Daf Yomi Kiddushin Daf 62 by R’ Eli Stefansky

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by the way it's not too late to start is still a great time to jump in we have until Tuesday until Tuesday it belongs to the shabas before it's a great opportunity let me least get this meanwhile it says that was told that he's going to die that day didn't die that day so what's how do we understand it Rashi doesn't explain nobody explains but rash explains it and he says that one day for is a thousand days for man and that explains it he died that day why didn't rash explain it in braus when people have the problem because when you have a question on darem rash doesn't go ahead to explain it that will leave it to go why did Hashem do this it's not right it is right no explanation there is an explanation but we don't need to understand it all the time the same thing with our mat we don't need to understand it we just need to know that Hashem has a reason behind everything and everything's for our best with that we continue so we're we're holding today is Da Sam and we're holding literally the last last word on D we mentioned the APLE yesterday the sword to now what it should really say is with a Bas with a sword you'll be conquered what's seems like you're eating a sword very large salt horse salt bread made out of barley tough bread a which is hard and onions because we learned p bread that you make in a large oven which is hard with salt and onions that's what the means it's like swords this is what you're going to eat this is the food we're going to give you this tough bread with onions which is not good for the body in AR we actually learned the whole sug about onions onions are not good for you it is good for you this type of onion that type of onion T in in Tina says that onions that are uncooked are not good for you there are onions that are not good for you should try to stay away from onions okay says thear like this so we're in the middle of a of whether or not it was deliberate that repeated himself so to speak he said if you do this this will happen and if you don't do this this will happen do we say when somebody says if you do this there's a positive you could understand from that that if you don't do it there will be a negative so REM says we don't understand anything you have to repeat yourself to the positive and the negative and says you don't have to says I understand according to you don't have to repeat yourself that's why it says by we finished recently is a woman whose husband is suspecting her of being with another man and he warns her and it says in the that the makes swear the first says if you Warren with another man then you'll be H you'll be clean but according to he should say and but if you were with another man then you'll get choked you'll die in other words why doesn't the Torah repeat so Rashi says wait a minute the Torah does repeat says rash yeah but the Torah repeats another in number one there's no repetition I'll explain to you it says the word he without doesn't say with a it's missing a and therefore similar to what we had recently a couple of times that the to removed the Y so that you can learn it in two different ways you could actually read it h hin like we read it it should be clean and pure if she wasn't with another man she's pure and everything will be great but if you were with another man because and a they're interchangeable and therefore you could read it also without a that's why it says without a to teach you that it could go both ways it actually you have to say the positive you have to say negative says rash it should have said instead of it should says if you are good you're going to live you're gonna have a good life why does it say in a funny way H without that you could read it so similar to what we had yesterday if you weren't with another man you'll be clean but if if it doesn't repeat itself self with the funny word h then I would think but if you were bad and you war with then nothing would happen to you you're not going to be good but you won't be it be no no no he without a it's like you'll get me so okay next again so we're going through all the different times that the to repeats itself like according to and we just had a place where the to doesn't repeat itself can go through everything and this is pretty much the last one we're talking about a person who becomes he went toou he has to be purified so what does he do you take the ashes of a part and mix it with water and the sprinkles the person who's on the third day and on the seventh day it says he becomes T now we're talking about the negative first we said the positive the negative it doesn't so according to you have to say the positive and the negative we just said you only have to say the positive I understand that if you don't do doesn't become I would say no the is telling you that there a because the doesn't say in of just says who doesn't say or whatever the is rash says says who so I think that's the preferable way two days on the third day and the seventh day but if he did one out of the two he did a a sprinkle on the third day let's say and not on the seven day he's you need both says okay but the continues so why does the repeat that he should do it on the third the third day and the seventh day that's if you did it in the wrong days you did it two days in tar and six days in tar doesn't work you need on the third day and the seventh day because now you lessen the days instead of doing it on the third day you're supposed to wait be you didn't touch any dead people for three days and the third day you sprinkle if you did it on the second day it's not enough days what if he did it on the third day like the Torah says but the second one you didn't do on the