Miketz & Chanukah: Impossible Dead Man lighting, Son Lighting Before Father, Sit Or Recline, Glowin

Good morning. Will speak about we'll speak about want to dedicate this year for that of him and his family should see open and revealed. So we wish each other why do we wish specifically this good wish of the Greeks wanted to nullify three mits that if they would succeed they would uproot the entire yiddish and that is shab andesh if there's noes you're eating and pes you're not fasting and you're if there's no shabil every single week and there's no testimony that the who created the world in six days is a permanent o a sign between us and that escorts us no matter where we are and if you don't have that so where do we do a for that we light and we remember the miracle of the oil what about shabesh is and therefore we say and you remember all that but how come you don't do to all these three we do. Shabas is the seventh day eighth day comes after 29 days 29 plus plus 8 + 7 44 that's the 44 candles that we light along with the shamish. So we do do for these three wonderful mites that we are both to do again and again even today. Clementine Paulo has all kinds of dreams and he's very distressed until finally Ysef comes and he interprets his dreams and now and Paul is very very happy. The says question of the week. How did Paul know that interpretation of his dreams was actually correct? He heard a lot of different things from different people. How do you know? Oh, finally this is the right one. How do you know? >> What's that? >> Dream of the solution. >> But if it was so simple, I wouldn't ask you this to call the answer. Everybody says because HE DREAMT THE SOLUTION. OH, RIGHT. THIS IS WHAT I also dreamt. But now we know I'm asking. >> He gave also details himself. I'm asking THE PAKAZA pakaza is one of the ah bigish when p had his dreams his limbs actually became disjointed and they didn't return to their proper position until ysef interpret the dream he doesn't say it but I think based on that we can understand what why the says his servants also saw oh this is how do you know you didn't have my dream look at you look at All your lips look now when interpreted June correctly and he all goes back to being looking normal in the eyes of his servants because they also saw oh this has to be the right thing a family looks like he always used to >> what's the source of it is one of 800 900 years ago >> and and and he learns that after that all >> I don't know he doesn't tell us the source doesn't tell us the source maybe Adam I'm assuming had a that we don't have places the brothers according to their age. Listen to they sat in front of him. You're the oldest. Sit right here. You're a little younger. Sit behind him. Rashi brings he would strike on his goblet and he said next NEXT you're all from one mother I see it I see it in my golet you're all from one mother so you guys you guys sit here because this is a chronological order this is the right thing to do then continued and he Binyamin I'm getting this thing you don't have a mother oh I also don't have a mother you know what do you notice a subtle difference between the way he turned to the brothers and the way he turned to he said to the brothers to he says the difference is it time to recline or is it time to sit is reclining. So you're doing is what you're doing right now. You're sitting. So be consistent. Either everybody should sit or everybody should recline. Every single word is exact and precise. There's no mistakes. If you wrote something, there's a reason behind it. >> I would say that well your your your lining when you're doing something that is joyous or something like that. When you're moving >> when you're doing what? >> When you're doing something joyous. joyous good when you're mourning. You don't do that. For example, when we dip the carpass because well, not morning, it's like he's remembering something sad that they don't have a mother, right? Um maybe that would be the reason that's to be >> interesting. Nice. >> There's a called and he explains it a little differently. tough iron base that a son who sits by his father does he recline or not >> a father sitting by his father >> recines what sitting by his reb >> he doesn't recline unless >> unless >> his g him permission even if it's which is not he does not recline unless the given permission and if It's a it's even though he didn't learn anything from him, he is viewed as the of all of us and therefore you don't reclaim the adds that all these and these din apply when you're all sitting on the same table with that person with your father with a with a god but if you have your own table you need to recline clearly comes out from here the sits near A is like it's not that you'll eat while reclining. Just not right. But that's only if you're sitting in the same table. Who's the king? If you have your own table. Why not recline? What does it say about the pers that you're about to eat? That means there's three tables. There's a table for Ysef. There's a table for theatim. There's a table for theim. It comes out that theatim did not eat with on the table. So what do I have to do? Sit and recline. YOU CAN RECLINE. ENJOY YOURSELF. But what did she say? Sit with me on my table. Oh, if you're sitting next to the king, you can't recline. Therefore, you must sit and not recline. And that's why the inashi's words. But I like your answer too. Let's move to Kaneka. It must be that if paras mik is read every single year during kanuka there's got to be a for kanuka in parasik the puk in our mik says shu lanu the puk instructs you to break lanu break lanu what is lanu lame v 30 56 how much is this 86 break Yeah. >> Break the 86. What do you have? >> 43. 