Daf Yomi Sotah Daf 24 by R’ Eli Stefansky

foreign live from Chicago I have an amazing announcement to make before I get to my announcement I do want to say Mazel Tov to my niece became a cow Libby Friedman and that's one of the big reasons why we stayed for a couple extra days uh she's engaged too I think his name is David feder from Boca right so it turns out that David has three uncles not one not two three uncles that live on my block and there's this road small world amazing guys so welcome to them and um today in narrative straw is the 16th day the eimer think no once the sheer is being played it's already the 17th day that I remember over here we're still on the 15th so these two uh sheets over here also depends where you are and how you are my boys I check this out that um oh you don't see this but I'll show it to you the kids here this is the big announcement because of our cancel flight and this off and I brought myself so we decided to return that stroke through New York so I'm going to give a live share in between the two flights Chicago New York they just announced it last night there's over 300 people that signed up and there's only room for 1200 so you better sign up quickly if you live in New York uh how do you sign up there's one of those hold on I saw it here I'm not kidding it's uh um let me just read the whole thing this Sunday coming experience a live share now the video Beth L of bar Park you lot to say that yeah that's free entry Refreshments in honor of the Yards of Shiloh of kirstir reserve your seats oh here it is live.com and it's limited to the first 1200 people you better be there all right so it uh promises to be a great event the people working literally around the cloud I know people thousands of you're not you wouldn't believe how many messages to secure a place this is a short time and then the food into this look at that okay so shut up everybody um well good morning revelli you never really got a chance or I'm not the type of person to send an email like many other state I haven't learned in 20 years so I've had I've been doing the dive since my grandmother was niftera it's almost three years ago I always started with you and ariven and never looked back a Reuben wow that's just me on the plane on my way back to New York learning that while my mother was shopping this stuff instead of regularly watching TV shows many times the kids are he says that's why you realize that's why these tapes you never understood why he gave it to him now he understands so thank you everybody again for all you do and 30 spread best regards kidding that's key from Flatbush New York oh maybe uh kibo will be there at the same at the at this year hi everybody a good Zoomer do you know how long do I your question about behind the stapler haven't they didn't pass again and you know passing is a bad thing maybe the whole that there were other stats they used to say ask for uh Etc also didn't Pascal we brought a big place here from zelling rigor he writes not to rely okay anyway by the way remote Feinstein is abdom arrays it doesn't really want to pass again but the gemaran site to warn someone who can pass again and does it says so he was compelled to pass Weissman from Lakewood all right oh and another thing that he writes here on the bottom another author that I said I saw a recentlyevsky fermented schlep to another soul is Bittle Tyra but if a person is learning tired instead so why should he walk the shovel if you go to cholesterol and learn turns them if somebody's learning busy learning it's not such a great idea uh his there's a lot of Le Bobby today so here's a good one you guys thank you if you shared so much fun so I keep coming back even when I miss a bit regarding the moment of the shmup the learning you just spoke about the ballot Tanya end of halik chapter I think 41 says to think at the very beginning just like by get that you have intentionally small but Italian gives a beautiful spirit what to think since you blew my soul into me foreign in the future you'll lift it from me therefore right now I'm still alive I'll deliver it and return it to you to become one with you one is like Road to you I lose my soul this means that I'm going to connect my thoughts with your thoughts my words with yours okay becomes a Time thank you again shiman Sheriff from around the corner from slimy Clines produce in Crown Heights climbing live Deja scene two she flew out to Miami he certainly come down to Brooklyn yes he says people learn all day can stop and repeat this intention every hour sponsor by Anonymous from Lakewood foreign Benito daughter all right don't forget to sign up for the Siam in Brooklyn New York Vice today and I have a Shiloh for the oil I need I need everybody to answer the Shiloh can or cannot a husband warn his wife you're talking about can a husband tell his wife I don't want you to be misiaked with your own father he has a problem with the schwehr so he warns his wife not to seclude herself with her own father no whoever says yes raise your hand whoever says no raise your hand wow everybody says no I was afraid everybody's gonna say no the reason why I was so afraid I myself kind of thought no not a little bit of a problem because the mishna says that 100 he could and the gamara ass is so simple why did the mission have to say it and I want to know from if it's so simple because everybody here raise their hand no he can't so it's not so simple but I