Daf Yomi Sotah Daf 3 by R’ Eli Stefansky

we're gonna start to share on a happy note so here we have a picture of some of the guys that flew into the Chicago scene I believe there's over 25 people I know I know I recognize that some of the people that flew in didn't make it into this picture so there's some of the guys that flew in described all those who flew in and believe it or not there were the place was set up for 170 people every single seat was taken basically almost an entire evening so that means it was a lot more than 170 of those people coming in and out so let's call it 200. unbelievable Miami for Chicago to everybody in Chicago that came all the people from out of the city basil Hashem it should grow and to grow here in Chicago and all the it's I think even the stardom who don't come out to the senior membership be happy to come and proud to come our voice I I want to take a break for a second you know what let me show you the other that we had um here we go so this is Mo Landing he recruited about 15 people to join the deaf here's sixth of the 15. and the reason why I'm putting it here I'll play in a second these Gamers were donated by basically one individual and I'm talking about them in a second here's a uh email I was leading a tour of the Muslim quarter today and I stopped into the rebuilt all the inflict show visit the show and Muslim quarter that is open and used at that entrance is a security detail one of them is providing a double smear one physically and one spiritually see the picture of the security guard learning the rebelli this picture was taken on Friday during the massive Ramadan prayers I recognize this individual very very well it comes very often to remind the chairman his name is learning on the job this a voice site is the ceom in Brooklyn so they said over 50 people attended that and let's see if we can get some audio here it might be difficult with what you said it was muted let's see one two [Applause] attached pictures of the London scene this evening 150 people were Messiah and dance it was an amazing event Irene Davis 150 people in London and Ari Blau says from Toronto Tasha some pictures from any white around to see him very amazing men with a fantastic little shishi Buffet including poppers the meat boards showing Coco there were over 100 people who joined it from across the city and many First Commerce and of course we had great wine and haircuts so I really liked his the advertising Toronto they said it's wine and haircuts It's All About Wine and haircuts so I thought they were joking of course we had great wine the haircuts the best part was getting to follow the barber to join the docs sure mayor mayor heading referral I don't know if I got it or not we also wrapped it off customized bottles of wine with mvy logo in honor of the of Nazir I think it Inspire us on leading this amazing Terror movement at your Blau here's the Islam in Toronto here is the etched Battle of wines you have wine for Nazir abai side believe it or not haircuts at the seal unbelievable so I want to talk for a second about something very very moving you see the last couple of miceps was sponsored mainly by a 39 year old young guy individual guy anonymous and if you have a gemara article please open up to the first page the cover page the top thing it says military learning being learned which stands foreign for my wife children an entire extended family thank you for your support and encouraging me to learn the daffodily and mdy in appreciation a proud husband and father who's taking his wife for pushing him to learn the deaf in the last few months we had a little bit of a problem we were gonna discontinue this program of giving out free gamaras uh the prices went up from art scroll and we said you know what we'll try other things and this individual 39 years old stepped in and over the last two or three months he gave over forty thousand dollars towards this program and many people that are learning now who finished nausea and are starting site that's in his house and he's anonymous not some anonymous I didn't really get to speak to him ever I spoke to him once or twice he came to the CM in Miami and Jesse Klein who deals with him on a daily basis doesn't even know what he looks like but today I have to tell you what his name is his name is yesterday at the young age of 39 as labai was today he's a guy from Muncie Imam was I I cried to it like crazy such a young guy we lost two Hungarian this week two and he told yossi Klein many times he says this is the only way that I know how to be a kind of people to tell her and that's what I wanted I'm thinking to myself two and a half months before I got a oh to give and to encourage people to learn Tyra and when was he nifter on the final day of Nazir the first day of Saito I'm sorry 39 years old 39 years old a heart attack advisor we have to hop around learn more Tyro do more Hassan to come up with with this idea to do it and I just got a message literally right before I was coming here one of the khalvarians from this year said I know that he owes a little money he pledged more I don't want him to go to the family I don't want the family to know about this I'm giving every dime that he pledged that his in some shouldn't have any desire it's unbelievable what a 39 year old over forty thousand dollars he already gave it's unbelievable we have to take a crazy from this we don't know nobody knows how long they live and when we're here we have to just copyright copyright copyright our