Daf Yomi Yevamos Daf 34 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] we're back in chicago live in that solar building and i before i started to share i just want to put this out there for the parents there if there are any children watching today's sheer happens to have a little bit of an adult theme at the end so take it as it is it's torah but i just wanted to throw that out there i want to read a couple of emails here the first one is by judas thing s-t-e-n-g-e i don't know how to pronounce it exactly first of all thank you for your amazing showroom you give every day even now on vacation it's not always easy really appreciate it i was very excited to see that the sheer is now in the chicago at solid building which was dedicated in honor of my grandparents nathan and leia avery being there thanks again rbs in the picture me by the building in summer 2021 here he is by the building and then i received many many of these so i just want to read one and say thank you to everybody for sending in their emails mazel tov your new granddaughter much nakas from her love your sheer mickey mickey above her name is rifka bayla and they're going to be calling her rayleigh rifka bailey rayleigh and finally this one is toronto canada it's complete quieter right thank you thank you so much for your amazing share joining with the evolution you make so interesting and clear sense of humor and energy i want to share with you an amazing brought this i'm a teacher here in toronto yesterday i was learning with my class parish doshin we're discussing the mitzvah you see the mitchell and rashi that the third is referring to giving bad advice like when your friend is in a tough spot don't sell them your donkey in exchange for your field because cars always appreciated value and property always goes up in value what's frozen zoom is frozen okay there's nothing i can do maybe they should all go to youtube [Music] it's not frozen here in chicago later yesterday evening i'm preparing a powershell worksheet for my class literally clearly dilemma for them to discuss i take a break to listen to your share and seem out of nowhere sorry tell the story of the guy who wants to sell you the apartments for 16 000 because he tells you property always goes down in value i cannot believe it it's exactly what i was discussing with my students earlier that day your story is my dilemma for them to discuss do you have an obligation to tell the guys making a mistake can i ask you how do you explain to them that what you did was permitted minatora what about if naive i'm thinking the terrorist supports capital markets of naive is to make sure jews don't get ripped off like not charging interest curious though what you would answer my students thanks so much shmuley soroka toronto canada all right ask a local rov i have no idea what you're talking about but okay this is a yehudi asked me for a price he named the price on his property and i agree to the price why is elephant either i don't understand his dilemma exactly he's saying that if somebody's in a bad tight spot and they're selling off something because he's in a bad position i hear that's the evil but the guy was not a the guy was free to do whatever he wanted free to charge whatever he wants and he decided that's the value of his property i don't know that there's an issue ask your local rabbi with that being said ra boise we have youtube [Music] all right boys i here we are a little bit of a delay tonight's sponsors or today's sponsors paris heidis for the kylo is mr anonymous joseph hill ben sardina families like new jersey because toy is the best gula paris [Music] and sponsored from in honor of my marriage tonight to dvorah cohen what's that not tonight monster shabbos sunday mazel tov to the entire coin clan again josh itzkowitz in honor of my marriage tonight to dvorakkoen unbelievable nicholas here we go hopefully how's it going mark all right still we have low systems low resources and this has to be browse by individual thing okay that's maybe part of the problem okay so here we are daphna dalla ramadan from the top yesterday we had this very interesting story in the mishnah i'm going to see was it a true story not such a true story but what happened was we had two brothers who married two sisters and there was a situation where the brides got confused and the brothers were over on four different insurance all in one shot so we have it over here if you look at the screen so we have ruvain got married yamari to rocho and as soon as he marries rocco what happens to rahul rahul becomes an asian sis comes in and at the same time she also becomes an asia so yehuda cannot marry rahul for two reasons a she's a asia's ish and she's also an asian you go to the next slide then yehuda gets married to her sister leia at that point once yehuda gets married to to leia so rocco has another issa called now that rabbi say if you look in the bottom of the screen it tells you that that's called the isr kylo why because yehuda is already assertive there's no bigger issue in rahul nothing happened more to rahul rahul was oscar before because and uh there's another issue a general issue called it's be also because that israel of accession also applies to other women to the other sisters so it's israel there's other isurum going on here yehuda is now oscar because he married leia he's also now tabatya antioch and to rocco because of akhitisha in other words if you look