Daf Yomi Nedarim Daf 70 by R’ Eli Stefansky

foreign s all the way from Australia he was in this year for a few weeks no four years ago exactly four years ago and he tells me there are some people that come straight to Shear instead of going to the kaisal he came straight to Shear before seeing his own mother she said go to the street at first MS development it happens to be that this year [Music] how long do you plan on being here four weeks at the end of the four weeks it could be shy I don't know I don't want to say this but it's possible you'll be here more than your own Brotherhood [Music] he's going to start showing up now um we have unbelievable email here from common from the five towns everybody remembers common just want to let you know that coming up right after the fast you'd aleph Davis will be the third yard side of my dear father Israeli War hero and Holocaust Survivor can't believe it's been three years since I started broadcast with you please see attached pictures which I'm re-sharing to the day he died the night before his Tira he would recite a blood of Gomorrah by heart to me from Bob metcia from his learning 80 years earlier take your Rebellion all the mdy friends near far for allowing me to continue to honor my father here is his father we really hope maybe comment maybe we'll come to Miami you never know huh I'm inviting you come and I want to see you there the whole Loyola wants to see you in Miami dear belly if you still laugh I'm thinking about yelling applesauce diagram I don't know what that is and you watch your belly I think he means the football director really you don't get this and you watch Rebellion because you don't get this from it's really boring scene it might be an MD wire thank you Robbie it's V Hershman have no fear you'll be able to use your spiked pigeons for Kirby's position because in Thomas with Zachary's body face I think he's right there's no movement there's no Zucker only a bird that is missing a limb Jose from being used to describe should have that we learned cool and we learned you learn it and then uh you don't apply it I got the same email from two people it's the same status you could you could start it says there's a power status not about the Dallas of the army but over here on the right it says from Joe freed curious see the third screenshot from status from a vicious who's busy yesterday celebrating three years from the cmashas in MetLife Stadium three years ago and the hosted from Curious Joel replied saying that he found you the best mega chair ever keep it up rebelly you have lots of Christine flowers even curious not popular Joe freed from Curiosity oil New York it's not only not popular it's usher in a lot of places over there okay just to let you know it's been a year since I joined mdy fantastic year from Guild of Base I managed to also cover Shawn and tightness in the meantime like many other people that watch your interview other meaningful people podcast he said you guarantee that you'll be a better eat a better husband and a better father and you'll have better paranosa I thought to myself what right do I have to deny my wife and kids such as chance so next day I saw Robert Davis I got up in the morning and I'm still here he's on every single day on Zoom here's the finishing shots together and Grace is scrapped in the federal costs who recruited me to join him doing the death of the Rebellion here he is my boy said check this out I'm a stickle upset show them Rand because of what he says here at the end and you'll see what I'm talking about go go inside it's not about the job it's about rebelly's uh they got them from zhongren my wife still wears that sweatshirt unfortunately PS still waiting for my life to be changed first time Levine writes in a very long email here basically he said a very uplifting inspirational weekend they're here as a Claudius row um you met a lot of people changed the different lives challenges but kids there's a big family we're members of the movement created is really amazing he says he has a few problems first of all here's what's amazing the bottom line is he recruited together with Medallion Miller which I think is even more of an achievement a guy a guy is the middle of a of a big big event that he put together and he's busy getting guys to death total guys that they got to the daf how many 52 52 people but I think I told I told the Pacific time that I believe the reason why I use so many people is because he walked each Direction one hour one hour it's unbelievable to walk an hour he stayed in an hour away she says he got lost first time he's going he got lost and a guy saw him lost he saw he's looking so he went over them and said let me help you out where do you want to go he told him and then turns out he's a Russian yid and he said okay you should start looking into you this guy she said I think it's aside from Hashem if I met you I'm going to look into my Yiddish guide what he doesn't say here is that he got him to join the daf which was happened but that's for a different time then he says he sat down at a table and he met three different friends from different places and they all recognized him by the time Levin the holes off fine hoping to continue to bring even more people to share your talmud per sky and live in unbelievable mom is unbelievable 52 people I don't think I myself brought 52 people this year okay rabbi today's death