Daf Yomi Yevamos Daf 5 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Applause] wow it's really really overwhelming welcome everyone right now is the sheer I'll give a little bit I'll say a couple of words not too many later on in the hall we expect a number of speeches very short speeches about 3 minutes of speech and I'll give mine as well just a few years ago we were in a very small room we did a see on aara eight people 10 people three and a half years ago and this is what it is today it's unbelievable it's overwhelming so thank you for joining us as everybody got situated I asked on Friday how many people know what a s SAR is and only like 50% of the people in the room raised their um their hand I think the other 50 might have been embarrassed but because they didn't raise their hand I just want to go through a little bit of a demonstration here to make sure that everybody understands it so that we can move on in the sug so behind me we have have Ru shim Le and yehud Ru shim Ley and Yuda Ruben is married to the burka lady and to the USI lady he's married to two women I wanted to ask him to come up here but it's really not enough room we're going to do this whole thing but we're jammed in here it happens to be that the Yi lady is shim's daughter so I'm going to take this and put this on the Yami lady a little picture of shim here this is why she's user to shim if ruin goes kaput these two [Music] women to shim but since shim cannot marry or this lady so her SAR this lady right over here is at SAR she's a co-wife and I'm going to put co-wife on her she becomes a sar to in the picture thei lady co-wife but there are more Brothers there's Ley and there's Yehuda by the way ruim and Le Yehuda have a resemblance in the room right now ah unbelievable so Ley Dr Ley decides to marry the best one in the house the burka lady we'll take her goes like this okay now we're over here Ley marries bur I hope lady's wife isn't care Ley happens to be married to the 5wn woman as well there she is she's hiding five town since they're both married to the same man to Ley oops so this F Town lady becomes let's see where it is here we go this 5B lady becomes what SAS s here we go she becomes AER to shim talking about shim over here as you can see burka lady she becomes user because of burka lady who is AER because of Yi lady she is the co-wife of the co-wife this burka lady is the co-wife of the Yami lady who's a daughter of sh now that they're married together to the same man Ley so the five Town woman becomes AER to shim because she is the co-wife of the co-wife now she's the co-wife with burka lady who used to be the co-wife with thei lady that is the whole Su now we could start where we are in midddle of the we got to make it quick before my father arrives and he starts giving me [Music] arus yeah sponsors I don't know if you can hear me how many people in the room know what a SAS s is y s s i don't hear myself okay [Music] this month's Klo sponsor Mr Anonymous they don't hear you stole my hair what's up with that you killed my husband who are these guys who let them in I don't want to marry that person all [Applause] [Music] right the K sponsor of the month is Mr anous the last day [Applause] memory of my dear friend and by the families Lakewood as for our families memory ofo by D Steiner in honor of his wife B on the 20th wedding anniversary Gish you should ask those guys not to play the music over there the wind is blowing and it bothers me family [Applause] the Great and the great Hill and we're have amazing da now today's da is da it's good thing I left two charts at home we going have to do without them [Music] so we have to hold a little bit cup because I don't have the chart and it goes something like this how's the video it's right in my face I don't think so not going to happen okay yeah thank you say not to forget and that is if we have a y to him and she happens to be his wife's sister she's one of theas does anybody have a that should be his own daughter his sister-in-law why do we need a special that is the for the next four five says I I would think you see by that you could do with which is wool and we're wearing linen and wool together so I would think they could be you cannot be but the gamar went through a whole process on Friday it's because we have an extra word we know according to AED means so the words are extra have extra that what since we have those extra words and the of and are together therefore I see the concept of confused already all right somebody go home and print my thing which I worked on right before coming up again we have the idea of in and therefore I think that would apply also to but that's only according to because there an extra word because every time says it means automatically but according to doesn't mean automatically so the words are not extra according to them how do we know it top of that everybody have a piece of paper AAR [Music] we got to move oh you know what I'm making it up I do have a chart here we goord to the word beg is extra not beg I mean so it teaches us that which are but according to that is not extra because beg does not mean always the has to tell me so we don't have any we don't have an extra word that's today what's the extra word to teach us the idea of the goes through one word another word then thear goes through the words by and finally we come up with SH the word chatas is extra okay that's today's so says the it says if the already tells us look at this chart if you could see it is there a TV that shows it anybody see it what does it