43 and 43. The B continues and instructs you. A little from the is alle. So take a little take the al if and add it to the 43 you have and that's 44. That's the 44 candles that you light in. But now we move to a much much much more serious topic and that is life and death shah serious serious wuven said that the following thing happened to him last year his wife was hospitalized during Kaneka his wife I'm sorry his mother was hospitalized during Kaneka and his mother is an almana second day of Kaneka she calls him she says please you know in the last few years since your father passed away. I'm always careful to lie exactly on time at home with a please go and lied for me with a exactly on time. She insisted on the time your mother asked you to do something. He went and he did just that. Let's say time is 5:00 p.m. At 5:15 he gets a call from his sister who's in the hospital with his mother. She says, "Mommy is dying." 3 minutes later, his mother expired. And now he starts thinking, "Wait a second. Wait a second. Was that was that actually a mitzvah?" Another question. After she dies, she died before 30 minutes, which is the mitzvah. When someone walks by and he needs to say inv there's such a thing called if somebody is not lighting today and no one is lighting for him he's not planning to light and normally he's lighting for him at home he has to say when he sees the candles of somebody else he doesn't say because he's not lighting anything but he does say he says when you see a candle which is burning after the person died is itim Is the are these mitzvah that you can actually say? So we have really two questions here. Was he able to light? When somebody tells you he is dying and the doctors all confirmed and ya comes and says he has five minutes to go since I have to lie for 30 minutes person himself is he if he is ready willing and able can he lie knowing for sure all the dice confirmed he's going to die in the next 5 10 minutes is he allowed to light >> if he's allowed to light and that's a sh on its own when one sees the these candles lit Will he be able to say what do you say >> 30 minutes according to one say if it a small amount of time >> what are we asking >> go according to the 30 minutes >> we need 30 minutes without it >> if you light with not enough oil to last for 30 minutes that's what we asking The doctor said she would die 15 minutes. But who believes the doctor when they say you should not be >> Do you believe the doctors when they tell you to violate and eat? Yes. Do you do you believe that doctors when they tell you to violate Shabas and to drive to to the hospital? Do you believe them? You're not worried about you're not worried about >> they say someone is going to die. Understood that we cannot live so to speak. Do they have empowerment to say maybe you need another >> ah so when the doctors say this person right to die you say come let's go out to party let's go to the beach what do you say to the person to the patient >> but we don't take it at face value that dimensions >> even if it's 28 doctors simak and one of you I added comes and confirms these doctors are right now the raam was also a doctor and the raan now do you believe him or not >> I don't believe >> I'm not telling you you're wrong I'm asking you a question says about someone We learned how >> there is such a thing called light. >> What's that? >> You're not putting out the candles. The candles still being lit. >> No problem. He can say the can light. >> Can you say when you see these candles after he expired? >> He died 10 minutes after he lit. There's still 20 minutes to go and he is not around. >> So the candle doesn't belong to him anymore. Can you say which is the name was uprooted from it? You did right. >> So no problem. So both questions no problem. You have any liars to what you say even if you put enough oil for 10 minutes. So if you know you're going to go away in 10 minutes, where's the mitzvah here? You did the mitzvah. You lit the candle. >> But the mitzvah for you is to light in a way that will last for 30 minutes and you should be the owner of the house and of the candle. >> We're not going there. We're not hiring anyone. Yeah, >> I would say that he he basically was going there to do the mitzvah but afterwards you know you >> in Hebrew in Hebrew what you're saying is called I DON'T KNOW WHAT HAPPENS AFTERWARDS >> OKAY >> can I light with an amount of oil less than 30 minutes AND SAY OH MAYBE IS GOING TO PERFORM ANOTHER MIRACLE OF HANAGA >> NO >> SO BUT WHEN ALL THE DOCTORS confirm that you have 10 minutes Isn't it like lighting with not enough oil? You're saying no. >> Let's see. This Shil has to do with three different ways that we can understand this guy was about to die. Let me ask you a question. A person lit Kanuka candles. He's healthy, 100%. He put oil for two hours. Three minutes after he lights the candles, a guy comes in and says, "WOW. I LOVE THIS HOUSE. Sell it to me." So, it's not for sale. He says, "Oh, there's no such thing not for sale. It's for sale." He takes out a checkbook and he writes him such a I don't even know how to pronounce this number. So many zeros. It's so he sold after four minutes. Is it? >> The house is not his. >> Says you're not in both cases. If he intends to sell or if he didn't intend but he his candles did not light in his house, he's homeless. is not very I don't know how no m this mice is don't know how often this happens but it's very a person who's in a hotel and at 5:00 p.m. lights candles and he checks out, says, "You have to be the owner of the place where you're lighting in. What are you doing?" 