Shalom ruin all of it in a in a minute second less than a second 15,000 of a second so here we see that the an action that takes AA could lead to endless reward or the opposite one of the in the previous generationen benis told his family one time that he wants to do a celebration for completed the and the family that knew the father's study schedule they didn't know how could this be cuz they knew exactly when you would complete the sh every so often and this was not on the schedule they asked them ABA um why the change in schedule he says no this is not the same sh that's on the daily Li this is a different sh different sh when did you learn this Shas he said every time I found myself having a 5 minutes five minutes that I'm going to have to wait for Bata to start or for a wd an elevator or a bus every time I knew that I had five minutes I would start learning the sh during those five minutes an accumulation of all of those five minutes over the years I've now completed the entire Shas B here we see how much the valued each and every single moment each and every single moment of their life and took it at as something that they not only appreciated but they utilized it they utilized it when one of the became critically sick the students saw that the is not getting better and they took drastic measures and uh added to their prayers that each and every single person is in essence donating a piece of their life to the r they took this down they wrote it down how much do you want to contribute one guy said I'm going to donate an hour of my life take that hour for me and give it to another one say I'm going to give two hours another one said half hour another one said two days 3 days four weeks a month and so on and so forth they gathered up the nice list and they came to the and they asked said we have this campaign campaign to accumulate as much life as possible to give to the have mercy and give up part of each of Our Lives many more years to teach us what is the willing to give thought about it extensively and then [Music] said willing to donate when a person first hears this if they're not in line with the significance of our there first impression is what's going on why is the sadik so cheap only giving a Lega 15,000 of a second he's not giving it to Sam Russ he's giving it to a sadik why only but if a person is in line with the mindset and ideology of the sikim and understands who and what we're talking about here they actually get an extraordinarily valuable lesson from that ins of how valuable a Lega is in the eyes of a because they know how many they can learn during that time fulfill during that time how much T they can fulfill how much T they can learn and each one of those has a endless value and the young kids that came to the got an extraordinarily important M lesson from the that changed many of their lives realizing how much you could achieve in a when was preparing his for the end of this was the final Yip of the he told this K that Prophet Y in chapter one verse 12 in seph says to the uh the people on the ship Lift Me Up and cast me into the sea asks why did Yi add the words lift me up why did he not just say throw me overboard obviously you have to use you know lift somebody up before you throw him over the board but needless to say what was the extra word for he can't say oh no that's just the way he talks no no this is first of all it's a prophet second of all these are words that are written in the tanak there's no extra words why is a feel the need to have these extra words as you would seem to have written in the Tora where Y is telling the people lift me up and then throw me overboard says because y appreciated the value of life even one final moment of life is extraordinarily valuable and therefore he asked the sailors to take an extra moment to lift them up as that extra lift will delay his death by a Moment therefore says to his Kila if we see the Y that he himself asked them to throw him overboard because he knew that if they don't throw him over the board into the sea then they're all going to die anyway why should they die for his sin so he knows this has to happen but why not live for an extra moment if you not valued life so much that he wanted to live that extra moment says let us appreciate this valuable lesson and used that last few moments before the end of Y do chuba what about all you were supposed to do in the last 25 hours no do cha now now do cha now a person that sees some of the things that kazal say say you know what okay value being time I see it's relevant but valuing moments hard to relate until you see yourself in the story sometimes a person watches sh and they contact me and they say Rabbi listen I saw I want to use the story or the thing that you said I want to say it on my I say go for it now sometimes people tell me listen Rabbi I tried saying what you said but my family wasn't listening to me they just I don't know I saw they were just looking at me and they really weren't really interested I got really excited about it and I prepared and and I did everything possible I finally said it and I don't know they all looked at like you know yeah okay thank you for finishing I feel uh like I'm wasting my time says the to one of his students who came to him with the same exact question he says I gave a speech I gave a speech to the K and the KLA looked at me as if they were looking through me waiting for me to finish I spoke to them for an hour and a half and I can see in their eyes that they're counting the seconds before I finish and when I completed everything they were more excited about me completing the speech than the words that I say because the words that I said had no impact I feel like I rather just learn Torah and it's worth much more says the that's a mistake why it's a mistake look at what our teacher the has taught us that for each and every moment that a person seals his mouth he merits on