how can a husband be my kind of another without saying McQueen anybody oh interesting that's not McQueen it becomes by itself means that you make it you make it strong in what case does a husband have more power than a father we said that the Father the father-in-law is more powerful than the son-in-law where does have more power than the father-in-law and then what is the difference between hattoro and afara anybody know what's the difference in a Torah and afaro which is coming coming to to take away a mistake that we had in one of our and some of our drawings we had that taught around a lot was really afara Atara is well how do you do Atara how do you do ataro who doesn't follow the father or husband who does that and what's the difference in Allah between the two of them you started saying um from Australia knows dancing how far when a father and a husband it's from here on out hatara means it never happened they they remove it retroactively revoke it and it's as if it never happened it was better I thought it's Stronger Yeah [Music] sponsored by anonymous from our children and five sponsors for the day fagi and George Freud on the outside of her mother Esther with Alia you're safe did you write this or they wrote it because I've never seen anybody spell the name fagi like my wife and here it is for the first time in my life f-a-g-i-e unbelievable nobody spells like that only my mother-in-law and here's another person wow it's very hard when you go get a passport faji or whatever you know it's not it's not good Abby mandelbaum in honor of all men underwires who have come to visit me and make me feel better you hear Abby Mountain you went who told us yesterday you also went so a bunch of people went Benny oh that's what it was you and Benny anybody else here go it makes him feel better yeah you you I also went with Gary no when he was he was in uh he was inadasa Cowman from the five town millberg he is I was on Zoom where's he on the top again where he always is he's always on top but I don't know how because you come on early that's where you go Ellie after hi Avi reports or Ben shalamus was having open heart surgery today before shlema Philip Byrne on the outside of pilfas rock 10th of Tevis in the art it's sponsor for complete reform for Khan TV then Leia I heard by the way you gotta pump to Miami we have 330 people signed up so far and tickets on Spirit Air to Miami 69 dollars so you could get a meal for less money than it costs in a restaurant in New York you just get on a plane come to the Sea home so even if you're not part of mdy if you want to Fresca schmuck come to the seal very good Rabbi Sai we're holding three lines from the bottom of some Testament base and if you look at the chart you have basically we're gonna have four simple questions one after another what happens when a person is makayum the Father the husband is mikaim the wife's nether the wife makes another she's not going to eat chocolate and the husband says it's mcquiam it stands for today only for today could you infer for that that he meant tomorrow to be move for what do you do with that what if he says I want to be made for it tomorrow does it start today does my action tomorrow how does that work what if he says I want to be mikaime just for an hour for a moment for a minute and what if he says I want to be my kind for a minute but I want to be made for it after the minute those are the four questions that we're going to have here boy rabba he says it should be McQueen today are we lambdana do we start inferring from his Lush and did he mean this he meant that um today only today it's but tomorrow it's mother until he didn't say it you have to say with your mouth that it's Muffler he didn't say it's Muffler you can infer all you want intimate enough you'll say okay he didn't say it oh [Music] but what if he says it should be more to you tomorrow so the ram points out that from the first question it says if a person says doesn't mean that he's that could you infer from it that he meant to say tomorrow to be mover so if you stop right there tomorrow you say move for it's good it's a good aphara it just we have a question does it mean did he say tomorrow's afaro again a guy says today's McQueen do I make a loved us and say but he meant that tomorrow to be afaro new and if he meant that it's good or not good it's good and then a second later we're asking hey what if he does how far tomorrow is that good he didn't do that far today he said tomorrow to be a mover you assume that's good and now a second lady you assume it's not good saman says we're going through the different phases here you can't we're going through all steps he says a little bit more okay um perhaps you can't be made for why because it's as if he was Mankind and I did today again it's it's an inferring what are you doing you're saying tomorrow you should be more fur so meaning today you should be makuyam or maybe if he says today does he may move for tomorrow filming that move for tomorrow would work and now we're taking it back wait a minute and assuming that inferring assuming that inferring doesn't work what if he said with fourish move for tomorrow does that could you infer from that McQueen today maybe they didn't say it he didn't say before his McQueen so all he was trying to tell are you should know you can start it from today I wanted I'm saying it today starting today tomorrow it should