3 minutes after you're checking out, 20 minutes after, you have to be there for 30 minutes. The has to be in your possession in your house or the house where you're staying during the time of the which is half an hour says the you are not. Isn't it similar? Same idea. Once this guy dies, what happens to his house? It's not his anymore. It's transferred to the Yoshim. It's not his. Ma, you lit without having A HOUSE FOR 30 MINUTES. IT'S LIKE SELLING THE HOUSE. IT'S LIKE CHECKING OUT OF THE HOTEL. It's the same application. >> What does this wife? She's still alive. >> As we said, this almana, >> no husband called her son and said, "Listen, light for me." which means she doesn't have a husband and when she dies the house is no longer hers. Isn't it like says has anotherish bigish you light and 10 minutes later you go and you blow out the candle intentionally not he has a biggerish you light with the intention to blow out the the candles and then you say no I actually like the candles I'm going to keep them you're not you intended to blow out the candles within the time 30 minutes of the mitzvah you're it when she knows she's about to die in a few minutes. Isn't it the same as I'm blowing out the candle in a few minutes? So why should she be? No. >> Oh, here you're checking out of the hotel. YOU'RE SELLING THE HOUSE. YOU'RE BLOWING OUT the candle. here I'd like to stay was the one doing the not fantastic and therefore not so sure that we can apply this second way to look at it when you're lighting with not enough oil you have a problem here I put enough oil but isn't it similar to a person who is lighting 15 minutes before alo shak you have to have 30 minutes to allow your candles to light, right? You come home 10 minutes before you're allowed to light throughout the night, right? But what about 10 minutes before and you know there is no 30 minutes. Are you allowed to light? You need 30 minutes. You're not going to have it. Unless somehow you decide they convince to push off Alo this morning. I don't know if that's happening. Are you allowed to light when you're coming home from the flight 15 minutes before Alo? Yes, the Mishna seems to say the language of the comes and he speaks exactly about this. He says a person who landed he came from the states that that's his ex the example that he gives and he came to the house 20 minutes before Aloy you can light. Why can he light? It's as if the mitzvah for you was made today because you were until now you couldn't light couldn't light. They gave you 50 minutes for the mitzvah. So this person is about to die. They're giving him 50 minutes. They're giving him 10 minutes. Whatever it is, that's when created for him for this type of mitzvah. But after obviously no one can say the you won't be able to. So according to that she'll be able to light but one who sees the candles will not be able to say or the third way to look at it is like you said I think I did everything I'm alive gave me a mitzvah I'm not supposed to be a ni even if comes and convince me we don't listen to about that I am supposed to If I do everything right and then the candle is blow out, if the candle is blow out, I don't have to relight it. According to that also, you'll be able to light. But one who sees it after the person passed away will not be able to say because there is no anymore here. Can you rely on the doctors when they say they confir 28 doctors told us? Can you rely on us on them? You don't need to. When a person is dying, in fact, he's going to die. We learn people when they're at the stage called he will die. But save B writes that the first three days when your person is a gois you can continue thinking that he's alive gives an example if somebody comes and says you know I saw your relative I was I was visiting her yesterday I saw him dying he's a goes so in the hospital should you should the person who heard this start mourning right away sitting sh right says no after 3 days for sure. Yes. So up to 3 days even of say normally they don't last. You don't have to think oh he's going imminently even if the doctor is saying the person is going to die we don't have to take it from well we can ignore it and we can say doctors normally speak based on averages an average means the person is in that situation it could be cuz usually they do within 15 minutes sometimes it's 3 minutes and sometimes it's an hour and a half THE AVERAGE IS ABOUT 15 minutes they don't know for sure since according to this it's a and up to three days you can think I'm going to live and if you have the opportunity to do the mitzvah you can continue doing the mitzah so summarize it all the of while you're lining you can say the for the person seeing the candles later wanting to say the over with him and we should say he should not say it some say you always have the problem to say this unless you're within the first 30 minutes and who told you you're in the first 30 minutes when you walk by and you see your neighbor's candles do you know when he lit you don't know where he lit you don't know so maybe it's after and once it's after the first 30 minutes of the mitzvah. Some say you can't say the of that that's not the of a mitzvah that's of a hidden we say in the mitzvah. So some say should always be a suffic but there is such a concept inv but in a case like this with all this fus that we presented we should say do not say these type of candles but the person himself will be able to say to say the for when we walk by someone's house so say >> only if you didn't light today you're not planning to light and nobody's pl and nobody is mo you had at Mhm. >> How do we count the three days of process from the moment the doctor says she's going to die in 20 minutes or when when is the doctor >> when he gets to the stage according to the doctor's call goes so then if you don't know if you stay with the person you know exactly what's going on but if you don't know you can assume after 3 days you should not tell the person to start morning but after 3 days for sure yes >> but even if the doctor saying 20 minutes is not a goal you know 3 days anyway or >> if you don't know to 20 minutes later find out what's going on if you don't says they told the person that his relative was dying. I saw him you don't have to worry and start mourning after 3 days. That's the language in another serious sh a little less. I'm talking about life and death here. But very very Noel is a and every Shabas not he finishes all his preparations before Shabas early. So he leaves the house about 2 hours before Shabas to be able to sit and learn and to accept Shabas out of sinning and learning. This is ankinazi. Very important to notice to note shaban what he does or what he used to do until now unless we'll correct him is he also wants to sit and learn. So he lights about 30 minutes before his father and then he runs to the shul and he sits and learns. His father lights 30 minutes later. But now