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Metzora - Enduring Embarrassment
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What is the concept of Lashon Hara (gossip)? What can be done to avoid it? What is one of the main triggers of Lashon hara? How can one endure embarrassment? How does the challenge serve to cleanse a person of sin? Why does Hashem overlook our sins if we overlook the sins of others? Find out in this week's Parsha Podcast.
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2019 this piece marches participant
surah the tour continues in our parsha
with the subject of the previous parsha
which is the concept of sarah's special
the special spiritual leprosy which
person would receive for a number of
different sins a number of different
ways of manifesting certain bad meadows
certain bad character traits and just as
last week we spoke about the concept of
Russian Hara of gossip and how to
protect ourselves from it and not speak
of others even if we feel like they
wronged us we spoke last week about be
talking and I would like to read to you
some more from the habit I'm about the
concept of Solano's which means patience
and it also means besides for patience
and hand in hand that goes with being
willing to be sovel to withstand and to
endure challenges to one's ego okay and
if we work on this concepts as a house
climb so then that will help us in our
ability to to safeguard ourselves from
speaking loshon Hara okay so this is in
the eighth chapter Shara Oona
Bolivar meet accessable Anasuya of words
in a column of a nicer we're gonna learn
an amazing thing and if a person is
SciVal a person is patient a person is
willing to undergo challenges to his ego
so such a person will all of his sins
will be forgiven amazing thing oh geez
Irma a person needs to be especially
careful maja Gillis has my witnesses of
lowness to cuss himself to the character
trait of patience of being willing to
undergo difficult difficulties and
challenges to z go Seamus rats of the
coma Cheryl a person should be okay with
whatever happens to him the eCos therapy
Nelson and we find it obviously nothing
Buzzelli shanem having la mode lockable
suits our person should accustom himself
to being able to endure difficulty in
pain if he Michael al Blanco a person
should forgive when someone else
embarrassed
them.he anak Alya Alakazam either
schmear solution and by doing so it will
be much easier to protect oneself from
gossip and gossip and negative speech
the lab hockey circle is gabrielle yet
sweet amid the person has not accustomed
himself to being willing to undergo or
to let go of the pain of someone
insulting them so it will be very hard
to overcome constantly his use of
Harrah's evil inclination shall little
left us of a sovereign luck and measure
how you been I've been plenty not to
tell them what happened between him and
somebody else I mean these are Bay is
there I feel unless a pair would be
careful about which way to say it right
there's better ways to say it oh I won't
say name I won't mention it I won't say
anyway which is negative all these come
out but because a person is upset and a
person feels insulted and they feel
slighted and they're not they don't have
the ability told themselves back from
saying what happened Ponyo not success I
hate surprise I ate three and that's
kind sometimes a person will be able to
overcome and see it so hard as evil
inclination and other times the evil
inclination will overcome him a few I've
got you - oh the fun of and even if
somebody speaks negatively right in
front of your face
no Yasha Blake I'll first time informs
us of an amazing opportunity and very
difficult one at that which is that if
somebody is somebody is saying something
negative to you don't respond via KOCO
miss havesham whoever nice of a person
should know everything is from a Shem
because of a person's sins I have a nice
of hey ma'am - I say it's really person
sins that are insulting him or I would
say another way it's not what the calms
time says but when person sins so so
there's an opportunity for them to be
cleansed though since we cleanse through
the the insults of others she yeah
Mikasa dinner lots maybe a mess when a
person accepts upon himself that this is
indeed a shams will this is the judgment
of a sham vehicles for clear I'm Karen
Amala offers Elizebeth Maybach
a person who's willing to accept discard
these kinds of insults they can be
assured that if they recognize that it's
a Shamu
these challenges they'll peak everything
will be well for them both in this world
and in the next question would see no
it's automatically shown like we find
about King David Fischer Shaquille
elation bangerra of ee para saber offer
wen Shan even Garen salted him not only
insult him he cursed him and he threw
through dirt on him
rod started over the kind of boy that
was that and the servants of King David
wanted to get back at showing bangerra
LOI near clammy didn't allow them to
wiki will allot some I had in bottom
