Daf Yomi Sotah Daf 18 by R’ Eli Stefansky

foreign [Music] because uh it was a big rush just made a dollar about an hour ago so very few emails at a very very short time to get ready for sheer doing the charts and everything else today is 10 days in oymer it's about the yomi they change it beautiful it's about the yomi but it's the Sphero that is oh you want to see that okay here we go and attached is a picture of SV lounger a special young man who took a break from eating chocolate in Orlando to relax on the couch while watching his favorite videos my name is Joseph with vinchuk been following your for over two years my father-in-law is a Heavenly refuel and he has the item if they could dump his final he sent in a few emails so sailor we'll do that and on to the sponsorships the coil is sponsored by Anonymous from Lakewood the most responsibilities wherever I go in Chicago I said over the story about manathim 20 times since uh young to began whoever I see I come to myself guy who gave and gave right before his theater that this will desire to get more people to join Tyra the only way families seconds third fans of the month the entire family management fourth spans for the monthly leadership bar mitzvah see a lot of knives he uh he helps me out a lot by this human he didn't he wasn't able to come to the one in Miami and he put a lot of pressure at the end he came with his wife that was the deal you get his wife to come he comes to Chicago once again we're in the middle of I met a lot of Laboratories over Shabbos and they all tell me yeah we do we do yeah we know we're almost deaf and daf with Chabad when they start the second day from daimer suicide got it that's why I asked uh laboratory today because he said that he does the dust I said no if you do this you must know the answer because I asked a bunch of lit fights they didn't know that we're gonna learn today we know that if somebody gets divorced they have a mitzvah to remarry their spouse Madison however if his wife his ex-wife got married to somebody else in between so it's awesome to be Max also what if his wife didn't get married she was with another man but she's never got married is that the same thing as getting married and is it also or not say oh sir you're not real about you you didn't learn sorry the last year no that I don't want to put you on the spot the answer is huh the answer is that's what you say why you say it's awesome no you're right I'm wrong it's right that's right if a wife no I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm right you're wrong yeah what if she's Mizan with with somebody's married with somebody else but not through marriage then she's muttered to her husband mother why because the tire only answers when she gets married to somebody else there's nothing to do with with any action any mice that has to do with being married to somebody else okay Olive five lines from the top because terrible situation and Christopher two scientists happen and they wrote two McGillis each site they got their own megilla the time remember we said I know is not supposed to do two settings at the same time but if there are two koihan I'm doing it then it's okay so they wrote to McGillis for The two scientists so I have a number of questions here it goes in steps what is the Mitzvah what is what's going on here and we're going to go through them erasing the name of Hashem happened in one giant cup let's say of a half a lug of water Mao is that good enough they wrote each mcgillah each woman has her only Gila that's great so the bottom line the question is do you have to erase the water for each woman or no the the icker is that there should be a Magilla for each one and then even if you say they have to erase it for each woman so each woman has to have her own individual plea that you put the Magilla in and you raise it so okay you did it you did it the right the problem you wrote to McGillis and they erased it in two different caleba Mao and after they were raised you put them all into one Kali and now they drink from The Clique at the end of the day you did everything great now there's another question do we also mean that each woman should drink her own cup we know the even if we say that the mexica has to be your own what about the the drinking so it's different steps you see we spoke about the writing we spoke about Mexico and we spoke about the drinking it is if you say it's a problem she has to drink her own how about Hazard Mao they erased the McGillis in two separate vessels they went ahead and they poured into one vessel then they took that one vessel and Portobello did they said oh it has to be separate so they put it back into two separate Caleb obviously each Queen now includes a little bit of ruffle a little bit of Leia a little bit of rock a little bit of Leia the question is maybe each woman doesn't need her own doesn't have to be hers when she drinks it it just has to be for her she has a plea doesn't have to be 100 ruffle water it just has to be 100 foreign that's the question yes this is not your typical retroactive clarification breaker that we have throughout Jazz this just means do we do we say that all she needs is her own and she has her own cycle hey it's a lot of times in shots we have these kind of questions very darkest sticker questions the gamara says I don't know foreign is similar to what we have today like a straw using let's say some Lily or whatever some sort of flower that the stem is hollow like a straw which refers in some sort of pipe Mao is this considered drinking is this how people drink now Raja says well you know children drink like that it's interesting to point out that the marsham brings out tomorrow and the marasham says that based on this this is interesting Allah if a person you hear this if a person is never sick and they tell them you have to drink uh non-kosher wine let's say or I don't know lard Pig who knows what for his health so drink it with a straw because not so sure if a straw works for us like that so maybe it's not there he says better than than drinking it straight out