that account to bask in a concealed light something which No Angel or other creature can imagine how does this relate to you it relates to you because for that one hour for that one hour and a half that you spoke or for that five minutes that you spoke on your shabat people were paying attention people were not chitchatting people were not saying people were not talking Idol talk that was worthless they were there quietly even if not willingly but out of being cordial and respectful they stayed quiet for 5 minutes oh I wish I can have such reward like you says the where you hadde hours upon hours of people not making sins because of you oh what a great reward you have I wish I had the same such like you created meaning that even if you think that your Torah speech and your story did not impact people the fact that they paid attention or even if they didn't pay attention but they literally did not commit any sins by simply just be being quiet that in itself is an extraordinary reward that you're going to get for needless to say if you actually do give them and get them to do and get them close to but even if you don't even if you literally say things that just go over their heads they don't understand a single word that you say it's still praiseworthy it's still good you're doing good you're doing good why they didn't sin for that 5 minutes they didn't sin for that one hour needless to say if it's on Shabbat on Shabbat people get together and you know many times if they're not a Torah based home then what happens and by Torah based home I don't mean religious Torah based home means that people are learning toah every day even if they're working even if they're making millions doesn't make a difference but they're learning toah every single day if they're a Torah based home then on Shabbat everybody shares T the Father the Son the this the that even uh the kids share t Everybody Talks Tora what's the par what's this what are you learning what's this what's everything is connected to Torah but when it's not a Torah based home then what does everybody do everybody brings to their Shabbat table the laundry of the entire neighborhood for the entire week oh did you hear what happened there three houses next door yeah I think he divorced her or did you hear what happened there the Rabbi says that he's okay for not giving her get or did you heared there he's taking them to bedine or did you hear what happened over there they got into an accident oh did you hear what happened over there I think he's sick and everybody brings everybody's laundry to the shabat and then there surprise the disaster strikes says you know that your house is full of this junk everybody's bringing their garbage pale to the Shabbat and you have five minutes of Torah in you five minutes not more you heard a and you have five minutes that you remember go and say those five minutes tell them that that story about the B tell him that story about the K tell him that story that you heard Inu tell them one of those stories tell them why because for those five minutes they will not make sense that is extraordinary because it's not only that you yourself did not make sense but now on your account every single one of them did not make sense for 5 minutes oh how praiseworthy you are I wish I had your share says a person understands the magnitude of the words of the understands how valuable a really is and says in the in chapter six that a person that guards their tongue is using the most effective cure for all illnesses that a person can have you have a physical problem your body hurts your head hurts whatever body part some type of illness that you have signs off his name you want a cure be quiet be quiet how much as much as possible how much as much as possible if it's not Torah don't talk that's the best cure that's like cure for cancer sir that's how great it could be now of course person I'm going to try I'm going to do it and you know 3 minutes later they fail and not only they fail they start saying nonsense so a person needs to understand the ramifications of talking nonsense we cannot just say that something is good we cannot even just say that you will get a reward for it because the most inspiring tool that a put into creation is fear and person is inspired by fear more than he is by anything else fear of loneliness fear of poverty fear of hunger fear of punishment of other kinds there's all types of fears that a person has the only fear that is permissible is the fear of the almighty but that does not come to us naturally says that's the one fear that you have to work your whole life on acquiring everything else in reality is forbidden but nonetheless Le if a person fears speaking Idle Words speaking things that are not just wrong but simply a waste of time that person is going to have the PUK of who is a man who desires life and loves days be fulfilled they'll have a longer life they'll have a better life now the G VNA continues and says guard your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking dece deceitfully now a person that is clueless we have to explain to them in the Practical terms of this world if you see that you're are having marriage problems you're having all types of problems at work it's usually because of things that you're saying it's usually because of the way that you communicate and unfortunately that is the root of many problems if you can find it in yourself enough love for yourself that you'll keep yourself quiet you'll see that your life becomes better you'll see that your life becomes better if you can't find it in yourself to keep yourself quiet then don't come complaining but we still want to help you so we have to give you the other aspects of things the G says this being quiet not just get you a good reward get you to have a better marriage perhaps even a promotion at work not just that by being quiet this will atone for every sin and save a person