Daf Yomi Kiddushin Daf 68 by R’ Eli Stefansky

good morning for [Music] today she of course sponsored again for all those who are injured all those who are in captivity should come home in one piece ref and all theas that were lost gives us gives us a better mood and a lot of us again don't know how to help we want to help everybody wants to help everybody wants to participate and one way we know how to do it is by learning say I'm learning I'm doing this and and it's better than better than anything of course they say I remember uh they saying in to say and those are the the ones that are important for today somebody sent in email I'll read it soon um this is from fromell with everything which has been going on since I was very concerned about your being you and your family wondering every day if you're safe and healthy whether there be she or not although I've only joined a few months ago in the beginning of I've become addicted to the year and I feel I'm part of the so first of all I'm healthy and safe and sound and so is every single person in my family I had to attend a family matter and now that brought me here to Chicago I'm in Chicago and I'll be here at least until the shabbaton which is in two weeks so thanks for the concern thanks for the well wishes everything is great now when I see that you're finally saved in Chicago must I must tell you how impressed I am with the level of your dedication committ to share the teach well thanks it's TR inspired to see that despite all of the tragedies and distractions many of which I can't even imagine the day was and is your number one priority priority and you made sure to give sh every single day under the most challenging conditions yes I have to say that these were the last week just because of the traveling and the locations that I was in and everything else there's a lot a lot of challenging times um one of I said in middle of the shear uh right before we had to get onto a flight so a number of stories there was one disaster after another which made it even more challenging some of them I shared with the shear some of them I don't I don't know if I did or not but one one of them was that I left my laptop outside and Rain came and destroyed my laptop so I couldn't do any whatever then we got another laptop and it wasn't set up correctly still not isn't set up um at one point I had to get up really early in the morning to prepare shear and the taxi was waiting to take me and my family to the airport I said don't wait for me eat breakfast everything I don't need to eat I'm just going to give Shear I finish shear and I come around and uh look at the camera and says no memory space like so does that mean I have to record the whole sh it recorded like three two3 of the Year let's say so had to go back and do that and they're waiting and where let's go we're going to be late that was one then in in uh in the the stop at Switzerland I said okay we had a three-hour stop so I could perhaps give Shear won't be the best Shear in the world but I need a place like what I going to do in the middle of the airport found this it's called the transit Hotel never been in one no bathrooms there's like a communal bathroom for the men and in the communal bathroom there's showers they give this little dollar dollar it's enough room for a bed I showed it in the shear so I'm all excited I'm going to give Shear there I gave Shear opened up the window so you can see the planes come in out I don't know what they saw what they didn't see and the quality of the video is not bad I come after she and like okay now I got to plug it in and upload it but I have a new computer and this doesn't have a USB port so it can't read my card so I run to the airport and now I have to catch my flight I'm already they don't sell this C to USB connector so I did all this and I said if I can't upload it it's going to be another 14 hours until I get to Chicago from Switzerland to to to Chicago is like 11 hours plus you know the taxi this that until I couldn't upload it on the plane I'm asking people you have it nobody had it so that was it one disaster after another is unbelievable but anyway you don't have to hear all these things it was just challenging to say the least to be also to say you by yourself self in a room and not a single listener nothing no no participation from the good and bad even the people that that are talking after to yell them that also adds a little bit flavor to this year okay so here we go it's not about the about look down from prot all here yes sadly I saw that you were in Zur and gave a Shear at the airport we would have loved to set you up at my home or anyone Shar in Zur please let us know the next time you're here yeah like I said I barely had time to go into a room over there let alone go to out into have a safe trip and I'm glad to see back on schedule I found today's unwatchable with the lighting so that's a that so we had one disaster where the camera did everything very bright another disaster everything did very dark it's my fault because I I did the wrong settings may all CL have a complete reform from our situation Mike Harrison bton Beach Florida I apologize that it's not watchable you guys watch live those guys I don't know what happened okay uh good morning okay is inspiring we're all saying a lot of I'd like to humbly suggest that this time we should by reciting cap appears to be written for this