at it in another way let's say reuben wasn't even married to rahul rahu would still be assert to yehudah because of akhai sisa so that's what that's what israel-kylo does it doesn't add any issue to it it's like eating navel onion kipper the novella is 100 oscar now you add your keeper to it you didn't do anything it's it's also teeth as food but if you would remove the nevela let's say you pretend that the navel is 100 closer it has the best extra in the world but happens to be it's yum kipper today so you can't eat it anyway so it says yum kipper answers all the food in the world similar to here answers all the sisters in the world of this woman including rahul so it's not adding any uh it's sir it's not an additional issue she didn't become more asur us let's say as we're going to see soon that sometimes you add to the aveira the veyra is small and you add to it you make it larger you make it more user more as urban that's is sir myself this is not this is israel kylo this is included in another issue called the choice yeah it's a little little uh a little tricky okay so in this case now we're holding a three serum he started off with asia and he added then what happened was rahul turned into anita turned into anida what is is that rabbi sai this is israel myself why because now and the husband exhausted her so she she's the object right she's like we're talking in terms of halacha now there's food that's awesome available she's rahul's oscar on all the brothers she was 100 mutual to ruben and today she became awesome to reuven so the isser in ruckle grew she was once oscar to 8 billion and a half people in the world because she's asian today she's also eight billion and a half plus one her own husband oh that's is her myself and that could be added to navero even if you hold anus or hallelujah even if you hold that you don't apply oneness on top of another answer but if the the second issue is larger and greater over here it's neither it's a bigger answer it applies great [Music] they happen together simultaneously that's how we start out the whole thing is if we discuss now that's the nida issue kylo we discussed is um [Music] so who's this i found the time yes it's possible a person takes a bite he swallows his food and by doing so he's over four isurim and one asham what's the case if a person whose tummy he eats a piece of kelev and it happens to be it's left over of a carbon you had to eat it in a certain amount of time you had to put it on the mizbernis in a lot of time and he didn't min [Music] if it happens to be shabbos and he's chewing this and he walks outside with it in his mouth that's carrying now if you're carrying in your mouth when it comes to shabbos we know if anybody learned the shabbos you have to do you have to put it down you can't just pick something up and carry it you're not over until you put it down so where do you put it down how do you put something down when it's in your mouth by swallowing it because it says you have to swallow it so when he swallowed it he was over and all these surum together he was eating katshim he was overnight and he's over i'm putting down the fits and which is to have him by swallowing it so now let's take a look real quickly at what's going on here the top line says that this animal has a piece of caleb a piece of fat that's also to eat right animals have herded the caleb was created when the animal was born so it was there and that was hulen it wasn't hectic yet it was created on the whatever was born when you go step down somebody went ahead and said that this animal's hekdish is part of the basamignas okay so now if you use it you're oivramila and if you're either army ila now he added that's the israel myself because until now the kelev was ushered to eat but now it became us so this piece i don't know if you saw the edit that yosef did on the friday video happened to see most of it i was holding this cup and he turned it into a steak and then he turned into a piece of pizza as i said chocolate cake and then the drugs okay fine i don't want him to do it again so i'm not going to say anything about chocolate cake he took this this this animal and he made it hagdish what did he just do he took this piece this object and he added issar to it until now it was motorbike you could take khalifa and make soap out of it and do whatever you can't eat it you can't consume it but once it becomes hectic you're not allowed to do anything with it so that's israel myself then this hagdish they checked the carbon they were supposed to eat it within a day and a half a day two days whatever it was and they let it go for three days it became nicer then it be so it became more awesome now even to the mizbayach what is that called myself once again it's israel myself i'm adding yes sir i cannot take this meat and put it on his bear so i added this then he became tommy this individual became kutamet so now he's asked her to all the kachin in the world what is that called it didn't add anything to this object it added more objects to him it's like more sisters that's called isercoilo now we're understanding a little bit more the difference between kylo and myself then it today happens to be yum kipper so all the food in the world is us sir what is that called so now he's adding to it and then it's also shabbos which you now carry it's a is it's simultaneously this is her fine and they told him they didn't like the fact that he said that