say including his eyebrows including his head everything second later it says es his head why that's extra okay so we have extra word now is it AER to shave one's head completely it might be Accord to ACC to another it typically is but only if you do part of your head just by the pay it's not your whole says even shave his whole head he holds it is AER for a regular human being to shave off everything on his head therefore it's also for the MIT and the fact that t says MIT a guy that has SAS he has afflictions of skin on his body the final process before he becomes tar is to shave his entire head which is what and it pushes off the Mitzvah with the Torah says that you're to to shave your head so what do you see the positive commandment the Mitzvah of shaving your head as a pushes off the a of and that teaches us for the rest of the T if I have a positive Mitzvah I have a Mitzvah like your sister-in-law even though she's your wife's sister even though crazy she's your daughter you don't do that that's why I need a special word going back to the original question why in the world I need a I'll tell you why because typically in the you would push off a big a to do a you know what just we're here let me just say for two seconds what are this shaving a lot of guys it's stylish to shave your whole head the r pasin it's 5 12 MIM which is a number two on your haircut machine or a number five on a trimmer so you have to have at least five and a half millimeters of hair in order not to be over that's why it's very important to realize here inel they have in barber shops why because not all The Barbers know you can't go with a z z right by the ear and cut around that could be the spart I believe hold I know that all you need is 40 he which is a very interesting Bas the ra years and the spum are much less ma but they say I think three and a half millimeters three and a half if your spy five and a half if you're ashkanazi okay V so we're going to take that word remember I said we're gonna go back to and finally women could shave their heads they have no problem there's no B in fact I saw brought down if there's somebody let's say a sick person going through chemo whatever needs a haircut is probably better for the woman to shave him that's what they're saying because she's not in the of herself is only by men but of course is a partnership between a man and a woman so the woman is also therefore I cannot learn out from so now I have it's not a love that is equal by men and women but now we're going to say well even though even that's the case the beard by it says you shouldn't shave your beard maybe he shouldn't shave his beard during the process of it's very embarrassing imagine you have a beard your whole life some of these they come in I had a I'm not going to mention his name a great guy in my house he has a small little beard y see clim and right before shab I saw literally gets to comes to his belt he rolls it up so the whole his whole life is working on it then becomes a part of the process shave shave shave you come out he must shave his beard so you see the idea of should also have that but what about we already have a source of it's only by men so we already said that so we learn that's the famous concept if there's no over here let's use the here and put it somewhere else by to teach us his sister-in-law even though she happens to be his wife's sister how can I learn from there gives Morez and therefore what so remains and how do I know that you say just as a side point brings down that why do they have more mitz than well because have more MIT is they have more obligations more they do more stuff in the so go hand in hand pays them back so to speak they have more MIT they get more they get more gifts more stuff it's a lesson for us he says says that the more a person is to have things in this world you have a nice car you have a nice family you have a house you're not in Ukraine right now running for your life you owe that much more each has to look at itself and say look what I have based on what I have I have to work more I have to do more the he gets more than us he has to do more mitzvas so we have to apply that to our life also how lucky we are and therefore how much more we have to do for our please quiet down back everybody in the that's Gary by the way he's not in the booth but he's on the mic we're going to get a buzzer pretty soon I [Music] guess wow you should come here for a second I don't know if you can get here you got to take the sin it's unbelievable could somebody take a shot from there you e how you doing okay says okay so you can't bring a r from says they have extra so even even though it's a laugh only men are not to shave their beard now women I'm not going to make any jokes like that I once tried it and I got 17 emails I I'm a woman and I have a beard why' you make fun of me okay it's interesting I just want to point out real quickly we're in a rush but says an amazing thing he says he says like a few lines before says listen to this the way the work have Beauty to them and the of is better than all why the a man is separated from his wife and doesn't want that through his he becomes to his wife says and that's why the Mitzvah we're going to do all sorts of things to make it happen for him says remember we had for a Tana that says that shaving your entire head is AER this T says shaving your entire head is not AER what's AER is I actually printed it somebody wants to see these are the bones it goes from here to here to here this you must leave this you can't shave this but