particular says like this like a snake and it says all the way at the end okay very nice now this I found very interesting good morning reelly I joined the holy MD after watching the latest the latest talks podcast that's the podcast in Yiddish so I'm happy a few people came over to me told me that they watch it and they join the she because of it it's always inspiring to hear that those things work I didn't waste my time with them it was good oh when did he started right away because I said over there you got to start when you have the inspiration I can say that I almost don't miss a don't have access to the web in my house so I filtered I go to a filtered kiosk to watch the shear so I want to say first of all huge thank you for making me so connected to the to because till now even though that I'm learning with B the whole day I just I'm just connecting to the B not with the toy itself and now is the first time ever that have my own Li and AER to the and this is fully your credit so thank you and it is possible not it's possible I'm not the only one that's watching at a filter kiosk and it costs about $5 an hour so comes out about $150 a month so he wants to suggest he wants to donate to another man who wants to go the filter kios that he's going to sponsor his $150 have a wonderful day you hear this it's it's uh it's hard to hear that we don't understand we don't live in that it's unbelievable a lot of times these people come they say they don't have they have these little phones the flip phones they said we we can't watch the shear they listen to The Shear said but the whole Shear is visual you don't see the the cartoons you don't see the charts Gage they listen we have to get that um that tablet going soai today was a g day it gave me a lot of because it was a little dry the last few days today I think the over 20 rooms were sold which is good news um one of the most heartwarming things was that shimy leafman shimmy leafman from London from Manchester I should say from Manchester is coming with his wife to me that's a tremendous I think D wants to get to know him he's a big character he's gonna be screaming out get over here you know the whole Z and that he's coming is tremendous and Rabbi BL the head Rabbi of Ukraine signed up today SOI didn't sign up yet but he's coming and uh a bunch of other people so the other thing is that um the G pressed me he said you know you mention once in the sheer they'll you yourself will give money to to ra so I said okay we'll get like $300 no that's not enough if they give $500 okay F $500 I am giving for the first 10 R even Co guys I want I wanna I wna have a mixture of all types of people Co people R first 10 r i will give from my own account $500 also another thing Yi Klein I don't have the video with me because I don't have WhatsApp on this computer he put out a video yesterday asking people to have to help the people that can't come and sure enough a lot of people stepped up to the plate and sent in money specifically to sponsor and to help people come doesn't mean a full sponsorship but to just relieve some of the load all right so with that being said the sponsored by theck and families L Jers because and are the May and worldwide on my 30th birthday in appreciation of my wife for dedication and my nees yes it's hard I don't know what the dedication my NE I can imagine when you allow your husband to go learn at the wrong times at the at the at the times that are hard that's dedication and that was part of the reason why we wanted to do this whole shabas to celebrate the women of MD B will do so but it's a don't forget it's going to be with switch slightly it's going to be a major of whose 35th yard side is Coffee corner beverages that come from supporting okay we are here uh like four lines from the bottom of is shorter you can see so goes like this we're discussing that certain situations certain uh kushan or I should say marriages that the kushan doesn't work if it's a k that's a how do you know that the kushan doesn't grab so yesterday we had a we find by like this so it should be the same by all other Aras says you knowu is easy to get rid of so how do you know how do you know at the end of the day other that's today at the end of the par of the T discusses all the different a sister a mother or this or that it says anybody that does any of these terrible things Abominations but the lumps them all into one category so therefore and that's the big key word here because yesterday we're talking about a meu and a meu you can knock off but a heck is you can't just get you can't just say oh it's not similar too bad if it's not similar they're all in a heish so we say just like if you try to marry your wife's sister there's no K so to all not because of a because we find but rather because of a he because they are all connected with a heish and a heish you can't break so therefore all the in the you try to marry your sister and give her a ring it doesn't work there's zero K that's all we're trying to figure out today that there's no K when it comes to arise so according to this one of the comes out that there shouldn't be Kad you try to marry a and there's such a thing something called today if it just so happens to be that the and does grab imagine if it didn't grab imagine if the K of Aid didn't grab what would happen rabai F what a fake wedding and therefore what again but think about what would happen the