Daf Yomi Nedarim Daf 23 by R’ Eli Stefansky

foreign what's your name again slicing here live from London we have a guy by the name of Uncle Phil we're not going to talk about because he's very shy I know you're gonna come here and we have others others who watch the together and zoom with a pretty sheer malava malkit this much is Shabbos Ivy it's late 11 45 P.M Shear is only at 12 15 am then he tells me he wants to grow this thing how are you going to grow at it okay listen fresh pizza sushi all good Monastery whatever it's called mochachinos sponsorships available I'm not gonna whatever you see how it is 1301 East 27th street corner of Avenue M huge disregarden for the amazing shoe room I joined beginner in the dorm and I'm enjoying myself immensely major upgrade to my morning I wanted to point out say that we don't regret the Good Deeds I was always wondering why what's happening in the warm wood based on what you brought from the run it makes perfect sense I actually thought about it while I I thought it was a question on the Run we even use the exact same words zeros from here on but not on the good things that the rather with Iran said that if you have haroto on the past it could erase your Mitzvahs Ariel lip kiss I just want to say thank you you sent me two beautiful delivery Torah I'm not going to read them right now Cedarhurst New York I've rum Rosenbloom Rosenbloom says so I want to tell you I always wanted to learn dafyami but somehow it's a horror always gave me good excuses why I have no time my son Alexander zisha Ben Eliza was in a horrific car accident six years ago and was Nifty three weeks ago here's a picture of him the last six years was a pure Griffin you know he couldn't communicate or respond to us we could see in his reaction that he knew what was going on and enjoyed our company which version kept me busy going to spend time with him almost daily unfortunately now I have much more time and I undertook to use at least part of the extra time to learn that feeling me I started from the door him and enjoyed immensely same motion as the other guy I have Alexander's issue to thank for showing me that there's time for everything and you for putting the pledge into learning it should be Sharma thank you thank you thank you avram Mela Rosenbloom then Leo and foreign who sponsored in the mdy monthly 300 a month I believe also want to mention that I am going to cashier enough she this coming Shabbos it's a whole long program starting actually today it goes on it's a whole thing I got so I spoke to the guy Miller he told me there are no more rooms everything's sold out however if somebody were to take a Airbnb close by then they could arrange something with the food Etc and participating so speak to them but it's mom is just a few more hours because of the catering so I'm looking forward people from America texted me friends that I know like I'll see you there I didn't know people it's like mdy people flying from all over the world to these things foreign and then leaving hi what musty shops I'm there they will allow but because if you say that you're from mdy and you live in the area and then I come in just for that for the sheer head straight to the show don't listen to any speeches Sunday morning also over there so what's the Shabbos and Sunday morning I'll be there Friday morning over here and two more announcements first of all Miami it's huge I already have tickets I heard if you are in this room and you bought a ticket already raise your hand anybody you bought a ticket to Miami YouTube what happened to the casino you pushed it off yeah they don't know sorry I won't be by my around the two of you bought this Ms you also bought was that kishma you bought for London you also bought you your status are going you cheater you don't count tickets are you can get a ticket if you really want you can fly it from here to Miami round trip for under five hundred dollars 450. month you're gone you didn't go yet you didn't buy when you buy a ticket let me know okay it's going to be a great time very nice uh the other thing is that Yosef bilyak asked me to announce that they did a change on the groups because something with WhatsApp now you're able to combine all the groups together make them one group so he made them on groups don't leave your group just because you don't see anybody else there it doesn't mean anything you're still in the group it's just it's the same thing just better it's easy for him just like one click he sends it totally groups somebody I don't know exactly how it works I saw your state though and before we start real quickly like they were late small sugar 300 dollars we own Sharma 100 Joseph Stearman 100 from soccer with 200 Rhys Epstein yeah 101 is that like uh and I could ask you does it say in the site 101 or it says right right I gotta I got an email like that also but also because it's something about the in Kabbalah 101 stands for something else 101. plus if there's thousands of people that do it those dollars add up to a lot stronger Friedberg 101 Michael and Elisa Krone all right here we go everybody so just take it off from the top we we stopped in the middle of the story so we already know the story story time here a few stories same kind of idea we're holding the basement base right before it becomes wide Mr Beckley Robert is ready is a great man he's coming soon oh if he's a