from G as we find in Mish Proverbs 21: 23 he who guards his mouth and his tongue guards his soul from troubles now if it's just talking about speech why does it say guards his mouth and his tongue come and say ah it says guards his mouth from eating and drinking things that they shouldn't be either it's too much or forbidden foods and guarding his tongue from Idle Words needless to say from forbidden words rumors all types of things because the G vness says if I don't guard my mouth I'm going to go to G and I don't want to go to G no but Rabbi I'm not even talking about I'm talking about just uh you know let's just talk between you know friends oh so Idol talk I don't want to go to kafak but you said g yeah there G there kafak is different departments but different speech different parts for different speech says page 152b a person that makes certain types of sense such as goes to asks the what is kafak kafak is a very special Department that a created where he has these angels that are angels of Destruction and they take the soul and slingshot it from one end of the universe to the other end of the universe while doing a few flips and tricks and beatings to that Soul throughout the whole way so it doesn't forget them it's not a roller coaster of fun rather a disaster in fact it's not even something that atones for sins it's pure and utter revenge for a person going against the king that created him if that's not enough the says another verse death and life are in the power of the tongue and woe to the person that kills himself for one ill conceived word one ill conceived word one word you said to the rabbi inappropriately one word you said inappropriately to a one word inappropriately you said to your wife to your husband to your child many parents think that just because they have children it's like a free-for-all they're allowed to embarrass them in public you embarrass your kids in public you're going to get punished for it in fact if you embarrass them for no reason you'll get punished for it even if it's private people think oh he's my kid I can do whatever I want no you can't no you can't can't just decide to embarrass your kid just because you feel like it of course there there proper or teachers teachers I remember from my day if you got in trouble you did something teacher will keep you after class and write this I will never do this again a thousand times and you go there and you're right you're right right right right and you don't finish okay you have to do it again in front of the whole class all right right right that's not that teacher will get punished for it why because the only thing the kid learns from such punishment that their hands hurt that's it that's all they learned their hands hurt after they write a lot so people think that they could just simply say whatever they want do whatever they want and the g v tells us there's a price for everything there's a very very serious price for everything so much so that a person could literally kill themselves because of a single word what is killing them elves if they understood the magnitude of their speech if they understood the magnitude of their speech they would understand why the speech is killing them in so many words the cost of speaking nonsense we're not even talking about speaking really bad things false rumors simply speaking nonsense has a very very big price speaking things that are forbidden obviously the magnitude of the sin is even worse the magnitude is of a sin is even worse but what can we do that sometimes there are people that are addicted to talking addicted to talking they can't stop talking but not talking things of wisdom rather talking nonsense pure and utter nonsense where no one that's outside of their circle of crazy people will understand them and even the people within their circle of people usually don't understand them but if they speak with big words people pretend like they understand what they're talking about so either it's crazy people think they speak to each other or it's simply people are too ashamed to admit they have no idea what you're talking about you'll find this very often in missionary circles people that are Heretics people that are anti- Torah Lefty liberals people that pretend to be good but really in reality they're Idol worshippers you'll see this a lot in the uh socialite World a lot of things like that are very common and you'll see that people love to hear themselves talk other people are waiting for the opportunity to talk themselves or they want to seem like they're smart and they're nodding and agreeing with everything even though they have no idea what this person is talking about and there are some people that just love to hear themselves talk and it's a unfortunately a very very horrendous disease where you'll see certain people just talking talking talking talking but they're not saying much they're not saying much they're just going to tell you the same thing in 15 different ways and it was enough to even have it in one way and even too much when you heard it the first time but they want to repeat it every time you see them they want to tell you about the directions they took to get to your bank to get to your house to get to your office they took the uh I95 but then they decided to go on a Turnpike and they got gas on the way and then somebody called them but it was the wrong number and I'll tell you a bunch of things that in reality don't really mean anything don't really mean anything this is also people sometimes get offended when they ask me for a phone call and I tell them I don't take calls anymore I haven't taken calls in a few years I generally don't take calls very rarely will you ever find me on the phone and typically it's either an emergency or a special case generally speaking I don't take calls why because when people speak on the phone they feel perfect freedom to just waste your time and talk about