Daf Yomi Kiddushin Daf 73 by R’ Eli Stefansky

good [Music] morning [Music] for [Music] just want to mention again to fishal from fishal catering for putting together that uh beautiful animation by the time we get the B we'll have animation and even better animation who knows should help am Isaac oel from thank you for your continued commitment despite all the many challenges that are going on around us I have no doubt that in 120 years the gamar you teach from will be Priceless when I go bye-bye okay people will pay any anything they have in their home Library gor they belly taught from I'd like to suggest you initiate the process of auctioning the gamor you teach from including the sticky notes that are within I'm confident that if you have a live auction at the MD shab next week they can easily raise $10,000 not in position to bid that high but we'll make the opening bid of $1,800 at with everything you do thank you for inspiring CL so it's interesting the reason why I'm reading it is because there's very little that I wouldn't auction off I would auction off anything especially my [Music] children but I would never ever give up my beloved gimar some of these garas I spent over 1500 hours with some of them even more and it is my prize possession I told my children they'll divide it up I take very good care of them they're they're like trophies you know you finish put it in the Shelf you say okay I made a c on this one next another Brown gimar another Brown gamar so these garas never I I don't think I'll take a bit of a half a million dollars on these you never know I mean everything's for sale I guess but it's very very sentimental to me and it would have to be upwards of a million dollars um next though I really appreciate it sh of is over 75% booked uh it's an amazing shabas here you see I just want to mention the big sponsors here we have Nathan and kamansi LLP that's AI kaman's group official we have Grand View Madison title so to them I know there's other people you have to get their names other very nice owners and people just came together just recently in the last literally few days from the Yi Klein video people gave $500 here $1,000 there just to be M and help people come so come one come all it's going to be unbelievable shice you don't want to miss it checking in again oh I forgot to get the name okay maybe y will put on the Y will put on the screen this is a screenshot of a that send the message in Yosi his name is Yosi just know I'm thinking about you constantly thank you for everything you doing that's so from writing into thanks Robbie I really appreciate it I'm under intense stress the message made me smile what I would appreciate most is to let rebell know that I listened to Da while falling asleep in my sleeping bag last night at 3:00 a.m. after an insane day that's dedication to the DA after an insane day you can imagine because I have a lot of that that ate by us over the years and just recently on my my nephew is now on the front lines was describing what what it means people think oh it's so much fun you get a gun and you go shoot they wake you up at two in the morning and they make you run many kilometers middle of the night with 35 pounds on your back and that you eat tuna for week after week and if you don't like tuna you get to love tuna because that's basically the only food the kiter they put you through sh and when he says insane they mean insane okay we're With You High belly this is the second time I read from here I started learning I've been learning the D every day since K the one who's writing this is all the way on the right you can see his picture here listen to every single day definitely hit while we're all very concerned the situation of my brother Yan on left in the picture flew in this morning from Miami to fight for am Israel I have another a guy that he used to sleep by us for months he had a room by us maybe even years um also picked himself up and uh went toward is flew this morning from and he's also Miami flly from Isel he was living in the states for the past two years and got on a flight to go join his gani Brethren I'm sitting with him now his name is yob and I find it amazing that today's discussion which Jakob learned with Ys before they parted ways the danger that lay ahead of him I told him that just like y stayed Alive come back safe and sound oh these are emails that I received probably two two weeks ago I'm going back on the emails that I didn't do and I didn't I some of them I didn't even read because usually I read every single day I read the emails but because of the traveling and everything else that was going on I didn't have uh in it in me to read them and to put them on so I'm going through all the emails huberg the right in the picture middle our older brother zi who lives in so this one I'm not going to read I know you see guys are you see it on the screen um but he says over here a line your actions on M shabas will Echo an eternity he's happy that I gave Shear when was in the morning that excellent work you're walking talking okay I'm proud to call you my Reby yourid scho miles why did I want to read this okay I don't remember anymore oh that's what it is something in there that I wanted to point that okay boy say here's Mike hastle the famous Mike here he is again from the Everglades um let's put it up here good morning we're coming to you from deep in the Florida Everglades and Big Cypress National Preserve wishing all our brothers and sisters in Israel safety health and good health and that in the of our learning doomi that the almighty brings a speedy Victory destroying our enemies just like we prayed for in rashash Shana like we pray for every day see you in Stamford have a visit from one of our alligator friends ah he was right there before oh he's still there he's turning ah there he is he wants to say uh good morning keep on doing you mentioned story about purifying Silvers the stories about there's a Reb called she was teaching group of women that came across the that's the that's that we had the other day so the want to understand why compares the Tyra to to D Silver they went to a silver smith and he explained that he can't um heat up the silver too much so they said but how much so AER the point is that