great man bring him to me I want to I want to test him I want to see him says again had a net there that he needed help with also coming to Revelation let me try to help you out let me give you a pesach if you would have known XYZ would have you done it and revenach is anticipating he's gonna say no I wouldn't have done it great go home no you gave him a hard time Mama lay in I would have done it I would have done the nether with this pastor he gave me what about this in that also common Zinda keeps on trying from different different angles says get out of here go back to your porch says like Mario this world holder now if I grabs decided to help himself what does it mean to help himself you can't make a pizza for yourself but you can figure one out and then give that information to the local Rabbi and local Rabbi can give it back to you the famous micheliner novice AZ Derek hishara what's the best way that a person should choose to go with calls she the fairest lawyer cell with the Pharisee Adam you should act in a way that gives you glory that people are they glorify from you the kids are you people are happy with you you're you bring simple to everybody Etc with my very strong nether a pesach free nether I couldn't get a passive going if I would have known that I wouldn't have made a nether foreign and therefore he found the peasant for himself now the obvious question is if you cannot use a passive that's a neulad that something that's in the future why is this not something in the future why is it not a noise so that's what the round says well first the cash the cash is anything that happens in the future let's say something burns down a week after you make the nether so you can't use that as a PESA had I known that my house would have burned down I would have made another going out too late but over here you have to understand that if nothing would have been upset you have to understand that that's how it would go and therefore it's not an oil that's how we have to explain every single one of the steps until the gamer asks that question he had another he wanted to get rid of also come by either and he came in front of him same story what about this PESA did you think about that yes I thought about it no that doesn't work for me that pass out had I known what you're telling me I would have still made the nether what about this evening they kept on doing it back and forth not nothing worked on going from the Sun to the shade from the shade of the Sun the walking back pacing back and forth how can we help this individual on my leg they have to take out this these uh words over here they don't fit in there on my leg button is says button is maybe means from the day to the night or from the shade the bottom line is they cause Rabon he caused Rabon on a lot of Tsar they're breaking their head to figure out how to how to get him out of his Nether and he's not being cooperative everything they come up with no no no that's not good enough for me that's not good but had you known that you're causing robot in such sad that they're going from here to there and they're pacing back and forth would have you made your Nether on my light no that much not Michelle you are in other words again this is something that you can anticipate that if you're gonna tear a button on in the real button are a bit sorry because they can't come up with a solution that itself is entire that's not an oilad and therefore it's the nether is not another it's a good pesach and it's a hot Torah not being cooperative everything no I would have done it anyway comes in the same lotion over and over here comes this launderer he sees that Ruby small is causing aggravation to their abundant he takes out his stick the only chart for today gave the rum a whack over the head or whatever it was some sort of clear had some metal that Bang Omar I died that I didn't anticipate I'm gonna get whacked this is anticipate that this guy that a laundry driving by has in his pocket a stick that he brings the laundry with or he pours whatever he does with it let's know that foreign you couldn't have thought about this this is something that came out of the sky some a crazy act I'm sure gonna hits the Rob you don't matter to be smaller I'm not talking about a a guy maybe small that was Messiah another Thomas that's not a good passer that's not a knowledge zappy Carson that they wanna hit the roof they're just looking for a good excuse I'm not making that up this is in the restaurant that's how it is they want to hit her off a lot of times it happens I mean what causes a seemingly normal human being to take a yogurt and throw it at uh at one of the xylem or somebody punch a statement in the face somebody punched him in the face yeah he was great but when when you're Rob doesn't agree to Myra then I take things into my own hands then also you ah you're a God though I'm a nothing in your God no I I need to stick up for my roof it happens a standard or this I mean I'm not excusing it but that's where people lose it they push or lose it it's not an oil light that's what it's saying it's not annoying it's amazing that we could we could we've seen it in our life different casidius that they fight different things that this is to come and hit him because he's bothering other guys you should have known that's good that could happen no it's it's something that happens and the male law it