everything in the world that doesn't matter everything in the world doesn't matter where when people send you a text message or a voice note typically they have enough decency to keep it to the point but when you talk to people when you meet with people they'll tell you about all types of things that really mean nothing mean absolutely nothing oh where do you guys do this weekend where you going next weekend oh what's uh what kind of jacket is that oh I like that tie oh how long you guys married like who cares I never understood those conversations but people do it why because they're addicted to talking now if you talk like guy listen would you rather hear the things I want to say or go smash your head against the wall 15 times nine out of 10 people will go smash their head against the wall why because they really don't want to hear you talk but since they themselves are addicted to talking and they know the only way they get to talk is if they give you a turn to talk they say okay listen I'll go through it yeah go go go go say whatever nonsense you want to say and then I'll get I'll have my turn I'll say my nonsense you'll say your nonsense and before you know it we'll both be on back on the highway creating more nonsense to talk about when we get to the next appointment most people's lives is this nonsense you see this on the news you see it in the papers you see it in books you see that the books of today generally speaking you'll see entire book could be a thousand Pages doll story could have fit in 15 pages so what's the extra 985 Pages simple you wouldn't pay 20 bucks for a 15 page book you wouldn't pay for 20 bucks 15 page book so they have to put a lot of fluff same thing with uh with the news an hour and a half they're talking about same mumbo jumbo that could take 30 seconds and generally speaking most news is not relevant to the viewers that are watching it whether it's the stock market news or it's all types of financial news all types of governmental news to the average viewer it does not matter you can't do anything about it you don't even understand it and in reality it's not even consequential or affecting your life in any way but unfortunately people are addicted to this stuff they're addicted to this stuff because they want more stuff more content to talk about and sound educated so you'll see very often the people that try to pretend like they are the thinking men like this rash missionary called claven he calls himself the thinking man he thinks he's like the Aristotle of the generation or something he's the thinking man so the common denominator among these thinking men name dropping name dropping they'll name you all types of uh big people that were before them famous people some people nobody even ever heard of some people people did speak of but either way when you say somebody's name oh that means you are well read no it just means you wasted a lot of time memorizing names that's really all it means and no one's going to double check if you actually read what you're saying you read and if what you're saying actually was said by the guy that you said you read his work but the name dropping goes and then they tell you all types of people that they know and places that they went to like who car cares that you read this or you went there tell me the bottom line T what's the point what can I learn from it and if they even have an idea to begin with generally speaking that entire idea could be summed up in maybe 25 seconds and if the guy's really intelligent a minute and a half why because generally speaking secular knowledge is empty is empty there's not much substance to it so you don't need many words to express it and many times people are just so addicted to speaking that they'll just say the same thing over and over and over again without any thought whatsoever of whether this should be cut or not and that's what happens so the addiction to speaking is something that I would say most people have unless they're very self-conscious people or introverts and don't talk at all and this is something that that a person should be conscious of why because those extra words that you're using have a price they have a price that price is either a Golden Ticket golden ticket for your Heaven because it's good and valuable words that will help people get closer to Hashem or it's simply nothing Idle Words and you're in essence creating more fuel for your own punishment that's Choice number one choice number two or or or condition number two should say is people that simply can't move on what is that the r galinski said that he was once on a train and under his train he was trying to get some rest all the different Journeys and battles that he would fight he needed to get some rest but the guy next to him was some Gentile that simply could not stop repeating the same thing which is I'm so thirsty I'm so thirsty o I'm thirsty thirsty thirsty thirsty I'm so thirsty and he would just repeat it over and over and over again now aside from the fact that galinski has he's also a very small person so slapping the guy in the mouth like we all want to do it's not an option for him so you have to hear this and he can't rest because the other guy just keeps talking out loud about how thirsty he is as soon as the train stopped of galinski runs out of the train hurries up to go get some water which which wasn't as easily accessible as it is today and makes it right back to the train before it leaves the station and goes to the next one and gives the guy the water do you think ah sadik problem solved good for you great story but it wouldn't be a story if that was the case why he gave him the drink the Gentile drank the water and then continued saying wow I was so thirsty I can't believe I was so thirsty you know sometimes you get thirsty I was so thirsty really really so thirsty says ginski sometimes there are certain people that simply can't move on they can't