seventh day you did on the eighth day you added a day you're big you added a day maybe that's okaying it's good no it's not good in other words the t is telling us there has to be a distance of four days between theah you sprinkle on the third day and on the seventh day four days if you springle on the third day and the Eighth Day no good if you springle on the second day and the sixth day also no good because you didn't wait three days so you have to wait three days and from there exactly four days says and why does the have to repeat itself and you become T in the seventh day I would think that this whole procedure of sprinkling twice is if you're going to eat a carbon if you're going to eat a carbon but if you're you just want to [Music] eat to do on the third day is enough you don't have to do on the seventh day that's why it says you become on the seventh day in other words you have to do sprinkling twice no matter what you need it for whether it's for and says and we had this before a person got engaged to a woman it's more than engagement he gave her a ring and he said in my mind I thought I'm getting engaged to XYZ I thought she's a she's a I thought she's she's I thought she's Rich she's poor she's poor she's rich I made a mistake but I wouldn't have got engaged to her had I known she's so wealthy I wouldn't have got engaged to her had I known she's so poor he didn't specify something in his head things that are in your head are nothing I don't want to marry a spoiled person who's wealthy I want to marry a poor person he says it's she didn't fool him he fooled himself and that's things are in your heart another and this is the could you woman with something that didn't happen yet I want to become engag to you after I become a convert I become a G I'm a go today I'm in the process I'll a full fledged GE in three years from now however long it takes to become a I want today I'm trying to make sure that nobody else gets you I want to you I know you're a when you become now just brings to mind the famous a guy came to him for he's already getting older tells him hasn't been yet the person is mortified but then later on he got engaged to and then he realized that's where that that this is what we're talking about she's not in the world yet a slave says after I become free or after you become free this is terrible I want to get engaged to you after your husband dies I know he's in the hospital now he's not going to survive that much longer I want to engage here I'm giving you a ring today it should be after he dies you're not let him marry two sisters so I want to marry you he's married to one sister in other words he's saying I'm going to wait until my current wife dies then I'm going to marry you a terrible thing but that's not why it doesn't work it doesn't work because it's not in the world you have a sh y you have a woman who whose husband died without children children and she now Isa she's bond to her brother-in-law and then could and a guy comes along and says listen I know I can't marry you according to that says that the is not so whenever you perform after that you become engaged to me why it's something that didn't occur yet in the world somebody says his friend if your wife gives birth to I want to get engaged her the takes off these next two lines although it's I guess he takes it out because it's uh it's coming up in the we could just read it if his friend's wife was pregnant and you could tell that she's pregnant then it's a good Kim because the Ubers in the world the fuses in the world not awesome so now is going to bring of in certain situations there's whether it works or doesn't work tonight also we learned you cannot as you see the it has to be something that's dug on that's already in a pile there's no something that's attached to the ground so if somebody takes something that's attached to the ground and says this should be truma on this crop that's detached it doesn't work it's from something that's potter something that's or if somebody says this produce of air that's detached from the ground that's in Trum I want to be trumer for this that's attached to the ground doesn't work doesn't work he says this row of fruit that's already detached this should be truma for this that's attached this that's which are and he adds this word when they become detached V and they actually are detached M he said he specified I want to do the action of taking truma today for when it becomes detached how do we view this it's very interesting something that's attached to the ground do we view it as it's not yet detached or perhaps you could say there's a distinction since it's so easy for me to detach it from the ground I just yank it it's detached so maybe since it's in my hand to do it's in my ability to do then maybe it's considered beautiful anything that's in your hand in your ability it's not considered as if it's not done the only thing that came to mind is and it could be developed a lot better but I don't know exactly hell when a person decides let's say he wants to learn sh he wants to learn so you don't say hey it's a you're dreaming it's it's not possible no since it's in your hands it's in your ability you could take time off every single day and learn a d a day and within seven and a half years you finish the entire so it's and what's the anything that's in your hand in your ability it's not a it's not a dream it's not oh it didn't happen and maybe that's why when it comes tovah it's not just oh it's in my hand nothing could stop this finishing sh from happening but myself I'm the only one standing between Shas and not Shas that's it it's not the wife it's not the children it's not paros it's not thear it's not it's Ellie Stans it's you and Sh that's it so anything