guess if you're in the time I think tomorrow it'll be simple we're just not that okay it's at least enough to write in the mishnah you know if there's some people that don't know this okay great so let's see it says the hailing and mishna sponsored arusso [Music] a woman who's an arusa we call it engaged but in time the gemara it was serious business the the man would give a woman a ring it's what we do Under the hopa but we do huppa we do our erosion and conditions so arusa gives her a ring and they become arusen like uh engaged not so much like my niece much more than that it requires a get it's serious serious stuff is suspects his power of being Miss Yahoo somebody so they have to get divorce but he can't he can't prove it there's no drinking water but because she did something wrong so she doesn't get a kusuba now let's just is this oh oh you're asking a good question so we're not going to get into it but the r sheet is that say there is a Suba and he definitely could give it super foreign so here is okay you guys don't need to see it here's a married couple Ruben is married to Rahul and Ruben has a brother called chairman and Ruben didn't have any children and he went bye-bye so Rojo and during that period before he brings her into his house and there's no khalisa she's a shame she's what she's waiting for evil this is a zika there's a the rise of bond between Rojo and shim and the brother even though shiman never did anything he never gave her a ring there's nothing alone just be alone this kind of I want to see some more allahs about that is very interesting does this engaged woman this arusa does she have to cover in here is there is a cover here she she got a ring she's an arusa not like an hour days uh an Engaged she's really engaged serious engagement so so someone will bring it right from here that she has to cover right here because it says that the coin of organization that part of the procession in the basement industry removes her head cover if you don't have that ability then maybe some arguments uh child enough right okay because it says an apostle I share sister issue so it says an apostle is this is the whole parisha of stiro to warn your wife ashartista she sprays Isha the woman under the her husband foreign [Music] that there are two women that the drinking partial doesn't apply to them because they're not married it says she has a husband and uh an Engaged woman she doesn't have a husband this this ivama she fell even but he never took her to his house so she's not she's not married you show over here doesn't mean a woman you sure means the husband okay we keep on moving what about a woman who's also to be married to so that applies to Israel it also applies to Cayenne who can't the Israel marry manzaras who can the Korean Mary depends it is certainly certainly but also regular coin get married Russia so says the mishna oh I'm not saying all of them just giving you examples if a woman is a widow she cannot marry condo marry her anyway so we pass in that the condition works it's a good condition but he has a divorcement he can't be with her foreign so again the same story her husband died and she fella ibom and the yavam the brother decided not to marry her but if I was in Israel I probably pull out of khalid's shoe we have one you know expensive shoe spitting it Etc interesting because I'm here in Chicago so I'll tell you the story I hope the guy doesn't watch and if he does I don't care the I gave sheer for eight years down the block in dadas and there was a guy there who came every single Shoppers and he's a client married to a grujo and the the bottom of the city passing that we can't be retire from Dominion so there would be 10 people including him and has would never start and he didn't care he came every single day he wouldn't divorce his wife and that's how he I don't know where he is I haven't seen him in many many years but that was a story there so the such thing as a agrusha the guy that she's divorcee so here's the thing you see that you see you understand the Shiloh the thing is that she this is a marriage that shouldn't exist and they don't care they're doing it anyway could this guy from the others could he warn his wife and make her a saita yes or no so says the mishnah manzares I'm serious we all know cannot marry or Israel honestina as it actually explains they fooled clay ISRO into believing that they're they're not from the Nations that have to be wiped out and once they made a a treaty with them that they're not going to kill them out so Yeshua made them so this is more like a durable now but there is possible it has to be a good marriage in order to give your wife the water to drink in order for it to work now this is interesting I love her I gotta say it's interesting I love her because why does she get exuber isn't the husband as guilty as she is so the answer is yes it's an illegal marriage he's a client he shouldn't be married to divorcy let's see but at the end of the day she's the one that started up over here that's what that's what Russia says she did the wrong thing she went and she secluded herself after her husband warned her not do it was a kinoy and that's it so Rashi makes another nakuda here if it was a legal marriage a good marriage the woman with loser Suba the husband Warner don't secure yourself and she didn't listen so if it's an illegal marriage you should be better than the woman that's in illegal marriage so