you're carrying on shabbos um hashem we're talking about what um you're right but the vasa has they're saying those two happen together the oh you're saying the carrying on your kipper was a shabbos i hear we got to look into that taco azim kipper itself but because it's shabbos and you kipper that is the bazakas so they say but we're talking about israel we're talking about consuming food and you're talking about this or caring don't mix the two things up any minute shame we don't like that last one that you said fine but regardless even they hold that you could add all these surum together on one object says the emergency society thing very mayor eliminate these are very good suggestions now just as a as akudama what happens a very interesting case listen to this case it's amazing a guy wants to do a big mitzvah he grabs a baby on chavez and does a bris mila and as soon as the bristol meal is over they tell him what are you doing it's the wrong baby this baby's only seven days old the question is he tried to do a mitzvah and it turned into be a big average he you're not going to cause somebody to bleed on shabbos if you do you have to bring akatos by mistake obera is a pure it was a mistake it's an honest mistake he's a mild it's too baby he grabbed the wrong one yeah it happens all the time in surgery right have you ever been by surgery like that by the way that they cut the wrong limb they did surgery what happens all the time yeah happens all the time so this is a type of a surgery they didn't meet the wrong it's not you have to redo the whole thing it's nothing meal is zero you have to redo mila whatever you have to do the atop but he tried to do a mitzvah are you going to make him bring a carbon so it says is the talmud of who whose is rebbe ribakiva who's rabbi kiva's rebbe these two rabbishua and rebel ezra so e aliba derby must be going according to his verbalim these are like israel him because there is rebbe's rebbe mitzvah potter according to yeshua nothing happened he's potter so over here also why is it a mitzvah he tried to get married he's trying to perform a mitzvah and he took the wrong wife it's the same exact thing staying the wrong baby ella okay so it must be that he goes according to the other rebbe of rebecca or billy azer and he knows that even if you're toying with vermiculite it comes out that guy and his wife have to bring 16 animals to the basement because he was over and 40 surim and she was over 16 [Music] avairs so says [Music] this is moneyball he is in a big rush he wants to do shminole mila he only has one day to do it well hi kevin dates money ball what's this big rush to get married today tomorrow be careful make sure i understand that there are identical twins it's two brothers we're going to see in the gemara it has to be talking about that they're twins and he him and his brother are twins and everybody it's their birthday and as a matter of fact it's such a coincidence everything there but chill out take it easy make sure you don't grab the wrong one and if you don't you're not going to if you're not going to be very careful take the wrong one you have to bring your car button this non hi oh sorry kevin does moneyball says moneyball why are you telling me that has to do with being in a raj there's another case very similar case a person was doing a mitzvah he was eating truma for claiming truma it's a he could eat the tremor whenever he wants vikka potter and he's still potter from a car in this not says it happens a lot we had a few in cheers somebody scream out that he his best friend found out certain things like he was he was going through uh he became about truva and then he finds out oh by the way your mother's not jewish yeah so the guy picked himself up for maish ran away never came back so here this guy is eating trump somebody comes over by the way you're hollow your mother's divorced you didn't know your mother's divorce no i didn't know i thought i'm a mitzvah i'm telling you your mother's divorced i was there i saw it. she doesn't want to talk about it but it's a fact you're not allowed to eat truma but he thought he's become a mitzvah turns out it's an average does he have to bring a car but not realize you have to bring like like anybody else that eats truma you have to bring a fifth more rabbi schwab poiter but over here you're not forced in time nevertheless his imposter so why are you telling me that by bruce miller because he's forced he is he's in a big rush over here he's turmoil he's not a big rush and ruby still says he's potter city murad i think it's a tremendous coincidence everybody so here we are just a few days before ever pesach and the world talks about every pesach but it happens to be that there's a big surprise on erev pesach the daf maybe i should not tell anybody but the daf talks about mamesh pesach honorary peso we're going to see baser hashem so over here who's hinting to us hi saying hello to us i'm not talking about a regular guiding troop talking about a guy eating truma on erev pesach this mano bol now it happens to be look at this you have to guard safeguard the truman concept don't just toss it out don't throw it into the muhammad's pile with all your other comments and burn it pesach if you can you're supposed to eat it so therefore he's bold he's in uh he's in a he's in a big pretzel a press for time what's the lashon he's in he's pressed for time he needs to finish up the pizza the whole