Sit Down Comedy and Asher Yatzar | Take 2 with Yossi Hecht

[Music] thank you welcome back to mishbacha's take two we've had all kinds of people sitting here across them some of them wrote books others put out music others are Inspirations to call yourself sometimes you get all through your work package I would therefore has released music he has put out a book he has started an initiative but I think if you have to pin down yasiak's contribution to class it's probably a smile I think that's probably there you go right but you say you said you said sitting here is it okay that I'm not sitting in the same type of chair as you didn't take you very long to go full into RCF mode and I appreciate that the uh the so you see like your name is the line like you just go right over your head just like would it make you feel better if I told you I know you well enough that I was expecting you yeah to open with a wheelchair job I'm happy you did because it touches on a lot of conversations that we've had off there and over the years um I wasn't going to go there so fast and we're going to take a step back in a minute and do a little bit of history when people see somebody in a wheelchair I would say especially in Film Society where there's a certain level of uh respect that people have other people's privacies they don't really know what to say and you've gone at the great length over the last few years take I don't know compensate but even more than compensate to make things okay and to don't just see the wheelchair see the person there's a big big part of who you are today so I guess let's start by taking a step back of how we got there you know how you got to be that guy who makes wheelchair jokes and perhaps then we could we could extrapolate it and analyze a little bit about your real message the core message it's so interesting because like I grew up uh like I went to Darque from kindergarten you know you grew up in Far Rockaway sorry I grew in Far Rockaway Dr terrorism frankly um I I grew up like like a regular able-bodied kid like everyone else ball player yeah well I was tall I mean I used to be told that I got folded up so yeah um so like I so I kind of like have this like both lenses like I I went like I I grew up like technically you know seeing other you know people in wheelchairs disabilities and it's like I kind of you know maybe it was like everyone else you know like I think that if you went to that which is the Yeshiva that that works is probably a little harder on sensitivity you're probably more aware right correct so like when I was in Yeshiva there was definitely I remember clearly there was definitely a few a few boys and religious and right Ben they're always you know how he does things always so he's our hero like by schmoozing like everyone turned to the back it's our heroes these are our heroes so I kind of grew up with that kind of you just never thought that you'd be one of those people and obviously doctor's ready to like you know has it and you know besides you know said so I went to like the nurse they went to the nursing home every shop it's like after the meal or a bunch of 15. go to the nursing home you know we want to get probably Bender to come and Hanukkah made a birthday party for a Hanukkah party for for years people had strokes and they were like you know it was like I don't know maybe a five ten minute walk from Yeshiva so like I kind of like always was dancing and then I came back in a wheelchair and they're like oh you you were the one that used to come like dance it just like it just finally the table's turn but like so so I definitely they they definitely did had a sense I did have a sensitivity but you never think that you'd actually be the one in the chair and now like now what like you know it's like it just it just you know so so just take us through the head how did you end up oh so it started about four years ago um I was um I still remember exact sequences we I was on I was you know I Benders so oh you know for Manchester so um we're having um meetings with him and I remember like to go for where to go for the next year based magic because I was finishing third year and after you go after the show so I remember like I was sitting in the basement and then like I just had this left leg pain and I tried getting up and I I just I couldn't get up it was like the craziest thing so like I called my my parents so like they brought crutches like and I had to hobble off I couldn't go like what's the meeting with I was in tons of pain like then I left and I couldn't I had to sleep at home and it was like it was just you know crazy like pain I was like you know what okay like I'll put I went to some doctors I put on a boot you'd be fine just you know put on those leg boots that everyone else you know people wear the what happened was I it was getting so unbearable that I couldn't like my left leg was literally it was like just it was like dead it just wasn't moved so I went to my pediatrician and he's like he went so I was like oh no what's this doesn't look good so we went to the emergency room and they took MRI they said the doctor said take MRI of your brain all the way down um to the sacrum area I was like while you take it I'm on my back it's my leg and that's when I learned that the spine controls