do something that ruins the steer and some some screaming and Shrine no by cited is a it has to be there still by by by traif there's no still it's just that it goes into your body okay but that's that's the murder Shout the remote says Stam as a side note similar to this Aloha he says that one should not make kiddushas because all these Allah we have when it comes to wine in a very narrow cup you know maybe something like this as narrow as this would not be okay according to Remo says it he means to say not because of their steel but it means to say because he can't see the wines you're supposed to look at the wine when you make the bracha okay not gonna drink from this we'll drink from here I have a cup today this is also something that are still blessed I just I was debating it's Mata Shabbos and I said the story recently I'll say it again because it happened here in Chicago the my kids wanted to go on an RV trip set us mice a number of times this is in different parts of the story so I promised them for a couple years that we're going to go on RV trip RV trip and I didn't realize how what a problem is to rent one and I said okay we'll go probably on Sunday Monday I figured I'd just call up the place they could call a purse and you get it and they I call them these plays and said no we're out it's August we don't have anything you have to call up three months in advance what so I went online and I I saw a couple of RVs for for sale in the neighborhood so I went out with the only Delbert and I just called the guy up a whole long mice I was in the middle of the night he was upset at me says he wants 26 000 for his RV all the thing I go out to I said but I promise I promise I promise promise it came with twenty six thousand dollars in cash so that's in cash I didn't know a thing about RVs I didn't know if it works doesn't work in the cash and I drove away and we had a trip with internet to um to Lake George in New York from here and the kids ate pizza my wife plugged in a toaster oven and I'm like it was a hoggy schmuck and I didn't let them use the bathroom because I didn't know how to clean it whatever it was a great story and then I come back to Chicago now what says oh I have to you know if I couldn't find one there must be other people like me like maybe somebody wants to rent it so I I put it up on on the same place Craigslist for rent and immediately people started calling me guys yeah he wants it for a few days he said okay six seven hundred dollars a day whatever it was and then he says okay he's coming to pick it up so I go into the RV I got to check that all systems are working now the bathroom I wasn't sure but the sink I never really used to see so I see a bunch of buttons says on pump this this I stopped pushing it doesn't work it's like a genius I decided to see if I could get some suction going so I go to the to the spout of the thing and a sink and I hear I hear like the water sniping oh this is good this is great and I'm I'm I'm sucking this up and all of a sudden the water comes into my mouth but it didn't taste so good it tasted sweet so I spit it out and I see in this thing I see a bunch of pink stuff in the sink so I realized I just drink a bunch of anti-freeze I remember hearing once the antifreeze right there so go on Google right away and if it had to kill your neighbor's dog give him some antifreeze the human being will die after two days or whatever sorry right away go ahead get on I get on uh I'm poison control and she says what you want to commit suicide I said no I just drink a little just about Sir are you trying to commit suicide no I drink it by mistake okay finally I said what should I do run to the hospital so I come inside uh it's like two in the morning my wife says what happened I said the good news and bad news the good news is that I'm not going to die today the bad news is I might die in two days it takes two days to get delivered the whole thing anyway I was giving sheer here in Chicago in that Das our learning office and I'm learning reading and it says you should not drink out of a ferris without looking inside what it is because you don't know there might be leeches there I was shocked it was literally like two three hours after the story happened and in the gamara it says you shouldn't drink out of a shriferous don't drink if you don't know then I said today modern day you have leeches we have antifreeze what else is talking about okay why did I say the story because I don't know it was a shot because it says for Ferris next so I got so many mices out of that RV even though whatever okay at the end they made money under the whole story okay where are we I have no idea boys we're holding time 14 minutes okay we're doing good it's a short time buyer bash mouth everybody's looking to see if it's short or not short it's short trust me Mao so we start out with a half a log and a bunch of water fell out and you have leftover water yeah let's see reviews left over is that okay So based on this revashi I don't know I didn't see anybody saying it but it comes out that if if you have a half a lug of water you have to be super super careful when you give it to the woman one drop spills out of the clean you might be up a creek over here what are you gonna do it says who doesn't say how much you might the more is saying that you might need the entire half a look for it to drink from uh just one as you you you're moving it and some some of it falls out it's not good llama so here's the Apostle the sukim that we saw the other day we had four sukim so it says like this is show us all what's going on here why is the crane making her swear twice that's the discussion in the next few lines what's going on so in fact it does make you swear twice what's going on says first attempt is first he makes her swear he swears her before they raised the whole megillah and one of them is afterwards if you look at the mirror let's look at it here these are we saw a new testament large but now that we had a pudding spot and only in possible then she drinks it both of these Schwarz happened before