everything all the comments from the freezer that's truma it's all truma you're asking why he's still pressed for time he's president sarah pesa and there's apostle that says you have to safeguard the truman don't just throw it throw it out says gemara everybody say mob so we're talking about who's the tana who says that all these things you could add all these averages yeah i could add a sec who's saying it now i could say that it goes according to shimon shim is very hard to to rip shimon if you remember bias is the one that says okay sometimes you say is you're always only high of one but even according to shimon when it happens together simultaneously then no noah vera is greater than the other and is more important than the other you can't say oh this is going to work but and it's going to push off asian cities no it's just having the same moment so you have them both if you could get a choice in there as well on the same moment you have on all three of them and if she was a need at the same moment you have four of them because there's not one that could push off the other and even shimmer will agree to that [Music] so let's go back we did this riddle before but let's look at it again from this perspective when rouvain marries rahul on this chart what is rocco to yehuda what is sir also an ancient sis is she in the choice no no how's how how do you become a choice if yehuda marries the sister so how could it be silent so let's say yehuda marries leia first so she's a haitian but rahul is not in or or a nation's ish if yehuda married leia first so what's rachel only at she's not married yet to ruin she's not asian sis and she's not asian and if it was like this rouvey got married first so she is asia she is a choice but she is not a choice she is a sacrament but she is not acquisition so how do you have all three of them happen at the same exact second either rouvey married her or ryuda married his wife but how do you ever the only way to do it is through shleaf says the gemara that reuven and yehuda sent one shliya to be makadish two sisters and the two sisters sent one shliyak to receive the conducion from that one shliyak so when the one shliyaak put the money into that other snair's hand so both sisters became mukudashais at the same exact second but how did she become a need to that second how did both of them become a neither that exact second they became a need though but there is a trick says this is possible to become it's very unlikely okay this is very very likely this scenario that you have two sisters marrying two brothers and the and they got mixed up at tahasana that all makes a lot of sense but how in the world is it possible that they became a need of that second oh it is possible once we're going to succeed what happened was that the two men the twins it was their birthday that day 13 they just turned 13 that day and the two girls just became 12 that day and they were need the the day before let's say a little bit before so their nidos goes into when they become when they become dialyze they be as they become dialyzed they are neither on the millisecond that they become dialogues and in that millisecond that they become daily their conducion is how because when you're katana you can't receive the conduction you can't be you can't make it hold on a second it all happened at the moment that they became 12 years old and they became 13 years old boom it all happened in one second it's not that she became a neither then she was in neither two hours before she became 12 but her body remains tommy as she becomes a dialogue that millie second she becomes a dialogue yeah why don't you have to go back to work hold on girls being 12 and boys being 13 have it with godolos so it's and then it's the same issue isn't it why do we have to go back to oh it was the birthday and the and they now have now they've got simone but they're uh why bother because they're all good in many ways yeah but the to to receive how they become the res the receiving and everything had to happen at the same time as the need though how did that happen they're in need already and you're saying that simultaneously they could have been there right you're saying the boldness before if there were neither before then the whole world was ushered to them as a nida the day before so you wanted the whole that these boys they become also because as dolem to them and they because of them so that all has to happen as they become glorious and as they become dialogue okay she pointed before but it doesn't work until after yeah she becomes she only only takes effect when she becomes 12. and the same for the boys okay new sugar question one question yeah before ruffle has a baby about how many of theirs could one individual be over as he marries a woman it looks it's the same cartoons as ibum and the saint baldwin brothers but it's not did i tell you guys that uh one of the baldwin brothers shimon the baldwin guy he was in minneapolis i should show the picture a guy who comes over and says could i have a selfie with the ballman brother yeah okay next segue says the gemara mafia noise so it says in the mishnah that if you have this mistake it's a terrible mistake that happens the the two wives got got switched at marriage now they have to wait three months says a woman cannot become pregnant from being with her husband one time we're going to see that the reason is because they have pesulem and whatever that the shot