Daf Yomi Yevamos Daf 84 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] guess what we have an amazing guest in the house oh that's right what did i just say oh no [Music] what a day it's gonna be one of those days but you know what i'm very very excited we have with us seth hellman get over here seth so malaya tim seth has been with us i don't know from when ruckus wow unbelievable all the way from the beginning seth was an unaffiliated jew who found it somehow i don't know he's in college somewhere he didn't even have a gemara you didn't have a sitter to your name right zero and and guys from the sheer sentiments farm siddhurim do you have a chassis [Laughter] unbelievable so since bronchus wow one of the few and only from bronchus amazing where were you in pennsylvania no no now but where were you then back in the day when you new hampshire that's boston well yeah close enough next to richard okay my mother's from boston but i don't know anything about it okay fine what do we got here today ethan weinberg on the way to israel for his father this tuesday and i got a very nice email this picture was taken by his brother if i could find the email let's see yeah it passes a photo of aiden what eitan weinberg son of ellie while on the plane on the way to israel photo taken by his brother of fall both proud mdy members elie weinreich was a very special person i had the chance to know him for the past 30 years he would greet every single person no matter who with the warmest smile my last conversation with him was about the live sheer in brooklyn and how he enjoyed it so much means inshallah have an aliyah rabbi said take a look at this video we're running out of time here on this erevers khaidash why did you guys finish so late he threw me off with that check this out [Music] yeah the saying goes we live vicariously through our children well last night you met my son and his friends from shivatakote i'm so jealous sounds like it was a great experience i've been listening since almost the start another guy from almost to start they started with ibamas they are inspired by the daf as i have been thank you so much and wish all your best below is a picture from from your meeting my son is the one on the left moshe margolius silver spring maryland lavoy rebelli i'd like to thank you for helping me have a great year and teaching my fifth grade class in shiva toyotas as i listen to your show every morning before i go into class it gives me tremendous heels and a geshmak that i walk into the class on a high and reflect something i tell me them your great cheer goes a long way pulling you through the day me and my son still talk about the sharon flatbush i already check it now brooklyn here's somebody that says his name is yoily el khan but not from muncie a cousin of that guy friend the famous haley elegant from i mean lakewood um he's a cousin and he wanted to live share basis he drives his car he listens to share he got his cousin his cousin worked has got him got his brother-in-law akiva pill basically oh he loves the emails especially that one of mo landy do hazarana's flight thirties role and charming goldberg writing about his friend jelly duck he's decided to then he had a merch idea he had this dave and buses card and it says on its 60 minutes of fun power hour he holds it to be part of the merch not the dave bus obviously take out that uh log he put in the mdy logo gevalde by aaron sittner i want to comment yesterday the syrian community i'm not sparty but i stayed in deal for a day last summer and diving in the synagogue of deal the place is hopping it looks like every kid in the community is there learning in the morning it was an amazing site to see they have catered breakfast with toasted that's the trick catered bagels cheese coffee eggs everything i wish i would push morning learning where i live as much as they do it in deal as harry shalom would say this amazing email one of my favorites i'm gonna have to leave until tomorrow it's a beautiful email written in hebrew choked me up a number of times every time i look at it it chokes me up all right today's the sponsor for the koilo is anonymous of course mdy the first parent is reserved by his dear family friend who suddenly passed away at the age of 59 he loved mdy was proud to be a part of this amazing daf yoimi share by the wild walking steam family and kamakantara in the entire encampment by the lack of families like new jersey because tyra is the best gula nishmas today's share is sponsored and you all say it's cool it's in honor of our mother's second year today tessier uh zelda rifka bastrop and in honor of our father's six yard side yesterday what what happened yeah i don't know that's i'm reading what it says here as is today yeah you're right if today's the yesterday's test as it is for our family today is the 44th day in the eye mirror and it's not rich it's my twin's birthday today wow it's one of those the more disgust mother gave birth now and then 15 years later how how well how old are you 42 wow unbelievable okay that's it you're not even 40th wow no we're exactly ten years apart geovaldo so we're starting a brand new peric we're pretty much done with the auro although we might mention a little bit here and there we got to see taisus before we start anything start off with