right and he accepted upon himself that
Hashem had judged him and he said a
shadow more like Hallel it was Hashem
who told him to curse from a result she
shows up a level yes I reveal irregular
Merkava then at that time because of his
willingness to endure a challenge to his
ego so the result was that he became the
fourth of the rod lay hammer cover the
fourth of the of the the throne of
Hashem as until then it had three legs
that were holding it up as it were and
this of course is a muscle of course
that there were there was a Miyazaki
Nico of the meet those three meters
Abraham had to do with the concept of
Gugu of that said yes I was goroh
Yaakov is to Ferris his ideas very deep
but they held up the throne of Hashem
and now there were only three legs of
course the chair can stand on three legs
but there was a fourth one that came mm
I'll speak excuse me became the fourth
leg to hold up the throne of Hashem
why because he was willing to accept
upon himself
someone's curses and he didn't he didn't
allow his servants to respond guy I got
him a lot of other and this is true for
every single individual amuse kilometres
over Shlomo's and not show the Austin
may Hashem is broth so if a person
merits this completely so he will be
considered in the future from those who
love Hashem the ergotism iguras a big
hoorah say he will shine like the Sun
coming out in its strength wish our
Hazael like house I'll say I'm sorry an
eleven van on oil oven
seanny karpas - even people who are
embarrassed by others but they don't
embarrass those people back those who
hear insults but they don't respond i
see me novice making me Suren they do
out of love and they rejoice in
difficulties and challenges I'll have a
glass of a Marissa - Watchmen Grasse
Sukumaran Shaba stuff pas page 88 about
them it says that they are like they're
like the Sun coming out they are the
loved ones of a Shem were like the Sun
coming out in all of its strength he
brings down a story here because of his
saber told us are them
japonica's nuts a Telekom's almond
Tamina Shilla grow in walking about
going up climbing of illusion one time
ribs a man who was a student of the grub
brother of Rahimi of illusion they were
traveling together by Heba viola Milan
when they came to a particular lodging
DVI tambala Malenko so nothing to him
welcome la lune the owner of the lodging
of the lodge spoke to them very tough
and he didn't give no place to sleep
because sure no Sammy Shawn when they
travelled on from there by Arab famous
up he was almond being a boy their time
saw his brother of Zalman he was crying
I'm really LaMotta by faith he said why
are you crying ribs almond I sound
totally closed every how ish is it is it
that you took to heart what this person
said you got insulted when you learn to
satya Libya and pay attention anything I
said
honor of Zalman Zalman said like this a
nanny boy that kalila alga neutrally
really know how each he said I am not
crying because of what the person said
about us the negativity that the person
expressed either gosh team at cave Lamy
Deborah Harish but I did feel a little
bit hurt because of his words boy honey
I'll shallow he got ya down the malice
and 11 venom 11 Smitham Eucerin he was
crying and he didn't yet reached the
level where he could receive such an
insult and it wouldn't hurt him where
where he would be insulted and he would
be embarrassed by someone he wouldn't
feel any anger in his own heart so we
see an amazing level it's possible I
said we're talking about Coney Island
the students of the garage
brother of Crimea vulajin but it's an
amazing story it's amazing support to
hear such a level and here the first of
all such a thing is attainable and
second of all it's such a thing is is a
goal something to aspire to
well para Shama fortunately Kailash of
Khan shalosh major agus fortune
explained that there are three levels
here in this regard Shaina I live llaha
very fear mahatma clarify a lot of Lea's
she Asha the first level the lowest
level is where a person is insulted he
doesn't he doesn't insult the person
back but he does respond beige am I not
allowed to mention little harsh if he
holds himself back from responding of
all the father sleeve of my Rosa but his
heart is still bitter about it my middle
last mushy little hush a key - oh yeah
suggest he resigned all your days in a
cup hearing he holds himself back from
answering because he knows that he will
get more embarrassed you'll be will be
more buzzer e to the other person so
that's the second level but I mean I was
making he's through the highest level
though is where a person does it out of
love
and he rejoices in challenges and
difficulties perish mush animation I
mean Santa Avila Shem when the first to
circumstance he's not responding because
he knows he's not gonna win the third
circumstances he's not responding
because he recognizes that it's a code
of sparkle who is doing it to him
recognizes that it's a sham and he out
of his love for Hashem and his