both just like an illegal marriage she loses the tsuba you have to divorce her and he loses she loses so too the illegal marriage she loses she's the one that's that's that's guilty here she's the one that didn't listen to Roswell these are women who don't drink and don't get super immersed many she admits the Tomah in other words the husband already suspected her and she admits to it over here you don't need any Tyra over here to weigh them against him so she loses if she says I don't want to drink the water before we force it down our throat with the what is it called anybody remember [Music] ah who said horseshoe very good it's called the Cowboys very good like that no issue with some spikes on the bottom I noticed they all looked at you you're supposed to know this I see yeah five so we're talking about before they raised the name and and she says I'm not going to drink the water so that's it we're not gonna force it but she loses I remember we had a spoiler room keep him even says it's like she admitted to over by law any magical now the husband is guilty the husband says I don't want to give her the water bishop and the husband was over after he was ready the kidney stereo he shouldn't have been with her and he was foreign you have to divorce her but they get a tsuba and they don't drink the water maybe so this is interesting Shiloh also the husband Wonder he said don't and she did and they planned the trip to the Visa Migos and he was so distressed by the whole situation he grabbed that from a heart attack now the ocean say no way we're not going to give this terrible woman who not only 100 million super that he that he promised her so now what basically eventually it's awesome listen you can't give her to drink now the husband is dead there's no drinking when the husband's dead the only person he has to bring it to this and it has to be a married woman as so the budgets either they drink and if they don't drink they don't get exuber so what does this mean the simple meaning without Rashi you would say oh uh maybe they should drink maybe what should we do or as she points out well they can't drink it's impossible to drink and the male if they can't drink what they don't get a super that's what the mission mean that's what they tell me he says hold on I show you so it's either yeah but they have it they have an option they have to drink if they don't I don't know but since there is no option to drink because the husband is dead therefore the only option remaining is what are you asking there's no such thing as a possum it says that the husband brings you to the basement the husband Behavior will see the part I'll show you the passing soon but that that's simple that okay even without the Apostle the drinking is to see could he go back there drinking let's go back to the environment Center drinking is not to punish the woman we're not here to punish we're here to figure out what her status is can't she be married to this man are her children going to be Mom's here there's no husband there's nothing to figure out anymore what's the point forget the sukum besides the sukin that say he brings her he's the one that decides here that we just learned three lines earlier if the husband says I don't want her to drink so you need her bestin can only step in was we'll see in 10 seconds that's a good step in for a different reason and for a different thing not to drink time management is also to other no it's not it's one of the things that we could find out but it's not not the icker here but anyway this is saying even mubaris if a person leaves a wife let's not forget the person a woman who is pregnant and doesn't have a husband should not marry another man for 24 months why because if she gets pregnant from a second guy it could ruin her milk and it's a date it's dangerous for the baby and we're concerned that this new guy wouldn't really care right you've seen the animal I said this all time and Animal Kingdom one of the worst things that I could imagine as a somebody likes animals is a male lion will come find the female line and the first thing he does is kill all The Offspring kill all the baby lions and it's Imagining the zafira you want to see little lies it's the heart we didn't see well we saw a little everybody's searching for those the cops everyone see the car come take the cars bite their head next bite the next head in front of the mother the mother can't do anything why get rid of the the other generation that other whoever they are and now start a new family from scratch so this is the something like that is going on this guy's head she'll get pregnant they'll ruin her milk and there's no formula we're talking about 2000 years ago what's the baby gonna eat now no so the new guy's gonna have to pay for the money I forget the baby will go Fife and who cares that's the concerning if you think about it's a little sad it's very sad so she loses her husband once you get divorced also so now she can't get married for close to three years she finds that she's pregnant first she has to wait until she has a baby it's nine months let's say whatever it is plus 24 months that she can't get married so how often so now we're going back to the same Shiloh is this any different than a man marrying him upstairs a man marrying a woman that has a baby less than 24 months old they're all awesome to get married to doesn't fit into the same category as they're not going to be able to drink