move on they just can't move on past the point that they're stuck at I have certain people that I've I've been talking to and they literally have been at the same exact point as what they were when I first started talking to them a year ago 5 years ago 10 years ago 20 years years ago and that's actually one of the greatest things that you see as a BAL Chua that comes from a uh non-religious background non-religious friends uh non-religious Community non-religious world one of the greatest things that you'll see along the way doesn't happen right away because when you first start doing Chua most of the time people call you crazy or they simply ask you who died you know you decide to keep Shabbat you put a keep on ask you oh who you say kadish for who died like why are you religious like like people think that someone needs to die in order for people to become religious apparently Judaism has bad marketing so people think this way now when you first start doing Chua most of your friends siblings and so on will tell you either that you're crazy or they're just not really understanding what you're doing and they think perhaps it's a phase that you're going through like a midlife crisis equivalent now all of those people will generally speaking let you do what it is that you're doing and without really bothering you but there are of course always messengers of the Satan sometimes they're your brothers or your sisters or your parents or your spouse even co-workers or boss and they try to discourage you they try to tell you don't do it you're crazy this is too much take it slow one Mitzvah every 10 years or maybe at least one every seven years like the you know this year you'll keep Kash in seven years you'll keep Shabbat and seven years from there maybe perhaps you'll keep before you know it by the time you died you'll keep 10 mitv and go to G but they don't realize the magnitude of things they don't realize reward and punishment is not a uh suggestion or an idea or a theory but rather a reality both in this world and the next so they try to discourage you because watching you do Chua getting closer to hasem is in essence reminding themselves that they're staying in the same place so they try to discourage and if when you overcome that obstacle and you continue running running forward taking on everything you possibly can don't listen to those fools that say oh listen slowly slowly just keep half of Shabbat just eat kosher in the house one day don't listen to people like that whatever you know do it whatever you know do it if you can do it do it don't think oh no if I keep half Shabbat it's good it's not good you're going to Gom either keep Shabbat or you go to G there's no half Shabbat there's no a one minute Shabbat there's no once a year Shabbat you keep Shabbat all the time you're you go to heaven you don't keep Shabbat you go to G simple anyone tells you otherwise is a liar or clueless or both but the reality is a lot of people say slowly slowly slowly now you should run why you should run because if you run you'll have a lot of a from sh that momentum will keep you going and before you know it a year will pass and if you compare yourself from one year to the next you'll see some drastic changes changes in your understanding changes in your perception changes sometimes even in your looks don't worry those changes will continue two years out you'll see even more drastic changes not just drastic changes from year two to the beginning but rather drastic changes from year 2 to year one how much you've changed even more looks even more understanding even more clarity even more knowledge then you go to year three drastic changes how much changes can it be endless changes that's that's really what it's supposed to be endless changes every year you're supposed to change and improve why more understanding more Torah character tra development you're better at this you found out that you're worse at that and so on and so forth now once you're already on that train and you're in it three four five 6 years you'll notice something else you'll notice something else that perhaps you didn't really notice or pay mind to during the first 2 3 4 years what will you notice after I would say for at least 5 years perhaps maybe even more for some people you'll notice something significant that out of your entire circle of the people that you knew and know your family your friends colleagues whoever all of those people that have not done Chua are exactly where they were 5 years ago or worse and you are the only one that progressed in their life they are still dealing with the same or Worse life that they had 5 years ago you have progressed Milestones where those very same people that were trying to get you to stop and not do it in some cases are starting to come back to you and ask you for a blessing ask you for advice ask you for guidance not always and not all the time but nonetheless they start coming as you progress even further 6 7 8 10 years and further you'll see some more of those people if they're still in your circle and they still come back and they humble themselves to realize that they're losers and you're not and you'll see that it doesn't matter how long the time frame is it could be 5 years it could be 10 years it could be a thousand years those people that did not do Chua literally their lives stayed either the same miserable life that they had empty purposeless and simply full of problems marriage problems child problems money problems everything's a problem or they got worse so he was fighting with with his wife when you first started doing Chua 5 years progressed you've done Chua you got married you already had two kids he either got divorced or he still talks about how much he hates his wife he can't stand her he's this he's that same thing nothing changed nothing changed same thing with business the guy was a cheater liar filth of the Earth doing everything