everything and ultimately they come up from the emergency room they tell me you have a tumor there I told it to you directly they told like yeah my mother was standing there and like I had some sisters with me with their Bank Hashem in the medical field I have like I have seven one boy after seven girls so I've always been the baby but all a lot many of them are in the medical field so they're they're standing man I think like the nurse practitioner or whatever comes in the PA comes in he's like you have something there it might be a tumor I was like two like what is like what what's a two like I I always heard of it you hear of tumors you hear of cancer but you never same thing I was talking about the wheelchair like you'd ever think cancer tumor like huh and sure enough I I slept there overnight and the surgeon comes in and says yeah you know it's if you've got to get surgery it's like taking lead out of a pencil and you know we'll take it out and you'll be fine I was like well I'm just like it was just it was just hard for a 19 year old to like you know to Bear all this news it was just like it was pretty intense and then sure enough I had the surgery it was it was a hard day for my family so so they tell me it was uh it was 10 and a half hour surgery and then I came out and and I remember like my my legs just they weren't working as they were before like I know I was able to move it a little bit but like and then I had to do rigorous uh PT and try to get back PT but the prognosis is that you're gonna be fine just some therapy but you're not going to at all you're not going to teach you all of a sudden yeah I mean like everything's on hold life's on hold it's funny I I think I went to the doctor like the day like on like camp start Camp by rice which Dr tires can't um I was supposed to go in the summer um and I was supposed to go I think that Sunday and I like I said my linen up I said yeah save me about a bed because my foot's hurting and then I called up rameshi band it was in China I was like yeah I don't think maybe tomorrow I'll come up like when I was in the hospital and then I was like yeah yeah maybe next week and then I kept it saying next to the next day finally I realized that spinal cord injury uh is a very um delicate situation and I actually I knew I had a spinal cord injury most spherical injuries happens to males but a lot of them are it's because they're like you know very like wild and so like it happens from skiing what happens from car accidents or a lot of when I was there in the summer it was a lot of diving accidents and I realized that because I was in a spinal energy rehab so I was like you know the organization Bina you know they refer to so I think they told my father you know uh checks about Mount Sinai has a very good spinal cord injury rehab so I think you should go there so like I realized like oh I have a sparkle injury like this is okay I still didn't like want to believe it um and then sure enough I had to go back for two more surgeries because of infection that's what I realized infection was a real thing so you didn't go to Camp even to visit that summer I was doing the front get better for three months so you went one day from a healthy person to an unwell person and well you called me on well I'm not calling everything at the time you were what people might consider yeah unwell yeah correct um as in not well yeah okay so what happens to me like I I remember calling my ROV I dab it in Frack around Mr Brown and I called I remember calling you and I said what's my advice I was going to ask you did you have your Yeshiva buffer you probably had some spiritual resources I had specific resources I called them well I always had spiritual because I had my receiver right Bender came the day after camp like Mama's camp and he did like a rice says like he's very into Camp the day after Camp he came he was there day after Camp he came he called The Measure round yeah yeah caught on Japan and I said I said what's what does Hashem want for me what's that what he said get better I said and then to get better and it's like like like I'm sure Bears one of the biggest type of Club in America and like he's telling me this that means like wow like I have to work and I worked hard and you know I worked very hard um you know in therapy trying to you know trying to get better trying to get back on my feet and then to just to fast forward while we are today why I'm not walking is because I had to get the tumor grew back not once but twice I had I had two more surgeries you're going for regular tests and they would tell you so I would go for regular MRIs and then they'd tell me all the tumor grew back so I have to get another surgery and then they were supposed to do chemo radiation but they I don't know the oncologist over there like I went to different hospitals and the colleges like oh we you don't want to do radiation because it's going to ruin your spinal more because it's so delicate from the three certain because I had two infection surgeries also and then so they they said now that by the time I by the time I already came back for another MRI after that that fourth surgery the doctor that already came back another time so had to do a fifth surgery and after the fifth surgery um with radiation and and chemo so