Daf Yomi Nedarim Daf 88 by R’ Eli Stefansky

all right so we have a lot of guests here I'm gonna ask the guests again if they can come to the front I can't start calling them out every guest in the house please come here meanwhile I'm gonna read some email let's go everybody everybody let's go let's go I know all these guys also see you guys you get over here come come get over here everybody what's going on here yeah let's go assimilation hi [Applause] I don't know if this is a good idea wow hey guys [Applause] [Laughter] squeezing [Music] now we're gonna start over [Music] all right [Music] we're gonna start from you you ready nice and Loud what's your name that wasn't loud enough no come on teach these guys how to do it well scream it what's your name from Lakewood you from Five Towns you from water park you yeah what's your name Josh from Ben Chavez you Eton bursting Springfield New Jersey Springville New Jersey what's your name hang up foreign nice to meet you Brooklyn New York with one of these guys names what Robbie Rose and Daniel Rose the way your rose also like him from everybody from Manchester he's going for the ball my favorite picture a bunch of guys wearing mdy sides I love it what's up yeah okay good it's perfect from where foreign what's your name what's your name you're gonna be there when I'm there February 2nd 3rd fourth fifth simulator from Atlanta G's in the house we can go back to your seats oh you also feel like it's unbelievable give all the good stuff here we're not gonna count but believe it and harder it might be a record might be a record wow the boys I want to show you something unbelievable the very very first America is definitely art book anybody coming to the CM in Miami is going to get one and anybody coming to the Sea um is going to get one other cities might have to print it themselves it was an expensive proposition what no it's all the art I'll give you an example here's every doth we picked one or two of the best pieces and we put it in there you kind of could jog your memory just go through it oh yeah I remember that I remember that make it based on Americans remember that one with the uh this way sorry okay huh and look look at this Gary zoom in on this thing it's unbelievable um do we have time for an email or two we have a big problem Avi there's a lot of emails coming in how do people from Hustlers join the mdy kids and the answer is they can't I think they have to make their own their own we can keep them on our schedule they have to make their own saddle okay but it's seven o'clock 7 30. no they don't do the same time Gary it's good for their time on their own but when when another city wants to do mdy kids we're going to start with the same as SEPTA they're going to do another set they're going to start at a different but they're going to start mcgilla you're going to be all in the field and how they're going to start they're going to start my son of Valley wants to join him the white kids ambassy recruit a few friends but we don't live near RBS can we learn this year from home and we'll sign him in can his friends do the same Avi Berg what's the answer [Music] yeah one plus one plus one plus one definitely and uh who's here tonight said that that's a word for word what I said when I reached a thousand stop the dealer and joined the tea board it's uh Better Together shots smiling odd talk to you later show The Sitter instead of saying shh try smiling odd talk to you later I hear the Rebellion please keep Calvin shoulder campaign stop the div and join the team also the athletes and anyway is unbeatable it's not about the deaths but the yomi has all song here either that's right it's all about me that's right [Music] but as very very catchy I'm warning you sincerely everybody in my house is humming it the entire showers ezrael Yuma daf 75 Yuma okay here you have a dentist in Baltimore that is Dr fall leader and Mikhail folder grandfather of Jaco Mordecai followed this time micro poster boy he's crying from the front desk of doctor leader so I'm ready in La heard you'll be stopping by during your your U.S trip you have dates would be up for from bringing or the like please let me know your talent Norm Casper Feb so the answer is I am Landing in Los Angeles Wednesday night so the kids are Thursday the second the third the fourth the fifth I don't have a ticket out yet so I might be there for a month or two who knows the coil was sponsored by Anonymous from Lakewood the coil is also responsibility supporting third strength and I will be talking is Freud on the outside of her father shimmy Weiss Staten Island 41 and out of my wife's birthday the daughter of Penny Town Staten Island 81. keeping him and the art is sponsored for complete reforms and the yc.com mdykids.com is foreign [Music] no let me see the thing no problems yeah we'll wait it's a good thing we don't have a button oh what's oh here we go that's the problem if I had a button there wouldn't be any problems Gary yeah today's sugio is about miktas you deal till the next mission Mexico means if a person only has partial awareness of what's going on partial awareness he doesn't know the whole Allah he's not really into it one of the Michelle gives is a blind person he's somewhat aware but he doesn't he's not a hundred percent knowledgeable what's going on so says the mission and by the way we had this Mission already we're very familiar