is the suleim and the beard they can't you can't create a pregnancy through them there were two bs that night and from the second one you could become present [Music] whatever the shot is if there's an awareness in between the two beers and then there was they forgot they got mixed up again so now you had two beers two times sixteen thirty two so why did you say why did we say you're only high of 16 you should be high of 32. [Music] every movement within the beer is a new hero of every enjoyment movement you have so it's a million a thousand whatever it is so you have to say i'm not going to go into how many movements there were i'm just telling you for the first movement of 16. i'm only talking about the first you want to make a heisman the guy was with her twice 10 times okay so each time times 16 but i'm just telling you about the first time oh miley rebel or even ahmed deflamed on the bays sponsored i got the wrong page here bye moisture horn in honor of jolly joe krause and family and in honor of atkins burskie brian kenzeberski and harry miller for learning the daff says marvel tummerer babir richonne yabro we know that tomorrow wanted to be with yehuda why her two husbands erin oynon died and she wanted to have a legacy from yehuda so she did a one-time trick she stood in the street pretended she was a zainab and he was with her but only one time and then she got pregnant the gemara understands that even though she was married before she never had regular beer it was always chalet kidarko and it was an unnatural then this this thing remains that you that was with her once for you that was with her once and she became pregnant how's it possible here you see a spirit to what you say his past become pregnant from the first type of beerus tommer knew about this thing so what she did is she got rid of her suleim by herself shin episode and therefore it's possible to get pregnant you had all these women from rebbe's house in those days what happened was they would get married and the men would travel far away to yeshiva and learn for a long time we had in gemara a bunch of times they'd come home eribium kippur once a year so this these sitkani ice would send their husbands away but they wanted to perhaps get pregnant right away it's a sad thing to get pregnant have a child the husband wasn't even there for the bris so what what did they do they made sure they they weren't sullies so that the by the first beer they could they could get pregnant and they nicknamed them thomas because tamar invented this idea by yourself another question what are you telling me that tomorrow tomorrow was married to two men before she was with yuhuda so obviously she didn't have sulim obviously it's not her beer orisha what are you so concerned about says gamora irvine and shimsu like a dark on they never had regular bee was always shallow dark says dash maybe so we had a little bit of the sugiya on a few base about the three women that could be mishamish contraceptive so 20 we had over there about the first 24 months that the woman nurses her child 24 months in those days they didn't have formula so imagine if a baby didn't have formula and the baby can't nurse the baby goes bye-bye they would hire people as a whole thing so in order to prevent the woman from getting pregnant as we learned in that suggest that the pregnancy ruins the milk so what the gemara is suggesting here is that a person should be zera in other words before the act is finished he should be he should deserve should go outside not inside to impregnate the woman da say discussed it back then why you let it be matched with zera and this is you say why you let it be imagined sarah because it's if this baby his mother becomes pregnant the baby will die so i have to take it take action that the mother shouldn't become pregnant ask for moisture so don't be don't be with her if the baby's dying of course you have to do something but who told you to be with your wife so he says you see for me you saw it that when you behaved to be with your wife there's a mitzvah and everything else that's considered for tsar that's that's not allah and everything else that you have to do is part of it so what do you see from here uh so he so that my number says on the outside um what do you mean on the outside hallelujah to tell a man to do that then you're acting like aaron knighton and there nothing got punished by death for doing that for me master zera so what are you supposed to do so what like we learned in that segunda base do what you need to do and minister miami hashem will save you back upon him what's the most question you see from here that irvine ainan who didn't do shiloh kedarka was kiddarka and and then the the masters but it's regular beer says mark and myself i never like my servant so let's talk about the two brothers one brother says specifically in the title of the shikhee sartsa he was mashed because he destroyed a seed elo but what happened with air what do how do we know he did the same average sorry him also he's in the same category as his brother air afubai is amazed for the same reason he died lie with allah flow with above because he realized that it's not going to be named we're talking about this this is evil what happened heir dies without any children ain'an marries his sister-in-law because of ebon and then he realizes wait a minute it's not it's not it's not cool this kid that's going to be produced here is not going