the the the consequences if you have no I'm talking about something really serious now what about non-religious Jews that live together and they not according to what we just said that the mishna says Mish if there's no k then the outcome of that that um Union is Mos that's what the M says that's the's question if you tell me all doesn't have K and therefore the kid of if a person that we understand if a person has relations with a sister the kid is a mser why a need that different than a sister she's also in the same par and if there's no K that's then the be so comes out today we have half a million running around and then they become doesn't help still so obviously that's not the case we need to understand why they're not they might have something called but it's not end of the world it's a little bit of a of a maybe but not not something that people are even M today on okay about cha so not a m you wouldn't be able to marry a about Chua if that was the case or at least about Chua that a lot of people believe it or not a lot of non associated so now I was just saying that in I know for a fact that there's a lot a lot of people that are almost unaffiliated but they're mck on that they're M so it doesn't mean everybody's that religious is automatically Ben or whatever but let let's assume that half or not and then you have a big problem of says we have to understand why why this is referring to a husband that's with his wife that's so he has becomes he becomes Tom for seven days the whole thing but as we're gonna see these are all theas of and that so again going back you have to it's step by step if this k then there's no M if there's no k then there m we know today there is something called so why because the says the is grabs on okay ask question we just said that we compare all the AR in the to the wife to the sister of your wife and there's no K but one of the is called and there is K so why compare all the to the bad stuff compar it to the good one so we have a CL in the if you could compare something to the cow or the you do do to the do to the what's the you say that all all of the are compared to and the V is and we don't compare to where the V is when it comes to there's a la so let's see the pule here it says this is the the idea of one of the brothers dies and he doesn't have children again I don't have my bar on this computer so that's why it's a interesting F so it says again means K there's no K if she tries to get married to somebody else before she does before there's no so and it doesn't grab so certainly when there by the other eyes and even so certainly you shouldn't grab so [Music] so when we say let's do compare it to all the other it said okay we're talking about AR over here all the the doesn't work there's no effect you can give a ring and it's zero but if all it doesn't work so then all the when you have something that's not it's a love iser to marry so and so yeah like a CO cannot marry an Al a can't marry it's not it's a is so all the is should say the same thing that the shouldn't grab and we know we hold that does grab right at least not according to says very interesting thing it says in the the famous a person has two wives one that he loves and one that he hates so what is the saying that when you have an inheritance it doesn't matter if you hate her or love her you yet the gets two portions now the question is what difference does it make to the whether you hate your wife or not obviously if you hate your wife it doesn't make a difference to to the to the to the rules and theas of and just it's not the real in the it says other words loves every there's things that doesn't love a you could be a that does a lot of a hates the Aus he doesn't hate the person doesn't hate the say right loves them all that's not the means is just because the man hates his wife doesn't mean that Shem cares about the it's the same Al when it comes to whether you hate your wife or not there is here it's not referring to the husband's love and hate it's referring to hashem's love and hate to the ACT that this marriage hasem is not happy with again when there's a k means K between a man that has a hated marriage meaning Hashem is not pleased with his marriage hasem said do not marry that woman and you married her but there is kadushin kushan grabs what are you supposed to do you're supposed to divorce her you can't stay married to her if you're a Cen you cannot be married to divorce you have a problem but if you do marry her the kushan grabs and hasm justes doesn't like it that's what the is saying he married two women one is a good one is a not a good but it's a according to says that there is no when it comes to regular so then how does he explain the who's the hated one we just explained the hated one is the person that has a bad that has a AA marrier but according TOA there is no K doesn't grab at all says yes there is a case where it grabs the K does grab he's just doing a terrible thing so this say is a freebie for us we had this literally word for word almost like three four days ago made every single relation into even every everyone that theor says you're not to marry let's say right you're not remarry your wife your ex after she gets married to somebody and if you do says the kid will be one case that when a marries Al the kid is not a the kid is called so what does that mean again so let's do the again if the kid is not a m you