he comes and he says you know some people commented that could be that this is the wrong thing to do for two reasons. First of all it's not exactly kibu that you light before the father normally not only the father lights but everybody in the house at least the men the boys they light. You first allow your father to light and only then the kids light. Not exactly the when you light before your father. And the second thing is the first one who lights at home is what are all the other people doing when they're learning. Everybody writes it's a mitzvah. So you want to take away your father's mitzvah and leave him with with a change with the dessert. You want to leave him with a hiddu. What's up with that? Is that the right thing to do? >> It's not his house. It's not his house. It's the FATHER'S HOUSE. >> AND ESPECIALLY THAT IT'S NOT YOUR HOUSE. IT'S YOUR FATHER'S HOUSE. ISN'T it kind of abah to leave your father with the hiddu and take away the mitzvah? Is that what you're saying, right? What do you say? That means he's going to get reward much more than anything else. What does that do with our Let's deal with. Is this kibbu? When you're sitting on the table with your father, the al if says you have to prioritize your father. Give him first. Let him wash his hands first. Can you say to your father, listen, I'm going to watch before you cuz I'm going to go learn before. And can I get what about it's also part of what we learn in the Torah is in order to fulfill what says >> that he says his father will be happy that the son >> that's a sh if the father would come and say I'm very very happy but the son is asking is it right not to prioritize my father if the father says get out of here I want to see you learning we don't have a shil you're trying to diffuse the shilah and I want to deal with the shilah we learned it from Jacobu was not punished for the 14 years he spent You should neck finish. So those 14 years >> who told him to go he told >> can you go tol without sitting and learning it's how to conduct yourself without yeshiva most explained that's the reason he sat in yeshiva so and didn't fulfill his father's wish he did because you can't go into a contaminated place without protecting yourself the only way to protect yourself is to learn how to deal with it that mean to immerse and saturated with and okay now maybe maybe I'm ready to go and meet who I'm supposed to meet outside a very wicked person so I'm not so sure we can give a proof from anyways that's before and anyways that's not this is good no good you like it you don't like it you don't Yeah. >> Yeah. >> The light of the candles is >> to prioritize your father is also the Yeah. What's the definition of to feed him if you need to dress him to take him out for a walk if he needs to help him get up to help him sit down all the other things that give him and joy are part of kibbut but that's not the definition of kibbu from the toy as if I don't do it they can't try if you did you make a bonus >> take food before your father sounds do a mitzvah before your father. >> What does that mean? I'm doing a mitzvah for my father >> before your father. If I want to say earlier or only think that >> this is Christian >> says if you have your father you're hosting your father that's his language you have an obligation to honor your father. Make sure your father washes his hands first. Serve him first. I'm quoting you the obligation. Honor your father. He comes first. Especially at this your father's house. He comes first. was asked a similar question. He was asked by a bah or a person who's married and he's with his father in the house and he says my father does before he goes half an hour he goes to the mikvah he dips a g HALF AN HOUR BEFORE HE ACTUALLY I WANT TO LIGHT and I want to leave and my father is my father says no what kind of business is this I have to lie before you say very very similar to the was asked do I actually have to wait for my father to finishes all all his preparations. How many can you say for one mah? And he keeps going asks starts by saying this really should not be a shila funny language. He say should be it shouldn't be a this of and not exactly of he says this that should be but it should not be because we have to somehow make a compromise and peace between the father and his son because the son is obligated in and the father is obligated not to cause the son to transgress by upsetting him. So they should somehow resolve this. But if you're asking me says we have to talk about it in this because it should not be relevant. He says the father is not right. When we are all standing here enlighting prioritize your father I think that's what you were hinting to before. But if I want to light half an hour before you it's not there's no issue of priorization. I'm doing a mitzvah now and you're doing a mitzvah later. I'm hungry. So I have to wait now half an hour until you finally light so I can eat. We don't find this type of a isue until your father writes. You're not supposed to. No, when you're standing together about to do the mitzvah or do something else, whatever it is, prioritize your father. But there's no issue for me to go ahead before him and to do any that I want. >> The fact that uh you mentioned that the first person who writes, >> well, we're not dealing we're dealing with first. We'll get there. I so we have no problem. Get out of it. When he wants to do it half an hour early, there's no prioritization. I'm doing a mitzvah now. My father's going to do it later. Prison is only when we're standing together about to do something. Let your father go first. But is he really demoting the mitzvah element the mitzvah part the of the father when he's lighting first taking the mitzvah and making his mitzvah the mitzvah and his father only the hindu mitzvah and sim shake tremble shake tremble this how you remember So yeah, writes you're allowed to light a candle from another candle comes he says no we're knowing to be not to light from to because the mitzvah is one. So what you're doing for the for the second is demoting the first one. Don't