boys that just copyright the coil oil responsible by Anonymous from Lakewood is much Anonymous he didn't speak to me he didn't want anything in return Yes spoke to him every single day I asked Yasin do you know this guy is he the guy that donated the emergency let me see a picture I showed him a picture of him last night he says no I don't think it's him he never saw it and they live in Muncie he gave him the checks and it's such simcha and such the coil is sponsored by Ruben Klein another my daughter at least becoming a cow that's FIFA NATO from Toronto we don't have a sponsor with himself look the Pirates elephant I I can't a lot of Tears this week for Abby this is foreign we have to learn how to deal with it but it's unbelievable 39 years old Gladys love zacharov and his host that I graduated this man in Paris David Handler with gratitude Hashem for the health of my daughter Adam sorry for bringing you guys down sorry for not holding it together our boys foreign is there ever a time when it's a Mitzvah to grab a Jew and work him like a slave we know that you didn't could be evidently but they have different unlockers they're not like you can't treat them like you're having you can't just work them without them how many hours you can't just work them unlimited and working for work that has no purpose but sometimes you can and we're going to see Anonymous base an amazing places you mark we're holding four lines down yesterday was like one of the worst on the days of all time and those technical problems with the recording hopefully today it's better it's always when we're on the road and we don't have the in-house equipment we're not in the basement things go wrong so I hope everybody forgives and hopefully we can do better Tanya you have to know the basics where it comes in the Posse so that's why a lot of us have to start with Russians but I'm telling you trust me it's going to be smooth sailing so we're even starting out with a little bit of a goddaughter a person is over another like this woman she's nistar she goes into seclusion she doesn't know and you think you get away with it there was a story there it's wrong I remember a couple years ago they're a bunch of buffer I'm not going to say what kind of buffering but really really from they went down they dropped a lot they took a taxi to a lot and they told the driver to drop them off at a place that they shouldn't be going to and they disappeared they ran in there and they disappeared they thought they'll get away from the taxi ride they won't have to pay and obviously they didn't want to be known that they went to this terrible place guys Shiva guys Texas driver didn't like it he called the cops the cops went in they caught these guys and what happened was the entire air to stroll found out that these guys with the names in the newspapers they went to XYZ and they did this and they tried to rip off at that the in the world a person thinks that he's going to do nothing he's going to go someplace and nobody will know about it and they'll do this and this and that now this book who makes it known on purpose did you get the desire how do we know it says by us all of ruachino this husband he decided he had this ruach a spirit something guided and he was jealous what does that forever mean it's announced to the world foreign [Music] once he did it he's already assured in that in that in that moment but that there is for bringing yourself all the way there foreign Veer off and be mizana like I said the even though it's called saita with the sama and everybody all the the the the rambam portal through the shin obviously it's based on but the show I think that it comes from it's an interesting story in The Madras about the the site of the mattress tells us that it's in Medusa Parish attacks says that a woman and her husband suspected her and he said you know he did the whole Kino stereo thing he said let's go to this let's find out of your son she's in big trouble she knew she didn't want to explore so she called up her sister she ran to her sister and she said I don't know if they were Twins or they looked very similar she said listen you gotta fill in for me like a good uh identical twin no problem she dressed in her clothing sister guess what happened you're wrong that's not what happened she passed the test with flying colors but she wasn't they said this this is he knocking she drank the water nothing she came home and her sister saw her and her sister came running out wow and they hogged and they kissed and as soon as she kissed her she smelled the the mine I murder him and she died on the spot so this is the Waters of the saita they're very powerful there's a story about that a lot of people talk about that there was a maisa of a site of isek you know the time that he died that he he was Russian woman and in front of everybody he said and she died okay now going back a little bit to the situation of the aid I don't know if there's a tissue around there I might need one just from the tears they're not really those things Theory so we're talking about step three right we said this three steps first he's a McConnell he tells her do not seclude yourself then he catches her secluding himself step three is when a Aid nothing to do with departure side about if somebody sees her being misana that even 1 8 is enough to say that she's also her husband forever thank you okay sorry so why does the tire believe one end throughout the Tyro you can one eight is not enough to say you owe me 25 bucks