with it the mishna that Haley give Miss responsible foreign I know that there's such a thing called another but I didn't know I didn't learn in Yeshiva I didn't learn myself this in the dorm I don't know that there's such a thing called uh over here that the day that the person finds out that this is afaro that's the day that it could be made for in other words he knew about his wife's nether he knew about his daughter's nether you know about it for six years finally the the cycle comes to the Durham and he finds out about this kind of hafara oh hafara that's the day that the Beyond shamai starts it says you could be Mayfair on the day that you hear the day that you hear means the day that you understand completely what if he knows the idea that the zafaro but he doesn't know that this is another what does it mean he doesn't know that there's another he's not aware that this is the type of nether that it could be made for in other words uh pharah is if it's in enoughes if it's Varma levino he wasn't aware that it fits in one of the categories what's up remember loyal offer so this is also a boy's eye a very very big Village today right now he's unaware if this is in the category so what should he do should he just be made for just in case no he can't be made for just in case because he doesn't know that Allah he doesn't know if it's in the category but here the village gets even bigger what happens when he finds out that this is in the category this is in the category could he be made for that day no why because he already heard about the nether well if I already heard about the nether yesterday so I should have been able to be made for yesterday no that wasn't enough of a hearing it was a little bit of it so what's going on in the spout there's a little bit of his Shemia he heard a little bit on Sunday it's not enough for him to be made for why because in order to be Mayfair you have to have a complete meal but the following day when he found out from the rough that this is in the category it's already too late for him to be Mayfair why because it's 24 hours later or it's the next day whatever we said it's amazing let's call it the next day it's already too late but I didn't hear it I only heard fifty percent so that's a big hiddish we're dancing on two hassanas here on the one hand it's not enough on the other end it's enough it's both says remember I'm a lawyer there's no way for him to be made for not today because he doesn't know that Allah and not tomorrow because it's too late and this is also very important because I'm saying no you can go ahead and be made for when only on that first day that first day go ahead even though you don't know that Allah because it's fine but the following day it's already too late according to come as well we're learning is a little bit of awareness he knows someone of the dorm he's not a very learned person he doesn't know the Allah so now that he knows this River mayor says loyal offer a little bit of idea is not enough of the idea I need to know the whole entirely and say you don't need to know the whole thing I can do how far even if I know 50 I know most of it a lot of it a little bit that's enough contradiction we all know this Allah here's a little bit of a of a mouse that blah when those books were out blind mouse or something we don't know these things it's enough for us the Americana show the guys they they have what's going on there there's something about a mouse is blind I don't know it has some connection to being blind no oh mdy sweatshirt the point okay nobody's getting off the cigarette there's a bunch of Art it says in the tire that if somebody kills somebody without knowing what is that called the shy gig and he goes he goes into golus now what does it mean he doesn't know so the tire says Blair is he didn't he didn't eat through a stone he didn't realize that somebody's there hit him in the head and killed him now what about a blind person blind person can't see ever so perhaps the player is telling us that a person who could see has the ability to see and he just didn't see nari that wasn't paying attention he goes with the ghost but a blind person who could never see maybe he's not in this pirate shadow if he didn't see because who always argues with the remainder as we may review though throughout chess so over here we see the opposite idea we see that when you have a mixers partially a deal according to abihuda it's not enough this blind guy goes scot-free so you have a blind guy took a stone through its Thumb in the ear and he killed somebody he doesn't go to ghosts the contribution he does go to golos why so the Run explains because a blind person is aware of his surrounding somewhat how we know through hearing they they could hear a lot better than us they use their senses and certain things more than we're able to do they make up for their for their eyesight in a way so they're not completely blind like nothing zero they they have somewhat of a of an idea of what's going on they hear a little ruffling in the in the in the leaves whatever it is they they have what's going on so Amela says remember little Rapids is a Sumo so here we have a problem because this is a case of mixed acidia he's not fully aware of his surroundings because he's blind but he has a little bit of an idea of his surroundings and remainder is the one who says that is mixes and our missionary is