he possibly can but figure he's gonna get ahead you progressed five years you have a normal job you're learning you're doing whatever it is that you're doing you're making ends meet sometimes you need a miracle sometimes it's an open Miracle sometimes it's a closed Miracle but either way you're living you know where P comes from anyway you're not worried because you're connected to the source of all good him 5 years of past either he lost everything because he finally got caught empty-handed or he stole doing the same con man acts cheating people lying to people still you know struggling to to make ends meet it doesn't matter that he's now making a 100,000 a month because he still doesn't have any money at all it doesn't matter that his company has 50 employees because all the employees can't stand them and they're all thinking that the company's going to out of business any minute and literally nothing has changed nothing has changed it only deteriorates at best it just does not get better and everybody's like that the marriage is still bad the relationships are still bad it's more like they see you is like how did you do that how did you just like slingshot yourself forward and we're still in the same garbage P that we're in now most people are not going to admit it most people think ah yeah no listen he got lucky she got lucky yeah you know you had it coming no you had this you had that no give all the excuses in the world it's no excuse simply blesses those that love him and curses those that don't that's what happens and most people don't understand that these types of things are just a small small token of the blessing that hasem gives to a person that trust in why because one of the um things that says that the righteous will get as a reward is to see the ashes of all of the wicked people under their feet the ashes of all the wicked people under their feet I heard elaborate on that point he says why would you want to see the ashes of the wicked people if you're a righteous person why would you want to see the ashes of the wicked people under your feet I mean you're in ganeden you're in heaven you want to learn tah enjoy eternity eternity of good you're enjoying the I mean why do you care of what the wicked are doing says no part of the reward that a who gives the righteous is the constant reminder of what would have happened to you had you not done Chua you would be the ashes now when you're constantly constantly reminded of what it could have been and how you really are where you are in a better position the value of your reward is infinitely greater because you're realizing what the other option was there was no middle ground so one of the things that gives the righteous even in this world that do ch CH is he shows you in real time in real time if you have patience and enough dedication how you're progressing you got married when no one else thought you were going to get married you had kids when no one thought that you were even able to have kids you have P you have this you have progress you've moved on with your life and they are still in the same lonely miserable garbage pale they were in 10 years ago nothing has changed and if anything they're just uglier now at fat now and more miserable now that's it nothing positive has happened you see yeah but some guys made a lot of money during the last 10 years doesn't mean anything and the more you know those people the more they'll tell you how that extra money they have means even less than they thought before they had it why because they're even more measurable as a result of more success they're even more empty as a result of having all of these different things and that's in essence what the gona is trying to tell us if we are going to stick to a it's not just about keeping but also running away from sins running away from sins begins with your eyes what you look at where you look all of the different things but also you have the speech you have the speech what words do you choose to use how do you describe certain things how do you express yourself when do you talk when are you quiet who do you talk to why do you talk to them and what do you talk to them about all of these things have a significance and have a very very steep price very steep price some people are addicted to talking nonsense and they'll get punished for it both in this world and the next some people are simply addicted to their current status they just cannot move forward the guy told me that he's looking for a job six years ago today he tells me Rabbi I'm looking for a job wait are you telling me me that in 6 years no one was willing to hire you and you're expecting me to believe that if you lived I don't know in a jungle somewhere maybe the Lions and I don't know the anacondas over there don't want to hire a human being I would understand it but if you live in America in Europe in developed economies during a economic boom regardless of whether it's real or it's a bubble is irrelevant and you're telling me you can't find a job no no no there's a problem here there's a very serious problem you were looking for a job five years ago you're still looking for a job you were looking for a wife five years ago you're still looking for a wife you will look ah life doesn't work that way Hashem is hiding his face from you Hashem is hiding his face from you you should be asking not why don't I have a job why don't I have a z you should be asking why is a hiding himself from me what am I doing wrong what can I do better what can I do better but sometimes people are too focused on The Superficial nonsense that they think is the world the illusion of the world The Matrix of the world if you will and they missed the whole point they missed the whole point the guy got the drink he complained about for a half hour and instead of moving forward he can't he's just talking about being thirsty but you're seated yeah but I was thirsty