this T of holds that if you shave even this you're not over if you shave everything off you're not over the only time you according to T is he shave justce but if a guy is completely shaved he's not not okay so go like this to shave your so if a person is a he decided to refrain from drinking wine and as he's not drinking wine and not doing the things that doesn't do he became a sorry so I think that in the process of Hisar he should not shave he's a cannot cut his hair but in the process of he must shave we have a problem here what should he do we have a dilemma on the one hand raai in the back over there if you're part of the shear you must listen to The Shear if you're not part of the shear what are you doing here this is only for people in the shear and I don't hear the women speaking I only hear the guys all [Applause] [Music] right again so it says that this happens to be should shave his head what do we see and therefore by also he should marry his sister his who's his wife's sister going back to that also he's so weak the reason why we push off his this whole thing we don't care about him is because if he goes and ask a r to let him out of the whole thing it'll be retroactively it's okay and I'll prove to you that we say this [Music] is stronger than two things let's learn now from here that it's stronger why because another has two and I say and say and we say push it off with the one I say so you see an I say pushes off the reason is like we just said a second ago because you could undo it you could you go to the rub and the rub say you're not a nozer anymore and therefore he shaves so what we really have here we have a guy that's a mat and azer and I'm telling you shave your head even though you're nozer you know why because you're really really weak you're weak you're your whole neros could fly out like that all you need to go is go to the rabbi he'll get rid of it for you so such a neros we don't care about or say mama so first of all sponsored by m horn in honor of sugar the original sugar Shaker sponsored byki was here in the audience sh in honor of Brian and Talia Edgar says thear we're going to go back to what we started off the whole Shear with we're going to learn now from tius tius you can put in your tius which is wool even though the bot is linen so you see the idea of but what's the problem you told me but there's no extra word you need an extra word in sit in order to learn the that chates and C are together as you recall we need an extra word what's the extra word we just worked hard what's the extra word is it I'll tell you what that true word is the word is extra let's try that first that's the extra word learned the whole thing says it's not true it's not extro teach me how many strings go in your ti what does deal mean it means to weave it together you can't twine it together if you don't have two you can't take one string and how you going to do it Twining means you take two strings and go together right like this you take this and you go together with [Music] this so you need two that's but the says so two times twoim is plural two times two how many strings do we have now four what do you do with the four strings say take the four strings put them into the hole of the tias and now you have eight so first of all two things you ever wonder how come there's a lot of knots on top of your titas and then you have a lot of strings hanging out what's going on here that's here right now there's two things going on this that means make all your knots but there's also you got to make sure that there's some strings that are dangling you can't just make kn through and through now let's see Rashi inside for a second Rashi says try to see if you see in Rashi a question what's Rashi trying to avoid here take these four strings make one what's rashy trying to avoid rash is trying to avoid question tus asks maybe the to is telling us take four strings take each individual string and make a knot on the corner of the ban take another string another KN how do you know you do it all together that's what rash is trying to avoid and Rashi says because it says a of you're supposed to make one knot out of all the strings okay next [Music] M again we said maybe the extra word is it's not extra it comes to teach us how many strings you need now I have a new extra word is the extra word and again let's just review because why not if we have extra word that will allow us to take theim how you doing take the T of shat and TI and put them together and say I could make out of sh which means which means that that should apply also by you should be able to be your own daughter that you cannot do it that word is not extra that if I take how do I make sh I need two let's see if I can find it here somewhere here we go when I'm sewing shatas together I need two in and out you see like this picture I don't know if you can see in is one out and in is the second one that's how I'm over that's why my suit that had threads in it touching threads is that's not considered connecting unless it's or something okay let's try again in what's the extra word if I want to tell you do not put two products together and P them so that's the way to say it don't put those sh what's this word sh it's extra it's extra and therefore if it's extra then the go together and I learn say the same but I can't do that's why I have it's not extra the word sh is a is a r it has to be smooth it should be spun and then woven together those three things Rashi is of the opinion that you need those three things in order to be over you can't