the one that says the mixes omarovo this is we can't really prove anything one of the other why because we have sukum and we're going with Israel but yeah here here's a blind guy in the forest very nice that's one possible rice we also have actually this is the famous policy I think this is more known than the other one that a person who's using an ax and he was chopping wood and the the the X part flew and hit somebody in the head and killed him now it says somebody went into the forest could a blind person enter a forest yeah why not so is anybody that can enter a fires a show is called the bar Melia or anybody that can enter virus including blind people Yahoo okay so this should tell us that a blind person if we just read this possible you can kill somebody ah the honest believer always the rabbit is you want to tell me it comes to say that a blind person is but wait a minute I already have apostle yeah anybody could go into the firesuma so I have I already know that anybody that goes into the forest describe so then why is the tires say below Royce to tell me that if you can't see your Potter that's what the positive is going not to tell me that we can't see your height so if you can't see your partner because if you can't see that you're high if that I already know from all the time I had to do is Forest anyway take a trip in the forest it's higher but the tire adds and says below your eyes he didn't see so it means to say that it's a person that could typically see and in this case he didn't pay attention he's high but a person that cannot see it all he is partner there's a muscle a guy was lost in the virus and he's going around around the circles for a day and finally finds the old man he's got all excited oh this guy probably could take me out so little man said don't get excited I can't take you out the only thing I could tell you is we're not to go I'll tell you all the all the paths I tried and they didn't work for me that I could tell you but more than that I can't tell you so the Nimble is a lot of times we ever obey him he asked him a question what is this I don't know yeah not every Webbie knows every answer to every question you can ask him very deep questions they don't know but they could at least help you to avoid the bad stuff that yeah sovar every mayor is going to hold the mixes deal is not a good deal so if it's not ideal how come by a blind person he's high of in it's a mixer city mayor holds is not considered knowing because we have a special person believed us one posix says he wasn't aware called the barometer visible you can say that Asuma has all the senses he doesn't have eyesight that's the number one thing to know if somebody's there ah the Amish believer oh he's Prada sumo the words boleroy is not saying we already said established comes to exclude him and say that a blind person also comes to say so now we have two to say that a blind person is not high we believe that it's an Africa what's going on here because a double negative is a positive we have two negatives we have bleed Dyson blade rice so this blind person has two negatives on him two negatives equal to a reboy to a positive and therefore a blind person is also known by some people as the official freedom and literally was my dear father this is a very sad mission to me I think one of the one of the biggest fights in classroom is between a father-in-law and son-in-law no you have to think about it how many people do you know that the they fight father-in-one son-in-law it happens it happens very often I I actually know somewhere very very close to some of you know him here but it's a problem I spoke designs it's lotion harder to say it over he he does he never really even met his grandfather because of a fight that this father-in-law and the son-in-law had in other words his father and his grandfather in a big fight his grandfather's a famous Crush of a person he never even met him so it's not and he told me it's not only it's not only the two of them it's it's every because a lot of times what happens is then the the uncles the aunts get into the fight what you're fighting with with my father I'm not going to talk to you either so it becomes a whole family feud why am I saying this for a public Service Announcement this this uh a good friend of mine Lewis calling from Chicago you know he was telling me about this guy that doesn't talk to his daughter don't talk to his daughter so I said I told him I want to meet him I want to I want to convince him he said what are your sugars it's already 20 years he doesn't his daughter it's over he said I want to talk to him this is years ago I was a young Snook so you arranged a meeting my I'm telling you might as well you could ask him he's sitting in the meeting I said I said it's not none of my business but it's about it's the saddest thing I ever heard you don't talk to your daughter says you know what you did to me and this and that and the whole thing guys it's Russia the bottom line is after the whole evening we sat there for an hour and a half back and forth fighting I said what so you're never going to see your grandchildren you're not going to go to the bar Mrs the wedding it's nothing because of this fight you should humble yourself I get more sir tuck it in it'll take you one minute you don't have to be your daughter's best friend but at least it shouldn't be a fight so you could get to