one eight is not enough to say that this is not so why do we believe 180 to answer a woman on her husband like that no soup in this case says it's muminous usually you need to wait say something about your employment because in fact there's good reason to believe that she was mizal he went through the process of kinoy and Theorem and after she did he did quinoa he warned her don't secure yourself and she secluded herself and then somebody says hey not only is excluded but I looked through the window I saw them foreign so these are the soaking right over here plastic number one says you see I put a one on the top it goes in order hurricane first came then she was over Nevada they then Bowie said that comes all the way at the end is afterwards are when it says in this parcel can pot in the set of positive means in the past it happened already in the past so the word means that it happened a while ago the famous role so they made the deal they said we like the pasture over here we have a lot of animals we need more grass we don't want to go in there right so tight on the how could that be so much better made a deal with them he said if you go to war with us and we'll win then you go back and if you go back not this you go back but over there for other local followers talking about the future you will go to war and then you'll win and we will win and then you come back but that's in the future not talking about a story that happened already over here we're saying that all of our means it happened already [Music] if it's like in the in the way the supermarket set up it's not gonna work why but of our bosses what the guy decided to wake up and warn his wife not to seclude herself but so and so after she was already over in Avera it makes no sense happened way before two months ago the Posse happens to be afterwards but it means Barbara in the past in other words the word we go both ways depending on on the suit it's not a very small and other mechanics when I was reading this gimbara it hit me like a ton of bricks the knock on top of Roberts the this this guy what happened one day he wakes up he says I have to have to warn my wife she can't seclude herself a Heavenly thought went into his mind and said hey do something a bad thought when it was it was from but it was a really bad thing he's a bad guy came a bad thought in his head Hashem is trying to save him and it's a pure ruach so we have over here a guy I'm serious robotics I'm not just saying this a guy all of a sudden in the Sawyer you know I have to I have to get more people to learn Cairo I'm gonna start donating money big money so that more people should learn what happened then what where was he a year ago he's part of this year a year now two months before his theory he starts pumping money in it's a Rua it's a rule remember I'm not joking how much I know now that he goes up to shamaya and they say look look at all these people 700 people joined Mr Saito because 700 people and all of a sudden a thought goes into the guy's head nobody knows why and how there's a million other things he decided this is it and it makes more sense that it's a rule of a special Spirit of tahara so now this is gonna swing us into a brand new of is this idea like we mentioned even yesterday that a man warns his wife not this include is it a good thing or a bad thing he's allowed to what's going on here so that's the suya now that if he wants to he could he doesn't have to and you see over here there's three things that we're going to be discussing today these three packages that a client could go to his father's funeral or if he wants so he could here's Steve you're kind right to go to your sister's funeral or you're allowed to and also this idea slave to work in this very last day or you're allowed to work with the very last day only three do we have the question in other words do you have to or you could everybody knows yeah since you have to there's three things to do we're not sure do you have to or that you could however basically all three are the same idea we have actual Apostle everybody says since it's the 30 000 plus twice it means you must you must work your slave for this last day you must go through the funerals of your Craven you must do the reason why I have to soak him in all three cases is because it tells us a special footage it's not the towels that you have to okay let's see inside tomorrow um if you tell me that who threw in the right it's a bad thing is to have a bad thought and do bad things whether you're permitted to put good thoughts in your brain not bad thoughts now let's go into these three sugios that ritual holds that it's it's okay if you want to warn your way everything is resource like foreign how many minutes do we have everybody knows 6 13. according to keep how many do we have 6 16. or maybe because they'll be small we start at 6 13 and we take off these threes he has six six ten what's going on here with three minutes it's a big problem systems we know 6 30 this is one man almost says 6 30. maybe give up hold the 660. or maybe and that would be the obvious there's you have to cut off a couple minutes here and there and make these misses fit in accordance with you okay just if anybody's interested it's a big time sister that talks about him foreign [Music] very important the robin paskins and this is very accepted that the issu is in your heart if somebody did if somebody wronged you you go over them and say hey you wrong me I don't appreciate when you talk to me like this and