doesn't put a person in the fire forever just to burn he does it just enough to be to be and then he pulls him out wish you from Manchester the sponsored by lock and Ling families because the is sponsored for the unity of worldwide par sh Natalie and Victor C in honor of Gustav fman brain intact un potential tremendous success in all my Endeavors smooth procedure and complete the art of the that come from supporting Bo we go now you can go to the full screen we are holding the bottom of b b Mark you able to go to the full screen no I guess not oh here he isor three lines from the bottomer so here's the let's go back to this to the chart for a second that's something that we're going to be discussing here are GM a nation are they the congregation are they part of Cl as a regular yid or their their own group why so if you say they're not their own they're not part of the Cal they're not part of the congregation then why because check out we're going to be talking about all these the point of all this you don't have to see at all but you just realize that there's five times that says the word the first M cannot marry into the kahal of so if a g is part of kahem so you can't Marry m so holds that a could marry a could marry a why because is and the says they're not part of the yes they're but they're not in theah of so let me ask you a question let's say a Mamer or azeras marries a g what's the of the child anybody M we go with the L's denomination says it is a congregation and therefore they not to Marry m can marry Gus and canot marry so this is very interesting that if you think about it for a second a is not marry a divorce but what about aenis could she marry a divorced guy yes so what about a is she allowed to marry a yeah is she allowed to marry those who are yes she's a she's different so who is not Etc but I'm sorry no but if you release your SL slave that slave can marry say that a can marry a because so now we go back to the Chart you have five here or I shouldn't say five yeah five gim and test it's four the first one says okay so five times there were two learning and they were learning the and they got to a place where they were learning that if there's no Ley then the gets the second Aliyah so one of the the one of them looks at the other says are you serious about this so he can't he can't believe it and he goes to to the shelf and he starts looking up SP say this is how we pass the guy couldn't believe it turns out was a Ley never saw it in his life or the point is that should really learn I don't want to push something else another thing but little doesn't hurt you know a lot of that we know or that we learned from our father looking around from you know but oh I should probably turn this on it' be a good idea okay says the gar to literally the Top Line the fourth is going to come to tell us that a isi is somebody that knows who his mother is but doesn't know who his father is in other words it's a suff m we don't know exactly what the story is with the mother who how did she become pregnant exactly and the other one is to say that a who's a is so again one is that a can get married and one tells us not only that that marry is it's is very interesting why because a m is not so you think that thei not really a m so maybei shouldn't marry a m the isuki could marry a m because it has a little bit of a a tint of of M could he's a suff m if he's a suff m how can marry is you don't want a suff moms are marrying well says the that's why I need another that is who's a suff m could marry a is what about a g could a g marry a m doesn't fit into all these we already use them all up we have M but we don't have a g so M could marry a m so what's GNA do he agrees to all this but not really a and Le are one shav they come from shav Ley so one knocks out the two so now we have an extra and that teaches us that a girl cannot marry a m and a cannot marry a so we have one extra oh so hold on hold on hold on let's check out this sir says what you like that somebody says well do it again for you okay so here it's very clear the Oneal is for one is for Le one is for is one that a m can marry Shuki and one that auki can marry a Isel right two very different thingsi with a M with Isel next rud says that the first knocks out two a and a Le so he has extra so the next is for is the next is for M and one is to allow with [Music] is the the first three are Le is the fourth one is G the final the fifth one you learn two alas from the that both those two alas all about you can learn from one that's what [Music] is that what we're learning that the Torah is saying that of it has to be 100% ofi could marry in oh another one here it is you see it says in the in the same it says so you learn from this this's another so I learn from here that a g is in theah and therefore m cannot marry him oh so how would it work over here oh so actually if you look at this list we have six CS we just added a six Cal from what from so now if we go back oh so then we have extra here to teach us that a g cannot marry mord to now let's go back to this what what does he do with this it says if you look the purple word breaks the word hohol and G they're not connected hohol and G are not connected and therefore I don't say that a g has he's not part of the congregation of and therefore he could marry according to could marry a br br new wake up we learned that a g a slave and a can marry the a female doesn't have the same that her brother has this is right don't have the to marry the the and story time gets up on a be and he screams out a can marry apparently there were a lot of G in the audience and basically what R is telling them is you're not part of the nation you're not part of the congregation how would you feel if if the go gets up there and tells you you're nobody they had a SW was and they pelted him with with a I don't know it's a good sh no it was it was the kids you're talking about the kids pelting with the that was something else I don't remember exactly what happened over there something with the kids so says what's this that the onus we take the theim and we're saying all K all types of Kel are are one but by you defiling us like uh our own we're not part of the kahal so you're saying that we're not part of