by that time you know the um the physical therapy went to kind of a a back burner if that makes sense I guess it makes sense now at the same time all we're talking about such a happy stuff you you are the one personal tragedy in your life nothing to do with the illness right correct suddenly what are you referring to you lost your mother yeah um so that so just to give you just to see what she was it's almost it's a lot to process yeah it's a lot of process because because during that three months day that I was talking about the beginning she did not miss one day one day after three months so that's from uh my from what it was Thomas or even before that all the way through Yom Kippur she was with me I can keep her I knew Kipper shoes with me fasting and I mean I think whatever I got my soccer I think I even faster I did some therapy or whatever but I I did what I could and with medicine I think I took with that what I remember exactly what happened she didn't miss one day for three months straight with me all the time yeah so you're gonna be okay that's gonna be okay infusing with me and then so it's like this is the person who got me through this illness I come home from the hospital um uh Circus Time and then a month later um she started saying her back hurts and I said she said oh it's from the wheelchair I'm putting in the car that time I didn't have a car parking now I I got wheelchair cars and took it back my back hurts and uh sure enough it was getting worse and I said I felt so bad I'm doing this and she took a a CAT scan and it was lesions in the exact same place where my tumor was T10 so I was I was like wow this is crazy and um sure enough as it progressed I remember when I see a machas that year January 1st she couldn't come with us because she said I'm just too sick I can't come with us that we all went and we left we felt bad leaving her home but I was like to see in my shots you have to go and shortly after she was diagnosed with stage four breast cancer and um and she passed away uh right before Rosh Hashanah that year like what was the last thing the last time I spoke there she was already the the the the cancer cells already spent their brains their brain was a little not fully there but she called me I remember getting a call and it said my mother's calling her I have to answer she was in the hospital she's in the hospital already and you were home I was I was I think I was in like on the way to Yeshiva Sunday and I like I see that like oh I have to answer this quickly I remember she was in the hospital I hadn't seen her I didn't go to the hospital it was Cove at that time so there everyone was in the mass and no visitors she said it was it was it was 11 o'clock in the morning she's like did you get supper yet the last time what's the last thing oh she was she was worried about did you have supper did you have supper and that was what she was worried about did you have supper and it's just like it just you know I don't always uh Hashem I don't it's time because now it's like making me think about it it's like really it's just like somebody who especially with my even before I was always the baby I was the one you know the youngest and always taking care of one boy and then to lose such a such a mountain her levia was during covet but there was there was there was over a thousand people there probably I mean you know it was just beyond it was it was I interviewed Matthew Bergman from a month ago he was telling me he lost his mother he was seven years old so I asked him some reporters question about president or strength and he said to me somebody who never lost a parent will never understand and somebody lost the parents knows already so why should I answer you serious yeah he said what's the point I'll never get it he said a mama he says the person that loses a mother that's like you said the source of physical Muna of strength of support of encouragement and to be going through what you're going through right now I never thought about like this but like this right she's carrying you and she's gone all of a sudden how um forgive the question where do you go spiritually emotionally how did you how do you know it's funny because I I think I I built she kind of she helped me obviously building me up um you know building me up you know emotionally during that hospital stay and even then when she was six you said you know hashem's gonna take care of me she kind of was you know nurturing me almost to the place where I needed to get to and I knew if I would if I would let down now like it wouldn't help me it wouldn't like I always like you know obviously grief is a very tough thing because no one agrees everyone Grieves definitely but for me personally this is my personal view I'd like to share with you is that there's two roads I look at it two roads either could be you know this is what happened to me the same really goes for the the wheelchair situation like you know I'm doing the therapy I got to a place of walking with two canes right meaning that's a big deal meaning from a walker to two canes like obviously only if whatever like however many feet and I built all that up building working hard months and months and months and months and then like this boom one surgery goodbye that's it all gone and even that's