the Mexico of the megillah so if you look at this Allah Allah is a curse so we have the word Chua to swear makes her swear and Allah is a curse and positive test we don't have a curse he swears her up he makes her swear or he swears for her should be always the second one is a different type of it's a schwa that includes a curse foreign I ran out of time I wanted to do a very simple chart here but okay we'll understand it without it how does it work s so we have to pay attention and remember this coming word I am making you swear that you didn't you weren't even available that if foreign he's not swearing up the woman he's swearing to the curse that the curse should work that if you didn't if you were over the aveiro then in the curse but what you have here is two separate things you have your life first is and then came the curse what should have been is you should have said the curse and then a shrew after that the curses that you're gonna explode water's gonna come is flow and I'm swearing that that should happen but what happened was what he said is First the curse and afterwards he said the curse sorry hello is sorry maybe this is what Raj was saying before this is what the Rashid I said before goes on this I think yeah sorry so erase what I said before let's go back then so that there's no mistake maybe even erase the whole thing all right into mace he makes a sure that she wasn't over another for if you became Tommy you should be cursed so there's a schwa and a curse so you have a schwa in the beginning and you have a curse at the end but they're not connected they are connected Robert connects them is at the end of the day what you have here is a big curse you have a sure that the curse should be kind but you don't have a schwa in the woman explains ration the the schwa must be on the woman because it says let's see if I have it here yeah look at the beginning of a puzzle Club so what's the swearing the swearing is in the woman not in the curse according to rava the swearing is the curse he's he's making sure that the curse should work by being be at the curse that's not what the tire says the tire says the woman hello Omar ravashi must be on your life learned maze exactly like we said all the way in the beginning but before when I told you to pay attention to the word over there it says the shin that's that's all the chart I want to do I want to show that the beginning it said and now it says the one difference in the letter and a vowel is the entire difference here it makes a huge difference before we were saying in for if but if they're not connected over here it's that if it's connected you see Vim there's a connection between the curse and the schwa whereas before is I'm I'm making you I'm making you swear for if it's very different so now we have it fixed we have Two Shoes one is by itself goes together with a curse but it's very much together and it has to do with the woman to the woman and that if you sinned then the curse will come into you okay we're supposed to have a a riddle where do we say in Shahs the word amen amen amen three times very good this guy is managed on the balls water guy what's your first name it's water right Waters Walters authors I sold Mendy's parents their townhouse on Sacramento how many years ago as you're alive but only two years old or something so says Mendy yeah many Waters that it's how to see him so so I'll change it I knew you're gonna say that but we're in shots that's after you finish us we're in shots the only time I think is that we're missing the right here is huh you're right you're right so why does the woman say amen amen twice did you say Amen what I mean right we don't say much finished now I think it's kadai to see this typhus on the bottom over here um three lines from the bottom says number one says that the word amen is like swearing okay that's one you're accepting upon yourself something that we just said you're you're saying that what you what you heard it's true you believe in it so stop he says then amen when you say uh when you hear amen you say Amen when you say Amen that it's true also that I believe an Imam I believe this is what he says but also the mission bura sticks in that a person when he says amen certain brachas you have to have kavana that it should become it should become a queen it should be real quick should happen right certain things so says the mishnah Allah why twice so now that we know this is this thing what is our men could be a mean means that I believe in what I just heard um says says Allah I'm saying oh she says Amen on the curse so it's like so we have both both things that Tyson brings down what amen means says the mission that's what she's saying she's saying one our main instead of having two cavanas in one word she has one amen that it should become a queen the the courage to become a queen like foreign just the opposite she should blow up another one is that it's a sure I'm swearing it's like I'm in a swear illegal shelves no there's no that's virus you believe don't you believe I'm making sure and you you accepted it that's it you can't say I didn't mean it is okay then she's out of there the whole point is she can also admit she could also this I'll say this because Mr Chavez and oh we have pleasant time the there's Allah that you shouldn't say a lot of Kardashian so like for instance in md1 the mismatch we limit the Kardashian to one after dominating maybe two if this is like uh somebody has a yard set or something but you know inspired him like to do a lot of condition so somebody stood up there in the spider surely said hey so some guy says well this is okay all made me is there so we continue it said she says I mean twice all my music I didn't do a good thing okay um now this is very very interesting what just happened we know the homosexual learning that when she she's a saita she's it's a very specific thing she's married to Ruben Ruben had a hashash maybe she went with jimin it's very it's on that guy that he warned her not on another guy over here the mission says no I'm saying on the man that I warned