is a passage it is a pezza had I known that there were amaratan I'm all right I'm almost that the damn artist hits a rough because he wants to he feels like doing it he'll use any excuse sticking up for his own rub yeah the ships remind him exactly the worst the worst things that happen are from and this I I saw Inspire him and you see it I mean a guy that thinks a guy can knock down the Twin Towers because it's Hashem when you have Hashem that's the worst of the worst they do all have theirs in his mind his mama she's thinking of his rough ah it's rubbish I understand your frustration there I get it all I'm saying it's not they did it's worse than a stick with mouth the shyness emails it's worse than a stick they come they come they try calling the stick beat them all up foreign 's wife had a daughter who am I now this daughter must have been like the catch the real catch of the Sentry and abayo says listen you must marry your daughter off to my side of the we don't want your bad genes you know those those discussions that we have at the shop it's your jeans I want your daughter she's she's talking in a coffee machine because yum is terrible this daughter I want for my Mishra and she says no no this daughter oh my love what well we don't know which one it is yeah okay she was married yeah yeah we know three it's interesting because in Brokers a few times there's a few there's a few miles everybody's familiar with the gamoran brockets of bar headya right the the one that used to translate dreams so bar headio once told a bio that his his kids are going to marry other things it could be that's what he was referring to he says I know but there's another gimmar in condition where a great story where a Bible doesn't say who it says a bio got involved over there and the matter sounds like the story so it's not clear it says that somebody jumped in middle of a girl was about to get married and akara goes either of course someone was trying to say he he came in through the through the roof or he hopped the collar on the roof one of the things he's mcavisher he tried to have the cows like seems like this is my zone almost and uh about he said no it's nothing and kiss her I'll go upon him there's a fighter between the husband and the wife of tuna bye and his wife Abaya wants his girl to get married to his mishbaka he puts her and here we see a godo making a nether like that if you go with your opinion and you marry daughter of I have nothing to do with you whoever you are you can't use anything I don't want to see and what does she do um she went and she was either on what he said the incident and she nevertheless married her daughter after her craving and now he has a problem also look amazing yeah famous reviews have forgot all his learning and I was the talmud and helped us ready remember so he comes to this what do I do so this is this is amazing this gives us a little bit of insight how it never works um had you known that she wouldn't have listened to you you thought you're threatening her you thought the threat is going to work hey don't you dare do the up because if you do I have nothing to do with you but how do you know that she wouldn't she's 51 she would do it anyway s would you make that nether all my life somebody says no we're sorry Revolution said that it's okay now the round just points out what about this whole idea that we learned up until now about another of the zeros another of the zeros if I make a nether because I want you to up your price I never intended I want you to up a price I say four because I want you to get the three you're at two so I say four and I make another I'm not moving from four that we said is not another at all you don't need that toy you know you don't go to the rub don't go to the rough because everybody understands that you're you're playing with him this is the way you negotiate you say four I swear I'm not moving before you're trying to just get the guy up to three so here also isn't this a nether of a zeros a buyer didn't want to kick his wife out of the house he just wanted the threatener isn't this another of zero zest around so he says no no because he went to rev Joseph no no why does he need that Torah I buy your nose in his heart that was a joke it's like a negotiation skill I want to use I want your daughter for my my spot you know what I'm going to threaten you it's a threat it's a zeros it's to motivate what Yeah by himself shouldn't have gone to review itself it's zero another of zeros when you don't have any intent is nothing so he says no that when a person says four and he makes a nether that that's everybody understands when you look at it you know right away what you're looking at you know that pivolivia but over here it seems like a body wanted to put her in her place again and then he brings also the the story of if you if you insist that your friend eats by you you just want your friend to eat but you're not serious that you're gonna murder him or not okay um but wait a minute he that's exactly what his nether was his nether was what he's saying now is is contradictory to his nether it's neither is if you marry your family and he says well if you would have known that she married the family you you wouldn't put no I wouldn't though but it's the exact words that he said is is the opposite um in yes you could do it there's a story where a person told his wife