know your grandchildren he's a macabo and he did it it worked myself you could ask you guys Lewis huh I don't even know who he is it happened this happened like 17 years ago my social huh [Laughter] it's not about why am I saying this because if that snuck 70 years ago did it anybody could do it but starting with yourself you're in a fight with your father-in-law or with your son-in-law humble yourself make yourself small ask mahila even even though of course it's the other person's fault 100 and you'll save your children and your grandchildren from Taurus everybody could do it and if you know somebody you could also it's not such a bad thing to go over to somebody and say hey shape up it'll help your life because nobody wants to be in a fight the schwer is a tremendous desire the son-in-law everybody's in Sarah just it's egos it's just Egos and glorious go by Doris it's unbelievable it's nervine it's for sure not bringing mashiach and it's for sure doesn't like it so anyways you have another mission a person says he hates his son-in-law so much he says I'm never gonna give the guy a dime never but he has a big problem um he sees his daughter struggling he wants to give her money but he already made another mattress like Rebecca I mean okay that's that's in that generation but we have it every single person in this room knows somebody in that fight everybody he wasn't mad at his daughter his mother his son-in-law my mother huh ah yeah it's even worse yeah yeah yeah fine so a few things first of all everybody knows this joke but because we're here we have to say it over just in case there's a 10 11 year old that doesn't know it and will get there eventually so you have to say that we have to say there's a few to say these jokes I want to shout out especially father-in-law went over to his future son-in-law and said you're a great guy and everything but how you're going to support yourself he says Hashem will help you might as well the joke okay I can't say what who's gonna buy you an apartment Hashem is going to help me and then he goes back to the future mother-in-law the trigger we call it trigger and he says I love this guy this guy's a great guy he thinks I'm God [Music] fine by the way there's an organization here in Israel if you didn't know about this it's a public thing they will get you a guy that doesn't demand a million sheko like every other guy Yeshiva the maximum I'm serious they have a Max they he could demand 180 000 should go I'm serious which is not it's not a lot compared to what the other guys are on condition they'll do it they'll set you up that you don't demand for your son more than 180 000 like if you have a daughter you're looking for a guy that won't demand 185 because if these guys are making these guys make a thousand shekel a month most of them a Kyle guy so for a thousand shekel a month how in the world could he afford a million dollar kasana it's a thousand months impossible so anyway is it a thousand ones I don't know so I'm thinking about it says but he wants to get he wants to avoid he wants to do a little trick what is he gonna do foreign so now he has to make two stipulations he has to say two things in order for this thing to work number one he gives his daughter money and he says I'm conditioning your husband that terrible rat and disgusting person I told you you shouldn't marry him the whole thing I'm giving you money on condition that you don't give anything to your husband that's number one that's not enough because we're holding because explain like we're mayor who holds so it's also not awesome yeah it's also in this case I can't give anything to my daughter because as soon as I give something to my daughter give her cash it immediately becomes her husbands so what do I do first of all I say your husband has no issues on this money hello so it's unbelievable it's dafka food that goes into your mouth fine now this is if he gives her money if he gives her food you don't have to do this whole thing why because food a wife could keep it away from her husband and the ram brings a Raya a beautiful Raya he says that if even if a husband gives his wife money he gives her an all out says here's a hundred dollars a week to buy groceries and she goes around and she finds the cheaper stores and she only spent 80. she's permitted she's motivated to keep the twenty dollars she could be with Samson says around you could she could keep the money for herself and buy something and do whatever she wants at the money so in Mela when it comes to designers it's hers so in money she has to make sure hey the husband the father has to make sure the the husband never puts his hand on the money second of all it goes dafka in her mouth what about if she wants to buy a blanket with it not something that goes in her mouth something that covers her not good only something goes into the mouth no jewelry nothing um let me think if I should say this here in your mouth yeah and Iran explains that it's it's the moment that it goes into her mouth then it becomes hers and at that time it's already too late for the husband to be kindness so just uh be Mario the team brother we don't have a mclareness here what the mission is talking about it's very simple that the mission is saying they have to have two to nine in this thing but the gamar brings a McCulloch is you have to say it goes into your mouth if you don't say those words it