be mofer but today I'm not making vintage keeping the chemo you'll say okay yeah it works that what it's my kind you could infer and when I say Tamara Mayfair that means today I'm a kind and tomorrow what it's a little bit too late to be Mayfair I was already Makaya again tomorrow I want to be Mayfair okay and therefore today I am Italian once a makayam it's too late it's mccoying I can't be made for eign and you can't do anything about it so what about Omar law Mao let's say I'm a martial a guy's wife says I'll never talk I'm not going to talk to you ever again yeah he's annoyed at hers he says okay yeah it's a good nether but for just for an hour like I had enough of you now but I don't want you to not talk to me forever let's take a little break you said forever I was going to say lashaw just just for today me I mean and Commando all my love is he trying to say that after the hour after the day whatever it is it should jump into afaroid he didn't say it and if you say you have to say my footage what if he did say before or something in the last last case he said before you don't talk to me for an hour but after an hour I may fear you Nether and it's nothing Mew all my love but if you didn't say my me I'm really giving the chemical he was behind me for one moment that's it he doesn't have any resource to be made for anymore even for a moment he's still Within the envelope of afaro he could still be made for within that 24-hour period it's a little different than saying tomorrow it's over today I want to be Milford I want to do a little bit of Kim and a little bit of afaro it doesn't work foreign and therefore it should work MMA law what happens we don't know so we have to go to homura and then everything is and it's a good nether you have to go to homura as Iran says throughout the mosafta harani is zero so I thought this was a great case here mamish we could understand to give out it yeah getting married the wife is a lit fact and he tells her listen it's my minnow to shave your head she's absolutely not crazy it's my minute it's a big fight so she says you know what I don't know for this fight I'm in a zero forever I'll never I can now allocally I can't shave my head I'm in a zero she says oh yeah you're in a zero I'm a nozzer also you wanted me to trim I can see there's a beer to make it all litfish I'm an author no I can't I'm gonna go forever you're gonna you're gonna play games with me in the zero I'm an author I was doing Chevy Broncos later on it's straightened out so but here's the thing it gets even better zero I'm in a zero the show my Balor and he heard about this all he has to say is one word I want to be like you hey stop I have a interesting Shiloh I think Dylan knows the answer but it's kadai to repeat the Shiloh a guy with very long hair obviously is another yeah I've seen someone just recently guys another in your slime another long long hair you can't can't shave his head he sees me says Vani then that guy goes I think I have the picture here he goes to the best then and he says I want to be Mather the guy with the very long hair goes and he says I want to be Master minus zeros I don't want to be another anymore and they say okay fine you made a mistake you're you're out of it you don't have to be another anymore what about the guy that saw him in the street and said Vani three days ago a guy saw him in the street said I want to be like him I want to be another is he another what do you say at the time he was another but later on he got out Tara knew anybody you say not you say yes anybody yes yes yes yes but based on what we just said that our Torah means what you undo everything retroactively it's as if he was never another so the fact that he said is nothing it turns out he said Vani on nothing on a person that's not another three days ago when he drank wine three days ago when he was walking down the street and he drank one he's Potter I could undo everything says if he was never in love for a second retroactive okay so over here ain't when he says to his wife Vani I want to be like you that's it what is he saying he's he's essentially saying that I want to be like you you're going to be an azira and I'm going to be like you forever you can't be made for why because he's telling his wife you're in azir forever I'm an awesome Forever by mystery Tomorrow based on what we're asking here name of I need the Omar yeah so this is this is beautiful I I am only gonna last to be another for half an hour and why for half hour because I wanted to be hell for half an hour so that you will be in a zero and I will be like you because if you're never in a zero if I'm made for you in a zeros from the here on out then I can't be another based on you so if I want a base minor zeros based on you you have to be in a zero for a half an hour for this moment that I'm an azer for one minute and from that one minute on I'm being made for I'll continue being another and you won't be in a zero but that's not what it is we're saying that he can't be Mayfair Maryland why can't he say to her based on what we just said that you could be mikhayam another and then be made for another maybe we asked the Shiloh we don't know the answer over here I have a silo here's a woman who said I'm in a zero says the husband I'm a kind zeros so I can become another and five minutes later it's why not why can't you do that because it's a fast day sorry about Davis