do not go up to your Salah died you want to go up and hear the drushas over there but if you knew at the end of the day that you wouldn't listen to you that she would have brought it was a it was not a good enough threat she went anyway you made another oh my Lord I wouldn't uh Victory Revelation everybody said it's not a nether now the problem is a little bit it's not such a problem but just to explain to you when did your Bic live there's no base I make this whatever because he lived so where was his wife going okay so you have to understand that his wife wasn't going like to to go to the basement she was going up to July there's a minute still to go after the qurban so she wanted to go hear the Josh's this the rush system that's how it was now the safer khasi then brings that rev High going would just mentioned yesterday of high going going obviously there's no base a message in time of the guy in him but he would go up to your shalim all the way from Bubble every circus he had a minute he'd go from Bubble to use line and circle Higher by seven times on the shanarama that was his thing so you see there's an Indian to go up well he's it says foreign but the notification to go visit uh um what's the lotion [Music] because it's connected and aliaz when you bring her bonus so there's no there's no real Indian to to go up to yerushalayim that I'm sorry for agrees with that also okay but I'm saying is everybody goes to the closest obviously the great the whole the holiest place in the world so you go but in terms of over here she wanted to go not as as the hill but as as the minute and Tahir drush or something oh cover real okay says so oh so the bottom line first of all before we go right there there's a big long ground here I'm doing the work for you so the round brings at the end of the day how do you do atar Sundar so the best way to do it is if you have a yeah somebody that's a real real professional in a dharm yeah the bottom line is doesn't help us today because we don't have anybody to move but no one no one today is so the second best option is to use three three guys but at least and I saw this in our yesterday again just to make sure at least they have to know the difference between pesach and harata that says my first in the shaft the tires they all bring it you have to know the difference if you're going to sit there and do haters at least you should know that Hashem whoever is watching this here knows the difference we're Kosher for a thousand Army the rest of the world when you say had you known at the time of the nether that a certain condition existed you wouldn't have made the Netherland great kharata means you regret today you're standing today not at the time of dinner today you're looking back at what happened he said listen then I was because but right now I'm not because and today I have harata of what I did and that's a much lighter and easier way to do it that's the difference in Colorado okay huh [Music] then I was not in the right state of mind but I wouldn't if I would have been in the right statement well not the would have that's already Peso today enjoyed the a favor at the time and you don't have a lot of enjoyment because karate means to remove everything that happened okay the official mission expansionism and we know through our charts we always can like him it seems like you was going to say that perhaps we don't pass like him when he argues with others now this missionary boyside and and there's a big secret that comes up about this mission of big insight to all gamaras I think and almost nice based on this mission why because this mission is a serious riddle and the question that everybody always has is why is the mission of the riddle why can't you write two more words and we'll understand a little bit better like ready didn't know how to write we I could write it better than Remy I'll just stick in these three words and everything's great so this mission of teachers is a very very big Insight it Bless America that's why AF who are we talking about this idea of zeros making another to to motivate somebody so I've had this like you want your friend to eat by you yomar and take out the word leader who bought them what is going on here for this we need the gemara but I will tell you his a completely different Allah number one is period and the story who battle this is the command I'm just telling you in advance to show you how it's impossible for a human being to read this and understand it without hearing it from his rebby and hearing it from somebody else because it just seems like if somebody wants to be mother's friend it says the word light Ness reminds me of Scotland take out this word is a different gear size oh it's meant to memorize exactly but what do you it's not usually it's not Russia isn't that it says a pretty misunderstick text now a lot of times you're right it takes out a word or it uses words that are similar to each other so it's better for memorization I get it here we're going to learn even a bigger your site call another Channel you have to remember whatever you remember and we'll see in a second says what is going on here you're telling your friend I want you tea by me and if you don't eat by me I'm making a net there that you can never drive my car you can't come into my house I'm never gonna give you any money I'm never gonna feed you and by the way everything