before that that's that's after working another time for by the fourth surgery I worked you know I lost everything I built it up got to be able to walk a little you know with the Walker a lot and then one surgery the fifth surgery bam done and you know you get to look at it like Hashem how can you do this to me this is so mean I worked so hard and now that's what you can do to me you're gonna you're gonna make me lose lose everything that's one way or you could say you know by doing that it's really not going to help you because what what are you gonna gain you should be angry so you're gonna be angry person What's It Gonna help you and you can either be you know because can you change this I mean I don't know you you're a pretty good writer but could you bring back my mother no can you get me out of this wheelchair no so nobody nobody could I could have been you could have happened you could have me and that can do anything but I I can't practically know right as a doctor so to speak no doctors could do it either we believe in Fila we believe him could do anything you're right I agree with you I do agree with you but it's not necessarily the case we could have and Hashem could always change Tava we believe in changing Teva fine that's I agree with you on that however so the fact is these are the facts right now I mean okay Dominic could change it we say it every day three times a day that there should be new medications and treatments and 100 and they're there there's almost a charge of Teva too you know right 100 I agree with you we don't they are just taking us to with you with the words that means I believe that I could I could help you because I believe I could have and just we're just getting into a side hashgraph of debate here I think that I could do I could I could help you maybe my fuel will be the one to bunch of them here's okay right right now today could you do it no but I could do my part in davening and the events and do whatever he wants like you said the h mean just like he could make it happen in one second to lose he can make it in one second again we've seen Lisa in our life I agree okay so of time for Nissan how about that is that I do okay so that's pretty decent but okay yeah I I'm not I I agree with that 100 I guess you just have to basically yeah that's right right we could do that okay but the fact the fact is I just again I'm just reacting to the comment you made I don't know I understand but let's move on yeah okay so the fact is that right now currently right currently right now I am in a wheelchair and I can't change that right I feel that maybe contingent but right this this second the point you're trying to think I get that means you made the decision that right now I don't see a way that is changing right go on so now so now is do I just be upset about it depressed about it or do I say it's really not gonna help me to be depressed about it because no one cares and maybe people care that their people are sad for you and obviously you also have a crippled the awesome even more people are sad about um but like at the end of the day this is the facts like but okay this is a maturity beyond the years because many people suffering some crippled some of you say no I don't know too many taco is a brand but they don't think this way because I don't think they have the time to think they're broken people so do people I think people care to the degree but they still want sympathy or they want compassion so it's worth it for them or not worth it for them I'm not judging but look at the world there's a lot of unhappy people and I met you not that long after you went through this this double blow this this lucky Book of Life and your smile was was you know you lit up boom with your smile so it can't just be that it was okay it was a little it was obviously an active decision that whatever you saw in your mother you're going to reflect that see it's a very hard to to answer that because you you bring up a good point I I think baby the the the what do they call it the stamina the energy stat the stamina that you build up you know helps you in the long run um so I think maybe the stem and I built up from those three months perhaps that like allowed me to you know affect the level you know wheelchair your mother's levia you go home for the fire who's who's giving you a smile who's giving you an incentive father intend that you have sisters but it's not a mother and where are you going and how are you keeping hey keeping yourself going habits to be during the Shiva my grandfather my mother's father where she got it from um he's been a REV in the Lower East Side in the hand at first yeah Manhattan uh for the past close to 60 years yeah maybe shy um um so he he was he's been around there for 60 years and and he kind of you know she gets it from her parents the SIM card this you know and he always like during I I remember you know you're asking now like oh hey it's it's there are tough times and obviously um you know I'm not gonna say like oh it's so easy it was very it's not it's a very hard it was a big blow and I remember asking my grandfather like like he just like you see like pure Muna that you don't get anymore like the old that Moon the old schoolamuna just like Hashem the charge believe in Hashem Hashem the charge