Daf Yomi Kiddushin Daf 46 by R’ Eli Stefansky

good morning welcome welcome to all the guests I should say shim to all of them if you're a guest raise your hand for a second so you're not yidi what's your name YY Schwarz YY Schwarz from Brooklyn New York very nice actually we have a video y sent in we show it in a second what's your name Manchester you all attend I know you Morty Gable from origin now Five Towns wow okay who else your oh he looks son huh first time you never did this year never heard this year all right all of who where's mayor pla mayor plka is there where oh hi mayor with the all right a lot of guests we have more guests than what's your name from Tom's River all the way from London all right so I just want to show you real quickly this is the one of the front pages of the bakama mdy Edition art SC Edition and you see all the names in there so shim the fact that thousands of people I spotted Sim shepher on the plane he's doing Kazar as well oh bky I would like to inform you about my dog who's seriously injured and needs some davening I'm not as rich as relli but I still have a good 400 mil I'd like to sponsor years do for three million how do I do it the website rejected me ker for for $3 million to will fly directly from here pick it up and we will bring the dog here we make M CPR whatever you need 3 mil there's a lot we could do by the way million is's a lot we can do and I'll show you what here this is this came from yidi check this out with volume class learning you know I went to for two years okay Schwarz also you you work inin as a div P3 mid scho I got it all right here he goes he's teaching this is this is how we learn Pak in today's generation here you go good morning Rabbi that's you learn p as you like it love it g you didn't learn like that huh I love it I'm in a very good mood today oh as you're always in a very good mood thank you yeah yeah so this this came from Steinberg yesterday this is the one I wanted to show you how he he's changing his Mahal of teaching mdy style here we go this is about a old oops no not again let's see if I could get it like this maybe no all right anyway uh felber Bell I think his name is we'll see the end what's his name felber felber Bell I know him I know him well but the name last name so I received a few emails about this that I botched up the story yesterday with um so here here's the real version from from all the mes that from all the emails this is the longest one so try to read it as quick as possible I really pray all your make the share live especially when you bring in some and add salt and pepper to the mes yesterday however you tried doing an expense of rewriting history the story is actually as follows I personally didn't see any difference I said and he's saying it maybe you could tell me what with the are the first D I think was was a and was a of he by the way AAG for the first half of of his life so you still have some hope one day he went to the market to get some food and went by the table where a girl was standing selling melons apparently he didn't end up buying anything the girl was smart and said stressing that the should be heard as a instead of a like then the was a big was caught in Shock by the fact that the girl was so great in learning no there was time okay fine Etc a few seconds later oh especially a girl that was selling stuff in the market he forgot himself for a second and looked up to see who she was only a few seconds later he realized that it was the that he was for the and started screaming crying I just fine anyway he went back to his re and cried about it and he couldn't C himself down even after tried to explain to him that's okay it was mistake then he said that says perhaps he can marry the girl and the only part that it won't be very sir the oh this idea oh you see this guy's holding he says but through retroactive clarification it's still a Mitzvah the idea calm him down and he stopped crying the book was so delighted of the solution let his parents wants to get engaged they come to the city parents both in money great came to visit him disappointed to learn that girl just a poor girl off the street selling melons they said there's no way that they could allow him go with his plants soon they said he started screaming crying again what's going to be with the looking and he couldn't stop crying turned and parents said true you're not obligated to do make a long story short only after such a clear promise they agreed that the and come down again and obviously n nine months later the promise came true there's a lot of great dynasties stemming from this couple including between others Vision BS and many others mentioning bells and meny knows this we speaking to the bells there he said yesterday at the he told us he told me before had I had a lot of Ohr made yesterday I was going to tell in Middle because I have kiss Fromm over so I said is this true that they say a story about you the beler kid what happened was he say he went to a store he went to a place and he's very he told me a lot of times he's very M because it helps him remember this that very Mo when he goes in the street takes off his glasses the whole thing so he goes into the store he purchases something and he comes back home and when he got home his wife said were you listen the story he said yeah did you buy something yeah you know who the woman who sold you the thing no it was me so I said it's a great story but what's wrong with