use candle to candle. That is the min says the the the because the rest are not for a mitzvah at all. That's his language. The says really it's sufficient to light one candle for everybody in the household. The writes if that's the case when there's many people in the house it's sufficient to light one for everybody even though we see that people do say aba when they light their own candles again the father lights and then other household members light with aba because they have a kavana I don't want to be with my father's then you can go and light for yourself. But you don't need that. And therefore, you can't use the first candle to use two other candles because they're not really at least the same level of a mitz or whatever you want to treat them. It seems on the the even a father and his son when they light in the same house if the son has a kavana I don't want to be with my father's he is still not going to be able to light from the main candle because the main candle the first candle is the of the mitra and all the other candles even though we say over them they have a little lesser of a lower level of a mitzvah mitzvah of Hindu but it's not the eco mitzvah it's is however he writes that if you light the main candle and then tonight is the fourth night the fifth night you lit the first candle and then remember oh wait a second I didn't say the baka can you say the baka on the second candle you didn't say as you were supposed to on the first candle you started lighting so excited and then you remember wait a second you I didn't say the braha the second candle is only a hidd candle can you say ab over that you're saying yes >> yeah until you finish the candle >> but the second candle is only a hidu candle it's not the main part of you say for hidu last week we mentioned the abu mentioned in the is actually from that yes you do say aba for doesn't seem to like it normally we don't say aba says, "You can still say Abra for the candle." >> First candle. >> When you finish the first one and you're about to light the second one, you're even allowed to say now when you forgot to say it for the first one. And it's a because as soon as you finished the first candle, you finished the all you're adding now. So, you shouldn't be able to do it. we only light one and you're but he says no normally when people light like we said you have a kavana I don't want to be with the and therefore I'm allowed to and therefore he says that's the case you're obligated that's a nice thing to do asks himself from what the mam brings that the other people in the household cannot use the first candle why not I have a kavana to be a for me nothing happened until I light myself and when I light it's mamesh a nail of a mitzah not a hindu mitzah he says no it's mamesh he says he says the first night kennel is what potters the whole house it exempts the whole house it's a everything else they do and yet he allows to do it comes out our discussion is dependent on one hand and on the other say that if somebody already lit in the house, everybody else that lights, they can do it. But it's only a Hu type of an activity that they're involved in. Now, according to the Mameish, a full-fledged mitzvah, and he will be able to do it. And he's not demoting his father by doing so. We'll stretch it and compare it to something else. By brings a tour regarding he cut off the what if the moy did that and there's still some extra called but it's the extra that he didn't cut but if he'll forget about it it's not if the mitsah was done when the finished and he sees that some leftover should he come back and actually do He finished the B. Should he come back and do it? >> It depends who you ask. And it depends if it's shabas or weekdays. >> If it's on shabas, should he come back and do it? Everybody agrees he doesn't come back. Why? Because if you do, what are you doing now? >> The was done. It's not. So what you do have now is what about the weekday? It's a Monday. There's a maybe we should all say maz to that just took place two days ago with a new baby born the son of who sitting right here and join us every single week and he should grow up to be a gigantic the over there I was watching him did a great job as he always did he didn't forget anything everything you took everything is fine but let's say it happened on a Wednesday do you go back to do it or not says nope no the was done the says go back why the says when you do it beautiful so it's a they are all they are a Hindu mitzvah. So theam says once you finished the mitzvah is done when you come back you're not doing mitzvah you're done doing something it's not connected to the mitzvah you can only do a hindu mitzvah when you're involved in a mitzvah but when the mitzvah was finished before yesterday an hour ago it's over the hindu mitzvah what are you going to it has to be associated with something has to be associated with a mitzvah you do a mitzvah do it in a complete more beautiful way that most beautiful way that you can but that's when you're involved in a mitzvah The T says not like that. The T says anytime that you go back and you fix and you make more beautiful what you did before it's still a mitzvah. Based on that brisk explains image he compares this to the of the and the regarding similarly they're very consistent the changes from the language of the from the opinion of the says the order he lights all the candles for everybody meaning the he lights one candle for everybody in the household like we do in The wife lights candles for everybody in the house. And the lights is the amount of people in the household and the amount of days. That's what normally they do according to the safe days each one of the household members. And that's what we do. They write. This is very consistent with what they hold regarding. According to theam, it's not shy to do a hiddah without the mitzvah. If that's the case when the balabis lights his candles and he finishes the mitzvah is not GOING TO BE SH FOR OTHER PEOPLE TO JUMP IN AND TO do their hedu because the ma mitzvah was DONE JUST LIKE THE mitzvah of the br was