today I think his marriage fits in his mice and I said it once before but I think it's amazing the briskers a lot of briskers don't fast on a server tables and these kind of fasts so Brisco comes home Mama's throwing Cherry brushes are sober Davis because his wife I'm not fasting today she says why she says the Brisco Rob said he should be macaron when it comes to the Book of Life I have to be Markham I'm not I'm not going to fast so she comes home at night and he sees the table set for two he throws a fit what are you doing she said you're not fasting he said I'm not fasting what about you so yeah but he said you have to be mad because not women women don't have to be mad okay you didn't get the joke it's very funny actually hilarious you just give him a thing I think it's give all the good joke don't worry the guy's watching they know it's funny just because you guys don't get it you probably heard it four times that's why okay but it's a Tinus today he says to her like this he says you you go Viper mine is years and years of two different things we're on two different levels but you see you can't do that you see that he cannot be made for her in the zeros [Music] for a minute why did he say he should be going for a minute because if Bruno zeros is not my queen even for a minute then his nazirus is not how he's basing his nazirus on her right like the guy that's walking down the street and he gets our Torah and somebody says Vani it doesn't work so he wanted to work for one moment then he'll become another then he'll let her go free for a minute he doesn't have the option to be made for after that minute says no it's normal to understand that when a person says he sees his wife she's in a zero and he says Vani what's going on in his head he's going on his head that he he he's letting her be in nazira forever and he also wants to be in another forever or for whatever for the 30 days whatever this amount of zero says I'm not I'm throwing out forever because that's our case oh so very good Judah so I asked the question what else how can you be mikaime nether by saying Vani if you say Vani then you're mankind what she's doing that is a kill you don't have to say McQueen you could say I want to be like your nether or not says the thank you says the official mishnah sponsored by Alan Khan memory of your Heaven meaning so we have a freebie here because we had this already have lettuce right now here's the case so as you know hafara is to demolish the nether if you have a Hassan involved you have we'll call him about the mission calls him this entire Mission by the way you're talking about an Engaged Man artist engaged in terms of he gave a ring and he's completely arose where she becomes exist now if you have an artist and a husband together they both in combination with the shirts they are made for the nether what what happened keep on going so okay so here they this is the if you notice one very very important thing that happened there too two things hologically but also funnyly it happens to be they put spikes for the pigeons on top if you look closely you see that okay that means he's watching this year everything is good I didn't have to do it so this and the pigeon's sitting in the space correct correct yeah and the pictures that Kosher for even if they get spiked which they don't I was kidding about this bike they're still caution fine um so here the two of them demolished another together now what happened was you have this five Towner is not to scale let's call her the youngest she could be is 11 years old we're talking about Uptown naira until 12 and a half so from 11 to 12 if she understands the dark the father can be made for her daughter by himself then comes along the Hassan she gets engaged so now you need both of them both of them have to be made for the nether but short first what happens if the father goes bye-bye is nobody's Mayfair there's not far anymore but if The Crossing goes bye-bye then the father goes back to step one and he's Mayfair the nether all by himself says the mishnah Mesa if the father dies then you don't empty out his swissim into the husband into the orus's pocket wallet he doesn't get through shows to a null or another Mesa Bao however if the father if the husband dies this Ragnar is just laughed then the father goes back to being made from the dharim on his own check out this picture ah oh not this one but this one is good he if she gets engaged again so now goes back to the shot first here is the father-in-law is stronger and better than I have a message with from the magachir um from Chicago he actually took the video there was an NFL player at one of the weddings I was doing in Chicago and I had to arm wrestle with him and I beat him on video so if anybody wants to get up right now I don't care who you are I'll do it right now be the first time I get your email should do arm wrestling besides what let's go nah I don't want to embarrass you because I was gonna bring my son-in-law he wouldn't do it in a million years my daughter always wanted it he'll probably beat me so I don't want to I don't want to try but this is we'll never find the video so don't even ask for it not sure huh yeah Jesse Klein you'll see Klein said uh I work in plumbing I'll take you never I had to start from down here I hope he doesn't watch this year oh ah this guy yeah no I'm not doing those I sit behind them in davening his