perry with tysus beautiful tysus once we spoke about all these alakazakis now we're doing khazara beloshin qatar in a very precise manner in a siku my eight minute daf kiday shiyu misudarim it should be organized in your hands and for safekeep unbelievable it should be kept for your mouth for your heart in your hands so we're doing a little hazard now most of these concepts we're very familiar with so for the most part when two people get married they're multiple to each other and they're also multi to the brother-in-law's if there's a situation of when the original husband dies then the obama falls to the brother she's muted to the brother she's mother the husband she's mother of the brother however there are cases where she falls liebhum and she's ushered to the brother can anybody think of such a case okay huh you don't have to go that far it's your father the of them is her father okay i would love to see how that works how did she marry what oh the mission sponsored uh where was the last mission though in arnold somewhere yeah good guess here we go sponsored and for clips from my wife and children i guess i can remember that one about that same okay so we're gonna have four categories you hear lauren my twin my twin and lauren are having a schmooze here how you doing so four categories where this woman is muted her husband which is normal but she's also to her brother-in-law or she's motored to her brother-in-law and officer to her husband she shouldn't have been married to him to begin with or motor to both or also to both let's see yesh muttari is the balayam as soon as leave mayhem there are those women who are mother to their own husband but also to their yavam that is the first category mutares leave mayhem this rabbi says because they are mutated to the of them the ovum has a mitzvah in shameless which the brother shouldn't have been married to this woman the original husband is the officer to be married to and he drops dead and the the obama goes to the brother and he has a special mitzvah to do what give a bring your child to the world and the to the guy that was over answered okay and that's a classic case that the obama is muted her husband and mother brother and sometimes the marriage is not good for the husband and not good for the alba question is there a special mitzvah for cayenne to marry akohenis or you can marry anybody you want your coin don't you dare answer i saw you're about to anybody [Music] is there a special opinion for a kahenes to marry a client or she could just go ahead and marry a stroke if a client marries a widow an almana he's allowed to marry her but his brother who is the yavam when he dies is kangado and okay so here's the case where she's muted to her husband but then if her husband dies she cannot have ebon because the brother-in-law is a kind god khalashanas a hollow someone who father had a relationship that's not kosher let's say he was a client who married a divorcee an israel and they had a child that child is a halal he's no longer a kayan i don't want to embarrass you but i'm so happy to see you hello now when he marries this shera what does he do to her lamar's going to talk is she a hennis are you sureless but by him marrying her she becomes the yes he is or the son of a kind he's not so much a kind anymore he's a hollow like my friend i have a friend like that i told you about it good friend balichuva the the mother told him she had relations with non-jews before she got married so she is a zainab halakhali and then the father the cain married her and they had his son regular from guy married he's a hell he doesn't get aliyah the whole thing he's i mean again he doesn't get kind he is he's a regular like he's strong so my friend marries let's say and he renders her khalala because he's a but he has a another brother who's a good client because the father divorces his original wife marries another woman and they have a kid together and that's a normal coin regular kind so when the hollow dies not my friend but the hall dies and his wife falls lee boom to somebody that's kosher so as and and he's also to marry her because he's a kosher kind and she's a khalala but she could be married to the hollow there's no issue for her to marry a hollow she's a kohanus israel she's learning marijuana yisrael shinosa basis now a regular marriage between two israelim but we actually ahmadzir so when he dies she falls to a momser she can't be married to the mansur so here's another case where she's muted to the husband also to the brother manzier two moms there may let him marry each other and she when she falls the e bomb two irregularly swell brother she's also to that one motor to her husband muther is the ballet master is the main the mission just repeats the case that we just spoke about the mutterslive mayhem these are the women that are mother when they follow vasuris they married a no-no but the brother-in-law is yes yes who was makadish not married why because if a congoto marries consummates the marriage what happens i gotta see this one give that to me for a second i like that no no your whole thing i want to see it no i insist you think you're wrong now i want to see it in action come on i want to show the other one i saw i don't want to have byron hirsch is in the house from lakewood new jersey