this so if so we're going to take this SRI and we're going to throw it at you the M says that a little different he says that the they show they're one they're like in one bundle they're they're all types the es is by itself so you said oh you're calling us by ourselves here take it for you that's their you want to hear my I guess it's easier and harder hurts more you have better going to throw a little it's not going to hit the okay stop I'm not Ming on them but just being practical and if you're ready I guess no you're ready how does it work no you hold your lul in the right hand so it doesn't if you had a thrill something come on what would you throw that RIS what are you going to throw you take this okay anyways I mean what you did wasn't very logical you did is not common sense you said a very nice Al but you have to know where do you say alas you don't just jump out there and give people over the head and make them feel bad so I'll tell you how to do it says watch me he gets to up in the same place look at you you can marry the daughter of a you're so so they dress him up in very expensive clothing listen once he he got them and they he got the respect he figured okay now I'll sneak it in by the way G could marry I've said it you ruined it everything you told us until now give us back the clothing what are you talking about I did I did you a big favor I'm giving you I'm opening up your the pool you can marry you can marry a I'm trying to be good to you yes at the end of the day what said in now can marry and not only that he can marry why say the that a has is on a male he cannot marry a slave he can't marry this but a female doesn't have those and as said thatal he's not they don't have the word Cal congregation therefore they can marry says he knows his mother and when he tries to say hey father his mother makes him quiet [Music] at we're doing and most of the world think if you thinking about it what's the what's the concern here the concern is that maybe her her child came from let's say her brother her father unfortunate situation but that's the this 9 billion people in the world even a guy doesn't make a kid a m makes it Apostle but not a m if you're concerned about a Mamer the options are very limited there's very very few people in the world that could create M here so you're talking about a now says the the known when it comes to M and right if these men of the world came to her house they came to her so we have a concept called called The Parish MBA Parish here we go let's go to the Chart this we did okay we have a woman on the bottom she has a kid who's auki we don't know who the father is so there's two groups of people we have her father her brother we have old people on the on the right side in a red box we have the whole world the whole city is is in one another box so who is this Mr Bo so the says like this take a look if the bo the came to her so we have a concept called theba called the parba par when he separated himself he came out of the of the larger group when she's in her own place okay we have the by Meat also when you find a piece of meat did you find it in the butcher shop or did you find it on the sidewalk did it come away from the place Etc over here the the the the guy he came away from a group into her house so M we have to say came out from the larger group because that's the that's the that's the rule the rule is when somebody comes to you then they came from the larger group the larger group are all ker they don't create M the small group however if she you see how she goes to him she went to his house now the the rule is the stationary becomes 5050 so regardless it's only 50/50 we don't have a true Ms here we don't know what the situation is so saying what who who could the Father possibly if the guy came to her then it's for sure that's ker even if she went to him it's only 5050 so we don't have a m so what are you going to say maybe she went to to the guy so he the father is stationary then it's 5050 says only a definite 5050 and then this only says the okay another so there's a there's a story that I saw brought down from four different Source it could be four different rebas you have you know how like if it's a good gak story they they they say oh it's this person not not there's no LS involved in the story it's not the V guy there was a family was running away from prosecution and one of their kids fell off the wagon or something they didn't notice for a second and they got to the place it was already too late to come back they' all die so this kid basically grew up with G found him they brought him up so but then he realized at a certain point that he's Jewish and he went to learn Tyra by one of these four whoever it was and the RAB gave him ulet K and said listen you open this up under your okay so he goes he goes gets engaged remember the said he opens it up and it says in the UL brother and they looked into it they asked him who are you what are you he says listen the Reb said how could a brother marry a sister so what are you talking about and he said he said listen I don't know who my parents are because I fell off a wagon and then they understood this the they understood that he was actually the brother of the kala so weird because when I was on Fox News like three days ago there's literally this story M I was reading the story like the kid was lost in Alabama and and uh they reported him lost and uh somebody picked him up and went to the police and they didn't make the connection between the Lost kid and the kid they found and they said oh you know just keep the kid finished they kept the kid and uh at the the mother looked the mother of the GU looks at the the kala and she sees that she has like a birth mark on her hand and she started screaming and they realized this was her daughter that was the I just read a m like that okay I guess it's one of these stories that's um it happened didn't happen Okay interesting story what's what's so why in the world if you say could marry only a and it's a and this and a that maybe he's marrying his own sister he doesn't know his father is you know those days they didn't travel very far they found the kid here they know the mother is they don't know the fathers maybe his father had another child