sleeve burst in one one day they're in chakras yeah no no not him but the NFL guy was bigger than him but I was younger fine if it's true whatever you do you do fine like like the time I sprayed the Benny the Bull at the Bulls he's also the only guy that saw it okay you know I have a certain guy in Chicago my go-to guy that makes up stories with me you're just laughs so here answers the other question there's something that the husband the arrows is has more kayak than the father beggar beggar here's the Apostle well here's a patana naira bulgaris right counter zero to twelve naira is if she has Simone from 12 to 12 and a half and butgaris is regardless from 12 and a half to the end of her life she's a beguires now this girl is a bigger is going to describe exactly what happened here I'll just tell you the end of the gemara we're talking about a situation where the arrows is remember we learned in Suba is the first Ahmed of subah says if after certain amount of time 12 months of being engaged being the auros then you have to give the column zonus and if he doesn't get married then then it kicks in and he starts paying Zions because he's paying designers now he's she's already annoyed there aldas the Aros so that's what we're talking about some of the very specific case that he's high in the Zions okay but it says in the Apostle we should see their nether lashem is an apostle that the only time the father has the right to be made from the door has been around when she is between 12 and 12 and a half once nura is over bhagros the the father has no rushes okay my timer sorry now the gemara asks what's going on here at the end of the day huh foreign could some reason for some reason it's interesting for some reason even though she's a bigger ass and the the father is nourish us he has resistance over and he's not even married to her he's just arrows okay he says in this case right over here where the father dies why doesn't the husband have the same kind of her shoes as the father had if there's no husband you're telling me the father could be made for his daughters in the daughter so if there's no husband no father the husband we're talking about Aros he should be able to be made for dinner why is the husband any different than the father they had to shoot for us they had a partnership one partner dies without the partner take over my timer stop my crop in the real base of veal so going back to this policy before we were learning a different thing been Worrell but it says she's always in the father's domain even and this is a huge Kiddush even when he's gone even when he's dead stop the face of you Mr bow now going to the other case what happened oh Mesa bow if the the artist dies the husband Miss Regner then the father goes back being in control of his daughter's new daughter how do we know this is how you see a double lotion markish code may have value schnield China so we have a hackage between a first marriage and a second marriage so going back here we have a reuben and a shiman in step three and step six we have two different Hassan and we say like this sponsored by Greg Haber for brojo parnosa that's not what we say but I say for his entire family and everyone learns that let's offer for the members of HBA group and their families on me just like when in step one and two there was no question involved the father he had full control Emma asari Malcolm Evolution I'm able today so in step five before number six over there he has full control because Hassan number one died What's Happening Here in step one and two there's no question involved so the nadarim are only between the father and daughter now in step five you want you want the Father the schwer to be able to make from the Durham that even Reuben and step three saw and heard about well there's a little bit of ashutvas in that nether yes the guy passed away but there was somebody else involved that the the father could go ahead and be made for on his own foreign just like in step one and two nobody else was involved I've been Armstrong that the first person first cousin over here saw then there shouldn't be a step five over here because there's another Hassan that that saw the Nadar beforehand says if that's the case you're telling me stop the daughter that is all by himself and step five and nobody saw these in dorm nobody heard about the norm besides the father that I don't need this possible how do you see it I already learned that out from somewhere else been Rabbi Sevilla so all you see is telling me even in step five when there was a oros in step three that heard the Nether and then he died the father could take over all by himself unlike the husband when the father dies he cannot take over by himself and now we learn from now if the round just points out if she gets engaged again in Step six then even the nether that happened before in stage three you need the new husband to be Mayfair Duran Duran is joking why he proves it because then it's not similar to a virus China okay you want it to be cut them a virus not like crazy fight what do you say thank you no what do you mean no you're right a typical bow in step three he's not made for proclaiming but this bow because he's already be short for us with another bow then this I hear what you're saying but it's a big hitter that's why Judah said you're joking what is going on here how is it possible that the Hassan is also is suddenly