we don't give her the drink says Remains the same exact thing it's also for you to get married you married her now she went and she didn't listen to you so she started up she's the one that started the fight she loses the Cuba wait a minute it's almost to me it's like like a neither sort of just wait you wait a little bit and it'll be over you wait until you divorce her now you wait until the kid gets older thank you bring her back so it's not the same he says no you could give her to drink Island is I think we have a picture here you guys have ever seen this one okay I can't move it there my screen that's really bad okay I said Hashem it went back okay sorry no more sheer screening with you guys you'll have to look on some YouTube but anyway there's a picture of a i o it comes from a lotion of an idol just like IO the Quran or the can't uh uh a male sheep can't have children this is a woman who's born nothing happened just she was born that physically you look at her you see that she doesn't look like a woman in any way shape or form she doesn't sound like a woman her voice is different everything is different about her she just can't have children so the problem is that since the real ferment have children he's not going to be married to her or maybe he can marry another woman oh so that's the that's the next step in the middle there's plenty of people married to Skaters right everybody at the end of the day is a scale so in other words somebody who can't have children but you as a youngster and you don't have children you are Mika in the Mitzvah you should be married to this game and the woman who took some sort of treatments as Rashi some sort of Psalm and ruined her ability to have children she's not an Islander she was born with the ability but later on in life she she did something Loy noodles and today you can understand like chemos whatever it is that that ruin that ability so he shouldn't be married to her if he doesn't have children you have no right to be married to her so therefore if she she's no different than a regular woman who loses except she's losing soup but she doesn't drink because she's not ready to be her wife what do you mean the the problems with him not with her so much let him he could marry another woman deliver his other person is approval a matter from the second wife fight so he argues how come over here don't admit to this before we said the same tomorrow wait 24 months until the baby gets older and you'll remarry her over here we're saying no it's a River Plaza holds this this is smart isn't it the same Sparta he can do something else to me if you ask me the child I don't know exactly what they say but I I think there's enough Camino because it's it's this woman you just have to wait so something is there's a technical problem with this woman you wait 24 months you don't have to do anything just wait 24 months over here he has to marry somebody else there is a problem in their marriage doesn't matter what if nobody wants to marry and what if so it's a different problem it's a okay fight foreign anybody else they have an option they could drink because they're married it's a good marriage so they can drink and if they don't drink they don't get a super it's just going to show you someone tears the ballot this thing in my ass is the same Allah Supply to a wife of a Kind the whole pirate of Saito wasn't just set for Israel is that also because so Rashi goes on to explain that asaurus doesn't mean somebody who couldn't have children from day one later on he couldn't have children because you have to have the ability you have to be with this woman first as we're going to see soon then first the bow is boil then the boil we'll see in a second [Music] this is what I asked everybody before this year started as the share started and this tells us that you you could a husband could warn his wife not to be with an erva meaning a father meaning a brother unbelievable to me that's you could you could answer her from yehud with her own father so every time he goes to show if they're at the in-laws house she has to make sure the front door is open she has to leave the house he can't she can't beat me with it as I stay besides somebody who's not really a beer or maybe the shot is literally under 13. but somebody who's not in the tire shop he can't say hey don't be Messiah with a two-year-old he's not in the parachute um explain that oh and here's what we're talking about before you mentioned this before very much there are people that the best steps into the shoes of the husband if the husband became a death mute that is interesting to me because death mute and gimbara is somebody that doesn't have enough attacks but over here you have a 35 year old intellectual and he became a deaf mute so then he lost his Circle something uh you see you see interesting thing here maybe uh maybe because he can't communicate now right now today he's he's missing he's missing something in our situation he doesn't know it's flight okay that's the bottom line he doesn't hear anything he doesn't realize people are talking around him you know your wife is not behaving correctly and he doesn't hear he just doesn't know so business has to step in this this one we can understand better he lost his mind or he's a prisoner and those days a prisoner was a prisoner they took somebody and they they threw him into a a pit they gave him a piece of dry bread and they they saw him later