put an equal sign afterwards and that means what that K was good they're interconnected if the kushan is not good the kid is a m the kadan is good the the kid is not a m so if I tell you that a marries the kid is not a the kid is that automatically tells me that's a good according to the question is according to how do you have a situation where a person gets married and the K is a good K was upset at him it's a he's this marriage is a hated marriage according to all these marriages the kids are in other words equal sign no K so how's it possible that you have a k you're married and it's a good K you made the and everything and it works just is upset oh there's one case if it's in that agrees that the kid is not a and is upset that's the case so remember had this word for word says let's scream I said I'll say again what's this let's scream what are you screaming because he wanted to get more people on his side because is always like when is against one person Rea wins unless there's a group of people against him she says let's get together more people and we'll be able to knock out rea they were very bothered by this that is increasing like we said before imagine if a you have hundreds of thousands if not more more Millions why because the next Generation also becomes so all that would be a big problem people scream in the streets that's what he's saying here what you're doing now is creating a lot of we don't want we want to say that okay that's a different story yeah because think about it how many are there and Ro today that are unaffiliated and they married brus and according to you a kid of AA is a m saying no that's why we have to say no not that besides that let's let's limit the again word for word like we had before if is just coming to argue so he's saying that there is a situation where K could grab according to this because he's not saying a blanket statement he holds wasn't saying a blanket statement on every type of is even we didn't speak about until now we're talking about but even what's a say something let's see what we have here oh this is's thing meaning and is not if doesn't grab then the kid is a m says is what we just said made everybody a m besides says everybody's in m even so this is what the has a problem with would mean even let's say that sort of thing over here just goes to show time everybody's so therefore Nothing grabs there it's green because there's no it didn't happen or then it grabs okay so I'm just showing here in the it says there's a positive commandment there in other words is saying that after three generations you should marry them you could marry them it's a positive and from a positive I learn a negative that what that if it's not the third generation then it's us to marry them so that's a that's a to marry a second generation because says marry a third generation it's just a de I'm inferring from the fact that you can marry a third generation that a second generation you cannot so this is really anay it's aay which I learned in from so says the like this's to argue then it's good because I could say that we're referring to all the MIT say this and that's what it's saying that the kushan grabs in a case of a what's the case of an again marrying a MIT it's it's a not a lot but if he's not arguing he just saying listen I know what my said said a blanket statement that every single is in the I don't care if it's I don't care if it's a I don't care if it's I don't care if it's a every type of is marriage the kid is a m if that's the case what kind of case does he have that the Tor is telling us that this marriage is hated by hasem that there is a marriage according to you there's zero cases of a iser marriage that the marriage grabs says there is one [Music] case look at this POS we know that could only marry and if he marries the kushan grabs that's what they're saying the kadan grabs what happened why are you showing it on that on your phone it's not working on [Music] YouTube what that the mares in that case even though that every single is marriage there's no over here the K grabs one case why is it by MIT and by everything else he says it doesn't grab and says it does grab it's a very weak kind of a it's an AA for only one person in the entire world when you have an AA that's equal to all CL we cannot marry a married woman cannot marry a sister okay so it's a strong AAR he's saying it's one person in the world Mr K rabbi whatever you want to call is not a marry so it's it's a for him so it's a weaker says we just right we started the Su just to repeat quickly he said from that she's only a is marrying her right says that she's not all to marry anybody love and she her kadan doesn't grab there's no kushan on her so certainly by other and then thear says uh theug up what about says we have the of the interesting P that a person has two wives one he hates and one he loves great we learn from yeah so it says again we have a that says a person married a woman that he loves and a person he hates and the says it means hasem hates her why does hate her because she's he shouldn't have married her there's a is for to marry her as the based on that who told you to say that hates her because she wasn't allowed to marry him because it was aive maybe hates her she wasn't allowed to marry him because say like a says okay good granted let's think about it let's take it to next step let's think it out some it's a good