another you know what every day this summer i got to tell you something very interesting actually show me later wow look at this so he has his screen here and then the y thing right over here look what it says i got it what does it say it's about the it's not about the dots about the end beautiful i know it said mdy do you say over here how did you do that custom wow wow wow but what you don't know the size of my maybe it's going to fit on what it's for everyone has everything what is this this is yours with the tablet inside everything on it wow what a gift that's by the way i really really wanted this i wanted it i know but i was too cheap to buy it but this this the main reason why i bought this because it's going to save you time because you have links on there hyperlinks that you just touch on there you could go to the macquarie it's not going to pull out the safety but now everybody's going to say you got it from the from the the tablet it's not going to uh wow i guess you could have more time but how do i use what comes with the whole wow look at this it's unbelievable this is merch wow a boy side pay attention you had a problem with the list i'm looking for a tesla by the way with the mdy logo x model though all right just gonna go wow beautiful beautiful wow wow wow i did not i promised you i didn't notice this i was just like wow that's cool that he's sitting around yesterday i gotta tell you something else i was just thought yesterday a guy was making a trip somewhere like he stopped in there just roll to say hello to me from lakewood first i thought it was a joke so like you're like the joseph said some guy i said or whatever he knocked on the door my wife said i'm not available he says i have to catch my flight i just stopped here i promise i'm not doing anything kotel ellie okay as i said hello from lakewood nice guy he did come to me first yeah he didn't come no because i wasn't available so he said okay i'll go to the culture i'll come back and almost miss his flight okay lakewood lakewood every day there's a guy from lake winner it's unbelievable okay beautiful dream right there could we go right there or we could talk about this unbelievable gift turn it on let me see what it looks okay wow schmuck all he did was irisen it wasn't she gave her a ring but they never did nussum because if they then she becomes a khalala and automatically becomes usher to the oven so that's a case where the gutter is not allowed to be married to the almana so she's oscar to the husband mother to the brother because the brother is a regular kind and a regular kid is a lot of marion almana a queen marries a khalala does he become a khalong anybody no a man can never become a hollow he could be born a hollow he can't become a call later on in life a woman could become a khalala in her life but this cayenne who was kosher married he's not only being married to her via but he has a brother who is a halal and he's allowed to be married to the halal so another case of the original husband oscar the alba motor israel again we're not saying anybody it's more of a hazara on the maserta trying to go through different allahs that we learned is the israelite to be married absolutely not obviously but he has a brother from a father had a relationship with somebody else and he has a brother of mamzer so that mom's just a lot of married than mam serious mom zero sebas israel mumbasis that marriage is illegal because he himself is a monster but the monster has a regular brother so the bastard stroll could be married to their regular brother mutara's leave me these are all cases that they're asar the mother to the asuras and they were originally ushered to the original husband here's the third category kain god and he married her now it's nothing rabbi so remember this word nasa because we're going to say that this is why we said in the beginning because of this word right over here in the third category he married and he made the almana what by him marrying her she's a khalal okay he has another brother congratulations he stepped in for for him and they came back they were both kind goddess not at the same time at different times so she cannot fully ebon to the brother the kind god though or a regular who married married a regular yes trailers which was awesome and he has a brother who's a monster and the bastard swells now i'll be married to either one of them and anybody else that doesn't have israel not a hall not a so they're all good to each other and they're all go to the to the album remember this was a grandmother one's own grandmother your father's mother your father your is muther to you you let him marry your own grandmother midday raisa but she's a schneer only mr rabbanu you know how to marry your own grandmother so schneider labal here's a yeah right here what happens is you have a couple that has a daughter and then the plumber from muncie marries her and he also has another wife they both each wife has a child so the two brothers the baldwin brothers are brothers because they shared the same father the plumber but they have different mothers goes ruvain the baldwin brother on the right rueva and he goes and he marries his own grandmother levy is allowed to marry rubin's grandmother it's not his grandmother it's his brother's grandmother so here you have a