done and it's not sh to come back later to do a hindu mitzvah when the mitzvah is not here but like the tool because the tool says even on a weekday sorry on a weekday when you go back to do it's even after the was completed because Yes, you can do a Hindu mitzvah to a mitzvah that was already completed. As long as you beautify something, it's considered hindu mitzvah. Each one of the household members can go and light. So it comes out that after the lit all the other naos are only of mitzvah and he holds like the and the pimead that everything that the people in the house will will light are only mitzvah. According to that, the father can say to his son, what you're doing is taking away my mitzvah. I had a main mitzvah and then there's a hiddu mitzvah. You took my main mitzvah and all you left me is the hiddah. But it could be that even according to the opinions of the father doesn't lose anything from having his son light before him because as soon as the candle was lit, he's also mitzvah. THIS IS HIS HOUSE. He's the there should be a candle of in your house and when he lights the mitzvah he completes the job and even if we'll say not like that it's somebody else lighting and you should prioritize yourself over somebody else doing a mitzvah for you. The whole essence of is what does try to DO as somebody already said here. So he's not nullifying the mitzvah of he wants to do the mitz of and then he wants to go and sit and learn which has reward correspond to everything. It's exactly the opposite of what theim want to do and that's the rectification of the of the learning to of the son should override this. So to summarize there is an inan to prioritize the father but only when you're both doing the mitzvah not if the father doesn't want to light now he wants to light later there's no in of prioritization if it's demoting or not is this going to be but even if it is and we should definitely explain this to a smart father and even if he's not smart we'll spend a little more time explaining this to him he should prioritize his son he should be very happy that his son wants to go and learn and has spent a little more time with and it's going to bring to the whole house. >> Welcome everybody else and it's Arabus also that no one's anything. >> No, no, no. You're allowed to start lighting. It's very early and you're don't do it and make sure if you do you have enough oil to last all the way to half an hour after but once you light you're fine there's different how early before shabas one should light tonight so he he does half an hour only his father maybe does 15 minutes before and he does 45 minutes before much much after plaque shouldn't be a problem >> sure the early go when it gets dark But the was done. You said the B is going to kick in later. We're going to find out retroactively if your if the candles lasted for that duration that we're looking for. But the lit is done now riddle riddle a glowing riddle. Can it be that a person lit his Khan candles in the right place? There's a lot of people who pass by and see the Khan candles pursue. Nobody is sick. There's no I always have to say that before. Oh sick is about to die. No, no one's sick. The same amount of people are going to pass by tonight. Tonight is the fifth night. The same amount of people like yesterday and three days ago. And yet we're going to tell them change the location. Yesterday it worked fine. Tonight the same amount of people are going to pass by. But we're going to tell them nope. Change the place that you were lighting. You're lying for 4 days from now. Change it. The rest of the change location. When would that be? Can it be? Not a trick question. It can be. When did this happen? Perhaps. I don't understand. A person lights every single night. The first four nights, five nights, six nights, he lies in one place. That's Gavaldik. The rabbi comes says this is the best place to light. A lot of people came by and saw it. Then in the middle of Hanukkah, the rabbi come says no, switch location. Says why? The same amount of people are going to pass by tonight if they're going to see it. And yesterday told me it's good. So why is it not good right now? And there's not any bad smell or anything like that in that area. We have to change. >> Same amount of people in the household. >> Everything is constant. Same amount of healthy people. Same amount of everything. Everything is the same. >> Is the height >> height is the same from yesterday? Nobody renovations here. >> Did he move in recently? >> Did he move in? >> Yeah. And if you did so LIKE >> YOU GET 15 POINTS, >> you hear that? What is he talking about? He's talking about it's not here. Normally we learn you want to light on the right side, right? You light outside your house on the right side. Why on the right and not on the left? >> Mus is on the left. Muzan is on the right is on the left. But normally we go to the right with everything. Why on the right? >> Because we move from left to right. >> Mishnaba says two reasons. Either that we always prefer the right or there's more consuming on the right because people turn to the right. So we normally put the kanakos on the left and the muza on the right. And if there is no muza you go to the right. If you want to prioritize the right because of these two reasons of the base, we learn a person who rents a house in rents in the first 30 days does not have to put him. If he did, can he say most of the allow him to say the even before 30 days? when the 30 days kicks in. So he did not put as the says first 30 days he didn't put he moved in exactly a month ago when the 30th day today kicks in what does he have to do now? Put a muza. So until now the kanukia was on the right side because there's no muza here. Now that the muza comes, should he transfer the manoya from the right to the left to do what the shuk says? Shukhan says the muza goes on the right, the manoya goes on the left. Now that I finally have a muza, it's the fourth day, fifth day of sixth day. Whenever in the middle of should I transfer the from here to here? Yes. He discusses this and one