I just said is don't listen to me I'm being Movado all my in the dark so oh the friend's gonna start shaking it's nothing you just said I wrote the last time everything I'm saying is bottle and I have to remember saying it the whole thing doesn't make sense obviously the friend doesn't care the friend sees that you're not making another but it was a bad day says sponsored as a host because you've been able to support Toyota obviously when we learned the missionaries we memorizing we know that this word's missing and it's self-understood foreign you're right we are talking about a zeros we're talking about somebody trying to motivate his friend by the way the Run says on the spot the Gamora could have said it's actually shining so it's very important this round the run is of the opinion that a person could tell his friend listen if you don't eat by me you'll never enjoy benefit for me but Cloud for the rest of your life then he whispers I'm joking I'm saying now it's a if he whispers it it's enough that's the run so Durant says how come he didn't do it here because we have other problems here it says you have to you have to remember the nether oh yeah you're right there it says AF what does AF mean AF means we're continuing with the zeros the F doesn't work here the answers we have other questions you're right for the question of what's he doing to his friend the answer is his friend didn't hear him otherwise say he every nether every snide that you make for another the whole world has to hear you have to publicize it you can't just whisper it to yourself the round argues okay who end the story you can make a net there called the zeros and we all know that another called the zeros that was the beginning of the parag is nothing I'm just trying to motivate my friend I'm trying to to fool him to come to eat by me and if somebody wants to make sure he wants to make one statement in the beginning of the year whenever any time of the year The Middle on Hanukkah whenever he wants to do it he should stand up on Rosh Hashanah roshana's live Daft it just means it's a it's a great time to do it leader yeah I'm standing right now and I'm saying I'm making a statement that anything I am I'm about to make another yeah bottle um foreign but you have to remember this condition we made the nether says if he remembers what's going on person made a statement Milby and Russia Shawnee gets up in front of the whole show he says if I ever make a net there it's bottle so then a month later and he remembers that he said that he gets up and he makes a nether so what is he doing what he's what he's doing is he's saying the fact that I stood up on Rosh Hashanah I was in a good mood then I was in uh I had a service now I don't care anymore I'm being me tonight then and I'm making another now of myself that I I stood up then then I had a service now I don't that's what he's doing I'm gonna buy you tonight oh this is a buyer he didn't remember yeah there's a uh there's an old very old couple the the wife tells the husband listen uh could you make me a coffee he says sure just but I want you to write it down because you've been very very forgetful lately write it down he says no no I've been going to Chorus for memory I 100 I'll remember okay fine comes back five minutes later and it brings her a falafel so she says I told you forget why did you put the Trina in there so people forget he forgot well that's lawyers yeah yeah yeah it's in the dorm jokes Iran explains right away Robin abai don't argue rava is just saying that it doesn't fit into the word to me it says you're sticking you know a word that reverses everything you just said it's a 180. it's not a good word to stick in says let's try to fix it without sticking in Lloyd the word but I agree with you a buyer in principle just let's try to fit into the mission you have to remember that what how can my skin oh so a guy makes a knife it makes it now he says anything that has to do with food I know how I am I know how it was last year and I keep on making the dorm about diets enough of these in the dorm died in the dorm anything has to do with food it's bottled now I just don't remember exactly what food I made another about was my nether about meat was it protein it was carbs that's what I'm not making this the round says was it cakes and and pizza or meat yeah it's the two things that people struggle with I don't remember that I don't I don't remember which one that can diet or whatever the other diet okay sometimes anything has to do with that diet and now all of a sudden he finds himself in a predicament he's making a nether a better diet here he is again Kipper's over everything's over now he's back to his old ways over here doesn't mean he remembers Zohar means if he mentions during the night he mentions during the leather um now I don't know what I said but you know what I'll do very good trick I don't remember if I spoke about bread or meat but what I could do is I could say I don't care what I said whatever I said that that should work I'll die to the whatever it is back then that means it's eight o'clock eight zero zero it's been very consistent lately but the problem you forgot that Uncle Phil's there he'll meet you outside so it's my fault I am not Market you could be marketed it's fine Midway as long as the whole place doesn't leave me here like it'll be funny like one day everybody at