and yes this will drive a normal person insane and guess what most people are insane most people are insane because they can't move on they can't move on the breakup happened five six 7 10 years ago fine it was a terrible breakup he cheated on you she cheated on you terrible people he's bad you're bad it's over finished 10 years ago move on he moved on you should move on she moved on you should move on stop imagining that you're going to come back to each other it's not going to happen it's gone finished go they fired you already look for a new job just go on with life no make a point I'm going to stay this way I'm going to win this the root of it the root of it comes from ego of believing that the world is supposed to run according to your tune it's a very very sad state for a human being and only they can actually get themselves out of it typically requires some type of traumatic experience unfortunately that's the second thing second type of spe that a person has to be careful of the type of speech that there's no progress in it whatsoever no progress they're not willing to move forward the third one obviously is the most common one that people like to talk about but most people don't really know the meaning of which is is not something that uh the average person understands because they think the has to be false information not true sh is real sh is true oh has to be unfavorable not necessarily not necessarily you tell people certain things that even if they're favorable on somebody else it could be considered as how so page 164b one of the people says I see you have a beautiful handwriting how you wrote this oh no no no it's not me he he he has a beautiful handwriting the other guy was here yeah he he's the one that has really really nice handwriting he wrote it I say a beautiful handwriting yeah that's why is so they go back and forth and they say or explain it in in such a way where if you say he has beautiful handwriting he's not here he left and this must have been written by him because he's the one that has beautiful handwriting you think oh I'm complimenting him it's a nice thing says listen if you say his beautiful handwriting perhaps the other guy's going to think why does he have beautiful handwriting it's probably because when he was a kid he was a bad kid and they used to punish him a lot and make him write everything on the board a million times and because he wrote after writing everything a million times because he such a bad kid he developed good handwriting now as far as Al I mean according to the r and say just saying he has nice handwriting or something good bying itself is not enough to be unless you embellish it meaning you say he not only has nice handwriting he has the best handwriting not only is he Financial off he's a multi-millionaire that's if you just say listen he's okay basic things if it's necessary to some extent not always but to go and tell people uh things that are with embellishment again true but with with embellishment oh he's really rich he's really successful he's the best that can be decreed as why if he's really successful and somebody says to you listen you know uh Steve yeah yeah Steve yeah what do you mean Steve Steve with the Porsche I don't know if he has a Porsche well he also has a Ferrari I don't know if he has a Ferrari you know Steve with the big house that three four $5 million house up the block I'm not sure green Bal yeah yeah Steve Green Bal yeah so he has a $4 million house a Ferrari a Porsche a dish a stock portfolio you give him the entire guy's bank account guess what every single word that came out of your mouth why maybe Steve doesn't want everybody to know he has all these things and you say wait but if he doesn't want people to know that he has a multi-million dollar house don't buy one buy cave go uh live in the mountains no it's not your business to share it if he chooses to share it and live there that's one thing but for you to share it it's a completely different thing that's number one number two why don't you tell people oh Steve is Rich maybe those people going to say you know what Steve's Rich maybe I'm going to call him ask him for a loan and maybe Steve doesn't want to lend money oh if Steve's Rich maybe I'm going to go to him and tell him listen I have this uh this wedding I can't really pay for it and this and that and put him on the spot show up at his job listen Steve I know this office you have is simple but I know where you live Joe told me you live in that $5 million house you have a Ferrari and what is it a Porsche yeah it's a new one yeah yeah yeah I know he told me that's and for there's a special G for it and some say it's a mix one batch it's like a omelet shakshuka combo why do vness ISS you did not like life enough to watch your speech when a person likes his life he watches his speech where do we see all of this in the of course in his ultimate Mercy makes us look like but he has it in this week's this week's left this world goes to lives many years more than her even though she was a greater Prophet than him and it says here in the uh chapter 23 of Genesis first few verses you go to verse number two says sah died in that's the place which Ison in the land ofan and came to eulogize and be her say if you look at the and they typically do this also in the the way that the Hebrew word is written is unusual where the size of the letter inside the word is UN usually smaller than the rest of the letters and it's not a printing error every has a small every and even the older day have this small meaning it is a significant teacher there's some reason why told us to write this in small say that's because it's trying to teach us that the crying that Abraham had over Sarah was smaller than you would think smaller than you would think some are going to say oh the cleak for example has a uh commentary on it saying that abam was eulogizing his wife it's a uh emphasizing