like that and you did this and this and to listen to me the answer is when you don't tell her so you have to understand how this fits in over here because over here the husband sits right out hey don't support yourself father my rep is father if he did the cream his father told me that there was a story it was a guy who had a big injury on his face so somebody asked him what happened he says oh what happened Reuben smacked me like this he went like this she said okay it went like this but why is your face like half missing he said because a lot of people ask me what happened and everything I asked me I showed him I go like this she says when person wrongs you and you hold it in your heart all you're doing is hurting yourself every time you think about it you cause yourself more injury it was a little injury but you just keep on thinking about it you had injury on injury injury on injury until your face is is half missing so like the Israel boys say if somebody wronged you talking over with them or be mindful and move on I might show you with me I'll just share with you with me a couple years ago somebody did something really wrong to me from guy did something really bad a lot of money this that and every time I sat down to prepare share I Was preparing and this guy would appear on my gemara like between the lines I couldn't learn I couldn't concentrate here he is I want the I want to destroy him and against all my family's wishes and everything I could have taking in the court and suit him and and won easily I said that's it I'm done with him I'm not I'm completely I'm done I have nothing to do with that guy no kindness now nothing does the only money he has has nothing to do with me now I'm not thinking about him I'm not suing him nothing I'm done and and the relief my in my entire life changed everything it was it was a scoop of two weeks that I couldn't concentrate How could a guy do this to another from person replenish life it's unbelievable but once I made that decision that he's gone he's gone I helped myself not him okay maybe in this case also with this wife he should be a big tactic cannot say anything holds you're permitted because in this case she's being over Navarro you have to know where to say something if your wife did she didn't put the dishes away then be a big child you don't say anything but you see that she's being Oliver to to warn her and and prevent it but in the same in the same puzzle oh I forgot to show this but we could show it now it doesn't matter these are the seven Prime that a coin is to or could that's my client is father mother wife some daughter brother and a sister in certain circumstances when she's not married so if you look at the popsicle over here I know it's in small it says I just highlighted in red it says the word bikini twice why the double lotion we could have gotten away in the same Project without saying the word twice we know that his wife is up to no good Warner if that doesn't work bring it to best then bring it small I need the boys [Music] and you also have to say in the end of the positive here I did it you know what sorry I don't know what I just did this one you see how I highlighted in green the two but he one it says and one says so each bikini goes it's a new part yes one more impossible but it's two different cases one is that she became Thomas I wanted that she wasn't doing this sir and for each one you have to say the story he's makana he told her don't do it yourself um anytime you see a double ocean the audition is that if a woman you don't know for sure that you live in Avera the whole Parish of sight is a big hooded I could make her author just on a soffit okay so then the third repeated it twice so going back to this list is seven relatives says that it's not an obligatory in three shows what if he's in the middle of burying his sister his brother and he finds out that he has the product filter is what you're doing don't do something that you don't have to do do the thing you have to do just fill it or no I'm he's a kind to bury his sister says [Music] it says but to your sister yes sister means everybody foreign and that's what we're going to be dealing with here again the same story that repeated before since it says it twice that makes it what you have to do it so your small is gonna have to come up with the reason why it says it twice where does it say it twice so then why does it say twice because it says twice the actual time is the teachers foreign [Music] it has Thomas like a regular dead body but a quiet you hear Steve you're crying you have to know the coin is not permitted to be matama to a living limb oh so the little funeral whatever not a real funeral the bury the client should not bury it even though it's his own brother or sister the human base sponsor that's Allah the members of the HBA group and their families of Maine I know that baser Hashem mdy is going to do something very special for monach so we have to do some sort of project something for him it's unbelievable as I said we have a lot of Records to talk to them okay this is interesting I can't say understand that 100 but I guess there's a way to write it you don't have to say the word your time up was really really talking about to me it doesn't sound so great now but okay the government understands that the word extra and therefore it teaches us that it's very small yeah it fits right in you have to just it should sound good it should it should be written well so it says the word this is a little