you know after two weeks there's no no rights no cell phones no nothing rather one day I read an email from a prisoner says he watches the daf no he didn't say he watches the roughs that he watches Rob wrote an email for him he's the rabbi the prison remember this email I'm just remembering now he asked me again tomorrow or something yeah okay different these days we have people that are communicating with the outside world when Benson steps into the husband's shoes doesn't mean they drag her to the base I make those and they give her the water to drink when they warn her they tell her so check this possible I'll read it to you behavior is that the man must bring the wife to the coil that person is not a man okay so it has to be the husband who brings the wife there's another policy that says impossible we saw this partial over and over parakeet in by midburg you know uh he felt jealousy bikini and he warned his wife so again the question here is something that only a husband can do it says bikini he wondered his wife it doesn't say best in warn the wife it says he himself wonder why so even if if best didn't warned the wife and the guy gets free from jail a week later okay that's emotional somebody came out of jail but somebody that was the president was kind of the wife and he comes out of jail so I was out of jail because I use the key to your best yes or no no what do you say but based on this person you can't because it says only he could do the kingdom that's one mandala mission is higher by law available I could use their keynote I cannot use their steer another way I can bring her all the way to the misamination give her the drink because that everybody agrees on the positive behavior and that's that's a green ball upon or Mandarin religious argues do we learn possible or not and that he argues he says that the kinu can be donate their best says yeah let me just see how much time do we have 33 minutes okay says we see from the first words of the Muslim that an arusa an Engaged woman will call her and engage just for English-speaking people it's not really engaged it's much more than that it's the ring she doesn't drink the water okay in other words she becomes Usher to her it says out of here you're at it out the door with nothing you don't get any money but she's out she's awesome monotony how do we know this whole thing is here's the puzzle I can't show it to you I feel bad I don't want to touch anything but it says in the process like this so if you think about it so I already told you to speak and you shall speak to them and say why why do I have to say it is a little extra that little extra comes to tell us there are people that you have to speak to it doesn't apply to ish ish is also double ish so says tell these additional people first of all the very natural talk to Classon General but you should know you should also talk to more people there's more people that have this Allah there is oh in other words to make her answer on you there is but they don't drink the water um says they don't drink water both of them we have two people in our mission also so we're gonna see his follows that when it comes to narusa an Engaged woman everybody agrees she doesn't drink the water the only question is the shemares this woman who fella even but didn't marry the of them yet they're waiting for something or right now we don't know does she drink water and uh rubyitis and the our mission that's the emergency album doesn't drink noise [Music] uh let me see for a second I just want to make sure I'm not showing you the wrong puzzle what's a good test no yeah pull this out it works oh no that's something else okay yeah no I have half and half times okay no that's the wrong one so let's let's get that off the screen here we go okay Russo right we're talking about that they're married your husband arusa Arizona maybe I'll come to exclude that uh does not drink water like our mission says our mission says she doesn't so from the positive we'll go back to that that you could see this is comes to say that a shemares does drink water not like our mission is does not drink water so maybe issue so now we have another positive this is over here you can see the possum this comes to exclude the Naruto she doesn't drink so now we have two women don't drink that fits right in there says gamara what's the logic behind it why does One Man armor say that an arusa everybody agrees that an arusa doesn't drink water the question is does the chimer's yellow think about it pause for a second don't look in the gemara who is more connected to the man an Engaged woman that has a ring on her finger the man gave her a ring and they're engaged or a woman who the Tyro gave her to him there's no not going to be an engagement but there could be a Khalid he's kind of which one has more connection to the other and that's the mahoga is here that's exactly no so that's different than this very very this it's a lower zika and it's different and it's different I would say that's actually Sugi nirvamas you know how much and weird and what um he gave her a ring he's the one that decided to get engaged her she decided with him and she is high of miso she's mizana she gets miso like a married woman your father doesn't get me so she once she's married but in that state of zika that state of abundance it's not strong enough to kill her we've been out of Shiloh and we're going to talk about it what if she was mizano could he