take a ready made SE string and already made P string and put them togethering to you have to make it from the factory in one according to they argue with him but the word CH is not extra says Gulu what does that mean means if the to indeed wanted to tell me this idea that you have to do CL so the to would have said the word clim clim means together then I don't need uh the word CH the reason the T used the funny word ches that gives us one extra Li mod so I'm learning from the word CH two things and the idea of it should have said so again said why say it like interesting shat and if I wanted to tell you so what's this sh use the word CL the fact that didn't say CL didn't say use the funny word sh teaches us two things and I have extra word and that's where the is going to State now that the extra word by TI that I learned that you could combine SE P together hold on where's my phone one second I got it hold on this is too much for me hold [Applause] on yeah hold on we gonna take a panoramic selfie yeah what are you guys doing okay what's the big deal he took a little wool he put a little T he's not over he's not gonna get cars for it we want to make we want to compare to that you should have relations with your wife sister it doesn't go why would I think such a thing I need a special word to say that it's aw if a person has before on shabas so you see that theay of pushes off the the big a of shab if you cut somebody like that typically then who knows what you can't learn anything from is very special you could look in your there's a lot of things there that he talks about different things you can't learn from me so just remember first thing we try to learn from is we're going to learn we're going to try three things that you're on shabas even though taking the life of the animal is also typical in shabas you know why if you don't bring the so that's why if you're not you don't get how why would you even think that it's m to be your own daughter or your wife's sister say I learn it from carbon that what carbon T pushes off shabas I bring a car every single day of the week so perhaps you see even even though typically it's car so also with one of the that's says you hear this unbelievable we're here at the of the of I said over this medish and when we hired Charlie Harari he said it over from Shas everybody knows this but because of the coincidence there's no coincidence in life I have to say it over again and all for all the new guys and that is there's the bait between the tan and I don't remember the names if you want to encapsulate the whole t to what what would the be one t came along and said you have it what you going to say it wow then says I just take away your speech so that makes a lot of sense bana says okay when was teaching the stand on one foot the whole comes along and he says the last POS in the world that anybody would think of which by the way is par which we discussed already if somebody is not going to say herbus every day which you should at least you say very very important what is going on and the is that one of the biggest in you hear kids guys the biggest and that's the of that is the consistency of The Da the consistency of Tom that's what he was trying to say says been they were all agreed with him that he had the best possible the best possible there's nothing like learning T every single day of your life which there's hardly a program in the world that has that there's okay but most other programs don't have that consistency of learning and that's what we are celebrating today that we went from the beginning of sh and even before that every single day now there not a lot of shum like that you should know not to brag but a lot of sh when it comes y they'll do two before and they'll make up later every single day there was a Shear in mdy throughout sukus R there was a Shear in the morning on the day that unbelievable [Applause] coincidence to the point where the gar understands that it should push off shabas it's understood that it pushes off shabas she can't there something that's so consistent pushes off shabas sayar very simple so now we have three what do we have mil p and t how many combinations can you make out of three three you could do if you want to do two out of three you do PES with mil mil and T and in P that's it those are the three three combinations or a fourth one all of them together says the let's so let's do a combo you said you can't learn how to PES because you have a great reason you can't learn how to t you great reason okay but what what if you put them both of them together says [Music] let's learn from two out of three okay give me two let's start with those two both of them have you can't learn let's say something else it's a car okay so for we're gonna push off what about they were before is after it came in the we have to go according to that says that the is midbar was a t therefore T existed before M what about all three together okay so we can't learn from three from all three because all three were before why again why do I need the word why would I have a half a minute that you could be one of the think you hear this I think I would learn I think you should learn from I would have that maybe if your father tells you the MIT pushes off even in in a situation of he tells you go you didn't get you should pushes it off you're not going to get cars in that case because you listen to father and the T says what's the next word in other words even your father and mother have to listen to me all of you are going to listen to me and if your