different that yes it might be extra but since it's here in Apostle so we're able to repeat words even though they're not necessary what about the next song you buy a slave you work in until this very last day you shouldn't free him but says you don't have to work here so very interesting a lot okay I saw one entirely strong they they had a team to kill every single person wrote down all the Seven Nations but you should know that that Sibu doesn't destroy is over yeah don't kill me what it says in the title you should kill them so now how are you buying a slave who's the slave exactly if he's a Canadian the mother and the father Canadian what do you do to him shop over set you can't work it well I'll work you instead of killing you it doesn't work you have to kill you but what if the father is akini the mother is Italian what's that lock on kill him what if the mother is a canonist and the father's Italian you let him live it goes by the father so if you have a mother a canonist the father's Italian you could buy him as a slave let's see inside um explains that women typically especially they the women stay in there you know like a lot of us here in Chicago we migrated to Chicago because of the women he usually goes like the the women like to stay in the city that they were born yeah but I said there's a number of times you have a lot of New Yorkers that are very verbiscient here in Chicago they're always thinking about yes you know what I'm talking about okay okay I mean after a while to get used to it when they pretend they're used to it so it's very normal to follow your wife to the place that she's from great sometimes another Place righteous is the opposite okay um so according to review we have next rewards that's your words teach us what if you buy a slave you can't just free him you have to work him to the very last time your smile up ahead says that the bohem is not extra so it's the same story every time rubicuses have two x I have actually over there can I use it foreign why because he's your brother and just a working because he's a slave and say go around in a circle and build the pyramids you can't do that it has to be work that has attachments anything else you have to tell him work here for three hours work here for five hours work here until eight o'clock you can't just say work without telling you certain Allah you can't do with the Jews is amazing if you see a guy who's not bathing well a Jew who's doing the wrong thing grab him and work him as Heaven however we have to do with pain to be heaven and then you're working without any reason work him around the clock why because he's not he's in no good Nick so going back to the questions that every time they can take a joke and work him yes if he's a no good guy if he's up to no good you want to keep him away keep his mind off of Barbarians just work as is Africa what do you mean it says and not in a Kanani slave but but not in Jerusalem this is an unfortunate with your brethren you should not work him hard okay okay so I'm permitted was permitted to write a couple extra words even though we don't really need them or else just yesterday I guess he thought to me on purpose a Rob here in Chicago is telling me and he knows of amazing right now loyaling of a woman who's being lift shot on these things destroyed an entire family so you have to understand that it's not just that Vera the giveaways that you're being over but you're taking your own children you work so hard and you love so much and you destroyed their life destroyed their life bias issues that it causes that I've been destroying the life so a person should think a hundred times before they're over something like this happens we know what happens this man I said it happens in all the times it's like a worm eating sesame seeds a leader from the inside I'll even outside the kitchen destroys a house anger but also destroys a house [Music] very interesting who takes care of the house who does the dishes who takes here the kids sends it off to school it's the wife it's not it's the woman usually so in that case the woman destroys the house because now she's not taking care of business there's a bow down in the house right she says her husband's belongings go missing because she has somebody else in her life so she starts moving things over that way the kids are it destroys the house the husband is on a business trip in those days they used to leave in the fields all day so he has cars he doesn't have classes not not as uh what's the word uh damaging or whatever the word is it's not as damaging as the woman who's in the house that scared the house when she's missing avocado it's a very strong language we don't care so much what the man does because of that what but no he loses his fortune the man right who says the dark scroll you know it's from um it loses his fortune I explained that that's what I said she she starts moving stuff up there's a piece of gold she gives it to the other guy the thing that comes home is what happened oh yeah we had a we had a robber it's not a robbery you you're the robber you kept the moving things okay fine together I'm saying when when the guy is over he's not going to move she didn't bring anything in those days they didn't bring things in they didn't have a fortune his sports are gonna be lost sinned in what in our riots there's much more ashrae says there is present with each and every individual in the situation there's a guy that you know he pushes now I have to do everything so when when