case where if ruvain goes bye-bye his rubin's wife which is his grandmother falsely boom too lazy she is us here you have a case where she's also to the to the husband and muthur to the brother what if it's the reverse let's say levy married her just reversed the arrows they didn't want to do a new picture but it's obvious the same case but instead of ruling marrying ruling's grandmother levy marries rubin's grandmother that's 100 legal the problem is that when lady goes bye-bye then levy's wife falls to ruvain and that happens to be ruvain's grandmother and she's a schneer schneiderlin is this confusing it's so simple but people are like this you bum isn't the grandmother it's nothing simple everybody has a grandmother just picture it you don't even need to charge for this schneiderlin she's both of theirs grandmothers great she's also the both now vishnia this grandmother that you see over here if reuven goes ahead and marries his grandmother ayla likes suba what does ksuba mean so it doesn't literally mean tsuba it means remember nick says embarrassment so do i understand it i'm sure others will tell me that uh other is showing them say differently or whatever but the way it seems like from rashi that if a woman brings in a nursing home into the marriage and she puts it in the tsuba as some embarrassing it's gonna be solid like metal meaning that today the value of the nursing home is 10 million dollars when she gets divorced the husband gives her 10 million dollars even though it's 45 years later and the husband benefited every year he got a 2 million dollar paycheck he gives her the 10 million dollars the nursing home is worth a hundred million dollars today it doesn't matter gives her 10 million dollars in this case it seems like you could argue that that's not exactly the shot well let's just lusar saw eisen i think this is the shot he takes the nursing home we penalize her you should not marry a grandson what are you doing marrying grandson she'll go back and she'll crochet and she'll tell people do not marry a grandson it's not a good idea because if you do you're going to lose your nursing home veloy pay peris eloy paris means we know that a husband in in mixing below so not in some basil mixing blood again it's smack we're learning all these you say this musa if she comes into the marriage saying i don't want to accrise but the husband gets to benefit from the nursing home he takes all the proceeds why as we learned because if she gets captured and was a common thing like in mexico today get captured all the time he has to pay big time to redeem her so if in return he gets the proceeds of the nursing home but this woman rashi says it says in the tsubo is into i'm gonna redeem you i'm gonna what's the word not redeemed what's a better word no when you pay ransom no but when he ransoms her whatever when he pays ransom she's gonna come back to him it says but she can't come back then because she's his grandmother so because you don't have that part of the ksubo readily available so mellow she loses her pay rise there's no pay rise that's he so what she's saying is for carrick typically the reason why you do get paris is because he has to pay ransom in this case he doesn't pay ransom because she's not coming back to him nevertheless he still gets the pay raise unbelievable i'm still thinking about this unbelievable this thing it's unbelievable it's not normal okay hold it seth for a little bit over here yeah okay okay now you're a guest says missouri's means even if he went out of town and she had to borrow to live he doesn't have to pay her back rashi says you never have to pay back if he goes out of town and somebody provides zionist no but if she borrows then you do have to pay back if somebody was nice turns just paid gave her to stay in there a beautiful meister but i really like this myself because there was a very stingy guy known stingy guy in the neighborhood who died and the rob made every effort to come to the funeral and they asked him why who cares about this guy he says no i know of three stories about this guy and he said who was it but this i wasn't sure i know about this guy what happened there was someone who wanted to go out of town for months and of course his wife didn't let him so he said don't worry about it i spoke to the to the gevier he said he'll take care of you give you every week to ruble she said okay if you said so fine so he leaves on his journey she comes to the giver she knocks on the door she said my husband said that you're going to take care of me support me oh he thought about it he realized that the guy lied to his own wife he didn't say a word says ah oh yeah taka this stingy guy that everybody thought was stingy peter the mazaya she paid her gave her all the money the guy comes back after a year and he sees his wife is living nicely she says what happened she says you told me to go to the guy i went to the guy ah he goes running to the giver he says i can't believe that you did i made some good money and hustlers i want to pay you back so the year said no i'm there's a kind of mitzvah i don't want to take away my mitzvah so they went to the toro and so the division said such a guy you go you go to levi you have to go to the valley no but the bottom line is nobody first of all mikhail you never know