that's in your ability it's not in the moon it's right here you could have it right here I would like to know what is the difference says the G between Trum and our when it comes to Trum we [Music] said since I could just take us uh whatever it is a tool and cut the weed I could pull the Apple off the tree write the second so it's as if it's pulled off the tree it's considered for right now I could say when it will be removed it it works as truma and works as truma why because it's in my ability to do so how come the mishna is different so let's see what is what what are the case of the M become after become become free you become fre sister you can't have that guy die maybe you could kill him but no you can't perform you can't do anything you can't free a slave you can't free her but one of these I have a problem with a convert have it be any could decide I want to become a g you cannot decide to become a you need a just like a oh okay this is good for you'll put in some of these [Music] charts okay says gimar what are you saying that you could become a g it's up to you to become a g it's true it's up to you but it's not completely up to you you need three men that are going to tell you about the about the and the they're going to teach you about Shas you teach you about filling they have to teach you stuff and if they decide you're not qualified to become a g like today they ask you a thousand questions why do you want to come together is it because you want to get married because this that so it's not really up to you it's a very today especially it's a very very difficult process I keep on saying this but I have a very very close friend whose wife is a gus she's very friendly with my wife as well and I just actually just spoke to her recently and I asked her for more details I want to know if it's true at a certain point she convinced my friend to become a b Chua and she said you need you know you need to look into your background into your religion and that's how they became he became a b Chua but at the same time she needed to become a gus so in the beginning they had like a conservative Gus and then when he became more and more from today he learns basically all day this is huge huge massman my friend he he decided that they have to do uh uh Orthodox conversion and I believe it was the best and it's standard practice they decided that they have to separate from each other for three months and I always think about this for husband and wife who have a child already to separate for three months it's part of the process very very difficult process so the is saying who says it's in your hands maybe bu will say you're not you're not a good candidate maybe they'll say this may they say that so may it's not your thing we just turned to sponsor for all those in need of a and by kov in honor of my uncle prman and as for year filled with for all of MD family I didn't say the first thing with enough for all those in need of all those in need all those in need unfortunately every day more and more are getting injured and even worse than that and they all need a should give them the same strength and more and not only you know it's not only sometimes it's not only a bodily injury it's it's in the head also what they saw and what they experienced the post trauma and all that stuff so if somebody gives money a PR to his own slave to slave if it's his slave he has the ability to let her go immediately you again says that anything that's in his ability it's as if it happened so it is in his ability to let her free so it's as if it happened so should be good condition says you're right on the one hand you are right the problem is something else the way we look at a slave as in categor of a beh so to speak when you become a g you switch you're a different human being it's you're a different human so yes I have the ability when it comes to let a fruit I have the ability to snip it right now and becomes tallish but nothing changed in the fruit it's the same fruit just one is attached and one is detached we're talking about becoming a yid it's two different things it's two different entities and therefore when she's a he cannot is not what about your own wife who already has she's I believe the case is a person like I I once trying to be a wise guy said it and sheare once didn't work out so well but a person wants to be the mitvah of so once in a lifetime mitvah not everybody's M maybe quarter of a percent of the people how many people could be M Mitzvah but he's a concern and when I said it as a joke so people said oh who says your wife is going to take you back exactly then it says a joke that's part of my plan okay great it didn't work out well that joke the point is what if a person wants to be he tells his wife let's get divorced and let's get remarried now he's concerned that he won't she won't marry him she has a trick I'm giving you kadan right now today that right after you divorce for me the K grabs on so I divorce you and mades you but you can't marry another man because nowday so he's locked in he knows he's not going to lose anything it doesn't work ACC to that it's anything that's in your ability to do it say if it happened so right now look it's in his ability so she should be M his ability to beisher and therefore immediately the from his ability to be says you're right need one thing he could do we could divorce her how do you read [Music] this so no so first of all oh that's the so goes like this yes in fact fact he could divorce her that's in his hands but it's not as in his hands to be M who says that after she's divorced who says that after she's divorced she'll accept the K so right now it's not in His Hands it doesn't work even according to because it's not in his hands to be M