your wife why didn't you say hello no no that's the way it is in the mishak when she sees her own father in the street okay that was the so Bells came out of this Mya so it's not that oh so the story is not that he was that he was told that he had to marry her because he looked at her was just the way to calm him down it his pain no person ever say thank you again so much I month in New York I was the one who flew in from Orlando talk to you about okay gal he came he flew in Mish to to give me a message m in Chicago de I'm a 12year old who does the da I started oh we got to start learning doing the has not just daily but also just fill with funny jokes props and goats wearing hats it's a daily injection humor jokes all in one doing the D is change my day 12y old change my life he didn't say change my day doing the da makes me very calm relaxed what what what I can say is to all the therapist and mental health people that you should recommend your patience to do the D it'll make them more calm and relaxed however please announce barim whether it's m or not to watch sincerely from your in Boston no I mean it's it's m if it's for therapy why not I don't know I don't know what sh is it's not only M it's maybe because it's on a computer no it's like hello he's right he has a let's think about is like y are you allow to watch the share on a computer on y the first day of Y somebody left it on somebody left it on so he's asking shot don't don't treat like a the answer is yes you could okay oh real quickly this gar Rose no emails he can't watch the email he said my brother produced a beautiful cont on all the and oh which reminds me this a guy that lives right here in zavan right next door to who didn't have a kid for 18 years he told me and told him write a book He's a CO write a book I said this already write a safer on B this thick and he had a kid Mish a kid and Mish Mish no whatever a good one a nice time with he's three years old he's a big time so it says over here I thought this is fascinating it says in in the name of that if two people hold on to the cup to do n for a Ley no good it's better than what Le should do it however he saw in B that they asked is true that he said it and he said no I never said it but then he said there's another safer to the wrong safer the one that made it up according to the other one that's made up okay great now oh we do have to do we do have to do co wait is it okay it's not okay it's okay to hold for few and he says in the bottom he says no the dommin is ready to do it get not Raab we're just bringing out stuff families Jersey because oh we have you can pass him like him he's we learned yesterday that goes by and it goes like that thing if you see K does it the whole does it then it's clearly fine didn't see kol do it and that's why I wrote it okay not problemy because what is this free because nobody wants to take it nobody wants to buy it this is not going up in my Su maybe will sh what's your name I didn't notice you you and you yeah SL from and Son ah you you told him about okay you got you gotta hang it up and learn no no where are we third sponsor the no no no no no it's good it's good we got to bring it home we got to show the wife and thank you reell team and family this isi White Plains New York because I haven't sponsored in a while I was wondering about the used heard a lot from him in the past for all the that come from supporting no no don't put it up over there not in the camera I just want to announce this this is what came up today yesterday Benny is working on itar he's not here today but he's watching beem he's on Zoom right now beem uh as every suus we're going to have breakfast in my sua three days Monday Tuesday and Thursday hi Benny for working on this again Monday Tuesday and Thursday Tuesday sponsored and completely done by Benny by um um beny Novak I said Benny beny Novak Monday and Thursday is by mdy and the team we're going to have on Monday and Thursday at least we're going to have somebody making omelets and pancakes Bagel locks wineus nun it's going to be a every year it's a beautiful thing it's just the it's the highlight of the year that's when Gary B Moshe joined the year I don't know how many years ago it was five years he came in to eat an omelette and he got stuck for Life the most expensive omelet ever here he is what time 10 o'clock usually it's it's after daving over here B so what time does d start like 8:00 maybe you have isas you have H so and and for all those who show up at 8:30 and demand omelets 10 o' okay what we have to learn today suay Sunday is going to be over here what time over here 10 o'clock here yeah 10 o'clock in the here in the Friday here in the unless this thing that we don't know yet about we'll work maybe we'll work something out for Wednesday all right we got to go we're in middle of a su we're still we'll run through the Su somebody if whoever behaves well will get one of these hats let's see if we can keep Dr Factory quiet today you want one of these who Ash what what do you want a hat or socks a hat fromom this I have to give to yob Langer from uh living he mentioned he wants a p okay we'll give out hat good is good all right here we go we're middle of the scula that's available just we did the Su a little bit and we'll run through it quickly because we did it yesterday so we have the story was that is on Zoom every day this every day welcome he told me four weeks ago he's called every day there's