of the other to do this when they established the tabernacle they used to assemble and disassemble assemble and disassemble assemble and disassemble. So the the wood that would go on the north tomorrow you have to put it again north. So they wrote to know which goes where some say this will apply in suka as well and when you take apart your suka tonight to this year next year when you build it again you have to make sure that the same words are standing in the same place some say you don't that's the reason some say that in the talis some people have anara why do you have the atara you have beautiful silver thing on top or even just the the the material why do you have to put it to make sure that what you had yesterday on top on the shoulders or on your head doesn't go on the bottom you don't put it some say it doesn't make a difference the go the the didn't care about this and he doesn't care to switch to flip the talis every single day but this is what the and the brings him discuss and he says this is doesn't provide the isue of switching like the kesh of the mishkar because he says first of all when I put it here the first day of I knew that the 30th day will come in the middle of the week. So I had in mind that when the 30th day will come I will change it and second one it's not right to keep both of them now on the right because people going to pass by says what's wrong with this guy doesn't he know the manura goes on the right the muza goes on the right and the manura goes on the left and therefore for these two reasons he says switch location is not crazy about it the says he brings up that you do have to put everything in the same place where it was yesterday like the tabernacle stays in the says yesterday you kept it here next year you put it on the left side this year you'll keep everything on the right but according to that brings that will be the answer to our question so so that tonight Friday night if all you have is one candle and you can use it for shabas or you can use it for kaneka which one overrides Shab overrides. Why? That is what Raa says. What does that mean? What does it mean? >> Rashi says you're going to stump your feet a million times. Stump your toe. People don't like to eat in dark. She says everybody is upset to sit in the dark. That's notice. But the says who owns to whom does the mitzvah of Shabas belong? >> The woman. Who owns or who does the mitzvah of belong to? >> The husband. The wife is going to say, "Ah, so you prefer YOUR MIT OVER MINE." And that's going to cause the give all the committee. WHAT KIND OF GONNA BE? YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT MY MITES. YOU ONLY CARE ABOUT YOUR MIT. OH, what's going to be a m is that? Wait a second. Based on that, a couple is about to get divorced. Sunday, they have a meeting in the she knows he prefers himself over her. She knows this for the last 10 years. That's why they're getting divorced on Sunday. Should he also prioritize nil shabis or not buy according to the media at least is not tell he's going to get divorc >> no the rabbi set an appointment for him >> what's that >> you see from the scheme you see the game in the scheme they didn't there's no there's no keep wait A SECOND IF YOU'RE ABOUT TO DIVORCE 80% YOU'RE GOING TO DIVORCE NOBODY SAYS THAT what do you see from here you see from here that until that final signature on the appears. You must continue investing and hoping and dvening and doing everything you can to maintain otherwise they will tell you well when it's clear for you know for a fact that no this is always relevant as long as they're married this is always relevant. There was a couple that came to the Osame and they told him we want to get divorced. So says you can't do such a drastic move without having your kid present. Bring your kid. They brought the kid back. The looks at the kid and he says to him, "You should know your parents have a plan to turn you into an orphan if in fact they go through with this plan." So please don't do don't do don't do don't do don't do don't do don't do don't do don't do don't do don't do me a favor. You're going to be an orphan basically. So don't roam in the streets. Come to me. You'll be my child. Maybe I said this before here. If I did it's a mitzah to repeat. If not you're in for a treat. A guy came to the and he told him rabbi I want to get divorced. What was going on? It doesn't work. We're married 3 years. Did you try? Yes. Yes. Rabbi, we try. Did you really really try? We tried. We tried. We tried. That's it. Finished. Can you do the get for us? So the motion says to him, "Come tomorrow 9:00 to my office. You have a kid?" "Yeah." One and a halfyear-old. Bring him as well. This person thought it's part of the procedure that the kid has to be. He doesn't know it's the first time having a kid. The following morning 9:00, they come to the office. They sit down and the Bush says, "Didn't you say you have a son?" Says, "Yes, bring him in." They go outside. They bring the kid. The Bush says, "Can I hold your son?" Are you sure? Puts this little kid, one and a halfyear-old, on his lap. He looks at him and he says, "Dear Mo, you should know what I'm about to tell you now. You're not going to understand. But oh boy, will you understand this later. What's going to happen in a few minutes will essence turn you into an orphan. Your life is going to be miserable. It's going to be hell. You're going to be in every time there's a partyish party. The parents of other kids will come. Your parents will never want to be in the same room together. When they don't learn is everybody's always going to be looking at you. Whenever the word get will be mentioned, everybody will be staring at you. The neighbors will be your father. The aunts and uncles, they will be your mother. One shabas you will spend by your mother and you're going to hear nasty things about your father. The following shabas you'll be by your father and you're going to hear the most terrible things about your mother. Your life is going to be hell. But don't worry is the father. He'll take care of you. The