you not to be missing and I also want to include Levy what is that called Google says rash what's Google means I'm gonna add other once I bring somebody into business if they they swear that they didn't bar for me XYZ I can add other stuff and also making sure now and this and this and that she's coming today you're right only on Ruby but now once I have her here let's just add something else says Rashi the last last line in Rashi when my calendar this right over here this mishnah is is the concept that we learned in for all of the tyro of gilgushua we learned from another thing also in Google is I'm also swearing that I didn't do anything when I was engaged to you not engaged but arusa some of these days the members of the HBA group and their families are made so let's just do this why not so over here we have Reuben married to Rojo your xiaomi lady and he has a brother Reuben didn't have any children and he goes bye-bye so but he didn't marry her he was somewhere else let's say he was he was in a different country so now he wants to make sure that after he marries her he warned her just like a regular husband was his wife could warn his wife not to be missing somebody he says listen I also want to make sure that you warned when you were like sort of like engaged they're not engaged it's called the zika then when you were in the wings when you were waiting for me to come back from Heritage Road or from England I want to make sure that at that kufo before we got married after your husband died and before we actually had a Hasina I want to make sure she never was born before it was nice she wasn't warned that's the whole point it's Google I warned her six years later but because I brought her to Benson and now she's swearing that this year she was a mizana and by the way I also want to make sure I had and I just realized when I was out of the country I I have a chance also it was six years ago you're right and I didn't warn you now I want to bring you in for that Macy yes these waters are gonna make me explode remember this is amazing I am swearing that in the future I won't be mizana I'm gonna be faithful forever I'm drinking the water now what happens when she's amazing she dies you more explains when she's mizana she will explode retroactively it'll work today that water stays in her how so you can do that that's like that's big big stuff I'm worrying in the future but everybody agrees if he does make her swears you have no right to find out what happened before you even knew her before there was abrus and you can't force her not to do anything after you get divorced you're divorce finish now she's she's free to do whatever she wants you're married whatever you can't tell her not to get married after you after you divorce her now listen to this Allah that I asked you in the start of this year zero if she secluded herself she was either emo so says the mishnu if he returned her let's see in the game okay the bottom line is his fouls if it has nothing to do with him if there's no issue time he had no connection to her she was she they weren't even engaged Imam um oh so it goes like this let's go back a step foreign she he divorced her and she went with another guy but she didn't marry the other guy stop Messina with somebody else and then she went back to her original husband so there's a Mexican and Obey Rashi points out this is unbelievable that not everybody knows so if he divorces his wife and he remarries her if she got married in between it's awesome what if she's just messaging between its mother he has no right says the mishnu to find out what she did in between the marriages because if she was just Mizan it's none of his business it's not awesome for him and he he can't put a schwa on her he can't make her swear oh you weren't with somebody else while we were divorced it's not your business it doesn't make you her other to you if it made her offer to if I made her answer to him then it's his business but as long as it doesn't make your answer to him that's not his business then work foreign this is also a very very interesting maybe not everybody knows this Allah like this sadik said before this year well in the beginning this year that if a woman is mizana while she's married she has to be divorced she can never be with her husband again what about oh she marries yavam this case her husband died she's supposed to marry her brother-in-law but she didn't yet your problem was in England they're waiting for him and she went and used mizana before brother-in-law had a chance to be me abime is she like a married woman who was mizana and can never be with her husband and mainly she can never be with her yoga or not they're only somewhat engaged but not really um she has the same Allah like a wife and I'll prove it to you says because it says that if in our mission this remember is the album this is exact story The of them is in England she's waiting for uh if you say that she becomes that fits right into the mission now we said he could only make her swear on things that make her author to him if Hachi had a relationship with another person even not marriage just nuts would make her also them Emma melee can make a he can make it part of sure so he could put it tonight in their condition and then make her swear in it earlier what if you say that while he was in England and she had some sort of thing with somebody else it doesn't make her author how could he make her swear on it and we learned in our mission is that cloud because you see from our mishna that even though she's not married to him she's just cooked at him she's waiting for him to marry her she's still also business I remember listeners that love is not like that why hello at our mission now is a big right from original okay there's a little Tyson's here that's the rabbana also but rubikiva hopes the armor and conditions what happened okay let's do this person oh this is the rice in red to marry anybody else but that's only it's the Riser it's only it's so it's only a love it's this or there is if it's alive there's no miso of the opinion if she's