a countdown yeah yeah but let just do real quickly story was we're by the two diets we did sponsors everything's good this woman this girl was accepted kin she accepted a ring from somebody and her father agreed to it but there's two stages in marriage this K there a and she got the AIS done we don't know if the father agrees or not her father disappeared he's still alive and we don't know what he wants does he want her to continue with the process or not not and she got married so she could eat Trum she's getting married to why because the father wants it to continue with the marriage why why did he let her get engaged he wants her to get married she can't eat truma we don't know maybe he doesn't want to get married interesting if you recall yeser I was talking about maybe the father just wanted the money of the k whatever the reason is he doesn't want it to get married so therefore she's cany because perhaps it's also big problem because as we know could e eum just it's a maybe she's gonna give TR over here you don't really have that because she's getting married okay [Music] fine was said you cannot eat Trum even though he said you could when it came he said let me pass on that says do we go with the tal do we go with the raav depends after the generation of we go with the this is we're holding however that's okay to eat truma because fine nothing nothing it's not the end of the world because she's in araa could really eat Trum but if she dies now the husband doesn't her her belongings belong to her father and that's it same story she accepted Ain with her father's consent and she got married without her father's consent and her father's right here she forgot to tell her father today she got [Music] married so here we have whether or not e Trum because her father is here even in the case where father wasn't here and rap says she could eat over there she could eat truma because the father wasn't there where he could explain his his his silence is because he was Furious okay love if you know all the stories about him the different so he writes one of the things he says that there's inion of putting a certain fear in the house but not a he says if your wife does something that you really don't like the best idea would be just to be quiet and she's going to she's going to ask you what's wrong quiet and that that should fix everything I can't tell you because I don't know what the part is I'm always I don't know I can't tell you if it works or not I only have one your try it out M try it out come back with an email tomorrow even according to says when the father agreed to the but not to the and he disappears she cannot eat because there's a concern that father is going to show up and he's going to make him but over here being quiet is your it shows that he's he's he's he's happy with this marriage okay another case both she got engaged and married with out her father's consent now do we have the same that he's quiet he's so he's quiet because he's so mad or no so now the rauna says she could eat before says if the the first part was with the father's consent and the second part not over here and over there he says if even if you have half a consent on the kadan don't eat can't eat truma you're not really married him over here with the zero consent all of a sudden says could e truma what's going on it makes no sense it's like vinegar in for the teeth smoke for the eyes when the father agrees to the so it's a real e certainly certainly ra should hold that you could eat that you cannot eat when there's zero consent what so the t is going to be right in this case I'll explain to you think some people might be over in this they treat their kids like completely ignored her T I'm engaged not yes not no T I'm married Gish so he treated her like you can't say that he was mad at her this is already beyond mad this is stop he's ignoring her so m there's consent if he's mad this up to a point the person is mad and he doesn't say anything up to a point but not oh she got engaged a few months later she got married and he's still not saying anything that means that he's okay with it he's just he's one of these quiet guys doesn't say anything hold on a second what do you want a hat or socks this is for you every 10 minutes is another gift for you that was terrible okay but that's it you can't now I can put this away you want one who else only guest only guest where what are you going to do with this you going to go to baseball game and put your your tit out like this okay maybe the rabbi in the back wants one you'll take one Rabbi I don't know if it'll get to you what again all right it's I don't remember that one t that when when was it for what oh a thousand she is a thousand shek pennies oh fake I'm take that half back from you who was engaged without her father's permission you hear this both the father and the girl even the girl who accepted K could do a they could say we don't want they could refuse both of them could refuse the the engagement rasi argues and ra and he says no the father could refuse it but not her doesn't make sense she accepted a ring and then she's going to refuse [Music] it it says so oh I just want to show you this real quickly this I asked Yoshi to redo whoever didn't see this whoever is part of the sh and didn't see this this is how re Yoshi redid my chart that I told you I I had no idea what I was doing here is brothers and is the daughter and the daughter is married to the uncle and then