marry her they weren't that connected holds no the opposite you don't have to do a hookah with her straighten the bill issues but what is using the words issues what does it do with the extra words all these people that have something lacking in their brains best then does the kinui for them days the members of the HBA group and their families of Maine for all those who skipped all the emails in this year and are doing now on the base so I want to tell you don't tell me I didn't tell you there's going to be a live sheer in Brooklyn New York this Sunday I don't remember what the website is it's something live mdy live something but aquapon it's in Beth L at I think six o'clock.com here this puzzle right over here what is he doing we didn't we didn't address that is going to tell us a bunch of things that the man is similar to the woman also when it comes to this site question is because we have this took him that say that these two women are excluded from drinking water hello you'd say no an Engaged woman she drinks water bomb Kasha in order to drink water there had to be relations between the husband and a wife you can't have a woman who didn't have relations at all in her life and she was with another man how do I know this from apostle and isn't this couple the regular couple they didn't have relations yet so how could it be how could you be a site that all what's your even what's your have on me says tomorrow um it says here's the possible you you veered you steered away you strayed foreign besides your husband without your husband in other words it seems from the positive that you already had relations with your husband she had to be with her husband in a case where the first person that was with her was this knife so how do I have a half Amino that is a hello you give it to drink water um you're right we must say if so in this in this part of this now we're talking about a crazy case of you this guy went against and he was with his own engaged wife before the knife in other words this is a crazy this is a woman already who has a history okay so wait a minute but if I'm also we say and so so what in other words why would you need a person to say that special policy Obama she doesn't drink but wait a minute she was never with her husband you have to say she yeah zigmar says the album business you're gonna have to say the same answer he said a second ago that the Universe was with her brother-in-law the guy they love him that that was waiting to marry her she was with him oh so we're going to get into the exact thing right now this second foreign it's very interesting yes it has to do with intent besides by your mama in other words if Hassan has relations with his Kala and the intent was stop no intent for kadushan like the first mission inkedution okay but by ebome it's different a yoga who has intent stop s she becomes his wife instantly the Hassan who does that they don't they remain that's the thing Martin is saying here one says even if you ever mistakenly took the Obama she becomes his wife 100 no automatically they become husband and wife so then there wouldn't be a situation of a shame she's no longer waiting for him she's already his wife so can't be that they were either foreign she becomes 100 the wife says Rashi if he's a coyote she eats Truman He arches her and she requires a get at least it doesn't work anymore it's a full-fledged marriage well somebody who argues on RAV his name is and for the get are they 100 married or for everything else they're not married it's not a real marriage it is she is considered a shame uh sorry um I wish I could show you this thank you this is a very very simple chart I'll tell you what it says in the chart here oops let me show up okay Raph says what's up like rubbish more Raph says that if uh yavam has a relationship with the ivama not meaning to marrying her just have religion she becomes his wife 100 shmuel says no 50 let's call okay so ribio is the one that says well in our mission we have our behind us and says that uh she's not 100 married to him she's waiting in the wings she's uh she's bonded him she's cooking them doesn't drink beside the water oh you know what it makes a lot of sense shmuel says that this SRI mercy of them who had relations they're not 100 uh married so if they're not 100 married then she shouldn't drink water water is only for married couples great rabbu says that when they have relations they become a hundred percent married he should hold that you do dream it's a regular couple match up [Music] says no not other than this like what do you think I RAV who say that she's married 100 I could say like your medicine that there's no drinking I mean this is to exclude and to say you see so you see from the apostle the player is trying to tell us that she's considered 100 percent his wife say no I who say that she's not his wife completely or anything I'll say even like rubioishio says that she drinks the water I mean this is since you need the positive to say to be marble so you see that she's not his wife for everything but boy side this was the Shabbos Shira 10 o'clock I think it had solo though maybe you should um I don't know we have to ask you something what does he say here Harley's here okay although it's better to do an adult because of the screens and schmacker over there anyway but we want to thank godora for letting us be here today and have a wonderful Shabbos amazing Sunday in New York see you