and it happens to be that I remember after circus so oh no aftermkipper right Bender you know he gave me uh that year right after my lost my mother who usually gets it I don't know whoever the usually people wheelchairs I'm not even joking like I remember when I was when I was a bucker like there they they give and uh somebody came over to Amanda wants to do the guy came over to me and said all right but I was like me like really he's like yeah right by the one I I said who who told you right Brandon wants you I was like there's 400 people there and I was like well okay like so I I I'm sitting I remember I remember standing there and we say the same what do we say there over and over by Leila Hashem and Hashem your mercy for your gracious and I remember it was really bothersome to me because I remember thinking like by iskar I was one of the only people that stayed in and I'm the the only person in a wheelchair so like we're promising their compassion we're about to see that compassion and now and once but twice three times and we say it over and over so it's got it so I remember speaking to my rabbit Dave killson um um and a different baby feather and I remember asking them like uh like maybe quick quick Resurrection because I really wanted to ask you this and I remember sitting there and we we made the Trek to Philly we got our appointment right after was being it's not him and I asked him this question I said merciful said he wouldn't answer me for three minutes you could see the oil of him he's back and forth on the table back and forth back and forth and he says is this a mug is this a table the same way that this is a mug this is a table Hashem is a merciful our greatest god it sounds funny but that kind of got me to where I am today um it's definitely I'm not going to say that you know obviously it's a lot of self work but that was definitely a big um a very chunk of Musser and raw also like I was saying my grandfather but even suffer I'm sure the guys out there telling you you know for first of all the silence might even be more that he was just like there was just silence in the room not a pin drop then he said he's like the fact that you got here he's like you got here with your wheelchair that's that's that's that's that's has it and if somebody honestly like you have to be clay keyboard to hear that because some people hear that might be like oh what do you mean you don't know what I'm talking you don't know what I'm going through I lost my mother I'm in a wheelchair but I think I feel like you know the years of nurturing you I think like the Yeshiva like near the nurturing yeshivan Musser and learning I think that might have helped me correct whether you perceive it understand it get it this is the fact right so okay saying those words after thinking so it hits you that's amazing so I can't believe you never told this to me well it definitely uh you know even something to lean on right it gives you something to lean on and okay so you're moving on and then I you know I got to know you probably shortly after then and you were busy with initiatives uh ashiatsa became a big mention to you probably like 30 seconds about that um it just quickly when I started when I was in the when I when I was talking about the beginning in the hospital I couldn't go to the bathroom so I spoke to my library kills and I said let's make some sort of initiative just to give me I need to go about it he said okay you know what give me a few minutes he calls me back he says let's do Christian Pika says if you say Carolina you won't need to come out the doctors so we expose whatever they they said okay 200 boys for two weeks I gotta the doctor comes in that Shabbos he says or the next day whatever he says six months you won't be able to go to the bathroom the next day I was able to get it back wow okay so and then you said again which is not just 200 let's get the whole world to say I feel a sense of gratitude to client strong thank you Clyde Israel thank you but continue this campaign continue saying us thank Hashem [Music] clientele stop stand still mindfulness pay attention and recognize that every single time we leave the bathroom we have to be marker 12 every single second in every opportunity to go through a vehicle vending you walk into the bathroom yo Siri writes in his more katsia we have to thank the remote so take it from Beyond right away because of his emuna and the cause of the yamuna that he's been a catalyst for yasi is going to have a total before sulaima well we'll be able to dance with him without any braces and without any crutches and without any Walkers I started making videos and we started how did you have that like I said the energy the spirits to think that way you're a kid like you said double e Smithton to be able to get up and say I'm doing this surely ask very good questions I appreciate that I I don't think about some of these questions where do I have the energy um I think it's just the fact that like you know it's just like I gotta do I gotta do you gotta music was was actually you always connected to music no I'm not I always loved I love being a balti I love being about Tila I loved Lane I love laning so I did love these stuff I loved I like seeing his mirrors whatever I was never like you composed a song so the