the uncle married another girl and then another woman and then the uncle uh went byebye and then it says no even for it's just a much Clear much better thing Z all right so now on to this uh we're talking about person convinces a girl and then says he should marry her if the if the father agrees that's the next POS if the father refuses this let's call him a low life even to to let it he doesn't want this guy as a as a son-in-law so then this guy this man guy Maat guy he has to pay 50 shek has to pay a fine so the question is why does it say a double it should say if the father refuses why do it say refuse [Music] refuse says beautiful what are we talking about understands were talking about that he he decided he's going to convince a girl to get married and his b is K that's what happened there it's not St guy so and and what happened did the father know about it no the father didn't agree to it because if the father agreed to it then it would be like a regular kadush this he did behind the father's back the father so there's no consent it's our story it's a guy that was mades a woman without consent that's understands to begin with that's not the [Music] that's so the the says that the father refuses the k then he has the guy has to pay the father 50 and what about her what if she refuses to get married him even the Niro could be and over here the problem is the father doesn't know so you see that the girl also has a right to refuse like ra says both have a right to refuse you're telling you're going with the wrong I explain to you we're talking about the like everybody understood it in that it's a guy a Lo life or whatever you want to call him that he was this girl not to get married say wait you think I didn't think about that I also thought about it but I didn't like theat why you need a POS to tell me that they're not married when he didn't even have an intent to marry no maybe the p is telling you that if she's then you have to give her the the you have to give the father 50 andash also says it but says one word says we're not it's not a question that's not so no have it's beautiful what you're saying right the second the first POS says the guy should be he should make him make her his wife says the says he has to give her a ring but if he already did K you told me the whole story to begin with was that he had in mind to marry her k that's great great yeah this guy was but it wasn't a good one because he never told the father now that the father found out about it has to redo the okay and we had this m we're very familiar with just the other day is oh today's uh we have some uh big problem today I thought when I was learning this with my I told from his daughter's name is Tamar I said and by the way he was learning with me probably an hour before the he was sitting here in the B we don't have anymore it's sitting here till one or something and then later on I learn with on the phone so guy said I want you to be mes with this I want you to be mes with this now let suppose that each one is worth less than a by him saying a Double L and is scch just broke it up it's too it's too and they cannot be he can't say oh he gave her full PR no one was a half a PR and the other one was half a works if this one by itself is a PR it's great why because it's a regular K it's actually great but only if one of them has a PR if one of them is a half the other one is half it doesn't work because he broke it up with the wordi now if you recall from the other day and we're going to talk about it again briefly the doesn't really go into it the other would say as long as you say scotchy in the beginning you say scotchy bizo bizo then it works or say then it also works over here you have a very strong language breaking it up that's why he breaks it up now if he says another story he didn't say scotchy he just said with this with this with this if all them have approv it together it's one m one action we have today's art your boight an original if a he's giving her the dates she's eating them oops I might have messed it up scoo all right here let me see if anybody could do that you want to try m I need an athlete here somebody I could actually throw I'm not going to throw food now here stand over here so it could be on camera with the live demonstration f as he gives her the she gobbles it down if one of them has gonna discuss what is this going on is it the first part of the Mish or second part of the Mish we'll see say who says they have to break it up like that so strong with a whole full again real quickly because doesn't even discuss this it's not even rash is if somebody watches a p a collateral and he denies the fact that he ever had it and then he was found to be a liar after he swore he has to bring a carbon so what happens if five people claim that they put their collateral by him is like a panzi scheme of some sort and say I don't know what you're talking about that intake from you from you from you from you from you does they have to bring five caronus of one because it was one was one sentence so is the one that says if he says he breaks it up with a word a heavy word five caras the others say no as long as say the end says in the beginning okay that's so we go like we already said before remember this Miss is actually continuation of the miss that we had before we said if you recall is the one that holds like over there okay the father and the daughter cannot be get together only one of them just the [Music] father what part of the mission is talking about talking about the first part what he says and now we're saying as he's saying and doesn't have a doesn't have she ate it even she didn't eat it it's two separate acts of kadan that's why it's not good forget about the F you don't have to stick in another problem she also ate it without eating it's it's not a good why because it's two and each one is not worth the whole talking about the even sa means the end of the M Kam means the first date right even if the first one worth a whole it works even though she ate it the fact that she ate it now the K wasn't over yet the K happens all the way at the end as she's getting these dates it's like alone and what did she do with the loan she consumed the loan and now there's nothing to bead with it if the first one was the one that was worth a pruta it's already gone she owes him a date but he can't create a out of it it's gone we have everything we have a beautiful miss in front of us we have a table we have meat we have a knife to eat the meat and we can't even eat the very very famous Marshall of someone is going to say there was a a guy that said let's see how the Jews act in a certain way compared to other people so they put them on a table and they gave them very very long forks and said go eat and the other guys they couldn't eat but they e they sat across each other they took the the the fork and they fed the other person and they were able to they they won the whole uh debate or whatever was because they thought about the zolas they thought about the other person over here you have a table with everything sack and a fork cany it's too long can't put it in your mouth says on this gar over here you think about it we haven't had a generation like ours and who knows one I don't even want to go back to to when the Mount of toyra in our generation never ever we had the amount of millions of millions of that we give to them and the the organizations so then what's the problem why are we so low and they were so high because we have the we have everything and we don't put it in it's all it's all a show it's all we don't we don't live it we do it practice oh okay that that's very appropriate for the that's very appropriate saying we have the but we don't know how to explain we don't right so that's re right saying we have a mission we can't explain it let's explain it it's talking about a guy giving a date and he says with this and then he says again with this date oh this a beautiful here he says if the dates are on the on on the table since he broke it up it's two separate it doesn't work but since the adds I'll if she's eating it we already spoke about it you give somebody a ring you give some not a ring you give somebody money give some Dan is not here but when you actually feel in your mouth you're eating it maybe maybe she could give herself over with that doesn't work it's two separate acts and each one not doesn't work about the say for the water he said use all these days for K and then she was eating them and you thought you ask me the first date was it disappeared from the world how's he doing so if she's eating these dates as long you have to it has to be that the last one is why because the first ones are gone and they're a Mila and they're not in this world so that's what it say if she eats them and eats them I'm telling you the only way she is if the last one is word so from here you see you already established that you have to have a all the way at the end because if you don't have a at the end everything she ate is worthless it's gone it's out of this world so you see that ifes if you tell a woman the million that I lent you it's a million dollars but right now you didn't give her anything unbelievable you tell a person here's a million doll gift you know the million dollars you borrow from me I'm and here's this where's their mind not on the million dollars you just forgave them but on this lousy date why because if the D was on the million it's not a k that's gone it's over obviously she's this day as the see from here that if there's no you don't end up marrying this person yeah you have to give back you have to give it back yeah so we're going to see oh let's just say this real quickly for all those and by conations in honor my uncle for year filled with all of them do have family okay oh I didn't mention anything about the hotel Rai sign up already what's going on we only have 200 rooms 200 plus rooms no how many 200 we have 250 rooms left we got to we got to we got to push it don't wait till last minute MD whatever md.com this is crazy a guy goes to his own sister everybody knows he can't marry his sister he goes there he says here take this money for I want to be I wish you could be my wife here's money says he takes the money back what he meant to do is give a gift it's obvious the whole world knows every baby knows he can't marry his sister so what was he doing here he wanted her to watch this money so let him be a men say she's not gonna she's not gonna do it now he came with this now she's gonna take it for whatever this is no he wanted to find a nice way to give her a gift he doesn't want to stop give a gift everybody knows that so let him just say straight out be to take like this is not embarrassing at all you marry your brother no she it's a joke it's like you know I wish I wish you could be my wife here's $10,000 some and she says oh yeah so so we're married H she puts in