recognition that Hashem loves him as
well
Kali is sworn a là-bas simcha and he
receives his challenges with joy she my
geometry gosh leashes a from the cover
herself the person reaches that very
high level third level he merits to all
of the honor kami does a Bala
auto meets a caduceus a nephesh because
reaching that level and again of course
we're speaking here about a level which
is extremely exalted for righteous
people but it's important to know that
social level exists it's important to
know that there's something to aspire to
so when a person reaches that level
meets a caduceus a nephesh it comes
because of the holiness of his soul my
Manasa tire of a sham so much Gayle
called Raghav and in his abs
belief is absolute faith in God that God
is watching over every single thing that
he does overall this path squash
recursive like the verse in job says
chapter 34 verse 21 okay and I'll call
darkish God's eyes are upon every single
way of man well he's had call it Ivo say
excuse me and everything that I showed
us is for the person's good the eastern
measures tompoma this is in the measures
tokuma actually the parentheses here
points out from Rohini have ski that
it's actually in the supreme partial
sense kana newsela shine a serif and I'm
Lisa matheus when Yasir math.min hot Eva
person needs to be more rejoice and we
need to rejoice more when he faces off
with a challenge more than when he
received something good to feel other
with type of column of even if a person
has good all of his days like nymph
aloha i have one issue the other doesn't
accomplish for him anything in regards
to the sins that he has person wants his
sins to be forgiven it only happens if a
man named collide be suing the only way
that it occurs is through challenges
through difficulties already the desert
circle of a hot stick to vodka the
support will be punchy swim bottle off
person needs to thank God when
challenges come his way llama chaser
moistness autumn because the
difficulties that a person have has draw
the person like Kodesh bahu closer to
God
she's never Marcus I'll show you how you
have a chamois fef
there's a verse says and the verse says
in Mission a prayer gimel you base in
proverbs chapter 3 verse 12 the one
Russian loves gives to kapha - he gives
he gives them challenging situations
subhana Allah doom Yama by Vica blame on
machines safely mountains karan prison
should receive him accept them because
there's no end to the reward for a
person
undergoing those challenges it's very
interesting Lahab hill in in the book by
viktor frankl the meaning the i'm
blanking on the name of the book man's
search for meaning
so there he said he speaks about the the
power that it gives to a person when you
give meaning to a person's difficulties
when a person is sick a person is
terminally ill but they face it with
with 42 it faces with challenge it gives
meaning to the difficulty that's going
on that's just on a superficial level as
the idea of meaning but on a deeper
level the comes time is speaking about
that when we recognize that it's a sham
and God is doing it for our best and in
order to clean off the asou and the
challenges the challenges serve to clean
off our sins so then it's a very deep
thing it's a very beautiful thing time
la chemise Hollywood be quiet when
person right it says bye-bye iron a kind
when his two sons died on Nimish meanie
if they the first day of Nisan when is
when it was the eighth day of the
Mishkan so they died it says
Edom irony is quiet so it's an idea of
being quiet in the face of challenge
Darla Shannon Scylla boy
Safina Kadosh Baruch oh look to God in
hey Bjelica ult MF I'd buy him Allah
have McCobb lon ha leland person should
receive them like like a like a hollow
hollows is something that's hollow I can
assure my COC Avenue McCauley swimming
canal nice to me obvious name is around
the idea of Eucerin person if he has to
endure challenges in regards to being
embarrassed by others so such a thing is
a powerful Eucerin a challenge and
difficulty and such a thing there's a
gift from God
this is a Hobbit's hi and just to bring
it back to what he said at the beginning
it's that by doing so that by being
willing to endure challenges to one's
ego by being willing to enjoy endure
someone embarrassing a person so it
helps a person to be schirmer's Russian
because why does a person want to get
revenge to the why does a person speak
Russian or it's to get revenge
a year's southern was telling me no
social sub low knows when person wants
to attach himself to this meda
to this character trait of
of patience it's more than patience it's
being willing to endure of endurance to
endure the challenge to see you go he's
playing tell me but goof - obviously you
hanim about Google person can think of
us is pretty heavy right why this is
what it says a person needs to know
what's going on in Ganim person needs to
know that that that when they get to the
world of truth the child the
difficulties that a person faces as