to be my child he's going to be named the whole purpose of eboom is the locking shame that the the dead brother should have a a a continuation remembrance i don't want that he says odin says i don't want it says moro he didn't want to impregnate her ello er my time but what's heirs reason why did air who's first married to tom or why did he do it so mario kadee she like this he didn't want her to become pregnant and that will diminish her beauty that's what it was and for that he was zera and for that he was killed ton okay let's take a look at this pausing for a second any time a man is with his wife they become tame this week partisan this week's parachute they have to go to the mikvah they become tommy go to the midfield now there's two things here the actual zera is has the ability to become people you touch it you become tummy but even without that just be alone makes a person tummy it says in the past i saw in red not every woman that you're with you have to go to the midfield there's one woman not who's that one woman prat lika and mma law it doesn't require mikvah um [Music] his name was now don't forget it's very it's an amazing thing and every time i think about it i go off a stickle on it that akashiborohu he braided javas here she was a kala and he made her look beautiful he himself came down braided her hair put on her makeup and and sent her it to her but there's people that are more friendly and they pay money that the college pay i'm not joking this is an organization if a college doesn't wear makeup get a thousand dollars an urgent draw thousand dollars more from every time i think about it drives me crazy but anyway so asking like in a joke kind of thing he's asking his father what uh didn't want the kala to go to the mikvah so it's going to ruin her makeup why is it kyle different than everybody else doesn't make sense why does a cow get get not have to go to the midfield the turk is concerned about the the the makeup of the kawa amalei leficia inisho misa beres mabia reshono so if you look in the pasta it says that it's that has the ability what kind of beer do you go to the mikvah a beer has the ability to make the woman pregnant but since she's a color and she can't become pregnant from the first bill so melo she's not that's not shiva's era it doesn't fit into the positive she [Music] you don't know that for a fact because maybe they didn't have sulu maybe all these those 12 year olds have come to the hospital today in this net they didn't absolutely or whatever but my home i was just thinking as i'm learning it now it might be the biggest discussions that i didn't want to say but i'm going to say it anyway like we know that yaakov avinu it says that reuven was racist it was his first zera so how does that work exactly i thought it was the beer i thought for some reason rouhane was the um okay here's this question he's gonna go crazy on me like well i'm sure you don't see rashi says before okay whatever sorry sorry for asking rabona savage was there proud means the the start of the beer so over there the the first motion the first the beginning there's no rashi says either in the sheik or just touching or it just means a little but at the end of the day there's no zera there so may allah that you don't that you don't go to the mikfo so for sure darker also no it doesn't make you tummy that you need to go to the megaphone review at the end of the day if you think about it like a darko cannot impregnate a woman somebody that's not included in chicago and ira also for the same reason it's not considered it can't be included in the word shikha zera so mela both of them are from that exclusion of shikha and what do you do with the word oh so okay so i have another miot prat likalo [Music] now this also marty you're not going to like this but it might have explanations in today's science if you if a woman is a widow for 10 years and then she gets married after 10 years true enemies she can't get she can't she can't give birth again what's the naughty minor if kamina if a person doesn't have any children and it's kind of improved you shouldn't marry that woman she's in acara wait a minute let me qualify what you what we just said it's not time a woman who didn't get married not every woman a woman who doesn't want to get married but a woman who's going in she do him and she's thinking about getting married she doesn't lose the ability to have children so this is the famous story we learned the number of times that the daughter of frieza when she was very young she was sitting on her father's lap on rafael's lap and she said you see these two tall medium of yours rav and rami bahama i'm going to marry them both so rava said i want to be second in other words he he realized that if she's marrying both and what she's saying is nivoa which in fact was let me at least live i want to be second okay so what happened was she marries ramen bahama and ramen was lifter and they read her she do him upon shidduchim she says no no no because rava was still married and she didn't want she knew that she's going to be marrying rover so eventually she marries rovo and they have a child and robert tells her you know the daughter of my wife robot are saying that since you were widowed for more than 10 years how is it possible that you had a child afterwards it must be you must have been with some other men some sometime in between omar lay [Music] i know that toyah what are you