but tell me the exact case I want to know what the case is if the two wives are both MIT he went to Egypt picked up two wives so it's not one that he loves and one that he hates hem hates both so okay so he married a regular Jew and and a non-jew that can't be either it says should say what from the word we learn that they're both from the same category whatever they are if they're both MIT they're MIT that can't be Mis because they're both hated so they're both Jews so then why does hasm hate one okay I have a casee has one wife which is and one wife is says any individual any this is not talking about has a problem you're right it doesn't fit in so well into the we ask questions seems like one nation it can't be this way but at the end of the day has no way out of it so he'll have to say you have to use okay next that if this zero K zero anything like marrying a GU then the kid what does the M say then the kid is like the woman and what what what are the two cases how do you know that the kid goes after the woman beautiful piece of art this I'm not going to explain it if you understand it you understand it but let's just say these are the people that build the construction workers in it says in the Tells law sit here with a donkey what's the difference with the donkey without the donkey sit here sit here with the car that's not how you speak say wait for me over here on this corner wait for me with the car why with the car so was trying to tell you tell them that look what he did over here he just changed the the to a it's the the the is considered as a Don no why she's not a nation she's not a she's more could you marry a donkey if you give a donkey a ring it's a good kushan just you have to get divorce no it's zero so same thing with the B how do you know that she gets to decide that the kid is a maybe the kid is a Jewish kid that we're talking about EV I who his master gives him a right that's a Poss the Master's allow to give him and and the Torah is telling us that when he decides to go home when he when he's released he doesn't get the kids the kids remain as slaves to the master so you see that the kids don't go after the Jew the Jewish father goes after the non-jewish mother not not not just a non-jew we're talking about a slave here now we're talking about a nonew how do you know that if a person marries a non-jew that's what I was saying yesterday marry non-jew then a part of you becomes non-jewish that your children become are non-jews you shouldn't marry them there's no marriage bum how do you know like we how do you know that that the kid goes after the in is it's not such a problem because it's very hard to to find the non-jew and Etc but Israelis that come to America even here in Chicago I know firsthand they have zero they don't even they're not even aware of this idea used to be like a very strong thing don't inter Mar Israelis beat don't have this concept anymore they come here to America the intermar it's the generations of are being lost the warns a grandfather he says don't allow your son to marry a nonew why the Tor is talking only one case that if you let your daughter marry a non-jew the non-jew is gonna teach him how to be non-jewish the T doesn't say if you allow your son to marry because the tah does talk about it but it doesn't warn you that if you let your son marry a non-jew that she's going to convince the kid to be a guy why because it's too late anyway her kid is is a non-jew kid is a guy not a Jew But I'm warning you s you daughter don't let your daughter marry the go because in that case the kid is a Jew but the I'm warning you grandfather that what's going to happen is or father-in-law in this case don't your kid is going to be persuaded to the other to the other religion or [Music] whatever now I mentioned this a while ago mention it again this marit gazi that everybody argues on he holds that if a like today struggles with it it's a terrible thing because certain people they know how to talk very nicely they work in these stores and B it's going to stop a lot of it is going to stop because a lot of what happened on S is because of information that they gathered people they smile at you and I was over also had a lot of workers that came from there and they they talk nicely and they know so they they make they meet these girls Jewish girls that are down and depressed in the malls they go to they give them compliments and this and that and they end up marrying Arabs from from this and they bring them there they torture them they beat them up they do Terrible Things their job is to come and save themi says that if they have a kid and the kid grows up in in sh somewhere then the holds that they have even though says not but he AR everybody argues with him he if the kid is brought up why so someone explained in thei loves his children doesn't want to torture this poor guy so to speak this never he grew up in a certain way with a different religion I can't come after him he's doing all these everything everything that that that they do so how could you how could you come to and and try to punish him that's how they try to explain thei him I'm just saying I'm prefacing that nobody nobody agrees with him they're considered 100% Jewish and it's a Mitzvah to save them and to bring them back [Music] fine add a little bit that you see from here that the son of your daughter that the daughter married a go is considered your