this is Kal says so according to your logic auki should never be able to marry any because we don't know the father is maybe the brothers and [Music] sisters what this person kept on having children with with with men that she she she doesn't know who they are and she keeps on it doesn't make sense or says but what if the father of this guy this guy we don't know his father is maybe he went he settled down like a mench he grew up he matured he married a regular woman and he had a daughter from a regular woman and now this guy is going and marrying his own sister again we don't know you're saying you shouldn't marry people that have suff forget that how could this guy ever get married maybe his own father is the father of [Music] his we're not concerned something far out so your whole thing the reason why shouldn't marry in because maybe he's going to marry his sister from his father that's also see says you're right we had to step it up a little bit to show that our is important to us and we don't just marry people who don't know who the father is but not because of a real reason not because M it's awesome m is not [Music] awesome and AI a person we don't know who the father or the mother is is also question riddle who do we have like in this week's Parish or next week's Parish more that people accuse them of being in a Sufi people were saying as a p she's 90 this has a kid says but the a woman who's married is going to say is going to to say that this kid is with the father what's your concern the says the bottom line what's the what's the what's the concern here a woman who M she she has her child is from her real husband m El maybe this is a woman who's just engaged and she cannot say hey this is this is my's kid because she can't be with her cin until after she can't be with him so how is she going to say it's my's kid or you have also women that their husband's disappeared so she can't say it's her husband when he wasn't even around so you're right there is a concern like that you have women who are not even married so if they their child is not a or you have women regular women that are married and out of terrible circumstances of starvation they just took their kid put in a basket and ran away so have aoo so now have 50/50 you have 50% chance that the kid is a m 50% chance that the kid was just left there and his ker I basically this is a continuation what we had before I mean not a continuation the same thing as we have before word for word only when it's so why in the world they say because he might he might marry his sister from his father now the Mother-in-law says Rashi we know who she is and she has she's the father we don't know so according to the same thing that we said byi how could onei marry another maybe he's marrying his sister from his father or more than that we don't know who his father is we don't know who his mother is so maybe this is a sister from his mother maybe it's a sister from the father you think they're gonna continue to give birth and keep on leaving their kids in baskets they learned the lesson it happened once and that's it but maybe his real father had a normal marriage and he had a daughter the is because it's not common then why in the world can't you marry is something it's another step up in the of not to marry people that you don't know who the father is and the mother is also you can't marry somebody who don't know the father is even if you know who the mother is that's a interesting stuff if you found a kid that has a br there's no reason to believe that the mother intended to abandon her child she went through the the trouble of of giving him now there's a story by the uh in the war that a woman was asking rough for a knife so the r didn't want to give her a knife he thought he wanted to commit she wanted to commit suicide so the Nazi said here take take my pulled out a knife so she took the knife and she opened up her coat and she pulled out a tiny baby and she did a bris and she said hem I did what I have to do now you take care of him so if you're going to go through that pain and aggravation of doing a bris then obviously she didn't try to abandon him it's a good kid it's not a it's not it's not it's not a kid that came from am Zas from a from a bad relationship that she had and the minute she she gave birth to him she just abandoned the kid in the street she took care of this kid for eight days she gave him a he's not he's not an in those days they used to take like they were very into like the bones are not straight they would straighten the bones they would wrap up the baby if you see that she went through that trouble she shmeed him with oil put the stuff in his eyes R put some herbs on him she she put the the ulet on him this is these are signs that she cares about the kid here's a picture she hung him up on a a palm tree if the animal could get to it then obviously she didn't care if the kid would die check this out I took this video myself I found it without volume so so this is up up there in the treei put a leopard there he said no you got to take the leopard down why because leopard could easily climb up a tree but a lion here I have a video for you oh what happened to my video here this is a video I took always check this out I just thought it's interesting maybe take off the the you don't need the sound there in the background some the cave is so I took it off the kits are you can't get up the little tree that's the bottom line a lion has a very very hard time climbing trees yeah that's a lion female lion so if the if the baby's up there then she went through the trouble to save him from animals then it's not Sufi zard this is a zard this kind of tree what do the archal call it sorb tree okay the little red berries so rash says has at least 60 sh in it if it's close to the city if it's next to the city then it's bad news and if it doesn't have if it's not if it's if it's far from the city so why would a woman put her child in a tree that has a lot of sh she doesn't care about him puts there's a lot of people going abandon that he could die then he's a ditch full of dates here we have a picture here what what do you guys call something else something like that okay here's a a pit full of a pit full of date pit pits it's a