father mother tell you not to listen to me and so the Torah says in this situation do not listen but the rest of the like you should be performing even though it consists we're not talking about that the father told you to do something that gets cus we're talking about your father told you to do a that doesn't have take the animal go this way the only time you car chabas is if you do a very with your own body but if you do a very with with your animal say every right that is but without carus RAB I saw a beautiful beautiful Marshall everybody in the back we're done with the shear basically I just want to tell you a musle that has to do with today's da and today's event you hear this guys in the back that are talking you hear listen to this they don't want to be M who's the guy by theim that's taking Sushi he has pis and a beard and he's not facing us who's that guy I don't want him but him turn around forget the sushi listen to this part huh okay we're finishing this is it says a beautiful Marshall that has to do with this Sugi right now and it has to do with tonight said says that there were three friends that went to study in a far away place and they came back with three unbelievable the first one Ru he learned how to use a certain device let's call it and he's able to see different things throughout the world his friend was able to transport himself within milliseconds to any place on Earth and the third guy Ley he learned how to heal any person in the world any disease and they sitting in shmooing and Ruan says you know I see in some far out country in Africa I see the daughter of the king is dying right now so shim says you know I could bring us there within a second let's go Ley here has the antidote he could heal her heal her they get into shimon's car and it flies up it lands right by the palace they knock on the door they say we're here to save your daughter we have this guy the guy takes out a special potion Ley he gives it to the daughter and the daughter jumps out of bed she starts walking around and dancing the king can't believe it the king says I have such a there's nothing I can give to you wh some money what are I going to give to you I'll tell you what here's my daughter any one of you three can marry my daughter H the daughter of the king they start fighting they go to the side a huddle the guy says ruin says it's me without me you wouldn't even know that this whole situation existed I saw it says Ley without me she wouldn't be healed what are you talking about out says shim I don't care about the two of you it's like watching on a TV screen she would be dead by the time we even got into the taxi I got you there they're fighting fighting and the daughter hears this and she says you're right all of you are right you all got here and brought me here you all came here you all saw it and you healed me but Tas who do I need to marry right now I need the guy with the potion because I'm sick tomorrow I need it again so it doesn't help me that you have this car that travels from here to there and that this guy could see this I need a potion guy I want to marry the potion guy says the says a person is created through three Partners his father his mother and come the father and mother and they say oh without us this kid is nothing he wouldn't be here if I wasn't pregnant for nine months and went through all the labor and everything the father says his thing [Music] whatever you know what I went through through that labor through that thing okay fine says okay you know thear says it the know talking about your old Partners fine but from here on out who do you need they're orphans they survive there other people thinking of them but if you don't have to re for one second of your life you're dead on the spot on the spot if you can't breathe you're dead if your heart stops beating for a second you're dead if you don't have electric going through your brain dead so from here on out you need the and that's why if a father or mother tell you yeah very good you owe them every second of the day I was thinking when I heard this m how appropriate it is for today for right now one might say you know Ellie's Kusa is Reby without him ell would say half the time and he wouldn't have good jokes whatever okay good and without Gary in the booth you wouldn't have video you wouldn't have anything and without y your videos wouldn't be edited like that you wouldn't have that experience without Abi kamansi we wouldn't have anything we would have finances garish without Noam without Seltzer without Miranda cash without y kin without Nal Gans we would be at a thousand people now we're at 10 12,000 people without Al stansky oh he giv such a great cheer for a boyai every single person in this room including myself including my kuso we're all Partners in this unbelievable puzzle called mdy now one person can take credit and say oh it's me without me it's this We're All in This Together We all bring something to the table every single person I see Rafal the barber smiling over there 163 people he brought to this year so remember that but what's the antidote very good we got here to this place the death the death is going to continue and it's going to bring us and it's going to lead us Tyra is going to take us and save us and change our lives even more you think your lives are changed it's going to change even more that consistency the T the Tyra the daily learning the shaft that we have here the camaraderie that's going to take us V inv everybody now we'll see you in the great room over there look how beautiful it is e