talking about i was thinking about you the whole time and then may law i'm not in that category and what were about on thinking rabbi's side what were her bottom thinking what business did they have to think maybe she really wanted to get married and she couldn't find so they say because rabban and saw they gave her the best shidduchim in the world one time after another and she kept on saying no no no no no so they said wait a minute she doesn't want to get married so what do you mean she was thinking about getting married she wasn't thinking about marriage she kept but little do they know that she had a divorce she had a like a real hakai dish thing going on and she knew she's going to marry ralph one day and she tells robert don't worry about it i i was thinking about you i was keeping you in mind and then may la i could have children of yours of the story this woman came comes to her obviously is bogus i'm a living example of a woman who didn't have a husband for 10 years i got married 12 years later and i had a child so the gemara doesn't know what they're talking about huh science is right the kamaru doesn't know what they're talking about why are you saying things like that you what you're saying is making the gemara look wrong you know the truth or malay i'm sorry you're right i lied le noche nevalti i was actually with a guy now the ritzva says that she wasn't really with a guy but she had a tyver for a guy she had a neighbor she had her eye out on him now as as you just said with rava with rava's wife you don't have to be with somebody all you need to do is think about somebody and that's enough to give you the ability to have a child islamic any woman that was ever married and she wants to remarry has to has to um has to wait for three months there was a woman in atlanta by ray feldman emmanuel emanuel feldman i think his name was and she get she got divorced and he told her at the divorce he says listen by the way you're getting divorced you cannot get married for three months so she put up a big fight she goes you guys are are whatever the word is how come a man can get married my husband my ex get married today and i have to wait three months this is not fair you rabbis you're anti-women the whole thing so he looked at her he said listen could your husband get pregnant today no could you yes oh that's why because the problem is we need to be certain who the father is that's all it is it's all it's about being sure that the vlad is the new husband and not the old husband there are two women in the world that don't have to wait three months and that is a guilleress and a a slave that was freed so what does that come to exclude if i ask you and who who does have to wait three months a jewish girl who is a kitano there's only two katanas that don't have to wait aguileras but everybody else even a katana israel and now that's a big problem with our mishnah because then our mission says that if the noise a jewish tana doesn't have to wait they can marry they could bring the wife switched at the chuppah tomorrow they go back to the real husbands because of thanos a mother marries off her daughter when she's still 10 years old so ham said since the whole conduction is only at the rabban condition the girl could just say to the husband i don't want to be with you in that case she has to wait three months now it's very geshmak why why does katana have to wait three months she can't be pregnant she's igtano so why does she have to wait three months zero because people are getting confused between aktana and gudaila but over here in meon when it comes to me and who could do me on only aktano so there's nothing to get confused with they'll say she's like she didn't mean she doesn't have to wait we beget and if you're talking about just a regular get and she's she's 10 years old and her husband gave her a gift he already said why did he repeat it ella is no telling me to choose mizana and if she's won says that she has to wait three months because in fact the whole point of waiting three months is to to be certain that she's not pregnant from the first guy or if she is at least we know who the baby is from but we know that she can't become preg when mela we have to make the difference we have to make xero between her so we don't get confused between her and ignite says morgan's reading is this such a thing it says in our mishnah we don't make zero if they made a swisher rule by the football oops boo boo tomorrow they go back to the red to their husband you have to wait three months because the katanas was a one time story there's a crazy story there's a switcheroo they happen to be brothers they happen to be sisters the whole thing and said you know what because the town is and they happen to be 10 years old that fight says [Music] so what you tell me the story happened if it's a rush if it was a special for that it didn't really happen it was a one-time thing it's like it's it's not it's like we are giving a temporary halacha response but at the end of the day because this whole story is so improbable it's never going to happen the story the two brothers married two sisters and they got switched to the whole thing so therefore there's no observance that's the case we only make zerus when it's going to happen but this case is not going to happen have a wonderful evening a wonderful week we'll see you tomorrow basically i'm here in 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