over on that is then the condition is not how then then he can't marry her the album can't do it anymore that's it he's dealing with a woman that's awesome to him like a coin camera in almana uh okay America she had it's her love is the kadushan toif is it doesn't work and he's just over on a lab or not Rebecca holds that the condition doesn't even work there's no condition oh he could Accord he could throw it into the shoe and make her swear on it oh boy now she has not the money sooner showing him okay so right over here very very simple I don't really need a chart but Ruben and Rojo were married in step one they got divorced and then in step two they remarried again so in step two all of a sudden he he warns her don't be Messiah with somebody else she doesn't listen to him he brings this and he says hey by the way before you drink this water also swear and drink this water that you didn't do anything in the in step one I need to make sure I was in Step One [Music] here same story step one was she was married to reuben reuben went bye-bye so she married rubin's brother now Ruben's brother is very suspicious he warns her and then he takes her to the base on mcdosh and then he tells her wait a minute while you're there while you're swearing I want to make sure that you didn't do anything while you're married to my brother Reuben does he have the right to do that tashma the answer is very simple saying tomorrow Zach Cloud it says in our mission he cannot make her swear on something that doesn't make her awesome but if it makes your answer to him okay very simple let's go to this case in he's in step two his second marriage to her right because if the old joke that I said 400 times for the second marriage she's perfect for the first marriage you gotta get divorce her but for a second marriage is great okay so he's married different the second time could he bring up their previous marriage and say hey were you mizana while I was married to you in the first marriage the answer is 100 equal why because if she was Miss Anna while they were married in Step One she's also forever there is no step two so he has to know it does make her awesome and the same thing with this case if Rojo was mizana in step one while she was married to Reuben so she would be also to ruvane he would have to divorce her and there would never be ye boom she would never fall to the brother Sherman so now Shimon is asking her were you mizana with when you were married to my brother it's very important to know because if she was then she can be married to shiman that's what the mission says so he has the right to be much beer on the previous marriage with the brother and the previous marriage with himself one that I I didn't sin I didn't become Tommy and the big hiddish the bomb that I won't become Tommy in the future says it's not that the water is and the the water knows that she's going to be over is Sir in the year 2027 and therefore in the year 2023. she blows up which is almost an impossibility how would she die today for a sin that she didn't commit yet but the water knows she will commit she would remain alive okay so don't even think that it doesn't matter hello like he said she drinks the water in 2023. she 2027 she'll blow up in 2027 from the water that she drank in 23. boy ravashi now she asks nothing I don't like saying uh the non-jewish date but that's what everybody's familiar with so we say okay I don't even know what the Jewish did is tough Shin pay what give them okay gimmo guillemo and pejas great buyer foreign okay Franklin Morrow Cody make could he make her swear on the last marriage law father could he make her swear today he's in marriage number one so let's go back here for a second it's matters number one I want to make you swear about a future marriage so right now we're not there yet but I could divorce her and marry her husband you don't you don't make your swear on something that comes after a divorce vinitness what if he divorced her and then she went with somebody else but didn't get married Tommy oregano the what that if that's only because at that point they were married so he doesn't make her swear on the on the period of time that's that's not important then after their marriage she went and she was mazana she was single then so on that time he's not going to make her swear but afterwards when they're already married for the second time that that is important to him that does make for us with them and therefore he could make hers elf nice it says in the Apostle almost a contradicting terminology Zeus singular this is it Tyrese is plural zoys is singular Tyrese is plural hakunas this is how the parisha of Scyther works China says they can force the wife so drink a second time anybody's gonna go into it what exactly happened there is there another man involved is it another marriage what's going on no it's it's this only this one time it's not true the woman only you bring her you can't make her Meshuggah every every two weeks bring a little bit some English to drink it's a one-time thing one time she drinks with someone like as well [Music] his name was used to dig ditches so they should have water to drink a little bit of a need in here when exactly did he live because he was in time or there is a b and it says is testifying myself in front of me who's ready who does the one of the last time that ever lived he wasn't even at the time of the English so the Ivan says there must be that either he lived a very long life or this different gear say here different different gearses in the usami it says a different name completely there's a gear so that he he not that he testified in front of everybody who don't just reviewed and said this is what you said okay what did he say s China that a woman does drink twice more than once however it's referring to two separate men afterwards in other words one husband two men but not for the same men we're gonna see the whole Suite tomorrow more noise whether it's another man fine so we will stop here raboysai have a wonderful day tomorrow here in Chicago at 1 30 pm here in atsala