way it happened so so people said oh well y'all see likes whatever music why didn't get singers to come so you know a lot of schwecky and MBD and and morkai Shapiro and one other thing was Joey Newcombe came with his family there and we were singing there my uncle Robbie Sif whatever always says Joey sometimes went to half there to say whatever where my uncle taught so he said why don't you make a song about uh about uh about you know this so we started just like I don't know and and I was I was tuning in I was saying maybe do like this maybe like that and can you live out there without any I think our relationship doesn't even have Khalifa I think we're very with each other yes it's an amazing song thank you [Applause] [Music] sprouts and Josh around says heard the song he liked the song and he said in one of the videos just like the abistor made the made the world operations so like similar to what you're saying about Twitter before obviously Hashem so it was just in that song we made a music video in Camp simcha and it kind of like just doesn't leave your head right so but but it it just it gets in the kitchen so it's something somebody sent me the video I didn't know you at all and I put on my WhatsApp status I was so moved by the video I knew your name I didn't know much and you reached out to me I said obviously and you know uh I would love to something like that right we became friends from there right and then uh we ended up meeting not long after that yeah I heard the song I just like to understand uh right when I met you the first time I felt like I knew you already really from that song anymore right right we have each other's none of us the [Laughter] how long do you want to learn for yasi song music and a person your age thinks like as their friends not getting married you start going to costness you start thinking right I also have somebody and at the same time you're aware that you're facing what what what's in your head then you you're asking people for broadcast to get married you terrible it was a terrible time because as it is a very very very rough topic um you know it's obviously she had a crisis so whatever you want to call whoever I don't know whatever they want to say there is and I would go to my friends castanos and I would go with a smile and dance and I was always always a little part of it it was like Am I Ever Gonna Get Married am I ever going to get married and it was it took a toll and it's funny I was just about a year ago yeah you you were engaged I don't know if you remember this and I said for you give me a football and he said amen and and to me look again I I I don't know you as well as I think I do clearly and also there's a whole other part you know like we talk you know you keep a smile on your face but then you go home at night to an empty room and and and there's a lot of pain and a lot of loneliness that's correct so so you you said I mean the way I I felt was that you're ready to go that means to me I guess I was wrong I guess I wasn't seeing as deeply as I thought I think you were like oh man let's go like so so that's why you know public could be you know probably could be there's no reason to be sad and I I love but there's always going to be as you said when you go home it's like okay now there's now what you know any jokes you smiled you danced and then now it's a nice time yeah I'm saying it's awesome it's givaldik but like at the same time to come to your daughter's khasana um was engaged was a whole different different Bowl again last time you still won a game last time I was not engaged and I remember you know I went to cancer I was a learning rabbit there I was very good schmuck and then I came home and I was like okay a little bit about that because you were learning things you in a wheelchair yeah oh in a wheelchair and people would look at you a certain way when it came to him and you told me that you felt and this is something I would want you to say right here right now what would you want people to know like just because someone's in a wheelchair and finish the sentence it doesn't mean they're mentally challenged it doesn't mean like that you should look right through them it doesn't mean that you should think it's so nice to see you yeah now to the other side as you yourself said for 19 years of your life you were blessedly free of this awareness people don't know what to say they feel awkward it feels awkward sometimes to see somebody they don't know what to say there are there are not everybody is just a natural also be the habits there are people who are in a wheelchair and maybe also mentally challenged that's that's I mean that that's that isn't that is a reality that exists but it's not a blank a rule like it's a little rough on the people in the sense that people people feel they don't know what to say there's a reason people have hurt their gays when they see somebody suffering and it's not not always a bad thing they're just uncomfortable they don't you understand that you know and doing this what I'm trying to get at is that you made a mission to to bridge that Gap that to overcompensate you overcompensated with your personality and your warmth and your ability to articulate things just to make it like I said we had a question last year there were other people