her back if he came and said take this I see you're not doing well take this it's a the is if you look at the it says in the racist I so you say you have to you take from D you don't take Kal from a bag of flour so this guy doesn't listen to the and he goes and he takes how much how much do you have to do they say today it's like five pounds like 2.2 kilo 2.3 kilo something like that so he has 2.3 anything less than 2.3 kilo let's say that that's the shear you don't have to give he goes you don't have to give it's not with without and if he goes and he takes a bunch of flour and he takes he gives to the the must return it now the is gonna go through every single understand why does the have to return says based on what we just said we just said this far everybody knows if everybody knows something then obviously there's something else going on behind the scenes everybody knows he can't marry sister so what in the world is this guy doing he probably meant to give a gift everybody knows have you ever seen a woman be from flower no so everybody knows the so why is he doing it because for whatever reason he wants to give the co gift why does the have to give it back that everybody knows gave a gave it a GI there's going to be a there's going to be less than the she of five quarters in other words one C in a quarter is the she very simple here brought some props today not a this is 2 kilo yeah 2 kilo and this oh don't tell my wife sometimes my wife decides to bake at 7:00 in the morning when only when I bring the P the prop this because it's only two it's only four it's only two kilo together yeah each one is a kilo kilo and Kil today with I'm not I'm not passing talking gar language now this you're not with this so what happens is the Cen goes the Cen every day he makes Kal from this he doesn't he doesn't care he if you do 2 kilo or let's call it four pounds he doesn't have to be M so does then his neighbor comes along he says hey by the way I got I have a gift from you here take this so he goes and he adds it to his flour and now he has a full Shear 2 kilo plus 2 kilo is now he has to be but he doesn't know the this is good stuff this is a gift this not a gift this is this is a gift to the like truma he thought that's Potter from together with this still Potter now he's going to have flower dough that's and he doesn't realize it because he thinks that this is pot from but it's really so we don't want to have a and he's going to combine these two with this point to say everything's great there a whole if you want to read crazy long how when you we switch all the shum twice at 20% how we got to one and a quarter C but that's the shear by the way it doesn't go by weight we say kilo it doesn't go by weight it goes by volume but kilo is approximately that volume okay wait a minute why is there a problem and there going to be is to eat you can't eat by the way this is not like this applies only basically not so much we do we of course not to forget the but knows that this is not you can't take this the Isel just gave me a gift it's the K is not going to think oh this is Potter why would the K think that whoever was my from flower knows it but he doesn't really know the real reason he knows that you're not supposed to use flow he starts making and when you make it's not good he's more he thinks what's the reason why you can't use flow not to trouble the give the already made though don't give him flow but you could do flour if you really want for me it works out well I like a different recipe it's great that he gave me flour as but at the end of the day why do he take it away from the heav Trum Let It Be the's gift let him take from this flower he has flower over here let him take the shear that you have to take off and then became butter why does he have to give it back to the Isel Rashi says doesn't mean a different place he says straight out it could be straight from this just means whatever he should be should be okay so now we're moving on to this the famous so if you have a pot and you have a tree growing there and the bottom of the pot has no holes no perforations then it doesn't it doesn't nourish from the ground and not planted in the ground so a plant like that is not part of it's not part it's not now you have a pot on top you can see it has a hole in the bottom you have an arrow jumping up and down it nourishes from the ground it's regular fruit that grows so what happened was if a person takes from something that's from the top one that's on something that's it goes to the you leave it by the you don't make the give it back like this flower it could stay by the just the has to make sure that you take true from from from other things other fruits that are when you tell them look this pot is different this has a hole this doesn't have okay it makes sense then but when when it's one flower it's all mied in one ball you say well part of it is not good part of it is good he's not going to listen to you and by the way as Rashi points out you only give Trum So and he thought that the that the did a good job huh I didn't hear what no why would it be a problem that somebody's GNA eat everybody knows that you can't use regular flour for he knows that you can't do it but he thinks the he knows the reason and once he's time the he makes the was was was accepted it um I don't know if we could we have to stop here because it's too late unfortunately all right we's pick it up from here Rai have a wonderful day