what the other guy is giving i don't know if i mentioned this over here because it just happened recently i feel like i did mention if i did stop me a guy in this neighbor a very famous askan he just a few i don't know maybe a month two months ago he's telling me he has big tightness on one of the most famous ballads dukkha in the world he says i went to him for my moisture he didn't give me anything he's the stingiest kargis guy in the world and it's known that he doesn't give anywhere i was i was taken aback because this this veers like he's unbelievable so i told him so like we're talking a few minutes and i said you know let me ask you something how much money did i at least the fantasy give this week on this block so you know he wanted to be nice he says probably a lot no i said but how much like how many ammonites and this how do you like how much i don't know i said you don't know how much i gave and i live on your block i see you every day we schmooze all the time and you know what that guy over there in hutzlarz gives you have no clue what do you what are you going into this guy's bank account and saying what you did it's a hot spot but anyways it's fine people love to do it and they start counting i was talking again you have no idea fine next the liberalize i didn't give anything that week i'm just saying he didn't know the label lies now if she comes in again with clothing again it's embarrassing clothing call it and they wore out so over here is where rashi says she doesn't get it at all he takes it all he takes her coats and everything i think it also applies to the nursing homes and everything else if you want to say it doesn't apply to the whole nursing home it just applies to the to the money made off it's also good it's a it's a penalty it's no but in order to be a penalty it has to be that she doesn't get something back okay legally means the whole nursing home va vlad if you marry believe it or not unbelievable i mean the whole story is meshuggah at the beginning guy marries his own grandmother the child is kosher he can marry a cayenne she kamerik who had to perform kalitsa she was ibam ali khan hadith israel remember the nasinem we just learned it that saw that they're not they don't have rachmanin by shanim they wanted to kill seven of they killed seven of shaw's children they hung them that's why they're awesome forever lisa bassist rolando yes they get exuber says the gemara wow we gotta move there my irie the tony nassau so the first case in the mishnah muteres la balo in astralia we want to say a case where the the woman is muted to marry her own husband but when she falls the ibum she's also through the avarm so it says that a client had it marries in almana mayuri nasa why do you have to say married listening kiddish it's enough to say that there is arisen you won't have to go all the way says so you're going to tell me because if there's already a marriage so this we already had look at this passage it says there's also allah it's and i say it's two things but that's only if he's married married to her and she's not absul anymore but if they only did ever since and now you only have the first part of the puzzle you only have a voice assay and over here you have the mitzvah boom the aveira of an almana all the way at the end right in the third i pointed it out it says almost becomes wide so it says since we're just mimicking strenuous imagine to memorize such a mishna it's very hard to memorize a long muslim so let's use the same kind of language here and there avocados uh so in that case [Music] wait a minute you're going all the way to the third category we're holding the first category so use a language that's similar to the middle category over there it says that if he's makadish not over there he couldn't we knew this answer all along we just wanted to figure it out ourselves the next line the neighbor says over there the hollow marries and consummates the marriage time then also it has to be real nish if he just gave a ring that's why we're just talking about language now why does it say the language nasa because it's similar to holla it says why does it say that he married an almana it should just say he married a regular woman and when he dies guess what happens then she becomes an almighty sponsor by my show horn in honor of the gold star monty donuts doesn't exist but maybe i would say that as they get engaged that's how she falls leave them in other words whatever status was at that point that's how she falls leave him so since she was muthur then so she's mother even though later on she becomes an almond or whatever she says but that can't be harehole but she's kosher at that moment that he married her when he when he got engaged her she was cautious no but he renders her halal later on so we go what happened with later on we don't care about what happened the first moment so that let's just have a minute he says the reason why we say that she's an almana we don't say that she's just he married a regular because of the safer they could buy them is again language in the end of the mission it talks about and she became basically as a brother okay now we know why it says it's just mimicking again just to that the mission should flow a little bit better easier to remember masquerade papa i looked it up there's