results of the various that he's done as
a result of the sins that he's done
right the person's soul needs to be
cleansed from those sins we have no idea
the results of what we do here we don't
understand how to how how difficult it
is how the the results of what goes on
okay
so I can hinge but she's been an author
myself Tom 8 v 8 IQ gunky no you're not
gonna be on my dimension IRA person
needs to know that there's no way to get
out of the punishment Roddy McDowall
eyes when you have some time either has
a sound environment days of tamid I'm so
much much calmer now because but by
recognizing that I have no way out
except by going through a challenging
situation of being embarrassed by people
by being embarrassed by others that
cleans off a person sins and so a person
can recognize have this recognition
Kamisha America's I like to say to say
klimova I mean dice of a villa of
copshop when a person is willing to
undergo a challenge to his ego the
person is insulted but he doesn't
respond he's my family died so he
overcomes his natural inclination to
respond so such a person is forgiven of
all of his sins she now as the verse
says nicely I've evolved I'll pet pesha
God forgives and passes over the sins
limine I say oven to whom does he
forgive those sins let me show overall
Pasha somebody who passes over the sins
of others someone who doesn't respond
when he's insulted
talk to me sure it's the Chavez morpheme
Cola fuel up shop so if a person wants
to be forgiven for his sins use argon
Kincheloe yak would claw needs to be
careful not to be mocked kid at all a
feel of your idea of a severe negative a
merit
well mouches any crap Esha even if a
person know
that they did something to him let's say
I know that somebody rebelled against me
somebody did something wrong to me I
need to forgive that person
and by doing silk my Marshawn illa
Mardan Zell okay so what happens to be a
my second dish Marco Michael I I filled
up shove to ensure Kosovo your lock up
shop we're not gonna cut it nice the
army should say to me that goes Roku
what is the idea idea is that when a
person forgives somebody else even it
does something terrible so me that Cann
naked meter there are so many times that
we sin against god there's so many
things that we do wrong we want to be
forgiven for those things we don't want
to have to endure the fires of Jahannam
in order to have our souls cleaned off
so what can we do we can receive the
challenges to our ego with quietude with
recognition that's from Hashem and by so
doing says says the Gemara to come on
rosh hashanah and says the house I'm by
so doing a person merits that that day
of the Hashem will forgive him neither
can a khadeem either measure for measure
if I don't if I don't hold against
somebody else a sham will not hold it
against me
in fact ago more there brings here it is
me does else law I don't angle it from
him
I said well you mean sometimes the
person can live longer because of this I
feel like Varney's I love Seamus even if
he should have been even it was decreed
upon him that he should i kitty isa the
Gemara there says my southern food a
breather gets you out the calash she was
he was sick
are you sure Rahul brother Joshua
alright pop of the Schulich Bey Republic
came in to see how he's doing
heart attack of Liam he saw that that he
was about to go he's about to pass over
the to leave the service Elizabeth dosa
so he said bring her death shrouds
Soviet part and then whoever I'm sure
got better I've become mixed to Republic
Ozzy a when I'm a classes so he was
embarrassed but pop was embarrassed
cause he has to bring in the death
shrouds because he thought he had died
when he's about to die Byron lay mikaze
is I'm Rene in hockey hava so he said to
him it was true it was true I supposed
to die Coosh Marku
but a sham said to the best thing God
said to the court that was judging my
case
Haarlem ooh chamomile and i Sakuma
birthday since he doesn't get upset when
others insult him since he passes over
the sins of others we're going to pass
over his sins
I'll cast our father miss da become you
mean that I shot Olivia toilet bazzetta
therefore a person needs to be careful
in regards to this Mita develop the
ability the self-control that's just the
self-control but the willingness to
undergo a challenge to one's ego because
by doing so so person then merit some
should forgive him as well and also by
doing sighs we said a person will
develop the self-restraint it won't be
so hard not to speak negatively about
others why because I won't have so much
to say because I will recognize
everything that happens to me tells me
ultimately for my son I want to bless
you and ask you to bless me should help
us to recognize that he's the one behind
every single thing that happens in our
lives
some should help us to be able to be
psycho to endure the challenges to our
ego some should help us to have love for
him and recognize his amazing love for
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