eight o'clock direction to myself me and Gary huh it should right that's why it's my it is so now then what he's saying is he's making a statement he says I don't care that I made it tonight I don't care that I made it tonight I'm making a nether now and my nether should be how if he says mafurish I'm making another but it has to be based on what I said on Rosh Hashanah then what he said on Roshana is movato what he did now but if he he doesn't care about what he's gonna Roshana and he gets up and he makes a new nether now his new nether uproots that condition that he made in Rosh Hashanah so bottom line is like this by the way this week Rabbi Schoenberg has a beautiful piece on a Thursday and everything check it out I actually had the time this morning I didn't have the time but I read it from the beginning then it's very very nice so basically if a person doesn't remember his tonight he doesn't remember at all it doesn't remember that he stood up on Rosh Hashanah to make it night then a buying rubber in agreement that is what he said his bottle because he doesn't even remember he made at night but if he remembers a little bit he remembers he made at night just he doesn't remember what it was so then it depends on what he said if he said I remember I have a very bad memory I can't remember Falafel to Coffee I don't have a bad memory what should I do but I remember something so I'll just say whatever I said then that should be how Okay so that works but if I remember a little bit and I don't care and I don't make any deny then it's all over says the Guitar let's just finish here this I think is amazing this Gamora right here wanted to tell the Islam about a trick the trick is called it's called konindre it's a trick foreign if you look just read the mishna the Tana went out of his way to confuse you it makes no sense the way he wrote it to memorize it this way to memorize it this way but you wrote a mishnah that should last for thousands of years we're reading Michelle's that were written I don't know how many years ago close to 2000 I don't know how long so right in a way that somebody could open her up no the Tana rebbe rabinois wrote it in a way he did it in a riddle why oh okay he doesn't want America to come along and say look it says in the mishnah all you have to do is get up and announce that oh mighty dorm this year on Battle method foreign so for me this was a tremendous Insight I might be wrong I'd be right to me it just seems like many times we have a problem with the mishnah I can do better than Robin college no you can't rabbana College wrote specifically this Mission maybe other mission is as well but it gives us a little bit of an Insight it's literally a hint it's a hint it's written in the most interesting way possible so that you will not understand that unless you have a Kabbalah from irebi and your rebe from his rebbe all the way back to know this idea now first of all a few very important things why do we say kolnidre and what is called Midway so there's a big run over here and I thought this is amazing also and you described it happens to us a lot you'd ask people what's the most important thing on Yom Kipper and people everybody comes to show for call midray and it's serious and the gazing goes we start slow and he goes Higher and Higher and people are shuckling and you're gonna miss call nidre it's like nasana tokyf and kolidates from the icarim and it turns out that maybe it's also to psychology you shouldn't even say culinary it's a child of you should take on this way so then they say the Run says what are you saying call nidre called is against what the gamara says it's a trick that's only for you shouldn't be saying it in Marathon they're going to be Zazzle in the dark and then he says then there's a tices here that says well don't worry about it it's all in Aramaic I'm a ratan don't understand they come to show the Haram now of the Badness they sit there and they die and they have no idea what they're saying don't worry about it it's not going to change them one way or another and then the round says and here's another very interesting thing well I don't want to forget this I'm jumping ahead but there have been a time brings his father who's the son-in-law of Rashi says you you how you ever think about it we say it makes no sense how could I be Movado something backwards I could only be movable something forwards maybe so that's why there's a change in the Noosa from now until Yom Kippur but here it's all in these gamaras right here so the bottom line is what we thought is like the most important Fila on Yom Kippur maybe it's not like the biggest thing in the world or it's not that it's not the biggest thing but it might have been us or even and then over the years it became part of our nostal and it is it's very no no I'm just saying hold on a second timeout is the direction they're talking are you allowed to die are you allowed to say sure about konigre and so now what okay so hold on let's just finish it because the other ones came in for chakras um hold on one second you can leave in our days that the missile anyways Duran says the people missiles on the dorm anyway so my Melo we say call midre Tyson says it doesn't work for schwa it doesn't work for sure that other people put on you but tours in general we have a shy layer okay we'll stop right over here have a wonderful day [Music]