the second time so we have a question that asked and from this we could have an answer a person is a Woman twice with two with one pro he says become mes to me today and another one he says become mes to me after I divorce you according to what you just told me that since a person doesn't have the ability to be mad's wife after the divorce he has one ability could divorce if you can't be mades her who says she'll accept it so his question of when a person gives one woman two prus so the answer is obvious it doesn't work because the first PR right now maybe okay she'll accept but after he divorces her who says she'll accept the second PR say since he's he has the ability to be now saying the reason why is because since he has the ability right now so we View the second as right now right now he could be right now she agrees to it so we look at the second as the same as the first K person who tells his current wife that I'll divorce you mades you that's different who says she'll accept it but right now she's accepting condu from you so the second one should be considered like the first one I have a right anything that's possible to do right now that's in your ability to do it's as if you did it there's something we already had you cannot take truma from detached on attached if did it it doesn't work what's the case this detached fruit should be truma on the attached this row fruit here you have the chart and the one should be TR on the other zero but if he said when the row on the right which is to the becomes then the row on the left which is already detached today should be TR for that when it happens and they became detached that's exactly what says that's a right that since it's since you could go ahead to these cucumbers on the right row and pluck them out of the ground so it's as if it happened now the continues argues on the whole idea he says you could in certain situations use told you when they bring a third in other words right now they're just seeds in the ground or whatever they don't have a third so it's not it's not in his ability to detach because they don't exist yet and they became and then they grew a third and you detach them so we pass always almost always so he says you could be mades with you could do truma with with something that doesn't even exist it's not that it's a full grown cucumber and all that's missing is you plucking it from the ground it didn't grow yet it's not even a third so now we have what only something that's is edible for an animal but if it's in the stage the early early stages that he didn't say in other words it has to be at least it has to look like something it's on the way of being fruit it's right for an animal AR said his you could do Trum even in the early early stages has to be no resemblance of fruit what do you see what does mean means the early stages is to bend says Rashi when something is Young when you have a young piece of wheat let's say it's very flexible it bends we know also like in or forget us adults it's much more difficult for us to work on our Midas when we're older when you're already tough and not so flexible when you're younger and more flexible so you're able to work on yourself that's what it says here when you're younger in the earlier stages of a fruit it's more flexible that's why the word means early stages so now based on this says he says a statement that you could use something that didn't come into this world for truma did he mean something literally didn't come into this world the early early stages of fruit or did he mean that it's like a third and it's it's actually fruit for C certain animals or whatever so now we have another according to the according to what we have now it seems like it's a mishna it's an hour Mish we read it person tells his friend if your wife gives birth to a girl she should be my wife doesn't nothing so says oh that's because his wife is not even pregnant but if his wife is actually pregnant then whatever he said Works she's so now if we take these two says he talking about that the fetus or her pregnancy is seen you could see that she's pregnant you can tell she's pregnant in other words it's like food that grew a third that's that it's in the early early stages is nothing so that means similar to pregnancy where you can't even tell that she's pregnant now that exact same thing but slightly different and some say is not how far ahead the fruit is oh so beautiful yoseph check out these beautiful charts that Yoshi did but I'm ahead of Yoshi he's putting them in as they go but I'm ahead of him here's t Okay looks nice so some say that Raba wasn't talking about the stage of the wheat that it's good for an animal when you have wheat that is dependent only on rain in other words you don't need human intervention by itself is GNA take care of it it's G to give rain it's going to grow but if you need human intervention irrigation then it doesn't work why because who says it's going to happen it's a really it didn't come into this world because I'm depending on you you might fall asleep you might not do it says even if you need irrigation it's still not and therefore the asked the same thing this that we learned in the the Mna our says according to it's as exactly the same words that we had before the person says I want to be your daughter when she's born it's nothing said that's only because his wife isn't pregnant what kind of pregnancy we're talking about and what exactly they gonna say now because now now according to This n inob we're talking about that you could tell that she's pregnant and it goes according to everybody have a wonderful week we'll see you tomorrow B bright and early hopefully and we shouldn't hear of any moreas there should be only a gooded week have a wonderful day