father and the mother become oid. The father says to him, "Abi, can can we still discuss this outside or listen as long as we don't have a signature on the gate? You can sure you can discuss it." The father comes quickly. He takes the kid from the rabbi sister's wife. They go outside and the beer mo is still sitting there 120 years later waiting for them to come back. They never came back. I said this over once when I was in the states in the shay. At the end of this year, this fellow comes to me crying. He says to me, exactly the way you described it is what happened to my son. And I feel terrible. I said, I'm so sorry. I have no idea. This a meant to be a shir for Schlumbice. I'm assuming people want to hear this type of things. If I would have known, I would never say this. He says, it's excellent that YOU SAID IT. PEOPLE SHOULD KNOW he was crying tell me it's exactly what happened to my son exactly but that you said it because people need to know so therefore I feel comfortable to say this even if it's going to cause someone to shed some tears another glowing riddle can it be is there something unique about the fourth day of a that applies only in the fourth day and is not relevant don't tell me that you have to light four candles on the I know A different that applies only because today is the fourth day of Khan. It doesn't apply in the third, fifth day, eighth day or the first day. Only in the fourth day like >> what about it? >> Well, one says to increase one. >> Do we pass? Do we pass? No, we pass. So what's something that applies to us today only in the fourth day can it be? Two people are led in the same kanukia. >> True. I thought you were going to say that. >> Two people, very poor people, they only have one kanukia. So they're able to light the first night, each one on each edge of the kanukia and the second, third, the fourth, they can't because you're not it's not going to be apparent. True. On top of that, that's the the obvious one. The brings something a little more something to like. So they came, are you allowed to ulogize? You're allowed to fast. You sure? >> Yes. >> Correct. Kanuka, you're not allowed to ulogize. You're not allowed to fast. The writes, what about if somebody has a What about if someone has a terrible dream last night? We spoke about it before. Today we don't fast even for those things mentioned in because says we're not such great people that they're giving us messages from but according to the original andite people have them like to fastite if the yite falls on can one fast no said one doesn't the adds that if one did he has to FAST ANOTHER DAY COMPENSATORY FOR what he did. Good. But what's that? >> Right. So the says don't say don't says the more but if you did and you didn't listen to the so you owe another fast day. But this is different if this happens on fourth day of what's so unique about writes there's days are called special days on the calendar that for different things that happen one of them is why because yim burnt the migila that wrote in the name writes this is one of the days writes in that marries in the month of Nissan. We don't say month of Nissan. Does he fast? >> Yes. The writes why? Because this is one of the days that people fast. So you see even on a day that normally you don't fast but since a special day is one is able to fast same thing will apply normally it's days that you don't fast but is such a special day that is so one will be able to fast the writ based on this is one of those days it's not better than therefore one will be able to fast I so he says, "So, how come the Ramadan didn't mention it?" The Rama should have said, "You don't fast on except for he says an interesting thing because normally people don't get married at the end of the month. Go to the next hall and check if this is still correct today. I don't know." That's what he writes. But the writes you don't fast because there's different versions if in fact it was when he burnt it or it was on different days. But the writes If you did fast, should you do another fast? Or if you fasted, you didn't listen to the can you fast the extra fast because it's a day that you're allowed to fast. It comes out that the answer to our riddle is the fourth day of which is different than the all other days. Some can say that you're allowed to fast and even if you're not allowed to but you did you do not have to add another day after to compensate for what you did. So there's the answer to our riddle. Last thing next. Thank you so much. should come first >> and then wars after salvation >> something is wrong with the order. THANK YOU VERY MUCH for the wars. We spoke about it. Why do you want what why we want to thank for the wars and then thank you for the salvation you delivered after the war. But you're SAYING NO. YOU'RE SAYING THANK YOU FOR THE SALVATION AND THANK you for the wars out of order. That's why you say thank you for the war itself. But why are you saying it after the salvation? It should be the reverse comes says based on there we learn doesn't strike. You're in the MIDDLE OF THE WAR. you should know is and there's already salvation that's already there. So we say thank you. We think it's a war and then says you know what maybe I'm going to help them. OH he always prepared THE SALVATION BEFORE THE WAR EVEN STARTED. We say thank you before he supports those who fall. First they fall and then he supports him. NO. So therefore we mention THE THE SUPPORT BEFORE the downfall because it's always there. This applies to us person is in the middle of his own personal war challenge tribulation difficulties whatever it is uncomfortable things that we all want to avoid. I need salvation. SUBMISSION IS ALREADY there should reveal that's what he prepared before the war started before the trouble the challenge whatever one goes through >> it was first first was the bitterness then was the >> right >> right right something you can only appreciate the after you went through the salvation so first you have to salvation understand why it was really good for you say no back then he will deliver a parent. Amen.