the noble traits of his wife then says here it's a small this beiling that we're talking about it's small because he's crying that he did outside was not much most of his uh mourning was in privacy because your mourning should be in private but then comes the and some of the mid all say the same that's because sah sah he didn't cry much for her why he didn't cry much for her because Sarah made a mistake where did she make a mistake in s got upset with abam when she saw that he had a baby with Hagar relatively quickly after they got married and she says to toam that perhaps you were praying to have a child but you weren't were not praying for me to have a child because see you got blessed with a child but I'm still childless so she says to uh Abraham in chapter 16 verse 5 she rebukes Abraham there's an argument between them SAR says to Abraham the outrage against me is due to you it was I who gave my mid servant into your bosom and when she saw that she has conceived I became lowered in her esteem let AEM judge between me and you here you have an argument between Sarah and abam all marriages have some type of dispute at some point or another if you don't have a dispute it's usually because one of the spouses died generally speaking if you're both alive you're going to have a dispute it happens from time to time but a healthy marriage also has Solutions here we see that Sarah is upset with abah and say it's because she believes that abam didn't pray for her and she is saying let hem judge between you and me let judge between you and me say when a person makes the mistake of uttering the words let AEM judge you then says okay you want me to judge somebody let me judge you first and see how you are and then I'll judge what you want me to judge so when Sarah in essence asked theem to judge you and I do let hem judge you in essence he's going to judge both of us but in essence judge you because you're you're the one that's wrong Hashem judged her and in essence she lost years of her life now that explains why she lived a shorter life but it doesn't explain why abam cried less for her so the Z says something that if it wasn't written we wouldn't be allowed to say it it wouldn't be allowed to say it says is teaching us you're not allowed to cry mourn over somebody that commits suicide meaning whenu says let judge between you and me she saying things that were the equivalent of suicide in our level needless to say none of us should ever say to our wives or our husbands oh let hasem judge you or even to anybody else Hashem will judge you who are you to tell hem to judge anybody and who are you to even say such things at all judge yourself you want to help somebody tell them they're doing something no problem but judging that's not our job uttered a few extra words with all of our Holiness and says you asked me to judge that means I also have to judge you and when I judged you I decided to shorten your life by almost 50 years in comparison to abah a of course she lived her life she lived a full life she's KES Kim we cannot even be the dust under her feet but the point here that the is saying to us here what they're teaching us here is that in the eyes of like listen I love her she's my wife she's she's amazing she's KES kashim she's the greatest thing in the world but she made a critical mistake and due to that critical mistake I cannot mourn her I'm not allowed to mourn her the same level as I would if it didn't happen meaning that when a person understands the message from this week's par of how a righteous person doesn't get more righteous than uted a few extra words to her husband needless to say husband saying let hem judge you you made a mistake that mistake is costly now if it was costly to menu that's a perfectly righteous person if it was written inside the Tor with the special that we have to learn over and over and over again every single year for eternity then that means that speaking Idle Words or forbidden words which is what the is talking about in this section of the letter how much more so do we need to be careful of it if someone is righteous ASU was judged that way if someone as righteous ASU is noted in her own live the life amazing all the good stuff but that mistake that deserves a small letter a small why so you could learn about that small mistake that she made for eternity if she as righteous as she is our mother most righteous person on planet Earth ever she was judged so heavily for saying something we don't even think is a big deal how will we be judged for the things that are a big deal and we even know it because it's forbidden words forbidden statements curse words words all types of swears all types of Lies cheating or most common nonsense talk about sports talk about markets talk about all types of things that are not really necessary for your day-to-day life if it's your job to talk about Investments that's one thing but if it's not why do you need to talk about it especially atet especially on Shabbat especially with people people that have no Rhyme or Reason to have a benefit or a loss from the conversation maybe we should choose a different language maybe we should choose a completely different conversation and if we can't come up with it perhaps we should just shut up I think we'll be better for it sometimes we need to know that the best thing we can do is be quiet the best thing we can do is be quiet [Music] asked him what can we do to protect ourselves from he says even if somebody does a nice thing or learns a lot or anything like that it's never compared to bringing one of aem's lost kids that's been lost for the last 3,000 years back home one of the beautiful things that we have in our organization is that we have both Torah and because we have our we have our and we also have our c that we do around the world our lectures reach every corner of the world in multiple 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