the chart that belongs seven minutes ago was still on the screen let me know I'll hit it off okay here's how to give him an established Turn Around from you and walk away and believe you this is a terrible things in other words again his nose has many effects as Liam are it has affected me in the Sharma between you and it has a physical effect on your family on your fortune on on your belongings and also it has effect on the Shekinah that you should have had a Shino you should have had to do on you you move Acres I don't want to beat it but listen it's a he got up there yesterday and they said look look at all the 700 people you just brought in this episode though well they're all 700 or enough gimbal or not after this issue I don't know I'm sure one or two left especially another base but look at all the Mitzi goes in front of you it screens out look who's coming is coming look at the hundreds of people from then the nadarim the entire misakis episode foreign and you finally see your parents you missed them you haven't seen them in 40 years get up there and a piece of neighbors stuck over here and the Russian Horrors over here he looks at you you full but there's no there's no hiding anything over there every other it doesn't matter what it's there it's a it's a bishop is [Music] it's stuck in like a dog most people weren't a dog but I could tell you from personal a dog goes wherever you go you go to the bathroom it stays by the door by the bathroom you walk out it's there and it comes it's it stuck to you like a dog it's a it's a certain thing is to be with him it's the same exact thing double says the gemara no this is but a person is big hacker the biggest about DACA of the city everybody knows it wow what about I don't know what the biggest of the big foreign it's unbelievable he says that this person tells us that a person that's mizana is that his oinishes to come to this world as a dog that's what it means he becomes a dog maybe that's the dogs that we have in the front houses they're like from people oh relatives they're in the dog so be careful what you do in front of them but not an awesome okay so now I'm just going back by the way I got the starts picking up big time on that dollar which is tomorrow's death that also going back to this yeah that says I saw that there with my own eyes the husband has to believe it foreign what's the name of this and guess what I'm pretty sure I'm not a big uh Buzzy card I'm pretty sure we're done done done with quinoa pretty much we're almost not going to talk about the idea and how it works the whole parrot is called avocado finish now we're gonna start with something foreign somebody's just kidding still available meaning the testimony of the steerer the seclusion the Second Step first he warns her don't support yourself then she secluded herself and we have testimony for that soil um she could get out of it how could you get out of this problem by drinking the water oh my God and of course she's innocent foreign [Music] remember yesterday I don't know if you remember I don't know if you heard it was too fast eight means two you don't have two you have how many one without this possible there's no way I would understand that 1 8 could say that this woman is also their husband forever and ever and ever there's no way out of it because to answer her temporarily you need to wait them and she could get out of it she'll drink the water and she'll go back to her husband you still need two so the step that tells me that she can never go back to her husband and she can't drink water and she loses her zuba certainly she needs to weigh them to testify that noses the Torah only one why because she's up to no good first he's he warned her after the warning she secluded herself then comes ahead and says not only does she seclude herself I witnessed something now we have to trust that one Aid which he's done for life foreign [Music] here it is we have the same password yesterday and then we have another passing another in the Hills it says the next step is foreign [Music] hey Bob Buffalo but in general if if a woman doesn't have her husband didn't warn her she didn't seclude herself but a witness saw her doing a myself one of the hamuras he saw but like it doesn't work to have a 1 8 then why is let's just jump to Russia for a second the last Rashi over here it's a very important ratchet because Rashi says explains it beautiful it says it says the gemara that we have the derushaba for another thing in other words another case not the case of Saito where the husband suspected her but a case of 18 showing up and saying hey I saw Sasha and such foreign but why in our case is one age believed there are the lion remember we finished off in the setlist when you have something solid to stand up when it makes absolute logically logic sense that what he warned her he thought something's up she didn't listen to him she went into a private place with the guy and then oh that's enough that's requirement though and just finally one more line honorable and we explained this before it is you and I were learning this gamar what is the first testimony mean what's step one no no that's step two what we call the second schlav the second step right now and what's the final step that's when somebody physically saw the ACT raboysai have a wonderful week and for you guys have wonderful Shabbos basic shav is here in at Salah 9 30 p.m hopefully it will be ready by then he's going through coming out so late have a great day a great job is