made for his wife's Nadar when she turns a biggeres which is in bagueres and the father can either she's mikadish he's mcavisher when she was a Niro let's see here over here step three she's an IRA and then she becomes a beggaris now stop as I I don't know if this is true I once heard that a lot of our issues that we have in today's society is that we treat older kids teenagers like children we say they can't drink they can't vote they can't drive they can't this they can't that unlike the Torah where when you're 13 years old you do everything and I just looked it up today I thought it's fascinating in Texas you could drink when you're 21 years old but you could buy a gun when you're 18. you could kill people but you can't kill yourself kilo like you the very mockman I'm drinking 21 you can buy a gun no problem but but it has okay as I swear I don't know how true it is you have to treat them as adults and maybe they'll act like adults should get your huh they don't have to that you don't have to add it in reverse this should be like enter reverse okay fine there's two things that a woman leaves her father's domain completely and that is the death of the father and bad girls ma miso you're saying that if the father dies the husband doesn't gain full control he can't another in the dark at all there's no aphara so then what's the difference when he dies or have bad girls learning stories about so what's the difference between the two cases there shouldn't be a difference there are two things that that take a a girl out of her father's domain one of them is called Baggers one of them is called Misa Misa doesn't go to the husband so backwards shouldn't go to the husband this is the immortal I was your kids we're talking about a case where he's in hermesanas why because here we go they got engaged he gave her a ring not like today he gave her ring and it's a full Harrison and then they waited 12 months that's it once the 12-month time comes they're similar to being married why is she in her mind says look I get Messina's from him I'm getting support every time I'm like basically married 99 every nether I'm gonna make is gonna be on my husband's Das whatever he wants if he wants to know it let him know but wait a minute so this could die to see for a second of eingle on the base take a look to that from here all in top says if she indeed waited like in this picture 12 months it's rebellious says he could do aphara and they argue ain't about Mayfair okay you have to be married foreign okay before I answer the cash let me just address another problem digressing a little bit amres so it goes like this interesting you see in this diagram if the begueres she's 12 and a half years old and she got married on her birthday when is the husband engaged sorry engaged Harrison a year later 12 months later 13 and a half what happens if I do this she got engaged when she was 13. so she only has a happy year what happens if she got engaged a month before 13 and a half birthday a year later she has one month and what happens if she gets engaged like in our days when she's 18 she has one month she always has one month the only time she has a year is if she got engaged exactly on her birthday not a moment before not a moment later how many times does that happen once in history tomorrow no butgaris bigger says 12 months I think you're saying if she's 12 . 12 months from bangers I hear I hear I don't know in other words why would you even say 12 months by begarious when it's so not saying a typical vegeris because I think this dance is the way you're saying we're talking about a bigger so to begin the most possible is 12 months but that's only she gets married on that day yes maybe naira gets 12 months but in bulgaris you get only 12 months so a typical gregarious would only get whatever it is 30 days 60 days but not not a year so why are you saying it as if every single bigger gets 12 months is what you're saying if she's a naira you're right she gets 12 months but in the beginning she gets 30 days it could go it's basically there's a minimum and there's a maximum the maximum is 12 months the minimum is one month and if she's a narrow she gets 12 months no matter what bottom line is what's the question that we're going back to we have a mission of iron gimmel that's saying the same thing as the mission so why do we need the same exact commissioner twice the hand wrestling or the fakarta Harrison over here the bow the husband the auros is stronger than the father that's where we try to say that is we want to add one very very important piece and that's their abundant arguabilizer and what happens if like says the run that our mission is Stam and Allah is when you have an anonymous and then we have immediately afterwards a mission with names in it that Allah has like the mission with the names in it so if it was just established always passing like this Mission but we have a uh later and the other answer is the boy's name is dafka the missionary gimmel is the main place where we want to say the hiddish that the husband has a power right since we said the beginning of the mishnah that the father has more power than the son-in-law it doesn't say for now maybe possessed that's why we continued and said look sometimes the sun will also has more power but the main point where we wanted to emphasize that point was enough angimo have a wonderful day foreign thank you [Music]