must go into literally physically go into your mouth and eat it then and you just say you can do whatever you want with it it's not good enough why because then the husband is going to be kind of and he can't be kind of why because the schwer made him made a another that he can't have any I know so that's our mission right no you don't have to say you have to eat it you can do anything you want with this money as long as your husband can't get to it is good enough so what's going on there Ishmael arguing on the mishna what's she all doing here no she was saying I don't pass again like the mission the mission obviously is saying Allah the last words it has to go through your mouth it's a small but you should know we don't pass it like that are you arguing Raph Raph says the Halal says you don't have to say it in your mouth whatever you want you can do with it as long as he makes the first stipulation what's the first stipulation that the husband can't touch it masculars so then who's wrath going according to Caravan mayor renew says all that I'll get there y'all say don't worry about it I know and then that's why I said what does Superman says [Music] Connor Rabbi yeah it's the same idea whatever a slave acquires immediately as soon as he makes a king on something it goes directly to the master the same idea and concept we have by a woman and a husband about for the members of the HBA group and their families oh Manu H [Music] um I'll never forget Ellie Dyckman said it to me a number of times laser Chef if you haven't learned there then it has a very bad rap everybody thinks we learned difficult air if not forget it that's when everybody drops off not true we had a lot a lot of fun in Irving and the Ellie that instead it was one of his favorite mystifles because of all the pictures that we had but anyway this is what Ervin looks like I just added a couple things here tonight for tonight's thing but this I took it straight out of made a beautiful publication spent hundreds of thousand dollars on this on this thing but anyway what you see here is the spouse you see on the bottom the streets like we have today that's the roots around they have a bunch of houses in those days the houses used to have a hotter in the front not so much in the back they could have an event but this hotter means in the front front yard and those hotseros used to dump off into a Marvel well today we'll call it an alley so what Allah does the mother have the one in the center what does that have this this particular Marvel it goes from Street to street from top to bottom so it's called the movie Foolish there's a little left you see on the bottom right there's all this and I I took away the uh the Clara okay fine that's not it's not important to today this marvely is you should be able to carry in it the issue is that it's isn't there a race at the carry from right Shabbos 101. can't carry them because the officers are out so how many Zera because look at this mother it's it just goes right into this Arabian so he said you know what don't carry over there you're going to come and you're going to carry by mistake from the Marvel into the surround people and forget the ball is going to go flying from they're going to play soccer it's going to go here don't carry there unless you make an arrow it's called the sheet of my voice and one of the things they put a lucky for a hacker that's but that's we're not talking about that we're talking about everybody in the hotter becomes partners and they become partner to the model and once you become a part it's like an area of a typical Arab where you party you're all part of this thing so it says like this okay time is how do you do this how do you become a partner in a mother we're familiar with the whole area of things same kind of idea you take a wine barrel yeah they used to do with wine vimer and now this guy's gonna be a nice guy he has 20 neighbors he's gonna start knocking everybody's doors to pen the neck so he does it he's doing he's mizaka the rabbit I could do it for somebody else I know that he wants it it's good for him so I'm gonna do it for him what do I do I take a barrel of wine it's not a it's not a cheap uh preposition it's not a it's not a bokeh with a neck this is prophecy iron you don't have to but that's how he did it when I raise the whole name of him I am donating my my barrel of wine as if each person in the Marvel in in this whole neighborhood owns a little bit of the wine if I have if this is mine if this is mine and I want to give it to you and you're not here what do I do I can't just put it down over here I need somebody to be Joker from me so I give to my son I give to my slave my evidence every not my slave my every I could give it to my wife so what does that tell me that I'm allowed to give something to my wife and I don't acquire it back from her once I give it to her it serves so what are you telling me yeah what are you tell me that's a problem um my wife could take a barrel of wine from me and it doesn't come flying right back to me Allah you just told me as soon as it goes into the woman's hand it goes right back to the husband not true here you have a case where it doesn't give something to the wife and she's looking for everybody else new so what's the obvious answer to that what would you say new avi I see you have a good answer no what is this no no no no what no something better