son and he's completely Jewish is holds that who had relation with a Jewish woman the kid is consider at the end of the day you're right he's not considered kosher he's considered only possible says marry them think about it these are people you're supposed to destroy hasem said when you come into don't let them stay alive and like as usual when the Jews have RAs in the in the wrong place after the from those are the people that came up and and got us yeah huh yeah it's not just him I think the Reb also said it no there's a lot of people that huh no just uh it's a it's a give back I don't know what they were thinking back then everybody said what are you doing giving them a whole thing what are the chances they're going to take what you gave them and and be be mentioned about it they're going to take it and and shoot missiles from there says but your whole that says that marriage doesn't grab at all it's talking about who told you that a German an American this that the K doesn't grab who told you [Music] says we're ding time of the we're the explain to us what's the problem with that they are going to steer your your grandchild away from TY call happens to be that were really they had a big problem a lot more than other people there's a bunch of Jews that were walking by a church and said over there the big side says if if you convert to to the religion you'll we'll give you a nice sum of money so all of a sudden one of the guys he couldn't control himself he walks into the church few minutes later he comes out M like a he looked like one of them so one of the guys says to them how much they pay you he says you Jews all you care about is money okay fine he's gonna he's gonna convince him to to go off the RAB call him so so therefore you can use the of the for all we say this I'll say it again rash goes into once again the famous case of a if you take a mashin from somebody you take you lend somebody money and you say give me something in return give me your license give me your watch give me so it says don't don't take uh you take a what do like a pillow you have to give it back every every night when the person needs a pillow but if she's an almana you have a problem people are going to talk about you they're say why you going to her house in the night in the morning you keep on going picking up the they don't know that it's the pillow you're going to think you're doing something fishy so don't soim says oh that that's only if she's poor because said it's a problem but if she's very wealthy she doesn't need the pillow at night so then you could take a Mas he tries to tell you the reason behind the reason is and if I don't have he's the one that's time in theki once lend somebody money and he says give me a masin says what he says give me your hat okay you then he said look I want to be the Mitzvah of giving it back to you at night because right now certain things you give back at night because you need the pajamas you give back at night but what about a hat Now You're Gonna Go di so I'm going to give you the Hat in other words you try to mitah that's very hard to be here's something I took an object from you that you need it you're not going to go buy a new hat now so I'm giving it back to you I'm that f i call upon him it says like this the why is the K of another Nation not because you're daring the the the reasoning behind it that they're gonna no matter what the nation is they're gonna they're gonna steer your son away from from who don't agree with you can't just the I love when the gar does this I don't know if I put it in there let me see yeah okay the is the most important part of this this some oh about now okay means nothing but I I sometimes I don't get it because the word also takes up a bunch of you're trying to save Inc is a whole word because just for the same price fine I guess everybody knows this posing by heart but the point is what does the word mean you know what it means means so after you take the the you went to war you found this woman that you you want to marry so you have to do a whole procedure let her grow nails are here this St 30 days and then it says after the whole procedure then you could her and from this I learned there was no before the 30 days the zero on a regular nonew forget about the All Nations great I understand that the is not the same question we had twice before this is the third time and how do you know that if you do marry her the kid is not Jewish anytime there's then it's his children when there's no like we said by a non-jew it's not your children if so if you marry a no then it shouldn't be your children so how the used the different posing before right different possible learn from here that every non-jew be all Li it's it's not his kids it's it's only his kids when it's good no you're right I can learn but then the problem is that's the used before what are you gonna do with that look at says if you tell who's pregnant oh what let's see okay that's it fine so if a person tells I want to make a deal with you you are pregnant now and I'm releasing you but I want your child to remain my slave doesn't work it doesn't work that's why I need that's what the sorry this POS the well we'll see in a second do no it's not for even if I'm gonna release you and you become Jewish but your kid that's in yro it's she's still pregnant that kid is going to remain the Masters and that's the have a wonderful day