there I don't know if you remember and you were just one of the boys we were having a nice time together it wasn't the idea no wheelchair like I'm curious did you have that naturally was that something you worked on did you kind of I think I think I did work on it because like I always I like to be like I like to be like a schmuck and whatever you know so like like why not make a joke about it like you know just the jokes was like I didn't decide like my mission in life is to be a sit-down comedian that's not what I that's not my that wasn't my um no you're not that funny I mean I said that comedian is a joke I got it but the comedian part is okay or not yeah okay so uh so I didn't like I didn't decide like I didn't decide oh I'm Gonna Bake jokes like I felt like it kind of made the jokes send me the jokes I meant the it was just a nice I think I think that kind of came in Maitland I think it you know like wow okay so again you're single in a wheelchair the sitter comes up with your Everton well start before that I mean I could be vulnerable here um before that I wasn't the people there's beautiful um organizations that deals with people with with physical challenges um you know so all of a sudden oh disability disability can together it'll be perfect this is a person inside the wheelchair there's a person inside a disability why should it be it's a tough topic because the one hand an able-bodied girl is not going to be set up with uh with a disabled boy and vice versa like just unfortunately that's how I should work it's like oh the the people Nick sudoku for the stupidest reasons um you know how that's how it is today so like it was it was very tough and like I was like like this is this is what I'm like this is what I'm dealing with like I I didn't really know where to turn to like I was kind of empty-handed um and then and then and then what happened was I I was going out with the you know I was going out with people that just were in my Tim it was just like okay this is a disability so you're gonna be good but it was no shakers like no shakers so I said as much as you wanted to get married there was a human being Dimension too and you weren't being movata you weren't overlooking that emotional because I have so much to offer so I felt and like why should I like you know and then I get a a call from from my my rabbi's wife Rabbi Mrs Gilson that there's uh there you you know here's a badass so I said okay great yeah like some like yeah let's go for it so um I go out and sure enough it was my soon-to-be wife and what happened was is that she saw my videos one of my videos and she's like oh you know maybe that's a someone that I would that would be good for me or maybe I would date him and uh sure enough um she reached out to Nairobi can I you know go out with them and so you know like it just goes so funny to see how you go from being in this precarious situation like am I ever gonna get married to like Hashem like handy me literally just going like this to you like don't worry I got you I'll be okay and you could say oh how's your initiatives because without your initiatives you never would have this never would have happened the dynamism and the Charisma of yes I'm saying it once I'm gonna die that I ever said it but you're very charismatic are you you're very very uh lovable person just exploded off the screen so that was something that she sensed and and the revolution put you in that situation that you were able to share what's inside of you correct become a person very nice I had you at my daughter the next night it was a high point for me just to see you like that and you come see and somebody described it to me your Cosmo and I want to talk about this for a moment they said every single young person with a disability in Clarksville was there saying I could be that I told you that [Music] is for a minute he doesn't love that just say his name right don't say dovi and don't say don't say fear dovey stuff here David Safir readers articles.com his groundbreaking Pulitzer Prize worthy articles Pulitzer really I think so no yeah of course did you read the stuff of course Jenny Miller but everything really easy did you read everything you just say about everything I read everything about he's he's doing something great he's doing something different I'm a tremendous fan of his writing and like they're looking at you and they're saying I could be that he has a guy who like like we said physical disability family went through a very very big trouble of losing losing her mother and here you are look at you which sometimes also people next to shut up he probably doesn't know and they're looking and saying you're the hero to all those people what would you tell all those people watching or listening because it's hard because like the one hand like I understand where they're coming from like am I ever going to get married but now that this happened to me it's kind of like oh like God will take care of you you don't have to worry about and I'm going to say this and I don't care because God can I say that you saw them I could say it don't decide who gets married who doesn't I'm sorry they don't could I just explain what you think about people of tremendous compassion tremendous dedication tremendous many of whom could be doing a lot of