about 50 times in shaas it says mascara pop i have to look other ones so i remember like mascara papa seems very familiar misery cheney music okay check out this chart very very simple we know that a mitsuri in the third generation becomes muther like that guy with the peas he's actually a third generation mystery but he's a regular jew so the guy in the middle he is a mystery he has two wives one is a first generation one is the second generation it always goes by the mother so if mistress on the right one has a baby what does that baby become a two if the one on the left mitrus number a second generation mistress gets has a baby he becomes a third generation and he becomes 100 mother so let's just think about this aloud what happens if now we go to the second generation two marries a two so and then he dies so who falls lee bum a two a two f a two four's leave him to the three again let's go to the the children on the bottom there's a two and a three you see they're next to each other if number two second generation guy marries who he's supposed to marry he's only allowed to marry a one and a two he can't marry a three he can't marry a jew so he marries a two and then he dies so his wife a two falls leave him to a three is that a good yibum no because he's a jew he can't he can't be miaber and the three who dies after he married a regular jew his wife cannot fully eboom to the two what if they reverse it what if a two marries a three and a three marries a two in other words they did something that's illegal yeah but because the guillotine the gay room the gate just they can't come in the car so let's see the thing it's very very simple two three three two one one okay you got it okay great it means a lot of us you're gonna miss richini a two shin awesome mistress resha no but now shiny why we always go by the mother so if he marries a one then the baby's a two even though he's a two the baby should maybe be a three no we go by the mother says agamar asked the kimbard question so let's say a case of listening nami mystery chain he should not this case right over here uh a two mitsuri married two wives one is a one vacation and one is it two live he had kids from both if these children married who they were supposed to marry then mutaris la valeem the let's say let's take grab the two he married a two-minute wrist a woman mistress he's allowed to marry her but when she falls leave a master's leave me she's also to the jewish guy the ipo vanosso what if the three married a mitsurus which he shouldn't have because he's a pure jew mutaris leave mayhem the two is allowed to marry the two mitsuri but she's oscar to her own husband mutters what if both of them marry guilleres islanders only in a case where the number two listen to this carefully if the number two marries the islands now number three number two marries the islanders so she's allowed to marry him but um asuras layla layla islanders she's not a mary islanders why because she's jewish so two cannot marry jewish islanders and when the number two mystery dies she falls to number three and you can't be miyaba ma islandest there's no ibm on eyeliners so also to both says gemara the famous teres ton of ishir okay you're right it's a great case but the mission didn't mention all the cases but when everything amara says that answer it's only when we are meshier another case what's that other case maishir the shir shir patua dhaka real quickly on the the chart if a young marries up a two if the other himself is a patua dhaka then that she the the the wife that fell to ebon cannot be married because he's a petsu daca if the husband is a tsuodaka then she's not going to be married to the husband so here you have a case where she's not going to be married either through the album or she's not allowed to be married to the husband but if both brothers up to a daca she's also the both of them now if both of them are tua dhaka and she happens to be a guilleress then she's muted to both of them says the gemara shir petsuodako is no that's not a good one that's not a good example of leaving out the autonomy because that's so that is just a regular lab and the whole mission is talking about the whole thing so therefore why don't we add mystery we're still there at the question why don't we add a mentoring wait a minute the mission starts off with one case of goes to another one a woman who is a cayenne comes from a client she doesn't have an issue to marry akal vaha kutani so therefore so we could have we could have written up to dhaka and a mistress so what what exactly was it says nahi dash meaning because these all these cases are talking about kehanam these are this is not a love that's equal to everybody and therefore i have to continue on and say another question allah allah called then i tell you also a mom sir so different love him here says gemara haktani but there's another case okay so fine you told me a mamzar and that's a love that's equal by everybody one of these you have to take out but the bottom line is the mission says two cases of a monster why do you need two at the end of the day we do have the extra case of sudaka and therefore that's why i also admitted the case of the mystery i guess we have to stop here have a wonderful day remember it's unbelievable it's already it's like [Music] you