ditch full of pits it's a dangerous place this is interesting I would never have guessed this she puts in middle of a river but she went through the the the trouble to go in the middle of the river where other boats are going to find him there that's not [Music] a she put him a place where the snow melts I didn't know they have snow I guess it's not in in buff I don't know where this is when the snow melts so people don't the boats don't go there so you put them like on the sidewalk in a place where people not really walking there put in middle of the the highway yes uh a wagon is going to come by and then kill him says when people are starving famine there's no we have to have to explain what is talking about talking about a person puts well just because people are starving so you can kill your kid put in middle of a highway so he's talking about on the side of the let's let's say it's a sidewalk not really sidewalk place this this thorn there people don't really walk there it's safer so who cares that there's a famine even if there's no famine it's still not considered said on something else completely when the child is still in the marketplace in other words nobody collected him then somebody could just show up and say a father could show up a mother say I'm the father and we believe him once he was collected and brought to the police station to the fire station then a parent or any human being doesn't have nobody believe to say I am the parent once he has a name called that's it he's in a however even though he collected of there so many of them what was the Rashi said um it was interesting L something that I didn't think of when I was reading it um no P afterwards there's so many kids that are that are abandoned so says didn't want to just decide based on a on a rumor that the kid is a just because we call him because there's too many of them says there are three people who have neas we believe them but only at one point in time only immediately once the immediate period goes away 10 minutes later not believed it could be 20 seconds later very interesting if you believe me that I saw a murder you believe me 10 years later one year later if you believe me for what is you these three people haveon right then and there and that's it uh how do you say in English a bir Midwife thank you we just said that if a parent shows up before you collect a kid he's believed a midwife when it comes to twins we believe the Midwife to say he was first he was second he's the he gets double portion he's the needs a if she walked out of the room to get some medicine to get some wipes it's all over we don't trust her [Music] anymore if she didn't move she's believed what's the difference if she just turned her head around to look at the scale so where's the doctor it's all over she has to be focused on the baby cuz once she moved away and she lost Focus now we don't know they look identical they're identical twins how could we believe her that this is the first one this is the second one what's the what's the the third case three women were sleeping in very very close proximity says Rashi they're touching each other in one bed and we found below one of them all of them become but if one of them did and they found that came from her so she's believed to say hey came from me she takes the blame so to speak but that's only if she did immediately interesting story you're in the hospital in Ukraine you have four babies they didn't have all the tags and the things that they have today four babies one of them is a definite momser and one of them is a definite C and one is it's a big Mishka Babble they all gave birth and we don't know what's flying the Midwife is believed to say this is this is Le this is you believe it there's no there's no there's no DNA no nothing this one story that I saw recently keeps on I can't get it out of in my head I I said I said it a number of times there a m you can look it up because that video of it in Ukraine two women their children were Switched at Birth the issue is that one woman had a few kids and very wealthy the other one had no kids very very poor so the wealthy kid ended up in the poor person's house and the poor kid ended up in the wealthy person's house now you're and the parents are looking they don't understand how does this blonde kid how come all our kids are blonde and this kid has like he's curly brown hair he's a little darker complexion he's a m a kid he has all the the and this and that he just did it into the family all kid this that and then after research and this and that they realized this is what happened they did some DNA test so they go back to the to the mother to the other one and they tell her you know we did a swio so the poor poor kid the kid that was by the poor woman says I want to go back to my real parents the problem is that the kid that grew up in the rich house says I don't want to go to that mother she's a single mom she has no money I have no siblings I don't want to live in a a little Hut in Ukraine somewhere and so one family got both kids the other woman got zero that's what happened very sad story but the M it's documented like there are things like that the people got switched and birth can't imagine how many of these stories happen throughout history that's in our day and age like there now says so she's believed this Midwife has a lot of power she says this kid is a this kid is a the two opposites so rash says you have to say or Al I would even say Al maybe rash says okay that is it Rashi because the the word over here is a little bit it's talking about the kid that the kid there's no error what is the is going to say that ad came and said he's not this is not the M this is the m not believe once involved one person in order to do a err you need two people okay so two came and said no this is the no it's talking about one said need two that's only when the kid came and we knew that he was ker all along and you want to ruin it but over here these children never had anyak whatsoever yes this kid was never a this kid was never a m and now you want to establish something so even one person is believed to ruin it she wants to establish that he's a so one 18 is going to say no and rabai we're going to stop over here have a wonderful day