other things with the amount of time energy and effort making a lot more money and a lot more appreciation and they choose to do this that said the the no middleman between you and the Revenge song and he is the one with mrfix go with that this 14 15 year old 16 year old boy girl sitting at home listening watching and they're dealing with whatever they're dealing with you're telling them I'm telling them that I saw firsthand and I can prove it to you because um you people are by my wedding and the wedding was a lot of people there and the wedding happened and I'm married now so I could you could it's proof it's a ride Brewer you don't see more yada sham there I understand [Music] I want to ask you and maybe as we wind down maybe it's an awkward question but have a relationship thrives on awkwardness correct yes you have to trust the guest and I happen to come in together with the same time it was Manhattan and I realized something interesting I just I thought I picked up on something the wheelchair your new wife was taking it out of the concept got like a little stuck and just got it up calmly she had that that smile and that calm you said please remember you're sitting in the dress you said right now please let this work you just you were the opening and came in and walked in this is the way I I called it I'm not a marriage counselor or analyst your identity for a long time was your disability and she was choosing another path we're normal people you happen to be disabled you don't she's not running with that she's not running with uh celebrity right you know we tease each other a lot right but we're running with the SCF normal person who happens to have a disability and we're going with it that's correct 100 and that's a decision you made together that means it's not it just it's just not it's natural if if someone's likes me for the person I am then of course that's gonna happen then it's the person where that's important not the disability or not so okay so you have a wheelchair the wheelchair is the way that you have to get from place a to place B the wheelchair is not you I'm not a wheelchair I'm a person that have has emotions that has you know you know adequate sense of humor mediocre mediocre um that you know tries to do stuff tries to learn tries to dive and I have you know happens to be the wheelchair has given me a sense of Aquarius that I carry and a sense of that it has get allowed me to to try to hopefully bring inspiration and try to people maybe that maybe that has allowed me to do that but that's not who I am that's not happens you know it's a it's a very no but maybe you could articulate what I'm trying to say about it I think that you're declared it beautifully and and I I love what you said that she married you for the person you wrote not for the wheelchair and the celebrity of yes yeah the person you actually asked her she just wants the person yes that said and you just said something so important I want to end with this question obviously there comes in a Christ if the bunch put you in this situation to pass on the favor and try to help others and use the things you've learned along the way so I would end off I know still in China and you're in Cairo but you must have dreams of what you're going to do for the Jewish people next what's this is my final question what's next to us yes yes is that we are starting the one in most amazing organizations client Circle rccs right physical and Cancer Society who deals with a lot of a a lot of you know taking care of Health Care insurance premiums and dealing with you know doctor referrals which my mother and myself both were recipients of then I said let's take what I learned from that shayatsar stuff with making videos which doesn't has people and taking what rccgs does for healthcare what at the health you know just the health of the person why not to take care of the motion take care of the part so we're Metuchen Belina there with obviously you see the hashems in charge with his help we got to approved to start this new project called project so make why because my mother I said if you're soil everybody finer tomb of art that if you're soy milk because this foreign within the coming weeks months um to you know bring these cancer patients give them similar give them from speakers from are you are you considered a speaker or like probably a BC list speaker like somebody called me recently to Compton event like two days later in Chicago I said who canceled it was like yeah so so we're trying to get speakers just to give this you know you know and Matt Hashem to deal with the emotions correct that's the administrative end correct but the emotional component that's hopefully our that's what I'm saying you know moving on to vacations for the patients to give them and this is kind of you know a a legacy that my mother created that I want to infuse with the uh with the with the for the future of the patients absolutely thank you for taking the time to come in it's a pleasure to sit with you on air and offer yes we should continue to hear good news and share good news and see you doing great things amen thank you so much [Music] [Applause] thank you [Music] thank you for the world that I believe for all the air I breathe [Music] Three Little Words [Music] thank you [Music]