no something better oh very good yeah it says you want from Brooklyn that's what happens when you when you learn all different Brokers you start becoming a London so that's basically what Robert says here the armrest but let's first ask the cash be honest calling yourself and if the shot is that the husband acquires and it's kind of everything that the woman is calling her hey really nothing we should say the bow then it comes after the the barrel of wine never left the husband's hands because as soon as he gave it to her he's coined it again it's a nice trick I'm around oh no this is what I'm saying I have a guy you're right typically if a woman walks in the street she finds a diamond it goes straight to the husband but over here why they're mainly in shithoff the kidney he wants the other people to be like oh in other words the husband has the right to give his wife a gift if he gives his wife flowers or Shabbos what it comes right back then no it goes to the wife he buys your jewelry it goes to the wife she has the right to resent him he said so here also he says I want you to be quiet designing with other people so that that she doesn't have the right the famous story but it actually had it happened a few times in our generation but it happened in the time every visit where two teenagers were I don't know the the guy took a ring he said all right and it turns out that it was hurting she took the ring she threw it it was in front of the Vadim it was a big problem what do you do she was crying she didn't want it so that's what happened she said I gave him the ring as a I didn't ever game the ring I told him to hold it he said no she gave me the ring so I should be Zuck on the ring so I could be my character shirt and brick rounds she says it's not anxiousness so someone wanted to Tina that it wasn't even her ring why because who gave her the ring her father but the father is kind of everything that a cotton is kinda but reviews of all improves from this gamara over here it's not true that when you give a gift to your cotton you buy him a bike you're giving it to him sometimes no I don't know you have to know I'm not passing you here but sometimes you give your wife a gift most of the time you give it to her and you give it to her it serves she has the right to give it away to somebody else to sell it you see from this gamara typically you'd say call Majic and what a cotton acquires is also the fathers but now when you give a gift gift is different so that not that wasn't the way out of it they had other ways aceved revealer of Ashley right because once the ring and the problem over there in that story is that once the boy had the ring she can't say what happened how he got the ring it says it's in his hand what's in his hand we don't trust her what happened now we trust him it says it's he's showing biles and he gave it to her that was the big problem okay however Ravina doesn't like why [Music] hey Lucius zuckerland these this is how you could do a sheet of advice we're going back the sheet of my voice now I have another category those who doesn't work I can't give a barrel of wine for all my neighbors guess who's in that category no this is a contradiction this is a big contradiction we have a theory between the Bryce and the mishnah the mission says a woman is good the right says the woman can't do it but the problem is says if Rob is right then we we could sort of enter the stereo there's a way out of this of emperor you can answer Ethan G told me I used too much too much fun part of it no that's Hebrew okay fine no I'm trying to educate a little bit this English fight once in a while I was thinking uh YouTube I'm going easy on you guys these words that uh I never use the word Halla is ever no I just mentioned it once in Iran that he brings it I don't there's other words that could really mess you up these are easy version there was a book it was a dictionary for yeshiva's your words it's fast the same book is there yeah fast and you know fast means nobody knows what it means it's a word from speak that's right first break that was it still out there did they another Edition with the nine words huh okay uh yeah another project so you hear that you're the Shiloh if Rob is right they can make such enough communities the husband wants the woman to be like and if he doesn't want he just gave it to her not so you can make some sort of answer between the the mission the braiser and we don't have that answer hello so you see this movie over here she owns one of those houses she's about a boss and and so what so now we have the famous concept of migun since the me good exactly enough Shaw she is a full-fledged owner and she is over herself she it's she took part of the wine for herself and because she could do is here for herself she has the right also once it's like it's like you know sometimes you do a schwa or something because it Israel you can do this more Shores well I took some wine I'm I like I'm a lot of quieter one great now I want to acquire for my friends and my neighbors similar to Mrs nazer what I mean if you have the right to take a free gamara from mdy you have the right to give another person a free gamara that's how it works sorry boys don't forget we're starting another very soon bring your friends have a wonderful evening we'll see you tomorrow at 7 15 base Hashem welcome to all the guys have a wonderful week [Music]